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Why Couples Are Watching Adult Videos

In recent years, more couples have decided to spice up their relationships by watching adult videos. Although this isn’t suitable for everyone, it is recommended for many. Adult videos give partners the opportunity to experience something they wouldn’t otherwise. Plus, it allows them to come up with new ideas so they can experiment and find out what works best for them. More couples are watching adult videos because of the many perks involved. Below, readers will learn more about these perks and the reasons couples should watch adult videos together.

Experimentation

First and foremost, couples should watch these videos together so they can experiment. There is a good chance that you’re going to see unique things in these videos. You’ve never seen these things before. As a result, they can help you come up with new ideas for your next sexual encounter. Couples are watching live cam porn because it helps them come up with new ideas.

Once they’ve found a few ideas they like, they can incorporate them into their next encounter. Doing so will help spice up their relationship and keep both interested in the longer term.

Bonding

Watching videos is a good way to bond with your partner. It is vital to spend as much time with him or her as possible. Otherwise, your relationship is going to fall apart. Spending time and bonding can help your relationship thrive. You should spend time with your partner. One of the best ways to achieve this goal is by watching adult videos with your partner. When you do this, you’ll be able to achieve multiple goals at once. You can bond with your partner and find new ways to experiment.

Excitement

To ensure that your relationship thrives, you need to keep everything exciting. Failing to do so will cause you or your partner to get bored. Suffice to say, you don’t want this to happen. You want to guarantee that your partner is going to be excited about your relationship. You need to do the same. Watching adult videos can be exciting so it is a good choice. You never know what video you’re going to watch next. You can let your partner pick one. Then, you can pick a video. You’ll always be excited to see what she is going to find next.

Good Foreplay

Another thing to note is that watching adult videos is a good foreplay method. Before intercourse, you’ll want to get ready for it. You need to set the mood and prepare. One method of doing that is by watching adult videos. When doing so, you’re going to be ready to get it on. You’ll be ready to embrace your partner and give her the time of her life. She’ll do the same for you. Watching these videos can help make the experience much better. Who knows? It could be the thing you need to save your relationship.

Learn About Your Partner

Finally, you need to take the time to learn as much as you can about your partner. If you can find out more about her, you’ll have an easier time satisfying her in the bedroom. Therefore, you should take the time to watch adult videos with her. Again, it is a good idea to let your partner pick out the videos. When you let her choose, you’re going to find out what she likes. For instance, she might like a little rough action from time to time. You likely wouldn’t know this without watching adult videos with her.

Use this to your benefit so you can learn more about your partner’s sexual preference. Then, you’ll be ready to keep your partner happy for many years to come.

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September 14, 2021
Spice Up Your Sex Life With Boudoir Photography

We absolutely love sex and we know how important it is to a relationship. Sex should be something you explore together, trying new things and never letting things get “stale” or boring. We always talk and are honest about what we like and want to try. We are very into trying new things and having sex in fun and adventurous places. This is what led us to try couple’s boudoir.

How Our Interest In Boudoir Photography Began

Samantha had done a few boudoir shoots and they came out amazing. We love trying to push our sexual adventures to new lengths and decided to try out doing a shoot together. Something that most see as private but sharing our passion as if someone was watching us. That taboo of someone seeing me with my hot wife is exciting as I love showing her off.

Why We Love It

I love seeing the passion in our photos. I have so much pride showing them off to people. I love our passion as a couple and I love showing people that you don’t have to ever become an old boring married couple. I love posing and making love to her while the moment is captured forever on film. The passion burns through. The photos are a great reminder of how hot you two can be.

One Way To Spice It Up

We just make sure we haven’t seen each other naked in a few days so when we do on film, it’s a genuine surprise haha

Go For It!

Absolutely go for it and try it out! Let your inhibitions go and try something new! It’s a very sexy feeling showing off for a camera with your other half. Show everybody out there why they should be jealous of you. It’s a lot of fun!

We are a married couple who love to be passionate. We are proud of our love and have always just embraced sexuality and love and passion. Sex isn’t only for the bedroom. Follow us on @beardedillusionist and @emerald_siren_clothing and www.emeraldsirenclothing.jimdo.com

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August 24, 2016
My boyfriend Watches More Porn Than He Tells Me

I think my boyfriend watches much more porn than he lets on. Should I be concerned?

Not necessarily.

Whether there’s cause for concern depends on why there is deception (if there is deception), and not in the fact that we’re talking about porn. It would concern me just as much if he’s not letting on how much candy he eats behind your back, or how much he’s obsessed with a TV show.

In other words, the object of affection/interest/obsession is not a problem – there are plenty of ways to consume porn, eat candy, or watch TV without it being a problem. But there are only a few healthy reasons for hiding or deceiving your partner about anything.

If indeed he is being deceptive, is it because he wants privacy? If so, that’s OK. Does he feel like it’s a man thing, an alone thing, or something just for him? That’s OK too. In fact, it’s healthy for couples to have some separation, to have worlds where you travel alone. It creates room to keep growing (yes, even through porn) and a reason to keep getting to know each other.

Or is it that he feels a bit embarrassed? Or think (or know) that you’ll judge him? Or believe that you’d try to stop him? These are OK and understandable. And also changeable.

If you don’t have a strong repulsion to porn, and you wish that your boyfriend would be more open about his use, I’d suggest you make more room in your relationship to talk about porn. You can be indirect and curious, just to open the topic, “How old were you when you first saw porn? I hear that boys these days are watching it at 10. I found my parent’s tapes when I was 13 and was totally confused”. You can be direct and open, “Hey love, just so you know, I’m cool with you watching porn. I know that some guys hide it because they think they have to. But I don’t want you to hide it. And I’ll still give you privacy”.

If you have a strong repulsion to porn, I would suggest that you do some work for yourself, to get a more realistic idea of what porn is and can be. You don’t have to love porn or watch it, that’s not the goal. But you might benefit from a more peaceful relationship to it. Many people feel repulsed by what they imagine porn to be – perhaps informed by a few things they’ve seen that disgusted them or hurt them – and they remain wounded and easily inflamed by the thought of it. And this sensitivity becomes a problem when loved ones can’t be open with them, for fear of judgement. Here is a great article on feminist porn.

What would concern me is if he’s hiding it because he is become dependent on (a.k.a. addicted to) it. Porn use, like any substance use, becomes a problem when you don’t feel normal or can’t carry out daily functions without it. Often porn dependence comes with behaviors you can spot: Startle responses when you walk into a room unexpectedly, unexplainable spending, reluctance to travel (and be away from the source) or agitation when away, sneaking out of bed or unexplained absences, and dissatisfaction or disinterest in real-life sexual scenarios (because they pale against porn). If you do notice these kinds of patterns, have a conversation about it ASAP. Here are some ideas on how to intervene.

And of course, if you don’t feel strong repulsed, and he’s not being particularly deceptive, and you’re not feeling left out, there really is no cause for concern!

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Karen B. K. Chan is a sex educator, emotional literacy trainer, and speaker in Toronto, Canada. Above all, she’s dedicated to widening the definitions of what’s erotic, cultivating ease and acceptance, and proving that emotional literacy, play, and honesty are sexy. Read the rest of her profile below!

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April 27, 2016
Can I have sex during pregnancy?

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For today’s questions, we touch on a topic related to parenting and sex ed from you and we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

During pregnancy, how can a couple continue to have sex and satisfy one another’s needs?

Sex during pregnancy is no different to sex at any other time. In fact it can be quite liberating… if you have used contraception your whole sex life and made a decision to have a baby… you no longer have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy… the baby is now on its way, it’s a done deal!

Many women actually feel quite horny as the hormones make some adjustments during pregnancy. We can also feel more of a need to connect with our partner as the birth gets closer. The need to share the experience with the one who helped create this new human can be intense.

As the pregnancy progresses, and her body changes you may need to adjust your positions to accommodate the belly, use this time to experiment with some new ones. Be gentle, take your time. Once the baby escapes it confides, your sex life will never be the same again!

There will be the occasional instance when your doctor may advise against sex or a specific action, always follow your doctors instructions. Once the water has broken sex is definitely a no no, as there is nothing to stop the baby getting an infection as the seal has broken.

There are many old wives tails about pregnancy, don’t take too much notice of these. If you doctor says its ok, and it feels ok, go for it. If you are past your due date there is a belief that a good orgasm or two can bring on labor… always worth a try if you are done with the whole pregnancy thing! At the very least these may be the last orgasms you have for a few weeks.

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November 6, 2015
Should we have sex before marriage to see if we are sexually compatible?

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For today’s questions, we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

Should a couple have sex before marriage to see if they are sexually compatible?

Absolutely! No one gets married thinking ‘Hey I’ll give it a go for a year or two and see how I feel’… Why would you go into any long term agreement without knowing what you are getting into?

Sexual compatibility can make or break a relationship. In the old days couples did not have sex before marriage very often, it was forbidden. And surprisingly, very few divorces back then either. But how happy were the ladies? Did many of them enjoy sex? Did they have orgasms? The movie Hysteria suggests orgasms were something they went to the doctor for, to relieve hysteria…sexual frustration!

Sexual compatibility can be tricky, sometimes the tiniest thing can tip a new partner the wrong way… perhaps one of you is a clean freak, and requires both parties to shower before sex. Maybe one of you hates oral sex and the other one loves it. What if you are into anal play and you find out your new partner will not go there? There is an endless list of differences and preferences that can make a massive impact on sexual satisfaction. Life is way too short for average or awful sex for the rest of your life!

So yes, absolutely we should be taking the “try before you buy” approach to sex before marriage.

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October 30, 2015
I think about other men when I have sex with my husband

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For today’s questions, we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

A female reader wrote in saying that she thinks about other guys whenever she has sex with her husband and feels guilty about it. What can she do to remove these thoughts?

This can be difficult… firstly, do not mention this to your partner, fantasies are a very personal thing and some are best kept to yourself. If you tell him, self-doubt can eat away at him and could potentially destroy your relationship.

When you first met him, what was it that attracted you to him? Was it an all over admiration? Or more specific like beautiful eyes, a great smile, toned shoulders…? Are there things you have grown to love about him?

Close your eyes and concentrate on those things so they generate good feelings about him in your mind.

When you are having sex look at or touch those things that you love. We have all heard that we have to be ‘in the moment’ as much as we can, it is especially important now!

Failing that, accept that you think about other guys and stop feeling guilty. Life is too short. If the sex you have with your husband is enjoyable and you have orgasms and feel loved and satisfied, enjoy it and fantasize away!

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October 23, 2015
When can I have sex again after giving birth?

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For today’s questions, we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.

Is the decrease in frequency of sex between couples with newborns or young children normal and how can they bring increase it to what it was before?

Many couples do experience a decline in their sexual activity after the arrival of a baby. There are many reasons why this happens.

From a female’s perspective, new mums are often really tired. Their sleep patterns are completely thrown out, they are up several times during the night feeding and settling bub. Lack of sleep leads to a lack of energy and this often leads to a drop in self-esteem, we forget who we were before the baby arrived and we are just mum, wife, housekeeper, shopper and cook.

Our sexy self fades into the background and those desires are just not there anymore.

For the guys… some are very understanding and know that their beautiful partner is just dog tired. Some guys may be worried about going back ‘down there’, especially if they were in the delivery room and witnessed what happens to us during delivery!

Doctors usually recommend at least 6 weeks with no sex. This is the time it takes for the pubic and reproductive areas to repair enough for intercourse. This is assuming it was a relatively regular delivery. If there were stitches required, it may be a little longer. For ladies who delivered via C-section, it is more about the body repairing the abdominal muscles and fighting off infection when she is under duress with her new sleep patterns (or should I say lack of any real sleep?).

So what can couples do to try and get back to ‘normal’?

Firstly, talk about how you both feel. Do not accuse your partner of anything, use ‘I feel…’ to start your sentences.

Second, there is no going back to where you were, life after children will always be different, so trying to achieve a status quo with a new human in the mix is unrealistic. You have to aim for a different sex life that takes your new addition into account.

I highly recommend the occasional weekend away once breast feeding has finished. Plan a trip, have something to look forward to, it gives you purpose and focus.

It may mean that sex is less frequent until those weekends come around, however this is why you need to talk, work out a schedule when you are both up to it, but also be prepared to change things at the last minute.

Making time for each other is crucial to maintaining intimacy, it does not always have to be sex either, a good naked snuggle may be enough to keep the embers burning until you have a little time and energy.

Perhaps you may have to try morning sex instead of bedtime sex? When is the new mum most energetic? Grab that moment and go for it!

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Coupon for 50% off her Udemy course – Bedroom Skills for Guys… become a legend in the bedroom.

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October 16, 2015
5 toys to make Sex more Exciting – With your Partner!

Are you and your partner losing intimacy in the bedroom? And these sex tips aren’t ‘spicing things up’? Well, here’s a suggestion: introduce your real man to your battery operated boyfriend! What have you been waiting for?! With an array of sex toys and products out there vibrators, dildos, sleeves, and more have come a long way since the days of Dr. Granville’s crank operated “electro-mechanical vibrator” back in 1883. Now, twenty-first century gals have taken things into their own hands and beyond, but maybe it’s time we pass the torch, or at least share it, with our partners. Whether you’ve explored the galaxy of women’s sexuality alone, or with partners, we have five sex products, tools and toys ahead to send you both into cosmic orgasm together.

We-Vibe Touch

For those who don’t have a boudoir packed with XXX toys already, the We-Vibe Touch is the perfect new sex toy to bring into the bedroom with your partner. This thick slick silicone toy radiates vibrations, leaving no sensitive part untouched. The center’s shallow ice cream scoop slides perfectly along your clit, and you or your partner can up the ante by controlling the settings to bring you both to star-bursting nirvana. Use alone, for foreplay, or slide inside and try it together for pleasure all around.

Lelo: Ida

A new toy from Lelo’s much loved sex tools, the Ida is designed for perfect partnered foreplay and then some, with a g-spot targeting arm and vibrating pad. Think of it as a mechanical finger stroking inside of you with enough room to accommodate your partner’s shaft and share the fun, while the pulsating base covers your clit and entire pubic mound for even more fun. To make things even better, Ida comes with a remote so, your partner can take the reins and leave you begging for more or shivering with ecstasy.

Zini Deux

Like yin & yang, this sex tool splits into equal opposites, a convex vibrator to target your clit and a concave one to hold his testicles. Ergonomically designed to comfortably fit your hand while operating the intensity controlling side buttons, the Zini Deux can be moved anywhere along your man’s member while he returns the favor. Whoever said sharing’s no fun?

Je Joue Mimi

Don’t let it’s subtle power and simple approachable design fool you, the Je Joue Mimi will revolutionize your shared sex, or solo experience. Versatile with a rounded shape for external stimulation on anyone’s body, you can hold it between you and your partner or in the palm of your hand. Get creative.

Jimmyjane Form Two

Couples love it! And why wouldn’t they with its simple and dare I say cute design? Small, manageable and easy to grasp thanks to smooth silicone, the Jimmyjane Form Two fits perfectly on your clit while having sex so, there’s no awkward bulk between you and your partner. Enjoy the adjustable settings and go as fast or slow as you please. Warning men report giving their ladies next level orgasms with this baby in hand.

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October 5, 2015
Tips for a couple with disabilities to enjoy sex

Have a question on your mind about sex or seeking advice? Ask us on any topic and we’ll provide you with the answers from an expert. Send them in to editorial@simplysxy.com. For today’s question, we touch on a topic related to sex and disability from you and we’re delighted to have sex educator Rebecca Dewar share her answer below.

Effective communication is an important factor between persons to enjoy sexual activity. Effective communication is learned through sexual experiences as well as it is a part of sexual confidence. I suggest for a person with a disability to talk about their disability with their partner regarding sexual activity; to do such, it means being vulnerable by taking the risk to discuss personal conditions with someone. Discussing a person’s disability is a way of opening up and establishing a line of effective communication between partners. In addition, effective communication may involve talking with each other during sexual activity of the likes, dislikes, what feels good, and what does not feel good. Also, informing each other of the pressure of touch (hard\soft) and\or thrusting motion (fast\slow) of sexual intercourse are aspects of effectively communicating with one another.

To enjoy sexual activity, another important factor to discuss is bodily positioning. Sexual activity can occur in a wheelchair. Some wheelchairs (usually motorized power wheelchairs) can recline backwards making the missionary style of sexual intercourse possible if the partnership is between someone in a power motorized wheelchair and an able bodied person. It can be a comfortable position for the person in the wheelchair because their back remains flat against the wheelchair backing keeping their back in a spinal neutral position. It may also be a comfortable position for the person in the power motorized wheelchair to receive oral sex from an able bodied person. For people who use power motorized wheelchairs, it is easier to be in bed to give their able bodied partner oral sex because the bed is less confining than the wheelchair allowing for a variety of bodily positioning. For people who use manual wheelchairs (wheelchairs moved by arm\upper body strength to the hands on the wheels) can do a version of missionary style positioning for sexual intercourse; by that I mean, the positioning consists of the person in the manual wheelchair sitting up with an able bodied person sitting on their lap face-to-face allowing for the front of the bodies (genitals) to touch each other. People who use manual wheelchairs can also give and receive oral sex.

An able bodied person can lay their back against a high flat surface such as a table or pool table or possibly sit on a countertop or bar stool type of chair to allow the person in the manual wheelchair to have mouth ease of access to their partner’s genitals. Often, a person in a manual wheelchair can transfer out of their wheelchair to a couch, bed, or recliner (La-Z-Boy type chair, etc. to receive oral sex from their able bodied partner. In bed, it can be more comfortable for the person with the disability to lay their back against a wedge for sexual activity. Also, when in bed, a pillow under the pelvic area of the body of the person with a disability can be more comfortable for sexual intercourse in relation to the pushing and thrusting motion since the pillow helps take the brunt of the movement off the lower spine. In bed, the spooning position is another comfortable way for persons with disabilities to have sexual intercourse from rear or front entry depending on the way people are laying. A variety of positions for people with disabilities exist to try to enjoy sexual activity.

Sexual enjoyment for people with disabilities often takes creativity. Creativity can be anything! For example, it is possible to use handcuffs to assist in holding a person’s limbs if the person has paralysis as a result of a disability. However, it is also significant to mention, ‘outercourse’ activities can be just as enjoyable as activities of intercourse. Outercourse activities are sensual; by that I mean, outercourse activities are arousing involving the senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch) of the human body. For example, persons who gently yet firmly massage each other while music plays in the background on a low volume with a scented candle lit fits within the sexual activity of outercourse. Furthermore, some people with disabilities are unfamiliar with their bodies; so, they might not be able to express what is sexually pleasurable to them. Partners sexually exploring their bodies together can consist of outercourse practices leading to intercourse activity. Moreover, there is a certain form of sexual enjoyment for people with disabilities referring to the importance of the human touch called Pleasuring Mapping.

The concept of Pleasure Mapping is based on conscientious touch (a.k.a. tantric touch). Conscientious touch involves focusing the touch of massaging or deliberate caressing only on a single area of the body at a time allowing for sensual energy to be felt in that one area (hands, arms, face\neck, shoulders, etc.). Often, conscientious touch can help people with disabilities in intimate relationships get to know their bodies in a sexual manner with each other. Pleasure Mapping enables people with disabilities to know their bodies sexually and allows for them to know their likes and dislikes as well as communicate them with their intimate partners. Essentially, a variety of tips exist for people with disabilities in intimate relationships to enjoy sexual activity.

Rebecca has her master degrees in social work and human sexuality of which both degrees are clinically focused. Sexuality and disability is her area of interest regarding research and practice within the fields of social work and human sexuality. Read the rest of her profile below and the links to follow her!

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October 3, 2015
Improve your sex life with Tantric sex today!

What is Tantric sex like

Being alive and creative, Tantric sex is not the same every time! So it’s hard to describe what it is “like”.

However, because tantrics train to allow sexual energy to flood throughout the body, tantric sex is usually an experience of energy and bliss that takes one beyond the normal state of consciousness. Rather then being each person’s will that guides the interaction, both people can surrender to this incredible energy. It can be similar to an experience of dancing so such great music that suddenly you feel as if you are being “taken” by the music and you are riding on waves of bliss. Not only do the two partners feel deeply connected to each other, but they feel connected to life itself and to all that is! Many people feel that tantric sex is a spiritual experience.

The big difference between Tantric Sex and “normal” sex is that normally people are taught to build up energy, contract around it and eventually push it out in an explosive orgasm. In Tantric Sex, people are taught to bring relaxation and arousal together, using special breathing techniques and other methods. This has the effect of expanding as energy builds rather than contracting. The energy can then rise up through the whole body, opening the heart and expanding the mind, creating full body orgasm.

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How is Tantric sex beneficial

Because Tantrics work with energy, tantric sex floods the body with energy, very high vibrational energy. Ancient tantric practitioners knew that this energy could heal the body on many levels: physical, emotional and spiritual. Those who engage in Tantric Sex report feeling higher levels of creativity, energy, joy and connection. The tantrics believe that sex with a lot of ejaculation can deplete levels of energy, joy and well-being as well as reducing the connection between the couple over time. So Tantrics learn to draw the energy upwards into the body instead of releasing it out, creating multi-orgasmic experiences and also deepening their connection and intimacy together.

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Who is Tantric sex for

Tantric Sex is usually a calling that people have. It is not for everyone. It is more that simply raising levels of pleasure…it raises energy and consciousness. I have found that most people feel a calling to Tantra at some point, and this is a deep yearning for more depth, more connection and often just a longing for something that they cannot even identify.

Some people move from something like yoga into Tantra as they want to bring more consciousness into their sex life. And others come into Tantra because they are very sexual people, with a lot of sexual energy, and they want to learn how to work with that energy in different ways.

Occasionally someone stumbles into Tantra by “mistake”. Women in particular have a natural tendency towards full body orgasm and given the right circumstances they may accidentally experience Tantric sex. However, they may then need to learn how to enter Tantric Sex consistently.

The reason I say it is not for everyone is that Tantric Sex shakes up your life! It can change everything. If you are content in your habits and patterns, then Tantric Sex is probably not for you. If you feel a deep inner calling for more, then Tantra may be your next step…

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What beginners should know

They need to know that there is no hurry. If people race to draw energy and orgasm up through their bodies too fast, then they can easily get overwhelmed, and even feel fear and panic (as the energy is so strong). Tantra is always learned in stages. Because it works with huge amounts of energy, you do not want to force it…that would be like putting thousands of volts through a thin wire! It will burn out! Rather there are stages and steps that activate the energy channels one by one, and slowly the body becomes prepared for Tantric Sex. In fact Tantric Sex gets better and better the more you practice Tantra!

Beginners also should know that this needs to be learned from an expert. One way is with a teacher in a workshop, and another is with a trained tantric massage therapist. Be warned: many people call what they do “Tantric Massage” because it sounds good! But you want to look for a therapist who really knows how to help you work with your energy. This way you can gradually move towards Tantric Sex.

Read Shashi Solluna’s profile below and visit her links at:

www.sollunatantra.com: personal site

www.taotantricarts.com: teacher trainings

www.sextospirit.com: movie on Tantra

www.shashisolluna.com: blog

www.livetantra.com: platform for recommended tantra teachers

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July 31, 2015