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  • How To Have Safe Intense Rough Sex Part II

    How To Have Safe Intense Rough Sex Part II

    Tips For Beginners To Have Rough Sex

    Open and honest communication. No one should ever think less of you for playing it safe. Talk about your expectations, wants, needs, and limits. Have this conversation with yourself. Once you’ve figured out these things, seek education for anything you have doubts on. Above everything else, the first step is learning how to read your partner and to create a safe space for them to let go.

    What Rough Sex Props/Tools Do I Need?

    Almost anything can be used. Once you understand the safe areas to beat, slap, whip, or squeeze. You’re only limited by your imagination. I’ve built an entire toy chest from the dollar store. I’ll explain the basic principles to follow for no-hit areas and the go wild areas. No hit areas are basically non-protected organs and non-protected bone. This would include kidneys, lower back, joints, eyes, ears, chins, center of chest, and throat. The easiest way to know if you can safely hit an area is to feel for muscle. Depending on limits, you can pound hard on muscle. I used to say this is why I got to the gym while getting the crap beat out of me. More muscle development, more places to hit.

    Your hands coupled with your mind are the single most dangerous or rewarding tools in your arsenal. Those alone can build or break a person. They’re technically all you need to get intense from foreplay through sex and into aftercare. Aftercare consists of what I call providing them a space to put themselves back together after intense play. They might be frightened, crying, or completely out of it. Lost in euphoria. This is a crucial time to make sure you maintain that safe space and listen to them. A place to talk openly and free about anything. You just had an intense emotional and physical experience that released mass amounts of dopamine and serotonin into the brain. It can turn people’s worlds upside down for up to a week. Check in on one another for days to come. If they don’t feel safe to be open and talk about anything in this moment, it can mess them up for longer. Be present, watch their body language. If in doubt of what they need then simply ask them. This doesn’t just go for the person that had control. No matter how the power exchange was split up. Intense sex like this can dislodge suppressed memories and trauma you didn’t even knew you had. Communicate after practicing rough sex for some time with good partners you’ll realize that your shoulders get lighter. Your anxiety and depression will deeply decrease. This is what I call the tension release.

    Me personally, I love edge-play. Edge-play is considered to be what we call an Intense Mind-Fuck. You must make sure that your partner knows the risks before hand with this and you’ve established a lot of trust. You must be in sound mind and attitude because you’re constructing their reality. Once someone is that deeply into the play, the level of trust is so intense that I can use fear-play. If done right, they will believe anything you want them to. They have completely and willingly surrendered themselves to you. Just like the first day I met my mentor. He made me believe he cut my penis off, but he had gained my trust so much that I said to myself, “I guess I don’t need that anymore.” Turns out I never even got undressed. During edge-play, if you have the slightest doubt or negative emotion, your partner will internalize this. Use caution. This act can cause long term issues. Also, ask about medical history and mental illnesses. By this point you should be on that level with this person. Understand the risks and seek education before proceeding. My favorite tools to use during edge-play are a razor-sharp combat blade, blindfold, words, and my hands. Do not let just anyone in that deep. Even as the person giving up control, you are just as responsible for your own safety. This is what I call real hypnotism.

    Ensuring Safe Rough Sex Play

    One thing I hear so much is, “We are a Dom/slave dynamic we don’t need a safe word.” Not all but most cases in which I hear this, it’s usually because of inexperience or trying to grasp on so tight to labels and/or definitions to define their world instead of creating one together. Let’s be real. We all know that actual slavery is illegal. Try telling a Dungeon Monitor at a play party after your partner screams the universal safe word, “RED!” That you don’t use safe words. Dungeon Monitors are there for your safety. Universal safe words start with GREEN, “Good to go, give me more!” YELLOW, “I’m getting nervous.” This does not mean stop. Re-evaluate their body language. RED, “Stop immediately.”

    Get comfy and talk about what came up. This could be any reason for any persons no matter their side of the dynamic. Safe words are communication, praise your partner for using them. BLACK means, “I am so lost in it right now that I am trusting you to know when to stop.” This does not mean stop by any means. This is an awesome place to be. I would laugh, cry, or shiver uncontrollably in this state, but I could probably take a beating that would break my bones and not feel a thing as well.

    Another one I hear is, “I heard the person giving control away is the one really in control anyways because they have safe words.” On paper this is true. It’s a very popular belief and should probably still be used as an excuse when your vanilla friends find out what you do. This mindset can damage and limit your sex life drastically with your partner. It’s called a power exchange for a reason. Getting extremely rough with your partner while the one who wants to give up control knows they have it and the one willing to take control knows they’ll never get it. That’s the best way to mind-fuck yourselves and build huge resentments for one another. When all that time could be spent learning about and experimenting with each other to build an unbreakable bond filled with trust and mutual respect. Also, with how deep this bond can go. There’s no way you can tell me that the one giving up control is always in control. Never forget, the absolute exchange of trust for all parties is a gift. It needs to be respected, cherished, and taken care of to blossom.

    During knife play, never play with a dull knife. Yes, you read that correctly. This is one of the biggest misconceptions out there that has caused injury and death. Always freshly sharpen, clean, and sterilize the blade before every use. There are simple reasons for this.

    Why would anyone use a dull blade? Usually they think it’s safer. This is a dangerous weapon. Thinking it is safer because it is dull will make everyone complacent. That’s how accidents happen, and people get stabbed. Seek education.

    There are benefits using razor-sharp blade and showing everyone involved how sharp it is. I used to run mine through a piece of paper like a warm knife to butter in front of anybody I’m playing with. Now they know it’s sharp, they’ll hold still. Now I know it’s sharp, I’ll be extremely careful not to do anything that I wasn’t intending on doing.

    If you intentionally or unintentionally cut someone, the blade was sterile and the wound will most likely heal without leaving a scar. I was absolutely lost in a primal consistent back and forth power exchange with a partner who was always fascinated with knives. I pulled out my sterile combat blade and let her know that she could play with it if she wanted too. I knew the risks, furthermore I was not into being intentionally cut with a knife. I had trust that she wouldn’t seriously hurt me. While we were destroying my entire house having rough sex. She grabbed it before I slammed her into the drywall. She looked me deep in the eyes and ran that blade all the way down my chest and arms a few times. Never say you’ll never be into something between consenting adults. Don’t kink shame or worse, close you mind off to possibilities of expansion. I started bleeding. Then she started finger painting on my chest while I choked her. It was some of the best sex I’ve ever had. Though it wasn’t about the act. It was about the person doing it and the trust I had with her.

    With that said, play safe. Make sure you are tested after every partner as well as the people you play with. It only takes one time. If your partners or potential care about you, they will have no problem. You cannot take care of anyone if you don’t look after yourself.

    Ways To Kink Up Rough Sex A Notch

    One main point I haven’t talked about is rope. There are more ways than I can think of on how to incorporate rope and bondage into rough sex, from light to extreme. On the contrary, there’s twice as many ways to do it wrong. Rope can extremely kick rough sex to the next level if done right. If done wrong, blood flow and oxygen to extremities can be reduced or blocked. It can cause phantom pains or limbs to not function right or even death. Rope is an amazing thing especially for that bond and the power exchange. For the purpose of this article, I will say to seek out education. Respectfully ask a known person with good references that’s experienced with rope. Ask if you can shadow and watch them closely when they play.

    Note your questions, wait until he’s done with aftercare and ask them. There’s so much respect given by experienced players to people that genuinely want to learn. This could lead to that person training you to be safe, sane, and consensual with it. Yes, there’s safety tricks like always have a pair of medical scissors with you etc. Although, until you’ve learned the basics and start developing your own style, I would suggest good proper high-grade bondage equipment. It’s faster on and off as well as removes the idea of control from your partner. Put them in any position you like and have fun.

    You will never know it all. Keep your mind open to learning and expanding. I learn everyday on and off set; from play partners, models, producers, people, the universe. We are all learning and expanding every moment from our surroundings if we choose to see it. The key factors to Safe Rough Sex are Trust, Consent, Communication, Mutual Respect, Aftercare, and Education.

    I’m Miles Striker, an Army 25th Infantry Veteran. I got into the Adult Industry with a goal to make intense content while redefining the Male Dom and male sub genres. I’m also known as the Porn Stuntman when I leaped out of a moving car to make a movie ending look real. I’ve dabbled in just about every fetish as well as created some over the years. Mentored by a Leather Master for 5+ years before becoming a Professional Dom. I travel the country and abroad making fantasies a reality for my customers. While teaching safety and technique to those who want to learn. I also do couples counseling and “True Masculinity” support work. Toxic masculinity isn’t masculinity at all, just little boys who throw tantrums. Nominated Best Male Fetish Performer and Best Male Webcam Performer, 2018 and 2019 at the Fetish Awards.

    Email me at TheMilesStriker@gmail.com For the following:

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  • How To Have Safe Intense Rough Sex

    How To Have Safe Intense Rough Sex

    Sex does not mean penetration and it sure as hell doesn’t start or end at penetration. Sex is what I like to call a slow dance. I’ve very much devoted a lot of my time to teaching safe rough sex, whether it’s coaching couples or on a porn set. As soon as my sex life started, I felt different. I never understood my friends that only talked about penetration and orgasms. I didn’t know what I needed but I knew that there’s so much more.

    Sex can start with a simple glare or any kind of touch. Be present, in tune with your partner’s physicality and emotions. Simply, sex can be anything the energy a person or an infinite amount of people can make.

    So, on this subject, who the hell am I? Once my sex life started, I found sex boring. So, naturally I started to experiment. I began to be intrigued with body language and paying extreme detail to how my partner ticks. Everyone has a different energy and aura. This led me to experimenting as a submissive because I was so new to these feelings that I didn’t feel comfortable being responsible for another person’s wellbeing. Also, I wanted to know what giving up control felt like.

    Down the rabbit hole we go until I was practicing BDSM in some facet everyday as a submissive and masochist. Then I met a Leather Master who gave demonstrations for people willing to learn. I watched the way he connected with any play partner. This included him doing a demonstration on what we call Mind Fucks on myself that first day. I knew I had a whole other dominant side, and this was the man that I wanted to learn from. I was mentored by him for five to six years before I had to move for work reasons. That was six years ago and still to this day he’s like a second father. No matter what, there is always more to learn with anything in life.

    I didn’t start my career in the Adult Industry until I moved to Tampa and went to, what I thought was a lifestyle event, FetishCon. I never knew industry world, but you have two eyes, two ears, and one mouth for a reason. I just watched and tried to soak up as much as I could. Now, four years later, I am full time running multiple websites that cover such a vast array of fetishes it makes my head spin. I also do couples counseling and true male masculinity support work. All change starts within ourselves.

    What I Love About Rough Sex

    Trust, hands down. Whether you’re the one in control, the one out of control, or in a constant exchange between the two. If done right, there’s always that special moment. Whereas the one in control feels their partner let go. Placing their well-being in their hands. The one out of control feels everything drift away relinquishing all their everyday worries. When there’s a constant exchange, all involved feel the passionate connection to let go. Yet, keep the passion flowing.

    Misconceptions About Rough Sex

    That it’s abuse. Not letting your partner go after passion has died is abuse. Limiting your partner from achieving goals or fantasies just because they’re with you is abuse. There’s a BIG difference between giving away your trust and having it taken from you. So many beginners fall prey to this. T

    he number one thing I get asked when talking about this is, “I was taught to never hit a woman, but she begs me to slap her. What do I do?” Educate yourself, there’s a proper way to do anything. Always negotiate and respect your partners limits. You can always re-negotiate to expand later, which is much better than violating the trust they gave you.

    3 Basic Rough Sexual Acts Beginners Don’t Fully Understand

    With beginners and some seasoned players. It’s almost always choking, slapping, and hair-pulling.

    Take hair-pulling for instance. I hear, “They said pull their hair, so I pulled it and now they’re mad.” This goes for male or female, try just grabbing your hair pulling it. It can hurt and it feels like dead space. Now run your fingers up the back of your neck close to the scalp and grab a handful from the root. You can feel your own energy and suddenly you feel that connection.

    With slapping, there’s a pad of muscle in the cheek that can safely take a hard slap depending on your partners personal limits. Too high on the face will leave a sore black eye. Too far back can cause hearing loss or a temple hit. Too far forward can cause a knock-out or loss of consciousness. I always say to start light. All Bruce Lee needed was one inch.

    Hold your non-slapping hand against your partner’s jaw opposite of the side you intend to slap. Now make sure your partner’s jaw is closed. Place your slapping hand against that sweet spot in their cheek. Start with a one to six-inch slap. Once comfortable there is no need do increase distance, rather increase power behind the slap. Watch your partner’s eyes, they will tell you everything you need to know for feedback if they’re not giving you feedback.

    Now choking is one of my favorites. If my partner at the time doesn’t have any limits against it, I will clean choke them out for a few seconds. I had a partner I had really gotten to know well. I would choke her out right at the brink of her orgasm then hard slap her as she came back. This caused her to have explosive orgasms every time, though every person is different.

    Be present and aware of your partner’s body language and limits. I was teaching a seminar on this. Almost choked myself out against a wall to demonstrate when I heard, “You never mess with the blood flow. You’re supposed to choke from the front.” There’s a very simple way to explain why this is wrong. NEVER choke from the front. The front of the neck is the airway, the sides of the neck are blood flow. If I take away your air, then I’m going to have to manually get your lungs working again. Simply, that airway is surrounded by a hard cage in your windpipe. Intense pressure can crush this cage which could lead to death.

    Now when you choke by placing your hand firmly around the throat, only touching to light pressure on the windpipe. Then you squeeze the two main veins in their throat to cut off blood flow. You’ll get the same feeling, but you’ll be in much more control causing a better connection. If your partner passes out. All you must do is let go. Their heart will still be pumping. As I stated, everyone is different. There’s this thing I call a person’s count, some people choke out in a second while others can take a minute. There’s a trick to learning your partner’s count.

    When learning, have them hold their arm in the air without locking it out. Tell them to hold it there the best they can. Watch their arm move up and down, until it drops below their shoulders. This will give you an idea of that person’s count. Be ready for them to drop out even if that’s not your intention. Better to be extra safe than let someone that is trusting you get hurt. This means be prepared to catch them or do this where they will be safe if they were to fall quickly.

    I’m Miles Striker, an Army 25th Infantry Veteran. I got into the Adult Industry with a goal to make intense content while redefining the Male Dom and male sub genres. I’m also known as the Porn Stuntman when I leaped out of a moving car to make a movie ending look real. I’ve dabbled in just about every fetish as well as created some over the years. Mentored by a Leather Master for 5+ years before becoming a Professional Dom. I travel the country and abroad making fantasies a reality for my customers. While teaching safety and technique to those who want to learn. I also do couples counseling and “True Masculinity” support work. Toxic masculinity isn’t masculinity at all, just little boys who throw tantrums. Nominated Best Male Fetish Performer and Best Male Webcam Performer, 2018 and 2019 at the Fetish Awards.

    Email me at TheMilesStriker@gmail.com For the following:

    • Further your education via in person or webcam (must be willing to talk, no texting).
    • Have a complaint about anything I’ve said (please let’s talk about it).
    • Live Webcam or Pro-Dom sessions.
    • Order a Custom & make your fantasy come to life.
    • If you are in the Adult Industry & would like to hire me for any reason. (Knowledge/Experience is Power)

    Follow me:

    My Content

    Upcoming Appearances:

    • FetishCon 2019 August 6-11 (St. Petersburg FL)
    • Exxxotica Miami 2019 Sept. 5-9 (Miami FL)
    • Atlanta TBD
    • Las Vegas TBD

    Photos courtesy of Miles Striker

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  • How To Have Rough Sex And Love It

    How To Have Rough Sex And Love It

    I’m a very open person towards sex. For me, sex and love are absolutely not connected with one another. As the English so wonderful say, we make love… or… we just had sex! I see no reason to be jealous of my partner for having sex with someone else.

    Sex is some game you have to find pleasure in. Each person will have his/her preferences. It always should be very exciting. The first kiss you have, you will always remember, but it will not be exciting anymore.

    In that way, one will evolve in its preferences and experiments. As I’m a real physical person, I have developed a real high standard and often it surprises me that people are not ready for some actions. However each and everyone needs to follow his own way and discover it!

    Why I Love It Rough

    I absolutely do not like vanilla and romantic sex. I do love cuddling and kissing with my partner, that is love, not sex.

    Rough for me is brutal, kidnapping, rape, BDSM, bondage, blindfolding, just name it! I do like to feel that someone really takes me. It is most exiting when you don’t know what is coming up to you. To feel your clothes ripped roughly from your body, hands all over you, items you don’t know what they are being used.

    There is so much to explore and sometimes there are sessions which I like more and others less… that is part of the experience. Getting cocks pushed inside you (mouth or arse) and really rough pounding forces, until they unload gives me a real thrill. I could go on here for hours but I think it will be wise to dig deeper into some subjects later on.

    Ways To Get Started 

    Get a video, or watch someone else having it first. In the hetero scene, there are clubs who will give initiation days so you can see and not have to participate.

    For the gay scene sex, it is so much easier to find and to discover. If you get exited about the imagination, you most certainly must find out more about it.

    See the movie 50 shades… it’s also new to her but actually she loves it. So set aside your good moral education and let it go, you’ll see where you end up.

    (I always love to end up tied up and blindfolded in a sling)

    Props To Use

    The feeling of leather or rubber is really wonderful but I also love the feeling of ropes, chains and of course a lot of toys on my skin. Blindfolds make it extra exciting, and a mouth gags makes you drool. Whips, clamps, candle wax, needles etc give you pain in a most fantastic way.

    A pain that gives me a rock hard cock. By the way, I mostly wear a cock ring during sex, but I also love to wear it in my suit during work.

    Electro-sex is great fun to, you never know when a shock comes, it makes you nervous and it helps in edging. Edging is a real torture. A master teases you, plays with your genitals until you are about to come, and than stops you from shooting the load….

    The click of a camera makes it all even more exiting but I guess that is my exhibition site showing.

    Ensuring Safe Rough Play

    BDSM or rough sex is always based on trust!

    Get to know your master or sub well before you start giving yourself over to him/her.

    For masters, there are really good education possibilities. Mind that you are playing with a body and a person who is gonna scream and cry, and you have to know when to stop. If you do bondage, feel frequently on the feet and hands that they do not become cold!

    A lot of things can be real dangerous if not done right, for example inserting a needle in a nipple can infect the sub with diseases.

    Know what you are doing and how fast you can go.

    You will not get a fist inside your arse without a real training programme that will take some months.

    Kinking Up Rough Sex

    Don’t keep it in your own bedroom… go out, have sex at a club, in a dungeon, etc. This is a really tough question for me to answer. I’m so advanced that there is not much new to find out about. And most games seem to be like normal to me. I guess finding other sex partners or more at the same time will give you more different feelings.

    For me it is starting up a great foreplay. When I know I will go out to a club, I prepare myself mostly the day before. Wearing ball stretchers, a cock ring and butt plug under my suit at work… it makes me hotter and hotter. I once went to a meeting with an electric remote controlled butt plug up my arse. I was not wearing any underwear and I did not know when the thing would be turned on.

    When it turned on it made me so exited and rock hard that I’m sure some of my colleagues must have seen my boner. The chock end vibration of the plug is not to be hidden either.

    At the end I would like to tell you to use your imagination… It’s all between the ears before it gets into the body

    Sebastian Rolls – Just a normal guy in a suit with some real kinky feeling. I just love to talk and fantasize about sex games and of course to play them out. I do speak fluent English, Spanish, French, Dutch and German. I love making porn, It does not pay the bills but it is so great to do. Just the idea some people getting exited over you is so hot!

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  • Rough Sex Tips For An Orgasmic Good Time

    Rough Sex Tips For An Orgasmic Good Time

    My view towards rough sex is really simply, if you like it in your personal life then I encourage it all the way because I feel like if a couple can have rough sex, then there is a trust and bond built between those them and I find it very beautiful.

    What I Love About Rough Sex

    I enjoy submitting to my partner. I like it when my partner can physically show me his strength. I enjoy being held down and choked. I couldn’t tell you where I got the love for BDSM but once I encountered it, I started to prefer it more and more. I enjoy bondage and other forms of domination only with a professional.

    Rough Sex Limits

    I’ve definitely had times where I’ve reached my limit but I’m all about pushing my boundaries. I’ve tried everything from simple bondage to tongue torture.

    One Tip To Remember

    My one major tip is do your homework and learn before you hop into the sheets. Also, sit down with your partner and discuss your boundaries and safe words.

    Ways To Make It Kinkier

    Haha of course there is!! Use your imagination and you’ll discover endless amounts of ideas!

    My name is Kat Monroe and I am a 23 year old adult entertainer who lives in California. I am one crazy kinky kitty on camera but when there’s not a camera on me I really just enjoy being out in nature with my pup Creid or adventuring to new places. I love to paint, write and crazy enough clean. I am a motorcycle and bmw lover, I’d rather get my hands dirty then sit on a pedestal.

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  • Why I Love Rough Sex

    Why I Love Rough Sex

    What is my opinion of sex? Simple. Sex is hard, but somebody has to do it. So I do what I enjoy. I love it and I want to do it as best I can.

    How I Started Porn

    I found an ad for a photo shoot. I wrote in and agreed on the date and place where the photo shoot will take place. But I found out that it was for porn. I said that since I was here, I would try. So I went to it 100% and found out that this is what I enjoy. Sex, cameras, show off and enjoy every minute on stage.

    Kinds Of Rough Sex I Love

    When it’s hard sex, the position behind, while he has to pull my hair, cut me, slap my ass and rub my fingers in my mouth. I just love it

    I like when a man is a taller, muscular and potent (but not a condition) person. They must have blue or green eyes (I have a weakness for them), especially a gullible look.

    I certainly would not have the guy tie me in, or he was banging me and thrashing me. I do not like this kind of sex anymore.

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  • Get The Rough Sex You Want

    Get The Rough Sex You Want

    I’m a very open person when it comes to my sexuality, I feel like sex and owning your “sexy-ness” is a form of empowerment, YOU give YOUR own sexual experience and nobody can replace or copy what you do, and everyone is different and amazing in different ways. I like to push boundaries in sex, I like to know what makes the other person tick and I want them to know what makes me tick as well. I like to find out how far we can go and how intensely hot we can make it. For me it’s as much of a mind thing as it is a sexual feeling, I like to feel like my mind is out of reality.

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    Why I Love Rough Sex

    I like to feel out of control, not in a scary way and not ever in any way that I feel unsafe, but I really do enjoy when I have no control. I like to have control in every aspect of my life, in fact I almost need control in my life, but then as soon as the bedroom door closes…. I want to be completely taken control of.

    Rough sex is fun and exciting to me, it’s almost like a drug. Once you experience something so intense, nothing else compares.

    Types Of Rough Sex

    I like to be pushed to my very limit. I stay safe, and only engage in rough sex like that with my significant other but there have been times where I almost passed out because of the roughness, but I like that feeling. I love to be spanked, having my hair pulled while the other hand is around my neck. That type of thing. Anything that makes me feel like I’m not in control. I always have a safe word though!!|

    Fun fact!! : My safe word is Watermelon!

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    Common Misconceptions

    Oh there is plenty, “She must have daddy issues”, “She must have been sexually abused before”, “I wonder if her boyfriend beats her too” … None of that is true! I mean that stuff happens to people no matter what you’re into sexually. For me, it’s just one big mental and physical fantasy of losing all control.

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    Do’s And Don’ts For Rough Sex

    Don’t ever let yourself in bed with someone you don’t trust and feel safe with. Rough sex can sometimes get a little carried away so you need to be with someone who can see when you need a break. Do share your dark secrets beforehand, tell your partner the dirty and rough things you’ve always wanted to do, and then let them do it to you. Don’t force yourself or push your body if you feel like something is wrong, always listen to your body. Do let yourself fully lose control at some point and let the other person just sexually take you, I promise you will both love it. After having that rough connection with someone you crave it.

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  • Rough Sex Tips By Samantha Hayes

    Rough Sex Tips By Samantha Hayes

    Honestly, I’ve always had a turn on for being rough before I really understood what it was I liked about it.  I always wanted boyfriends to pull my hair, smack my ass, and hold me down giving head.  When I would get intimate with guys, they seemed surprised by how into it I was.

    What Turns Me On

    Hands down, the power play.  I always used to be a control freak and it leads to so much extra stress.  By being able to relax, let go, and let my dominant partner take control, I found I was able to get a release by no longer having to have power and control over everything.

    I am a pain slut – being hit, slapped, or bitten can lead to an intense orgasm for me, even without any genital stimulation whatsoever.  I also like bondage and psychological play, as well as orgasm control and denial.

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    Have A Safe Word

    Always make sure you go over what you want to try and what your limits are with your partner beforehand, and that you only practice with someone you trust.  It’s important to pace yourself rather than jump in both feet first.  Discussing a safe word or safe action (if you have a ball gag on, you can’t say it) so that your partner knows when you need to stop.  A safe word can be anything, a safe action can be a repetitive head shaking to show that it’s time to stop.

    The safe word or safe action means that all activity needs to stop, immediately, no questions asked.  Exploring with rough sex can bring up a lot of emotions, even if you don’t expect it.  Aftercare is extremely important, if not as important as the exploration itself so make sure that you feel comfortable telling your partner to hold you after or discuss things if you need it.

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    Always Be Comfortable Before Trying

    You should never do something you aren’t comfortable with, however, taboo around certain subjects can lead to a lot of discomfort.  Educate yourself on different rough sex acts from legitimate fetish sources (NOT Fifty Shades of Grey) and do some research. Knowledge is power, and by simply educating yourself on the logistics of rough sex, you may feel comfortable enough to explore it.

    As I said, having a trusting partner to explore with is also extremely important.  It isn’t something to try out with a stranger or someone you aren’t comfortable with because it requires open communication and trust.

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  • Get Kinky Sex Tips From Kelly Quell

    Get Kinky Sex Tips From Kelly Quell

    I am a very sexual person and I really am in tune with people’s energy. Sex is a fantastic interpersonal tool for really getting to know someone and really experiencing pleasure on a different level.

    I love to get to know how each person likes to be touched and get to see and feel what each person’s sexual style is like, for example, how they touch me.

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    How My Interest In Kinky Sex Came About

    Hmm I’m not sure.  Probably when I was much younger. I remember always being really into scenarios when I had my hands tied. I remember being actually really into medieval times and dungeons when I first learned about them. At the time I was young and never really understood why I would get aroused thinking about dungeons. It definitely  became apparent in the last 5 years or so. I love being restrained. And I love being at the mercy of my partner. I am big into electro play and degradation.

    Does Kinky Sex And Rough Sex Go Together?

    Well, I don’t really know how to not mix the two for me. I am truly a submissive and a bottom. I know what I want and I know how to be satisfied. For me it is not really fulfilling if I have kinky sex but not rough sex. My kink is that I like it rough.

    I hang out in very kinky queer circles, where BDSM and sex go hang and hand but also separately.  You can have a good BDSM scene with someone without actually having to have sex.  However. I prefer my BDSM with my sex.

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    Why Rough Sex Turns Me On

    I think it is about letting my imagination run free.

    I like to pretend I’m in situations where I’m being used by multiple men at the same time.  Where I’m in forced situations. I like to feel like I am there to be obedient to my partner and if I’m not, I should be punished. I love being called names the most, such as “fuck toy“, “good girl“, “fucking ass whore“, “slut” etc.

    It’s more about mental than physical for me. I honestly love being made to feel like someone’s fuck toy. It really gets me off. I can’t even get off unless I envision a fantasy where  I’m being fucked rough while being bound in a public place. Like on a pool table at a bar. I really want to act this out sometime soon.

    Forms Of Rough Sex I Love

    Being fucked really hard with a dildo or fingered really hard while having my hair pulled, being slapped in the face, choked and told to “shut the fuck up”, this is my favorite type of sex to have with another femme. I love sex with all genders but it seems like I enjoy certain styles of sex more with femmes versus with masculine identified people. I feel more satisfied sometimes with rough lesbian sex with me as the bottom.

    However, I love cock too and I love being used as a place to deposit cum.  I love facials with no warning and I really really enjoy getting face fucked. Pretty much, I like feeling like I have no control.

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    Are There Any Safety Precautions To Follow?

    Yes. You always need to be in constant communication with your partner. You need to have a safe word and you need to always make sure everything being done is consensual.

    Communication is key. Even words and names can ruin everything and leave you or the other partner(s) involved feeling hurt and upset.

    Always practice safe sex. My sexual partners and I frequently get all our STI tests up to date. About once every month or so.  As a rule, I never sleep with people that I do not already know first.

    Hello, my name is Kelly and I enjoy putting on webcam shows from time to time. I am very queer and very into DIY culture.  I am an aspiring queer porn star and am looking forward to working with some of the greats in queer porn. 

    I am very much a bottom and a submissive and I love rough sex and BDSM.  My fetishes include being submissive, exhibitionism, rough sex, bondage, group sex/threesomes, being spanked, being choked, having my hair pulled, being called a slut, leashes/collars, toys, anal sex, oral sex and much much more. 

    Aside from sex, I play guitar in a math-core/shoegaze band and I scream in a Queercore band called Hussy. I live on the east coast surrounded by artists and musicians and tons of queer people. Follow me on:

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  • A Guide To Rough Sex With Gigi Luxe

    A Guide To Rough Sex With Gigi Luxe

    Sex is one of the most primal and natural acts we perform regularly as humans. Between consenting adults, it can be a forum for self-exploration both physically and psychologically. Easy access to porn and a more highly sexualized society have led to misconceptions and extreme expectations, but don’t let the double-edged sword cut you down! It is my hope for everyone to feel confident and safe in their sexual endeavors. Sex can be a great opportunity for intimacy, or just for fun! As long as everyone is happy and healthy, there is no reason to judge someone for their sexual choices.

    I strongly believe satisfaction and happiness flourish in “GGG” relationships: those that are

    “Good in bed, Giving equal time and equal pleasure, and Game for anything—within reason”

    (More can be found here: http://www.salon.com/2012/09/12/science_proves_it_dan_savage_is_right/). If you don’t feel safe and satisfied during sex, something needs to change!

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    My Interest In Rough Sex

    I started exploring rough sex when I found a partner with whom I felt comfortable and safe. I always liked being tossed around a bit in the sack, and it wasn’t until I first did more at his request that I realized how valuable this could be for me as a whole person. Pushing myself to try things beyond my comfort zone was exciting in itself, and still is — I believe there is always something more to explore.

    Why I Love Rough Sex!

    While it might sound counterintuitive, adding an element of danger or pain (safely!) to the pleasure of sex can heighten the adventure and elevate one’s pleasure. A rush of adrenaline improves muscular response and releases more dopamine in the brain, and we all love a good flood of these happy-making little guys. Released during sexual activity? Ding ding ding! We have a winning combination!

    Before I ever thought about the scientific side of things, there was something in me that just loved it when a partner pulled my hair or smacked my ass while we were going at it. Not only do our brains and body respond positively, but these actions register as proof that our partner is fully enjoying the process. Satisfying our choice of partner is arguably the top cause of arousal in humans, and definitely activates our reward system (good tummy-feels).

    I also love being able to let go of whatever worry or need to control that may be crowding my mind. After a learning curve, I know what I like and what to do or say to get the most out of any roll in the hay. Sometimes, this means not having to make any choices for a while. Other times, I’ll demand whatever desire comes into my head. Being rough and raw allows me to drop my inhibitions and interact more honestly in my relationships.

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    Types Of Rough Sex I Enjoy

    I am willing to try anything (within reason) after discussing it with my trusted sexual companion, so boundary-pushing in general is an exciting aspect of our relationship. I never know quite what to expect! There is something that always gets me about being manhandled and thrown around a bit in bed. (Think hair pulling, proper choking, or spanking.) As for what I like right now, I’ve gotten into the BDSM scene. Being submissive tends to invite a level of physical roughness from my partner, though not necessarily.

    Remember These Precautions Before You Try

    • I always do some research into whatever new thing I might try, whether that means reading articles and interviews, watching porn, or letting my own fantasies play out in my head. Being prepared makes me ready for action and less nervous.
    • Discuss any boundaries you may have before trying anything intense, to be sure everyone is on the same page. That’s my biggest rule: Communicate! Sex should always be enjoyable and safe! There is this strange misconception that in a heterosexual relationship the man has control of the sexy times, and the woman just needs to follow along. But what if there is something she wants to try or doesn’t like? Speak up, ladies! From what I know about men, most find it pretty hot when a woman makes the first move.

    Trust your gut. Intuition is the strongest guide we have. There is a difference between getting cold feet and legitimately not wanting to do something. If you’re uncomfortable with something, make that a hard limit and tell your partner. Make it someone you trust. You are still totally in control of the situation. You can always extend or revoke your consent; why not try something new? Remember: anxiety and excitement are different perceptions of the same visceral emotion.

    Gigi Luxe is an adult model providing digital sex work through various media platforms including sexting, tweeting, and live streaming. She loves connecting with people through her work and seeks out the finer things in life. If she’s not on cam, you can probably find her reading (books, plays, wine labels…) or hiking. Be sure to follow her updates for the launch of her new website, coming this summer! Follow Gigi Luxe here:

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  • Tips To Enjoy Rough Sex

    Tips To Enjoy Rough Sex

    In my opinion, sex is something that has to do with an open mind without any complex. For a long time I’ve believed sex was a taboo subject, that is the way my social surroundings taught me; one day I decided to bring down such barriers and started exploring my own body.

    I see sex now as something necessary (at least for me) whether if it’s masturbation or as a couple.

    For me the daily worries or stressful situations are prohibited during sexual encounters. It’s my own way of meditation, whereas the possibilities of fun are infinite, such as toys, places, role play, sexual positions, in turn can be your job as well.

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    My Interest In Rough Sex

    The interest in me started through my partner. One day he decided to tie me up just for fun, and started behaving in a more “rough” way. At that moment I realized I really enjoyed it, although I have to confess that at first I felt embarrassed by it.

    Why It Turns Me On

    Rough sex allows me to unload all stress within in a more intense manner, than “vanilla” sex would and to be able to give control of the situation and my body to a person I completely trust, is probably what I like the most, since that way I can concentrate on obeying and enjoy the experience.

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    Types Of Rough Sex I Like

    Forms that I like the most are those related to bondage, since I play a submissive role, I truly enjoy the Japanese fetish called “Shibari”

    I enjoy spanking, hot wax, being tied up with my arms behind my back while being penetrated doggie style, it drives me insane because it is so much fun for me.

    Also I truly enjoy public sex in which my partner forces me as part of the fetish fantasy (although it is voluntary on my side), the adrenaline rush of being caught is incredible and immensely exciting.

    Tips To Enjoy Rough Sex

    1. Do it with someone you completely trust, no strangers ever for real.

    2. You have to plan and discuss whatever you’re going to do in advance, especially if you’re newbies at any kind of fetish.

    3. Apply the same rules always as you would do any BDSM relationship.

    You don’t have to believe the “Christian Grey” model; rough sex has to be safe, intelligent and most of all consensual at all times

    4. Manage limits, create limits of all things you’re not ready or ever able to do, and your partner has to understand such limits. ALWAYS Use a “safe word”, this way your partner knows when to stop especially in bondage fetish situations

    5. Do not use equipment difficult to use or complicated, ie. use sex toys as dildos, not fruits or vegetables such as a cucumber or banana.

    6. Again nothing with strangers, unless you are with someone you trust, if so, then just enjoy the ride!

    7. Lastly, respect, respect, respect. Even if your fantasy fools you into believing your partner belongs to you, it doesn’t, and he/she will never be your property.

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    Try Rough Sex Out Now!

    I do recommend rough sex to every girl that is looking for new experiences or are tired of boring “vanilla” sex, even if the typical fetishes available are not their cup of tea; still, do remember to start slow, from the minimal tying up of your hands or arms or putting a bandana over your eyes, until you can advance to rougher styles like ropes or hot wax.

    If you follow the rules that I have talked about before, I’m pretty sure you will have nothing to fear and you will enjoy it as much as I do!

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