An Introduction To BDSM

I think kink and alternative lifestyles are amazing, especially if you’re someone who wants to change up their sex life. There are so many BDSM activities, fetishes, role-play scenarios and fantasies you can explore. There’s really something for everyone. Kink can promote open-mindedness and awaken your sexual deviance . Studies have even shown that kinky sex can benefit your health and your relationship.

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How My BDSM Interest Began

My interest came about in early high school when I started perusing erotic novels at the bookstore. The only ones that did it for me were the books that had sadomasochistic undertones. I loved reading about women who gained pleasure from pain and the strong, hunky men who loved inflicting it.

After that, I joined sites and forums dedicated to the subject. When I found my first play partner, I dove in head first and surrendered myself completely. The vanilla life I once knew was gone and I was more than happy to wave it goodbye.

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Favorite BDSM Activities

My favorite activities are breath and impact play. Breath play is pretty simple, it’s the restriction of you or your partners’ oxygen. You can do this in a multitude of ways. I enjoy choking and plastic bags the most. I find it to be incredibly thrilling to know my life is literally in someone else’s hands.

Impact play is spanking, slapping, punching, flogging, paddling, caning, etc.  When it comes to this fetish, it’s go hard or go home for me. I want to be beaten to tears and reduced to bruises and welts. Gives me a sense of accomplishment to push my boundaries and limits.

Tools Every Beginner Should Have

Thinking back on my first “starter kit”, I had a small flogger, a wooden paddle, drip candles, handcuffs, anal beads and plugs, nipple clamps, silk ties, a blindfold and an assortment of gags. Not all of those are necessary but they’re good tools for beginners.

Take It To The Next Level!

For someone who wants to take it to the next level I would recommend Shibari rope, violet wands and E-stim devices, nipple or genital pumps, sounds, ben-wa balls, speculums, and strap-ons. If you really want to look like a pro, invest in some furniture. Saint Andrew’s crosses, spanking benches, swings, etc can be fun additions to the bedroom.

Making BDSM Safe & Fun

In order to make it safe, there has to be trust and communication first and foremost. Secondly, you need to know your stuff. Do some research, watch some videos, talk to experienced kinksters and then give it a go.

As for the fun part, that’s up to you. Do whatever feels right, try something that makes you uncomfortable because it may surprise you, or try it with multiple partners. It’s your fantasy, you direct it.

Paige Pierce – Paige Pierce is an adult performer whose expertise lies in the BDSM and fetish, but is versatile in all genres. She won Fetish Con’s “Best Female Fetish Performer” in 2016. You can find some of her scenes on websites such as: Kink.com, Insex.com, Assylum.com, FetishPros.com, Subbygirls.com and Femaleworship.com.

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