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  • What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    What To Do When Seeing A Courtesan For The First Time

    At any rate, allow yourself to expand your definition of sex. Relative to my peers, I stumbled late into the party and much preferred to hang out by first-floor windows for less-than-erotic escapes. My early university years proudly presented sex in all its glory. It wasn’t until after I popped my cherry out of much pent-up sexual frustration and making the call on a pricey Brazilian (wax) that I began to draw on what it meant to me to feel desired.

    In allowing myself to first get deeply personal, I found what turned me on increasingly more enjoyable. Teasing neck bites in-between the pillows could cast the same frenzy as holding a hushed conversation inches from a stranger’s ear at the bar, well-wrapped up around their thumb. It won’t be the last time you hear it, but for all my firsts out there, know this: a climax cannot be appreciated without breaking a sweat, working out the kinks of foreplay.

    How Are First Timer Clients Like?

    My first timers are some of the sweetest nuggets out there. They constitute a little less than 15% of my reach who also book. They’re drawn to the playful humour and sly wit they see online and I think show up with just the faintest hope I’ll use it to help quell their nerves in person. They also send the best memes. Hands down.

    I’d be naïve to think I could speak for all companions or sex providers (SPs). I find, however, that my first timers either ask all the questions or none. Experienced patrons can be no different but also include ‘not enough’ despite knowing better, you’d think. Our latter group here is not necessarily immune to mounting nervous energy either. It is, after all, a real date.

    As with any real date, respectful, non-pushy use of language before and/or during this encounter involve understanding that requesting ‘menus’ right off the bat is off-putting to some SPs, including myself. With first timers and experienced patrons alike, I actively work to normalize effectively communicating boundaries to build an initial sense of trust in these sessions. Listening here is the power move. Both groups typically understand consent once raised—at least, in my experience. I cannot emphasize enough that consent is best expressed verbally by all parties involved to not shoot the mood for the evening. For our readers asking, ‘what if…’, I garner that you’re both adults—an email exchanging written confirmation of consensual acts beforehand is a green-light technicality.

    When the door opens, there are a few from both groups that don’t seem to know what to do with themselves and I’m reminded of myself. I find it charming. I’d say I’m quicker now to Shepard’s crook them by the belt holes before they bolt—assuming I’m hosting, of course. Given the sound of room service trolleys fast approaching anywhere, I’ve never been all that slow or shy to lift a few jaws on the walk in. This is only a subtle reminder to have your Do-Not-Disturb signs ready in hand, gents.

    Preparing For Your SP Before She Arrives

    Prep has got to be half the fun. It’s highly likely the SP’s given you a little reading material for the nights you’ve been sitting up in bed, still awake in anticipation.

    Work knocks you out good? Yeah, you can catch their Tweets on your commute to work or in an unassuming corner of the office during your lunch break. The most logical order IMO is starting with the website. Read it proper. If you’re not sold, or just want more than you’d like to admit, hit up the Media section on their Twitter—especially if you’re more of a ‘visuals person’. Then take a moment to check their Likes section to see if they’re still sane enough for you.

    Confirmations—along with a complete form submission—can be very important for many SPs. This may include a deposit, which you’ll have made note of if you’ve read her website (proper). Confirm at least the day before. I would advise against looking to confirm more than twice for any date as unnecessary persistence begins to raise yellow flags.

    If you’re working with a longer date, be considerate and well-prepared to offer them a bite (check for allergies, nutter butt) and glass of water at least. Drink some yourself. While you’re at it, moisturize your lips and tend to all grooming and hygiene needs. A little rinsey rinsey under the sink faucets would be most unwise. Even I’d pray for you. If the SP appears rather vocal online, do yourself a favor and don’t let yourself be sub-tweeted at. Tend twice to any areas you’d like to be appreciated.

    Be mindful to have the compensation ready for them in an envelope or whatever means they’d prefer. Location-wise, it should be in plain sight. You can’t mess this instruction up—it’s my easiest one. Tidy up the place if need be and upon offering to take their coat past the door, kindly also direct their gaze to said patronage along with some direction to the nearest bathroom. I’ll add that this is part of the foreplay I stressed earlier. Though I don’t know you, reader, I do want you to have an amazing time nonetheless. Do as their websites instruct you. Waiting to present their compensation till the end leaves many slightly more reserved in session. The wrap-up at the end is actually a window better suited to tips. On tips, I would say if you have the means to be generous and truly enjoyed your time, prepare this while they’re showering. Even if you’re not tipping, do the decency of giving them the privacy to get ready in there alone. Trust me on this one too. I gargle often and spit facts.

    Though not necessary, try to have a bottle of mouthwash, fresh bath towels and a neutral or relatively less ‘masculine’ smelling body wash available for their use at the end of the date. Your SP will appreciate it and not use your liquid hand soap by the sink. Should you fail to do so, don’t comment on how ingenious [she/they] smells.

    Once The Meet Up Begins…

    You’ve prepared yourself well! Assuming you read most of my last bit. The excitement’s got to be near through the roof at this point, I’ll bet.

    I hope you both have a lovely little or long time together. Don’t know what that entails? Did you plan a theater outing together? Holding hands doing nothing? A couples mani pedi before your kink dungeon date? Snakes and Ladders, maybe? An indoor board game atop a new and *very* doable cuddling position? Or was it erotic wrestling? A home-cooked meal for two? Or season two of some genius Netflix realm while you practise your rope basics? Well, why don’t you ask them…?

    Ways To Ease Nerves For A First Timer

    As if I haven’t been already, this will be a space to be blunt. To engage earnestly with your SP and in more of a wholesome manner at that, do not excessively drink and/or abuse substances to ‘escape’ your nerves prior to your meeting, gentlemen. Even your boss could tell you that. If you’re your own boss, I just did, so have your delusions call my people, if you so must.

    Second, read as much as want about your provider until you think you’re ready. This will still not mean you’re actually ready for whatever you’re expecting. Dates may flow every which way and controlling the stream too firm with expectation is a harder take than necessary; you could guarantee a flop. Be present and trust your SP. True intimacy is rooted in that initial trust.

    Third, I’d like to separate this little bit of advice about trusting yourself. You have no one to be but yourself on this date. Feel no need to overcompensate or tear yourself down. Unless, of course, that’s your kink, then you will need to express this to your SP before the date to not make things awkward. Communicate what space you want or need with your SP verbally. This could mean starting the date seated across/next to each other and draw yourself closer as you feel more comfortable with each smile. Meet anxiety with some eye contact and a little willingness to laugh in the face of it.

    First Timer Etiquette Tips 

    My advice for etiquette lies on and in-between the lines I’ve provided above. Everything said pertaining to hygiene, surrounding misc. preparations, and pre-date exchanges are very important. Be on time but don’t be one to watch the clock, that goes for SPs and patrons alike. Leaving on time is major, too. Overstaying your welcome or holding an SP from having to leave is a faux pas, meaning don’t you dare do it. I would also emphasize making sure to brush up on safe sex practices and communicating with your SP that you understand them.

    Once the date has started, try to keep your reservations at bay and tune into your newest muse. Feel no pressure for anyone to claim to have climaxed two minutes of walking through that door. Most likely, this will be a mutual feeling for your SP. The real takeaway will be in how well the both of you listen to each other during foreplay. Come as your best self. Be ready to be open and/or equally ready to listen. Have fun!

    Léa Rose – Seemingly yet another self-proclaimed high-end companion to the Rose kin, this pun-lovin’, long-limbed lynx reckons you’ll be inquiring more about her writing outlets and phon-atic musings at some point or another. Often tuned into a different frequency having secured her travel bag with a bit of head start than most, she’s a millennial milking every bit of having to stay stagnant living and working in the ever-growing metropolis that is Toronto, ON.

    Follow Léa on

    Website: hellolearose.nl

    Twitter: twitter.com/HelloLeaRose

    Curious Cat: curiouscat.me/HelloLeaRose

    Having successfully just wrapped up her 2020 tours of San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Houston, you can catch Léa shimmying somewhere in Boston, New York City, Las Vegas, Vancouver, Montreal, Ottawa, Edmonton, and Calgary next.

    Images courtesy of Léa Rose

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  • What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    What One Should Know Before Meeting An Escort

    To be honest, when I was just a civie, I never thought I would enter sex work. I never demonized it. I always knew woman were using sex work as a catapult to move up the socioeconomic ladder in society, so I was all for it, but as a career choice I never saw myself becoming a companion. Consequently, myself like most others, associated a stigma with SP’s, Sex work and the industry as whole. There are always questions about sanitation safety, location, how reliable is the money and confidentiality.

    For starters, to burst that bubble of sex workers are “dirty” because we sleep with X amount of men is so untrue. I would say 90% of the sex workers I know including myself  are “safe play only” providers. Which means everything is covered, and there is no bodily fluid contact or exchange. So, on top of offering safe services, we also get tested frequently, evidently because of the career choice we are in. There’s an awesome book to understand the psyche of a sex worker or just to understand the business as a whole called “Thriving In Sex Work, Heartfelt Advice For Staying Sane In The Sex Industry” by Lola Devine. I’m in the process of reading the last two chapters and it’s a good book for both civies and sex workers to get a general grasp of the business.

    Looking back to when I first started, I was very ignorant towards the fact that yes, sex work is a multifaceted rewarding job and SP’s wear many hats between being our own boss. We are also our own marketing team, accountant, web designer, blogger and receptionist/secretary, just to name a few. I personally feel SP’s are true hustlers to the very core and essence. We embody the true saying of “getting to the bag“. I love sex work. It has granted me many opportunities and also the freedom to do what I want, when I want, and has helped me grow individually as a person and as a business women too. Sex work is work and to thrive in this business, you must treat it as such.

    How Do You Screen Clients?

    I love this question. Let me start by saying, the first forms of screening are initiated within first contact. What a lot of potential clients don’t realize is how you present yourself, whether it be through your first text or email to me, I’m analyzing it and can pretty much tell whether or not I want to engage further or even finish reading your text or email. As SP’s we get so, so many texts and emails a day that it becomes very apparent who is a time waster and who genuinely would like to book a rendezvous.

    When you first make that initial contact with a SP, start with a short introduction “Hi my name is ________ , I am _________ . I saw your add on ________ , I would like to book you for ______ hours on __________.” That is good and all that is needed with first contact. After I have received a bit of info on you, it is my pleasure to respond and send you my booking form via email which includes light screening (i.e. two references, photo ID with pertinent info blacked out, work info and an email back from your work email or LinkedIn and a deposit). If a potential client can’t provide all the info, there are ways to work around it as not all methods are required to confirm booking.

    One thing though I would really like clients to understand is we as SP’s don’t know nothing about you. Them on the other hand, if they have done their due diligence, have taken the time to read our websites, visited our social media handles and reviewed our adds, which gives you a better understanding and idea of who we are and what type of provider we are.

    It’s only fair to give us that common courtesy in return. First impressions are everything, make sure to introduce yourself during initial contact.

    Do’s & Don’ts For Clients To Follow

    Yes there are some “ Do’s and Don’ts “

    1. Do be polite. I know I speak for myself and many other SP’s. Don’t just text Avail? at three in the morning. Read our website to know what times we are available at so you can get a faster response. And even if we are available, it doesn’t mean we are ready right now for you to pop up at our incall.
    2. Don’t bombard our phones with multiple back to back texts or emails. If we haven’t responded, chances are we are catching up on texts or emails and will respond to you as soon as possible or you haven’t really peaked our interest to return an email or text back because you haven’t taken the time to introduce yourself.
    3. Do try to send screening info and references promptly. If you are aware that we are the type of provider to screen, provide the info and if you’re mid-comfortable with a providers’ screening method, they are not the provider for you.
    4. Do not haggle or negotiate rates. My rates are firm and are set to that amount for very specific reasons. Trying to lowball me will get you blacklisted.
    5. Do be yourself. There are a lot of nerves involved in the whole process between booking and when our eyes first. Take a deep breath and be present in the moment. This is your time you booked with me. I live for genuine moments so let’s create them.

    What Happens At The Meet Up

    When we first meet, my donation should be the first thing taken care of always. Business before pleasure. I prefer it to be given to me in my hand where then, while you get yourself comfortable, I can excuse myself to count it then return to start our rendezvous. I do offer GFE so depending on what the client prefers, we can curl up on the couch, and start off with a movie.

    I can chef it up in the kitchen or we could take it to the bedroom where I could give you a sensual massage. It’s really up to the client and what he needs/wants. As long as the clients ask me to do something that’s offered in my services, I will be more than happy to fulfil their request. Be vocal with me so I can know what you, that way you leave as a happy client.

    Ways To Ease Any Nerves

    First off, I always greet my clients with a smile. I feel that’s so important to let you know everything is fine. Absolutely you will be well taken care of. I am a very bubbly person and love to have conversations, so expect me to strike up a conversation. I hate when interactions become mechanical. We are two human beings not robots.

    I know for some clients, the whole process can be nerve racking. I usually start by asking them how their day was, and offer them a drink. I love when my clients are able to slip away into total bliss, let go and feel welcome and wanted. Even if it’s just for a short time, I feel like we create our own little Utopia together.

    Client Etiquette To Follow

    Yes, there is etiquette I would like potential clients to know. I pride myself on cleanliness and I expect my clients to reciprocate that. Please wash up when you come. If you have had a long day at work or even if you showered 2-3 hours before coming, please freshen up. There are toiletries and towels available for use. Secondly, please be mindful of the amount of time you booked. It gets very uncomfortable when I have to remind clients it’s time to get ready to leave. About ten minutes before our session is supposed to end is a good amount time to start freshening up.

    How A Client Can Become My Favorite

    A client can become my favourite with one being polite (as you can see, respect goes a long way with me) to filling out my booking form fully and correctly and sending a deposit. We SP’s love deposits because it reassures us you are committed to showing up for your booking. A lot of time and preparation goes into a booking on our end. So, even if a client has to cancel last minute because of an emergency or simply re-schedule, the deposit compensates me for a portion of my time, money and effort spent on the preparation to host and look fabulous for our time together. Also, doing/giving tokens of appreciation go a long way. I happen to be human and a woman too hahaha.

    Surprising me with items from my wish lists is very much appreciated or simply asking what I like before hand so you can bring a gift to our appointment works too. In regards to safety and screening, potential clients need to keep in mind we do not know what you look like or know who you are. Chances are though, you as the potential client have done your due diligence in selecting a companion. You have checked all our social media handles. Have even check out our blog and current adds. Extend the same courtesy to us by giving us basic info on who you are, when you would like to book for and for how long.

    Also, tipping a little extra is highly recommended if you enjoyed our services. I’m not sure why tipping sex workers is not a more common thing. As far as longer dates go which I actually prefer, making reservations for us in a nice upscale restaurant for dinner, drinks and dessert is always a win in my books. At the end of the day, if you want to be my favourite you must go the extra mile to prove so. I’m a classy woman and old fashioned, I like to be wined and dined.

    Stormy Webbs – Greetings, my name is Stormy Webbs. I am a VIP companion, webcam model and content creator based out of Toronto, Canada. I ooze radiance and confidence when I enter the room and smile. I am a connoisseur of the finer things in life and love to experience new things, whether it be a new restaurant, exhibit attraction, or simply a new movie. I get a thrill out of first experiences. Follow me on Twitter and Snapchat to see more or visit my website to book a session with me!

    Follow Stormy on

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    Instagram: @stormywebbs

    Public Snapchat: @stormy_webbsx2

    OnlyFans: www.onlyfans.com/stormywebbs

    Premium Snapchat: fancento.com/stormywebbs

    Website: www.stormywebbs.com

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  • My Experience As A Sex Worker

    My Experience As A Sex Worker

    I believe that sex work can be the most feminist thing you can do. I own my body and rights completely. I work for myself and have started my own business. Sex workers help the economy. We are the oldest running profession and deserve much more respect than we are getting.  We truly make the world go round!

    Why I Decided To Go Into Sex Work

    I was 21 when I first started as a stripper in Portland Oregon. I was tired of making little money in retail and being treated less than. This girl who would come into my retail place said I would definitely make money as a stripper. I waited to turn 21 because the club she worked at wouldn’t hire under 21. It was the best choice I have ever made. It changed my life in a very powerful way. From stripping, I met my first sugar daddy. Then got into escorting from there.

    Does Being In Sex Work Affect Ones’ Non-Sex Work Relationships?

    I don’t think being a sex worker should affect any of my relationships but sadly, it can. I just don’t give those people the time of day. I won’t give my energy to people who can’t understand what I do. I mean, I can’t tell my family sadly, but they don’t need to know what I do exactly.

    Challenges I Experienced So Far

    Well some challenges I have faced are mostly due to my body not being this “certain” type. Plus I am alternative as well. It only has stopped me from working at the “nicer” clubs but still make great money working the clubs I do. Plus, I don’t see it as a challenge any longer!

    Weirdest Requests From Clients?

    I don’t like to use the word weird but since I am open-minded I get guys wanting things that maybe not all sex workers would be open to doing. I just know I am very non-judgmental. (:

    Typical Myths About Sex Work

    To the people who think we are all forced into doing this, YOU are very wrong. We are not all forced (and to the people who are, I feel for them and hope to see change in that) we want to do what we do. Which is making others happy and supporting our own dreams. I am privileged to be able to use my looks and my mind to help achieve my goals. I am truly blessed with the life I have, meeting so many wonderful sex workers along the way!

    Mila Pixie Rose – Mila is a sex worker from Portland Oregon. A magical and ethereal Goddess to help fantasies come true. She is a writer, director, designer and soon to be tattoo artist. She is a very ambitious and strong willed young woman, follow her on her journey!

    Follow Mila on

    All Sites: https://linktr.ee/pixiearthoe

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pixiearthoe/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/pixiearthoe

    ManyVids: https://www.manyvids.com/Feed/tinymilarose/1002840719

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  • Challenges Of Becoming A Successful Male Escort

    Challenges Of Becoming A Successful Male Escort

    As a free spirited and libertarian man, I believe that sex work is one of the most emancipating profession that exists. Although it is still highly stigmatized around the world, the proper practice of this line of work can bring personal enjoyment and satisfaction, a modest financial freedom, various travelling opportunities, flexibility in your work/personal life schedule and most importantly, the ability to be your own King or Queen and think for yourself.

    To outlaw forms of sex work is a moral and idiocratic crime, as no one is more deemed competent and rightful than the sex worker himself or herself to judge what he or she wishes to do with his or her body, mind and soul.

    Challenges I Faced When I Started Out

    As a heterosexual male escort, becoming legitimate in the industry is very challenging, and in many cases, most newcomers don’t last too long, or are perceived as a joke. There is countless amount of currencies worldwide readily available to female sex workers of all body types, ethnicities, age and social echelon. That statement is quite the opposite for male sex workers, especially if they wish to only see female clients.

    Without the right networks, it does take time to brand yourself in a recognizable fashion, and the cities where a male sex worker can successfully work out of are usually limited to the greater metropolitan areas.

    Although it was an uphill battle, I was able to establish my presence in the industry for over five years. Having the right networks, being fit and attractive, being multilingual and well-spoken and being creative and versatile in ways to work and advertise myself were just a few staples required to stay relevant in this industry. All gigs matter, and so do their subsequent reviews or impressions. Repeat clientele for male sex workers is, in my humble opinion, 10-100 times more important than they are for female sex workers, as the volume of opportunities for a male sex worker is 10-100 times lesser than it is for a female sex worker.

    The Competitive Male Escort Business

    The male escort business can be unpredictable. There are various niche avenues in which a male sex worker can practice his line of work, thus affecting the level of competition in a given city. In most cases, a male sex worker will have solid competition in major cities, especially if he is catering to women specifically. Unfortunately, too many male escorts are calling themselves as such only to attempt to have free sex with women. Some ads on leolist.cc are even worded in that way. Generally speaking, too many legitimate or amateur male escorts sell themselves short, which in consequence artificially boosts competition and attracts undesirable clientele.

    To be successful, you have to be patient, fit, clever, healthy and show no sign of desperation (even if they exist). It might take some time, but the right clientele will seek out a respectable required donation for quality services. Having another way to generate income in the beginning and even throughout your escort career is highly recommended. Personally, I have accounting and financial skills and education, which have proven to be very useful in this line of work and on their own.

    As for ways to advertise for clientele, I often have been more creative than just setting up an ad to sell a date or sex to women. Providing striptease for an event (bachelorette, birthday or divorce party), seeing couples, accepting men who wish to be a voyeur of a sex act performed by myself and a female sex worker or even seeing men on a platonic basis were ways to not have a going concern for myself in this industry.

    Are Male & Female Escorts Viewed & Treated Differently?

    Male escorts are generally less stigmatized than female escorts. However, female escorts often generate more revenues than male escorts. Female escorts have endless work and travel opportunities if they advertise themselves properly, but are also faced with much more dangerous situations and surroundings than male escorts.

    To my understanding, a female escort’s body is more important to the male client than a male escort’s body is to the female client. This is a parallel to the normal dating scene, where ladies are often more objectified than men. Where male clients often seek out a sexual release, female clients would often rather have a unique rapport with genuine reciprocity, in which some various particular forms of intimacy may occur.

    Misconceptions About Escorts & Male Escorts

    Still to this day, many escorts are considered to be desperately in need of currency to fulfill a form of addiction. Although this stereotype can be true at times, the spiritual and legal liberation of forms of sex trade are helping for this stereotype to slowly go away.

    Other misconceptions or preconceived thoughts can also be the following:

    – The escort is not an intelligent person or only has his or her body to offer.

    – The escort is being pimped and has no greater purpose or goals in life.

    – The escort (especially male escorts) is a thug and is bating the client into a financial or blackmail trap.

    – The escort carries countless amount of sexually transmitted diseases.

    – The escort has no chance of living a conventional life in the future.

    All of these misconceptions can easily be refuted with theoretical and practical arguments. But in the end, it is simply best to be abundant in all spheres of your sex trade and strive to build an impeccable reputation, so that actions and behavior demolish the misconceptions.

    Advice For Aspiring Male Escorts

    My general advice would be for any interested man to seriously reflect on why he is considering becoming a male escort, and also think about what he is bringing to the table and willing to do in order to be successful. Here are five sub topics to consider prior to joining the industry.

    1. Do you simply intend to have free sex with women? Go on Tinder or Bumble.
    2. Are you only in it for the money? There many other ways to reach financial freedom.
    3. Do you have innate personable qualities, such as hearing skills, patience, charisma, humor and diverse forms of intelligence? This line of work is more multidisciplinary than the average person may realize.
    4. Are you living a healthy and balanced lifestyle? You must, if you wish to last in this industry. If you have drug or alcohol addictions, you should be cautious.
    5. Would you consider seeing men on an intimate basis, even if you are heterosexual? This is a very personal question, and the answer may differ from a man to another and also depending on what the rapport is between him and the male client.

    Romulus – Greetings, ladies. I aim to please. I am a French Canadian educated gentleman. I am happy to provide you with the most upscale companionship for you to have a memorable time. I pride myself in being your emotional and sexual healer, as well as being a devoted conversationalist.

    Discretion is a two-way street. Although I am based in Ottawa, I do travel several times per year to Montreal, Vancouver and Toronto.

    Follow Romulus on

    Twitter: @ChivalrousRom

    Strip-o-gram gigs: indulgeexoticdancers.com

    Male escort ad: https://www.leolist.cc/personals/male-escorts/greater-toronto/city_toronto_to_dec_5_10_chivalrous_romulus_women_only-4766087

    Upcoming Tours:

    I am touring in Montreal from Dec 27-31, as my Twitter and leolist.cc ad both indicate.

    The rest of my tour is as follows:

    • Ottawa Jan 1-6
    • Toronto Jan 7-19
    • Vancouver Jan 20-27

    Ladies of the industry! Are you feeling physically and emotionally overworked and tired? Romulus can be at the rescue and spoil you with a nonreciprocal massage with strong hands and lavish oil! All of this at the comfort of your incall location… gift yourself! $120/h

    Is your friend’s bachelorette event, birthday party or divorce celebration coming up? Don’t hesitate to book her a surprise strip-o-gram cowboy, policeman, fireman or spartan! Give the gift of seduction and tease to your best friend… or to yourself!

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  • How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    How To Be A Successful Mature Escort

    I believe our individual sexuality is a gift, something to be cherished and embraced.  I see sex work as an opportunity for those who want to fully and freely enjoy their sexuality and preferences without the strings of a conventional relationship.

    Whether they are denied that gift through circumstance, repression, opportunity or personal lack of self confidence in the dating world.  The recently divorced male for whom another relationship would be too soon. A widowed gentleman, still in his sexual prime. An executive too busy for the hassle of dating. A handicapped guy who might never find an intimate partner.  The cross dresser who is not allowed to express that side of himself at home. There’s always been a need in society for our services and I see myself as a facilitator to allow my client friend’s intimate desires, fantasies and fetishes to be realized.

    How I Got Into Escorting

    Frankly, an inadequate income in high end commissioned sales. I’d been in the “lifestyle” and a nudist for several years, married and than as a single woman. Highly sexual and comfortable in my sexuality.  By chance, I saw an ad in the Tampa newspaper looking for classy women for upscale lingerie modeling.

    I was offered the “night shift.”  From 6-10ish each evening after my day job. All the daytime spots were filled.  I called and asked, “Would you be interested in a mature woman for the position?”  The reply was absolutely and I wore a beautiful silk suit to the interview. Underneath a low black top, black stockings and gorgeous black stiletto heels.

    The manager of the shop was a stunning young woman.  We discussed my background and she said, “I like your look.  When can you begin?”

    The next Monday was my debut night.  No training in how to work, no idea or opportunity to screen the gent if he came through the outer door.  A dangerous part of the city. On my own, I decided to offer something more upscale. I carted in crystal glasses, Perrier, my own music, candles and an elegant wardrobe.

    My first client that evening resulted in a profit of $100.  When money is tight, that is a big deal. But even more importantly, I absolutely loved what I was doing. I felt I’d found my calling.

    To shorten this, I stayed three weeks, the management thrilled that I was making money for them during the slowest hours.  Jealousy amongst the daytime girls set in and it was time for me to go. Lies were spread. Thankfully, I had met the sales manager of the local adult magazine and he directed me to the world of internet escorting. I did my research and three weeks later, my first ad appeared on Eros. A month later, I resigned from my sales position and the rest of this joyous adventure began.

    What It’s Like Being A Mature Escort

    It’s enjoyable and it’s becoming more and more common.  Some of the top escorts in the world are older women. I get a kick out of being the age I am and being attractive to men of all ages and backgrounds.  I’ve visited all over the US, the UK and Ireland. It’s allowed me opportunities I’d never have experienced in my previous life. And….it keeps ME young.

    Advantages Of Being A Mature Escort

    It’s my observation that we attract a different type of client.  One who appreciates a keen intellect, the social ease one achieves from living life, the sexual experience and comfort with herself, rather than only a perfect body and face. I feel we attract the more thoughtful type of gentleman, no matter his age.

    What Does It Take To Be Successful In This Competitive Industry?

    There’s no doubt it’s highly competitive but I feel the key to success is to be authentically unique and to build your brand upon that uniqueness.  Obviously, you must take good care of yourself and your appearance but be happy about who you are.

    And like any other successful business, offer consistent exemplary service. If you treat your customer like a king, you’ll always be a queen. It costs nothing to be kind. In the end, everyone wants to be treated with respect and kindness.

    Advice For Clients Before Engaging A Mature Escort

    That she most certainly knows her own mind so treat her with respect and read her website before you contact her. Being a gentlemen is the key to a wonderful experience.

    Anneke Van Buren -A little bit older, a whole lot wiser. Ageless beauty, exceptional skills, a warm heart and a lusty soul. One of whom you will say, “How did she know?” Your mature lover, fetish goddess, sensual domina and confidant with no strings.

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  • My Experiences As A Sex Worker

    My Experiences As A Sex Worker

    I’ve been a sex worker for three years now (the first year I’ve worked as an erotic masseuse only). I think it’s a great job that gives a lot of nice opportunities and has many advantages. I love meeting new people and visiting new places. It’s a very exciting and satisfying job for me. Actually it’s the best job I have ever had.

    Working as an escort can be empowering too in many ways and for many women, it can be a way to change their lives for better. However – just like in any other work – you should like what you do. Otherwise it will not be a good job for you.

    What I’ve Learnt After 3 Years In The Industry

    In October, it’s been three years since I started working as a masseuse and escort. During this time I’ve learned a lot about the industry and people in it. For example, I’ve learned that the industry is more diverse than I could imagine. Before I started working, I thought that you have to be a classic beauty to work and to have clients. Now I see that girls of every type, every age, every size will find their group of admirers. Every girl is different, every girl has something else to offer and that is great.

    Another thing that I’ve learned is that the SW community is really amazing. I discovered this after joining Twitter actually. I found out that there are many inspiring providers and clients that share their experiences, talk openly about SW subjects, that support each other and are super super kind to each other. That really surprised me. Being in touch with other sex workers is important. It’s good to have colleagues who have similar job and experiences as you.

    And the last thing I’d like to mention – surprisingly, sex work is not all about sex. Clients don’t always meet an escort just to have sex. Many clients (at least from my experience) meet girls mainly to spend the nice time together – go for holidays or have a weekend getaway, talk, go out, be close, hug and kiss a lot and sex is just a nice addition. I was surprised how many men want to meet me just to talk and to have someone that listens to them, that pays attention, that cares about them. Sex is not the only need that you can fulfill while meeting an escort.

    Things I Wished I Knew Before Going Into Sex Work

    When I started working, I didn’t know a lot about the SW. I wish I had someone to tell me to be more brave and assertive. And maybe someone who would warn me about all the mean things some clients might do, especially when you’re new to the industry (trying to lower prices, trying to make you lose your confidence and doubt about yourself, insisting on having some services done, although you don’t want to do them etc.)

    That would have been easier for me just to ignore those clients, if I knew that their behaviours are standard for this type of “clients” and that they have nothing to do with me personally. Anyway, bad clients are a tiny minority. Most of the men are wise, caring, supporting gentlemen who want you to get better, earn better and be happier.

    What Should The Industry Improve On?

    Sadly, there are still some people in the industry who don’t understand that we are stronger if we stand together. I’ve seen some sex workers who judge other girls for no big reason. I’ve seen some sex workers who are jealous and think they have to fight with each other to get clients and get money.

    It’s sad that in a SW community that has many natural difficulties just because of the work that we do, there are still some people who make it harder for the others. I wish things like these can change and I hope people like these can change.

    Biggest Misconceptions About Sex Work Today

    Although the sex work existed since always, there are still many misconceptions about it. I think it’s mainly because there’s still a sex taboo in us. People are shy or afraid to talk about sex. They still have problems with their own sexuality. They still perceive having sex or masturbation as something they should be embarrassed about.

    If people are afraid to talk about sex, they are just terrified to talk about the paid sex. And when they don’t talk about it, they have no opportunity to exchange information and evaluate their knowledge. That way, the stereotypes spread much faster than actual knowledge about sex work. That way we still have those huge misconceptions that everyone thinks or hears from time to time. Let me just show you a tip of an iceberg.

    1. Escort girls do the job because they are not smart enough or qualified enough to do any other work.
      WRONG Many escorts do the job because they chose to do it. They’ve had some previous jobs (often government jobs or jobs where you need high qualifications and good education or often they had their own businesses) but after a while they decided that sex work is better for them and that is the work that they want to do for now or for life. Of course, there are women who have difficult life situations and offering sex for money is something that helps them live, something they don’t necessarily like, but they choose to do it, because they have no better alternative. But that is definitely not the case for all of us.
    2. Sex work = easy job, easy money.
      Many people think that sex work is an easy work, that you don’t have to know anything, you don’t need any skills and that you basically do nothing and earn a lot of money. That is of course not true. Sex work is not an easy work. Working with people requires a lot of dedication, understanding and empathy. Sex work is a physical work, for which you should have good physical abilities. And it’s an intellectual work too – you must know how to advertise, how to run your business, how to organize your schedule and bookings, you must know how much costs you can afford and how much you’ll be able to earn. You must organize your tours, your photo shoots. You must take care of your website, social media, emails everyday. And after doing all this, you just clear your mind and go for a date and give the client the best experience he can imagine. Working as an escort requires knowledge in many fields. Especially when you do something that needs some special skills, for example massages, BDSM services or when you are focused on working with disabled clients. If you’re an escort, you must be strong mentally, you must be smart, you must be hardworking and you have to be well organized just like every other freelancer. Being an escort is not only laying on soft pillows all day and waiting for a client to come as some people seem to think.
      Of course I’m not trying to say here that the work is super hard or not rewarding. If you like what you do – it’s nice, satisfying and easier. But just not as easy as people think.
    3. Being a sex work is something bad.
      This is the most common misconception that makes sex workers stigmatised. I know that everyone has their own morality, but I think some things are just bad or good in nature, no matter how you look at it. Let me put it this simple way:
      Cooking at home is good. Cooking for money is good too.
      Killing people is bad. Killing people for money is bad too.
      Having sex is good. And doing it for money doesn’t make it any worse. It’s just logical. If you have sex because you want to, with an adult person who also wants this, there is nothing wrong about it. Regardless if you do it for free or for money. You may not like the idea of being a sex worker – in that case just don’t be one and don’t hire one. I wish people were more open-minded about sex and sex work. It’s XXI century – it’s really a bit late to still stigmatise sex workers and criminalize sex work (in some countries)… Criminalizing sex work doesn’t make anything better. But maybe that is a topic for whole another article.

    Advice For Those Looking To Get Started Into Sex Work

    If you think about starting work as an escort, there are many things you should know. It’s hard to list them all here. There are many technical, business and personal tips every experienced sex worker could give.

    But from general things, I think you should know that sex work can be a great work. You should only remember to surround yourself with the right people (friends and clients), do only things that are comfortable for you. You should value yourself and not care about mean individuals that you might meet. And always, always, always put your safety first. Don’t lose your head for money. Be safe, have fun, make money, save some for later and enjoy the advantages of an escort life.

    Nicole Kaminski – I’m an independent, international escort based in Warsaw, Poland. My speciality are professional sensual massages and Girlfriend Experience dates. I’m an easygoing and friendly person, that you would enjoy spending time with. I love escorting and blogging.

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  • What To Expect From Long Dates With Hazel Hayes

    What To Expect From Long Dates With Hazel Hayes

    I, as most people viewed this world as a negative, being that I went to college for Criminal Justice/Psychology. It took me getting into the world of escorting to change my views on the industry. How I got into this business was not outta of jaded way, but I’ll save the whole story for once we meet.

    I started going to dinner with men visiting Las Vegas and spending one night stands with them. Yes they paid me, but I was serial dating in my head. But once I fully embraced escorting as job, my life changed for better. I then built my website, along with a great reputation with reviews and regulars. Escorting can become a great avenue for women to be financially independent.

    It is not all roses and champagne so please do your research. I made many mistakes in the beginning but I learned my lessons the hard way through trial and error. If you ever think about becoming an escort, do your research first, this lifestyle is not for the faint of heart.

    Range Of Dating Options Available

    When someone books an escort, they have several options from the length and time they want to spend with her. Usually the shortest time is an hour and the longest, well that could range from a week, a month or a year. So the much longer dates sometimes referred to are Sugar Baby arrangements but they are still the same thing, just different ways to approach sex work. An hour is very short and to the point.

    The most common length of a date with an escort would be the dinner date. Which can range from 3-4 hrs and usually, half the time is spent socializing in public at dinner or a show. The escort will tell her preferences for a date, and she will list it on her website.

    Why Extended Dates Are Better For Men

    Now, my favorite dates are the extended dates or overnight dates. I have been on dates from 12hrs to two weeks long. The reason I love the extended dates is because I can really commit to the girlfriend experience and really bond with someone. You have to understand why men would choose an escort over just going out and getting a real world girlfriend. Because they can’t or choose not too.

    I have seen men who socially could not hold a conversation with women hire me and after several years of dating me, build the confidence to get a real girlfriend. I have clients who were so burnt by women, through divorce, child custody issues, cheating and down right hurting and abusing them, that they are done with dating. Men who are done dating still need to feel connected to someone. This “Me Too” movement has driven more men to escorts, more than ever before. Instead of hitting on your assistant, hire an escort to play that role in your life.

    Now you understand the why, now to understand the what, extended dates truly are – connection. When someone books an extended date, they are looking for a connection to another human soul. They want to feel appreciated, admired, loved, and cared for by someone. We hold hands, hug and kiss. We get know each other. I share my soul with them in hopes they can feel comfortable to do the same with me.

    So when you book an extended date, try to find out what she likes – food, places to travel too etc

    Second you will have to verify your real identity for an extended date with an escort. A lady will only book with you if she feels comfortable spending an extended date with you. For example, traveling to places for long periods of time with anyone, you need to feel safe and comfortable. Some girls say they need a separate room when you travel together, check their websites or email them for requirements. I usually prefer to stay with the client to help build stronger bonds that come from when you sleep next to someone.

    Finally, once you’re on your date, whether it’s on Cruise Ship, Hawaii or just in a hotel in your city, remember to enjoy yourself. She should arrive with an overnight bag or suitcase. If you want her to bring anything, make sure you request this beforehand. Also, if you want her to have something but she doesn’t have it, buy it for her. This date should be about exploring new desires, new places, new people etc…But remember, we all know why we are here in the first place. The intimacy.

    It will NOT be 24/7 bedroom romps, this is not what these dates are for! I m not saying you won’t have a blast, but it will not be in bed for two weeks straight if that’s what your thinking. Again, it’s building a connection for another human being and friendship that will reward both parties in end. Just relax and enjoy the ride, because when you book the right person for you, the outside world just got a little sweeter.

    How To Impress Me

    To impress me, just read my website and understand my rules, my likes and dislikes. Maybe send me a little gift before our date or when we meet. I expect everyone to be gentlemen or ladies when I see you. (I see single ladies too). I just want to be treated as you would want to be treated and kindness goes a long way.

    Hazel Hayes Vip – Your Personal Private Assistant helping people get more outta their lives.

    Challenging people out of their comfort levels, helping them in fun way to experience new things. Free to take off to some distant destinations at your whim…and living life like, everyone I meet will be great benefit to my life, as I WILL be to them. Looking forward to our future rendezvous.

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    Twitter: @hazelvip
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  • Advantages of Seeing A Cougar

    Advantages of Seeing A Cougar

    I think sex is necessary in every intimate relationship and plays a huge part. Everyone wants to feel desired and wanted by their partner or another individual. Sex is that way of showing the person how much you desire and want them. Even if it’s only for that moment in time or longer.

    For some of us, sex is constantly a driver for things we do in our day to day life. It’s something almost everyone thinks about and hopefully wants! I personally have not found a balance yet in dating and being a companion at the same time. I am a man stuck in a woman’s body in that I think about sex every hour of every day.

    Does Age Matter To You?

    Age does matter to me. I personally have had some of the best sex of my life with much younger men as they want to fulfill that hot mom next door fantasy. There is usually role playing involved and that can lead to some incredible and very explosive dates.

    Benefits Of Seeing A Cougar

    Women are like fine wine and become better in all ways with age if they take care of themselves. Males sexually peak much sooner than females. By the time a female is in her 40’s, she is more confident than she was in her 20’s. She knows her body much better and has discovered her likes and dislikes and what needs to be done to achieve an orgasm. She is usually much more vocal and gives direction about what she wants and how to pleasure her.

    What To Know Before Seeing A Cougar

    I wouldn’t say there are any rules. I would say the male should be prepared for a Cougar to be more confident in her skin and know how to pleasure you as well as herself. She is skilled in a wide variety of techniques and wants her own pleasure just as much as she wants to give pleasure to you.

    Tips To Have A Successful Cougar Experience

    Do your research on the woman you desire to spend time with and don’t be afraid to ask for any special requests. We are not mind readers and the more open you are, the more you will get out of the experience.

    Riley Blonde – I am the epitome of sensual sophistication while being down to earth, playful and fun! I find it truly thrilling and can guarantee that our rendezvous will be as pleasurable for me as it is for you.I consider myself an ideal choice for those who seek and appreciate the finer things in life.

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  • How To Select An Escort For The First Time

    How To Select An Escort For The First Time

    I tend to meet a lot of first-timers. That is, gentlemen who have never been with a companion before. I’m always incredibly honoured not only because they chose me for their first date, but that I have the opportunity to introduce them to this wild, wonderful, and complex world.

    Nerves is almost always an issue, but it’s not always exclusive to first timer gentlemen. It’s relatively often that when I’m meeting my date for the first time, it’s apparent that he has spent a lot of time anticipating, imagining, and sometimes stressing about our encounter.

    Is It Normal For First Timers To Feel Nervous?

    Absolutely, first date jitters is completely normal. Given the nature of our encounter, I understand the source. Not only are you meeting someone that you’ve likely admired from afar for months (which is nerve-racking in itself), the stakes are high!

    There’s a significant investment on the client’s part, which I try not to take for granted. He’s investing his capital, of course, but also a chunk of his time that’s irreplaceable. In addition to both of these things – there’s also the anxiety provoking stereotypes about escorts that first timer’s sometimes have in the back of their mind. Is she enjoying herself? Is she here because she wants to be?

    I encourage my clients to remember that these thoughts are normal and valid. You’re about to enter completely new territory, and your body is reacting, physiologically speaking, in a normal and expected way. It’d be amiss if I didn’t mention that If something feels off, acknowledge that. If there are red flags, take note of them. We should both be doing this in the days leading up to our encounter.

    That being said, don’t underestimate the importance of research, and ultimately, trusting your provider. You’re in good hands.

    Importance Of Choosing A Good Escort For Your First Time

    Researching your provider, and the industry that you’re about to dabble in is important, and comes in various formats.

    Firstly, you can peruse various advertising platforms. It’s not just about photos. I always advise reading numerous provider’s copy – their website, and bios. What resonates with you? Who leaves you curious, and wanting more?

    Does this provider have social media? Do they promote themselves in a way that’s attractive to you? Do you have similar interests – is your intrigue mounting? Furthermore, do you sense a level of professionalism? Does she appear to have a verifiable reputation?

    I think it’s necessary to remember that while physical attractiveness is of course important (and subjective), try not to neglect emotional attractiveness. A name and a photo won’t give you clues about the kind of person you’re meeting, and the experience you’ll have.

    My best clients are the ones that paid attention, and did their homework. They read my website in its entirety, took note of my likes and dislikes, followed me on social media, and eventually got to the point where their gut instinct was: “we’re going to get along.”

    How A Good Escort Can Calm A Clients’ Nerves

    I think a good escort is somebody who has a high level of EQ, and a high sensitivity for empathy. Most of us in this business got into it in the first place because we adore fostering connections. She’s here because she understands people, and all the idiosyncrasies that come along with them, nerves included.

    Chances are, we already know you’re nervous.

    The beauty of this business is that all of us, while similar in some ways, operate in a completely different fashion. My approach when meeting a nerve ridden client is to somewhat ignore the problem. I personally find that hyper focusing and dwelling on nervousness isn’t the most effective.

    Also – I treat my dates like any other first date. We’re here to get to know each other, and we’re both a little nervous. I try to be authentic, transparent, and give genuine compliments if they’re due. I’ll ask thoughtful questions and give you my honest opinions.

    As the night progresses, your shoulders might lower, your jaw might unclench, and we might find ourselves laughing and flirting. Usually before the evening’s over, we’ve found a way to connect in a real and sincere way, and all of a sudden, the nerves that we both felt at the beginning are no longer an issue.

    Last Tips For First Timer Clients

    My biggest tip: trust her.

    Nerves are normal, and totally ok. However, that chemistry you’re feeling? It’s very real and palpable.

    Try your best not to let anxiousness, self-doubt, and internal worries override the experience you’re having… because it just might turn into something wonderful.

    Madison Winter – Madison Winter, Canada’s self-proclaimed ‘girl next door’ is a high-end companion who lives and works out of Toronto, ON.

    She’s left a career in finance to become a provider, and now specializes in long engagements and relationship-based dates. In her spare time, she’s usually collecting passport stamps, or at home with her two dogs jamming out to 80’s rock.

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  • AUDIOBOOK: An Escort’s Diary Pt.2

    AUDIOBOOK: An Escort’s Diary Pt.2

    An explicit x rated tale of Bondage, Dominance and  Sadomasochism, otherwise known as ‘BDSM’. Part 2 of my fucking fabulous Escort’s Diary takes you on a dark twisted tale into the mind of a sexual deviant and a curious but defiant client as we venture deep into the wet and wonderful world of kink.

    https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-vu3be-b9a00e

    Madison James is a degree educated 38 year old international male escort from London with a keen interest in BDSM, Tantra and massage. He has an aptitude for intellectual conversation, an inquisitive mind and a genuine desire to help women embrace their sexuality one orgasm at a time!

    This article was originally published at https://www.themadisonjames.com/single-post/2019/07/30/an-escorts-diary-pt2-a-fucking-fabulous-tale

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