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  • The Importance of Attraction In Dating

    The Importance of Attraction In Dating

    To me dating and a full blown relationship is a bit separate. Dating is the idea that you want to get a feel for someone before you fully commit and it is so important to really pay attention here. To build a proper relationship (in my opinion at least) I need to find someone who has similar life goals. I’m definitely not looking for someone who I think will be temporary, some things I think are very important is taste in food, what kind of movies they like to watch, what they want to do with their life. For example, I want to have a farm and run my own homestead, so someone who liked living in the city wouldn’t be a match for me. I’m a hard worker and a minimalist so a lot of clunky possessions or a messy person doesn’t work well for me either.

    Another big part is political standings, while it isn’t the utmost important part, I would like to have the same values as the person I am with so I used dating to filter through people who I think would actually be happy with me or that I would be happy with. Life is complicated and hard, so the last thing humans need to do is be with someone who doesn’t want the same things right? Being in a relationship with someone who is basically my best friend is the most important thing.

    How Men & Women View Dates Differently

    Through my experience, a lot of men are definitely looking to sleep with me whether or not they are really into my personality. But honestly, a lot of the times we would just talk about deep, scientific or natural things from physics to traumatic things that had happened in our lives. A lot of dudes really don’t have many people to open up to and women have that sensitive side where they can help them open up and feel better about themselves, not be ashamed to admit they’re going through a hard time.

    Women I have known haven’t really wanted to settle and definitely like to have fun in their 20’s, I personally tried this for a bit but found it wasn’t for me so I am in a long term relationship with someone I can call my best friend. I am very lucky. I don’t know women as well as men. Men have always been my best friends and people I can relate with the most, but I think deep down people just want to connect and be open with someone. We are always more open and honest when we are naked, nothing to hide, everything to share. It’s a magical feeling really.

    Expectations On A Date

    Be polite! Not even just to me but to everyone, the server, the people you accidentally bump into when we’re walking around, to nature etc… NO LITTERING OH GOSH! I was on a date once and the guy littered right in front of me. I told him to pick it up and needless to say we did not see each other again.

    No texting either, it makes me feel like I am either boring or you are telling your friends what’s happening as it’s happening… Just wait till it’s done then you can tell your friends whatever. I always hope that when I am on a date with someone, that we can talk about more than small talk. I like to be able to talk about pretty expansive things, I’m obsessed with science, animals, plants, video games, movies, welding, computers, food and much much more, I can typically talk about anything but I love hearing what he is into. It’s always refreshing to find out something new from someone. Everyone can teach you something so it’s really cool to sit and listen to the things he is interested in. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you love. Passion ignites so much in people and a smile is contagious, be proud and happy for what you love and it will help you a million times over.

    Does Physical Attraction Matter?

    Physical attractiveness isn’t the most important, I actually like chubby, hairy bearded men which is often seen as unattractive. I guess to me, that is a handsome man though! But realistically it’s what’s in their head that matters to me. I really love assertiveness, confidence, intelligence and a sense of humor. Probably some of the most common traits people say they are attracted to but it’s true. A confident person is an attractive person, they’re sure of themselves. I would hate to be with someone I felt I had to babysit and hold their hand through life. If they can’t take charge of their life, it is pretty unattractive to me. I am an adult and I want to be with an adult, not someone who’s barely moved out of their parents home and doesn’t know how to do anything for himself.

    What Turns Me Off On Dates

    Oh gosh well as I previously said, littering! It’s weird that I have to say this I feel but so many people I have known litter and it’s instant dry up when that happens.

    Being too pushy, trying to force things where I’m not feeling it, being overconfident and lying etc… Confidence is nice yes but only when it comes naturally to you. If you’re lying and trying to one up yourself, then it will just come off as embarrassing so just keep cool. I am also very up front and clear about the kinds of things I like to do, I don’t like heavily crowded places so trying to convince me to go to a club wouldn’t go over so well.

    I would of course politely reject it but some people are super persistent and it’s just not for me. I’m not the party animal I once was haha. I am a home body. Movies, food, walk in the woods. Those are ideal adventures for me!

    Signs A Date Is Going Well

    Laughing, smiling a lot, listening. If I seem genuinely interested and invested you know that it’s going well. I very rarely had issues with this though but maybe it’s because I was picky with the guys I even chose to go out on a date with. Mostly University students etc…

    Honestly though, the biggest key to knowing your date is enjoying themselves is to just feel their energy, look at their body language. Are they relaxed and leaning towards you? Are they posing a bit to try and appear like they’re sexy? Tugging their low cut shirt down a bit to expose themselves a bit more? All sorts of signs will let you know your date is into you. But again the biggest hint is the smile and laughter, you want to have a good time right? You’ll feel it when it’s there.

    Arwen Datnoid – I’m a geek, I’m a lover of knowledge and nature, I’m ambitious and work twice as hard. I’m always working on improving things in My life whether it is the quality of the videos I am producing or the quality of the next dish I cook. Huge fan of sci fi and fantasy and escapism in general. All around not a bad person!

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  • Ways To Enjoy A First Date

    Ways To Enjoy A First Date

    A good date experience is when we both leave the date feeling uplifted and excited. It always helps set a good tone for the date when I can tell that the other person has put some time/thought into the outing. If it’s not a blind date and you have a bit of an idea about your partners interests (from social media or mutual friends), you can really impress them by playing into that! It doesn’t have to meet any certain stipulations or criteria per say, as long as we both leave with smiles on our faces wanting to reconnect again.

    First Date Faves

    Going out for a meal is always a traditional nice way to get to know someone through conversation. But a good meal paired with a shared experience like going to an event, a class, or a museum, concert, hike, anything really — gives you something to talk about over dinner and an introductory way to explore likes, dislikes and each other’s interests.

    One of my favorite dates in San Francisco started as a walk through Golden Gate Park to a free event, Opera in the Park. We sat around on a picnic blanket and enjoyed the music for a bit (I think this gave us both time to get comfortable around each other and let the first date jitters subside), then walked over into a nice neighborhood nearby for a drink, then eventually to dinner and dessert.

    It ended up being a long date that was only expected to be the meet and greet and walk around the park but ended up being an all day affair because we were enjoying each others’ company.

    Preparing For The First Date

    Well I personally have a pre-date ritual to prepare for a date that involves a long shower and bath with a glass of wine, followed by body oil, face mask, and general grooming and primping. I follow this up with a meditation session so I feel relaxed and centered before meeting. On the date itself, I try to be myself for the most part, perhaps a little reserved in some areas until I get a good feel for the other person and our compatibility, but generally try to be as normal and like me as possible. How else will you know you’re a good fit if you aren’t being yourself?

    Expectations Of My Date

    I am generally not a high maintenance girl so all I expect from a date is courtesy, kindness, and respect. Also, I do think it’s appropriate for the man to at least ASK to pay the bill at the end of the night.

    Tips To Remove The Nerves

    Don’t be nervous! But of course that is easier said than done so I would say just take a few deep breaths, don’t be afraid to be yourself or talk about things that truly interest you (you’re probably more interesting than you let yourself believe) and in the event nerves are taking over anyway – don’t drink too much! I’ve seen this happen more than once and trust me, you’d rather be a bit nervous in the beginning and let that round out as the date goes on, than add fuel to the fire and end up being a hot mess!

    Jeniveve Delacroix – I am a 28 year old sensual blonde sweetheart living in San Francisco. I just graduated with my undergrad degree in the social sciences (I love to study all things people) and am enjoying my time off before I head back to grad school. In my free time I love to do yoga, hike, pet all the animals and travel and love to share these interests with like minded people.

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    Regularly available in the SF Bay Area with a tour to Denver in July, and NYC in September. TBD dates.

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  • 5 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

    5 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for Seniors

    There are so many clichéd sayings aimed at seniors. Some are positive: ‘I bet you feel young at heart’, or ‘your age is just a number.’  But far more are dismissive. Older people are considered ‘over the hill.’ Seniors in film and television are particularly prone to the fallout of a culture focused on youth.

    But this is all rather ridiculous because one of life’s certainties is we all grow old. Another fact is seniors are looking after their health these days, living longer. They are also dating, in many cases enjoying love lives younger people would be jealous of! So here are five aspects of senior dating you might not have been aware of.

    Personality is way more important than looks

    If there’s one aspect of adult dating that illustrates the different perceptions between old and young it’s physical appearance. Youngsters will tend to rate someone’s appearance as being a priority. But do drop-dead gorgeous looks really out-rank a dull personality; or even worse, a self-obsessed one? Having more experience in life, seniors have cottoned on to the fact that beauty is only skin deep. Compatibility and shared interests and passions are what count.

    The ultimate goal isn’t a trip down the aisle

    A lot of younger people use dating apps or websites try and hook-up with someone who might become a partner. Before even embarking on this quest they might secretly be hoping to get introduced to ‘the one’; the person who will eventually accompany them down the aisle. Seniors may well be keen on getting hitched again, but if they are divorcees, or widows/widowers, with extended families, they’ll be quite happy keeping thing casual. Senior dating is far more focused on companionship than longer-term aspirations – although romance is still all-important.

    Nights out are to be savored

    Seniors might have spent their earlier days doing the same things the current younger generation love doing – partying, drinking in bars, socializing in lively nightspots. Age brings a sense of discernment. Okay, let’s call that fussiness, and why not! Some get to an age where they’d rather appreciate the finer things, like dining in sumptuous restaurants (especially if their retirement lump sum ensures they can do this as often as they want.) With so much emphasis on eating well these days, not to mention wall-to-wall TV cookery shows, senior dating often involves sharing a romantic home-cooked meal.

    It’s not necessarily monogamous

    Monogamy plays in important part in dating when you are younger and seeking a companion you can fall for, with trust a major issue when it comes to online matchmaking. This is less so for seniors. This doesn’t mean older people like playing the field, as if maturity is somehow making their hormones run wild! It’s merely an indication that older people are looking for different things in a relationship (or relationships.) Perhaps they have one companion they take out for a drink on a certain day. Another who shares their passion for ballroom dancing, and so on. When it comes to a physical relationship they will still tend to prefer monogamy. But senior dating is very much about individual needs rather than what society expects.

    The offline world is best

    For all that a lot of older people are far savvier with IT these days, there is still an element of wanting to leave noisy, 24/7 social media to the youth. Seniors may well flirt online with as much verve as someone younger, but they’ll be more likely to prefer old-fashioned face-to-face encounters. Senior dates aren’t conducted via a computer screen, they involve meeting in the real world.

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  • How To Date A Porn Star

    How To Date A Porn Star

    Hello, my name is Sailor Luna! You may be asking yourself what qualifies me to write about such a thing? Let me tell you a little about myself before we get to the article. I started dabbling in sex work as soon as I turned eighteen. I sat down at my laptop and began to research the interesting world of web camming. I joined Cams.com under the pseudonym Bunny Robinson and made about $100 before I slowly stopped logging on. Unimpressive, I know, however I learned a lot over that short course of time.

    Then, I wanted to try professional domination. I was inspired by a documentary on Netflix called “Fetish” about a place called Pandora’s Box in New York City. The documentary depicted a variation of lifestyles based around a professional dungeon… I was inspired. I put out a few ads and found a submissive on Craigslist. Fast forward about a month, we met up at a local drive motel for our first session, the motel assumed I was a prostitute and forwarded my information to the local police department. Shortly after that I had a knock at my mother’s door from a police officer looking for an underage run away. The officer thought I had bought the motel room for her that fateful day and he wanted to search my house for her. It took a lot of convincing to get him to leave and he still did not believe that she was not in my house. Luckily, that was the end of that and the department must think I am some sort of Mother Mary prostitute buying hotel rooms for runaways. Maybe they thought I was recruiting her into the sex trade. It was too much for me to fathom so I quit.

    My entrance into the adult film industry started with an incest-themed amateur studio based in my hometown in South Dakota. The owner of the studio approached me on Facebook (we were already friends on the website) and asked if I was interested in shooting, sent me links and was very professional. I shot a little over 20 scenes with him when we parted ways and now a year later I am signed with Skyn Talent. I continued performing during that year and some of my favorite shoots have been with Infernal Restraints, Reality Junkies, Score group, ATK, Strokies and Pascals sub sluts.

    Now to get to the knitty gritty.

    Since I started creating porn I have personally had some struggles with dating directly related to being in the adult industry.

    First, I want to address the number of partners I have had that knew I was in porn before entering into the relationship. It is not respectful or okay to ask your partner to quit their desired profession, no matter what you think is right or wrong. Even if your intentions are good and you think you are helping your partner. A good non-sex work example of this would be if I started to date a detective, police officer, or even an EMT. Hypothetically, I realized how dangerous their job is after dating for a while and asked them to quit immediately. I have pure intentions, I love them so much and maybe I just didn’t understand their career completely before we started dating but is that okay for me to ask of them? Of course not. The same goes for sex workers on every level.

    Secondly, if you are pursuing a sex worker, do not put them up on a “pedestal”. I have had this issue even before my adult career started but it applies very well to this article. Sex workers of all kinds are sometimes seen as more desirable then a “civilian” partner because of the fact that we share our bodies. Just as people see it as disgusting and crude, others see us as confident and sexy. It is always appropriate to treat your partners with gifts, love, care and respect but there is a point where things can be taken too far. I would suggest courting your new love interest with an appropriate amount of affection for each situation. It is easy to make anyone uncomfortable if you are overzealous with compliments, gifts and attention. There is a lot of truth in the old saying of “playing it cool”!

    Third, I want to mention how frustrating it is to be dating someone and then they start talking about how they want to start doing porn too. I admire everyone in my own field and I try to support new actors but when it’s coming from your own boyfriend/girlfriend it can give off the wrong impression. It can make a sex worker question your intentions when you immediately want to enter into their same line of business.  I also am a musician and another great non-sex work example would be like starting a band with your partner. It just doesn’t work. I think that having similar interests are important but spending too much time together can be detrimental to the relationship. I suggest that anyone looking to enter into the adult industry to do so by applying at reputable adult agencies with professional photos and not to pursue any serious relationships until you know how long you will be in the industry.

    Now that we have covered some of my main concerns, SimpleSxy has sent me a list of questions on behalf of their readers that they would like me to answer!

    Common misconceptions about sex workers and dating

    I think one of the biggest misconceptions non-sex workers have towards their sex worker counterparts is that they fall in love with the idea of a performer and not the actual person behind the performer. It’s easy to idolize someone when you see them performing online frequently so I just urge people to be realistic when you try to pursue a performer and remember that they are normal people like yourself with ticks and flaws.

    When or is there a right time to tell the person you are dating that you’re a sex worker?

    I can’t give a straight black and white answer to this because I have spoken with so many sex workers that decide to wait before being honest about their profession. Personally, I would be upfront because if I want a functional relationship then my partner needs to know and if it is an issue then it’s better to get it out of the way and move on. I have had a number of sex workers tell me that they wait until the relationship develops because they want to be given a chance. I don’t think there is anything wrong or deceptive about that because sex workers are so stigmatized.

    Do you get clients asking or trying to date you and is that a relationship you’ll consider?

    I haven’t had any fans approach me looking to start a relationship but I am positive that happens frequently. It’s not a relationship that I would consider and I don’t think most performers really leave room for that sort of opportunity. There needs to be an established boundary between “fan” and performer, between client and performer and I think most sex workers are firm on that boundary.

    Is it easier to date someone who is in the sex industry?

    I think it’s much easier to date a sex worker because most of us are Polyamorous and/or Bisexual. Most sex workers do not conform to societies standards of a traditional monogamous relationship so having an open relationship may be exactly what some of us need. It is obviously much more challenging to maintain a healthy dynamic but ultimately the freedom to be romantic with more than one partner can be very helpful if you’re not receiving the level of care you need.

    I hope that this was informative and helpful, if your questions were not answered here do not hesitate to ask a question in the comments section!

    Sailor Luna – Hello, I’m Sailor Luna and I am an adult actress, singer, musician and content creator. I grew up in the Midwest where my beautiful pet cat still resides, Glitch. I enjoy art, the outdoors, writing and now recently performing disturbing sexual acts on camera for many to enjoy!

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  • The 10 Critical Things You Want Your Online Dating Photos To Convey To An Older Woman

    The 10 Critical Things You Want Your Online Dating Photos To Convey To An Older Woman

    If your photos are subpar, then it’ll crush your chances of landing a hot date this weekend. It doesn’t matter if you’re on the best cougar dating sites around, bad photos will ensure you don’t get any messages.

    So, it’s time to get your brain in gear and get her mind reeling to meet you with the best online pictures she could ever imagine.

    Your Online Dating Photos Are The First Thing A Woman Sees In Cyber Playland — Make Them Count

    There are several essential elements you want to stand out so you can meet more women. I know you’re on the edge of your seat waiting to hear them.

    You don’t have to look like Hugh Jackman, but apparently, it doesn’t hurt, because he landed a hot cougar.

    So if you don’t look like Hugh, what’s a regular guy to do to get more action in his inbox and the bedroom? Get out the Polaroid and start clicking, but there is more to it than that.

    1) Look Away From The Camera For Your Online Dating Photos

    Having a profile page that attracts a lot of attention is critical. By looking straight into the camera with dead eyes, you’ll never get any positive experiences online. Perhaps you remind women of the creepy wallflower at the 8th-grade dance. He wouldn’t stop staring, and apparently, neither will you.

    Women like a little mystery and the occasional shot of you looking elsewhere adds some complexity to you. Don’t have every shot like this but a few make it look like you’re doing something interesting.

    2) Take Your Shirt Off In Your Online Dating Photos

    The myth of leaving your shirt on is for the older, less-ripped crowd.

    Let your torso show — if and only if you have a hot ripped body. If you’ve got a dad bod and are shirtless, being Leonardo DiCaprio is the only exception to us seeing your chest hair and belly button.

    According to OKCupid, the guys with super hot bodies, of course, get plenty of messages. So, if you’re going to the gym on the reg, take your top off. You won’t get any Mardi-Gras beads in return, but you might just land a date. And the older you get, the shirtless pics response decrease with age. So if you’re a ripped young guy, in some of the best places to meet older women, don’t believe the hype. Don’t be afraid to show some skin.

    3) Ladies Love A Sharp-Dressed Man

    If you have an average body, leave your shirt on, but don’t try too hard and put on your navy blue suit from Sears you wore to your High School Graduation. Let the moths in your mother’s closet eat holes in that bad boy.

    I love a sharp dressed man, but the stats show more than a collared shirt is a bit much.

    But I disagree with the stats because I for one — being an older woman myself — LOVE a man sharp dressed man. That is, as long as he is wearing high-quality material and you know how to dress well.

    An older woman can spot a cheap suit from across a stadium or through her computer with her x-ray eyes. So unless you’re dropping some bills on an Armani, stick to your regular clothes.

    If you have a pic with a button up shirt, there is no need to bust out the bow tie and suspenders, unless that’s how you usually dress.

    4) In Your Online Dating Photos — Don’t Be A Bore!

    Photos of you doing something interesting will give you the best chance that a message to a gal will start a real conversation.

    Women get fewer messages the older they get, so this is a fantastic advantage for you to meet hot women looking to meet younger men. The odds are in your favor.

    You can ping her online and make her heart race at the thought of another fantastic guy messaging her.

    What are some things that you can do in your photos that seem interesting?

    Do you really think a bathroom selfie will reel in the ladies? Toilet paper and romance do not go hand-in-hand. So get your butt off the throne and get some photos of you doing something cool and fun.

    Upload a shot of yourself:

    1. Playing table tennis
    2. Grab your guitar and have a photo shoot
    3. Running a 5K
    4. You scuba diving
    5. Playing football
    6. Chopping wood
    7. Building something
    8. Fixing a car
    9. Washing dishes — just kidding (sort of)

    5) Release Your Ex In Your Online Dating Photos

    Anytime there’s a cropped image — this is a red flag for any woman. Who’s well-manicured hand is that around your shoulder? Your overbearing mother or your crazy ex-girlfriend?

    These kinds of thoughts arise in the heads of single women all over the world when they’re looking for love or a hookup. Even if it’s your best friend’s sister or your cousin in the picture, don’t crop out a person, especially a woman.

    If you crop out women, other women will assume it’ probably your ex, you’re on a rebound and she should just keep on swiping left.

    If you want more right swipes, have full-sized pictures with no cropping. And definitely not crayoned-over faces, especially if they have long feminine hair.

    6) Wear Black Or Dark Blue Clothing In Your Online Dating Photos

    There was a study from Université de Bretagne-Sudthe  that recorded data from more than 24 women from the ages of 20-30.

    While these women got more response when they wore red online, professional photographers suggest that men wear black or dark blue. I haven’t seen stats on this anywhere, but solid colors look good.

    I’m also giving you some advice from television professionals from all over the world. If you want to dress for success in online dating, experts suggest that natural tones are also good. So, please leave your Hawaiian shirt in the closet until you meet your hot date at a beach party or a tiki bar. Prints are bad. Solids are good.

    Whatever you’re doing in your action photos, make sure you dress appropriately. Who skateboards in hiking boots? Nobody.

    7) Get Your Ass Off The Couch In Your Online Dating Photos

    We know you want to eat pizza and drink beer while you Netflix and chill with a woman. But please don’t post a picture of your lazy-self lying on the couch doing nothing.

    Let’s say you have two photos to choose from today.

    The first: an action shot of you doing a cannonball into the pool. The second is you napping on the couch with your chubby cat sitting on your face.

    If you want her sitting on your face or even near your couch, you better guess the correct answer to this question:

    Which photo is the most interesting? Me on the couch, or me having fun at the pool on a hot summer day.

    You guessed it— She wants to see the action shot fellas, not the lazy shot. Don’t let her imagine you as the simpleton who doesn’t do anything with her except try to kiss her with lousy pizza breath under the flickering overhead light on your worn out couch.

    You are more fun than that! And after you attract her with your sexy and fun profile photos, then you can chill on the couch with her. And she won’t even know the sofa was given to you by your old Aunt Bertha who smelled like moth balls.

    You want to create attraction and intrigue in her mind with your photos, not boredom.

    8) If You Like To Ride Motorcycles, Show It The Right Way In Your Online Dating Photos

    Let’s say you love motocross and you’ve been riding bikes since you were seven years old. If you want to express your love for the race, then have a photo of you riding on the track.

    Don’t pose in front of your bike like you’re a model in a bikini, sitting on a dirt-bike. You’re no woman, so don’t act like one. Look like a man. Ride it — don’t pose in front of it.

    The same thing goes for your fancy Mustang. I know you love your car. You’ve been saving up for it since you were in High School.

    But a woman knows you’re trying too hard to impress her if you are posing in front of your 8-cylinder monster with your leather jacket slung over your shoulder and your left leg positioned over your right leg, just so.

    That is one of the classic poses terrible High School photos are made of . . . in 1980. Don’t keep that trend going to torture women for any longer. Women have seen more than enough bad photos in their lives. Please save their eyes!

    9) Don’t Use Racy Photos In Your Online Dating Photos

    Online dating nudity is a massive turnoff for (most) women and can also get you blocked from your favorite online site for eternity! Men are visual and so are women, but women’s biggest turn-ons are inside of her head. Think about what she wants for a minute.

    Just because you want to see her naked now, doesn’t mean she wants to look at your closeup photos of places where the sun doesn’t shine.

    So intrigue her with your creativity in your photos, not your private member. Women like to create a fantasy in their minds and you don’t need to ruin it with a tasteless photo of you junk before you even have a conversation.

    10) Clean Up After Yourself

    You need to have at least one photo of your body and or face, but no need to have more than 12. And if you take a selfie in your bedroom, please take note of what is behind you.

    A pile of dirty socks won’t help you spark attraction, but your abs in front of your well-made bed might. A women is going to notice if your bed isn’t made, you have used tissues everywhere and you have dirty clothes strewn about the place. Same with the old pizza boxes on the table and the bong on the counter.

    You want to give off the vibe of having your stuff together. Nothing goes against that quite like the background being a disaster area.

    Assuming you know if online dating is right for you, keep your online dating photos classy, adventurous, authentic and fun, and let the women imagine what it’ll be like when they meet you. Give them a reason to want to connect with you— because you know what women want.

    Your effort will increase your chances of meeting the woman you want to chat with, then get down and dirty . . . And I don’t mean on the dirt-bike.

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  • Things You Should Know Before Dating A Transgender Woman

    Things You Should Know Before Dating A Transgender Woman

    Dating has always been difficult for me for several reasons. First I am a Transsexual woman who is involved in the Adult Industry. It’s like a double edged sword as I am either seen as a “fetish” or seen as “Wendy Williams” the Pornstar.

    I tend to believe I am passable enough in public so when I meet men it’s difficult to know what or if they know that I am a transsexual then that leads to the conversation of having to tell them. Too many Trans women are being killed because of their gender so I am not going to lead anyone on and not be upfront immediately. I also use sites like Tinder for dating and I put it in the first paragraph that I am a pre-op Transsexual and if they don’t know then please look it up, LOL. You would be surprised at how many guys don’t bother to read and then get mad when I ask “Have you been with a Transsexual before?”. With Trans women becoming more visible on television and in Hollywood we are becoming more the norm but have light years to actually feel equal to our genetic female counterparts.

    As a Pornstar most (well almost every) guy assumes that the conversation needs to be about sex or my career. It’s difficult for these guys to see past my film career and see me as a woman , let alone a Trans woman. I have been the Industry for 15 years so I’ve heard it all and seen it all. When you add my gender to the equation it makes for a interesting and difficult dating relationship.

    Dating Challenges Faced By Transgenders

    I think most Trans women will say the “fetish” element. To their defense most men have been only subject to Trans woman in the sex industry. Mainstream its always been Jerry Springer or the “hooker” story line on a television show. I guess men don’t understand why we don’t want to talk about our penis or sexuality in the early stages of our relationship. I always ask “Would you ask a genetic female about her pussy in the first week?“.

    I as a Pornstar understand the fetish aspect as I’ve used it to sell DVD’s and website memberships but I would hope that people understand Porn is more fantasy and not reality, therefore don’t bring those expectations into potential relationships whether personal or sexual, especially in the beginning.

    Misconceptions About Transgenders

    Let me say before I answer this that I speak from a Sex Workers perspective so my views are from a different place compared to someone who lives a vanilla lifestyle. Being a bit older, things have changed quite a bit over the past 10 years for Trans women. In the beginning it was all Trans women were hookers, had HIV, couldn’t be professionals, etc. We have seen a major shift with visibility so many of those stereotypes are changing.

    Being a Pornstar I am held to the same testing standards (every 14-30 days) as the genetic female Pornstars. We are NOT classified in the gay side but with the straight Industry because the majority of men who are into Trans women identify as straight. I think that’s the biggest misconception when it comes to men who are into Trans women. These men are attracted to the feminine qualities and how we present ourselves to society and the fixtures are just a bonus.

    Tips To Follow When Dating A Transgender

    You have to understand that terms like “shemale” and “tranny” are derogatory for many trans women. Those terms were introduced by the adult industry as a way to pitch us to a market of people who have never seen, let alone met, a trans person. But in every day usage, we don’t like it. So just relax and don’t make it harder for us – just refer to us in the way you normally refer to women.

    Unless you are meeting on a site that is specific for hooking up or casual sex, then please don’t bring up sex or our bodies, especially our private parts, in the first initial conversations. Many trans women feel like most men objectify us sexually as a fetish or experiment, and it doesn’t help to defeat those stigmas by asking about our penis or if we are a top or bottom. Ease into those conversations once you know us better, or allow us to make the first move. For newcomers, it’s especially important to be careful and not anxious or your first impression won’t be what you intended it to be.

    We hear things like, “It’s my first time” or “I’ve never sucked a cock” or “My ass is tight” or “I’ve always had this fetish“, and you need to understand that this is a really big turn-off in early stages of any relationship. We’re not here for your sexual education; we want this to be pleasurable for both of us.

    We understand that most men are trying to figure it out as they go, hell we are too, but please don’t start the dating process unless you really want to date a Trans woman and not just a hook-up.  Be 100% comfortable when it comes to going out in public or introducing us to your friends and family.  It takes a confident and strong man not to listen to the taboo part of society who thinks we should be dirty little secrets.

    Wendy Williams – I am a Transsexual Pornstar, Producer, Publicist and Activist from Lexington, KY. I am a AVN Hall of Fame Inductee and won Awards from most every major Adult Award ceremony in the Industry. Follow me at:

    Website: www.wendywilliamsxxx.com

    Twitter: twitter.com/tswendywilliams

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  • Dating And Attraction Tips

    Dating And Attraction Tips

    I view sex as a way to release emotions, pent up frustration or excitement. It’s a way to connect with others but it’s also a way for us to connect to ourselves as humans. Sex is an exploration of our feelings and our bodies. I believe we must have sex, we must release to stay healthy. Sex is very healthy.

    As a trained Cranial Sacral Therapist, I have seen the damage that can be done if we don’t let go sexually. We get pent up and it all gets stored in our lower sacrum. People can suffer from back pain that can be tied to not having enough healthy sex.

    Biggest Turn Ons and Turn Offs

    My biggest turn on is when I’m teased with light domination. I enjoy playful sex. I want to giggle, it can’t be too serious, it has to feel free, and I have to feel heard.

    My biggest turn off is when I’m not being asked if I’m enjoying what going on. It’s a real turn off when men assume I’m really enjoying what they’re doing without asking me. Especially if it’s our first time together. I can guarantee you don’t know what I like cause we haven’t even met before. Don’t be shy or ego driven, ask me how I like it.

    Signs If You’re Interested In Him

    A guy can tell if I’m a little distant. I tend to hide and observe someone if I find I like them. I may be shy, a little cocky but very present.

    Sex On The First Date

    I don’t have sex on the first date. If I like you, I’ll want you to like me back so by putting out so early you’ll lose respect for me and therefore not like.

    And if I don’t like you, you’ll know it and there won’t even be a kiss.

    Mistakes Men Make On First Dates

    A big mistake men make is assuming they’re going to get laid. Hahaha this always makes me laugh. You can tell when a guy thinks he’s gonna get some. When I see this in a guy, it’s such a turn off, I’ve been known to play along, really make them think they’re getting it, and then just totally leave lol. I think after assuming I would put out, you deserve it!

    Lady Kay – Classy in all ways. Gorgeous from head to toe. Fun, fancy and free. I’m a fully service GFE provider with a touch of kink. From dinner dates to lactation sessions, I’m well rounded and and easy to be with. My life outside of work is filled with many interesting adventures, education, exercise and my health care practice, so prebookings are important and so is my time. Please be respectful when emailing, keep it on point, provide a reference if you have or handle from one of the many boards. Most questions can be answered by reading my website which why I encourage everyone to enjoy it.

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  • Dating Tips And Sexual Compatibility In Relationships

    Dating Tips And Sexual Compatibility In Relationships

    The qualities that attract me in another person are the qualities that I lack in myself, such as manliness, confidence, a clear direction on his part and physical stature. Little has to do with physical appearance, and more so with my perception of who they are overall. I am also attracted to how they treat me and make me feel. If it’s sincere, I feel comfortable opening up to them.

    What To Look Out For On A Date

    What I like to be made aware of at first when I am on a date are just what kind of person he is overall. What I noticed about a lot of guys was their attention on themselves, or lack of attention on me. While I like when they are talkative and enthusiastic about themselves, if the conversation is not a two way street, or if the person ever assumes that they know what you are talking about without fully wanting to understand, for instance, you will be able to tell if they are truly caring about what you are saying. That is a problem that I ran into which made me quiet for long periods of time on dates. I was so nervous that I couldn’t think of much to say about myself, and didn’t want to bother them by asking stuff outright about them.

    The conversation had to feel natural, and I can remember multiple occasions in which it wasn’t, and I was a deer in headlights that was running on adrenaline it seemed, due to my lack of deep thinking . If something is off and communication is at a standstill, it’s easy to shut down and lose all confidence in the situation. Therefore, I would say that communication is a very important aspect of whether a date is real, or just an act the other is putting on. Other signs are more obvious, such as when you are just not attracted to the other person, or if they are overly nervous and unsure of themselves. That energy effects mine, and I am often not the person I want to be in that situation.

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    Common Issues Faced During Dating

    Communication is very important, like I said before when starting to date someone. If it is fluid and natural, it’s only a matter of time before you are ready to go to the next level. And in my mind, there really are only two levels, meeting them and getting to know them, and then engaging fully into the relationship. Of course, if either person is unsure of what they want, this may take longer to date and figure it out.

    I remember going on 5-6 dates before agreeing to engage in sex. This literally made no difference in the relationship, as we were focusing on the wrong thing. Timing has little to do with the dating process, and more so the people who are engaging. The main issue I faced was the battle between what I wanted, and what I wanted them to think that I want. For instance, after the date, the issue of when to contact them again was always the biggest issue. How do I not seem desperate, yet interested? Most of the time, I just waited for the other to contact me, to release the burden of having to make the call. Everyone wants to be the person that get’s texted first. This resulted in them not feeling wanted, and me not feeling wanted as well! The balance was off, and neither of us was acting based on what we wanted. I just wanted him to like me, and was unsure of what I even wanted.

    Once I met that confident person, they reached out to me the next day, and were not afraid of rejection. This made me feel worthy of giving him my time. Also, the message was an invitation to hang out again and go to the pool, nothing sexual. This was highly unusual for me as well, as hard as that is to believe. Once you find that balance in the other person, there will be little resistance.

    Importance Of Sexual Compatibility

    It goes without saying that sexual compatibility is essential in keeping a relationship going strong for years to come. However, as long as you love the other person and who they are completely, how they perform is indeed not the only important factor, and other characteristics can make up for that. No one is perfect. As long as you are both physically and sexually satisfied, then the sex will be enough as long as you believe in your future with this person.

    The truth about relationships is that you have to be willing to open yourself, as well as make compromises. This is the key to keeping that relationship. The bottom line is that when you feel confident in what you’re doing deep down, you will do anything in your power to fight for the balance. And everything requires maintenance and work for it to continue and be strong. There needs to be two driving forces, both going down the same road together.

    My name is Melody Minx and I am 24 years old. I am a webcam model and have been since I was 18, as well as like to create, play video games and watch TV. I also enjoy exploring nature and experiencing new things! Follow me on MyMelodyMinx.com, on Twitter @MyMelodyMinx or contact me at Mymelodyminx@gmail.com

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  • My Dating And Relationships Experience

    My Dating And Relationships Experience

    In my life, dating has taken on different roles. From the age of 13 to 23, when I met someone I was finally comfortable sharing my life with. I dated a lot, most were 1-5 dates, as well as a few longer term relationships, that were all lacking or unbalanced in whatever way. It took me finding out what I wanted out of life, to realize what I was lacking the whole time, my confidence. Even though I thought I had it, or at least wanted to pretend I did, the truth came through when I wasn’t getting what I wanted out of the relationship. I now feel that every encounter has impacted me, and I am happy to share what I have learned with the world. Even if it is not your truth, it can still help shed some light onto yours.

    The history of my experience with dating started when I was 13 years old, when the wave of attraction and infatuation was growing. At the same time, the internet and instant messaging, forums, and the like were coming about, and was discovered by me as soon as I was given an email account. It’s vague now, but I ended up meeting a fellow online through a music-related forum. Within days of talking, I liked the person whom I ended up calling on the phone, and this relationship lasted as long as I would have wanted it to, despite all odds being against me, and the fact that he lived across the country.

    Regardless of everyone’s disapproval, and constant exposure to others in high school, I kept this online and long distance relationship going strong. We saw each other for 1-2 weeks twice per year, and I made it work until I turned 18, when I lost my virginitiy to him. And although some might say it is a romantic love story looking in, it was really a constant struggle on my part. The confidence that I was lacking was not being reciprocated by him, meaning that I was the one in the relationship that awaited his every phone call, and was in constant fear of him leaving me and being inadequate.

    After I started fresh at the age of 18, it took me a year to even attempt to go out and start looking. Once I felt ready, I began by filling out an online dating profile. Since I started camming when I was 18, I built up the physical confidence to put myself out there. I ended up dating for years on and off, had slight obsessions with a few men, like the tall one who took me on my very first real date, or the next door neighbor who was the very first man to come onto me that I was into as well, and in person I might add. I did not feel I was picky, in fact, I did not even attempt to go after the most attractive men. Average looking, and I was really open with my specifications before I knew what was attractive to me and what I needed.

    The truth is, confidence is what really turned me on. Other than that, I needed the love to be reciprocated, and still had yet to find that. The next long term relationship I must mention was the first relationship I established through online dating. It lasted from age 19 to 21, when I finally got out. I say got out because I ended up being trapped, physically and emotionally. The way out was there, but required a struggle, and most importantly, confidence. Luckily, I had a strong voice deep down that was on the verge of breaking loose. The thought of leaving was constantly on my mind, starting anew, the beauty and peace of focusing only on myself, and looking for the person whom I truly wanted to be with. At the time though, I really just needed to be alone to figure that out. I knew early on that this was not the right person, however, I did not speak up in fear of the outcome, his reaction and my steps to move forward. And this decision never became easier. The whole toxic atmosphere was beginning to cloud my thinking overall.

    Because of this experience, my confidence after moving on was undeniable. I knew more of what I wanted. However, the journey continued and I relapsed when I fell in love for a brief time with another man online, who lived in the UK. Just like my first online relationship in the past, I would have done anything to make it work, and was even ready to purchase the ticket myself to go there to see him. It was hard when I was faced with the realization that this would not happen, when he deleted me right before my trip to see my friend’s wedding in New York. What was supposed to be a fun trip with friends, was tainted by my sadness of still not finding that person, or anyone I thought who wanted me. I ended up crying in the middle of the after party, and feeling like I was in high school all over again.

    Then time did it’s trick again, and I suddenly didn’t care about him anymore. My interest had shifted to something, or someone more tangible, yet still unbalanced emotionally. But was not lacking physically by any means. It had been about 7 months since I moved into my very own studio cottage, a glorified hotel room in my opinion. But despite the small size, it was located right next to a park, which sealed the deal for me. I knew I wanted to become more physically active, and a park to run in would be a great start. This simple act of starting to run opened up pathways I never experienced in my life until then. My confidence and mental strength was building, until I had enough strength to make decisions clearly. Then it seemed like life was suddenly starting to go my way.

    When going on dates at this stage, I focused on what I wanted out of it, rather than what I thought they wanted. I casually went on a date with someone who messaged me, after nearly a year break from dating online, and this person did not stand out to me physically at first. However, as soon as he began speaking, he reassured me what I have believed about myself all along. And not in a selfish way, but of appreciation. At that point, the decision was mine. There was no more mystery in intentions. We possessed the qualities that we wanted in each other. He wanted to be more sensitive, I wanted to be more firm and decisive. Now, we share our qualities and become even stronger people because of this.

    All in all, dating and relationships all has to do with two main questions you need to be sure of when going in, who are you and what do you want? Now, this is a common misconception as well, the idea that the perfect vision of what you want in a person is out there waiting for you. Therefore, you’re easily let down when this other person doesn’t match up. This is a superficial view on dating, and it goes a lot deeper once you meet that right person. And perhaps, that spark will ignite during the first few dates, but this is only ideal if it is a mutual connection. And speaking from my personal perspective, this is a lot easier said than done.

    When I was presented with that confident person who seemed to know what they want, I wondered if I was that, and was not getting the feedback I wanted. But what I didn’t realize until after I found that right person, was that I was also needing something on their side, as well as my own self assurance. Their facade was a different version of mine that prevented anyone from breaking through. Once we both had the willingness to open ourselves up without fear of being let down, everything made sense and both our needs were met completely.

    My name is Melody Minx and I am 24 years old. I am a webcam model and have been since I was 18, as well as like to create, play video games and watch TV. I also enjoy exploring nature and experiencing new things! Follow me on MyMelodyMinx.com, on Twitter @MyMelodyMinx or contact me at Mymelodyminx@gmail.com

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  • What Men Should And Should Not Do On Dates

    What Men Should And Should Not Do On Dates

    Read Part 1 of What Every Guy Should Do On A Dinner Date by Stephania Ricci

    Here are the do’s

    Always pull out the ladies’ chair at the restaurant.

    Let her order first or ask if you can order for her.

    Help her with her coat.

    Try to make the date as romantic and intimate as possible – meaning if the restaurant has a quiet intimate area then be sure to book it; candles are also a nice touch and adds to the overall ambiance.

    Compliment her.

    Listen to her.

    If you see her drink is getting low ask if she would like another one and then order her one.

    Open the car door for her.

    Always make sure she feels safe and protected from danger.

    If her food is not cooked to her liking, summon the waiter and let him/her know what to do.

    Be kind and considerate at all times.

    Dress accordingly. Meaning if you are going to a 5 star restaurant, then you dress 5 stars.

    Ladies love flowers so perhaps, buy her some beautiful flowers.

    Always know beforehand where you are going to eat so she may look over the menu beforehand.

    Always make a reservation.

    Be sure to know if the lady has any dietary restrictions (for instance she may be a vegan or gluten free) and make sure the restaurant you want to go to would cater to her needs.

    If you are hailing a taxi or uber, always open the car door for the lady and make sure she gets in first and when you exit the car, always offer your hand to help her out of the car.

    If it is raining be sure to have an umbrella handy.

    If she is cold and did not bring a jacket, offer her yours.

    Always have good manners by saying please and thank you to your date and wait staff.

    Stand up whenever she needs to leave the table and stand up again when she returns. One time I was on a date and a gentleman did this for me and I was incredibly impressed to say the least since you rarely see this anymore.

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    SOME OF THE DON’TS

    Don’t be late for the date or for your reservation.

    Never be rude to the wait staff.

    Don’t stiff the restaurant bill (I had a date do this to me one time when I first got into this business. It was very embarrassing and I learnt my lesson about listening to my gut feeling)

    Don’t dress down.

    Don’t bring up upsetting or depressing subjects at dinner.

    Never flirt with another woman – your attention should always be on your date.

    Don’t swear or tell racist jokes.

    Never take her to a restaurant that has a salad bar, drive through window or children running around.  I can guarantee if she is ordering her dinner through a clowns’ head, not only will the clown be your date for the rest of the evening, she will not be going out with you again.

    Never talk with your mouth full of food or burp.

    Do not text or use your phone unless it is an emergency. Both parties should turn their phones off for the date.

    Do not smoke anything in front of her especially if she does not smoke cigars or cigarettes.

    Do not do drugs or drink too heavily and get drunk.

    Read Part 1 of What Every Guy Should Do On A Dinner Date by Stephania Ricci

    Stephania Ricci is an Exotic International Courtesan who specializes in  luxury dinner dates and travel companionship. She is also a Foodie, wine and fitness enthusiast. Follow her on Twitter @stephaniaricci1 and on her website www.stephaniaricci.com

    She is going to be starting a series of podcasts soon and if anyone would like to be informed the minute each one comes out, you may either follow me on twitter or sign up for my email list on my website.

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