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  • How To Explore My Foot & Shoe Fetish

    How To Explore My Foot & Shoe Fetish

    My personal thoughts towards BDSM and kink: It is about trust, playing with creativeness, allowing you to explore and communicating the needs and desires of your fetish and fantasies to create personalized experiences in a D/s relationship.

    BDSM is not just showing how powerful Dominatrix are, it is about transforming submission into a freedom. A freedom to enjoy and experience this magnificent feeling of submission towards a person whom you don’t know, but trust him/her with your fetish and fantasies.

    How I Started Into The World Of Kink

    It was started when my friend introduced me to a Dominatrix woman based in Singapore, Mistress Airah, and during my training with her, I met this American man at Clarke Quay Bay Singapore. He was into foot and shoe fetishes which before, I had no idea that someone would have this kind of fetish.

    So since then, I started exploring the kink side of me. Studying more about the different kind of fetishes, and how I can execute them during my sessions with him. We get along so well and we travel together and he will buy new shoes and will worship me even in public areas, inside taxis, inside elevators,and restaurants etc.

    I explore kink in more creative ways and any filthy thoughts I think when it comes to his fetish, which are the fetishes I also love and enjoy, which he will do without hesitation.

    My Journey Towards Being A Pro Domme

    My journey was not really easy at first since I was leading a double life as an office lady by day and a Dominatrix by night or during my free time. And even when I started, I felt that I didn’t have the power to transform myself into a Dominatrix, but eventually, I started to love and discover that I had this side of personality that was hidden. Maybe because I was brought up in a very strict and conservative family and every mistake you had there had a punishment and consequence, and even in the school I was studying before.

    My style or way of session is to empower my slave in becoming the other person they want to be. Most of them are nervous, specially the beginners or newbies but I encourage them to release their inner self and fantasies as I am here to guide them every step of the way and I know they are unique and so my sessions should be too so I have to be creative most of the time.

    Foot & Shoe Fetish Misconceptions

    The misconceptions I hear about foot and shoe fetishes specially to a newbie slave who wants to try it or is curious about it, is that they think it’s weird, that they are perverted to have that kind of fetish and they might have a psychological problem.

    But in reality, they are just a person who has a preference like anyone else that happens to be less common than the traditional choices in sexual intercourse. They have this specific object or body part that they need for sexual satisfaction for them to experience pleasure and orgasm while worshiping someones’ feet and shoes.

    How Popular Are Foot & Shoe Fetishes?

    From my experience, since I started offering foot and shoe fetishes sessions way back in 2012 in Singapore and Dubai, or when I travel to Europe. They are becoming more popular as majority of my clients or subs are into foot and shoe fetishes.

    What I like about this fetish is that they see it like a Goddess’ feet that is needed to be worshiped all the time, 24 hours a day. They buy new shoes, new boots, new nail polish, etc. And looking at their eyes while they are under my feet feels incredible, that one part of my body many men adore, care and worship my precious feet. Also, the fact that my beautiful feet are earning some cash for me, can you imagine that?!

    Tips For Beginners

    For someone new and looking to explore foot and shoe fetishes, they must do their own research about it and if they feel they are ready for that, they have a choice to ask their girlfriend, or wife or even contact a pro-Domme offering foot or shoe fetishes for them to experience it to themselves.

    If they have decided to go for a pro-Domme like me, I usually start from the beginning to ask them to kneel and kiss my shoes, let them feel and familiarize with the smell and ask them to remove my shoes. But they should ask me for permission first, so then I know that they are ready to explore more and are ready to surrender and be under my mercy.  

    Don’t Be Afraid To Try It Out!

    My tips to those looking to explore foot and shoe fetishes and understand what this fetish is about is to ask yourself if are you into it or just curious about it. Because you never know what to expect or what can happen to you during a session. You might have some dirty shoes filthy with dog shit and the Mistress will ask you to lick it and yet you might not like it. So make sure you are ready for it and inform the Mistress what are your do’s and don’ts before you will attend the session.

    Most of all, enjoy the process of worshiping womens’ feet because that is the most unexplainable feelings in the world of submission in BDSM.

    Mistress Cruwella – The Asian Dominatrix in Asia, Middle East, UK and Europe. 

    I am your Mistress that can turn you into Sluts, Perverts and can give you two types of pain…One that hurts you and the other that changes you!!

    As much as my profession is about my entertainment and pleasure, I am looking for  men who can crawl before me on a daily basis literally do anything I ask and they can perform like sluts, slaves, sissies or whatever else my dirty mind can think of at any given moment.   

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    Other Links: https://allmylinks.com/ladywella

    Upcoming Tours: I will be in Slovakia and Austria around February 2021 for 1 month. For booking please email me ladywella4u@gmail.com

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  • How To Enjoy Role Play With Your Partner

    How To Enjoy Role Play With Your Partner

    I’m a very libidinous lady, I’ve always been fascinated by fetishes, intrigued by individual desires, titillated by toys, and tempted by the taboo…

    I’m a big believer in clear communication, asking for what I want, listening to my partners to learn what they like, and laughing together. Yes, I said laughing. Sex should be fun, and when I’m having fun, you’ll know it!!

    Why I Love Role Playing

    Imagination takes over. We step out of our roles as mundane Monday-Friday breadwinners, or stressed out stay-at-homers, bill-paying, news watching, toilet cleaning humans…..we become our own choose-your-own adventure book, except instead of turning the pages, we are turning each other on. 

    Men love it because they get to be vulnerable. I lead them through the fantasy, they give me the starting point and I take it from there. They’re completely in my hands and I dive fully into character for our entire session. It’s playful, they get to do and say things they’d never dream of doing in real life. It’s a license to be silly or corny; are we hurtling through outer space captain??

    My Favorite Sexual Fantasies & Role Plays

    Nurse/Patient: I’ve got a checklist of symptoms to check and tests to perform on my patient to make sure he’s a healthy specimen. 

    Boss/Secretary: I take great dicktation, let me help you straighten that tie, would you like a coffee sir? 

    Naughty Aunt or Stepmom/Innocent boy: He’s always lusted after her, little did he know she was tempting him on purpose all this time…

    Captain/Sailor: Specifically when played on a real boat. This one has not happened yet, it’s still a fantasy, but I’m listing it here, for all the Captains out there to make my dreams come true. 

    Incorporating Sexual Activities Into Role Play

    I’ll often turn something non-sexual into teasing and flirting, like bringing a cup of coffee to my boss, I don’t just put it down in front of him, I slide my hand over his shoulder, bend down so my breast touches his shoulder and he can peek down my blouse, my breath hot on his ear. 

    Offering to do something non-sexual that sounds sexual, like, “Captain, I need your help below deck, it’s so wet down here!“

    Tips For Beginners Into Role Play

    Have a general idea of your storyline, where are you? A spaceship? The office? Are you alone or are there imaginary voyeurs? Who is the instigator? Is the sexytary seducing the boss, or is the sailor the one tempting the siren?

    Costumes are not necessary, but really does help spark the imagination. Go all out if you want, wigs and props, use what you have around the house, get creative!

    Try to stay in character, it feels silly at first, but once you get going, it’s a lot of fun.  Allow yourself to feel goofy.  You’re playing a part, and it doesn’t have to be perfect, just have fun with it, and let the good times role….play

    Vivian – Fun, flirty, intriguing, sensual. A buxom babe with yummy curves.  She’s got sweetness like you’ve never tasted before, indulge yourself!

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    Upcoming Works:

    One on one video dates (with or without Roleplay)

    Custom photo sets and videos for your eyes only, let’s get creative!

    Send a Sexy Song or a Strip-o-gram to someone special

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  • How To Explore Full Body Lockup Fetish

    How To Explore Full Body Lockup Fetish

    I think that alternative lifestyles and kink are infinitely varied. I belong to the BDSM subculture. I am a lifestyle Mistress and latex outfits lover.

    My personal views are very tolerant to the most alternative lifestyles and kink. If both partners are enjoying, then for me everything looks good.

    You can bring more colors in your life with opening imagination, love and exploring your own body.

    What Are Full Body Lockups?

    Full body lockup is bondage in the BDSM, when a partner cannot move any part of the body, strict physically bondaged in a variety of methods, without any possibilities to release.

    One of my favorite methods is the total rubber enclosure using an inflatable rubber body bag. It is a kind of rubber sleepsack with a sub’s body inside. Each side of the bag you can inflate using a compressor. The body is pressed between inflated rubber sheets and it is not possible to move a centimeter in it. In such games, it is possible to add gas masks, blindfolds, and gags.

    Also, there is an alternative to the inflatable bag. It is the vacuum bed. The body is placed between two rubber sheets, which is fixed on a frame. The slave’s body will be locked up between two latex sheets, and air is sucked out using a suction pump or vacuum cleaner. In using the vacuum bed, the sub’s mouth must have an added tube for breathing.

    Another method of a body lockup is known as the “Mummification”. The body is totally wrapped tight in polyethylene film, and it looks like a mummy. For extra fixation, it is possible to use ropes and a bondage bed.

    There are different types of BDSM furniture and rope bondage which are usable for body lock ups as well.

    Why Subs Love Being Locked Up

    The slave feels weak when being in full body lockup, he/she feels like a prisoner, and he is owned. He/she gives his/her body in total use for the Mistress’s/Master’s desire.

    During such games, the submissive partner can’t think about anything else other than his Mistress and her next action. A blindfold can increase the sensitivity of the body. Obedience, trust, and loyalty are all in the bondaged body.

    What Goes On In A Typical Session

    In most full body lockups, there remains some nude parts of the body, which are very usable, be it the penis, ass or nipples. One can be strictly locked up using chastity cages for the penis, and masks with limitation for breathing.

    I like playing CBT (cock bondage torture), giving tormented pleasure for the partner using different electro toys, sounds, balls stretchers and crushers. Teasing nipples with fingers, soft and nice, and after going harder with nipples clamps. Teasing the ass with anal plugs, speculum, balls, and strap-ons. Sometimes, I can leave the slave for awhile in his tight prison.

    Body lockups and SM games are limited only by your imagination and the possibilities of the slave’s body.

    Safety Precautions To Note

    I think most precautions are necessary for locking body with ropes, because of blood circulation. Do not make it too tight.

    And it is good to have a sharp special knife to cut ropes off.

    What To Expect Before Trying Full Body Lockups

    If the person really is getting horny of the idea to be a prisoner, then he/she should not worry about anything in the first session. With the right suitable Mistress/Master, everything will be great. During such sessions, an exciting connection can happen between Dominant and sub. I never had the experience with tantra, but probably it is something like this, feeling waves and exchanges of energy.

    For curious people, who are searching and exploring one’s self, and they do not have any ideas about their own reaction, I can give a recommendation: always be honest that it is your first time, decide with the Dominant a “magic” word to stop the game, the word which you never will forget, even during a panic attack. Some people can forget it unexpectedly during their first time.

    My name is Alice MissWoW – Lifestyle Mistress for over 10 years. I found my way to professional dominance as a career path in the Netherlands for the last six years. Originally I am Russian.

    I am an unusual fantasy specialist in tight shinny latex outfits. My greatest satisfaction is having total control over my slave’s excitement and orgasm capability. My techniques combine pain with pleasure, giving my slaves a sense of insecurity of not knowing what to expect.

    I have a large collection of BDSM TOYS whips, electro toys, bondage, sounds, training plugs, strap-ons, gags and more.

    Ready For My whips, little man?)

    Follow Alice MissWoW on

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    Upcoming Works: in during last year everything is a bit different, but I am open for dates in few SM places in the Netherlands, it is in Den Haag and Rotterdam.

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  • How To Serve A Pro Dominatrix Properly

    How To Serve A Pro Dominatrix Properly

    I see BDSM as a sane way to subvert power relations, because in BDSM, there is a very important thing: consent, and it is BDSM only if there is consent, else it is abuse.

    So such exchange is a viable alternative to the non-consensual power structures which permeate our modern world.

    How I Became A Dominatrix

    When I was a teenager, I started to slap my first boyfriend on his face and get turned on by that. I was 15 and didn’t know why I liked that, I didn’t know if it was normal or if there was something wrong with me.

    A bit older, I got in touch with BDSM and realized that that was what I liked and I felt comfortable with the idea that my desires were not following the norms and it was all right. I started to explore it more and more and try different things.

    I became a professional domme because of Dommenique Luxor, she is the biggest dominatrix in Brazil and I always admired her so much, followed her channel on social media and listened to her speeches. She started to teach and I became her student, after that, I was ready to start working.

    My Dominatrix Style

    I am very playful, I like to laugh a lot and make fun while I am playing. I also enjoy moments of silence, I am not the kind of domina that will be talking all the time during a session, and I find silenence important to access other states of mind.

    I also like to play creative games, absurd scenes and perform in situations where my slave can be seen by more people, like outdoors play for example.

    Four Expectations Of My Subs

    Complete devotion, obedience, creativity to please me and trust.

    #1 Rule All Subs Must Follow

    Rule number one is: Don’t do anything without your Mistress’ permission, you must ask first obviously.​

    Remember This Before Submitting

    This is serious business, once you are with a domina, you must be fully present and give yourself totally. There is no such thing as a bit of devotion, either it is completely surrender or it is nothing.

    Mistress Amandara – Perverted, with no traces of morality.

    With a very sadistic side, I am merciless. You will feel my extremely rough approach, as well as my softness and attention to fragility.

    What I like is to see men getting out of their comfort zone, pushing their limits and putting themselves in a grace state of vulnerability. I see endless beauty in this state.

    We will get in touch with our wildest fantasies as a process of getting to our creative source to feed ourselves, returning new and refreshed.

    My radical training will transform your way of being in the world beyond the sessions. Your self-sacrifice will be a demonstration of your devotion and claim for change.

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    Upcoming Tours: From 26th of January in Denmark till 1st February

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  • Cuckolding Beginners Guide

    Cuckolding Beginners Guide

    In the modern world, people are discovering in depth what stimulates and satisfies their sexual desires. This goes without naming the different sex toys available in the market that spice up foreplay. To stretch a little, it’s time to indulge in cuckolding. Cuckolding is the act in which a man or a woman finds pleasure by watching their partner make love to another person. It has several benefits such as:

    • You can find pleasure and empowerment when you fulfil cuckold fantasies.
    • It can lead to an honest relationship where your partner is open about their sexual desires and needs.
    • You can build your relationship with effective communication. Talking about cuckolding takes guts and lack of shame.
    • It can result in a positive sexual experience that can lead to feelings of greater intimacy in a relationship.
    • A cuckold husband can enjoy watching his partner gain pleasure from another male who satisfies the wife till climax. If your wife enjoys cuckolding, isn’t it a good thing?

    Take it to the Next Level

    Even with an excellent partner, it will reach a point in life where your sex life becomes boring. There are various reasons this can happen which include health issues, mindset, physical issues and many others. Besides, people have different desires, likes, preferences and fetishes, which if not satisfied, can result in boring sex life.

    It would be best to identify reasons as to why you aren’t having super fire sex with your partner. Physical causes include pain during intercourse, low stamina, and erectile dysfunction. Emotional causes can be depression, anxiety and stress which can lead to lack of focus. There are multiple ways you can treat boring sex, but if you want to spice up things, cuckolding is just the ticket.

    How to Introduce Your Partner Into This Role-Play Fantasy

    Choose a Time to Discuss

    Cuckolding is a sensitive topic since it can be described as cheating. This is something huge that needs thorough thinking to ensure you make the right decision. Of course, no one wants to share their partner. However, if you feel that this sexual fantasy is the only way to spice up your sex life, go for it. Ensure your partner is on board and okay with it.

    Research and Decide on the Right Person

    If you are going to choose a cuckold partner, you should research and choose the right one in advance to familiarize yourselves with him/her. You could research on various platforms that offer cuckold services, or request a close friend who will be okay with the act. Besides, you will have an intimate experience with another person, so it would be best to know what qualities you are looking for.

    Prepare Yourselves

    Preparation is vital as it can help you avoid future problems. For one, you need to prepare yourselves mentally and know some cuckold outcomes such as jealousy, lack of trust and more. Try not to overindulge in cuckolding, but only do it when need be. Go for STI screening to prevent transmitting infections to your cuckold partner, and ensure they also do it to avoid contracting.

    Don’t Be in a Rush

    Rushing through sex can be an exciting experience especially if you are having a quickie in a bathroom. The anxiety of getting caught is what makes it spicier and intense that can lead to orgasm within no time. Nonetheless, cuckolding is another different thing. This is a new experience which can take time before you become comfortable so ensure you don’t rush things.

    Tips for Making All Parties Enjoy

    You can start by setting boundaries for everyone to know their expectations. However, you don’t need to have sex with another person. If your partner can find pleasure in you talking about having sex with someone else, it still counts as cuckolding.

    Besides, you can practice cuckolding in a club where your partner flirts sexually with someone else. The best thing to do is to communicate and find out what will work best for your situation.

    Safer Sex When Cuckolding

    Like any other level of sexual intimacy, you should take precautions to avoid contracting and transmitting sexually transmitted diseases. You can start by selecting various types of birth control options to prevent pregnancy.

    To prevent contracting STIs, ensure that you use condoms throughout. It is also advisable to use a new packet for each activity. Additionally, buy PrEP online to prevent contracting HIV from your cuckold bull.

    Once you indulge in cuckolding, be keen on emotional risks that may present themselves once you get deep into it. In some cases, the cuck may end up developing feelings or becoming more jealous than your partner. All you ought to do is take extra precautions every step of the way.

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  • How To Explore & Enjoy Nipple Play

    How To Explore & Enjoy Nipple Play

    First of all, I believe that BDSM is different for everyone and will vary from person to person. In the Dom/sub relationship, communication is essential, it will build a bond based on trust and respect. Therefore, one of my first roles as a Dominant is to pay attention to the words and body language of the submissives to know how far they can go.

    As for kinky, for me, kinky means going beyond standard forms of sexual expression.

    What Is Nipple Play?

    Nipple torture is a BDSM activity in which the dominant partner causes pain or intense stimulation of the submissive partner’s breasts. We are aware of how sensitive our nipples are and how intense pleasure can be achieved when we take care of them properly.

    We are also aware that these nipples are for something. From this analogy, a natural question arises: if these “two little ones” are already there, perhaps we can deal with them somehow?

    Why Me & My Subs Love Nipple Play

    A good nipple play session always excites me. I love it when my subjects give in to nipple experiments (this gives me an impetus to experiment)…

    Since the nipples are erogenous zones, the sensation of torturing the nipples is said to be pain mixed with pleasure.

    Favorite Nipple Play Props

    My favorite games include nipple clamps and flogging. The recipient of such activities may receive direct physical pleasure through masochism, emotional pleasure through erotic humiliation or the knowledge that the game is pleasing to a sadistic dominant.

    One Tip For Beginners

    If someone is just starting to play with their nipples, start by using their hands. This is the most basic way to tease. Breast tissue is usually more sensitive and can hurt quickly.

    Mistress Nadia – Hi. My name is Nadja. Polish-Russian blood flows in my veins. I am a very experienced woman with style and my own label. I am a lady who, despite her innocent nature, has a devil and an angel on her shoulders.

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  • The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 19) – Schedules

    The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 19) – Schedules

    Ever wondered what really happens on a hot girls’ night out? Meet Juliet Adelaide and her friends in The Secret Life of a Hotwife as they drive into the sassy world in this no-holds barred account of a hotwife’s lifestyle, and uncover all you’ve ever wanted to know, from the sensual and provocative to the risque and unspeakable.

    Based on the steamy real-life experience of Juliet Adelaide, author of The Mrs Sexy Chronicles, this exclusive first-hand account of her exploration of sexual freedom and insight into the life of a hotwife will leave you begging for more.

    Chapter 19 Teaser – Schedules

    I found out quickly when I adopted my hot wife mentality that looking sexy make me feel provocative and horny. Scott has reaped the rewards of this part of my transformation. While I wanted sex more often for many reasons, I learned to love my femininity and embraced my sensuality. It’s great to be comfortable around someone and looking casual, even sloppy from time to time. Physical attraction and sex are key components of a healthy relationship, and we should continue to make an effort on our appearance even if it’s only for our own self-confidence.

    Being a hot wife has definitely helped my appearance. It may sound crazy but since I have embraced this lifestyle, I have lost weight, dress nicer and put more effort into doing my hair and makeup. I’m not sitting home at night watching reality television, I’m out in the real world making my own adventures. Being active sexually does burn calories too and giving head can even improve one’s metabolism. It also helps to date a variety of younger attractive men, at least for me. Those guys have a lot of energy and I definitely have to work to keep up with them. They make me feel desirable when we’re together and when I go home, my husband makes me feel sexy all over again.

    Purchase and read the rest of this amazing book by clicking here: The Secret Life Of A Hotwife 

    Juliet Adelaide has a Bachelor’s degree in Humanities and Culture from Arizona State University. She started dating her husband at the age of 17 and they were monogamous for 25 years. They are a devoted couple who only recently opened their marriage to new sexual experiences allowing Juliet to become a hotwife.

    “mrs Sexy” is the witty, erotic and true story of her experiences with this new polyamorous lifestyle. Juliet, (aka Mrs Sexy), takes you through the most personal moments of her romantic and sexual adventures.

    Follow Juliet on

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  • What To Know About Slut Training

    What To Know About Slut Training

    Kink and alternative lifestyles are a wonderful way to sexually explore your likes. Therapeutic for some and it’s interactive entertainment. I have always beaten to my own drum and when I discovered so many alternative lifestyles, I immediately thought, now this is me seeing people live the way they want to live safely that I’m always for. 

    What Is Slut Training?

    Slut training consists of a Dominant partner teaching the submissive to behave in an overtly sexual manner, from their clothing, behavior and mindset. While some may see being a slut as a negative, slut training encourages very promiscuous behavior. 

    Reasons For Undergoing Slut Training

    Most subs just want a feeling of being used. They want to let all inhibitions go and just please and serve being a toy for pleasure. 

    My Domme Style

    I’m a natural sensual dominant who specializes in  mental / psychological sadism.

    Slut training is a highly mental training, and you are shifting ones’ mindset on how to behave. Most submissives undergoing slut training are going to be reluctant, embarrassed and shamed at times. I always help to make sure they overcome these emotions and sometimes use them for humiliation. 

    A Typical Slut Training Session

    First and foremost, all of my sessions start with a brief reminder of RACK (risk-aware consensual kink) and a safe word is established. 

    I don’t have a typical training because each session is based on what I feel the submissive needs. So it can be focusing on learning how to properly suck cock, to undergoing intense slut training hypno. 

    What To Expect From Your First Session

    You should know that while you are expected to oblige your Dominants commands, you should always partake slut training with who you feel comfortable with. You will usually be learning and trying things you never experienced and want to feel safe and have an open mind. 

    Empress Katana – Enchanting Queer Dominant. I pride myself in creating safe kink spaces both online and in person.

    I’m currently not touring due to the pandemic. 2021 I will return to traveling starting with Los Angeles and then all over Europe. 

    Not Your Babe is a brand I’m creating featuring sex worker positive apparel and work related items. 

    Feel free to check out my link.tree/EmpressKatana and main site AllHailKatana.com for more information about me, my BDSM lifestyle and events. 

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  • The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 18) – Dealing With Jealousy

    The Secret Life Of A Hotwife (Chapter 18) – Dealing With Jealousy

    Ever wondered what really happens on a hot girls’ night out? Meet Juliet Adelaide and her friends in The Secret Life of a Hotwife as they drive into the sassy world in this no-holds barred account of a hotwife’s lifestyle, and uncover all you’ve ever wanted to know, from the sensual and provocative to the risque and unspeakable.

    Based on the steamy real-life experience of Juliet Adelaide, author of The Mrs Sexy Chronicles, this exclusive first-hand account of her exploration of sexual freedom and insight into the life of a hotwife will leave you begging for more.

    Chapter 18 Teaser – Dealing With Jealousy

    Kristin began checking the time on her phone again. It reminds me of the times when I was out and worried about coming home so late. It was usually with Mark, like most of my bad behavior, but a couple men have kept me out exceedingly late. Time and schedules may have been the most difficult obstacles that Scott and I faced. He didn’t really get jealous about other men fucking me, but he would get a little upset if they got to spend a lot of time with me. With work and family, we would only seem to have a few hours together at night when I was home. My dates with Mark had been known to last 12 hours with a rare overnight. Scott thought I somehow enjoyed Mark’s company to his, but the truth was, it was all about schedules. My husband’s work hours didn’t allow the same amount of free time as a part-time cook.

    I would only get a couple nights out a week though, so I guess I always felt that I had to squeeze in as much time as possible with lovers because I didn’t really get to spend a lot of time with them in the grand scheme of things. In fact, it took me a while to be able to look at it from my husband’s point of view. I would go out with Mark for happy hour at four o’clock in the afternoon, then dinner, then a show, then a different place, then his place and then I would come strolling in with my panties in my purse at four o’clock in the morning. My hotwife lifestyle was supposed to be about sex, but Mark had become my boyfriend and it caused issues.

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    Juliet Adelaide has a Bachelor’s degree in Humanities and Culture from Arizona State University. She started dating her husband at the age of 17 and they were monogamous for 25 years. They are a devoted couple who only recently opened their marriage to new sexual experiences allowing Juliet to become a hotwife.

    “mrs Sexy” is the witty, erotic and true story of her experiences with this new polyamorous lifestyle. Juliet, (aka Mrs Sexy), takes you through the most personal moments of her romantic and sexual adventures.

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  • How To Explore Virtual or Remote Domination

    How To Explore Virtual or Remote Domination

    Kink is a massive part of my life, both professionally and personally. I believe that folks come to kink for all sorts of reasons, from satisfying deep primal urges, to healing, to spicing things up in the bedroom.  All are valid ways of exploring connection, validation, and catharsis.  

    How My Interest In Kink Started

    Probably when I was kidnapping and tying up my Barbies.  This has been a part of my life as far back as I can remember, even though I may not have always had the opportunity to express it.

    My Domme Style

    My style is playful.  I’m quite a chameleon, so I can deliver anything from severe to nurturing, but there is always an element of playfulness.  I laugh and smile, no matter what the vibe.  It’s because I’m enjoying myself, and that’s how I express it.

    Transition To Virtual Domination Due To Covid

    It was as natural as could be, despite the circumstances.  I think the way I Dominate translates fairly well to providing online services.  I’m perfectly fine with monologuing to a camera for an hour.  And I believe I have a knack for making people feel comfortable, even if it’s through a computer.  It’s certainly a lot more work.  You have to be on your phone constantly. 

    Luckily, I’m very good at online marketing, consistency, and branding, which worked to my advantage.  Difficulties for me ended setting up boundaries surrounding how much I work.  It’s very easy for me to never stop working, especially so if I’m working from home.

    The other difficulty is that many kinks don’t translate super well to video sessions.  It was a learning curve to find the ones that really work well. 

    A Typical Virtual Domination Session

    Virtual Domination allows you to keep in touch more often, so it’s actually advantangeous, I find, to making deep and long lasting connections.  For my regulars, we keep in touch throughout the week via text (I use Niteflirt), with weekly sessions or content requests.  Each sub is different, but I like to start my sessions with a bit of catching up and relaxing into each other. 

    I ask them to show me what implements/toys they have on-hand.  The majority of the session, just like in-person, includes whatever kinks they would like to act out.  Because I can’t touch them, what this looks like, is me telling them what to do to themselves.  And then I also leave some time at the end to decompress and chat about the scene.  I always ask what they are going to do when we hang up the call for aftercare.

    Recommended Sessions For Virtual Domination

    It really depends.  Sometimes it just doesn’t feel the same when you’re doing it to yourself, even if a Dominatrix is ordering you to do it.  Some folks are simply not into topping while submitting.  Also, virtual sessions depend on what equipment/implements/toys/wardrobe the client has available to them.  Sometimes you end up ordering to fuck themselves with a margarine covered banana, because there’s literally nothing else around.  Not that you can’t do a session without implements, but for some kinks it’s more essential than others.

    Impact play, or other pain play can be really great for some folks, but not the best for others.  Asking people to deliever pain to themselves can sometimes be tricky territory.  Keep checking in, and really encourage them to listen, and stay focussed.  Just make sure that the client is somewhat experienced with using the item.  Even with your supervision, they can end up hurting themselves by doing something incorrectly.  This could be using a hairbrush for spanking, clothespins zippers, nipple clamps, CBT, wax, ice, stress positions, and more.

    Pegging or strap-on play is usually a good go-to.  Most people are familiar with fucking themselves with a dildo.  This could mean orally, vaginally, or anally.  A suction cup is helpful.  From the other side, the Dom(me) can wear a strap-on to give them the visual.

    Humiliation or any other verbal kinks works well, because touching isn’t necessarily required to make the kink feel “real”.  Your dirty talk skills will really shine in a virtual setting.

    Tease and denial is also a fun one, especially if they have a vibrator on hand, extra points if it has bluetooth technology so that you can operate it.  E-stim similarly so.  Count downs are a common thing in virtual sessions.

    Sissification, feminization, bimbofication, dollification all work fairly well virtually, just as long as the client has some items to dress up into.  Even if they don’t, the language surrounding these kinks can still be very salient.

    Gagging can be useful for parts of the session, but it also takes away one of the ways to connect with each other, which is not always conducive, since you already have touch taken away.  But, making people talk through gags and drool on themselves is always fun.  Again, make sure that this is done safely, since you are not there in-person to help them if they start choking.

    Fluid play can be done too, just as long as they’re into being ordered to consume their own fluids.

    Lady Pim – A Professional Dominatrix and kink educator, working out of The Ritual Chamber in Toronto. She takes in-person sessions (currently on hiatus due to Covid-19), sells custom content, offers remote/virtual sessions, teaches on a variety of kinky topics, and conducts one-on-one kink consultations.   She is also the host of the multiple award winning Bed Post Podcast, a sex/sexuality show which features interviews of sex workers, sex educators, and other sexy people.  

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