I’m a very open person and I feel like sex has been ostracized as a taboo topic when it’s really just a physical way of exploring what makes one feel good. I like to talk about it, do it, and am genuinely curious about trying new things. I feel like sex was such a taboo topic around my childhood home and when I finally experienced it I couldn’t get enough. I really grew into my own when a good friend of mine shared her openness about it and got me into trying new things to help please myself and my partners better.
I wasn’t in the sex work industry until I was in my twenties, which gave me a few years to explore what I truly enjoyed about sex before deciding it was going to be more than a hobby for me. My first experience was with a high school sweetheart and thankfully he already had an idea of how things worked. I was like any sex driven, lust-filled teenager so naturally I had a very active sex life then and still do now. From this experience my views on sex had been very monogamous and that it was all about “the one” and that was all I needed.
Then I moved onto University and found myself single and in dorms which had over 1000 students all my age and all just as much of sex lovers as I was. Let’s just say I was very active and enjoyed experiencing different men and sometimes more than one in the same night. I was what some may call a slut but really, I was just enjoying myself and everything sex had to offer. It was here that I initially found out that I enjoyed having a variety of partners and that not everyone was good in bed. I learned communication is key and telling someone what feels good or bad is the fastest way to improving your sex life. I further indulged my love of sex when I went off to backpack around the world for a few years. I enjoyed regular company of men and sometimes women and eventually came into the sex industry of my own accord.
Through my experiences I learned that I love sex and everything about it. I love the anticipation of it to come, the excitement and sensuousness that builds inside you before, during and after, the way it makes you feel so extraordinarily horny, the way it pleases your partner just as much as yourself (when done right ?), the heavy breathing and pure ecstasy you feel after having an orgasm. Also, there’s nothing quite like having hot, messy, mind-blowing sex and just needing to fall asleep in each other’s arms after because you’ve both physically and sexually worn each other to the brink of passing out. I feel like more people should be having more sex (consensual of course) because it brings out the happy in people.
My Ideal Penis Type
I guess my ideal penis depends on what type of sexual activity we’re doing. Generally, I prefer something with a little more girth and average length. I don’t like the giant penis’s that hit my cervix while we’re having sex. It hurts. The only reason I would enjoy a longer penis is when we’re in a position that requires the length to be a bit longer, so he doesn’t slip out.
The reason I generally prefer an average length penis with good girth is because I’ve always preferred sex to be a little rougher and like it hard and fast. I find that the combination of a thick and average length penis hits all my favorite spots of my vagina and really makes me orgasm well. I find that when a penis is too skinny I don’t get as much of a thrill out of it because it’s harder to feel it pressing on my g-spots, though that being said, if we’re doing anal girth is not always the best.
Favorite Sex Toys Of Mine
I own many different types of sex toys though my favorites are my We-Vibe Sync Couples Vibrator, the Hitachi and its attachments, my Lelo Soraya, and my Lelo Nea 2. The we-vibe is great for using while you’re having sex. It vibrates in all the right places for me while also pleasuring him and the overall effect is pretty great. The Lelo Soraya is great for a long slow masturbation session. The Hitatchi is great for a down and dirty quick shuddering orgasm when in a rush or even just for teasing my clit while I’m being fucked from behind. My Lelo Nea 2 is the perfect travel buddy as it can be used for a clitorally stimulated masturbation session and can be used during sex. Any of these are also great for teasing my partners in the foreplay or break between orgasms.
Tips For Sex Toys & Penis Use
1) Clean them before and after using them! Yes both! With sex toys, it’s so important to clean them before you use them to get off micro-bacteria, dust, or any other things that may cause your vagina stress or infection. It’s also important to clean them after because it keeps the life of them longer and also its just gross to put them away dirty. With penis’s I think this is pretty clear, hygiene is your best friend when expecting a girl to put either her mouth or vagina around your penis. If that dick isn’t clean you can bet it’s not getting near me.
2) Don’t force it in. Both sex toys and penis’s can be too big. If you force it in you could cause some damage and pain and other bad things. Also, it never feels good to be ripped and the recovery time takes away from your enjoyment as you might end up having to take time off from sex or could even damage some nerves and end up having less pleasure.
3) Try them all! Haha I’m kidding but really just have fun with them and try as many as you want to. Also, give them a second chance and do your research. If you’re using a sex toy wrong or just being plain jane about sex in general, you might not be enjoying yourself to the full potential of either the penis or the sex toy.
4) Don’t be afraid to try the new toy or the new position. I’ve had some weird suggestions that I’ve been apprehensive about and ended up absolutely loving. For instance: anal sex. It’s not for everyone but it might be for you, especially if you do it right (see the above point about research)
5) Ask questions. Seriously. Your friends are probably kinkier than you think and if you can’t get any information out of them or maybe you’re too shy to ask them, ask an online forum. There are all kinds of people out there who’ve had lots of experience trying out whatever you’re curious about. Also, many of them love to talk about it so go ahead and ask them.
6) If it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t. Personally, I’ve had allergic reactions to certain types of lube but it was slower than one’s I’d previously experienced, so I wasn’t sure what was going on. I did know that it felt weird when it shouldn’t though, so I switched what I was doing and asked my physician about it later. Though I haven’t reacted to a sex toy yet, I do know some people that have. You know your body best so do what feels right.
7) If you’re not sure what it is, ask. This goes for both penis’s and toys. Sometimes people are just unaware of things but it’s better to ask than to end up feeling bad about it later.
- With toys you want to be sure you’re getting the right thing for what you want to be doing. Some toys could be too intense for you and others may need more parts to fully enjoy them.
- With penis’s it might be a birth mark, or it might be something infectious or even cancerous. It’s always better to check with a physician on these than to guess and end up with a bad result.
Can Sex Toys Replace The Penis?
For myself, there will never be something to replace the penis. I’m through and through a man’s gal and I love being railed hard with the real thing. I’ve tried different strap-ons and a variety of dildos and other sex toys, but nothing quite lives up to the mind-blowing sex I’ve had with some men and their real penis’s.
While there are definitely things sex toys can do that penises can’t (like vibrating the hell out of my clit without hurting it), I just find that I love the feel of a real penis inside me and the silicone version just cannot make up for the lack of that feel no matter how many bells and whistles it comes with.
Chrissy Grant – Chrissy Grant is a sensual companion and escort from Alberta, Canada. Providing upscale intimate and social experiences for gentlemen.
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