Category: People

  • Interview with Jay Smooth, Male Pornstar from Poland

    Interview with Jay Smooth, Male Pornstar from Poland

    My name is Jay Smooth and I am an adult model and performer originally from Poland.  I joined the adult industry in early 2013.  I am still very new to the porn industry and I am enjoying that exciting journey every single day.

    SimplySxy:  Where do you see the industry in the next 10 years?

    Jay Smooth:  The boundary between mainstream and porn slowly fades and I believe that porn will not be considered so negatively in the next 10 years and it will become shown on public television and certain genres of pornography, like glamcore will be generally accepted by society as a beautiful depiction of sexuality.

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    SimplySxy:  Does size really matter for male actors in the porn industry?

    Jay:  I think it does.  It is easier for well-endowed performers to showcase female performers better.  Basically, there is more variations and angles of penetration that can be shown.  However, performers with extremely big penises might hurt their co-workers even unintentionally, so I would say 7in and up is the porn standard.  What is more important is whether (the) male performer’s tool is working properly.

    SimplySxy:  Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

    Jay:  I remember one of my first shoots where I had to work with a girl that has never shoot porn before and what is even worse, she was an open lesbian and never had had sex with men before.  To make things worse, she was on her period that day.  You can imagine that it wasn’t the easiest day for me.

    SimplySxy:  What is your favourite porno scenario?

    Jay:  I have a huge foot fetish so I love to work in this genre and all possible scenarios work for me there.  Also, I love outdoor shoots, massage scenarios and bodies full of oil.  My favorite shoots are those full of passion and kissing, glamcore shoots.

    SimplySxy:  How do you psych yourself if you are not turned on by the set or co-stars?

    Jay:  I always try to focus on the sexiest part of my female co-star body.  There are always some sexy parts of females bodies that help me stimulate myself.  Although, all of us have days where we are not that sensitive and it takes more effort to stimulate sexually.  Then, imagination and concentration helps.

    SimplySxy:  What’s the easiest way to feel aroused for you? And what is your biggest turn on during sex?

    Jay:  The easiest way to feel aroused for me is to feel as comfortable with my co-star as possible.  Outgoing, nice personality and dirty mind helps a lot.  Of course, I cannot stress enough how physical attraction is important.  The biggest turn on for me is deep look into my eyes by my female partner as well as their kinky nature.  As I mentioned before, I love beautiful feet so if everything else fails, that’s usually a very stimulating body part of my co-stars.

    SimplySxy:  What is the most orgasmic thing a lover can do to you?

    Jay:  Touch me, kiss me, and stare deeply into my eyes while I am penetrating her.

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    SimplySxy:  Where is the strangest/craziest place you’ve ever had sex?

    Jay:  On a plane and at the parking lot in my car right next to a police car.

    SimplySxy:  Your personal view towards pornography?

    Jay:  I’ve enjoyed pornography since I was a teenager. I personally see nothing wrong with pornography. I think it has its therapeutic role in people’s lives. To me, it inspired me to experiment sexually and become sexually free. I have always been a very sexual individual and I have learnt to embrace it.

    SimplySxy:  Sexiest body part a woman you enjoy kissing?

    Jay:  Lips, boobs, feet and vagina, in that particular order.

    A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

    First of all, thank to all my fans for your support! For those of you that have seen me already in action I hope to bring you more quality content. For those that still don’t know who Jay Smooth is, I hope you will enjoy my work and join my awesome and loyal fan base.

    If you want to know me better, follow me on twitter @jaysmoothxxx

    Wet Kisses to all of you!

    Images courtesy of Jay Smooth

    Watch out for tomorrow’s interview with Alana Evans, MILF and gamer pornstar!

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  • Interview with Mike Kulich, founder of Monarchy Distribution & Stunner PR

    Interview with Mike Kulich, founder of Monarchy Distribution & Stunner PR

    For the past 10 years, Mike Kulich has worked in almost every area of the adult entertainment business.  Beginning in 2004, he started in sales at International Video Distributors (IVD), the world’s largest adult DVD distribution company where he built up an extensive network of stores and online retailers.  After 4 years, he left to start DVD Makers which quickly became the premiere company for adult studios throughout the country to replicate and manufacture their DVDs.  After DVD Makers, Kulich started Monarchy Distribution with the goal of connecting talent that self-produce content with traditional DVD and broadcast distribution.  Since the formation of Monarchy in 2010, the company has received over 35 industry award nominations and 5 wins.  He is also the owner of Stunner PR, a full service PR agency which helps adult talent, video, and novelty companies help expand their brand.

    SimplySxy:  Pornography is very much available freely on the internet now than it was in the 90s.  In some ways, it is easier for films and porn stars to widen their reach but a downside of it is more piracy.  How do you think the industry will and should evolve towards? 

    Mike Kulich:  The effect piracy has had on the Adult Industry has been absolutely devastating.  When I started my first job in 2004 it was a completely different time.  We were moving 10,000 pieces of some titles and nowadays when it comes to DVD you are very lucky if you can do 10% of that.  The effects piracy have had on our industry are something that cannot be fixed.  The vast majority of people will never pay for porn again.  For companies to survive they have to adapt to different platforms and find new revenue streams for their content.  Up until 2007, DVD was the bread and butter of every studio.  Now you see studios branching out into other types of digital distribution including VOD, PPV, Broadcast, Hotels, etc.  The main reason I created SkweezMe.com was to try to bring revenue back to the studios.  We reinvented the VOD model.  Competing sites still require you to buy packages of minutes.  $1.00 on those sites will buy you about 12 minutes of streaming content.  On SkweezMe.com, $1.00 gives our users 24 hours of access to stream unlimited content on our platform for that full day.  I think the goal to get people to start paying for porn again is give them quality content at a price that people won’t mind paying as well as a platform which they can access anywhere and is quick and even more user friendly than the tube sites.  The industry norm for paysites is $29.99 a month which comes out to the same as our platform, but with SkweezMe.com, you only pay for the days that you use our service so if you only use our platform 4 days a month you are only paying $4.00.  The thing that most of the tube users don’t realize is that the majority of the clips and scenes they are watching on these tubesites are all pirated.  They go to a website that has an Alexa rating right around Yahoo.com so they automatically assume since the site is so big and popular they have to be legitimate but it’s exactly the opposite.  I use a company called Take Down Piracy and all they do is patrol the tube and torrent sites and send DMCA notices on my behalf to get my content that has been pirated taken down.

    SimplySxy:  There has been an increasing number of homemade videos from celebrities and just about any non-celebrity surfacing online ever so often.  People seem to like to watch these “real and non-scripted” stuff even if the quality of the vid isn’t fantastic.  Is that something porn industry will consider producing to make videos similar?

    Mike:  Amateur content has obviously seen an explosion in the past few years with the rise of tube sites, social media and ease with connecting with other people.  I have a line called Amateur Relations which is just that, user submitted content that we pay to the couples who produce it.  It does do very well, however it is still a small niche in a very large market.  The amount of amateur content online is probably more than the mainstream porn that is produced and the market is very saturated so I do not see studios dumbing down the quality of their content to compete in a small niche in the business.

    SimplySxy:  As with every industry, it takes a lot to stay competitive and survive in business.  What do you think an aspiring porn star needs to make it?

    Mike:  The competitiveness of the business is harsher than it has ever been.  Because of the rampant piracy, a lot of studios have shut down, shoot less, or don’t shoot at all anymore.  On the other side of the coin, the amount of talent has exploded.  There are more active performers in the industry than ever before with 70% less work to satisfy the workforce.  For a girl to really stand out and have a successful career she needs to realize that unless you are in bed sleeping, you should be promoting yourself 24/7.  Twitter, Facebook, Paysites, Tumblr and having a good publicist can help you accomplish that.  In an industry where busloads of new girls pull into town every day, you need to make sure that when a director or studio head opens a magazine or adult news site you are right in front of their face.  It’s also really important to be professional on set, build solid friendships and make sure you are maintaining a positive reputation because the industry really is very small and tight-knit.  Lastly, I would say that you have to be fully devoted to your career.  If you are a girl that has one foot in the door and one foot out or are just shooting a scene to pay the most recent bill, you won’t see a lot of success and when all is said and done, that decision may come back to haunt you.  It’s all about hustling.  In adult it’s not easy anymore. Only the strong survive.

    SimplySxy:  Do you think more control is necessary to prevent children and underaged teens from having access to porn or is this up to the individual families to control?.

    Mike:  This is a two sided argument that goes back to the tube sites.  The majority of pay sites go through a reputable billing processor.  On my site SkweezMe.com, for someone to view any type of content they have to sign up and pay.  Our merchant processor has built in age verification.  Most paysites are like this.  However, if you look at the tube sites, when you type in the address it goes straight to the front page that is covered in clips.  There is no age verification and these are the sites most of the people watching porn are using.  I guarantee if you ask any teenage boy between the ages of 12-17 if they have ever viewed porn they will say yes and the site they saw it on would be one of the major tubes which did nothing to prevent someone underage from accessing the content on their site.

    SimplySxy:  There are people who cringe and judge a person differently when they hear that they watch pornographic material.  In your opinion, are there benefits from watching porn other than just using it to jack off?

    Mike:  I think everyone can agree that the majority of the people who utilize porn are horny guys just jacking off, but there are really big markets within the industry that prove there are benefits.  If you look at New Sensations director Jacky St. James, she primarily produces romance and couples films.  The majority of the people who are buying her product are couples and women.  These types of movies can help enhance a couple’s sex life.  Then there is also the instructional genre which can teach viewers how to better satisfy their partner.  They have instructional videos for almost everything including G-Spots, Prostate Massages, Different positions, etc.  We are one of the few industries in the world that gives the consumer EVERYTHING they could ever want.

    SimplySxy:  Where kind of scenes do you enjoy filming most?

    Mike:  Our MILF lines are probably our best selling titles. We have a loyal fan base that will pick up every MILF movie we put out and that genre has always been a big cornerstone of Monarchy and we have won a few awards for them as well.

    SimplySxy:  Are there many differences between various countries when it comes to producing porn?  Say comparing those coming out from America with Japan?

    Mike:  The laws and outlook on filming pornography vary from country to country.  Currently there is legislation in Mexico to treat all pornographic content shot in the country to be treated as sex trafficking with heavy penalties including serving upwards of 15 years in prison.  Europe obviously has always been much less prude than the rest of the world.  If you look at the content that comes out of Europe it is usually much harder, a lot more anal, and has sex acts that you would not see in a American movie.  Because of the obscenity issues in the US, American porn compared to other countries is considered very cookie cutter.

    SimplySxy:  Which is your favorite porn star you have worked with?

    Mike:  I would say Alana Evans. I have known her for years and she has been in the business for over 17 years and she is still relevant. She is still shooting all the time, as well as pursuing big things in other industries.

    SimplySxy:  Do you sometimes feel weary from all the sex?  With your business and line of work, and then getting it on a personal level?

    Mike:  I don’t get weary.  The adult business for me is just like any other job.  Porn is a product I sell. I will say that I am very desensitized from it though.  Porn just doesn’t excite me the way it would if I worked in another industry.

    SimplySxy:  This is a question from one of our readers.  What does it take to date a porn star?

    Mike:  Most of the girls I know date within the industry but I do know girls that date civilians (non industry guys).  I think the key is to realize that the girls are here to do a job.  Just because you see a girl on camera getting double penetrated by two huge guys doesn’t mean that’s an invitation to bring your buddy home and do the same thing to her.  This is acting.  It’s a job.  You also have to be comfortable with the fact that this is what they do for a living.  Jealousy will get you nowhere.  Just be a genuinely good dude and you shouldn’t have a problem.

    Mike can be followed at the following social media links as well as his website.  @xxxmonarchy @skweezmedia  www.skweezme.com

    Images courtesy of Mike Kulich

    Tomorrow, Sofie Maenhout shares her piece on why women are addicted to 50 Shades of Grey and Men to Porn.

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  • Cindy Starfall, the Asian Sensation, shares her love

    Cindy Starfall, the Asian Sensation, shares her love

    Cindy Starfall was raised in a strict Vietnamese household that did not allow her to express herself sexually.  A year ago, the Asian sensation decided to make a career out of her sexual liberation by joining the adult industry.  Cindy is a regular at upscale swinger events and parties and loves celebrating her sexuality with fun, open-minded couples.  Since her debut the gorgeous exotic star has worked with XXX production companies such as Hustler, Wicked, Penthouse, Evil Angel, Digital Playground, Adam & Eve and many more.  Cindy is also a celebrated feature entertainer and currently tours the most popular gentlemen’s clubs with Hustler’s Asian Invasion Tour.  Cindy has already launched an online store where fans can buy DVDs, request autographed pictures and other Cindy Starfall memorabilia directly from the star. The business-savvy beauty launched the first design in her men’s t-shirt line at the 2014 AE Expo.  Though the petite starlet has only been performing in the adult industry for a year, her work has already been celebrated with a Best New Starlet nomination for the 2014 AVN Awards and XRCO Awards. Cindy was also nominated for Best Scene in a Non-Feature Release in the 2014 XBiz Awards.

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    SimplySxy: Has the internet made the adult industry more difficult and competitive?

    Cindy Starfall: In my opinion, the internet did make the industry more competitive but I believe there is still a DVD market out there who is willingly to spend money to watch new movies instead of waiting for free clips online.

    SimplySxy: What are some of the misconceptions people have about the adult industry?

    Cindy: The two main misconceptions about the adult industry that I often encounter are that we are diseased people and we are uneducated people.

    First of all, these misconceptions can be found in any industry, even mainstream entertainment, so just because we have sex on camera does not mean that we are all dirty people.  We are tested every 14 days.  Because sex is my job, I’m more conscious of my body and take better care of it.
    Another misconception that the reason we do porn (is) because we are uneducated and can’t do anything else, so we have to “sell” ourselves.  I want to state that the reason we do porn is because we genuinely love sex.  As for me, I love the audience and the fantasy of having someone or a camera watching me is a turn on.  I graduated with a BA in Business Marketing and know many porn stars with college educations!

    Of course, there are some pornstars out there that fit the typical stereotype, but please be open minded and don’t generalize us all to be in one category!

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    SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarassing moment that have happened on set? 

    Cindy: An awkward moment would be when I first started, I did a hardcore throat f**king scene and he shot a huge load all over my face. Accidentally, few drops got into my eyes and it started to get red.  I was new so I didn’t bring any eye drops for my eyes.  So I went to a drug store and the lady was very helpful, but she couldn’t stop asking why I’m getting pink eyes.  What should I say? Oh somebody just shot a huge load in my eyes?  LOL

    SimplySxy: Does all the sex during filming make it easier or harder when you have sex off camera? 

    Cindy:  Sex on camera is different that sex off camera.  I still have sex a lot off camera because I don’t have to worry much about giving a performance, lighting, timing, etc and I can just enjoy the moment.

    SimplySxy:  Solo, DP, Gangbang, which scene do you like best? 

    Cindy: I love when a guy is f**king me and slides his finger into my asshole so we can kinda call it a DP.  Since I’m still an anal virgin, one day I will definitely try it.  I also love gangbangs because (I’m) surrounded by many horny men and they can take advantage of me.

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    SimplySxy:  Do you love using sex toys in the bedroom? And name a favourite sex toy you can’t do without?

    Cindy: I love using my sex toys in the bedroom as part of my everyday routine.  We can find all of my favourite sex toys in “Brookstone” in the mall LOL.  They call it a “personal massager”.   Everytime I walk in the store, I fantasize about giving people a visual demonstration.  Some of my favourites also include the Hitachi and Lelo vibrator,…

    SimplySxy: Please share with us one of your sexual fantasies?

    Cindy: One of my sexual fantasies is being man-handled by two brothers or two best friends, because not everyone is comfortable in having sex with someone close to them or the social rule is that you don’t f**k your guy’s brother or best friend.  The idea is twisted and it makes it more exciting.

    SimplySxy: Which body part of a guy do you like most? 

    Cindy: Besides his big cock and his smile, I love a man with a brain.  If I can’t have a conversation with someone, no matter how attractive he is, I eventually get bored and the sex can be boring.

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    SimplySxy: What is the most orgasmic thing a guy can do to you? 

    Cindy: Clit, clit ,clit! Licking my clit is the magic word.  My eyes would start rolling back and the only thing I want to do is jump on him and f**k the heck out of that cock.

    SimplySxy:  In your opinion, what defines sex positivity? 

    Cindy: Chemistry.  It’s about pleasing each other, finding each other orgasmic spot and getting to know each other body.

    A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:

    Thank you to everyone for all your support throughout my career.  Remember to check  out www.cindystarfall.net for autographed movies, webcam show, or lingerie.  Follow me on social media, twitter and facebook.

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    Images courtesy of Cindy Starfall

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  • Porn Valley’s Goldstar Lesbian Lily Cade Speaks Out

    Porn Valley’s Goldstar Lesbian Lily Cade Speaks Out

    Lily Cade, porn valley’s goldstar lesbian and AVN Best All-Girl Performer nominee 2014, shares with SimplySxy her views on pornography, porn addiction and her favourite sex toy she can’t do without.

    SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?

    Lily Cade:  I love making porn.  I’m a performer and a director and I find this job fulfilling on so many levels.  I love the athletic, high energy sex.  I love being able to inhabit a character that isn’t myself and embody her through a sex scene.  I love knowing that everyone is on the same page – that we are all on set to make a product and to make it good.  For me this is an expression of my creativity and an expression of my authenticity as a sexual being.

    There’s a dark side to the porn industry, and it’s that a lot of people get into it not because this work really speaks to them but because they mistakenly think it’s a super lucrative profession or just kind of don’t know what they are getting themselves into.  There are doors closed with all of our life choices, but porn closes some pretty big ones (teaching being a prime example – we see a lot of “ex-porn star teacher fired” type stories).  If you do this job because you like it and you’re proud of it, someone bringing it up can’t hurt you…but if porn is the record of you making life decisions you regret, it can be used as a weapon against you.  Girls ask me all the time about getting into porn, and I tell them what is good and what is bad about it and a lot of times they change their minds about doing it. This job really isn’t for everyone.

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    SimplySxy: What were some of the challenges which you faced when you started out in the industry?

    Lily:  I’m a bit of an unconventional porn star.  I have short hair, I’m sort of butch (I call myself “Hollywood Butch” as in “I’m not one, but I play one on TV”), I do girl/girl porn exclusively because I’m gay and not as a stepping stone to boy/girl and larger stardom.  I just f**k girls like I mean it.

    When I first got into porn, I had a lot of producers and agents tell me that I wasn’t going to be successful, particularly if I wasn’t willing to f**k men on camera.  I just decided to represent myself, and I feel that I’ve accomplished a lot.  I have my own website LilyCade.com, I’ve directed movies that have been nominated for AVN awards, I’ve won two Feminist Porn Awards, and I was up for Best All Girl Performer at the AVN Awards last year.  I’ve shot hundreds of scenes and I’m still going strong.

    I did make some changes to my look for porn.  I was really rough around the edges when I got in, but I like being able to be more versatile.  I’ll always have shorter hair, but I can rock an evening gown or a masculine suit depending on what the role calls for.  I learned everything I know about doing makeup after I got into porn – before porn I’d basically only worn it for Halloween.  I’ve grown a lot as a performer and as an actress.

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    SimplySxy: What are your views regarding pornography addiction?

    Lily: Pornography isn’t technically addictive, although certainly there are people who become obsessed with it.  I think any activity that you’re doing in lieu of human interaction can be a problem, whether that’s looking at porn or playing World of WarCraft or just watching television all day.  For some people, porn can be a really positive thing, as a masturbation aid or as an educational tool or as something to spice up partnered sex.  It’s about balance.  If your entire life is watching porn, that’s not great, but we’re talking about adults here.  I don’t feel that as a media creator I’m responsible for policing people’s media consumption or judging their lives.

    SimplySxy: Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy anal sex?

    Lily: If your definition of “anal sex” is someone’s dick in your ass, then you probably need to work up to it.  Rimming feels good to a lot of girls (although I’ve met chicks who hate it – humans have varied sexual tastes), so do toys like buttplugs.  If you approach anal like it’s a thing you’re trying to accomplish instead of approaching your ass as yet another conduit to pleasure, you’re doing it wrong.  Your ass has nerves in it.  Explore them and figure out what feels good to you.

    Anal hygiene is important too.  It’s way easier to relax around anal sex if you’re not worried about “santorum”.  Us porn girls are well acquainted with enemas.

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    SimplySxy: What is the ultimate role play for you?

    Lily: I like cops, prison guards, anyone in a uniform.  I like playing with this particular sort of power and the abuse thereof.  These sorts of authority figures are part of a system that’s f**ked.  Our prison system is just massively inequitable, but the uniforms are hot, and that power to f**k up your life is hot, and there’s something taboo about being drawn to something dangerous.

    I’ve done a lot of scenes where I’ve played a dirty cop and drawn attention to things that are unfair about the system while still doing really hot sex scenes so you get a touch of this “wrong but hot.”

    SimplySxy: Which do you think is the sexiest part of a men’s body?

    Lily: Oh honey. I’m the wrong gal to ask.  His money, I suppose, since I’m just not at all interested in men sexually.  I’ve never even kissed a boy .

    SimplySxy: What is your favourite sex toy?

    Lily: My strap-on.  I’m good with it, and I know how to give angles and do all the porno positions – picking girls up, pile-drivers, you catch my drift.  I like being able to f**k girls really hard, which I can also do with my hands, and I like the athleticism of it.  I think a lot of dildo use in porn scenes can be kind of disconnected – less using something to f**k each other and more using it to avoid having to have sex with one’s scene partner – but when I have my strap-on buried in some girl and I’m kissing her at the same time she’s definitely there with me.

    Also, a lot of the girls I f**k are kind of straight.  My energy is kind of masculine.  I’m a creature of the borderlands and a lot of girls who aren’t into girly girls are into me.  So the strap-on thing works for me.

    SimplySxy: Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?

    Lily:  Let go of your hangups. You have one life, and it’s dumb to be afraid of being honest about what you like and who you are.  Just be honest about your desires, both to yourself and to your partners.

    Also monogamy is insane. There is so much that you can learn from other people that limiting yourself to one person sexually is just a very silly choice, on the level of deciding to have only one friend.  Jealousy is a stupid emotion.  It’s so, so stupid.  I feel it too, but objectively it’s never brought anything of value, and I know better than to let it rule my life.

    SimplySxy: What defines a sexy man according to you?

    Lily:  I’m going to refer to question 6, and then answer this for woman.

    I’ve always said that my type is an energy thing.  I f**k a lot of really attractive women (porn star perks, guys, porn star perks…seriously this job is a f**king thrill ride) with a variety of looks.  I am not attracted to overweight women – I’ve always had to work hard to keep my own weight down, and it’s something I don’t like about myself, and it’s something that I just can’t cannot connect with erotically – but short of that I’m pretty open-minded.

    I’ve had mind-blowing sex with women that I wouldn’t look at a picture of and be aroused by but whose energy turned me on in person.  When a girl is into me, and I can feel her desire for me, that’s hot.  Or if she’s nervous but ready, that’s hot too.  I love butches and femmes and black women and white women – as long as she’s down, and game, and likes herself and likes sex.

    SimplySxy: In your opinion, what can a guy do to give a girl a mind-blowing orgasm?

    Lily:  What sex means to me is rocking my partner’s world.  I’m a service top – I’ll run the show, but you’re the star.  I’ve never actually had an orgasm from masturbation, but I have had them from being so turned on by my partner’s pleasure or carried away by being connected with her.  My sexuality is just profoundly other-focused.

    I don’t think that most people operate this way, but if you can channel that it goes a long way. Learn her body.  Pay attention to her.  The same moves do not work on every girl, although there is sort of a basic set of stuff to choose from.  I would say that the key to being a really good f**k is communication, both verbally and intuitively.

    I have a leg up on dudes, because I know what the stuff I’m doing to her feels like.  I can put my fingers in a girl and have this sense memory of what that feels like to me.  I know her spots because I have them too.  Yet, everyone is different, and plenty of women like things I don’t like..so you can learn to understand women too.  You just need to listen to them with all five of your senses .

    SimplySxy: A last message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers?

    Lily: I love my fans. I’m not a typical porn star, and I don’t want to be.  I’m assertive and opinionated and I don’t do bullshit and I love that my fans support me in expressing my real self.  I’m an entertainer, and an entertainer needs an audience. When people tell me that my work has affected them it means a lot to me.

    If you like the things I’ve said, and you’d like to see me in action, check out my website LilyCade.com or follow me on twitter at @lily_cade

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    Images courtesy of Lily Cade

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  • Meet Meiko Askara, the new Porn Princess

    Meet Meiko Askara, the new Porn Princess

    SimplySxy presents its Pornography Special Feature 2014.  We are delighted to present Meiko Askara, dubbed the new Porn Princess, as the first interview in this series.  Meiko shares with us a secret to spice it up in bed and we get her opinion on the age old question, does size really matter?

    Meiko Askara: First off Thank you for this wonderful opportunity and interview.  My name is Meiko and I’m a 18yr. old mixed raced Japanese/Taiwanese budding starlet who entered into the Adult industry pretty much out of High School since turning 18 back in October 2013.  I am currently a college student and grew up in Northern California living a very normal family and social life.  I’ve always wanted to be a performer in Adult film as I am a very sexual person but wasn’t sure how to go about it.  I made contact with someone who was familiar with the Adult Film industry who  was able to steer me in the right direction with their Adult industry connections.  I’m normally a very quiet person in everyday life who likes to garden and paint on my free time but a little wild in the bedroom.  My First scene was with Kink.com a famous BDSM fetish site.  It was a Hardcore Four guy Gang-Bang with double penetration and anal.  I shot with some of the Pro’s in the biz.  I shot that scene in I think in December 2013.

    MG_1747SimplySxy:  Where do you feel the current direction of the adult industry is heading towards?

    Meiko: The Adult industry has for the most part, for years been based on the business model for adult entertainment performers where Agents are contacted by producers of various sites and niches and our business arrangements are handled by our agents.  We could elect not to do the scene but do not have much control of the content that is being shot or the pricing structure for the various scenes in which we are being asked to perform in.  A current trend is one where the Adult Performer is in charge of his or her own destiny.  Where we determine our own pricing structure and have more control of the content of our scene based on the consumers fantasies and using our Fan’s script as the base to develop the scene to be shot.  The business is about being personal, not necessarily producing pre-scripted scenes from big production companies.  Social media such as twitter helps facilitate dialogue between performers and fans, and helps us promote our own ventures where the Fan is the director.  Such sites such as Clips For Sale and Customs4U are good examples of this business model.  Many of us are now doing webcam appearances and creating our own content and custom videos from the comfort of our own homes where there is a close symbiotic relationship between the Adult Performer and the fan directly.  Scripted content from big production companies will not be going anywhere anytime soon but there is definitely a new trend occurring in the industry for a more personalized experience for the consumer of Porn.

    SimplySxy: What are some of the misconceptions people have about the adult industry?

    Meiko: I guess one of the biggest misconceptions is how long a porn shoot actually takes even for a 5-10 minute scene.  Between make-up, wardrobe and the crew setting up equipment it can be an all day affair.  It’s a lot of work.  Another misconception is that just because a male or female talent does Porn, it is assumed we also do escorting on the side.  While some girls in the industry do escort on the side, most of us strictly keep our sexual encounters private or perform in a very regulated professional environment.  I might add that the industry is very regulated with mandatory 14 day STD/HIV testing and production companies will not shoot us and performers will not perform with someone who does not have a current test.  The industry as a whole is actually in some aspects safer than the one night stand that some members of the general public engages in.  The industry takes a bad rap every time an HIV scare occurs.  It becomes a media circus and all the anti-porn crusaders point to the industry as a cause of sexually transmitted diseases when the opposite is actually the case when the hard numbers and facts are actually analyzed, it will show that HIV outbreaks are actually quite rare when compared to the number of outbreaks in the general public.

    unnamed-5SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?

    Meiko: To be quite frank, anal scenes where the performer has not taken the proper preparatory measures can lead to an embarrassing moment where shooting needs to stop and the talent needs to “Clean Up “.  The embarrassment is minimal as everyone in the industry is very professional and when an accident does occur, it’s a brief interruption and then the scene continues.

    SimplySxy: Were you nervous when you made your debut porno?

    Meiko: Actually ……NO.  It came too natural for me.  Not sure if that’s a good trait. Haha

    SimplySxy: Where is your favourite filming location/scene?

    Meiko: I really enjoyed my first scene with kink.com.  It was a four guy hardcore gangbang.  It allowed me to test my limits in a sexual manner while being in an environment that was completely safe.  I got to shoot in a beautiful mansion in the Hills down in Southern California with some very good looking male talent.  I had a blast.

  • Interview: Betty Dodson

    Interview: Betty Dodson

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    Artist, sex-educator, writer, and feminist, Betty Dodson originally began her career as an artist.  In 1968, the Wichita-Kansas native entered the sexual arena with the first one-woman show of erotic art held in New York at the Wickersham Gallery.  Three other exhibitions followed and in 1973, Dodson produced and presented the first feminist slide show of vulvas at the 1973 NOW Sexuality Conference, New York in which she introduced the then revolutionary idea of an electric vibrator as a pleasure device.  She next went beyond the art world with her groundbreaking book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove which became a feminist classic.  Her subsequent work, Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, sold over a million copies and became a mainstay in some feminists’ circles.

    Sex for One is in part, a memoir of Dodson personal journey for a healthy sexual self-image.  The book also utilized her provocative and powerful images of couples making love, individuals exploring their bodies and close-up drawings of vulvas.  In 2002, she published Orgasms for Two, a work embracing partner sex.  Most recently, she released My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir, an e-book which details her experiences with America’s Sexual Revolution, the women’s movement and her feminist sexual activism with bodysex groups that she conducted over a span of 25 years.

    Dodson has spent decades helping women and men understand that self-love is both healthy and beautiful and a portal to sexual freedom.  Her work with sex-positive feminist, Carlin Ross, encompasses every aspect of female sexuality and continues to attract legions of admirers.

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    Francesca Miller spends 15 minutes with world renowned sex educator, author and artist, Betty Dodson to discuss her career and views on erotica today.

    Q: A Women’s study class introduced me to Sex for One and I still have my original copy. Can you talk about the early responses to Sex for One? 

    For some, I was their favourite dirty joke, but many others appreciated my honest approach to a taboo subject.

    Q: How has your work been greeted by the religious community?

    Ignored as you might expect.

    Q: There seems to be a generational divide between women and masturbation. Younger women and teens seem to embrace it along with sex toys and pornography, while older women still have issues with it. Can you speak to that?

    Since I answer questions from girls and women the world over, I have to disagree with your assessment. Far too many continue to believe they will get their orgasms from Romeo’s penis once they find Mr. Right and “fall in love.”

    Q: You are the first woman to refer to yourself as a sex-positive feminist. Can you discuss your brand of feminism versus what some consider traditional feminism? Have you noticed a change in the way other feminists respond to your work?

    I can’t take full credit for that term. In the 80’s I joined an academic group of women who wanted to counter WAP (women against pornography) by creating FFE (Feminists for Freedom of Expression). Neither group lasted that long. However, I continued to use the term “Sex Positive Feminists” in my articles while others dropped it.

    Unfortunately many feminists feared the subject of sex as a divisive topic. It took me 40 years of teaching women how to have orgasms with masturbation to finally enter mainstream feminism. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat.

    Q: In your workshops, you invite women to look at their vaginas and embrace their beauty. I’ve noticed that some women have their vulvas surgically transformed to fit the image of adult film actresses. I live in Los Angeles and have even ads on the radio for cosmetic vaginal surgery. Can you talk about it?

    I didn’t have women looking at their “vaginas.” That’s the birth canal and we would have needed a speculum. Instead we viewed the outer form of the vulva to see we were all different and also quite beautiful.

    Since women are so insecure, they see their boyfriends masturbating to porn and they imitate what they think men want. Most porn stars not only get their inner lips trimmed but they also have breast implants, liposuction, laser treatments and numerous other procedures to look good on camera. Labiaplasty is just another way plastic surgeons make money from foolish women trying to please men.

    Q: The popularity of erotic romances like Fifty Shades of Grey has led many women to self-pleasuring and “battery-operated-boyfriends”. Have you read Fifty Shades of Grey?  What do you think of literary erotica?

    I enjoy well written erotica. However Fifty Shades was poorly written and it did the SM community a disservice. This subculture is always clear about consent and boundaries. Fifty Shades was the ultimate in romantic crap that we might call female porn.

    Betty Dodson is a pioneer in women’s sexual liberation and has for more than 30 years been conducting workshops to help women (and occasionally men) overcome their reservations with their sexuality.  An accomplished author, Betty’s first book Sex for One has sold more than a million copies.

  • Interview with Mistress Anna

    Interview with Mistress Anna

    The recent HongKong Kink Con was held from 14-16 February and SimplySxy had the opportunity to ask one of the presenters, Mistress Anna, a few questions on her involvement in HKKC as well as her interests.

    SimplySxy: How did you get involved in HKKC?

    Mistress Anna: I was very lucky to be put forward by Decima of whom I had became acquainted with at Sydney Rope Dojo several years ago. I had also invited Decima along to my Sydney Dommes & subs Munch on several occasions and she made quite a lasting impact with the group. Such an experienced international Domina!

    SimplySxy: What can people look forward to in your Humiliation and CBT workshops and why are they so popular?

    Mistress Anna: I hope I can bring my own style and flavour to the table- I tend to be sadistic… in the nicest or NOT SO nicest possible way {evil grin}. I’m sure there are some of the old favourites and I hope to show {and hopefully learn} a new trick or two.

    I think these classes are so popular because they can bring out the most down right evil and sadistic play. Humiliation play can delve deep into the psyche and can touch our most inner emotions.

    SimplySxy: At HKKC you’re conducting two Boot Camp Mistress sessions. How do they differ from more conventional Bootcamps offered in various cities around the world?

    Mistress Anna: Getting fit and BDSM is the best possible kind of match! Who doesn’t want to be “FORCED to get fit”?

    SimplySxy: How important is it to attend workshops as a presenter or an attendee?

    Mistress Anna: People should never stop learning, expanding and experiencing. There are always new techniques, revision, networking, community good will and more to be shared from a presenter or attendees point.

    SimplySxy: Brian Robertson mentioned in his interview that he chose you because you are so integrated into your own community as an organiser. How do you contribute to your community in Sydney?

    Mistress Anna: My contributions in the Kink Community are integrated into all aspects of my Lifestyle. I run The Sydney Dommes and subs group, we meet monthly for a Munch and I usually have a topic or theme.

    During the Munches we have raised money for ACON (as part of The Boot Camp CITY2SURF group), against Human Trafficking in Thailand, WIRES for the Wildlife from the Australian bushfire disasters, and in February we are supporting one of our Domina who is doing FEBFAST (raising money for alcohol and drug rehabilitation).
    Last year we had a Domme and sub “Morning Tea” when VIP guest Milla Reika was here for Sydney Rope Festival and in March we support one of our Ladies who is “Ms Sydney Leather 2013” to fly to the U.S to vie for the International role.

    I have extended invitations to other groups such as Sydney Leather Pride, Ms Dee from UBER, SWOP and HELLFIRE to our Munches to widen the knowledge in our community and in kind I have been asked to present workshops during Sydney Leather Pride week and at UBER.  My Boot Camp sessions have branched off into 1 to 1 Boot Camp sessions and I often “manscape” subs with hair removal by wax.  My dear friend Ms Silk takes Kinky Yoga at my premises together we motivate kinksters through better health and flexibility to achieve their own personal kinky goals. A health and nutrition catering company called “Love Kitchen” operates out of my premises from my commercial kitchen~kinksters can order daily and weekly bespoke meals.

    My vision is for healthy mind, body and spirit for our Kink Community under one roof~a holistic integrated centre.  Next to join me will be a Life Coach, a Nutritionist, a Chiropractor, Naturopath and Massuse.  The plan seems to be coming together!!

    For more information on Mistress Anna, visit her website here.  HongKong Kink Con might be over for this year, but do follow them at their website here to keep yourself updated for any new information or events that might be coming up!

  • Interview with erotic romance novelist Julie Shelton

    Interview with erotic romance novelist Julie Shelton

    Julie Shelton’s Dark Warrior

    With two highly successful erotic romances novels, Loving Sarah and Owing Sarah, under her belt, Julie Shelton returns with her hotly anticipated third book, Dark Warrior.  Based in Atlanta, Georgia, Julie received the Top Pick Award at Risque Reviews for Loving Sarah and is also a recipient of the EDPRESS Award for Excellence in Educational Journalism.

    Due for release this January 15th 2014, I had the unique opportunity of getting to know Julie’s inspiration behind Dark Warrior and her passion for writing.js-darkwarrior

    Mandy Tan:  Congratulations Julie on the upcoming release of your new book Dark Warrior, as well as taking the time out to answer a few questions on SimplySxy.  Please share with us about Dark Warrior and what readers can expect from it.

    Julie Shelton:  Thank you so much, Mandy for having me on SimplySxy.  Dark Warrior is my third book to be published, but it was actually the very first book I sat down and wrote from start to finish—and that was over forty years ago!  Readers can expect a thrilling story about three people who find a love so powerful, so forbidden, it places them in extreme danger and forces them to make devastating choices.

    Mandy:  What led you to writing Dark Warrior

    Julie:  I was in college and buried in research on the Middle Ages because I wanted to graduate “With Honors” and in order to meet the requirements I had to write a paper of at least 100 pages on any subject, although the paper had to be in French, since French was my major.  I had always loved the middle ages, so I decided to write my paper on life in a French castle during the 13th century.  While I was researching, taking notes on 3 x 5 index cards, one fact per card, the entire plot of Dark Warrior literally sprang into mind.  I couldn’t write it down fast enough—also on 3 x 5 index cards, one sentence per card.  The finished book filled two shoe boxes, which I lugged around with me for the next thirty years as I moved from place to place.  When I got my first computer in 2003, Dark Warrior was the first thing I transcribed onto my word processor.

    Mandy:  Where did the inspiration come to begin writing erotic romance novels and what is the story behind getting your first novel Loving Sarah published?

    Julie: Well, over the next thirty years, while Dark Warrior languished in its shoe boxes, I started keeping a writer’s notebook, which I carried with me everywhere, jotting down descriptions, thoughts, plot ideas, bits of conversations.  You know.  Everything.  In the meantime, I was a children’s librarian, then a professional storyteller and puppeteer, writing children’s stories, songs, finger plays, etc.  I also wrote what used to be referred to as a Gothic novel, as well as a teacher’s resource book on storytelling and making puppets.

    I didn’t get the inspiration to write EROTIC romance novels until I discovered Lora Leigh, and from the first word, I. Was. Hooked.  Couldn’t get enough.  Started reading everything I could get my hands on, and back then, it didn’t seem like there was enough.  Then I discovered BDSM.  Couldn’t get enough of it!  When the idea for Loving Sarah came to mind, I just sat down at the computer and started writing.  I worked on it for four years, writing, polishing, editing, re-editing, etc.

    Then I lost it!  The entire 385-page manuscript.  Wiped it clean out of my computer.  I was devastated. Moped around for months, despairing of ever being able to rewrite an entire novel.  And then one day I had to print something and the first page to come out of the printer was the 370th page of Loving Sarah!  The entire novel, except the last 15 pages was still in the print queue!  Needless to say, I decided to finish it and send it off to a publisher ASAP.

    I picked Siren because they published many of my newly-discovered favourite authors.  You can imagine how thrilled I was when they said they wanted to publish it!

    Mandy:  What do you love most about writing erotic romance novels?

    Julie:  I love the deep emotional commitment and almost spiritual connection BDSM brings to a relationship.  Then, of course, there’s all that wild, kinky sex, heh heh heh.

    Mandy:  I am sure your books have been an inspiration to many readers out there.  Do you have any advice to aspiring erotic romance novelists?

    Julie:   Just put your butt in the chair and write.  And when you’re not writing, read.  Do your research.

    Mandy:  What are your plans after Dark Warrior and is there a fourth book in the pipeline?

    Julie:  There IS a fourth book in the pipeline.  I am currently working on a third book about Sarah, Jesse and Adam which will explore the growing attraction between Jesse and Adam.  It will be shorter than the first two.  Then I’m planning books about some of Jesse and Adam’s former SEAL buddies.

    Mandy:  I am eagerly looking forward to reading Dark Warrior when it is out.  Are you able to share an excerpt from Dark Warrior to give our readers a taste of what is to come?

    Julie:  I would love to share an excerpt from Dark Warrior.  Just be sure to have a fan and a pitcher of ice water handy before you read it, lol.

    ADULT EXCERPT

    They stared at her, their hot eyes raking over her breasts, her belly, and the golden triangle of hair between her thighs. A hot flush stained her skin a delightful shade of pink, evidence of her acute state of arousal. And the fact that she was naked, while they were both still fully dressed gave her a feeling of deep disorientation. She was filled with such hunger, such love, such all-consuming need, she could barely stand.

    Shivering, dry-mouthed, she watched Rolf’s expression as he reached out and touched her breasts with reverent fingers, his deeply tanned skin such a contrast to the soft creaminess of hers. His thumb rubbed across her hard little nipple and her face twisted, contorting with a mixture of love and lust so powerful, it presented more as pain than pleasure.

    Spellbound, he watched his thumb dragging across her dusky nipple, his heated stare like fire brushing her skin. “By all the gods, yndling! Thou art bewitching, enchanting. Thou art perfection itself. And thy scent…” He leaned forward and inhaled deeply. “Thy scent is ravishing. Like the sweetest flower garden.” He covered her breast with his palm while his other hand stroked down her belly and cupped her mound, sliding his long fingers through the slippery furrow of her slit.

    She gasped. It was almost a sob. Her body jerked and would have collapsed if Nicholas’s hands hadn’t come beneath her arms from behind and held her up.

    “I can’t wait to taste thee here.” Rolf’s low voice was rough as sand, abrading her nerve endings, leaving her senses in chaos. Two wicked fingers found her weeping entrance and thrust up inside her hot, welcoming sheath.

    Her throat closed on a yelp.

    “That’s right, kaereste. Suck my fingers into that sweet dripping cunny of thine. Bloody Hel, thou’rt so tight! So hot. Thou art burning my fingers. I cannot wait to fuck thee with my tongue.”

    She moaned, shutting her eyes helplessly.

    Still fully dressed, both men walked her slowly backwards toward the bed, keeping her naked body sandwiched between them, Rolf’s hand still hard on her mound, fingers stroking in and out of her dripping cunt. “Odin’s beard, Nick, she is so wet! So hot!”

    Another moan, a mangled sound, ripped from the depths of her soul. She was never going to survive this. These men were going to give her pleasure beyond anything she had ever known. Anything she had ever dreamed. Anything she had ever dared to hope—or even imagine. They were going to introduce her to a world of darkly erotic pleasure that would ultimately destroy the person she was and change her forever in ways she could not yet begin to understand. A pleasure that would awaken her body to wicked new cravings and desires that would could ultimately consume her.

    And, God help her, she wanted it. She wanted it more than she had ever wanted aught in her entire life.

    Still holding her under the arms, Nicholas sat on the edge of the bed, pulling her up after him, scooting backwards until he was sitting on the pillows at the head of the bed, with her sitting in the V of his thighs. His erection was a hard ridge against her spine. He leaned back against the ornately carved headboard. Rolf’s hand left her sex and she let out a whimper of disappointment.

    Nicholas’s hands moved to her knees, which he lifted and spread wide, draping her legs over his powerful forearms. The scent of her arousal filled the air around them. “Christ, beloved! You smell wonderful! So sweet.”

    She sighed, looking down her body at Rolf.

    Having removed his baldric, with its two lethal swords, he swiftly removed the rest of his clothing and leaned on his hands at the foot of the bed, wild and barbaric, the gold earring gleaming dully in the firelight. He was the epitome of a Viking raider preparing to ravish his helpless captive.

    Kathryn’s lungs seized, her eyes riveted to the primitive symbols marking his bronzed skin. The scything blades on one bicep, the Celtic knot on the other…Blessed Virgin! She’d never seen aught like them before. They made him seem completely pagan. Barbaric. He grinned and her heart stopped beating. She was suspended in time, unable to move, unable to breathe. Unable to think. She was in the grip of an arousal so intense, every part of her body was throbbing with uncontrollable lust.

    Licking his lips, a gesture that had her hot juices flowing out onto the sheets, Rolf started to crawl up the mattress toward her, toward that swollen, dripping sweetness between her legs, pink and juicy and throbbing with need. He was grinning, a diabolically wicked grin that stole her breath away.

    She tried to swallow but her mouth was as dry as dust. “Nicholas!” It was a squeak. A frantic cry for help. “This is going to kill me!” Rolf was still crawling up the bed, inexorably closing the distance between her old life and the ramifications of this terrifying new journey they were all embarking upon.

    Nicholas was chuckling. “Only if ’tis possible to die of pleasure.” He paused. “Let him pleasure you, beloved,” Nicholas whispered in her ear. “Just lie in my arms and enjoy his mouth on you, while I watch.”

    “I cannot wait to taste that beautiful little cunt,” Rolf said in a rumbling growl, his glittering eyes still holding her captive. “I have been dreaming of this since the moment I first laid eyes on thee, min skat. It has taken every ounce of discipline I’ve had not to put my hands on thee. And now I get to put my mouth on thee.” He grinned. “Life does not get any better.”

    Mandy:  Thank you very much for your time Julie, I wish you all the best for Dark Warrior and am sure it will be a great success.

    Dark Warrior will be released on January 15th 2014.  You can purchase it at www.bookstrand.com/dark-warrior.  If you buy it by January 22, you get a 15% discount!  For more information on Julie and her books, you can visit her website at http://www.juliesheltonauthor.com