My hands are my major sex organ. Human hands are capable of both finesse and power. I don’t approach “fingering” as some lower level sex act, but as fucking. My advice comes from a sample size of about 3500 women. No two women are the same, but they are similar. The actions that feel good fall within a range.
Use your fingers to feel your partner’s body, eventually making your way to her pussy. Pay attention to the flow of blood into her lips, the pace of her heart, her breathing, her voice. Gauge her reactions, and proceed with what feels good. Most girls either want to be stroked vertically up and down the length of the clit, have her clit rubbed back and forth, or in circles.
I will sometimes ask a girl which of these things feel better. Don’t be afraid to ask questions in bed. One of the easiest ways I’ve found to get a woman off is to hold her from the back, kissing her or looking at her or kissing her neck, using one hand to rub her clit and the other to touch her breasts or another erogenous zone. From this position, you can touch her as she might touch herself.
How To Enter Her
If you want to use penetration, feel the entrance of the vagina. If she reacts well, put your fingers in. I tend to start with two, but with some partners one is more appropriate. If you’re inexperienced, start with one. Starting with more than two is an an advanced move and I don’t recommend using it without a lot of practice. Use firm pressure, but not necessarily hard. Direct your energy into your finger(s).
Many women like it when you curve your fingers toward her abdomen and feel for an area that feels sort of spongy (the“G Spot”) and then fuck that. Stroke in and out, but with that spot as the target, increasing your speed as her arousal increases. The vagina expands with arousal. When you start to feel a space inside, you can add more girth (fingers). The reason I’ve put my fist inside so many girls is that I know how to read this sequence.
Step It Up
Look at your partner. Pay attention to her. Fuck faster and harder when she’s ready, not when you are. Most women do like to get fucked – they just want to be fucked right. You have better control with your hands, so not only can you pleasure your partner you can learn skills that you can transfer to intercourse. Have fun and treat your partner with love.
Lily Cade is “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” and a veteran adult performer and director. She’s known for her strap-on skills, her aggressively passionate sex scenes, and her characters such as “Officer Cade” and “Kristen Grey.”
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