Iâm a very open person and I feel like sex has been ostracized as a taboo topic when itâs really just a physical way of exploring what makes one feel good. I like to talk about it, do it, and am genuinely curious about trying new things. I feel like sex was such a taboo topic around my childhood home and when I finally experienced it I couldnât get enough. I really grew into my own when a good friend of mine shared her openness about it and got me into trying new things to help please myself and my partners better.
I wasnât in the sex work industry until I was in my twenties, which gave me a few years to explore what I truly enjoyed about sex before deciding it was going to be more than a hobby for me. My first experience was with a high school sweetheart and thankfully he already had an idea of how things worked. I was like any sex driven, lust-filled teenager so naturally I had a very active sex life then and still do now. From this experience my views on sex had been very monogamous and that it was all about âthe oneâ and that was all I needed.
Then I moved onto University and found myself single and in dorms which had over 1000 students all my age and all just as much of sex lovers as I was. Letâs just say I was very active and enjoyed experiencing different men and sometimes more than one in the same night. I was what some may call a slut but really, I was just enjoying myself and everything sex had to offer. It was here that I initially found out that I enjoyed having a variety of partners and that not everyone was good in bed. I learned communication is key and telling someone what feels good or bad is the fastest way to improving your sex life. I further indulged my love of sex when I went off to backpack around the world for a few years. I enjoyed regular company of men and sometimes women and eventually came into the sex industry of my own accord.
Through my experiences I learned that I love sex and everything about it. I love the anticipation of it to come, the excitement and sensuousness that builds inside you before, during and after, the way it makes you feel so extraordinarily horny, the way it pleases your partner just as much as yourself (when done right ?), the heavy breathing and pure ecstasy you feel after having an orgasm. Also, thereâs nothing quite like having hot, messy, mind-blowing sex and just needing to fall asleep in each otherâs arms after because youâve both physically and sexually worn each other to the brink of passing out. I feel like more people should be having more sex (consensual of course) because it brings out the happy in people.
My Ideal Penis Type
I guess my ideal penis depends on what type of sexual activity weâre doing. Generally, I prefer something with a little more girth and average length. I donât like the giant penisâs that hit my cervix while weâre having sex. It hurts. The only reason I would enjoy a longer penis is when weâre in a position that requires the length to be a bit longer, so he doesnât slip out.
The reason I generally prefer an average length penis with good girth is because Iâve always preferred sex to be a little rougher and like it hard and fast. I find that the combination of a thick and average length penis hits all my favorite spots of my vagina and really makes me orgasm well. I find that when a penis is too skinny I donât get as much of a thrill out of it because itâs harder to feel it pressing on my g-spots, though that being said, if weâre doing anal girth is not always the best.
Favorite Sex Toys Of Mine
I own many different types of sex toys though my favorites are my We-Vibe Sync Couples Vibrator, the Hitachi and its attachments, my Lelo Soraya, and my Lelo Nea 2. The we-vibe is great for using while youâre having sex. It vibrates in all the right places for me while also pleasuring him and the overall effect is pretty great. The Lelo Soraya is great for a long slow masturbation session. The Hitatchi is great for a down and dirty quick shuddering orgasm when in a rush or even just for teasing my clit while Iâm being fucked from behind. My Lelo Nea 2 is the perfect travel buddy as it can be used for a clitorally stimulated masturbation session and can be used during sex. Any of these are also great for teasing my partners in the foreplay or break between orgasms.
Tips For Sex Toys & Penis Use
1) Clean them before and after using them! Yes both! With sex toys, itâs so important to clean them before you use them to get off micro-bacteria, dust, or any other things that may cause your vagina stress or infection. Itâs also important to clean them after because it keeps the life of them longer and also its just gross to put them away dirty. With penisâs I think this is pretty clear, hygiene is your best friend when expecting a girl to put either her mouth or vagina around your penis. If that dick isnât clean you can bet itâs not getting near me.
2) Donât force it in. Both sex toys and penisâs can be too big. If you force it in you could cause some damage and pain and other bad things. Also, it never feels good to be ripped and the recovery time takes away from your enjoyment as you might end up having to take time off from sex or could even damage some nerves and end up having less pleasure.
3) Try them all! Haha Iâm kidding but really just have fun with them and try as many as you want to. Also, give them a second chance and do your research. If youâre using a sex toy wrong or just being plain jane about sex in general, you might not be enjoying yourself to the full potential of either the penis or the sex toy.
4) Donât be afraid to try the new toy or the new position. Iâve had some weird suggestions that Iâve been apprehensive about and ended up absolutely loving. For instance: anal sex. Itâs not for everyone but it might be for you, especially if you do it right (see the above point about research)
5) Ask questions. Seriously. Your friends are probably kinkier than you think and if you canât get any information out of them or maybe youâre too shy to ask them, ask an online forum. There are all kinds of people out there whoâve had lots of experience trying out whatever youâre curious about. Also, many of them love to talk about it so go ahead and ask them.
6) If it doesnât feel right it probably isnât. Personally, Iâve had allergic reactions to certain types of lube but it was slower than oneâs Iâd previously experienced, so I wasnât sure what was going on. I did know that it felt weird when it shouldnât though, so I switched what I was doing and asked my physician about it later. Though I havenât reacted to a sex toy yet, I do know some people that have. You know your body best so do what feels right.
7) If youâre not sure what it is, ask. This goes for both penisâs and toys. Sometimes people are just unaware of things but itâs better to ask than to end up feeling bad about it later.
- With toys you want to be sure youâre getting the right thing for what you want to be doing. Some toys could be too intense for you and others may need more parts to fully enjoy them.
- With penisâs it might be a birth mark, or it might be something infectious or even cancerous. Itâs always better to check with a physician on these than to guess and end up with a bad result.
Can Sex Toys Replace The Penis?
For myself, there will never be something to replace the penis. Iâm through and through a manâs gal and I love being railed hard with the real thing. Iâve tried different strap-ons and a variety of dildos and other sex toys, but nothing quite lives up to the mind-blowing sex Iâve had with some men and their real penisâs.
While there are definitely things sex toys can do that penises canât (like vibrating the hell out of my clit without hurting it), I just find that I love the feel of a real penis inside me and the silicone version just cannot make up for the lack of that feel no matter how many bells and whistles it comes with.
Chrissy Grant – Chrissy Grant is a sensual companion and escort from Alberta, Canada. Providing upscale intimate and social experiences for gentlemen.
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