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For today’s questions, we’re delighted to have sex educator Darleen Proud share her answer below.
A female reader wrote in saying that she thinks about other guys whenever she has sex with her husband and feels guilty about it. What can she do to remove these thoughts?
This can be difficult… firstly, do not mention this to your partner, fantasies are a very personal thing and some are best kept to yourself. If you tell him, self-doubt can eat away at him and could potentially destroy your relationship.
When you first met him, what was it that attracted you to him? Was it an all over admiration? Or more specific like beautiful eyes, a great smile, toned shoulders…? Are there things you have grown to love about him?
Close your eyes and concentrate on those things so they generate good feelings about him in your mind.
When you are having sex look at or touch those things that you love. We have all heard that we have to be ‘in the moment’ as much as we can, it is especially important now!
Failing that, accept that you think about other guys and stop feeling guilty. Life is too short. If the sex you have with your husband is enjoyable and you have orgasms and feel loved and satisfied, enjoy it and fantasize away!
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