I was an innocent one all through high school, but shortly after when I finally entered that moment into sexual activity I was rather confused at how short lived and lacking connection it had considering I had always gathered the perception it was something adventurous while also being diversely emotional. So after that initial experience I set out on a mission to understand this new world I had entered into. That one pivotal moment opened my mind and body to experiencing new sexual adventures in hopes to better understand my body and my desires. Exploring was the only way to make that happen and on that note there will be more to come on that topic.
Spice up your sex life with these tips
I applaud those who are intrigued to experience all sex has to offer. However, one of the best ways to truly open your mind to finding ways to add more “spice” is to realize the importance of intimacy, whether it be in a relationship or something casual. Either way your mind will dictate you body, therefore developing a strong internal connection between the two will open you mind to exploring.
Now, let’s add some spice! Porn! Whether you really enjoy watching it or it is something you could take or leave, porn is incredibly educational. Now keep it mind, porn is still a fantasy so take what you like from it and leave what you do not. Start watching porn, either solo or with company. It will give you a chance to discover what turns you on and what does not. Also, it gives you a visual to show your partner what you may be open to.
I want to address another topic. I will be brief for now as we can dive in deeper another day. Threesomes, swinging and more. This is a way to add spice. However, it is not for everyone and often should be left as a fantasy never meant to be lived out. If you do though consider this idea, communicate your thoughts and desire before anything happens. Whether you’re a couple or single, guidelines are essential and often a make or break with being able to enjoy it.
But what if my partner is not into it?
It is all about trust and security. Sex is a very vulnerable act. Each person needs to be comfortable in themselves, but they also need to feel comfortable with the other half involved. Start with communicating your thoughts. Trying something new sexually with a hesitant partner takes patience and proper communication. However, you never know what someone is open to unless you ask. I find often people are too afraid to ask for fear of being judged. Be open, be honest, and just ask.
Sometimes, accidents happen..
Oh my, yes of course. One time my boyfriend at the time and myself were playing around and I was giving him a massage. He was laying on my bed, back facing up. I was straddling him. He, hating anything to do with feet, would never want anyone to come even close to touching them. So to continue, I was telling him about a segment from a radio show that involved sexual acts and feet. For whatever reason, I turned towards his feet, not touching anything, but he reacted and kicked his heel into my face. Wow that hurt! Still to this day he likes to tell people that story. Fortunately he allows me to remain nameless.
To best describe myself beyond a single mother of two, I am a former small town girl who has always know life is a journey and to enjoy each little step along the way. In many ways I am like everyone else. I work, I raise my kids, I spend time with friends and overall I take on each challenge life throws my way the best way I know how at the time. On that note, I am also unique from the majority in that I believe in being open, honest, and direct with myself. That is most likely my strongest appeal. Everyone has a story and as I share mine to others, I enjoy even more hearing the story of others. Particularly I look forward to sharing my sexual journey as from the moment of inception it has been quite a ride (no pun intended). Read Lexi Ross‘ profile below and follow her links!
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