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How To Explore & Enjoy Shibari

Those who practice BDSM have the pursuit of pleasure as their goal and during the session, it is possible to carry out this search with the most disparate tools. Within the practice, we can explore our desires and share them with the person we play with. We can feel ashamed, cry, relax, enjoy, be afraid, let go of control in total freedom, without worrying about the judgment of who is there with us at that moment. This allows us to get closer, to get more intimate with your partner.

I do not share only my body with you but I open a window on my secrets and allow you to see things about me that on other occasions I do not show. In addition, as individuals, practicing BDSM leads us to ask ourselves what we are looking for in a relationship (whether it lasts in the time of a session or whether it is the relationship with our partner), who we are, what we want. In short, from my point of view, it is a full-blown self-determination tool.

Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model Momo Usagi; Pic by Vazkor

How My Interest In Shibari Developed

As a child I loved to tie things up. I used what must have been a jump rope: chairs, tables, bottles, nothing could stay in its place. I built forts, tents, castles. Upon reaching sexual maturity, I started fantasizing about bonding people. In a short time, the fantasy became reality. I felt, however, that something was missing. Using scarves and belts wasn’t that satisfying. Playing with wax and having extreme sex with the people I dated didn’t tell everything about me. Also, I needed to talk to someone who had my same instincts, I needed confrontation. So I asked for advice from a friend who I knew had the same interests as me and she suggested that I join FetLife, a social network dedicated to BDSM that has nearly nine million subscribers around the world. Here I discovered the existence of a community in Turin, the city where I live, of parties and bondage workshops.

I am a curious person and as soon as I approached bondage I began to explore the various existing styles, to research the most famous masters, and so I discovered shibari and chose who I wanted to study with. The further I went along my path, the more I realized how relevant this was becoming in my life, how ropes had become one of my favorite communication tools and certainly my favorite BDSM practice.

Ropes by Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme; Pic by Vazkor

Is It Easy To Learn Shibari?

It all depends on what is the goal you want to achieve.

You can start playing safely very quickly. The important thing is to know what your abilities are and not to overdo it, not to try to do things that have not yet been learned. Those who want to learn to suspend have a longer course of study ahead of them but the duration depends on several factors, for example on what is the goal of the people who are studying and how much time they dedicate to practice and training. For those who, like me, love shibari and decide to cultivate it and perfect (and to perfect/refine) technique and aesthetics, the path can last a lifetime.

What I Love About Shibari

I’d like to say that I love everything about Shibari! I love tools, aesthetics, technique, communication. The most important thing for me I think is the relationship that is created between rigger and rope bottom. Trust, communication, understanding, eroticism are essential components for me in my practice.

Sometimes I play as a bottom with my partner. In that case, I love to feel his desire for me. As I said before, ropes have become one of my favorite communication tools, it’s amazing how much they can amplify what rigger and rope bottom want to say to each other.

GyakuEbi Ropes and Pic Alithia Maltese; Model effe.emme

Safety Precautions Before & During A Session

Based on their experience, everyone develops their own personal security strategies. The advice I can personally give are: to know what the health conditions of the rope bottom are (for example if they have had joint problems, if they suffer from claustrophobia or low blood pressure), to gradually increase the intensity of the tying to give way to the rope bottom to feel what is happening (both to enjoy the moment more and to communicate if there is something wrong), to read the signals of the rope bottom’s body to understand if everything is okay, be aware of your abilities and not overdo it, not to try ties that are not mastered during a session, especially when if you are a beginner.

Alithia Maltese pic by Vazkor

What To Expect As A Beginner

I recommend starting with a workshop held by a reliable teacher. Look at the photos, follow people on social networks, ask for feedback from those who have already studied or done Kinbaku with them, ask someone who is part of the community. This also applies to those who want to be tied up.

The sensations experienced in Shibari are very intense. If you are looking for something comfortable, Shibari is not for you. If instead you want to start a journey, perhaps together with your partner, if you are ready to share your deepest emotions with this person, then give it a chance.

Maybe there will be times when studying will seem boring or frustrating, but if you are willing to overcome them you will be rewarded and you will discover a new world, something you didn’t even know existed before.

Alithia Maltese is a rigger, an alternative sexuality educator, a kinbaku teacher. She lives in Turin, Italy.

Alithia organizes events about consent, meetings for people interested in BDSM, classes on non-verbal communication and bondage workshops. Her main interest is interpersonal communication and she has found in ropes the tool that allows her to express herself at best. She is convinced that BDSM can be a great way to learn to communicate through our body, so she studies its potential.

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March 17, 2021
What To Expect From Your First Rope Bottom Class

I enjoy being tied up. With my partner we practice Japanese inspired rope bondage – Kinbaku. It started as a casual bedroom play, and developed over time into something very special – very deep and intimate way of communication between us which i cannot compare to anything else really. In Kinbaku I found a very special – ritualistic – space where i can enjoy playing with power exchange – offering myself, surrendering myself to the will of my partner.

Outside of Kinbaku ritualistic space, we are a normal couple. We decide on many things together and ask each others’ advices and support. In Kinbaku space, we allow ourselves to play different roles, to open up and be vulnerable and touch on our “shadow” parts, the parts that maybe we don’t fully understand or accept about ourselves. We can play with fear and shame and other dark emotions. Sometimes, it touches some very sensitive parts.

In Kinbaku, we use the ropes for inducing the impact on the body and mind of the person being tied – that would be me. Over time, I definitely developed a fetish for a feeling of rope on my body. I love everything about it: its smell, touch, sound, its versatility – for all the different qualities and emotions it can convey, when it’s in the hands of my partner…

Why I Love Rope Bottoming

In ropes, I seek to surrender. It is erotic to me, to be desired, to be taken. I enjoy being “made” into a beautiful thing for the pleasure of my rigger. I want to become a clay and I want to be touched, moved, split open, taken, rejected, objectified, worshipped, penetrated… Ultimately, I seek to surrender to the core of my being, to the point of dissolving my mental resistance and becoming nothing but a pulsating body, like one of the plants of the flower. On the way there, it might call out different emotions in me, sometimes it is hot as fuck, sometimes, it calls out a layer of deep sadness…

We do Seme-nawa – “challenging ropes”, those that have power to move something in me, to melt me, to transform me into something else. I don’t seek pain, I do seek challenge. Challenge that brings me to my limits, to my resistance, my fears and my choices. When I’m up there and no way to move, no way to breathe properly, and my fear is so haptic – I can touch it – only choice is left to surrender to what is happening. This intensity brings me back to myself, reminding me that the truth is what I feel, not what I think I should feel. This intensity I rarely experience in “normal” life and this is one of the gifts that rope gives me. It is cleansing, and softens me.

I think one part of this “cleansing” is about having a space for “Drama”, having a space to discharge emotions, especially dark destructive emotions, that I get to accumulate throughout the day… Anger, hate, self-hate, fear, anxiety…? We are not supposed to show such feelings in social situations, we are almost denied to have them, but they are there. It is a blessing to have a space to live them out through crying, sweating, shaking – there is a feeling of relief and lightness that often comes afterwards.

How My Interest In Rope Bottoming Start

My partner – who was already engaged with BDSM before – introduced me. The story was, I saw the photograph on the wall of the girl tied up – so I asked him what that was and he said, “I’ll show you, baby” and I liked what he showed me. There was something about the feeling of rope from the very first moment it touched my skin. There was something about the rope being so powerful, that it felt right for me to obey to what it wanted. I just had to follow my desire and discover more of that. This is how it started.

At the beginning, I had a phase of confusion. At that time – almost 10 years ago – it was difficult to find any teachings, workshops or books, anything really – about rope bottoming. However, I had a very clear and strong desire for rope, I was confused in many aspects: how to handle pain or bad emotions, or how to communicate with my partner, or what exercises I needed to stay safe and healthy – not so unimportant aspects after all…

I had to learn by doing and that wasn’t always easy. At that time, I dealt a lot with embodiment – developing a capacity for feeling inside of your own body, for living through my own body, so to say. That has changed my approach to rope bottoming – I was getting deeper and deeper into my own body, feeling my feelings, living my own “story” with rope, concentrating less on what I thought I “should” do. I hope it makes sense! For me it was a turning point in my rope bottoming. This is also the journey that I write in my book about.

Reasons Beginners Should Join A Rope Bottoming Class To Learn

For several reasons… First of all, raising the awareness and the self-responsibility – in rope bondage, being tied up, we are not a “passive” object, but there are always shared risks and shared responsibility with the rigger. For instance, when it comes to safety. The technical skills of the rigger are of course very important, but they just don’t feel your limps the way you feel them. Therefore, it is also your own responsibility to learn what you can do to stay safe and healthy when playing with rope bondage.

When it comes to rope bottoming, I believe this is a somatic practice. It is something that we learn with our bodies, over time. And that with a bit of effort and exercise, you can improve and deepen your own experience.

I don’t think one has to attend the bottoming classes in order to be tied up. One can do just fine without it. However, I think there is not enough awareness of how much learning actually there is possible if one wants to take rope bottoming seriously and advance on this pathway. I have often heard rope bottoms saying, “I started as a rope bottom, but then I wanted to grow, so I started to tie”. I don’t think that becoming a rigger is the only possibility to grow for the rope bottom. I think there is a lot to learn and to discover on the pathway of “just” being a rope bottom.

I believe, “good” rope bottoming takes time, practice, and patience. Good, in a sense, that it’s fulfilling, enriching, and deep play – for yourself and your partner. That’s just my personal opinion.

It is not just something that your rigger brings to you or “does” with you. You, your attitude, your mindset also will affect the session tremendously. You co-create the sessions together with your partner.

My teaching for bottoms is not aiming for the “right answer for everybody”, but rather about assisting you to find right answers in your body. We are unique and our reasons, why and how we enjoy the rope, are very different. There is not “one answer fits all” approach. Rather the intention of going deeper with yourself.

How A Typical First Session Is Like

The first session in ropes? I guess that can look very different as people are different… there is not really such a thing as a “typical” session I would say. People have very different desires and intentions for playing with ropes. How about instead, I could share my suggestions for those who are new, what they could do to enjoy the first session and avoid having a bad experience.

Slow down! Learn properly how your body reacts in ropes before increasing the intensity – by going in the air, for instance. Many want to experience the suspension right away. I believe, if you take it slow in the beginning, you grow your self-trust and self-knowledge, that would later allow you to “relax” into and really enjoy the suspension later.

Go slow, do less. Define what your comfort zone is (the amount of impact that you are pretty sure you can process) and communicate it as your limit. For instance, this sounds to me like a reasonable limit for a very first session: short (10-15 minutes); low intensity: floor work, no suspension; just 1-2 ropes, without gagging and blindfolding. You will get enough of the impact to process, believe me!

You can always be tied up again, but you won’t be able to reverse something that was too much. Take your time to integrate, up to a few days. You will feel how your body and your mind react, what is happening with you afterwards.

Advice For My Rope Bottoming Classes

Some more advices for the beginners, maybe?..

Learn from the beginning to show up in the process. I do not mean to take a control of the session. By showing up, I really mean expressing yourself, how you feel, what is happening with you: physically, emotionally.

Develop your way of expressing yourself depending on what feels natural to you, so that you keep your rigger in the loop as to how you are doing, using your tone of voice, breathing, moaning, making sounds, movements, you can let them know when you are close to the limit. Generally, if you don’t show up in the process, you risk that your partner will do too much or too little…

Natasha NawaTaNeko is an accomplished rope bottom and educator – together with her partner @discoverkinbaku they teach and perform internationally. In Kinbaku, Natasha is looking for true emotions and authenticity and sees rope bondage as deeply intimate and erotic practice that has also a profound transformational potential. Natasha recently published a book sharing her experience with being tied up: “Somatics for Rope Bottoms”.

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There is a book I wrote about rope bottoming and its potential for personal, intimate self-inquiry: called “Somatics for Rope Bottoms”. The book consists of 12 essays – Somatic Inquiries – inspiring the readers to look for the answers in their own body and re-claim their agency for the most important decisions that come up when we decide to explore kink. The book is available for purchase on Amazon in both Paperback and E-book formats.

I also offer coaching for rope bottoms if they like to tackle specific topics they are struggling with, also online through Skype. The information can be found on my website RopeSomatics.com

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February 3, 2021
Incorporating Impact & Wax Play In Rope Bondage

I usually experience rope bondage (especially in regards to ‘Shibari’ style, not bedroom bondage) as something that is artistic, emotional, expressive, and connective.

I was introduced to rope bondage through a friend after seeing a beautiful photo of her suspended from the branches of a tree. It was artfully done and she looked so serene and peaceful. I knew I wanted to give it a try. So I suppose, right from the start, I was already seeing rope bondage in an artistic sense.

Why Is Rope Bondage Popular?

I can’t speak for everybody, but I think a huge part of the appeal is the connection you can create with others. It’s such a unique way to connect and mesh with another person. It lets you experience sensations and feelings that you might not have anywhere else, and be close to someone in a whole new way. I think with any kink a lot of trust and consent is involved, and part of the appeal for me is that I’ve learnt so much about boundaries and communication because of my experiences in rope.

Also, I think for a lot of people, and certainly for me, it’s also the medium of the rope that’s incredibly appealing. It’s the feel and the scent of the rope, the way the rope creaks when it’s under tension, how it hugs you and holds you. It’s all part of the charm.

I’ve heard a lot of people speak about how they love to be tied because they can give up control to somebody else. Sometimes I feel that way, on some level, for example if I’ve had a stressful day and I can just be tied by a good friend and let the world melt away and know that I can just fall into a nice rope headspace. But generally, I find it’s more of an expression of my own power, and sharing that discovery and expression with someone, rather than it is about being dominated or about giving up control. Sometimes, people assume that I am a submissive or s-type just because I want to be tied up. I don’t identify as a submissive, but I enjoy connecting with my riggers as well as exploring emotions and connectivity through the medium of rope.

Favorite Bondage Positions

I usually love hanging in an upside-down suspension. It doesn’t always work for me, but when I’m in the mood, it’s my favourite thing. Being suspended by a good single Futomomo (when your leg is bent at the knee and tied shin-to-thigh) can feel amazing in a pain versus pleasure kind of way. It helps me feel less stressed, I can just melt into it. Sometimes I like hanging by my ankles, straight down, so that my spine decompresses and I can just stretch out. I work on computers all day so I really need that release sometimes! Also, I believe that’s one of the reasons why people do aerial yoga (which I still haven’t tried!).

I also have often enjoyed being tied on the floor, without suspension involved at all. Suspension is sometimes seen as the primary target for rope bondage, but it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ve had some amazing experiences with just floor rope. I like ones where I can curl up and have my arms in front of myself, and my legs wrapped up nice and tight.

How To Incorporate Impact Play Into Rope Bondage

I think it depends what you wish to focus on, and what mood you might be in.

If wanting to focus more on the impact play, you might use quite minimal bondage. For example, I’ve had my arms tied and lifted above my head so that I’m standing and being whipped from behind. I’ve laid on a bench with my arms and legs tied to the four corners of it while being beaten with a cane. Those methods place a larger emphasis on the impact play more than the bondage – the bondage was only there to stop me from moving around during impact play. So that was coming more from a place of wanting catharsis via the pain and rhythm and sensation of impact play.

If the focus is more on rope bondage and you’re wanting to bringing some impact play elements into it, you could do whatever kind of tie you like that you feel will also enable you to do some impact play. I would suggest thinking about what parts of the body you’d prefer to aim for, and make sure they are accessible. I’ve been tied in a suspension before where I was in a hip harness and a sort of backbend, and my thighs were being flogged. There’s a lot of ways you could play around with positions for this.

Why I Love Mixing Wax Play With Bondage

I’m not sure I’ve really put it into words before, but I think I love the mix of sensations! Rope can be so comforting or challenging depending on the position and vibe put into the tie. It can be relaxing, or aggressive, or anything between and beyond.

Wax can be warm and gooey and lovely, or it can be really hot and piercing and shocking. Both rope and wax together I think creates a wonderful mix where you can have an ebb and flow of sensations and intensities. There’s just such a range to play with!

Tips For First Timers To Get Started

With wax play, at least to start with, I would suggest getting candles that are soy based (and unfragranced if you have sensitive skin). They tend to be gentler and nicer to play with than a candle that is made with something like paraffin wax. You can try with all different kinds of candles and see what you prefer. Some are sharper and sting more than others. Also, be aware of the size of the candle – get a wider/thicker one if you can. The size of a candle versus the wick placement will affect how hot the melted wax is when it reaches your body. The larger the candle, the cooler the wax will be when it hits your skin, because it’s had to travel further from the flame. If you’re using a really skinny candle (like a birthday cake candle), the wax will be hotter as it’s basically come right from the flame itself.

You can, of course, try it on yourself before asking someone else to do it for you. Try dripping wax on your arms, legs, feet. Be aware and take care of potentially sensitive areas such as the inner thighs.

With impact play, you can also try implements on yourself first (depending on what the implement is, the ease of this will vary). If I’m not sure I’ll like a particular implement or toy, sometimes I’ll use it against my own thigh to get a small taste of it before asking someone else to try it on me.

If you can go to a class or event in your local kink/bondage scene, that might work out really well for you. I’ve been to a workshop with a friend where we were given opportunities to try different implements for impact play (including our own hands, of course!). It’s a good way to experiment whilst also getting guidance from people with experience. I felt like I learned a lot from doing it in a workshop setting!

Ellie Neptune – Ellie Neptune is a shibari-bat from Australia who loves hanging upside-down. She discovered rope bondage via a friend in 2014 and has never looked back! Ellie enjoys exploring connectivity, art, and emotion through rope bondage.

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April 1, 2019
An Introduction To Rope Bondage

I think most of us crave partners who make us feel fulfilled. Sex is a crucial aspect of intimate relationships, and not being honest about your needs eventually makes those relationships (and consequently oneself) miserable!

Giving my personal desires and fantasies room to develop in my personal relationships was the first step I ever took in the direction of improving my overall mental health.

After just a little bit of research into BDSM I suddenly found a whole new world of possibilities open to me. I discovered that my deepest urges and desires that I had been subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) repressing had names and definitions. It was so gratifying and affirming. Most importantly I developed this knowledge within the BDSM community – by going to events and immersing myself in the culture of consent and sex advocacy and education. That community offered a level of safety and accountability that I simply wouldn’t have had access to without meeting other people and attending local events.

As long as it’s safe, sane, consensual and risk-aware, I believe that kinks and/or fetishes are way more common than people might think, and a totally normal aspect of human sexuality!

What Is Rope Bondage

Rope bondage – the art of binding (usually a person) with rope – can be anything you want it to be. From soft and sensual to practical to sadomasochistic. It can be purely performative or an intensely emotional experience. It all depends on the type of rope used and the method that’s employed. It has its roots in ancient Japan where it was used as a method of torture and incarceration. Some of the same ties are used today in rope bondage to inflict both pleasure and pain.

Misconceptions About Rope Bondage

There seems to be confusion about whether it’s sexual or not and if it isn’t – what’s the appeal? To answer that, it can be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. Again that’s all depending on what kind of rope bondage people are doing. If they’re doing practical / bedroom bondage the feeling of being restrained while receiving pleasure (or pain if that’s your thing) can really heighten the intensity. Add to that the fact that unlike cuffs and tape, rope itself can be formed around the body in such a way so as to increase pressure on certain areas of the body which can also be pleasurable. I personally haven’t heard of anyone reaching an orgasm simply by being tied up without any other external stimulation. But I suppose that’s possible too.

It also doesn’t have to involve sex, and can live in a sort of grey area where enduring such high physical intensity causes your brain to release endorphins which gives you a feeling of euphoria – like a runners high. There’s also oxytocin (the “love hormone”) that gets released during particularly connective scenes between the bottom and Top – that is also a pleasurable sensation. 99% of my experience in rope has been non-sexual.

Common Types Of Rope Used

Most riggers will be using jute or hemp because of the tensile strength, smoother handling and durability. Cotton and bamboo are good for people who are just starting out, and silk is nice and soft for people who want a more sensual experience. It’s up to the individual to decide what they want to use, but just please don’t use strings or chemically treated hardware store rope!

Popular Rope Bondage Techniques

There are common ties and styles that rope artists learn, but people essentially develop their own individual technique based on what they’ve learned through skillshares and intensives with more established teachers like Naka Akira, Osada Steve, Gorgonne, etc. It’s a highly individualistic discipline in that respect – though there will be hardcore enthusiasts who only follow one particular school’s method.

As a rope Top, I prefer predicament bondage combined with “Chaos Bondage” which essentially is using your understanding of how rope bondage works (maintaining tension, reversing tension, different kinds of knots) and combining that with (often asymmetrical) spontaneity. I will use the bottom’s natural posture to put them in an ever so slightly uncomfortable position which will amplify whenever they attempt to get comfortable. I am kind of a sadist. I also don’t mind making pretty ties (obviously). As a bottom I prefer to be tied in challenging suspensions.

Tips For Beginners To Get Started

Get on Fetlife and find local events and skillshares you can attend to learn rope bondage in person with established teachers! This is crucial, it’s a hands on skill that requires so much more than just following a diagram or a tutorial.

Get involved in your general local BDSM community as well, you can learn a lot of necessary tools for negotiation, consent and general scene safety.

Research the safety risks. This is a great video on the Anatomy of Nerves for Rope Bondage (https://youtu.be/u9-VzX9_pzg).

Keep your safety shears nearby at all times.

Don’t just tie with anyone. . . Find people whose desires for the scene are relatively compatible with yours, rather than someone who may hate what you love!

Use safe words!

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March 15, 2018
What You Should Know About Rope Bondage

BDSM is a form of escapism from the everyday grind of life for me. It is also a way I choose to form relationships with intimate partners. BDSM allows me to let go of inhibitions, societal pressure and stress. BDSM is about trust, communication and expanding of knowledge. It is also an amazing way to meet new, interesting and wonderfully accepting people.

How My Interest In Rope Bondage Began

I met a guy who was very into the rope scene at a swingers party. He took me along to a fetish event and I saw all the wonderful and crazy things everyone was doing. We started experimenting in private and I started attending my local peer rope. Eventually, I started exploring at events on my own and with other partners. Since I started as a bunny (a person who is tied) nearly 6 years ago, my interests and wants/needs have changed and I now identify as a switch (someone who can be both a bottom and/or a top during play scenes)

How It Feels To Tie & Be Tied

For me, being tied up is about freedom. Which sounds very contradictory. Being tied up allows me to be still and calm, be in the moment, release stress and sometimes if I’m lucky, to fly. It allows me to stop thinking and just be. Does it hurt? Sometimes, and when it does, being tied up becomes about challenging yourself and overcoming whatever the rigger (person doing the tying) is putting you through. The endorphin rush during and after don’t hurt either.

Tying another person is a whole different kettle of fish. Having someone trust you with their body and sometime mental and emotional state is amazingly humbling. Each person I tie is different and what they want to get out of a rope experience can change from day to day and person to person. My job as a rigger is to allow the bunny to enjoy the experience and get what they want out of a session while ensuring they are safe and (mostly) unharmed at the end.

Common Positions To Be Tied Up In

This is a more complex question than it seems. There are many different styles of rope bondage. If you are just tying a partner up for some sexy times in the bedroom the spread eagle is a common one. If you are more into western style bondage, you will often find hip harnesses and double column ties (rope handcuffs especially). Shibari or Japanese style rope bondage uses a takate kote (box tie) as the bases for many of its ties as well as futomomos (frog-leg tie) and hip harnesses.

Positions can also vary depending on if you are doing floor work vs suspension, are wanting a loving connecting scene vs a sadistic scene. Rope is a vary versatile tool and can be used in whatever way you and/or your partner is feeling at that time.

Introducing Rope Bondage To Someone New

For me, it always starts as a conversation. Asking a person if they would like to try out this thing I am into. Communication and consent are key with any sort of BDSM activity. If they seem keen to give it a try, I usually start with something very simple like a tie on the wrist or ankle, then work our way from there.

If someone asks me how they can get into rope bondage themselves as either a rigger (person doing the tying) or a bunny (person being tied), I try to point them towards a peer rope or rope dojo close to where they are. I think building connections within your local community with like minded people can only help you get better skills and more experience.

Various Ways To Kink Up Rope Bondage

Of course there are. Blindfolds and other sensory deprivation tools are commonly used with rope, as is wax from wax play candles. You can incorporate many sensations like fingernails, biting, kissing, spanking (with hands or impliments). Hot and cold with ice and warm oil. For something more extreme, and not for the faint of heart, I once saw a performance when the bunny/model had her nipple pierced while in a very tricky suspension. You are only limited by your imagination and what your partner will consent to.

Please make sure you ASK your partner before trying any sort of bondage or BDSM activity with them. Pick an easy to remember safe word like “RED” or “ENOUGH” and when your partner indicates that they would like to stop or uses your safe word, ensure you stop IMMEDIATELY. CONSENT IS KEY.

Rose Demore – Rope and bondage lover. Sweet and Sadistic. Poly, opinionated, and like to stretch and open the minds of everyone I meet.

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February 8, 2018
Learn About Rope Bondage With Mia Amor

I think that the kink lifestyle is a unique way of life that allows people express themselves in some many different ways. Whether they do it just in the bedroom or live it 24/7, it’s fun and sexy and provides an outlet for people to gather and indulge in some of their wildest fantasies. I know that being in the lifestyle has made me a stronger, more mature, honest and overall well rounded person. I enjoy the idea of a community of people from all walks of life coming together to share in what can only be described as incredibly intimate play. I love that there are really no rules and that every relationship is different, everyone’s approach or interpretation of their fetish can be different. It makes for great interactions and connections that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

How My Interest Began

It developed slowly ever time. I’d been tied up on several occasions by different people and didn’t think much of it; it was fun but not intoxicating. I don’t think it was until I did a scene that called to my masochistic side that my opinion changed. The day I was introduced to torture rope everything change. I also had partner who was heavily into rope bondage and it became the best and most basic way for us to connect.

Next thing I knew, I craved the smell of rope, the way it felt on my skin, how it made me feel, how it was changing me, and I was addicted. I started training my body to handle suspensions and my partner at the time taught me how to maneuver in rope, get in touch with my body and spirit through meditation, and he also taught me how to check for signs of nerve damage, (that’s important).

How It Feels To Be Tied Up

This is going to sound very odd, but the feeling of being tied up is actually very liberating. It f…eels safe and secure, and it hurts oh god it hurts! Sometimes it’s difficult to breath, sometimes you are using muscles you’ve never used before, sometimes it’s feel like you are being pulled apart even as it you being reconstructed. In my experiences, being tied up leaves me very opened and vulnerable and then being in rope no longer becomes a physical experience, it also becomes an emotional one.

It becomes a dance; the top shapes and contorts you, and you yield to his every wish, his vision, and then you are flying, soaring beyond the ropes, outside of whatever confined space you are in you feel free, and strong, and empowered, and beautiful, and desired, and cared for and yes, you will feel pain. I am probably most at peace in rope and I love that.

Favorite Positions To Be Tied Up

I do a lot of suspensions and transitional rope, so it is very rare that I am actually in a rope position unless I’m doing bondage for clips. But I do have some ties that I really enjoy. Fred_Rx does at double column tie around that hips and thigh area that feels amazing in and out of suspension, the pressure, the location, the security, everything. It’s just a damn good tie and a super sexy one! I also really enjoy futomomos, which is a very tight tie around the legs that secures your ankle to the back of your thigh.

Being suspended on a single futomomo makes me orgasm almost every time. Oh! And Lunaticbound does a torture tie that he calls the “Thigh Crusher”, which is a tie that is tied around the thighs, with very tight tension. The tie is used to restrict the muscles in your thighs, and then he forces you to use those muscles. It’s a very simple tie, but by far the most painful.

Create A Better Experience

Using rope bondage or torture rope during sex is a super sexy way to have fun with it. Ball ties, the thigh crusher, frog ties, and Agura are some great xamples of ties you can use during sex, they usually hurt and provide perfect access for penetration. To spice things up I enjoy adding neck rope, hair rope, face rope, and being gagged with rope is also very hot. A lot of people like to kink it up with crotch rope. I for one dislike the tie, oddly enough I like to be able to use my vagina after a rope scene. Also, adding impact to a rope scene is another way to add variety to your rope play.

Mia Amor – Kink enthusiast turned cam model which lead me to fetish modeling and rope bondage. I rope bottom for classes and events in the central Florida area, and I also self tie. I was fortunate enough to demo bottom and perform at FIRE 2016 and look forward to seeing where my rope journey will take me. Follow Mia on:

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Mia Amor is taking a break this year and focusing on furthering her education and skills in rope bondage.

Images courtesy of Fred_Rx, Iambic, Knothead, Lunaticbound and the Woodshed.
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March 2, 2017
How To Enjoy Amazing Rope Bondage Sex

My interests in the kink and fetish lifestyle started at a pretty young age now that I think about it, and my curiosity and involvement have only gotten strong as time has gone on. I believe sexuality is on the of most important and primal driving forces in human nature. Sexuality and expression of it is such a beautiful and varied realm, where there is no right or wrong answer. Even among the same fetish subgroup, the experience is life is a snow flake, unique to the individual. Each person may find an enjoyment in a different way and because of a different reason, but still be considered in the same fetish. Human sexuality never ceases to fascinate me and I make it a personal mission to constantly expand my wealth of knowledge and experiences within our community. I believe everyone has a right to be fulfilled and happy, as long as it’s between consenting adults, be free, be kinky, be wild.

Rope Bondage & Favorite Positions To Be Tied

I guess it is no secret that I highly enjoy bottoming in rope scenes, now I do not consider myself a submissive, I identify as a switch. This means I enjoy both being Dominated in scenes and play as well as bottoming or being submissive. What I get most out of the rope bottom side of play is the restriction of the rope, I enjoy the tightness, the helplessness, and in that…a sense of comfort. I always say I have a hard time staying very awake in certain rope scenarios because of how relaxed I become. I go into my happy place, and mentally zone out for a second. Also the fun thing about rope is, it’s completely up to you how you want to use it, be tied, be tied too, or an even more fun thing…have toys tied to you! I would have to say some of my most favorite ties are hog ties, box tied with the legs frogged, or most forms of suspension.

Having Sex While Being Tied Up

To have sex while being tied is amazing. I enjoy being played with while in bondage all around. When your body is restricted it heightens the rest of the sensations, your muscles tense more. I find it so erotic struggling against the rope as you pull hard and chase the orgasm. Forced orgasm play while in bondage has to have given me some of the most intense and satisfying orgasms of my life. Being at complete mercy of your partner can be such a turn on.

How To Get More Powerful Orgasms

Being whipped/flogged/caned/paddled/spanked does make the experience more intense. It draws out the natural endorphins and give you an additional dynamic to the scene. Impact play/corporal punishment is NOT for everyone and that is OK. Luckily you can tailor any of this to the person, each toy and implement can be used at any intensity and each has its own type of feeling. Personally I enjoy a more bitey feeling and go for the canes and single tail whips.

Kink It Up Further

Like I stated above kinky sex is an amazing world of possibilities and its up to you where and how far you want to go. The only advice I have is that you play SAFE and CONSENTUAL. If you don’t feel comfortable doing something please communicate with your partner or if there is something you would like please do so. its your sex life it is your right to have enjoyment and feel safe doing so. Also the internet is a treasure trove of ideas and information and online comminutes . Do not feel embarrassed because I can guarantee you are NOT alone in any kink.

Nadia White is a enthusiastic Hardcore and Fetish model from the DC area, she has been active on and off in the industry since 2008. In this time she has had an AVN nomination and worked for producers coast to coast. Her favorite scenes are intense and BDSM related. Follow her at:

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February 27, 2017
Bondage And Sex

I think it’s great people are exploring things that satisfy them. As long as people are safe and respectful, I don’t see anything wrong with exploring the lifestyles.

How My Kink Interest Started

I think I have been into kinky things since I was pretty young, I just didn’t realize they were “kinky” things. I’ve always been tying my friends up LOL.

Favorite Forms Of Bondage

I love rope bondage, there’s just so many things you can do with rope. And if I had the studio and money, I’d be interested in building more intricate sets with metal work.

Favorite Bondage Positions

I love a strappado, hogtie is pretty classic and I like that. I like a lot of asymmetrical bondage. I know that drives a lot of people crazy, but I like it.

Being Tied Up and Achieving Orgasms

It’s a truly pleasurable feeling. Being tied tight and not able to escape. Forced to cum whether you like it or not (I usually like it hahaha), it’s a mental thing as well as a physical thing.

Bondage Sex vs Vanilla Sex

I can enjoy both, but since I’m a rope girl, I really enjoy bound orgasms. Bondage just adds more fun. But sometimes I want to cum and don’t have time for bondage, vanilla sex is good too. I like sex, and I have an amazing partner, so I’m always happy over here, no matter what kind of sex we have!

Tips To Try Bondage Sex

Start soft, you can always build up and get harder as you get comfortable with bondage. Always check in with your partner, whether you are top or bottom. Make sure you are both happy and feel good. As much as you might think the master has all the control, it’s actually the submissive that is allowing this to even happen, so appreciate them, and respect their limits. You don’t break the toy if you want to continue to play with it, right?

I’m Nyssa Nevers, an Asian (half Japanese, half Caucasian) international bondage and fetish model. I’m also a bondage and fetish producer! I’m a rope girl, I like all sorts of bondage, from light to corporal punishment. When I’m not modelling or producing, I like to go scuba diving, roller skating and travel the world. Follow Nyssa at:

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December 13, 2016
What you need to know about Shibari

The following interview is republished courtesy of Mosafir, Shibari rope bondage specialist from Russia.

What Shibari means to you personally?

For me, Shibari — is communication between two adults. It is about tenderness and pain, about trust and passion, about sexuality and identity. Also Shibari — is about beauty, the beauty of a woman, the beauty of self-denial.

How did you become interested in this?

Firstly I have been attracted by the beauty, aesthetics, and sexuality of shibari. I saw a few pictures on Internet and interested in it. Later, having learned how to tie, I discovered other sides of shibari, and it fascinated me even more. Shibari is multifaceted. It’s like the ocean: the deeper you sink into it, the more mysterious depths open to you.

Who can be a model?

Shibari model – is slightly generalized notion. If we consider Shibari as erotic game, then the model can be anyone who wants to diversify his sexual life. If this tie is for the photo, then the model is also can be any person. If shibari is for the show, then the person must have some endurance and desire to be in spotlight. This is only sides of shibari. If person have a deep interest in the practice, then the model should be a masochist. Without it, nothing happens. The desire to be tied up must come from deep inner virtue of person. Good when everything mixed in one person. It happens rarely, but I was lucky to meet such person a number of times.

What is necessary for rigger?

Shibari — a sadomasochistic practice with a high degree of visual component. Therefore, a good shibari master – is first of all a man which is not indifferent, but active, hardworking and loving sex. Well, he is also must have a little bit of sadism. We must remember that Shibari is one of the most dangerous SM practices. Therefore rigger should be responsible, hardworking and inquisitive. And one more – you need to love what you do.

What the difference between Shibari and bondage?

Well, first of all Shibari is the bondage. This is Japanese rope bondage. My choice is Japanese style and technique of tying. I started to work in this style and staying in it. If we talk about the difference between European-style rope bondage and Japanese style, it is a very difficult question. You can try to find external visual differences but it will be subjective. Observer will evaluate all subjective. Shibari is within a couple, in their minds and souls. The difference can be shown in process of tying, in aims. I can say that the European rope bondage is tying for any further action, I mean it’s fixation in order to do something with fixed person.

Shibari is a self-contained process. It can last 30 minutes, one hour or two …tying — self-sufficient. This is of course roughly definition because everything is ambiguous.

What is community of Shibari lovers?

Shibari is a unique phenomenon. As SM practice and part of BDSM, Shibari at the same time has a very strong visual component. It made simple rope bondage become a phenomenon, conquered all continents and came to Russia. Just because of aesthetics, we have that «visually intricate patterns» of what Wikipedia write. It is allow making public events showing shibari-actions. It has led to an understanding of the need to meet and exchange experiences. It makes possibility to show shibari and keep up the interest in audience.

If you remember that shibari is dangerous practice and you need to learn how to tie, need to use experience of experienced riggers then it becomes clear why we need to make communities of riggers.

Is it possible to take part of such events? Where and what format it is?

Such communities are not common, but you can find it in the big cities of most European countries, certainly in Japan and now in Russia. For example, here in St. Petersburg, we have shibari club «Yugen» which exist more than 5 years. The club meets once a month. This is a party where you can do bondage, be a model, watch and chat. It’s not difficult to take part of it: you just need to join the Club (This is a group in VK-Russian social network) and answer a few questions from administrators. Also we have parties and festivals of Shibari where you can meet and talk with like-minded people. In St. Petersburg for three times was hold international shibari festival RopeFest. We must remember that Shibari is a sexual practice that is available only to adult. It’s also concern of events.

Where we can see live performances of Shibari?

Shibari is no longer an exotic now. In Moscow and St. Petersburg we have big festivals in which shibari masters come from Japan, Europe and other countries and cities of Russia. Almost any BDSM party has riggers, and if there is a show program then there for sure will be bondage. At one time it was fashionable to do shibari show at parties, even far from the BDSM.

What are your favorite masters?

The list is long. I will mention only some names In Japan: Akira Naka, Nawashi Monko, Hajime Kinoko. In Europe: Bruce Esinem, Stefano Laforgia, Riccardo Wildties. In Russia, I really like what makes Kalahari. In general, we live in a time when shibari progress is very fast. Constantly appears very interesting and original riggers. Very pleased that the Russian masters of the rope are in the epicenter of this process now.

Some photos from some of my performances in 2014 n

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April 15, 2015
3 Shibari Rope Bondage positions you should know

There are many kinds of Shibari patterns and positions. There are standing positions, sitting positions, lying positions, suspension bondage positions. We see lots of suspension bondage in the performance, but it requires advanced techniques and experience, if we don’t do them correctly, suspension bondage can be very dangerous.

Each Shibari specialists have more or less their own style. But there are some basic techniques people can start to learn.

I am going to introduce some of them below.

Takatekote Shibari

Kikkou Shibari

Gyaku ebi Shibari (Hogtie)

Bondage is for everybody, those who wants to bind their partner, and those who want to be tied up by their partner. Body shape and size does not matter. Ropes are flexible material that can adapt to any shapes/size of people, and we can also adjust the bondage technique to be suitable in any case. I myself have put hundreds of different people into my rope bondage, they are in various shapes and conditions, some are big, some are small, some are very tall, some are not flexible, some have physical disability etc. Each time for each person, I have made some adjustments and customized the best bondage for them.

I offer Japanese rope bondage private lessons/workshops to the people who want to learn it. When bondage is applied safely and correctly, it becomes a special and interesting sexual game, but if it is applied wrongly, it can be dangerous and damage the body. Nowadays there are many images of Shibari on the Internet, and some text explanations, so it looks as if we can just try by looking at. But in my opinion, it is better to take a course from rope bondage specialists and learn about safety cautions and the right techniques (patterns, knots, positions, pressure, places to avoid, time length, etc). For the Shibari, looking and trying it out is entirely different. To become good at rope bondage, you just need to learn the right techniques and practice it over and over. The more you practice on your partner, the more effective and beautiful bondage you are able to make. And don’t forget to always keep asking the partner how they feel during the bondage. Make sure that he or she is not having any pain, numbness or discomfort. As soon as they start to feel uncomfortable, they must be released, otherwise it can harm their body.

I am based in Europe, and travel around the world. If you are interested in requesting my service (Rope bondage workshop, Performance, Session), you can contact me by email below!

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January 20, 2015