I just celebrated my first anniversary as a provider a few months ago, but it feels like I’ve been the industry for so much longer. I previously had a few years experience as a sugar baby, and while this was quite fulfilling as well, there is nothing quite as prideful and enriching as being an independent professional. Unlike sugaring, the provider’s boundaries, safety, and preferences are first and foremost, therefore making me proud to be a part of this community and profession. If I could scream “I’m proud to be a sex worker!” from Toronto’s rooftops all day everyday, I would!
My First Impression Of Sex Work
Before I dipped my toe into professional companionship, I was lucky enough to have several friends in the industry, so my impression of sex work was likely slightly more educated than the average person’s. Even still, I had no idea how much I’d intimately connect with my clients and how much I’d enjoy their company. Nor did I expect how supportive and uplifting the community would be. I’m happy to say that it’s been a dream to enter this world.
Misconceptions That Still Exist Today
Despite a thriving culture of companions that participate in consensual sex work, there are still so many misconceptions about the industry. It seems this wonderful world is hidden away to most, and so even the idea of sex work being consensual can be contentious. Some laymen believe we’re somehow coerced or that we’re shameful and unhappy in our choice to become a sex worker. I’m here to say that is utterly and unequivocally false. I believe that if more people spoke to professional companions, a lot of unfounded ideas and prolific stigma about the industry would easily fall away.
What Makes Me Proud To Be A Sex Worker
I get to fulfill wishes for a living. Not just sexually (although that is a very integral part!), but rather I create moments completely independent from the worries and complications of everyday life: a private oasis curator, if you will. I’m here to listen, excite, and steal you away from your life for awhile. For me, when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I go to a masseuse. For my clients, they come to me. That feeling of making someone’s day, week, month, or year is so enriching. My job is to spread love, what’s not to love about that?
Why Am I An Ideal Companion?
I’ve always been a people person. However I was never the girl with a sea of friends at the club. Instead, I’ve always been one to get cosy on the couch with a glass of wine to catch up with a friend and then realize eight hours had passed since we sat down together. I love losing track of time because we’re just so engrossed in each other. Whether we’re getting down and dirty for a few hours or delving head-first into one another for a weekend, I’ve found there’s always a connection to get lost in.
Advice For Aspiring Sex Workers
For prospective professional companions, I say do your research. While I was in the sugar industry, I spent an entire twelve month period researching my now-colleagues and contemporaries. I visited at websites, blogs, podcasts, provider’s social medias, and more. There are so many resources to attain knowledge of the sex work industry. Some great places to start, which helped me begin, are: The Escort Deconstructed podcast, SimplySxy.com articles (I swear I’m not pandering, these were very helpful to me!), the book ‘Thriving in Sex Work’, and the KLE Collective podcast.
Eleanore Arden, who some describe as ‘Canada’s Blonde Bombshell,’ is a companion born and raised in downtown Toronto. She enjoys long walks on the beach, flirting over oysters, and a nice, well made pair of handcuffs. When not spending time with well selected company, she is pursuing her University degree, planning her next travel adventure, or playing with her spoiled-rotten cats.
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