Category: Kink

I am a Squirter!

I’m going to talk about squirting. A lot of girls can’t do that. I always thought that I could never be able to do it either until one day while I was on set. Sometimes the sex can be so good and you just get caught up in the moment. All of a sudden, the male talent/director stopped and said, “Are you a squirter? ” I said, “I don’t think so. Why?” The male talent/director said, “Because you squirted 2 times right in front of me.” Sure enough, I looked down and saw 2 big puddles of G spot juice right between my legs! The male talent/director was grinning like Chester Cheetah! This took place at a fitness studio.

So it was then that I realized that I am a squirter. I squirt off of vibrators and even the sybian. But it wasn’t until I actually researched on squirting that I realized how it works. One of the questions that people ask the most, even from other models and other people in the business, is that if squirt is actually piss. According to what I’ve researched (and if you think scientifically a little bit), squirting is like juice coming from your G spot; not piss. Urine comes from the bladder and passes out through your urethra. Squirt juice comes from the G spot and the juice passes through your vagina.

Another main question is how do I squirt. The answer is simple, you have to just relax and enjoy how you are feeling and let it go. DO NOT tense up because if you do, then nothing comes out and you won’t be able to squirt.

I LOVE squirt. I LOVE getting off by clitoral stimulation/sensation and vibrators just make it even more fun. The Hitachi is my favorite! I love the way it makes me feel and squirt. I like to tease my lower abdomen and slowly bring down around my vaginal area and then of course, press it against my clit, hard. After a while, I’ll turn up the speed and next thing I know, I’m on the cum cloud squirting my ass off! I love it even better when I have a sexy stud fucking me and I have the Hitachi right on my clit and I squirt like crazy! Ahhhh, I’m even getting turned on just writing about it! Lol!

In the near future, I sure hope to shoot a scene with me having sex tied up and I use the Hitachi. I would be one VERY happy and satisfied lady.

Brandi has been nominated for Best Oral Release at the AVN awards for her movie Sloppy Cocksuckers 2 with Mike Adriano for Evil Angel. Go cast your vote for her at http://avnawards.avn.com/pages/4

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December 2, 2014
Mistress Inka’s Introduction to Wax Play

In today’s beautifully liberated world, a great many wonderful, horrible, secretive things are finding themselves welcomed into increasingly fashionable circles. One such shameless little social climber is my old but dear friend, Wax Play.

Abandoning the stigma of society’s underbelly was fairly easy for Wax Play, owing some of her new found popularity to the introduction of specialist products such as low temperature burning candles and massage candles. Sure, we can still just grab a stick off the brassware for that raw, unstoppable, right-bloody-now kind of moment we so often find ourselves in. But the massage candle, warming the muscle in perfect preparation for whomsoever’s hands give its title purpose? Or better still, the edible massage candle. What a slut! With her scarlet reputation we’re bound to learn a thing or two. Yummy.

But if Wax Play is new mistress—only just having met but making an impression—before you go raiding the kitchen cupboards or stripping down the dinning room table, maybe a little product knowledge might be useful, what with such a verity of these floozies ready to be toyed with.

So all of these scrumptious little tarts have different melting points. Of course I have no interest in listing exactly what plain boring degree each candle burns at, because I’m not incredibly dull, so instead I’ll give you a basic rundown as a starting point.

Candles, like pretty much everything, come in a rather pleasing array of shapes, sizes, colours and so on. Each having it’s own intriguing personality. If, for example, it comes in a jar then it’ll most likely be soft and therefore have a lower melting point (not too burny) . However, these are usually scented and/or coloured, and at least one of these elements might raise the candle’s temperature. I’m not entirely convinced this is true, but it’s still something to bear in mind. Also, stay away from metallic candles. They might look good but they have metal in them, obviously, which is unpredictably hot.

For me, as a safe bet I’d recommend the white pillar candle. She’s nice and wide so a pool can gather making her wax cooler. You can also mould her neck as her wax softens around her shoulder, making a little pourer.

Next up is the taper. She offers a lot of control; a perfect dripper.

Then there’s beeswax. The novice should steer clear of her as she’s a bit of a hot head. Other no-no’s are birthday candles. They’re plastic bitches, all fake. And tea lights, their metal holders turn them into mucky little lava pots.

So now you have your basic white pillar or taper at the ready, it’s time to play. Well, almost. These girls are messy eaters so think about protecting furniture and/or bedclothes. Also think of your partner’s skin and pain threshold; hair can be difficult, unless you’re feeling sadistic and ripping out clumps of hair is part of the plan, of course. A little protection, such as lotions which can be rubbed on first, are a nice touch. Watch they’re not oil based as adding heat to oil can have an undesired effect. Try a little Vaseline, perhaps, which I generally have by the bedside, anyway. Also prepare for fire hazards, maybe have a jug of water at the ready. Make it iced, then you can always use a cube or two on your playmate for contrasting sensations.

Health and safety over, let’s think of methods of application. There’s dripping, of course, but what about tying your candle or candles above your partner so your hands are free for other things? Pooling the wax creates a steady stream for a prolonged, intense and torturous apprehension. Melt down your wax the same way you might melt chocolate (stick it in a pot or a bowl and heat it on the hob), or you can buy a wax melting pot. If you don’t want to pour, then brush it on with a paint brush for a really carnal feel. Get creative with different colours, your partner can become your canvas. Remember to test your colours on the back of your hand first, though, so as not to scold your subject. What about pouring your wax into a cookie cutter then peeling if off to leave a temporary brand? Or tape off an area of flesh? There are so many possibilities so have fun exploring, and remember, take your time. We’ve got all night.

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November 27, 2014
How & Why to Date a MILF

First and foremost, the semantics and linguistics in this article are very important. I am very passionate about what it is that I’m writing here. My intention is not to compose a tongue-in-cheek comedic summary, but a sincere overview, from the perspective of a genuine MILF.

To understand what I mean, I’ve referenced an article in which the author speaks his opinions on MILF dating. There are many articles I’ve read, eerily similar to this one. This author is, of course, entitled to his opinions but I am telling you (vehemently) this is an article about cougars. This is NOT an accurate description of milfs.

I’m not man bashing in saying, as usual, the man has it all wrong. It is scientifically evidenced that men and womens brains simply do NOT process thought and emotion in the same manner. His article is spot-on in describing how a cougar dates like a man, and is primarily out for fun, but it’s kind of offensive to a MILF.

http://www.pointsincase.com/columns/nathan-degraaf/so-youre-dating-milf#disqus_thread

It’s true, most men forget what the M in MILF stands for! Mother! Single mothers have it really hard in America today. And there are so many of them, it’s become common place, but do not discredit the struggle.

Remember the intro above about the importance of semantics? Here’s another circumstance in which it comes into play, for, single mother is NOT synonymous with MILF. Single moms can be in school, living with family, they’re often younger and have a support system in place. This is how/why MILF began to be confused with cougar. MILF describes a woman age 35 and beyond.

In terms of beginning, middle, and end it goes: single mom, MILF, then cougar. Cougars have grown, independent children or no children at all. There. Now that we’ve got the semantics straight, we can continue. As a MILF and an individual who has no living family with the exception of distant cousins in other states, I am both mother and father to my kids. I am disciplinarian but also nurturer. In the household I am the breadwinner, but also the receptionist, and janitorial staff in this “company”. Now you imagine doing all of that, with no assistance, 24/7 and only 6 hrs of sleep each night. As you can gather, having a social life is at the bottom of the priority totem. For me, personally, if something doesn’t make me money or make me very happy, I don’t make time.

That being said, as you can also imagine, whomever were to swoop in and “save” this MILF from the stress of her mundane trappings, would be quite handsomely rewarded! True it is a lot to take on, to date a MILF; it is actual work. The benefits are bountiful to those strong enough to take on the deed.

Women hit their sexual prime late 30’s to early 40’s which means you’re going to get frequent, uninhibited GREAT sex. That alone should make it worth your while. But wait, there’s more (in my best info-mercial voice) another perk is that MILF frequently do not want to rush like women in their 20’s and early 30’s may. I personally have no desire to get married nor have more children. So there would never be any pressure or nagging in that realm. I’m an independent individual so I don’t want to be smothered and I won’t smother you. I know the value of “me” time.

If my bills are paid and my house is straightened (note: I didn’t say cleaned, I said straightened) then I’m happy! I lived the first half of my life for others and “by the book” and now it’s MY time before I get too old to enjoy it! I want experimental sex, adventures, and FUN! I don’t mean going to the extreme of partying constantly and blowing tons of money (if you want that, you’d be better off finding a younger single mom or cougar). But I want and deserve responsible and true happiness.

I want what’s REAL … I already know who I am and what I want out of life … now I just want an equal partner in crime, so to speak. I want mad passion, love, lots of adventurous sex, laughter, and something that bears NO resemblance to the dating games of yesteryear. Someone who I can really be myself with and be honest with. Someone who proves he is willing to give all of himself to me, whom I can give all of myself to in return. But no set end goal, other than mutual personal fulfillment.

Once you have earned the trust and respect of a bonafied MILF you are, from that point forth, the King. Imagine the fulfilling acknowledgement you’ve always wanted yet never seemed to wrangle from past relationships. Imagine finding the girl who is “a lady in the street and a freak in the bed”. You can go out dressed to the nine one night and sit home in your Pj’s vegging the next. You can be romantic and sensual one minute, then dirty and naughty the next! You don’t have to preplan your words, hold in your farts, nor spend every penny you make on me. You don’t need to know how to decipher the passive-aggressive mixed messages of today’s average woman (I simply don’t have the time or energy for that bullshit). Nope.

To date this MILF you just need to be REAL. And you have to be man enough for me to be real with you. It’s the quintessential relationship! Most men are too egotistical or afraid of rejection to make a move on a MILF. There’s really no need to be insecure. Most GOOD women, MILFS like me, are busting their asses trying to make ends meet and going home alone at night to masturbate to porn, just like you! I’m tired. I’m overworked, often under appreciated. I’m lonely, I’m horny and I need you to be courageous and make a move! Chivalry isn’t dead.

Let’s feel all the things neither of our exes made us feel. After all, at the end of the day and at the end of our lives, it’s going to all come down to how we feel about ourselves and how we made others feel about themselves, that really makes the most difference.

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November 23, 2014
Harmonie’s Dominatrix on Ass Worship
Body worship is any practice of physically revering a part of another person’s body, and is usually done as a submissive act in the context of BDSM. Ass worship is common in the S&M world as a way for the submissive to show submission, respect, and desire toward and for the dominant.This includes kisses, licking, sucking, and love bites to the buttocks, and may also include intense and prolonged licking of the anus.The dominant will order the sub on his/her knees or directly have him/her kiss and lick any part of her body she tells him too.

There are a few types of ass worship.
- The Sandwich. The first method of the step is to have the female lying on her stomach, ass upwards. The submissive will proceed to bury his/her face in her ass and/or choose the option of someone else pushing his/her face into the ass harder.
- Against the Wall. A sub sits up against a wall and a female backs her ass into his/her face, making sure her ass completely smothers his/her face.
- The Crab. The sub lies on the floor facing upwards. The female will ease into a back bend, so that her hands and feet are on the ground as her stomach is facing the ceiling. The female rubs her ass into the subs face, making sure she’s smothering him/her.
- The Prayer. The sub gets down on his/her and inserts his/her face into the woman’s ass.
Ass worship is best when done wearing lingerie or a thong. Full pants or nudity is not recommended.

References:
BDSM Handbook (Tangled Web), 2007, margelle.org/aboutgoddess/page96/page96.html
Facechair, April 23, 2009, www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ass%20worship
·www.definition-of.com/body+worship
November 21, 2014
A Beginner’s Guide to Becoming a Sissy

I am frequently asked about training ‘sissies’, which is one of my favourite kinks—forced feminisation. Just for those who are unaware, a sissy is a person (usually a man) who adopts feminine-like behaviour to the extreme, and takes part in stereotypical ‘feminine’ activities, often within the context of BDSM. It takes a lot to become a true sissy but this is a short ‘beginners’ guide that I have put together to help those who want to become a true sissy. Let’s take those first steps into sissidom together.

1. Personality

Number one on my list is personality. I have seen so many sissies who just don’t have the correct attitude. You need to adopt ultra-feminine behaviour. To help with this, I usually make my girls watch films based on the lives of transvestites first. A quick search on Google will pull up quite a few. This is just so you can see what it generally is like. Keeping a diary also helps by keeping those emotions at the forefront of your mind. Women are generally more emotional than men so this conditions the mind to become more feminine. It also helps to choose ‘womanly’ activities over the more stereotypical male ones. Maybe take up a form of dancing, or fashion design or baking is another popular option. It is also considered wise to remain in chastity whilst training. A number of devices can be purchased if this is required.

2. Hair

If you are already blessed with long, beautiful locks, then lucky you. However, most beginner sissies do not have this luxury and have to find a quality wig. When choosing a wig, try to buy it in a store and it is also always preferential to choose a quality-made wig over a cheaper one. This is because the look, feel and movement of the hair will be much more realistic. Choosing a colour that suits you is also very important. You can do this by trying on different colours in the shop until you find the perfect match. The hair style is also important. Many wig specialists will be able to style the wig in the store to suit your face shape and personal style.

3. Beauty

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but if you have heavy, masculine features, makeup can really help to drastically change how your face looks. It can make your cheekbones stand out, slim your jaw line and nose and enhance your best features. It really is amazing. The core of any beauty regime is always the skin. If you have good skin, then you can work on the rest. Be sure to cleanse, moisturise and tone daily with quality products. There are many makeup tutorials online for transgender ladies which will also help sissies hide their more masculine features and enhance those beautiful feminine ones. Personal hygiene is also very important so be sure to shower or bathe as regularly as needed. And don’t forget your mani-pedi. Having a manicure and/or a pedicure really makes you feel ‘put together’. It also adds a very feminine touch.

4. Clothes

Last but not least … clothes: the one thing that really makes a sissy. Some of my girls had brilliant fashion sense when they came to me. Others, sadly, did not and required much effort on my part to become what they are today. It is good to start with the undergarments. I think some nice pieces of lingerie such as satin panties or a lace bra really make you feel feminine. But ultimately, you are going to want to compact the panties and fill the bras. Breastforms are something you wear to shape your bras and provide breasts without the need for surgery. They also come in different sizes which is very useful. Vee strings are something I learnt about more recently but basically, they enable the wearer to tuck away any ‘unladylike’ parts whilst allowing the user to pee sitting down like a lady. Some of my girls have even employed the use of a waist trainer to accentuate that desired feminine waist. Ultimately you want to choose the best style for your body shape. Styling for your body shape takes time, practice and lots of effort. Shoes are the ultimate feminine weapon. The beauty of a high-heel never goes unnoticed but again, walking in these can take time, practice and effort. This is something you definitely have to practice. I advise to start with a low heel and work your way up to the desired height.

There are so many tutorials online to help with sissification, I have many of them on my Pinterest so feel free to browse and contact me with any questions.

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November 16, 2014
A Dominatrix Fetish Session with an Escort — The Common Client

It’s been a long day at work. The boss was talking to me about another deadline. I feel like I can never catch a break. Maybe I’ll just sit down for a few and check out the weekly new reviews for the ladies. This usually helps me decompress.

Justina Carter

I see Justina has a new one out. “Noticed there were 4 tie down straps on the bed, read her other reviews she like to tie and tease, so why not. She only tied my hands where I could not touch her…” Wait a min; did he say that she tied him down? I’ve never done that before. I’ve actually never even thought to do that but suddenly I’m very turned on by the thought of letting someone else control me. I think I should reach out to her and see what could happen.

Appointment is set for Thursday afternoon. I am not sure I will be able to focus until then. All I can think about is being tied down. Will she laugh at me? Will she leave me to suffer? Her reviews say she’s great at what she does so I have to assume I will be fine. Wow, I can’t believe how nervous and excited I am.

It’s Thursday and time is slowly ticking away as I anticipate my appointment for later today. She sent me an email yesterday confirming our time and location. She seems genuine and put together. I like that. Makes me feel at ease. This isn’t the first lady I’ve seen but this is the first I’ve seen where I’m going to let her tie me down. I hope I can go through with this.

I’m walking to her hotel room. My palms are sweaty from nerves but my erection is pounding. I can’t get over this feeling of erotic anticipation. I can’t turn back now.

She opens the door and I am floored by what I see. She has short blond hair, blue eyes, petite and curvy in the right places. Wow, she is tiny, she must be around 110lbs! Her skin-tight black outfit is amazing and her smile is warm and inviting. I feel my erection throbbing.

We sit on the couch for a little with drinks to chat. She asks me about myself and I can tell she’s trying to help me relax. I focus on my breathing but her hand grazing my arm is intense. Focus … focus … some time has gone by and I feel more relaxed. She’s shared some things about herself and I am amazed by her knowledge of things. She comes off as sincere and this makes me want to submit to her even more.

It’s time to move to the bedroom. I see the straps laid out on the bed ready for me. She kisses me and slowly undresses me. I notice she’s staying dressed but something about that leaves me intrigued. She tells me to lie down in the center of the bed and to get comfortable because I won’t be getting up for a while. As she walks around the bed, she makes sure she’s continually touching me. She explains that since this is my first time being tied down she’s only going to tie my wrist down to give my legs room to move. She then explains the “safe words” and how they are to be used and how she will proceed if I use one. They are simple enough but yet my heart is pounding. She tells me to take some deep breaths as she removes her heels. Wow, she just shrunk about 6 inches. This makes me chuckle a little because she’s so tiny but yet she is oozing in confidence and sexuality. I already know I am going to love this. I want this woman to just take charge of me.

It’s 45 minutes later and I’m left in a dazed. I’ve been released from the straps but I can’t move. Justina is cleaning me up and has this amazingly devilish grin on her face. She knows she’s succeed and gone beyond my expectations. I can see that this pleases her. She finishes cleaning me up and then lies down next to me. Her body is very warm. She asks me how I’m doing and by this point I feel as if I have my strength back and can move. I tell her that I am great and that I loved every bit of it. I can see she is still grinning. We talk a little bit longer but I know my time is getting near its end since I only booked an hour with her. I’m sad I have to leave but I know I will be back.

I am dressed and ready to leave. She’s wearing a thin robe and is adorable in her bare feet. I’m still stunned on her size and her authority. She clearly has a power and she knows it. I’m going to relish this for days. She walks me to the door and kisses me goodbye. Goodbye Justina, I will see you again and very soon. You have captured me and now I must return to my world with my memories of our time together.

Justina Carter

He has left and now it’s time to shower and clean up. He was very sweet and nervous and I could tell he enjoyed himself. I love it when I can take someone who’s never submitted to a level of pleasure and enjoyment that leaves them breathless. I know the kink world has so many levels to it and I see this as more of a beginner stage but I still enjoy reining them in. I smile as I remember the moans he made and the look he gave me as he was silently begging me for more. Having this power makes me feel empowered. I am in control of myself and I know I can control others.

There have been many clients who’ve come through my door who have never experienced any sort of kink. Most of them appear as your “Average Joe”. They come from blue & white collar backgrounds. Some are married and others are just looking for an easy way to have fun without the hassle of having to “woo” a girl. But then again, what I do, I doubt there are many who’ve done this on a first date.

Why do I do this? Because I get a high every time I bring someone to ecstasy. Knowing that they are leaving with a smile on their face that will linger for hours; even days. Each has their own reasons for visiting me and I pride myself in knowing that they all feel safe. They are able to express their individual needs and desires without the fear of feeling bad about them.

Am I a kink expert? I don’t claim to be. However, I do understand the power I posses and my capabilities to expertly tease someone and push them to limits they didn’t know they had. Taking away their ability to touch a free will is a powerful thing. Being in control of their release (in more ways than one) leaves me on a high for hours on end.

Not only do I love what I do, but also I relish in it and crave for more.

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November 8, 2014
How to Pick Up and Satisfy A MILF

All of us ladies think about getting laid, regardless of whether or not we’re married. While most just won’t admit it, here is what works for me.

First

DO NOT appear shy or timid because I want to be fucked, and fucked well. I don’t want to have to teach a class, so show me a good time once we’re there.

Second

DO NOT be overly aggressive or a jerk and start off your conversation with who you know or what you own. MILFs are more concerned with getting laid than you knowing the president, although trust me they also do not want a guy living under a bridge either, so be casual in your discussions about what you do. A great smile and a wink does get my attention.

Third

NEVER be CHEAP. You don’t have to buy me a new Porsche 911 but if we’re at a nightclub, you better put the drinks on your tab or you’re toast. And if we’re at a nightclub, ask me for a dance as it gets me warmed up.

Four

Don’t push me for a number (I’m married remember?). Offer me your number instead or where i can find you (I will track you down if I’m interested). Ooops, this should be towards the top of this list LOL. If you’re not well dressed, forget it. Dressing casually or even a hot suit gets my attention, not a guy with his baseball hat on backwards. By all means, be well groomed and smell great. Try to hold it down (loud guy’s really turn me off) unless we’re fucking.

Fifth

Be in shape. Being in shape is not really the case with me, even though I love guys who are in shape, their personality means most and you do not have to look like Brad Pitt to get with me (but that would be nice LOL). Nonetheless, if you have expectations of the MILF you’re picking up, you ought to meet our requirements too.

After we’ve made it through the first phase and we’re heading towards the bedroom, now comes the most critical part. Your eyes. If you do not look me square in the eyes and speak, you’re toast. Again, i don’t want some guy looking all over the restaurant when he talks to me and if he does that, he has something to hide. I was a bartender and I’m better qualified than most therapists on liars and if I catch you in a fib, it’s see ya baby. Besides, I’m married and I never hide the fact that I am, so you guys better not either.

Oh you can be married but don’t give me this BS about your wife sleeping in the other room or she doesn’t understand you (boo hoo!) because I won’t buy it. We both know why we’re chatting so let’s cut the BS to a minimum … so as I leave, ask me to lunch somewhere semi-private and kiss me. Not overly passionate, but a nice kiss so i can feel your firm arms and always compliment me and that you must see me again … girls love hearing it, I know I do.

Congratulations, you’ve passed all the steps and we’ve communicated over the next few days or weeks and been to lunch a few times. So let’s now fuck but where are we going to? Obviously, we’re not going to my house and if you’re single and we get to your place and it’s a wreck, I’ll turn around and leave, guaranteed. For men who are single, clean up the place (and yes I’ll check the bathroom) and if you’re married, NO WAY are we going to your place or your buddy’s apartment. So the option left is (you want to impress me remember) a 5-star resort which will work and one with a beach (I’m in FL). And if none of those are available, it’s the Hilton Suites or equivalent (we’re not heading to the motel 6).

Once we’re there (you’ll be arriving first), have our dinner reservations taken care of and a nice bottle of wine waiting with two glasses (not cups). If it’s our first encounter, some flowers would be nice. Then it’s off for a romantic dinner and back for some HOT action and it better be good or you may have just seen the last of your MILF.

I’m old school, I love doors opened for me, flowers, cards, and hot hot sex.

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November 7, 2014
Sizzling Sexy Showtime!

I guess, you sexy ladies were all inspired by the latest lingerie trends I wrote about earlier in June and I believe you have already bought some new nice stuff to present to your sweetheart. But have you also thought about a private showtime event at home? Have you ever surprised your man with a striptease or a burlesque dance? In fact this is nothing to be frightened of if you feel comfortable dancing. It is just dancing in a very seductive way while slowly undressing yourself. Here’s a guide on getting yourself prepared:

Chose the right outfit. You will need a few layers to take them off little by little. So what would you like to wear on top of your lingerie? It must make you feel sexy and also it should be easy to be taken off. Perhaps, start simple with a skirt and a blouse (Extra benefit: A blouse has buttons (…!!), You will look very tempting while taking your time to button down once at a time. Remember, a good striptease should be slow and sensuous, one that involves delaying tactics to keep the suspense.

You like role plays? Then you could also go for a naughty French Maid or Nurse custom!

Choose your lingerie. Easy task. Pick your favorite items: Your new seductive bra with the matching brief plus the absolute must-have for a perfect striptease: the garter belt and stockings. Ensure that everything fits well and makes you feel sexy and confident. Got your outfit? Great! Next, just add some killer high heels, put on perfume and nice make-up, consider false eyelashes and give your hair a seductive out of bed look.

Setting up your stage. Choose the music you like, take care in choosing a seductive lighting and add a chair or small table to support your sexy moves.

Attitude. You are the hot seductive star of the night, feel confident and sensual, do not laugh or blush, Be playful, move slowly. Keep eye contact and show your best seductive smile and enjoy yourself while doing so!

Striptease is all about teasing and desire. Create suggestive promises. Make him want you so much by touching yourself and sending him secret messages with your eyes. Make him crazy while he can just watch and is not allowed to touch you (…yet)!

Practice your choreography. Move your body, hips up and down, move around, touch yourself, your face, your hair, your body, bend forward and show your cleavage, use the chair to play with (maybe sit in the chair and open your legs for a short Sharon Stone moment), but all in a very SLOW and seductive way. Take your time seducing him.

To undress. Turn away from your man, take off clothes, turn around, holding the garment in your hand and then throw it gently in your partner´s direction. When you are just wearing bra and underpants, make sure you are still wearing your high heels to keep a sexy body tension. Take of the bra now and then the knickers but cover your private parts with your hands at first and then take them away while turning to your man and give him your most seductive smile. Walk around naked in your high heels. Let him see how beautiful you are!

How would that feel? If you still feel a bit shy, try SKYPE and send him to the next room. Increase the excitement by allowing him to give you some instructions online.

Okay, ready now? Then let the music play! And if you don´t like dancing, try sending sexy selfies in seductive poses wearing your new lingerie! You will be surprised about the results! And if you feel confident, send us your best snapshorts here: abcd@abcd.com

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November 5, 2014
Swinging as a Single Male

Swinging is a fantastic lifestyle if you know what you are looking for and know what you are hoping to get out of the lifestyle. For me, that is the wonderfully diverse and usually great fun sexual encounters with a great group of open-minded people who see sex as something to be thoroughly enjoyed. It is not just the sex act itself, although that is the driving motivator behind why we swing, but it is the chance to be around other like-minded people who view their sexuality and sex in a positive and pleasurable light. When in regular society, can you be talking about what turns you on and how you enjoy different sex acts within minutes of meeting someone? The swinging world affords you the ability to connect with people who think just like you do about sex. People who believe that openness, variety, and social sex can be enjoyed without jealousy or negative emotions.

Swinging as a single male does create a unique set of challenges, but those challenges can be completely overcome if the single male embraces the lifestyle and truly understands where he fits into the swinging dynamic. Many single males fail as swingers and cause couples in the swinging lifestyle to swear off most single males because these single males just don’t get it. Frankly, they come across as assholes who seem to be only thinking about getting laid. These single males fail to realize that they are being allowed the privilege of providing fantasy fulfillment with a female or couple, and they need to understand how that is done. It’s not by talking to a female or couple and asking, “do you want to fuck?” It’s by being a gentleman and understanding the nuances of what the female or couple are looking for as part of their sexual fantasy. It’s by listening to what the female or couple has to say; it’s by picking up subtle verbal and non-verbal clues; it’s by communicating clearly; and it’s by thinking with your big head instead of your little head. I get mad when I see some of these jerks who profess to be swingers because I understand that these guys are why single males sometimes get a bad rap. I also understand that the bad rap is well deserved by the way some of these guys act. And, I understand why it’s sometimes hard to overcome the stigma of being a single male swinger. Because, many times, it’s well deserved.

Single males need to understand that not every female or couple wants to be with them. That is okay. I’ve gotten to know some great couples in the swinging lifestyle, and I’ve never had sex with them. Maybe I don’t turn them on, or they don’t turn me on, but that hasn’t stopped us from having some fun open conversations and enjoying the lifestyle all together in a group setting. Early on, I figured out the formula for being a successful single male, and that was don’t be an ass; listen to both the husband and wife or the single female; and adapt to what they are looking for. That doesn’t mean be a phony. You should always be yourself; be honest; and be open about what you like and what your desires are. However, re-prioritize your need to get laid and get off with their needs and desires. Trust me, you’ll still end up having a great sexual time and cumming more than you can imagine; just don’t make your pleasure the priority.

Successful single male swingers understand that no means no; not everyone is attracted to each other; not every woman wants to have sex the minute they meet you; and that each female and couple has their own unique set of boundaries, fantasies, and openness when it comes to swinging. Again, single males need to understand where they fit. From my experience, that is they bring extra diversity and pleasure to the female. Single males also need to understand that they need to be non-threatening to the male half of a couple. You’re there to add to their pleasure, not try to date or steal the wife. At the end of the night, you go away. You play by their rules. Understand that most males in the couple enjoy seeing their wife deriving pleasure from another guy. Maybe that’s what makes me a successful experienced single male swinger. I’ve been part of a couple. When I and an ex-girlfriend of mine went swinging, I loved to see her get fucked by another guy. I loved to watch her have orgasms with him. I loved to talk to her about how hot she looked taking his cock or how wet she got while he was licking her pussy. Swinging is about sexual pleasure for all involved, but single males have an added responsibility in understanding how they fit into the equation. It’s not just about the single male’s pleasure. It’s more about the female or couple’s pleasure that they are with.

At the end of the day or night, the single male will have plenty of fun too. I have been swinging for 19 years and I can hardly think of a bad experience I’ve had. I’ve been part of one-on-one sessions; with couples; and part of wonderful group sex. I’ve been to hotel parties, house parties, swing clubs, and met individually. Each experience is different, but each brings its own enjoyment in that they all center on sexually open people being able to be honest and open about what they enjoy sexually and not being afraid to show it. The swinging lifestyle is not for everyone, but if you are an open sexual person, you probably want to give it a try.

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October 25, 2014
Top 5 Favourite Fetishes

5. Wedgies! Yes, I said wedgies. I usually do these clips with another girl and we set up different scenarios where we would give each other a good old fashioned wedgie. We’ll buy big, oversized, granny panties so we can stretch them to the max and wedgie each other as high and hard as we can. The atomic wedgie is probably the most requested: that’s where we’ll actually pull the underwear from the back and pull it completely over our faces. Wedgies aren’t just for the playground in middle school anymore! My favorite wedgie clip was with myself and Briella Jaden, we were sisters and fighting over a two timing boyfriend, whoever gave the best wedgie got to keep the boyfriend.

4. Foot Worship! Feet are a huge fetish in the community and they can really go a long way anyway. It can be something super simple like nice manicured toes and spreading them or sucking them yourself to shoving your feet into someone else’s face or mouth to talking about how stinky and dirty your feet are. I like my feet so I have no problem putting them in my mouth, but it gets a little different when you have someone else’s foot coming at your face. I shot a cool foot fetish/bondage clip with a few girls. I was an office bitch and they kidnapped me, hog tied me and made me smell and suck their feet/toes. I got double timed on that one.

3. Tickling! This one is a barrel of laughs. Tons of different avenues with tickling and you can combine other fetishes into it, like feet for example. Lots of props can be used with this fetish too, such as feathers, hairbrushes, prickly rollers, hands obviously. The bigger the belly laugh when you’re being tickled, the better! I shot a short film of foot tickling with Terra Mizu where we had to tickle each other to get intelligence about the other’s dark companies and who really was the enemy. Check out Legends of the Dark Plume! www.FTKLTickling.com

2. Wrestling! Wrestling and boxing are a really sought after fetish and one of my top favorites to do. It’s a real, hardcore workout, the moves and holds are real and intense. I’ve wrestled with guys and girls before and it’s no joke. Head locks and scissor holds are probably the most popular! The last wrestling clip that I did was with two other girls and we tag teamed each other until we tapped. I had one of the girls in a standing scissor and she just shot right up with me on her shoulders … I thought for sure that I was going down but it was more of a blooper reel catch than anything else.

1. My all time favorite fetish is bondage!! Hands down the best thing I do. I love being tied up and restrained. There is an element of danger to it that really gets your adrenaline going, but there is technique to tying someone up. Your hands and feet get tingly and numb and you actually get ligature marks where the ties were. It’s almost taboo, because when I leave a shoot if I go somewhere afterwards with marks on me and I always wonder if people see and are curious about where these marks came from. I take this one over into my personal life as well so it holds a special place in my heart. I’ve been tied in every position you can imagine and with all sorts or different appliances: rope, cable wire, electrical cords, chains, zip ties (those hurt like hell) … I was accidentally stabbed in the shoulder during a zip tie clip, it was a complete accident obviously but I was faced down, hog tied and gagged and the girl I was working with clipped the end of the zip tie by my shoulder and it was so sharp that it cut me and I was bleeding everywhere but couldn’t say anything til after we were done filming because I was gagged. We still joke about it with each other.

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October 20, 2014