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  • “Kissing is Sensational”. Kissing & COVID-19

    “Kissing is Sensational”. Kissing & COVID-19

    Kissing (cheek to cheek or lips to lips) always seemed as a very natural process which is essential and important in people relationships. Kissing is present in most people cultures since ancient times. We can read kissing in historical documents, look at the ancient drawings even hear from the songs. Kissing has different types. Parents and children kiss each other to express care, love or devotion. People also kiss in religious reasons and of course kissing is very often used for romantic reasons to express affection, sympathy and pleasure. There are also many ways in which people kiss. Some kisses are plain touching lips to something, some kisses, mostly erotic, involve tongue. However, now everything has changed one hundred and eighty degrees when the Covid-19 pandemic spreads almost all over the world.

    COVID-19 spreads mostly from person-to-person contact through  coughing, sneezing, laughing, singing or talking. In the distance scale, people can be infected if the particles of coughing, sneezing, laughing, singing or talking reach their mouth, nose or eyes within 1.5 metres. This virus can also spread by touching surfaces or objects where the virus is present and then touching your mouth or face. But what about to have sex with kissing?  If you are having sex with someone, you are going to be in close contact with them. Although COVID-19 is not an Sexual Transmitted Infections (STI) but obviously, it is transmitted during sex because of the virus is present in the mouth and it makes sense that kissing will pass on COVID-19.

    “Like it or not I have to hold back from kissing my partner. Actually I don’t like it. What’s so good about having sex without a kiss? Kissing is sensational for me but since the COVID-19 pandemic I have had to endure it“, said Mekar, 25 years old (not her real name). Mekar is a private employee and has a partner.

    Most think that kisses as an essential part of any romantic relationships or sex and that real passion is very difficult to be achieved without kisses. Some see it as a proof of love and proof of sympathy and probably think of it as very important part of reaching intimate pleasure. But can you have sex in the times of COVID-19? The answer is yes you can but how?

    The obvious answer is to masturbate. Masturbation will not spread COVID-19, in particular if you wash your hands for at least 20 seconds before and after. Or at least if you want to kiss and have sex, do it with your safest partner. Having sex with your close contact helps prevent spreading COVID-19. In the mean times, you should limit close contact with anyone outside your circle. But if you do kissing and have sex with others outside of your circles, you have to talk about COVID-19 risk factors, just as you discuss condoms, and other safer sex topics.

    I met Ayu (27 years old) and Deni (31 years old) (not their real name) in the virtual website. They are couple and they do have sex and kissing at least four times a week. As Deni is hypersexual, Ayu ask Deni to not to kiss her but they have sex.

    Ayu said, “I asked my partner not to kiss during the pandemic. It’s tough because my partner is hyper.  He always ask me to kiss. I said “No”. He continued to force me. Then I said go ahead if you want to kiss me but if I catch Covid-19, you will also catch it. My partner occupied me for almost two weeks. At that time I had given up if my love life with him ended here. After two weeks, my partner called me and he said that he was hopefully strong enough not to kiss but he said that the sex would continue.” Deni nodded his head in agreement with Ayu. Deni said that it is their agreement.

    “Like it or not I have to obey my partner. Currently the number of people without COVID-19 symptoms is getting higher in our city, Jakarta and we don’t want to be people without symptoms. My partner knows that I am hyper. I have to refrain from kissing before sex. It feels bland but I have to,” said Deni.

    We are all currently fighting the COVID-19 pandemic. This pandemic is very dangerous because it can cause sudden death. Couples who want to have sexual intercourse by kissing should be avoided. Kissing is not something you have to do in a relationship. Love your partner and their family.

    Dr. Wisnu Adihartono – He received his Ph.D in sociology (gender studies, migration studies, family studies, and Southeast Asian studies) from École des Hautes Études en Sciences Sociales (EHESS), France. He wrote the articles for journals, the book reviews and the short articles for the website. He is the author of the book Migration et Soutien Familial. Le Cas des Gays Indonésiens à Paris (French version only). You can contact him at wisnuadi.reksodirdjo@gmail.com or wisnuadi.reksodirdjo@outlook.com

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  • Kissing Tips For Men

    Kissing Tips For Men

    Sex is all about energy – the exchange of energy and the sharing of energy. Sexual energy is powerful and being able to share it with someone on the same wavelength as you is exhilarating and so connective. Mutual trust and respect makes sexual experiences so much more fulfilling and intimate. I love being able to connect with someone and help them explore their sexuality and feel more empowered.

    Importance Of Kissing

    Kissing is very important to me – especially when it comes to neck kissing, that makes me go weak at the knees! I find that kissing and touching is a lovely way to ease into sex and explore each other’s styles. Kissing during sex can heighten intimacy and connection, and I personally love it when I’m curled up in someone’s arms post-coital and relaxed.

    Types Of Kisses I Love

    Yes, there are definitely different types of kisses for different situations! Some kisses can be very gentle and tender, which are great for initial foreplay and also for post-coital cuddling. The powerful strong kisses also makes me swoon – they’re fabulous for when the action gets a little hotter or when there’s a little bit of power exchange going on. I also enjoy great makeout sessions in darkly-lit bars, they are such a fantastic tease!

    Kissing Mistakes Men Make

    Yes, I have had some bad experiences…one mistake men make is when they try to eat your entire face with their lips and use no tongue at all – I refer to it as ‘the hungry trout’!

    Another mistake is when a man sticks his entire tongue in your mouth and tries to also lick your lips. Tongue kissing is very subtle and you need to get the perfect balance – too much and it’s sloppy, too little and it’s dry. The key to becoming a good kisser is to listen to your partner and take note of their likes. Kissing is so erotic and sexy when done well – it’s not a race!

    Take your time and savour it!

    Men, Remember Your Hygiene!

    Absolutely. I would definitely say that it is hugely important to get regular dental check-ups to ensure healthy gums and breath, as well as brushing your teeth regularly and using mouthwash. A healthy mouth with fresh breath is so much sexier to kiss!

    I would also say that it is very important for men to wash their hands thoroughly and scrub their fingernails before engaging with a lady, especially if they do a lot of manual labour. Clean hands are important!

    Tash Murphy – Tash Murphy is a free-spirited pervert, blonde amazon, full-service sex worker and enthusiastic sex geek. She loves meeting and connecting with new people and learning more about human sexuality. She is an avid fan of game arcades, theatre, travel and eating cheese.

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  • How To Kiss A Girl

    How To Kiss A Girl

    Sex! Sex is everything and nothing, depending on who you ask. In my hippie, artsy little mind it’s a bedsheet bound tango of energies and emotion. Explaining sex is like explaining why we ever get hungry, or why the rain falls. It’s just natural and it keeps us going. Add societal elements and now sex is a marketing tactic, a weapon in emotional warfare, a means of seeking validation and a whole host of other (possibly unhealthy) motivations. My thoughts on sex in a nutshell are it’s the ultimate way to know somebody, and when you’re really into someone you want to know who they are in every way. My fantasies are more towards the carnal, submissive side. As long as everyone is safe, comfortable and wants to be there then I say do whatever the heck you want to do, and have fun exploring and challenging yourself.

    Importance Of A Good Kiss

    I have some rather strong opinions on kissing. It’s a lost art, truly. So many people think the sloppier the better, which couldn’t be further from the truth (in my opinion). A good kisser can get me both relaxed and revved up at the same time. It’s the first plane of being intimate with someone, a time to go in purposely but listening. Someone who is not attentive to body language and barges on kissing how they wish is bound to put their partner off. With all things in sex it’s about listening and adapting, but especially kissing as it sets the tone for everything to follow.

    Know When And How To Kiss

    Different situations or stages of sex certainly call for different kisses. The climax is called a climax for a reason: it’s the highest point of action. Everything should be smoothly yet steadily building up to that moment. Kisses at the outset, when you are coming together for the first time, should be more experimental than when you’re lying in bed, frantic about getting your joy on!

    Obviously it’s impossible to give an instructional manual for how to kiss in all scenarios, but generally speaking it makes sense to ramp up the passion as sex goes on and you’re more comfortable with your partner (assuming you’ve never had sex before) and is getting hotter. Then again, maybe this is your lover or your long time favourite provider/regular, and you just want to accost them as soon as they walk through the door and start sucking face! That’s hot too. The kissing really informs what kind of sex you’ll have, and vice versa, so just keep that in mind and take your partner’s reactions into consideration.

    Tongue Play

    YES there can be too much tongue. In fact, it’s not uncommon that people latch onto the idea that more is more when it comes to tongue. I’m not into that. If the tongue isn’t used judiciously it’s just a gross-out to me. It’s like seasoning. A note here and there makes the dish come to life, but the whole meal can’t just be seasoning. Similarly, sparring use of tongue can be an incredible turn on and immediately heightens excitement, but you can’t just put your tongue in someone’s face and call it a day.

    As for things a guy should never do…oh, this is a tricky one, but I’m going to say don’t kiss too fast. Slow and sensual wins the race and helps both people relax. Kissing too fast gives the impression that one is anxious. The obvious tip of “don’t try and stick your tongue down her throat”, shouldn’t even bare mentioning. Sadly, however, it does.

    Check Your Breath

    Again, to be obvious, garlic or onion breath is not appreciated. Likewise, cigarette breath makes me feel like I’m kissing an ashtray. Poor oral hygiene such as having very stained teeth, any diseases of the mouth and teeth is of course off-putting as well. It’s basic advice but it’s all you need-be clean and neutral smelling.

    Any strong odours emitting from the mouth are unlikely to make me want to put my own mouth on it. Something that I’ve encountered is that some of my clients will chew gum before an appointment to ensure that their breath is minty fresh, but they forget to spit their gum out before leaning in for a kiss! So many things to think about, they overlook that crucial detail.

    Listen

    The fundamental golden rule of having sex is listening to your partner, and this definitely needs to apply to kissing. Is your partner reciprocating everything you’re doing with equal fervour, or is it overwhelming them? If it’s the latter, adjust to a slower, gentler style. Try not to be a robot. Let your hands explore as you kiss, get a lay of the land. It’s a huge turn on when men give me taste of how strong they are by letting their hands grip and squeeze me all over.

    Don’t be too light with your pressure. Sometimes men think that they lighter they kiss the better it will feel, but it simply tickles. How they do it in the movies is a pretty good guide for how to go about it. But in all seriousness, less is more is generally a good rule of kissing, when in doubt. But when not in doubt, go wild and crazy and leave it all on the bedroom floor!

    My name is Serena Paxton, and I live in Toronto, Canada. I’m tall and slender, twenty-four, blonde, with an equally sexy mind and body. As much of a country girl as I am a city girl, I enjoy going out or simply slowing things right on down and enjoying the moment. Follow and contact me on my website (www.serenapaxton.com), Twitter (@SerenaPaxton) and http://ca.eros.com/ontario/toronto/files/413066.htm

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  • A Kiss Isn’t Just a Kiss

    A Kiss Isn’t Just a Kiss

    “The most eloquent silence; that of two mouths meeting in a kiss.” – Anonymous

    Although kissing is often one of the first intimate behaviors performed in a relationship (commonly referred to as “first base”) and may seem to be a rather simplistic behavior, research suggests that kissing is of great importance when sizing up potential romantic partners and serves many functions. In fact, kissing appears to act as an important gauge when selecting a mate and can either enhance or diminish feelings of attraction to others. A study conducted by Hughes and colleagues (2007), 59% of men and 66% of women reported that “they were no longer interested in someone after kissing them for the first time.”

    These results suggest that kissing plays a huge role in mate selection for both men and women, however this is particularly true for women. This gender difference in consistent with other research suggesting that women report finding kissing more important than men do  (Wlodarski & Dubar, 2013). Interestingly, this study also found that men and women who rate themselves as highly attractive and with more casual/short-term relationships, rated kissing as more important than those who rated themselves as less attractive and with less casual relationship experience.

    So, now that we know kissing serves as an important metric when sizing up a potential mate, what can we do to be better kissers? What variables are important to others when kissing (especially for the first time)? In a study examining kissing preferences among young adults (Hughes et al., 2007), a person’s breath and the taste of his or her mouth were the most important factors related to the quality of a kiss. The “wetness” of a kiss was also found to relate to the quality of a kiss, however differently for men and women. In particular, men reported liking “wetter” kisses to a greater extent than did women.

    Although kissing cannot predict with 100% certainty how attractive someone finds you, it does play a role when sizing up partners. So, next time you are preparing for a first date, make sure to avoid drinking/eating anything that could result in an “untasty” mouth.

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