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Author: Lily Cade

  • How To Finger A Girl

    How To Finger A Girl

    My hands are my major sex organ. Human hands are capable of both finesse and power. I don’t approach “fingering” as some lower level sex act, but as fucking. My advice comes from a sample size of about 3500 women. No two women are the same, but they are similar. The actions that feel good fall within a range.

    Be Attentive

    Use your fingers to feel your partner’s body, eventually making your way to her pussy. Pay attention to the flow of blood into her lips, the pace of her heart, her breathing, her voice. Gauge her reactions, and proceed with what feels good.  Most girls either want to be stroked vertically up and down the length of the clit, have her clit rubbed back and forth, or in circles.

    I will sometimes ask a girl which of these things feel better. Don’t be afraid to ask questions in bed. One of the easiest ways I’ve found to get a woman off is to hold her from the back, kissing her or looking at her or kissing her neck, using one hand to rub her clit and the other to touch her breasts or another erogenous zone. From this position, you can touch her as she might touch herself.

    How To Enter Her

    If you want to use penetration, feel the entrance of the vagina. If she reacts well, put your fingers in. I tend to start with two, but with some partners one is more appropriate. If you’re inexperienced, start with one. Starting with more than two is an an advanced move and I don’t recommend using it without a lot of practice. Use firm pressure, but not necessarily hard. Direct your energy into your finger(s).

    Many women like it when you curve your fingers toward her abdomen and feel for an area that feels sort of spongy (the“G Spot”) and then fuck that. Stroke in and out, but with that spot as the target, increasing your speed as her arousal increases. The vagina expands with arousal. When you start to feel a space inside, you can add more girth (fingers). The reason I’ve put my fist inside so many girls is that I know how to read this sequence.

    Step It Up

    Look at your partner. Pay attention to her. Fuck faster and harder when she’s ready, not when you are. Most women do like to get fucked – they just want to be fucked right. You have better control with your hands, so not only can you pleasure your partner you can learn skills that you can transfer to intercourse. Have fun and treat your partner with love.

    Lily Cade is “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” and a veteran adult performer and director. She’s known for her strap-on skills, her aggressively passionate sex scenes, and her characters such as “Officer Cade” and “Kristen Grey.”

    Follow her on LilyCade.com, Twitter @lily_cade and Instagram lily_cade

    Catch Lily Cade in her upcoming work:

    Evil Lesbian Stepmother, coming soon from FillyFilms.com, is my latest movie. In my first “Milf” role, I tackle the popular incest genre in my own delightfully twisted way. The movie stars Bianca Breeze, Piper Perri, Mona Wales,  Lana Lovelace, RenéeRoulette and Summer Day.

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  • Mistakes Men Make During Sex

    Mistakes Men Make During Sex

    I love sex. I’ve always been fascinated by it, and I got into porn not just to have sex, but to make art about it. I’ve always used it as a way to connect with other women. I like to say that sex is like a conversation – a human interaction that can have a lot of different meanings. I’ve never been monogamous and I’ve never been with a man. I have no interest in either.

    What Turns Me On

    I like getting girls off, and doing it right. I like strap-ons, fisting, group sex, public sex, and pushing extremes. I like submissive girls, butches who can give me a run for my money, and high energy experiences. I love being a porn star.

    Do Ladies Satisfy Other Ladies Better?

    Women are objectively more likely to get off in a lesbian encounter than a straight one. Lesbian sex has female pleasure as it’s sole focus, and much less weird cultural bullshit wrapped up in it. Plus, it’s a safer activity on many levels so it’s easier to relax.

    When I fuck a girl, my whole focus is on her. I also do have a sense of what the things I do feel like – a sort of physical empathy – but mostly I pay attention to her reactions rather than what I would want myself.

    Common Mistakes Men Make During Sex

    Most of the complaints that I hear about men stem from men being inattentive lovers and not knowing how to touch their bodies.

    Your dick matters way less to women than it does to you. Women are much, much less likely to fuck you for your dick than to fuck your dick for you. Don’t send her dick pics unless she asks, and if you do send them, make sure the energy in the pictures is “I am so turned on by you, personally” and not “I have this thing I want you to touch.” Don’t make the sex all about your dick. Make it about the connection, and use all the parts of your body as a tool to foster it.

    Speaking of dicks, size isn’t the end all be all. Sure, there are size queens out there, but even for a size queen, just being hung doesn’t make you good. On the other end of the spectrum, just because you have a small dick, it doesn’t mean you can’t satisfy your partner.

    If you want to have good sex with women, focus on them during sex. Pay attention to their pleasure instead of just yours. Rather than touching her boobs in a way than turns you on, touch them in a way that turns her on (which will still turn you on.) Sex is best when you’re open to learning.

    Lily Cade is “Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian” and a veteran adult performer and director. She’s known for her strap-on skills, her aggressively passionate sex scenes, and her characters such as “Officer Cade” and “Kristen Grey.”

    Follow her on LilyCade.com, Twitter @lily_cade and Instagram lily_cade

    Catch Lily Cade in her upcoming work:

    Evil Lesbian Stepmother, coming soon from FillyFilms.com, is my latest movie. In my first “Milf” role, I tackle the popular incest genre in my own delightfully twisted way. The movie stars Bianca Breeze, Piper Perri, Mona Wales,  Lana Lovelace, RenéeRoulette and Summer Day.

    Featured image courtesy of Shutterstock
    Have an amazing experience or tips you like to share on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!