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  • What You Need To Know About Blackmail and Hypnosis

    What You Need To Know About Blackmail and Hypnosis

    Femdom is really all there is for me. I’ve never had, wanted, or needed a job beyond being a professional dominatrix, but it’s far more than just income for me. Femdom is empowering and fulfilling in ways that I could never see another ‘job’ living up to. I’ve heard from so many of the subs I’ve interacted with that Femdom has given them renewed purpose in life, their Dommes having given them the guidance and direction they needed to become a person that they can be proud of.

    Some have even told me that finding a Domme has saved their lives, digging them out of depression and helping them fend off anxiety issues. Femdom is so much more than a different type of “porn,” it’s a real connection between two people who can each make each other’s lives better in some way. I’ve been being paid for my expertise in the fetish world since 2005.

    What Does Hypnosis Involve?

    I’ve always been interested in learning different ways of manipulation. Honestly, this world runs on manipulation. Everybody in life wants something from you, and everybody in your life has something you want. It’s all about learning how to manipulate them into giving it to you. You may even find that there are certain things that you want from yourself and then must find ways to manipulate your own psyche in order to get that to happen.

    Unlike stage hypnosis, which uses things like swinging watches, special effects, and swirling spirals, I am certified in hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is a verified psychological tool which is used to induce a trance or meditation-like state in the subject being hypnotized. Once in this state, the hypnotist can then mold and change someone’s behaviors, thought patterns, wants, likes, dislikes, etc. by implanting ideas directly into their subconscious (the part of the mind which controls all of your base desires).

    According to the Stanford Hypnotic Susceptibility Scale, 95% of the population can be hypnotized with varying degrees of difficulty. I’ve personally never run into any of the 5% of people who can’t be hypnotized, and have found that most go under with medium to moderate effort. Since all sensations are perceived by the brain, I am even able to make my subjects feel things that aren’t really happening to them in the physical world. Even if they are thousands of miles away, my subjects can feel like I am physically with them, touching them, punishing them, etc. I can also leave post-hypnotic suggestions, causing them to want or no longer want certain things, or to make them go under more easily again the next time I hypnotize them. I can even make it so that they don’t have any recollection of the session itself, which is quite useful for certain fetishes…

    The Blackmail Fetish

    I think blackmail fetish was my first love in the femdom world. The way I approach blackmail starts with a session wherein I will discuss the sub’s limits, weekly tribute amount, time frame of the contract, buyout clause, additional add ons such as session or assignment requirements, etc. Then I will write up an individualized contract for the sub in question. he will agree to it and sign it, along with filling out his information and sending over any pictures or videos he might have of himself. That’s when the real fun starts…

    The money, of course, is wonderful. I receive weekly or monthly tributes from the sub being blackmailed. Many also enjoy financial domination, which means I can enjoy asking for more cash just to watch them squirm, knowing full well that if they don’t pay, then they will be exposed.

    What I enjoy most about blackmail fetish, though, is the control it affords me. I feel that blackmail fetish is really one of the few ways that distance domination can have real consequences.  Once I have a little information on a sub, I can easily use that to extract even more information, pictures, videos, social media passwords, anything I want! And they know that if they fail to provide, or don’t follow through on a task, or miss a tribute then I’ll just expose their pictures and information on my websites and social media for all the world to see.

    The threat of being outed is a huge motivator, and the risk can be extremely arousing for my subs. A lot of fetishes involve risky behavior, and what can be riskier than having your information and even face pictures of you performing humiliating acts on display to strangers? It’s especially damning when everyone knows you literally asked for it…

    How Do Subs Know That Femdom Suits Them?

    Really there are only two ways to determine if you are meant for submission. First is research. What type of porn really gets you going? If you like femdom porn, you might just be a submissive. However, fantasy and reality are often very different. Just because you like watching a sexy Mistress kick a sub in the balls until they’re black and blue doesn’t mean that you can handle actually being that sub.

    The best way to determine if you are built for a life of servitude to a Superior Goddess such as myself is to find someone you trust and give it a try. Start slow, don’t go all in for ball kicking on day one! Maybe start with something more simple, like spanking or light CBT, and if you like it, go from there. Try new things, see what you enjoy most and build on it. Never be afraid of saying, ‘this isn’t for me.’ Any good Domme will understand limits.

    Characteristics Of A Good Sub & Rules To Follow

    It really varies from Domme to Domme, but I know for myself, respect is key. Even if it is the first time you’re contacting me, do not use pet names like “baby” or “hey sexy.” If you’re thinking of serving Me as your Superior Goddess, act like it.

    Second is communication and honesty. Not everyone can complete every task or fulfill every desire for everyone, but everyone can communicate and be truthful about their own abilities, and can learn to take responsibility for their actions (or failure to act) without making excuses. If you know you can’t do something, say so. If you know you’re going to be out of town when we have something scheduled, let me know more ahead of time than the day of the session or tribute deadline.

    Lastly, my time is valuable. I am a professional. My subs will pay for my time. I am a fan of the idea that I first hear from Mixtrix – if you contact a woman for something that will be used to arouse you or get you off but refuse to pay her, you are looking for someone to use, not a Mistress to serve.

    Types Of Punishments For Subs Who Don’t Obey

    It really depends on each individual sub and their limits, likes, dislikes, and if we have a contract of some sort. The easiest is fees – the requirement of sending an extra tribute to make up for a failure is pretty standard and universal. Others include physical/pain punishments, being ‘grounded’ (not allowed to go out with friends or family for a certain time), general tasks (writing lines, etc), chores, being disallowed from sessioning with me for a certain time or until the issue is resolved, humiliating tasks, etc.

    If the offence is great enough, the sub will be blocked and his behavior will be posted on my website and Twitter for everyone to see so that any future Mistress who he approaches can search Google and see what he has done to one of his previous Mistresses.

    Other Hobbies Of Mine

    I’m an avid video gamer. I prefer survival horror and sandbox style games. I also enjoy most non-mainstream boardgames. I think Betrayal at House on the Hill is my favorite. For sports, I practice a lot of judo, and Brazilian jiujitsu. I do tight lacing and corset training on both myself and my slaves, particularly my sissies. I love baking, especially for those I care about as well, and enjoy crafting as well. I’ve also made and designed most of my websites, so web design I guess is a hobby of mine too.

    I love astronomy and art. I have the entire Northern hemisphere of constellations tattooed on my right arm. It is by far my favorite tattoo (so far three) and I plan to get my favorite nebula (the Orion Nebula, M42) tattooed on my left thigh. I also enjoy music, particularly singing. I have a piece of music from a friend who worked at the Renaissance Festival as a bard tattooed on my right thigh. I’m very passionate about art, particularly tattoos, and plan to have as many as possible. I have six currently.

    Mistress Kiara – I have been a Professional Dominatrix both online and in the real world since 2005. Currently residing in the lovely town of Ann Arbor, Michigan, I pride Myself on My vast knowledge of the fetish world, as well as My unique fetishes and portrayal there of. I prefer using a more intelligent and refined demeanor when dealing with My subs, rather than a bratty or bitchy approach.

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  • Is Hypnosis with Sex, a One Hit Wonder?

    Is Hypnosis with Sex, a One Hit Wonder?

    Following on from the response from my previous editorial, I have been invited to share my professionalism further by posing the question: How far could one go utilising hypnosis with sexual behaviour?  In response, one could go just as far with hypnosis as one could in experimental sex, drawing on positions and techniques.  After all, I believe it is widely acknowledged that the brain, or to be precise, the Pituitary Gland aspect of the human brain, although, physically is the diameter of a pea, secretes the endocrine hormone: Melanocyte –stimulating hormone into the wider brain making it the largest sex organ in human nature.  Therefore, gentlemen and ladies, there does not need to be any occupation of any anxiety, stress, depression and performance anxiety relating to the size of yours, or your partners penis and its function in the expression of your sexual behaviour?  Or does there?

    Unfortunately, there has over many thousands of years, especially in western culture, been an emphasis on marking sexual virility, ability, strength in battle and paralleling that within the bed chamber.  Thus, culturally speaking, if one is well rehearsed and resilient with a sword, or, in some other masculine roles that displays awe, then he is bound to be the best lover for any woman or man, see Verinis and Roll, (1970, p.126) in their works ‘Primary and Secondary Male Characteristics: The Hairiness and Large Penis Stereotypes’ where they imply a stereotype of men with a larger sized penis was an indication of enhanced masculinity, virility, potency, power and activity, in contrast to men with smaller penises.

    Therefore, it does not seem too difficult to conceive the idea that men, who buy into the notion that guys with larger penises are more professionally skilled, have supposed greater sex performances and are perceived to have little anxiety in much of their performances in life.  I hear you asking, what of those men who perceive themselves or their partners to have smaller, or below national average for whatever country you happen to belong?  The answer is simple; most men with an average sized penis in fact perceive themselves to be much smaller than what they are in reality as they view their penis from above by glancing over their stomachs.

    Although, there are some men with small penises, ‘micro penises’, which are few and far between that do exist in all areas of society, western, or, eastern.  Wylie and Eardley (2007, p. 1449-1455) presented a very easy table of penis measurements in their academic journal – Penile size and the ‘small penis syndrome’ which is located in the British Journal of Urology International, 99(6), Theory of Medicine.  However, unfortunately, the man creates a low self-esteem regarding his penis size, stature, which fluidly umbrellas his perception and ability to perform etc.  This anxiety can be inadvertently fulfilled by viewing men with above national average penises in pornography, in a sports gym, or, standing at the urinal in a public lavatory where it can be common place to notice other men’s penis size from a side aspect – viewing the full penis size in reality, not perceived.

    The question you are all asking is, how do we treat it and can hypnosis assist in the treatment process?  The answer is yes, it is treatable and yes, hypnosis can assist as a fundamental aspect of psychotherapy.  There is a 50% chance that sexual dysfunction (i.e. arousal problems, Premature Ejaculation, Satisfaction, Sexual Dysfunction, Erectile Dysfunction etc) is medical or psychological.  It is imperative that you contact a medical doctor or psychologist to diagnose you and decide whether your condition is one of the two.  Although there is medical and psychological evidence that suggests the two merges into each other: chicken or egg, they would still require to be treated separately.  You can then be treated via a psychotherapist who is comfortable or specialised in sex therapy to work through the triggers and issues that are influencing the psychological aspect of the condition – this is where one can utilise hypnosis to place suggestions in the man’s unconscious and re-frame thoughts to influence his behaviours.  This is where I often use hypnosis in my private practice, although, it is not often used in the wider health service.

    How can hypnotic sex treat poor performance?  Hypnosis can enhance sexual performance by him visiting a sex therapist and him learning to relax and be at one with his body (penis specifically).  The psychotherapist can teach him to visualise greater sexual performances.  Additionally, ego boosting is an excellent way to experience a feel-good factor, and depending on how complex the man’s issues are, there are exceptional analytical approaches to psychotherapy to delve deeper into the unconscious.  Such therapy work of delving deeper would be to locate a root cause and effect that influences a lack of sexual confidence, performance anxiety for example.  As mentioned in my previous article, ‘Hypnotic Sex’, I explained further about Freud’s analytical therapy.  However, to highlight a approach or two, there is free association, hypnosis, and dream analysis.

    To understand further of how I perform a therapy session, and how I utilise hypnosis, you can read about a couple of my professional secrets in my next article.

    Giles Dee-Shapland

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  • Hypnotic Sex

    Hypnotic Sex

    Hypnosis was brought into the forefront of scientists and societies’ minds when the Austrian born Sigmund Freud, 1836-1939 explored psychoanalytical psychology.  Similar to me, Freud had worked with sex and the unconscious for much of his professional life.  I have a great deal of respect for Freud and his theories as he is very much misunderstood among the psychological fraternity and society.  21st century psychological mind-sets forget Freud was born over 100 years ago but his theories were very much beyond his years.  He had a troubled childhood, a domineering mother and an emotionally absent father when he was in the household.  I believe he most possibly was bisexual in his own sexual orientation but bisexualism and homosexualism was not spoken about when Freud would be exploring his sexuality as an adolescent.  Again a similarity to me, Freud explored the psychological aspects of sex and the unconscious to understand his sexuality and sexual practices.  It was in fact what got me interested in training and working as a sex therapist and trauma therapist.

    Society today, has a lot to thank Freud for as he was the first individual to name aspects of the human unconscious.  Some theorists will take Freud’s theories with ‘a pinch of salt’, this is fine as I believe Freud laid his theories on the table and subsequently, we as educated people or society could pick up his ideas, think about them be it strongly and accept it, or, dispose of them and forget them, do with it what we will.  The important consideration is he offered us that option by laying his ideas on the table for us to explore them critically.  If they are not thought of, or, thought about, there is nothing to consider, we have Freud and his great mind to thank.  Without him, we may be in a different place altogether with psychology and may not even have names for the aspects of the unconscious.

    ‘Hypnosis’ derives from the Greek word, ‘hypnos’ which translates as a word for sleep.  It is widely known; sleep is behaviour and is a natural function for animal or human to recover energy resources to continue living and functioning.  Additionally, whilst under the behaviour of clinical sleep, clinical hypnotists can make suggestions to a patient to positively recall, or, reframe experiences.  Such experiences could possibly be sexual, for instance, to improve, or, replace beliefs and perceptions of painful sex, difficult sexual experiences, sexual dysfunctions and enhancing orgasms.  My work entails patients requesting knowledge and confidence in sexual performance, rape recovery, and sexual abuse.  Although, my media work is more about how men can improve their sex lives.  In western society, there appears plenty of evidence for women to explore their sexual identity, sexual practices and sexual behaviour.  Whereas, for men, there is limited evidence, which is what motivated me to hold up the banner for men.  Therefore, I analysis sexual behaviour for men, that is men who have sexual experiences with other men, be they, gay, bisexual, straight, or, straight curious.  Interestingly, there seems to be an increase in heterosexual men reverting back to ancient Greek sexual philosophy where they enjoy sexual intimacy of another man.

    I have experience in men requesting how they can gain multiple orgasms through hypnotic suggestion and perception to heighten their sexual climax.  This is done by themselves or, with their partner by learning self-hypnosis techniques and then recalling the best orgasm to date.  By this amplification of the sensations felt while mutually masturbating is made stronger.  Although, it is wise to speak with a medical doctor to make sure your heart is in good order as it is known that people can experience heart attacks whilst enjoying sex.

    There are people who enjoy sexual fetishes of being hypnotised for sexual pleasure; this I must admit is usually men.  I have noticed an increase of men around the world who inquire about learning skills of self-hypnosis for shrinking (this is where the hypnotee perceives they have shrunk to maybe the size of an inch).  The ideology of this is that the smaller they shrink too, the more sexual pleasure they experience through self or mutual masturbation until they reach sexual climax.  The psychology of this is that one partner enjoys being dominated within a sexual experience.  A lot of men like to be shrunk (be submissive) so they can perceive themselves being held by their female (dominant) partners.  Whilst, on a physical level, the woman would not necessarily experience sexual stimulation herself for the shrinking of her partner, whereas she might on a psychological level due to feeling very powerful.  The woman may also masturbate due to enjoying the process of her partner losing power and she gaining his.  Although on a psychological level, sexual power and equality is an interesting topic in its own right and does beg the question, whether sexual power is perceived, or, actual.