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Why I love selling my used panties

To the outside world I appear to be your stereotypical 22 year old woman. I go to university full time, work a part-time job in retail, and enjoy spending my free time hanging out with friends or browsing the internet for too long. I do love cats and have a strong affinity for chocolate. But I also have a little secret that few people close to me know about or understand: I sell used panties and other pornographic items online. Typically when people learn about the used panty world, the response can vary from a sense of curiosity to an immediate “ew gross” type of knee-jerk reaction. To me, used panties are a very personal item, and can vary so much from woman to woman that each different pair can create a very intimate experience for the person buying it.

I like to think a panty buyer is similar to a wine connoisseur; having an understanding as well as an appreciation of different scents from different women. Something that they strive to find the perfect pair that will hit the right “notes” which will tantalize their own personal tastes and senses.

This whole adventure for me began three years ago while I was casually browsing Craigslist. I came across a post of a young woman selling her used panties to help pay for her university textbooks. My initial reaction was disbelief that anyone would actually be interested in used panties from some strange women on the internet, so I headed to Google to look into it some more. Three hours later and I was deep into learning about the online fetish world. I’ve always been a very open minded individual, so what I was learning about this brand new world appealed to me right away. Despite this revelation and newfound knowledge, it still took me another year to gather enough courage to make my first post online. I decided I’d throw a website up for fun, maybe get a few hits every so often, and see where it went. What I didn’t realise, is how invested into this online fetish world I will get.

In my first week of business, I sold all the panties I had available. On top of that, I had to organize a wait list for the subsequent pairs due to the demand. It came as a complete shock as I was not expecting this sort of demand from customers, especially not in my first week. The aspect that surprised me most when I first started selling my used panties was how normal these men (and some women) were about it. They spoke to me in a kind and respectful manner, which further solidified my comfort level as it made me feel like this was less of an underground taboo fetish and more of a professional business transaction. Soon after, I began to sell custom photo sets, where the buyer would describe a general theme or focus and I would go shoot a set number of photos. From there I moved into doing custom videos which usually involves more specific requests such as personal names or fetishes. I think most of my customers who order the custom photos or videos are people who are looking for something that the “free” porn sites can’t offer, something more personal and specifically tailored to them.

I definitely underestimated the amount of time all of this would take. I did not realise how much it takes to maintain an online presence, answer all the emails I receive, prepare the orders, and then send out everything. Not to mention, doing all of this while still going through school and maintaining a part time job. The amount of time I spend online with this side business could easily amount to a full time job. Despite that, I absolutely love what I do and enjoy being able to send a little part of me all across the world! It’s amazing to think how many people have enjoyed my scent; it’s also a bit of a turn on for me as well. The most frequently ordered item from my website still remains my used panties. Typically I have a 3 to 4 day wait list for panties, which buyers are patient enough to wait for. Most of these orders consist of the regular one day worn panties, although occasionally I do get requests for multiple days of wear.

Personally, I do not prefer doing anything longer than two days of wear since it starts to get a little too fragrant for my liking. On top of selling panties, recently I’ve been getting involved in the online dominatrix world as well. So on top of my used panties for sale I’ve been getting more frequent requests for dominatrix themed videos and Kik chats. My speciality for these sessions and videos are jerk-off instructions. However, I have experience with small penis humiliation, financial domination, role playing, and foot/ass worshipping as well. I’ve found myself really growing into the dominatrix role and am having a lot fun exploring it with my buyers.

Being in the online fetish world, you have to prepare yourself for the variety of requests you can get. I have gotten some more extreme requests such as: one week of wearing, scat panties, urinated panties, wearing a diaper, and panties covered in period blood. I don’t take any requests which I don’t feel 100% comfortable with and it’s something I’ve stuck to since I’ve started. For me, I want to make sure I’m able to deliver 100% to the buyer and do not think it’s fair to them for me to accept a request I’m not personally okay with completing. So I try to focus on building strong communication with my buyers throughout the whole process to understand their expectations and desires so that I can do my best to fulfill their requests. I have always taken pride in how I present myself online and how people view my merchandise as well. Whether it be a physical item like worn panties, or one of my photo sets or videos. Since I have been doing amateur photography for over 8 years, I feel like I have a good eye for aesthetics and the overall presentation of my merchandise. This is something I feel that separates me from many other panty sellers. I don’t simply take a couple of lower quality cell phone pictures and call it a day.

I take the time to set up a camera and take high quality photos or videos. What I hope and feel that my buyers appreciate most are the small details and efforts like this that I put into everything I do. Starting this business 2 years ago remains one of the best decisions I have ever made. I have learned a lot and most importantly for me, I’ve found the confidence in myself to achieve something I never thought I would. Having my own business has been one of the most challenging but rewarding experiences of my life so far and I hope to remain doing this for a long while! Visit my website www.iampersonallyyours.com to check my collection out!

Our feature continues with our next piece, featuring New Zealand’s tastiest panty seller!

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January 15, 2015
Weird Requests I Get From Selling My Used Panties

I coin a nickname for myself – MissEasilyWet. Gradually, my customers who frequent my site (http://misseasilywet.blogspot.sg) call me MEW for short. I never once thought that I will be selling my worn panties in my 20s. The ailing economy post-Lehman brothers proved to be a major hurdle for me in securing employment in Singapore. You must find it unbelievable as I had all along been getting good grades in school until the final hurdle. Being in between jobs post-graduation, I came into contact with trading, and this became a vicious downward spiral as I become a jobless person in debt.

In March 2013, I chanced upon a premium grade sex forum and read a thread where panties enthusiasts discussed their fantasies. I laughed at the lengths they would go just to get their hands on female intimates. They would intentionally pop by to borrow the toilet at their relatives, neighbours or classmates’ house, just to rummage through their laundry basket for a sniff of their worn underwear! One user even commented on how sexciting it was to sniff a stranger’s underwear, not knowing who she was. This gave me an idea to monetise on their fetishes. Hence, I decided to start selling my panties. After all, it’s not as if I was selling sex services right? Unlike other young students who charge peanuts and more based on the duration of wearing, my USP is more on my wetness. I also charge more as I take the risk in meeting up with my customers. Along the way as I met more customers, I took in their feedback and added more items to my menu. There is a range of budget that can fit everyone’s needs.

I have a bevy of horny polytechnic students who have some extra pocket money to spare, so they can only opt for courier only non-meetup packages.

Many others also write in to express admiration for my wetness and how much they crave to lick me from source. Obviously that’s a big no-no. I have my principles which I hold steadfast to. With this, I came up with my signature “cum lollipop”. This specialty is only for customers with higher budgets and is the next best thing to licking me from source.

A common misconception I get is that I masturbate. Contrary to popular belief, on ‘good’ days, my panties get wet without me knowing. When I say wet, I don’t mean pee but precum. When I get stressed, I get occasional thick dollops of sticky stretchy cum. I have no idea why i get such overdose of protein secretion below. Some guys call me sick and find my wetness disgusting. Some even call me a man, despite censored pictures of myself on my blog.

If you think undies selling is easy and good business, think again. There’s the monthly period which means no panties sale for a week. There are days when I get a dry spell. Every now and then I see a new panties seller in the market. One even had the audacity to copy my menu offerings and price list whole sale. So I come up with a private blog, where only customers can receive a free invite to view my more intimate blog posts, uncensored daily photos and new panties designs. This solution opened a new can of worms. I started to receive many requests to enter my private blog and asked me to quote an entry fee, despite clearly indicating that it’s a free privilege for existing customers only. These customers are the most difficult to deal with. My public blog has all that they need to know. Either they are illiterate or they simply can’t be bothered to read my FAQs. I declare that I’m not a sex worker offering HJ, BJ or FJ and yet I get emails asking the same thing. Guys who think that since they are paying me for my live panties, and being pantyless in their presence means they can finger me.

As if such requests aren’t enough of a turn off, I get out of this world requests involving other body fluids. One of my initial customers was Alex a panty collector. On our second meetup, he actually requested that I spit on his dick so he could masturbate (or PCC in my country’s dialect lingo) in my presence. He repeatedly asked for a bottle of my spit. Apparently, he wanted to use it as lubricant to masturbate at home.

Then there were many others, like a signed on Air Force guy, Roderick, who asked for the cheapest meetup package, promising they are “not bad to look at”, in the hopes of getting into my panties and getting lucky.

But the best excuse to get me butt naked came from a doctor Gordon who works at a women’s hospital. He pretended to be concerned over the health of my pussy and why I produced such thick sticky cum. Using his doctor status, he repeatedly asked me to spread my legs so he could inspect my private parts in his car for free. This definitely puts “the icing on the cake”. If you are reading this Doc, please stop offering me peanuts for sex.

Other than that were non-panties related emails applying to be Mr. Easily Wet and asking me out for a dinner date. I keep these people at arm’s length having bore the heartache of going the extra mile with one special customer, MEH which stands for Mr Easily Hard. He coined this nick and email just for me. We had quite a thing going on for almost a year before he called it quits. Silly unprofessional me actually fell for this young chap. How stupid could I be thinking that a special relationship could blossom when we met through a panties website! To him, it’s nothing more than a mere panty transaction. Ironically, because of the way we met, we cannot have more in our relationship.

My favourite panties are usually of minimal fabric, tons of barely-there lace intricately joined together in the right places. I usually label them as ‘not available’ on my catalogue even though they are sitting in my wardrobe. These are the ones with a story, so I am usually reluctant to sell them. Most of them remind me of the intimate sessions I had with an ex-special Mr. Easily Hard. I got some extra sexy barely-covering strings specially for him but I guess there won’t ever be a chance anymore.

Moving forward in the new year of 2015, MEW’s little “business” will continue but there will be more discretion in picking customers. I have easily thousands of viewers a day but many are just onlookers. I hope that only serious genuine customers will write in as I can’t reply to every slightly interested Tom, Dick or Hairy.

On a personal level, I like to meet someone who genuinely likes me for who I am, not just my body, and wants to (plus have the ability to) take care of me in all aspects of life so I can quit this business. It will be a tough call for someone with a big heart to accept my history and forgive me for meeting so many men. Many similar panty sellers are writing to me, asking to collaborate. I’m not sure if I’m one of the few prominent intimates-seller in Singapore, but I’m really not looking to expand this. If this gets bigger, I will have a hard time keeping my double identity under wraps.

SimplySxy’s Used Panties special feature continues tomorrow where our next seller is also into the online dominatrix world. Stay tuned!

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January 14, 2015
How I got into the Slutwife lifestyle

SimplySxy kicks off this 6 Part special featuring Mrs G, beginning with how she got into the slutwife lifestyle.

Well it wasn’t a conscious lifestyle decision, that I suddenly woke up one morning and decided upon, that’s for sure.

It started by degrees, i suppose that’s the easiest way of describing it.

I’ve always worn stockings and suspenders, and my hubby has a serious stocking and leg fetish. When we first started dating many, many years ago now, he couldn’t believe his luck because, and I think it’s safe to say, all his previous girlfriends had worn tights/pantyhose.

He said he’d found the perfect girl and who was I to argue. After we’d been married a good few years, while we were making love, he used to like to talk about me flashing my legs at other men, and I didn’t mind because it got him excited, so I went along with it. Then it progressed to talking about me letting other men feel me up, until we were regularly talking about other men having me.

Usually in the back seat of a car, or in an alleyway. which at the time, although we didn’t know it then, would prove to be very prophetic words indeed. I’d make up little stories about how I’d been chatted up somewhere, usually by an older gentleman, because that was something that turned me on as well … in our little stories it’d taken place at a pub, or while i was out doing the shopping, or while at work, then I’d make something up about how i ended up letting them have sex with me … despite me being a married woman who should be ashamed of herself for letting something like that happen.

I think I probably got as much out of being a naughty girl sexually, as hubby did having a wife who imaginary strayed. I don’t know if all this was normal sexual foreplay, but I have read about things like that a lot in magazines or in television lifestyle documentaries since, where couples talk about their sex lives and fantasies. So maybe we were only being normal? I honestly don’t know. From there, it went to me being ‘persuaded’ to go out in skirts a little too short and heels a little too high, and to sitting in coffee bars and restaurants accidentally revealing a little too much leg, showing off my stocking tops and suspender clips.

It probably sounds very tame and restrained compared to what I get up to now. But at the time, it was like our version of the moon landing … a giant leap for the married-kind. We’d both get so very turned on at our, at the time ‘outrageous and daring antics’, that we’d often celebrate with a quickie or a blow-job on the way home in the car, down a back lane, or parked at the back of a remote car park somewhere to relieve the passion. So that, in a nutshell I suppose, is how we first dipped our collective toes in the water of marital consensual adultery, without really knowing or planning where it would lead to later.

And from there, eventually things progressed, to me one day willingly consenting to giving sex outside of marriage a try. Which I eventually did, and have been doing regularly ever since, with hubby’s full support and approval.

If you’d asked me about the prospect of me ever being the person I am now or of the possibility of me willingly embracing this lifestyle when I first met my future husband, or even a good number of years after we first got married. I can honestly say, i don’t think it’s either something I ever thought about or probably would have considered doing. And yet here I am now, openly talking about it like this. It just goes to show, never take anything or yourself for granted. Given the right circumstances or motivation, I think we can all change over time, until eventually we become the person we were probably always meant to be.

Stay tuned next week for Part 2 of 6 when Mrs G shares what she loves most about being a Slutwife!

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January 12, 2015
Zara DuRose and her obsession with Latex

It wasn’t until recently that I started thinking back to when my fetish first started. It’s something that has been there for so long, it was like a part of the furniture.

It all started when I was in primary school, I couldn’t have been any older than 6 at the time. All I can remember are flashbacks of times at the pool. Everyone was getting ready in the changing rooms, and I was sitting there absolutely fascinated with the rubber swimming cap I held in my hand, the feel, the smell and how it felt running my hands over my encased head when it was worn. It felt, nice.

Of course, at that age, I wasn’t sure of how my relationship with the fabric would progress, and how it would become such a major part of my life!

Growing older into teenage years, I developed a interest in gothic culture, clothing & alternative music etc. It was coming across pictures on the internet of women, tightly clad in shiny latex, looking absolutely breathtaking that took my mind to wondering about getting some of my own. I often wondered how it would feel, smell and move with my body. Would it be cold, or get hot and sweaty? Could you see your goosebumps through the fabric when there was a chill?

When I was 16, I first started talking to my now husband online. We met on a alternative music website and started talking about general things, fetishism being one of them. It felt great to finally pour my heart out to someone who understood me and was perverted just in the right ways! I grew up in a very secluded area of the UK where there was no fetish nightlife, or had anyone who dared to dress differently. It had often made me wonder if my fantasies were ‘normal’ as everyone else seemed so vanilla.

Skip forward a few months to when my husband and I first met that things really changed for my love of latex. I was spoilt from day one, a trend that has lovingly continued until today! He surprised me with my very own latex dress! It was a very tight, black dress from Westward Bound. High neck & full length sleeves, with a red fire detail at the rim of the cuffs and hem of the dress.

I remember carefully sliding myself into the somewhat alien fabric, and soon being overwhelmed by the feeling as it warmed to my body and moved just as I did. It was the perfect second skin. I felt completed in. Shining it up was such a pleasurable process, feeling your hands run over your body and watching the latex become a beautiful shined black. Being shined up is something I still enjoy to this day, it takes me to a place of senses, where everything is heightened to a fantastic point. It’s like a form of foreplay for me.

As I grew older (and reached legal age!) my wardrobe has grown, and I have enjoyed many different outfits over the years. Sadly, my original dress is now damaged beyond repair, but I still have the flame sleeve kept in a drawer of memories.

I also started making latex outfits about 3 years ago. It’s mainly a personal venture, I love wearing something different that no one else has, and of course its totally made to measure! I have been lucky enough to put on my own fashion shows in Bulgaria and Athens. It was a great feeling to watch others be admired in something I had created. But deep down, I wanted to keep it all for myself, because the models just didn’t ‘get it’.

My fetish for latex has blossomed into something beautiful. I am so lucky to model for a living and actually get paid to wear something I enjoy so much. Not many people can say that they love going to work! Being part of the ‘vanilla’ adult industry has been a great adventure too, I always try and get away with my own styling and of course latex comes in wherever it can! If not, then I will sneak in some stockings at least!

I think currently, my favourite thing to see is every day clothing in latex. From pencil skirts, blouses, tight trousers & dresses to ball gowns, stockings and elaborate lingerie. There are so many amazing designers out there to follow and admire, my Tumblr dashboard is a never ending scroll of beautiful, latex clad women!

The last 2 years have flown by so quickly and my time in the adult industry has been such an exciting adventure! I am currently busy creating content for my website which is launching in March 2015—it will be filled with hardcore, fetish content. And of course, plenty of latex!!

So, there’s a little insight into the mind of Zara DuRose, and how my fetish with latex started! It’s been a long journey, but it’s no way near over yet!

Love

Zara -X-

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January 12, 2015
Shibari – An introduction to Japanese rope bondage

I am Japanese Dominatrix Amrita. I am also known as an international fetish performer/fetish model. I offer pure BDSM sessions, but do not offer sexual services and nudity. One of my specialities is Japanese rope bondage; called ‘Shibari’ in Japanese. I often include Shibari in my sessions which is used to immobilize the subs and it enhances sensitivity and excitement in them, so it is effective method for BDSM sessions. For my performances as well, I do mainly Shibari bondage shows at fetish parties/BDSM events etc all around the world.

I have performed in 23 countries, mainly in Europe. In most of those countries, fetish scene/BDSM business are already established, so the perception of the audience is very good and enthusiastic. Japanese rope bondage requires expertise to make intricate ropes works, which looks artistic. I myself would rather focus on the artistic aspect of the Shibari when I perform than sexual imagery. I improvise beautiful patterns of bondage to decorate my sub model’s body, which has to be an artistic and effective bondage at the same time. Then once they are tied up, I combine with BDSM activities like whipping, candle wax, gags, and nipple clamps etc. Like all BDSM activities, it has to be consensual, and important that sub models enjoy being tied up. Otherwise it is a torture.

Japanese rope bondage is said to have originated from officer’s rope works to capture criminals in Muromachi-period(15-16th century), using it to capture and immobilize criminals, using hand cuffs, chains etc. It was also used as a form of torture as well in that period since some of the Shibari positions are really hard on the body. During that period, I doubt anyone used Shibari for sexual pleasure in their private lives. Much later, probably around late 19th century to early 20th century, Shibari started to be recognized as a sexual fetishism, and finally after the world war, a few people started SM/rope bondage shows/videos as a business.

As a dominatrix for sessions, I bondage male subs mainly. In that case, bondage is a great way for power exchange. Once I put them in bondage, even if they are big or strong guys, they become totally helpless in front of me and I can play with them as much I want, and this satisfies my dominant desire. To play SM, you may need equipment and dungeons such as hand cuffs, bondage benches or a St Andrew cross to restrict the sub’s movement. But with rope bondage, we just need several ropes to have the same effects. I like this handy aspect of bondage too. As each person has a different body and different fantasy about bondage, I use my creativity to improvise the best ways for each of them and so it is never boring.

As a performer, I bondage female sub models mostly. I really love the artistic aspect of the Shibari for the show, as if I am making decorations with my rope works on the pretty girls’ body, and the audience appreciate the beauty of this artistic bondage.

I have met many people who like to be tied up. But why do they like bondage?

There are several reasons, but mainly they feel excited to be helpless, to be immobilized. Even if you are not into BDSM, imagine you are kept in hands/ankle cuffs, attached to the bed with ropes by your loving partner/your sexual fantasy man or woman, and then you are going to be touched sensually, isn’t it exciting? You are unable to do anything and just have to take his/her teasing on your body.

I often combine bondage and BDSM actives like whipping, spanking, nipple pinching, dropping candle wax on the body, mouth gags, blindfold etc, depending on what people are into. With the bondage on, many of my subs are more sensitive to their body and can enjoy the stronger effects of those BDSM activities. Sensitivity mainly comes from their state of mind being helpless and immobilized in front of the mistress. They are opened for the pain/discipline I am going to give them, and they are under the mistress’s control and have no choice. This situation turns them on and this excitement makes their body feel more sensitive.

However, it is not necessary to combine painful activities like whipping, pinching, dropping candle wax on your body with Shibari. And Shibari itself is not a painful thing if we do it safely and correctly. It can be very sensual if we combine with soft touch, soft scratch, stimulation on sensitive parts etc.

I have heard from several people that they like the feeling of being held in the layers of ropes, they feel like they are embraced tightly which gives them the feeling of relaxation and comfort. This is a psychological aspect that deals with those people’s past experience and emotional conditions.

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January 6, 2015
Miss Poison & Luna Wolf | Evil Twins Feature

SimplySxy is excited to feature Missy Poison, an alternative model published worldwide in tattoo, horror and fetish publications. She has been involved in the modelling industry for 6 years.

Recently transitioning into acting and known as a scream queen due to the love for all things horror, 2014 saw the beginning of a brand new project for Miss Poison – the birth of the evil twins with her fellow model Luna Wolf. Together they specialise in all things horror and aside from being models, they produce their own films and photograph events, both are models and have works published in their respective specialist fields.

As Missy Poison puts it, “There is no such thing as spare time in my world … I am a workaholic and like nothing more than to stay as busy as possible and with an array of projects already lined up for 2015, I am eager to start off the twins year with a bang so any spare time at the moment is spent making sure we all we need to take on conventions and finally be able to take our products and ourselves to our fans, to be able to share our love for all things evil and SYNister and to continue supporting indie horror.”

It’s okay … it’s okay to express yourself, to not hide away for fear of what people may think.
It’s not okay … it’s not okay to live in fear of any form of prejudice for being different.

Bottomline, people can be nasty, judgmental and scared of things they don’t understand. Long term education is key. Missy Poison being Dominant to Luna Wolf shows a great responsibility of control and focus; she knows and trusts Luna, knows all of Luna’s strengths and weaknesses, psychologically and physically.

Luna trusts Missy unconditionally and hands over the control to her and through this, they can please each other safely. But this is not something to be afraid of. All this are the results of two people expressing their enjoyment over acts of love and friendship that are not socially accepted yet. As long as two people consent in a safe expression to the point where no one will be seriously harmed, why should this be seen as wrong?

Luna’s personal opinions on her role as a submissive to Missy: (may not be the opinions of others)

I enjoy handing control over to Missy, I get to let someone else make the decisions. I let go of the stresses and my body can relax fully to let my mind rest, to trust her to know me well enough to make me walk a path that is good for me and that I will enjoy. Being bound tightly reminds me to let go, allow being controlled. To be spanked gives me adrenalin and a natural feeling of being alive and aware. I thank Missy regularly with the utmost respect, which in turn gives her a feeling of appreciation to her actions. The feeling that someone I trust will pay attention to my needs and thoughts … to help me get there without me questioning others options, to be straight and direct. Without wondering what other people may think about the actions I take … Missy is giving me the ultimate power to be myself without hiding anything. For me, this is unconditional love and freedom. But it doesn’t end there, if I’ve been spanked, I have taken on pain, to ensure my thoughts don’t get confused and my mind can heal, Missy spends time with loving actions and non-punishment acts to remind me there is unconditional love between us, that there is not always pain in this world.

Check Missy Poison out at www.team-synister.com or follow her on facebook or twitter!

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January 4, 2015
Tech Talks – 3 Tips to get started as a Cam Girl

This article may seem a bit more orientated to those who Cam often or are looking to cam more often but the essentials of setting up a room for your photos makes all public photos for you better as well as your selfies for your private or public life.

Tip 1 – Lighting

Lighting Is the essential part of your set up, once you find your comfortable position, you must adjust your lighting. Professional lights are not necessary, a nice light stand with multiple lights will offer you the best type of lighting. You can also shoot in natural light, which depending on your theme, may be what you want. However, do remember how your photos will look depending on the weather, but we’ll discuss natural vs lamp light at a later time.

Chart A

As shown in chart A, your lighting setup should be almost the same depending on how you are shooting, dim light and other techniques get more complicated but will become easier as we go along. This stance is very neutral and more often used for camgirls, but for getting started in photos and videos, this is a good place to start as you branch out.

Tip 2 – Background

After lighting, lets look at background. Consider yourself and whoever else in the foreground. If you’re looking for a more uniform shoot, then you should stick to the solid colours in your shoot room or location. It is a good idea to avoid yellow because it often has a nauseating effect on people. While colours do have an importance, so too are your decorations. If you are camming, it may be a good idea to get a chair or something to rest your butt on, and this also applies to any photos or videos taken while you are sitting down. Blankets, dividers, pillows, and fake or real plants can all be tied in the photoshoot or video. Never forget how important your body is for the main decoration. What you have decorated your body with should fit your other decorations, or you can work with classing. For someone with lots of black Gothic style tattoos who wants a frilly pink background and decor, no one will ever say you’re wrong. If you have no body decorations, just insure your lighting is not overpowering your skin and over flushing your decorations. Lightening your skin with light is also an option. Different colours of light and types will have different effects so never fear fiddling around with light and learning what you like best.

Tip 3 – Posing

Once your room is set up and you are the center of all your photos or videos, next comes your posing, now everyone’s aspect will cause them to pose differently and there are no guaranteed positions that will have you 100% perfect. A general rule of thumb is if the camera is below your face and you’re looking down at it, this gives the viewer a submissive view to you, while the camera looking down on you gives you the submissive view. Positions will be looked at in depth later. Again positions and lighting will be very much the same

When it all comes down to it, your shoot room isn’t what markets you but your personality and who you play to be, whether it be a Lovely Little or a Towering Dominatrix. Do what makes you comfortable, and again, these are just the basics and I’ll be willing to answer any and all questions and comments.

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January 2, 2015
Organise your own successful Gangbang!

I’d like to think we all know the rules: If you’re the only girl and you’re up against three or more guys, that’s considered a gang bang, and it’s one of the wildest scenarios you might find yourself in when leading a cuckold lifestyle.

Although being with just one man other than your husband is the best choice for a hotwife —for a lot of reasons I’m not gonna address here—, a gang bang also offers it’s fair share of advantages and it will be fun for you, your cuckold and your male guests. And there are some reasons sometimes we’d rather do a gang bang than a one-on-one date, or at least it was that way when we first started on the lifestyle.

For a cuckold husband, the sole idea of watching her wife fucked by many men is simply one of the biggest turn-ons on Earth. It’s just too exciting a scene and he can arm himself with a nice camera and just tape the whole thing from different angles to feed his personal collection of wifey porn. What’s not to like? For the hotwife it’s the chance to be the center of the Universe, or at least the focus of a group of horny males. Just like in porn, but close and personal.

We first started gangbanging because we were on the prowl for well–hung, mature and educated men. But we didn’t want to set a date and end up disappointed by him. I mean, we only made contact through swinger sites that depended on reputation via validations. That means there are other couples that have been with your candidate and if their experience was bad they will register that on the guy’s profile. If the encounter was good… Well, they will praise him and whatnot. But if some guy works for a certain couple there’s no guarantee it will hit the spot for you, so anyway you’re kinda in a blind spot when seeking a ‘perfect guy’ to fit your criteria.

Read on Page 2 as Miau Miau gives tips on how to organise a successful Gangbang!

January 1, 2015
Scooby Doo made me fall in love with Bondage

So where did my love of bondage begin? Scooby Doo. No seriously, it all started with Scooby Doo. As a little girl I’d watch, desperate to be Daphne. Not because she was pretty or smart but because she always ended up captured and tied up. Minds work in strange ways and it’s only as I’ve explored sexually in long term relationships I can understand these urges.

Bondage is a huge part of my life, not just professionally but in my own sex life too. Professionally you can find me in anything from rope up to extreme heavy metal devices, as well as everything in between. I really do enjoy metal device bondage but at home this is both expensive and tricky! So where to start…

You’ve decided you’d like to try bondage and you don’t want to break the bank. Did you know, its 100% you’ll have everything you need in a cupboard! Let’s start simple! Grab a scarf, any scarf, although my favourite would be a silk one. Get in the mood, then when things start to heat up, use the scarf to simply tie her wrists behind her. You can then start to go hard, have her on her knees holding her arms above her head by the scarf and fuck her like you mean it! Thank me later 😉

If you prefer being a bit more domineering and have some handcuffs ( cheap fluffy numbers are a fine place to start! ), handcuff her to the leg of your bed on the floor, tell her to lift her arse and spank till your hearts content!

As you start to feel more confident and are both ready for rope, please check out Two Knotty Boys for tutorials and safety advice! Enjoy it, get to know your partners limits and most of all have some good old kinky fun!

Images courtesy of Birdy Dee
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December 31, 2014
Orgasm control, not a femdom-only concept

People living a vanilla lifestyle are often curious about my so different femdom life and experiences. And amongst the many questions they ask me, male chastity seems to be a predominant topic. And this is for good reason. I of course, keep my slaves in constant chastity and exercise rigid orgasm control.

This is not for punishment but for the sake of domination. Controlling my slaves’ cocks, I control their brain and thus, the whole guy. And for me, there is nothing more arousing and exciting than exercising control. Once put into chastity, any man will soon wince at my feet in agony. He will lick my soles begging for release. My dear female readers, the feeling that sight evokes is just devastating and as he is lying there at my feet, trying to make his body express his fathomless adoration, he will never know when he will cum again. There is no chance for him to even influence what lies in my sole discretion. My power over him materializes in the little key hanging on a golden chain around my neck. I might make him ejaculate in the next minute, on next christmas eve or never again. Knowledge is power. That´s why cluelessness is the fate of the slave.

The bliss that lies in this so special form of control is not an exclusive gift for dominatrixes. I think that the concept of orgasm control can spice up any relationship. For the benefit of the female part but not only for her. Believe it or not: Based on my experience I am convinced that it will work out satisfactory for the male too. Even though it might sound weird at first thought. Think back to the days when you were a little child: Don´t you remember how you were looking forward to christmas, to the event, the Christmas tree, the presents? Was looking forward not filling your dreams day and night? “Joy is always in the forecast” they say and I think there is truth in that. The male creature in chastity will phantasize about the bliss of his next orgasm. He will crave for it, he will be filled with anticipation. Just as he was looking forward to the gift giving ceremony on Christmas eve when he still was that little boy who still lives within him. And you will see how much his behaviour will change with this anticipation and with the knowledge that the decision about turning his dreams into reality is up to you. He will become heedful, attentive, considerate. You will hardly recognize the egoistic, lazy couch potato that hung around in your living room; so different now from the sloppy guy for whom the constant availability of sexual satisfaction seemed to be a natural right. We do not cherish what we can have easily, we cherish what we long for and cannot have. That´s sad but its just human. His orgasm was once of course, just an incidental matter for him Now, it will turn into a rare release that he will appreciate more than ever. And most importantly: His little brain will automatically associate this longing for climax with you.

Then when the big moment is there, he will be so grateful to you that you finally opened him up. He will lick your hands in gratitude with tears in his eyes because he will have understood by then that it is no longer him who takes what he wants whenever he feels like it. But it´s you who deliberately offers him a special gift. Believe me, I have looked into those tear-stained eyes often enough to know what I am talking about.

So, my dear readers, why don´t you give it a try? Your life will turn for the better I am sure. Start cautious and slowly. Don´t scare him off. Make a little game out of it first. Offer him a special treatment when he manages to wear the belt over the weekend. Reward him in the beginning and troke his cock in the harness more often than you did in the past when it hung loose. Rub your thighs against it. Dress up nice and tight whenever he is in chastity. Get him accustomed to the feeling. Then slowly start extending the terms. Longer and longer … Make him wear the belt every night first, then on weekdays too. Take it step by step. You will see by then that it will develop on its own and further and further … and before he even realized it, he will be caught like a fly in the spider’s web.

And, ladies, shhhh, don´t tell them: female supremacy will not arrive out of the blue. It will come in many little steps. This is one of them. And it is not the least.

All images courtesy of Mistress Ezada
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December 29, 2014