Tag: Sex

  • A Courtesan’s Advice For Clients

    A Courtesan’s Advice For Clients

    Sex is something that is ever changing from having a deep connection to it just being carnal lust.  It can involve multiple partners whether it be another woman, a man, or even both. That’s why I love it so much! It is never the same experience.  The creativity of each intimate encounter is always unpredictable but my anticipation and excitement aren’t.  Growing up in a conservative European home, sex was considered taboo. We never spoke of it nor was it ever acknowledged. It wasn’t until I reached high school that I first discovered myself and sex. It was empowering as much as it was arousing. It became one of my favorite things to talk, write, and experiment. The intimate moments of ecstasy, the humorous orgasmic expressions, the droplets of lustful sweat, the secretive fantasies and kinks, the erotic whispers and moans, etc. Sex has endless possibilities of exploration bringing out a part of a person that isn’t publicly displayed.

    Types Of Clients I See

    Clients come in different ages, sizes, races, gender, and backgrounds. However, my preference seems to lean towards older men. It is not that I am not keen on men my age, it is just the majority have a strong attitude of self entitlement and lack mannerisms. Older men are finely aged and have an array of interests. I am quite selective of whom I see and I always favor a person who takes their time to send me a lovely email describing themselves. Discretion and safety is always of concern hence, why a screening process exists. This process is in place to keep both myself and the client safe. There are different methods of screening to accommodate everyone’s comfort. From employment verification, background checks, references, or verification services such as P411. As always discretion is of the utmost importance and verification information submitted is deleted after an initial engagement.

    What A Client Is Expected To Know Before Booking

    A smooth booking occurs after a proper screening. A mistake that is often made is when a client fills out a screening form incorrectly such as submitting a false name or information. Another common mistake is inquiring about detailed services whether it be with the usage of acronyms or not.  Both of these mistakes can easily land someone in the Do Not See list. Filling out the form correctly will assure for a smooth process. Clients should rest assure that their information is handled with discretion and will never be shared. Remember, discretion is a two way street.

    Mistakes Clients Make When Meeting

    To err is human and mistakes often occur.  A lot goes through someone’s mind when they first meet and without realizing they often forget to place down the envelope. I understand for I have also been taken by the moment our eyes met. To avoid interrupting the flow of an engagement it is best to place the envelope down as soon as you meet. If you are in a public setting it is proper to place it in a greeting card or in a gift bag. It is incredibly disrespectful to hand the envelope directly or having me wait until it is awkwardly brought up.

    Another frequent mistake is lack of consideration towards their hygiene. A lovely English gentleman once visited and greeted me with toothpaste kisses. He later explained that he had just smoked and ate some toothpaste to avoid tasting like cigarettes.  If you feel the need to freshen up please feel free to excuse yourself to the restroom. I take my time to be presentable and expect my date to do so as well. From time to time I encounter a gentleman who with good intent brings their own lubricant or toys. While it is a gesture with harmful intent I personally do not utilize it. I only utilize my own products that I know will not effect my body chemistry. As for toys if they are in an unopened package then I will gladly use them after cleaning them.

    Is Any Topic Of Conversation Out Of Bounds?

    I am lover of conversation and feel like a wide spectrum of topics helps get to know someone. Often, people say not to discuss politics nor religion for it can cause conflict. However, I have yet to have a problem arise from doing so. There is an art and beauty into the attempt to understand someone else’s point of view.  One of the topics that makes me cringe in the inside is when they talk about the similarities I share with their daughter. I don’t mind hearing about their children but it is a completely different thing to be compared. Aside from that the time spent together is a time to truly liberate yourself and share anything you desire.


    Claire Lamoureux – Originally from Southern France, this wanderlust debutante became a worldwide courtesan. She is an international companion who adores jet setting adventures and collecting books. Although she is only twenty two years old she has an appetite for culture and languages. Claire is a multilingual biochemist with an insatiable lust and true passion for opening others to new experiences.

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  • Tips For Having A Threesome

    Tips For Having A Threesome

    I’m a great fan of sex. Not only does sex feel good (which is great), but I also believe that people have an innate need for intimacy and physical contact. A lack of touch can make anyone feel depressed or anxious, and the right touch – like sex – can help both your physical and mental health. For me, sex is all about open communication and finding beauty in every person (and about exciting adventures of course)!

    How My Interest Began & Why I Love Threesomes!

    I have loved threesomes since I realized I was bisexual and fantasised about being with a man and a woman at the same time. I have been lucky enough to have had more than my share of threesomes (and more-than-three-somes!) with people of all genders in all combinations, and I have loved all of them.

    I adore giving pleasure to people, and for me one of the great things about a threesome is the chance to pleasure more than one person at the same time! I also love making people’s fantasies come true, and thankfully I often get to do that by introducing people to threesomes.

    One thing I love about threesomes is that sex with more people tends to be extra sensual – it is impossible to keep track of who is doing what, so at some point you just give in to sensations and stop thinking altogether. That is such a great experience!

    Difference Between MFM & MFF Threesome

    I don’t think there are specific differences between MFM and MFF threesomes, but I do think there is a massive difference between threesomes where everyone is into each other (so an MFM threesome where the men are bisexual or an MFF threesome where the women are bisexual) or a threesome where everyone is straight. I find that threesomes where everyone is straight often makes the pleasure of one person the central focus, and that can be an incredibly hot thing! I personally love being the centre of attention in a threesomes, but it is also great to lavish someone in all the attention and pleasure 4 hands and two mouths can give..

    A threesome where everyone is into each other is often an enthusiastic mix of giving and receiving pleasure all around – with the added advantage of the occasional moment when your two partners are pleasuring each other and you get to watch the most sexy show of your life. So there is definitely an advantage to all types of threesomes.

    My favourite type of threesome is an MFF threesome with a couple where the women wants to try being with another woman for the first time. It is such a special honour to be invited into an established relationship like that, and I adore seeing two people who love each other explore sexy adventures together. Plus, I love being a woman’s first Sapphic adventure – every woman who is bi-curious should get to try sex with another woman!

    My Favorite Threesome Positions

    I recommend going down on someone together – it is a unique sensation for the person who receives it, and it is very hot for the people performing oral sex. Another great sensation which you can only get in a threesome, is oral sex while you fuck. In an MFF threesome I would recommend one woman sitting on the man’s face while the other woman rides him. But of course in any threesome you can also go down on whoever is being fucked – this causes some of the most intense orgasms I have ever witnessed.

    But my absolute favourite experience in threesomes is to go down on someone while being fucked (I recommend partner 1 to lie down on their back, partner 2 be on their hands and knees going down on them, and partner 3 to fuck partner 2 from behind, which gives everyone a fantastic view). I once had the pleasure of being in the middle of that and making both partners come at the same time – it was the hottest thing I have ever experienced!

    Threesome Etiquette For An Enjoyable Time

    I would always recommend having a chat together about expectations and boundaries. Like anything to do with sex, the first time is probably not going to be perfect, and good communication will help with that. It’s great to know what everyone involved is looking for, so find out if your partners would like something sensual, or kinky, or any other preferences they have. You will also want to talk about safer sex and condom use, and make sure to switch condoms between partners

    For an established couple, a threesome can sometimes bring up feelings of jealousy or insecurity. It is important to know that this is very common, and I’d recommend talking about it both beforehand and afterwards. The best way to prevent jealousy is to pay equal amounts of attention to both your threesome partners, so neither of them feel left out. Another solution is to invite a professional to join your threesome, so you are sure you can have the best experience without the strings attached!


    Anna Williams is a sex-educator and professional escort in London, UK. She specialises in threesomes, new experiences, and safer sex education. She believes strongly that natural beauty, communication, intelligence and feminine curves are sexy. She also believes that everyone should have the threesome of their dreams at least once in their lives!

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  • Favorite Sex Positions & Kinky Places To Have Sex

    Favorite Sex Positions & Kinky Places To Have Sex

    Personally, I love sex! I like it at home and I love it in front of camera!

    Be Experimental!

    I would say, very! I’m open for all kinds of ideas on shoot and at home with my partner too. I love gangbangs and in my personal life I have tried swingers parties.

    Favorite Sex Position

    That is definitely me riding on cock. Obviously because I can be in charge and do whatever I want with the cock.

    Other Positions I Love

    With my partner I enjoy the spoon position. That is very intimate.

    Kinky Places To Have Sex

    Well, night club bathrooms are exiting. There are always people and a risk to get caught is huge. I love it!

    Most Memorable Sexual Experience

    I have had quite a few, but if I have to mention one I would say that it would be the time I had sex with my ex on a train. That was so exiting!


    Cindy Sun – I’m a big cock and anal sex lover from Finland. I love excitement and new things. Also known as the Dream Wife. Follow me at:

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  • Experiences Of A Sex Worker

    Experiences Of A Sex Worker

    I love sex! I think sexual urges and fantasies are natural, and ever since fully embracing my own sexuality I’ve received so much more pleasure in life and through all the experiences that I’ve been able to have. I was incredibly shy throughout my teen years, and had the worst social anxiety. This actually led me to being homeschooled during high school. Despite my socializing problems at the time, I grew to really dislike the lack of being in a social atmosphere and/or stimulated by the conversation and thoughts of others. It’s made me appreciate the interactions that I now have with people much more. Homeschooling also gave me the time and opportunity to seek out my own interests and passions, subjects that never even stuck to me when attending public school.

    Once turning 18, and having been felt like a caged bird by the end of high school, I was ready to be on my own! I had a sugar daddy starting off when I first moved to D.C. During that, I discovered how much I loved the company of an older gentleman, and I found that I was able to really enjoy my conversations with them. I respected and valued the discretion, but did not like the feeling of it being more like a relationship instead of an open love that could grow and one that did not have to be defined. The sugar baby relationship lasted roughly 7 months, and I honestly just jumped into escorting. I started with an agency, and assumed that I would learn from them and from experience. I was fortunate enough to have a lady who helped and explained everything to me, and was really quite patient me. But by no means am I recommending that anyone jump right in! There are easy mistakes to avoid, and tips to learn; it would be much more beneficial to read and educate yourself beforehand.

    What I Love About Escorting

    My greatest passions are learning all I can about the world, and making others happy. This lifestyle has given me the amazing opportunity to do both! I’ve met some of the best guys, and made some of the greatest friends. I love the socializing, the intimacy, and the mutual happiness my clients and I bring each other – whether it’s only one encounter, or numerous! I meet the greatest dynamic of people; finding ways to relate to them is something that has not only furthered my social skills, but educated me on topics that my clients share through their own learnings  and life experience.

    I also love the traveling. I’ve always travelled even through my youth, and I don’t think I could ever call one place home forever. This lifestyle has allowed me to see some of the most beautiful places, all while doing what I love! This has become such an amazing opportunity helping me work towards future goals and dreams. The ability to support myself fully and to take care of any school debt in and of itself has been the most fulfilling feeling, but the people that I have met and the things that I have learned through this lifestyle are priceless.

    Screening The Clients

    There are various screening sites to further validate a client’s identity, but I would say one of the biggest ways I rely on deciding to see a client or not would be the trust amongst the SW community. I ask that clients provide at least two references (providers that will vouch for them saying that they are real, safe, and respectful). References and a screening handle is not enough to get through screening, however. I also require a photo of their ID prior to meeting along with their work information. All of this information is erased after screening is complete. Clients see enough of my presence online (through social media, my p411, and my booking site) to know that I am who I say I am, so me asking for the same validation in return should not be an issue for them and if it is, I don’t book. I value and respect discretion, and would not have the reputation that I have built if I ever abused a client’s privacy.

    Weirdest Client Requests I Have Received

    Well, one person’s weird is another person’s kink. But I’ve definitely had some odd requests – some that I agreed to, some I refused, and some I just couldn’t bring myself to do. One time in specific I remember a guy was just absolutely infatuated with my nose. The whole session he was staring at it, he was playing with it, and even in the middle of making out I’d feel two fingers in the shape of scissors slide down the middle of my face and just pinch my nose. The random nose pinches continued even during sex, barely making eye contact with me but instead staring at my nose; occasionally leaning in and putting his whole mouth on it as if he was giving my nose a sloppy kiss or something!

    One request I just couldn’t bring myself to do was a roleplay act. I initially should’ve known he had something up his sleeve cause he walked in with a Whole Foods bag. I was the innocent schoolgirl that apparently got caught blowing two guys in the locker room, and I was facing suspension. The only way to avoid suspension was to sleep with my principal..but first, had to “demonstrate what exactly I was doing to the two boy students”. He grabs his bag and pulls out a banana and a condom. He slides this condom so smoothly on the banana, I’m convinced his real job is a sex Ed coach. He then holds the banana out, looking at me. I am looking at him. We are just staring at each other for a solid minute before he again asks me to demonstrate how I gave a blowjob. I lean down, hovering over the banana, and all I am thinking is “I will never forget the time that I seriously gave oral to a fruit”, I licked the tip of the banana, then snapped away apologizing profusely saying “Sorry, I can’t! I just can’t do it, I’m a terrible actor! Can i just…. demonstrate on you?!” Not my sexiest way of denying a request… but looking back on the two stories now, it almost seems like the banana request should’ve been much easier to fulfill LOL.

    Preparing For A Date With A Client

    I am still a nervous wreck before every date, regardless of how many times I’ve seen someone. The whole time getting ready is me telling myself to not be weird. The nerves are every time, but I’d never want to feel indifferent or bored. The anxiety and build up is what makes the meet so much sweeter. I am typically sitting on my sink counter getting myself pretty..even if there is a vanity, a sink counter always seems to be a girl’s zen place. After the getting ready process, it’s an extensive amount of YouTube video watching that I always end up regretting, a minimum of 30 pictures taken all of which ended up getting erased anyway, and Mariah Carey karaoke. I also make sure everything is in place, and that my date doesn’t go without supplies! Once I meet my date, my nervousness eases and I’m filled with joy and excitement to see them. Every time is a new experience.


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  • Push Your Sexual Boundaries

    Push Your Sexual Boundaries

    (Note: Play the video below whilst reading this post, it’s relevant;)

    We all live in the physical realm where we believe in what we can see with our eyes and touch with our hands. But as soon as we scratch beneath the surface our other senses allow us to glimpse the beauty of the intangible. Even in today’s world where we have evolved to rely less and less on our senses, we still have an innate ability to be captivated by the sound of music or the intoxicatingly indulgent realm of scent.

    As I journey through life I become increasingly aware of the realms that co exist along side the physical but are often muted by our reliance on what we see with our eyes. “Seeing is believing” is a mindset that it based on pragmatism and logic but what was true today can be false tomorrow so I embrace the discomfort of uncertainty in pursuit of conscious evolution.

    In my line of work as a male escort I meet people from all walks of life and the one thing that I have learnt is that as special as we think we are, and as complex as our minds may be, that invisible person passing me in the street is just as wrapped up in their head as I am in mine.

    When I meet a female client for the first time, our worlds collide with an over flow of mixed emotions and desires, excitement and fear. My aim is to understand her emotions and provide peace of mind in an environment where she is free to embrace the realms that co-exist beyond the physical.

    A lustful exploration of senses that once lay dormant are now alive and racing. When open minds embrace masculine and feminine counterpoints, uncontrollable attraction and desire enables us to tune in to the intangible.

    We all posses the ability to travel to places yet to be explored in a world that attempts to stigmatise those who chose to live beyond the expectations of an Orwellian state of mind.

    They once believed the world was flat, and as ridiculous as this may seem, in years to come they will be laughing at us too for the perceived logic we currently hold dear. A wise person knows that they know nothing.

    Video link: https://youtu.be/UA5Y3xNCoHo


    Madison James is a degree educated 37 year old international male escort from London with a keen interest in BDSM, Tantra and massage. He has an aptitude for intellectual conversation, an inquisitive mind and a genuine desire to help women embrace their sexuality one orgasm at a time!

    This article was originally published at https://www.madisonjamesescort.com/single-post/2017/03/15/Worlds-beyond

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  • Sexual Preferences & Tips With Draven Star

    Sexual Preferences & Tips With Draven Star

    Ultimately, sex is fun and is supposed to be that way. You can’t really control what turns you on and as long as everything is safe and legal and consensual; I’m all about exploring that. There is a lot of pressure put on sex, both in the act and how the individuals should or shouldn’t be connected, but I think that is getting a little better. At least I hope so! Maybe that’s why I enjoy porn so much. So many people that I’m able to interact and work with are very open about what they like or don’t like, what is or isn’t okay in their relationships. Because of that I feel that the friendships I make are able to be more open; which ends up making for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life experience.

    One Common Mistake Men Make During Sex

    I think a lot of men may not need a lot of foreplay, but that’s really important when it comes to getting a woman wet and ready. I think a mistake a lot of people, men and women alike, make is not communicating before the act itself. It can be really fucking hot to hear what your partner is super into; and if you already know what NOT to do, you won’t run into any awkwardness or boner issues.

    Favorite Sex Positions

    I really couldn’t give a shit if people think it’s boring, but missionary is awesome. I really love watching myself get fucked, I can scratch their back and pull their hair, and they can watch me play with my clit until I cum. Its rad. I also know a lot of other performers who feel similar! Other than that I like spooning. Doggy is cool but sometimes it can be a little painful if whoever is fucking me has a big ol’ dick.

    Quickies Or Long Lasting?

    I’m greedy. I like everything. It depends on the situation, too. If I’m at like a theme park or some shit, a quickie is the best bet. If it’s a special occasion, long lasting is the jam. I’m into all of it, honestly.

    Does Sex With or Without A Condom Feel Better?

    Ugh. Okay. Condoms are very important. They are your best bet against STIs, babies, all the things you don’t want. I will shoot with condoms no problem when it’s necessary for whatever reason (there are a lot). With that said, I am super not a condom fan. I have a sensitive pussy and they fuck with my pH as well as can irritate me if I’m not dripping waterfalls during the entire bone sesh. I also get tested every 13 days, only have sex with my partner, other people tested in the same time frame and am very safe; so I don’t like to use condoms, personally.

    Kink The Sex Up!

    I really think kinky can be kind of a relative term. I know some people who think I’m straight up out there with what I like, and I know people who make me look like some kind of minister.

    Myself, I like things to be on the rough side. I like to be bound, blindfolded, choked, smacked and spit on. I like to be flogged a lot more than being spanked, I like my hair pulled, being called names as well as positive reinforcement and being told what to do. Again, I know a lot of people who see this as basic, and I’m sure there are some who wouldn’t be into it. That’s whats really cool about exploring your and your partners sexuality ;D


    Draven Star is a goth girl that’s more than just a phase. Also known as The Doom Doll, she is the MC of the Inked Awards as well as a multiple award winner and nominee. She has been on the covers of some magazines you’d keep under your mattress, and some you’d keep on the coffee table. Half of The 288 Podcast, shes bringing Baltimore Filth to LA, inside and out. Follow her at

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    Draven Star will be in Axel Braun’s Inked 3, through Wicked Pictures – stay tune for the release date. The 288 Podcast comes out every Thursday at 12pm PST and is hosted by herself and her buddy, Matt Slayer. Each week is a different bottle of whiskey, a guest, and them – it’s the conversation you have at the end of the bar with a lot of laughs that is absolutely NSFW.


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  • Achieving Multiple Orgasms & Orgasm Control

    Achieving Multiple Orgasms & Orgasm Control

    I hold a liberal attitude towards sex and for me it brings immense pleasure, both physically and mentally. It can vary from a brief fun encounter to a deeply profound experience. Ecstatic happiness and very occasionally even sadness. I love the variety and am constantly surprised by experiences I encounter.

    Sex and sexuality are highly individual and fluid states that change from day to day, week to week and year to year, influenced by a vast array of intrinsic and outside factors. For me it feels like a necessary and healthy part of my daily life and I’m lucky to get to devote a significant amount of attention and intention to the joys of seduction.

    Getting Multiple Orgasms

    I am very lucky that even when I started having sexual experiences in my teens, I found them extremely pleasurable. I remember being able to have quite intense orgasms. I probably have a mix of the right anatomy and the ability to focus on being present and connecting with the person. I actually have multiple orgasms on a very regular basis and have had clients be initially surprised and probably even skeptical about the waves of ecstasy that encompass me. They soon realise that my reactions are genuine (and probably a bit on the loud side much to my annoyance LOL).

    Techniques For Orgasm Control

    Controlling orgasms is only a recent interest of mine and it’s not what most people would expect. I’m trying to hold off and to be more present, especially early on in a ‘love making / fucking’ session. A tantric friend stared this journey of building me up to the point of orgasm and not letting me release – initially I was majorly annoyed as my body wanted the endorphin rush of the orgasm. But I found out that by holding off, the intensity and level of connection when release did come was often heightened even more. I didn’t think THAT was possible. LOL.

    Techniques for orgasm control are the same techniques used in meditation and require a shift of focus and attention to the sensations that surround you. For example, as an orgasm becomes imminent, directing your attention for example on the shape of your lover’s body and really looking at their specific curves may shift your focus enough to stop your orgasm. Often of course you have to slow movement right down to decrease stimulation, otherwise your excitement will likely be too much. For men, adding pressure at the base of your cock (and squeezing your pelvic floor muscles) can be a good way to start exercising control.

    Powerful Orgasms Through Orgasm Control

    Sometimes the process of “holding off” can shift your focus so much that your arousal level drops and you need to build it up again. For men, this can occasionally mean losing your erection. With a bit of time and space to recover, it generally comes back.

    Alternatively, holding off on an orgasm whilst maintaining a high level of arousal has led to the most earth shattering orgasms  I have ever had, with waves that seem to roll over and over again. The first time can be a bit of a ‘what the hell was that?’ moment, especially for gents that have suffered with premature ejaculation issues. A prolonged orgasm that takes over your whole being and feels like it takes you to a higher level of consciousness – who doesn’t want to experience that?!

    Practicing Orgasm Control

    For solo travellers.

    Masturbation is a good place to start with orgasm control as it can be trickier to do in the heat of the moment with a partner.

    Be careful of over-stimulation: For guys this means choking your cock too hard as you masturbate and for women this can be an over reliance on vibrators. By using these methods of overstimulation, you desensitise the nerves around your erogenous zones and there is a feedback loop created where you can’t cum without this kind of heavy stimulation. As hard as it may be, you have to stop these techniques and get your body to re-learn what it is like to find pleasure in more sensual and gentle techniques.

    Edging: When getting yourself off, as you feel your first orgasm getting close, suddenly stop and apply pressure at the base of your cock (if you are a guy) and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles.

    Surfing: This is where as you get close to orgasm, you reduce the intensity / speed of your strokes / rub and allow yourself to remain at a higher level of intensity without ‘going over the edge’

    Both edging and surfing can be repeated multiple times during a masturbation session and lead to stronger and more intense orgasms.

    With a partner, the gist is generally the same except you are stimulating each other (and often yourselves). The beauty of having a partner present is that you can revel in the wonder of each other. I find my orgasms are always way more intense when shared with someone else. By myself I tend to cum once and I’m done. With a partner, the sky is the limit for me.

    Tips To Make Sex Kinkier

    Lets face it, sex begins with the mind, so starting the mental build up way before you get to the physicality of touching each other is paramount. Being open and willing to try new things with each other but with total respect for boundaries.  Any specific kinks a person may have are best discussed well before a session. I sometimes like to ask a partner to write it down in a short story – it helps me figure out how they tick and to be honest I get off on reading about it.  Writing it down takes away the feeling of being judged, so you tend to be a bit more honest.

    Being open and willing to push your boundaries in a safe and trusting environment where both parties understand the meaning of stop when asked is imperative.

    On my kink wish list is a sex swing complete with a stand. If anyone out there can recommend a good one please let me know.


    Anya Sonder – I am a 30 something year old Adelaide based escort who is happy to travel upon arrangement. I provide a sensual, fun, intimate girlfriend experience with a kinky twist. I am deeply attracted to an intelligent mind and people who are passionate about life. I love working with clients who are new, shy, have had issues with sex and those who just love to indulge in pleasure. Take me out for dinner and let me explore your deepest fantasies. Follow Anya on

    Twitter: @anyasonder

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  • How To Enjoy Amazing Rope Bondage Sex

    How To Enjoy Amazing Rope Bondage Sex

    My interests in the kink and fetish lifestyle started at a pretty young age now that I think about it, and my curiosity and involvement have only gotten strong as time has gone on. I believe sexuality is on the of most important and primal driving forces in human nature. Sexuality and expression of it is such a beautiful and varied realm, where there is no right or wrong answer. Even among the same fetish subgroup, the experience is life is a snow flake, unique to the individual. Each person may find an enjoyment in a different way and because of a different reason, but still be considered in the same fetish. Human sexuality never ceases to fascinate me and I make it a personal mission to constantly expand my wealth of knowledge and experiences within our community. I believe everyone has a right to be fulfilled and happy, as long as it’s between consenting adults, be free, be kinky, be wild.

    Rope Bondage & Favorite Positions To Be Tied

    I guess it is no secret that I highly enjoy bottoming in rope scenes, now I do not consider myself a submissive, I identify as a switch. This means I enjoy both being Dominated in scenes and play as well as bottoming or being submissive. What I get most out of the rope bottom side of play is the restriction of the rope, I enjoy the tightness, the helplessness, and in that…a sense of comfort. I always say I have a hard time staying very awake in certain rope scenarios because of how relaxed I become. I go into my happy place, and mentally zone out for a second. Also the fun thing about rope is, it’s completely up to you how you want to use it, be tied, be tied too, or an even more fun thing…have toys tied to you! I would have to say some of my most favorite ties are hog ties, box tied with the legs frogged, or most forms of suspension.

    Having Sex While Being Tied Up

    To have sex while being tied is amazing. I enjoy being played with while in bondage all around. When your body is restricted it heightens the rest of the sensations, your muscles tense more. I find it so erotic struggling against the rope as you pull hard and chase the orgasm. Forced orgasm play while in bondage has to have given me some of the most intense and satisfying orgasms of my life. Being at complete mercy of your partner can be such a turn on.

    How To Get More Powerful Orgasms

    Being whipped/flogged/caned/paddled/spanked does make the experience more intense. It draws out the natural endorphins and give you an additional dynamic to the scene. Impact play/corporal punishment is NOT for everyone and that is OK. Luckily you can tailor any of this to the person, each toy and implement can be used at any intensity and each has its own type of feeling. Personally I enjoy a more bitey feeling and go for the canes and single tail whips.

    Kink It Up Further

    Like I stated above kinky sex is an amazing world of possibilities and its up to you where and how far you want to go. The only advice I have is that you play SAFE and CONSENTUAL. If you don’t feel comfortable doing something please communicate with your partner or if there is something you would like please do so. its your sex life it is your right to have enjoyment and feel safe doing so. Also the internet is a treasure trove of ideas and information and online comminutes . Do not feel embarrassed because I can guarantee you are NOT alone in any kink.


    Nadia White is a enthusiastic Hardcore and Fetish model from the DC area, she has been active on and off in the industry since 2008. In this time she has had an AVN nomination and worked for producers coast to coast. Her favorite scenes are intense and BDSM related. Follow her at:

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  • Sex And Self Pity: The Worst Tasting Cocktail

    Sex And Self Pity: The Worst Tasting Cocktail

    If you’re looking for a little sex to boost your self-esteem, here are but a few reasons why sex and self-pity make for an awful combination.

    Sex; very few people on this planet could actually do without it, and less still avoid falling into the trap of assuming that it is the perfect way to lift the spirits.

    Look, I’m not saying that it isn’t, under the right conditions, sex is cathartic, intimate and one hell of an anti-depressant. But one-night-stands behind rotten toilet stalls in a dingy club with half a liter of your favorite mood lifter in your stomach more often than not is never what it’s cracked up to be.

    Sex is pleasurable, so why wouldn’t it make you feel better when you are at your lowest? Well, if you’ve actually got the energy and attention to put yourself out there and get it, then you are likely not suffering genuine depression (which has a tendency to incapacitate you); it is more likely then, that you have a simple case of self-pity. And when this is the case, using a one-night-stand to pull you out of the rut might seem like a quaint idea, but let’s face the music; you are lying to yourself and you know it.

    But before we can go into how sex and self-pity makes for a bitter pill, let’s explore the nature of self-pity a little more closely:

    What do I mean by Self-Pity?

    The thing about self-pity is this, it is often the result of things not going your way (as opposed to depression which is by all means clinical). It is an expression of disappointment in yourself. While it may often come out as unhappiness at things not going your way, it is almost always a projection of letting yourself down.

    This is not uncommon, in fact I would safely wager that everyone goes through this at some point, but it is the coping mechanisms that people choose to use when dealing with this that can make all the difference.

    You might find yourself turning to the gym for excessive exercise; a week long spree of video games in your underpants; indulgence in alcohol or drugs; eating an entire cake; or turning to one of life’s greatest pleasures, sex, in an attempt to combat the self-loathing brewing in your gut as though it was some bathtub moonshine.

    The trouble with indulging in carnal pleasures such as these, is that they are often an unnoticed means of dishing out self-punishment; an immediate pleasure which you will pay for later in one way or another. But when your esteem is low, it is easy enough to say ‘Why the hell not.’

    Yet with each moment spent losing yourself in these quick fixes, you are essentially giving yourself more reason to hate yourself at a later date, you are ensuring the continuation of a cycle of self-loathing that will only break when you do. And this is where sex can become a source of despair, as opposed to the uplifting activity it is supposed to be.

    Sex: The Best Medicine or Bad Juju

    Sex is often closely related to self-respect (although to be candid this is a concept more familiar to woman than men). This is because of its power to appeal to, and demonstrate your worth on the basest of levels. It’s easy to see why ‘getting plenty’ can make you feel more attractive, more desirable and more worthwhile as a human being.

    Unfortunately, when self-pity is the driving force behind your urges, it could be pointing to a deeply seeded problem:

    So here is the question you should be asking yourself. Am I using sex to blow off steam and feel better, or am I using it as a tool to prove my worth? Do you remember those girls (and boys I suppose) in high school who were a little chubby, weren’t all that confident, or seemed to be trying to fill a void that would commonly land them legs up in a random bed?

    What did you call those people? What were they looking for? Did they ever find it?

    Self-assurance

    In their desperate attempts to prove they’re worth, so many people turn to pleasing as many people as possible, all the while unknowingly chipping away at their own self-esteem as tales of their sexual escapades spread like wild-fire.

    This has a tendency to create a vicious cycle however. One where your sexually excessive lifestyle leads you down a path where you feel worse about yourself since you almost feel yourself becoming emptier, sluttier and less capable of loving others and yourself. Then, finding value in your ability to completely satisfy a woman in bed, you tend to keep the wheel moving by trying to satisfy as many as possible.

    While this sounds fun, the spiral sinks ever deeper until you feel dull, sex is emotionless (and boring) and you move down ever darker paths and fetishes that further compromise your integrity and your ability to experience meaningful, intimate sex.

    It becomes a simple action, you numbly go through the motions, usually reveling in it with woman in a similar situation, slowly but surely realizing that you haven’t been using it as a means for upliftment, but rather self-punishment; a purposeful denying of your own value as a person. But that is not the only danger to using sex in this way.

    The Addiction Factor

    Cigarettes calm you down, alcohol makes you jolly, drugs take you away from your troubles and sex boosts your ego. These are all universally accepted truths. But they all come with severe warning labels attached.

    Using any pleasure inducing substance (or in this case activity) to pull you out of slump might provide a short-term solution to your problems, but in doing so can often create a reliance on it. You begin to associate sex with happiness; and in doing so, unknowingly foster a need for it. An addiction.

    Casual sex becomes ineffective and you begin rooting through darker corners for something a little more interesting. I’m not a big fan of the gateway drug theory but in this case, it stands.

    You don’t believe me? Try this:

    Spend a week watching as much porn as you can. Try and be aware of how your preferences shift as you do. At first, a straightforward video of two people going at it will suffice. Keep it up however and this will bore you. Before you know it, you’ll be scrolling through Asian lesbian pets, bondage orgies and (heaven forbid) felching fetishes.

    And when you are done and your wits are back about you, let’s see how long you can keep the video playing before despair and self-loathing forces you to close the window as quickly as humanly possible.

    Sex is no different. If anything, the process makes you feel worse.


    Terrence Kennedy is the man’s man on a journey to self-discovery. A traveler, extreme sports aficionado, an observant wanderer, a DIY-Know-How, an ultimate outsider and a documentarist of culture, sex, dating, relationship, fashion, style and gentleman’s etiquette. He has learned a lot through his escapades, and is happy to pass that knowledge on to you.

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  • 5 Sex Positions That Make Your Bod Look Great

    5 Sex Positions That Make Your Bod Look Great

    So, you’re in the throws of passion when suddenly he flips you on top— eek, your worst angle! When it comes to unflattering sex positions, how often do you feel less-than-sizzling during sex? As many women know, worrying about a bloated belly is the ultimate orgasm buster. Well fortunately, you don’t have to start any pre-sex dieting or slimming shakes. What you need is some hot sex positions that’ll make your bod look great. Here are some that will make you look smoking, so there’s no regretting your last snack binge.

    1. Reverse Plank

    You know those yoga exercises that require you to squeeze your tummy in the plank position? Picture that in reverse. Basically, you’ll be upturned with your shoulders on the bed and your torso pushed up to the sky.

    In this position, your body is stretched out, flattening your belly and elongating your figure. Your body will instantly appear tighter and firmer, making you feel more confident, explains Sex Expert Maria McMillan in her article, “How I Turned My Sex Life Into a Workout Routine”.  There’s no worrying about the effects of gravity here ladies! So, do your thing.

    2. Doggy Style

    As a popular favorite among men, doggy style is one of the hottest angles you can rock. This sex position is especially flattering if you’ve got tattoos on your backside—aiming practice anyone?

    The way to do it best is to push your rear up as much as you can while arching your back. He’ll only be able to see your bum, your thighs and your back—some of your sexiest assets, says Lifestyle Blogger Bridget North in her article, “Flattering Sex Positions and Tips for Fat Days!”

    Before you know it, his animal instincts will kick in and you can be pretty sure what happens next. Buckle up lady!

    3. Straddle in the Chair

    If you love giving lap dances, you’re in luck. Being one of the most flattering positions for big breasted girls, the straddling position lets him get up-close-and-personal with your dirty pillows. Most guys find this position very arousing. So, the next time you’re feeling bloaty, push him on the chair and make him wonder why he’ll ever need to go to a strip club. Give him a lap dance to remember.

    4. Reverse Cowgirl

    Similar to the chair, cowgirl lets your man see all your voluptuous butt business. He’ll get all the graphic little details of your bouncing booty, while letting you hide your least favorite assets.

    You can make the most out of the position by sliding in some vibrator action if the mood feels right. “Women love them because it’s small, easy to store and packed with addictive orgasmic powers,” explains Sex Blogger Bobby Box in his article, “ Best Vibrators for Those Hard-to-reach Places.”

    5. Spooning

    Performing this position is as simple as laying on your side and giving him a full view of your behind. During liftoff, arch your back, making penetration easier, and tighten your thighs for maximum friction, suggests Bridget North. He’ll be able to appreciate the sensuality of your silhouette from the side, making you appear sexy and feminine.

    With these flattering sex positions, you can give him the best seat in the house. He’ll definitely want to see the next show! Happy posing ladies!


    Rachel Esco is a stylish lifestyle blogger with an eye for dating, beauty and fashion. Known for her witty approach to advice, she’s dedicated to help men and women lead more confident, successful lives. Her know-how has also been featured on popular dating advice blogs such as Your Tango and Man Decoder.com


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