Category: Lifestyle

How to be a great Top

I find sex to be one of the most exciting things to enjoy with another person. Sex can be like music, depending on the song itself, it might not be to your taste and that goes with guys. If they say they are top and they have a small dick then it’s like metal, all sound and no performance. Guys that top have a responsibility, you may think you can just fuck someone and be done but you have to make sure the bottom is experiencing it the same way; otherwise the bottom can tighten and turn your pleasure into pain. I have topped and bottomed for guys and there is a whole world of difference in the two. As a top I had to make sure they were not hurting from the thrusts and as a bottom I had to find a way to make it comfortable for me but to also control the tops movement. It’s really difficult but so much fun when you hear them scream whether you are fucking them for entertainment or revenge.

Is foreplay crucial?

Foreplay is not crucial but fun, if they come home looking stressed, always start with a massage because not only do they instantly get naked for you, they can get stress relief from the foreplay and you can find parts of their body that makes them moan with pleasure. Foreplay shouldn’t be too long but can sometimes go too far. Blindfolding can be sexy with them not being able to see what’s coming, but don’t take it too far or the next thing you know, that whip you try to use will be fired back at you. My personal favorite is forbidden sex, going somewhere where sex is not allowed and having fun is definitely the way to go for me, especially when caught.

Lube is helpful..

I always use lube when I top because generally, guys who bottom can be quite tight so it helps alongside rimming them before. Just make sure they are clean before you decide to rim them or you could end up with a Hershey kiss. If they are allergic to lube like some guys, then rimming can be either one or the only alternative to make sure your cock remains attached to your body when you enter that tight hole. Although I think moisturizer, can be a very useful product. Moisturize the edges of the hole. That way, it doesn’t burn on the inside and you can slide in there like that guy has been bottom so much his ass can do the talking for him.

Great Topping positions

Guys have their own preferences, because there’s something good about each. Missionary gives both the ability to watch each other’s reactions. It also allows the top to masturbate the bottom as he strokes. The bottom can urge the top on with his hands on his ass, and if you’re into kissing, it’s good.

Doggy is good for hard fast thrusting, and the top can pull the bottom into him by holding onto his waist. Being on your sides, gives good body contact, and the top can rub the bottoms chest, masturbate him, and play with his nipples, even suck them when the bottom puts his arm around the tops’ back. As far as body contact, the top can put all his weight against the bottom in both mission and doggy. A lot of bottoms love that for both the friction their erection gets (either on the stomach of the top in mission, or against the bed sheets in doggy), and the feeling of submission they get being trapped.

All said, just experiment and try them all. You’ll find you like different parts of different positions, and probably at different times too.

How to relax the Bottom

A bottom is never ready; the only way you can help them is by making sure they are relaxed from the start. Teasing them and allowing them to take a little control can help them settle into the sex, drinking a little can also help. Nothing mad like shots or beer because that will set your stomach to go crazy once you add a cock. Go for a nice glass of wine watered down, that way it doesn’t settle and you have a little confidence (I’m speaking for the bottom to drink, not the top. A top to drink could mean a flaccid sex drive). As a bottom, you must also make sure your legs are close to your stomach, that way your anal experience will hurt less.

Things the Top should note

Tops need to look out for anal cleanliness, if that hole isn’t clean, than safe sex is the option to go. You don’t want your dick to look like you dipped it in the wrong chocolate. If your bottom boy is moaning in the wrong way, make sure you reposition him to help give him just as much pleasure as you are getting from fucking him senseless.

The worst thing you can do is just jam it in. Unless your bottom is like a freeway on a ramp, a slow start is best. I find the best way to start is to slowly slide it in (with plenty of lube). Don’t get creative yet. Just watch and listen to their reaction. It gives them time to relax. It’s at this point that I have learned it’s better to grind rather than fuck. It’s the “in and out” that can be painful in the beginning but grinding slow is hot, passionate and a great way to start.

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August 31, 2015
Parents, should you be talking to your children about sex more?

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For today’s questions, we touch on a topic related to parenting and sex ed from you and we’re delighted to have sex educator Cath Hakanson share her answer below.

Is there a current lack of sex ed for children by their parents at home and why?

After 20 plus years of talking with people about sex, yes, I believe that parents aren’t doing enough sex ed.

Now, when I talk about sex ed, I’m not talking about ‘the talk’ that happens at puberty. That type of sex ed is common, even though research tells us that it isn’t helpful. I am talking about the type of sex ed that helps kids to develop the skills they need to have healthy relationships.

Every parents dream is that their kid/s will live a happy and fulfilled life. Part of that is the ability to have good friends around you and a loving partner. Sex ed gives kids the skills and knowledge they need as adults to live a happy and fulfilled life.

So why aren’t parents doing ‘sex ed’? I believe that parents struggle with sex ed because it is just too hard.

With a name like ‘sex ed’ , of course we are going to think that it is all about sex. And who wants to talk to their kids about sex?

Your kids might ask you something that you can’t answer? You might tell them too much and they will lose their innocence. And how do you even begin to answer their questions? Then they may start asking questions at the wrong time and place such as at the supermarket, or even at dinner with the in-laws! You may even be encouraging them to act out sexually with this new knowledge. Maybe your kids are too young yet, so there is no point in starting just yet. Or maybe you have just left it too late, another reason to not start! Plus, won’t they just pick up what they need to know from school? And talking about sex is just plain embarrassing, so why even go there?

Wow, a hell of a lot of reasons to not do sex ed. And I don’t blame you, as a parent I also found sex ed too hard! But the reason that I found it too hard was because I didn’t know what I had to do and how to do it! And once I realised that sex was only a small part of sex ed, it became a lot easier!

As parents should make the first move to talk about sex first, at which stage of a child’s life should a parent touch on and which topic?

When it comes to sex ed, it is never too early to start or too late! What you need to talk about depends on the age of your child and their natural curiosity.

Up to the age of 3, sex ed is pretty simple. It is about laying the foundations for lifelong attitudes about their body, gender differences and roles, and how to behave within and outside the home.

Between the ages of 3 and 5, kids are openly interested and curious about their own and other’s bodies. So sex ed is all about bodies, body ownership, genital play, reproduction, feelings, and boundaries in regards to touch, nudity, and privacy.

5 to 8 year olds are often full of curiosity and questions but are starting to be more private. Sex ed includes more in depth information about bodies, reproduction, puberty, sexual behaviour, friendships, love, families, sexual orientation and personal skills.

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August 31, 2015
How can you support a Transgender family member or friend?

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We have collected your questions on Transgender health issues, and are delighted to have Gavin Everard to answer them below.

Question: How do I support a Transgender family member or friend?

1. Believe and affirm their experience of their felt sex/gender. People usually struggle for years and years internally before they finally feel strong enough in themselves to come out to friends and family. It’s getting better, but most trans people still don’t even know that it’s possible to be transgender when they are growing up, or are told that they are bad or wrong for having those feelings.

2. Use your friend or family member’s preferred pronoun, even if it feels hard at first.

3. Support them financially if you can afford to do so. As mentioned above, most trans-specific care is not covered by insurance because insurers are bigoted, not family with the newest research and guidelines, and they make money by coming up with reasons not to cover care. This care, if people want it (not all trans people do) is vitally important for people’s mental and physical well-being, and people are often forced to delay getting it for years while they save up. Helping your friend or loved one reach their medical goals sooner can help them avoid more serious health problems down the road. For example, trans men who bind their breasts to get a more male-appearing chest develop back, lung and even heart problems over time due to the constant squeeze.

4. Advocate for trans people in conversation with your friends or co-workers. Don’t let people say bigoted things on your watch. Correct people, educate them, and make it clear that hateful or ill-informed talk about transgender people will not be tolerated in your presence. We don’t do the work of making the world safer for transgender and gender non-conforming people on our own. We need your help.

Gavin Everard is an acupuncturist who works with primarily queer and trans clients on chronic pain, urogenital issues and trauma healing. Gavin also trains healthcare providers on how to give trans-competent care.

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August 27, 2015
The success of Korean Pride 2015

One of the oldest prides in Asia, the Korean Queer Culture Festival (KQCF) just completed its 16^th run this year and its success cannot be overstated. The opening slogan was ‘Queer Revolution!’ and with the turnout and enthusiasm that surrounded the 3 week-long event, it looks like this revolution will not stop just because the festival came to a close.

The festival which consisted of various activities over 28 days was attended by many. The parade alone saw as many as 30,000 people in attendance. That is the highest attendance the KQCF has ever received. It is also the longest parade ever in the history of KQCF, starting from the Seoul Tiffany Square to Sogongro. That makes the parade route a 2.6km celebration.

There were many small victories for KQCF this year which lead to the overall success of the event. Apart from having the greatest attendance and longest parade route thus far, the Transgender Flag made its first appearance ever in the history of KQCF. It was flown in front of the parade with the parade leader. The first transgender group joined the parade in 2013. Only this year did they decide to make a flag to wake proudly in the parade.

Despite the various disturbances from hate groups, organisers report that there was an increase in attendance. More people came in order to show their support for the sexual minorities and actively resist the hate groups present.

While some in the local community that were not supportive of the events, there were many in the international community who lent their support. More than 100 organisations from 13 different countries were part of the parade. Several Embassy staff from Germany, France and Finland embassies even came down in support and have a fun day. The support from foreign dignitaries is very heartening according to organisers. Organisers commented that because of this support, future plans hope to include expatriates and the international community more. “We will try to give the special moments to all LGBTQ” organisers say. It looks like no one will ever be excluded if you attend KQCF in the coming years.

International support did not just come from individuals and organisations who are based in Korea. With social media and the powers of online journalism, more global attention has been given to KQCF. Participants were actively showing their pride on twitter, facebook and Instagram. And so the hashtag #kqcf2015 was born.

Word of their struggles and the resistance they faced spread like wildfire. Various journalism sites picked up the story. These include Buzzfeed.com, Forbes.com, thediplomat.com, Simplysxy.com (of course!) and many more.

The Koreans really want their revolution. They refused to be silenced. And it seems that the world is listening.

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August 10, 2015
Erotic and Sexy Bridal Lingerie for that Very Special Day 🙂

Most of all women and men love lingerie. In fact, men may even love it more than women! Nevertheless, selecting sexy and erotic lingerie for your wedding day should be a priority. Many people don’t seem to realize it but what you wear underneath your bridal gown is just as important as the wedding dress itself. Getting married is one of the most important days of your life and with all of the hustle and bustle of everything else that goes into planning a wedding, there have been too many a time where the bride-to-be forgets about the most important things that are unquestionably necessities for the wedding day as well as the honeymoon. Thank goodness that most women who announce their engagement have fabulous friends that are there to plan bachelorette parties and take on numbers of wedding duties just to ease the burden of the happy couple who have check everything off of their list, on top of everything else.

Regardless of what type of wedding you have or where you have it, bridal lingerie is sexy, erotic and it plays a big role both during the wedding day and wedding night. Many a time, the bridesmaids who plan the bridal showers and private bridal parties will shop for intimate apparel for the bride so that there is a selection to wear both on the wedding night as well as each night of the honeymoon.

A lingerie is an undergarment that should hug your curves and define every inch of your torso. With that being said, give your friends, bridesmaids, etc an idea of what type of lingerie you feel comfortable in because wedding night or not, no one wants to feel uncomfortable in her sexy underthings.

Choose an array of desirable and sensual lingerie that the bride will feel comfortable wearing and bridal lingerie that the groom will like so much that he’ll want to take each piece off with his teeth. Remember the thigh highs, garter belts and heels because that is the cherry on top of the cake!

Determine what your preference in intimate apparel is and make your selection depending on the following:

1) Is it comfortable? Comfort is nice if you plan on wearing your lingerie all day, however, if you are in search of bridal lingerie that will bring your new spouse to his/her knees, it does not have to be comfortable because chances are, it’s not going to be worn for too long.

2) Style. Is it a style that you feel sexy in? Fabric isn’t quite as important as you most likely won’t be wearing it for too long on a honeymoon night. If there is a fabric that irritates your skin however, let someone know so that you don’t end up with a skin rash or irritation around your privates and feeling sore. Nothing would put a damper on the wedding night or honeymoon more so than this.

3) Color. Don’t buy lingerie that is in a color that doesn’t mesh with your skin type as you want it to flow with every inch of your body and look as if it was designed just for you. You also want it to be fashionable lingerie as it will most definitely be a piece that will be remembered for a very long time.

4) Size. Buy the right size. There is nothing worse than trying to slip into a piece of lingerie and finding out that it’s the wrong size and that you can’t get it up past your thighs without splitting it.

Getting erotic on the wedding night and the honeymoon is all about letting go and just feeling good about being with the person you’ve chosen to be with. Whether you decide to role play in bedroom costumes, or get kinky in adult costumes or lingerie, remember to pack a variety of honeymoon intimates for your travel adventures.

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August 10, 2015
How two Chinese photographers shed lights on homosexuality in China through their lens?

Homosexuality has been a social taboo in China for decades, and even as situations are improving elsewhere in the world, China’s homosexual community remains mostly hidden from mainstream society. However, two Chinese photographers, Masa and Mojo decide to end this decades-long silence and reveal the everyday lives of 48 gays, lesbians and their families through their lens. They spent six months and visited 11 Chinese cities to complete their documentary, “A Straight Journey: days and nights in their kingdom.” This is the first cinematic work of any kind that focuses on the lives of Chinese homosexuals.

It all started with their initial idea of shooting portraits of homosexuals in China. Their routine chats with each subject before the shoot ignited their interest in documenting the meaningful exchanges. They realized that there is still a huge gap between heterosexual and homosexual communities. Homosexuals always hope to be understood and treated equal, but very few of them have the courage to reveal their homosexual identities. This often prevents others to understand their situation fully. On the other hand, heterosexuals always think they know their homosexual peers well, but in fact, mainstream society’s understanding of homosexuality is still stereotypical. Stereotypes like “homosexuals have good sense of fashion” or “homosexuality is a disease and it should remain discreet” are all false understandings acquired from distorted media reports or subjective reasoning.

They think Chinese homosexuals have a better living environment comparing to peers in many other countries. In the United States, while public understanding and discussion about homosexuality is sufficient, there are still certain religions that are anti-homosexual and hate crimes are still quite common. However, the gap between the two sides in China remains due to the fact that most heterosexuals have never met homosexuals that are out in public. As a result, their project looked for homosexuals that were willing to be identified in front of the camera. In other words, they are using actual human faces to replace the homosexual tag that has long been used in China. Instead of forcefully educating others the right way to treat homosexuals, they simply want to present real homosexuals to the rest of society. They want to reduce the fear and refusal stemmed from the lack of understanding through the project.

To them, the advancement of Internet technology has positioned Chinese homosexuals at the crossroad of “day” and “night.”

“Situations have changed dramatically in the past five years,” said Masa and Mojo in an e-mail interview. “Some of them are still in the dark while others have chosen lives under the sun. It is a stage full of stories.”

As photographers, they hope to generate more rational discussions and attract attention for homosexuality in China. Instead of reaching consensus, they rather help Chinese people to think about this question and realize that this is a significant question. It is a very basic but important step. They think that letting the homosexual community appear positively in media is also an important influence.

However, things were not always smooth-sailing during the shooting process. They had a hard time finding suitable subjects, and they had no financial support during the six-month trip.

“We often had to sleep on different sofas,” said Masa and Mojo. “We were unable to find the best balance and we struggled to deliver the best quality shots throughout the process.”

But the result redeems all their sacrifices. The film’s achievement is beyond their imagination. They successfully shared the stories of 48 homosexuals with millions of Chinese people, but they believe the topic of homosexuality remains complicated that it will be hard to initiate deeper discussion on a larger scale.

When asked about their thoughts on gay rights movement and marriage equality in China, they expressed optimism. They think since the homosexual culture has become more vibrant and open, the younger generation can soon make history in China. Additionally, the global wave of marriage equality is also gradually influencing China’s tradition. In a way, China is adapting to a more openminded era and they believe that positive changes will occur soon.

The duo didn’t dwell on their historic achievement for too long as they have began shooting and editing their next documentary, which features one of the characters in “A Straight Journey.”

(To have a peek into Masa and Mojo’s 2015 ShanghaiPRIDE winning film, please refer to it here.)

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August 7, 2015
A Guide to Hair Removal Through the Ages …

Several years ago, I waxed my pussy for the first time. I had refused a totally naked vagina for years, mostly due to finding a bald mons pubis quite confronting and reminiscent of prepubescence. Why the hell would someone be attracted to that? But in the interests of journalistic integrity, I figured I shouldn’t knock what I hadn’t tried, and set about trying to find some self-justification for the cosmetic hair-pulling that was to come.

What I discovered amazed me. I assumed the full removal of pubic hair was a recently new fad, probably fed by pornography and female objectification. I have no doubt that the sex industry promotes and markets these fashions, and it can absolutely be used for objectification only. What I didn’t realise is how long these techniques have been practised; the various reasons—besides aesthetics—for removing public hair, and how pubic hair (or the lack of it) has been seen as a signifier of class and health.

Although the earliest evidence of hair removal dates back twenty thousand years—archaeologists believe our earliest ancestors used sharpened stones and shells to scrape hair from the face—there is nothing to suggest pubic hair was removed until the aesthetically-obsessed Egyptians became relevant around 4,000 years ago. But it could be that there was more to this hair removal than just cosmetics. This obsession with hairlessness probably had as much to do with hygiene as with ideals of beauty and fashion. The hot Egyptian climate is one to encourage germs and diseases to breed, and the removal of all body hair was likely a benefit in preventing infection in this ‘sweaty’ weather. The Egyptians developed several techniques to remove hair, most of which are still used in some way to this day. Beeswax was used on the legs and they also created the first depilatories made of starch, arsenic and quicklime, an incredibly toxic concoction that would probably scare any hair out of existence.

Around the same time, over in the Middle East, another technique was being performed. The process called ‘sugaring’ is still widely used today, and involves the application of a natural, sugar-based paste—almost like toffee—that was rubbed over the skin and pulled off in the opposite direction of hair growth, much akin to waxing. The high sugar content inhibited bacterial growth in the region’s hot environment, another suggestion the hygiene was the biggest concern, rather than ‘look’.

As time passed, the look of a hair-free body gained appeal. We see reflected in both Greek and Roman art bodies free of pubic hair, and this is no accident. The Greeks (and the Romans who followed them) held civility in high regard. For them, anything that appeared ‘barbaric’—untamed, wild, primitive, inhuman—was to be avoided. In this era, hair removal was an absolute reflection of class and both men and women went to great pains plucking and using abrasive stones to rub the hair away in an attempt to ‘stay classy’.

Christianity and the fall of the Roman Empire led to a lull in pubic hair removal in Europe. The idea of using cosmetics or enhancing one’s natural form was now seen as an insult to God, and things got quite puritanical. When hair removal did return as a fashion, it was during the Middle Ages, under the reign of Elizabeth I. But this wasn’t a resumption of pulling pubes. To show class and civility in Elizabethan times, a high forehead was required. Not only were eyebrows totally plucked, but hair was removed from the hairline to increase forehead height. Sometimes plucking was used on the forehead but more often, bandages soaked in vinegar or ammonia (often obtained from the urine of domestic cats) were applied to the head. This was a particular method for the children of aristocrats who weren’t so able to sit through the pain of plucking. It was also thought if these bandages were applied at a young enough age, that they would inhibit any later hair growth, thus ensuring a high forehead for life …

I don’t know about you, but I’d take a Brazilian wax over a cat pee bandage any day. Looking into the history of our obsession with a hair-free body, it seems fairly obvious now that I am not necessarily catering to the Male Gaze by shaving my legs. I’m not making myself a mere sex object if I want my vagina waxed and I’m not letting down the feminist movement if I feel the need for smooth armpits. For me, hair removal is more than a cosmetic experience; it’s self-care, it’s self-love and it’s another way that I choose to explore and discover my body.

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August 6, 2015
When is a Transgender person ready for surgery?

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We have collected your questions on Transgender health issues, and are delighted to have Gavin Everard to answer them below.

What are some common health issues transgender people face?

The primary issue that trans people face is a pervasive lack of access to healthcare. Most doctors think that our care is not their job, and that we should be under the care of some specialist that our insurance will not pay for, like an endocrinologist. Imagine having asthma and going to a doctor, and the doctor saying “I am happy to be your doctor, except that I don’t treat asthma. You will have to go to someone else for that”. This is the situation most trans people are in, except that there is often no other doctor to go to. We need help with chronic pain, mental health struggles, and all of the other common health problems in the US, only from doctors who are completely ignorant of our needs as patients, and who don’t really want to be our doctors in the first place.

When does the doctor determine that one is ready for surgery?

The gatekeeping system in the US for determining who gets access to surgery and hormones is deeply problematic. A transgender or gender non-conforming patient needs letters from therapists or other doctors to prove that we are “really” trans, and often a requirement that we have “lived in our desired gender role” for 6-12 months prior to receiving care. This basically means that people have to try to pass as their felt sex/gender with no access to hormones or surgery in a world where they will be faced with extreme violence for failing to pass. The system treats trans people as mentally ill children who cannot really make our own choices about our healthcare, and is insulting and paternalistic. Luckily, a lot of this is up to the discretion of the doctor, and many providers allow trans patients to access hormones or surgery on an informed-consent basis, at the pace that the patient desires. This is key because many trans patients have been living with serious dysphoria (the feeling that something is wrong with the body) for years, and need intervention as soon as possible. The American Medical Association recognizes gender dysphoria as a serious and real life-threatening medical condition, and blocking access to treatment can be tantamount, in my opinion, to torture.

What are the health concerns when one is transitioning to male? And female?

The health concerns associated with hormonal transition are primarily those associated with being hormonally estrogen or testosterone-dominant, ie. increased risk for breast cancer with estrogen and increased cardiovascular disease risk with testosterone. Some studies suggest that there is increased risk for elevated serum cholesterol with both estrogen and testosterone therapy as well. Surgeries carry their own risk factors, mostly due to the possibility of infection. Surgeons in the US generally do a great job, but because insurance companies largely do not cover these procedures and consider them “elective” despite AMA standards that say otherwise, many patients choose to travel abroad to have procedures done more cheaply. Many surgeons in Thailand and other countries are also very skilled, but the medical industries are not always regulated as well abroad as in the US, so there can be more risk associated with accessing services in this way.

How can partners of trans people be respectful and supportive during sex?

It’s all well and good to support us by defending us in conversation, but we also need more intimate solidarity; we need you to fuck us. Luckily, the way to have hot sex with a trans person is pretty similar to the way to have hot sex with anyone: good communication and consent. As us how we want to refer to our body parts. Tell us what you like, and ask us what we like. Ask us what helps us feel comfortable and safe, and tell us what helps you feel comfortable and safe. A good rule of thumb for any sexual interaction is, if you can’t talk about it first, you should not be doing it. Flip this, and you have a mandate to go through the sexy process of laying out what you both want to have happen, getting all hot and bothered about it, and then doing it. Remember, trans people are just people, and we want to feel loved and desired, and to make you feel loved and desired in return.

Gavin Everard is an acupuncturist who works with primarily queer and trans clients on chronic pain, urogenital issues and trauma healing. Gavin also trains healthcare providers on how to give trans-competent care.

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July 29, 2015
LGBTv Production Company: TV for LGB&T people by LGB&T people

I have been involved LGB&T issues for most of my adult life especially after coming out at 22 and going to my first gay-rights protest a few weeks after. I have always been very politically aware and concerned about equality.

Now we have made great strides in terms of equality in many countries. In the news recently, there was the SCOTUS decision in the USA legalising same-sex marriage in all the states and Ireland voting overwhelmingly in favour of marriage equality. However, while news like this is an encouraging-step in the direction of progress, many countries still face a struggle for equality.

Today in many countries including the UK, Europe and USA , LGB&T representation in the media is poor. Many programmes, films and series still don’t have LGB&T characters, let alone regular ones and when they do, they are often stereotypical characters. Even when Gay Prides are covered by the media, they go for the extremes.

This disparity has spurred a conversation between me and a good friend of mine. With the launch of a TV station in Manchester where I live, my friend and I said why don’t we make TV programmes about LGB&T people by LGB&T people and readjust the balance. And so LGBTv Manchester was born (the name being my idea). Shockingly, when we checked their license bid LGB&T communities weren’t mentioned, which is unusual because now Manchester has a sizeable LGB&T community. So my friend contacted a few of his friends and with skilled networking and a few weeks later, he had bought proper TV cameras and equipment needed for the programmes. We set up our social media coverage and introduced our mission statement:

“Our mission is to produce high-quality television programmes which represent the gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgendered community in Manchester, the UK and further afield. Our aim is to inform, inspire, entertain, and portray LGBT peoples and communities, concerns, issues and events with respect, integrity, empathy, sympathy, intelligence and humour. With professionalism and industry experience, we aim to remain positive, non-judgmental and unbiased in both the programmes we produce and the process of making them. We intend to take an upbeat, positive approach to our content depicting the best of LGBT life and events in Manchester “

We recorded our first piece a few months later. This was a bare event and it was a steep learning curve for many of us in terms of production. Very quickly, LGBTv was becoming recognised around the Gay Village in Manchester for we had covered Manchester Gay Pride, numerous community events as well political issues. We have built up a reputation for being the go to people for LGB&T issues in TV production. Last year, when we covered the biggest transgender pride in the world, some of the feedback we got about the piece was its just how trans communities wanted to be represented by the media

We hope to be offered commissioned work in the future so we can do this full time and be paid as well, as at the moment we are fitting this around our day jobs and other commitments. We’ve some exciting plans to cover some more meaty topics and issues affecting LGB&T communities. It’s been really hard work, yet very worthwhile to ensure that all our communities are covered in the media in the manner they deserved to be represented in the media.

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July 22, 2015
3 Easy Ways to Activate Your Heart

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July 19, 2015