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  • What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    What It Takes To Be A Pay Pig

    The world of kink is a necessary response to the restrictive societal norms in which we all operate on a daily basis. Everyone is into something a little alternative, be it their music taste or strange late night snack preference. Kink is like deep space; a way to safely (when done properly) explore otherwise “unacceptable” interests. It’s funny that attitudes toward kink can still be so cynical, but thankfully the internet makes it possible to educate and connect individuals in a way like never before.

    It doesn’t have to be a clandestine practice, it can be a fun and satisfying way to creatively realize your desires. Variety is the spice of life.
 Kink is additionally such a fascinating inquisition into the realm of psychology. I’ve learned so much about myself and about others through my practice as a Domme.
The kink community is also one of the most open and accepting I’ve ever experienced, rife with characters both interesting and brilliant. As long as all parties involved are honoring safety protocols like SSC and RACK, it can be an incredible opportunity for self-exploration.

    Getting Into Findom

    One day a girlfriend of mine told me someone approached her on Facebook asking to be her homework slave. When we looked into it, she was a little weirded out, but I was intrigued. I went home and started researching and fell down a fetish rabbit hole. Enthralled, I created a Twitter account and embarked on building my own little empire of devoted submissives.

    What Does It Mean To Be A Pay Pig?

    A pay pig is a submissive, usually male but can be anyone, who derives pleasure and satisfaction from relinquishing money to a Financial Dom/me, the latter of which tend to be beautiful and highly intelligent women. It’s a form of masochism, in that money represents power, the transfer of which is symbolic and is often artfully composed of a multitude of factors, including surrender and an intimate connection between sub and Domme.
 Findom in its purest form involves a submissive who yields funds to a Financial Dominatrix as the ultimate acknowledgement of her dominion over his mind, finances, and libido.

    Misconceptions About Pay Pigs & Findom

    Pay pigs aren’t actually just people born with a compulsory need to send money to demanding women. It’s more complicated than that. Subs aren’t stupid, they’re not inherently losers, and not all of them like to be humiliated. I think a lot of girls try to get into findom because it sounds like easy money, which has saturated the community with these Instadommes, much to the chagrin of serious Dommes. But there’s no formula to it. It is a real relationship.

    My relationship with each of my subs is wildly unique. 
I’d venture to say another pay pig misconception is that it’s a transaction. Selling custom clips and conducting Skype calls are transactions, not findom. And it’s true that that’s simply the nature of findom today — many Dommes are jacks of all trades, myself included. But true findom is a remote Goddess, perched on Her throne up in the clouds, and along comes the unworthy sub who bows at Her celestial feet and offers himself wholly in recognition of Her supremacy, which includes sending, serving and spoiling for the sheer joy of pleasing Her Eminence. Never is even Her attention promised, let alone a picture of Her divine feet or an OnlyFans subscription. But, I digress.

    Finally, findom is not easy. Building a presence entails quite a bit of effort — you’re an embodiment of the Divine Feminine, not a normal girl with her own life and other goals outside of the kink world. Maintaining relationships with subs is akin to maintaining vanilla relationships with your friends and family. Staying sharp and educated on kinks takes endless research and practice. Though it is fun and satisfying, it is essentially running a business.

    If you’re just a pretty girl, you will be eaten alive. Which is why so many girls quit after a few weeks, and why many true pay pigs become frustrated with an inbox full of “Send me money now, loser!”

    Characteristics Of Pay Pigs I Look For

    Reverence and devotion. A sub should be submissive! Chivalry and findom go hand in hand. I give so much more attention to those who approach correctly: head down, on their knees, begging for the privilege of serving me and all the wonder such an honor entails. We Goddesses have to deal with subs who pop up asking “how much for a session?” on the daily, as if we’re vending machines for pleasure.

    That’s not female dominance. That’s pay for play, which is fine, but should come later, ideally. 
I like subs who have a personality, too. Someone who can just be their kinky self — that’s what allows for an organic bond and a deeper, more satisfying fantasy.

    What To Know Before Becoming A Pay Pig

    You don’t have to be rich to be a pay pig. Sacrifice is sacrifice. The stories where men take out loans of thousands of dollars for the intense release it is to send to the object of their affection are exciting and sexy, but they’re not the rule. You pay monthly for Netflix, you go out to dinner and drinks, and you surprise your Goddess with little gifts here and there. If you want to be a pay pig, findom already exists in your psyche. You just need to find the Goddess with whom you can explore your desires.

    I’d say patience is key. Don’t fall for Instadommes. Think of it this way — how dominant is it really for a self-proclaimed “Domme” to reach out to you with solicitations for money that are thinly disguised as a bratty command? Block, ignore, and keep it moving.
 Fortune favors the bold. If you have your eye on a Domme you like, take the plunge and approach. The worst that can happen is she ignores you.

    My advice? Lead with devotion and submission. Stand out by telling her why you so ardently adore her. And send that initial tribute first, or within the first five messages. She’s a Financial Dominatrix, and you’re a pay pig. You know good and well how to please her. “Sent, Goddess” are the magic words in findom.

    Goddess Katie – A luxury Dominatrix of the financial persuasion — intellectual, untouchable, and highly addictive. Though She specializes in findom, She caters to a variety of other kinks and believes in establishing close relationships with her devotees. All the better to infiltrate your mind and make it Her permanent residence…

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  • How To Serve A Mistress Correctly

    How To Serve A Mistress Correctly

    I’ve always been more open about my sexual side and I have known this since at a young age. I have learnt a lot about different fetishes and kinks over the years. I’m honestly a full sub when it comes to my personal relationship with my partner but I work best as a Domme! I love the passion that comes along with kink, and it’s like nothing else which is probably why I love it so much.

    Characteristics Of A Submissive

    Loyalty and dependability are my top two favorite things. I want to be able to count on you to not waste my time as well as being able to trust you to serve me properly. Communication is very important because I want to be able to cater to all your fetishes so we can both be satisfied in the end. I can’t lie though, I am a financial Dominatrix so money is a huge factor in my selection of subs.

    Why Submissives Love Being Dominated

    It’s honestly always a very personal reason on why and what kind of fetishes they are into. One thing that doesn’t change is the enjoyment they get from their preferred fetish fulfilled. I’ve had a financial paypig who loves the suffering feeling of having to struggle to pay for himself and make his own life harder in a sense. He liked this because growing up, he never had this issue due to his financial upbringing, so it was a brand new feeling which ultimately makes him weak for his mistress.

    My sissy subs like dressing up in lingerie and acting like a female because they know they’ll never actually be a true masculine man. They give in instead and embrace their feminine side which is satisfying to them.

    My domination and/or CBT subs love physical pain for the pure feeling of it, they’re masochists and that’s pretty self explanatory.

    How Subs Should Serve A Mistress Correctly

    My number one pet peeve is whining so absolutely stay away from that. I like to have sessions with my devoted subs at least once a week so their need for me is heighten in their daily lives. If I give you tasks to complete, make sure you do them in the allotted amount of time and don’t ever make me wait. If you are my sub then only serve me, give me everything instead of splitting it between another Domme. Always pay for our sessions but that is already a given!

    Typical Punishments For Subs 

    I don’t give out too many chances, I have a three strike policy. I know I’m capable of finding subs who can devote their time and serve me in the way I like so if that’s not you, I have no problem with dropping you. However, if you mess up, I will make sure you make it up to me by giving extra tributes and showering me in gifts. I want to know you’re genuinely sorry for disobeying your Mistress and ensuring you won’t do it again.

    Mistress Milan – I’m a 21 year old bratty Brazilian financial dominatrix and humiliatrix! I love the feeling of weakening grown men into my devoted subs and leaving them always wanting more of me. I love power and mind control it’s the key to domination.

    Twitter: @Mistress_Milan

    Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/2484178 (MistressMilan)

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    I don’t have any tours but I’m always accepting subs for sessions via Teamviewer, Kik, or Skype!

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  • What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    What Does It Take To Be A Good Pay Pig?

    Put simply, I view kink and Findom as a method to feel – illusions or delusions; whatever you’re searching for. I look for a gloried connection with a slave. Modern day relationships bore me, I’m not into the cookie cutter, sweet tooth, hold hands in public bullshit. I like to draw a thick line between the superior and the inferior. Findom is a give and take relationship: pig gives and I take. I like being the queen and taking control.

    My Interest in Findom

    I have always had a dominate personality. When I was younger, I had a short fling with a rather handsome older man who bathed me in cash. He liked foot worship, humiliation and, verbal abuse. I was new to that kind of sexual degradation of men, but soon found my place as a rightful dominatrix. From there I found the Findom community online and have thrived.

    My Specialties As A Findom

    There are so many unique Findommes in our community, each as ravishing as the next.

    I stand out because of my bizarre tasks I assign.

    When a paypig tributes and devotes himself to his queen, I ask numerous questions to see what they’re into, their limits, experience, income, home life, etc. I assign tasks accordingly. I’m more of a lifestyle Findom.

    One rough example: A man with a wife is into sissifaction – He wears his wife’s lingerie then cums into a glass of water, making them into ice cubes. Putting them into his and his wife’s drink. Proof of pictures are required.

    What Are Pay Pigs Like

    Paypigs / human ATMs /cash cows are men who surrender their entire life over to a Domme. Once a pig has tributes and signed our contract, we rule their finances. I personally go a little further then most.

    I have found that most of my pigs have higher food chain roles at their workplace (mangers, CEOs, etc). I think they seek out ladies such as myself to get away from that pressure. We’re a relief. We provide what their wives cannot, and what is outside of their norm.

    They’re just normal people. You couldn’t pick them out of a group. One of my pigs is actually a competitive body builder. Biggest man I’ve ever seen, it’s amusing how much of a pansy I turn him into.

    I refer to them as: slaves, subs, losers, piggie, and any other belittling words I can think of. They’re nice guys, thankful for being able to view your photos, give you money, and your attention.

    My Pay Pig Requirements

    When a potential pay pig messages me, I first demand a tribute. I get up to 10 time wasters a day so it’s hard to decipher true pigs without tributes.

    I calculate their finances. I see Findom as giving to your superior a little more than is comfortable. I don’t want to dedicate my attention to a pig who can only tribute a maximum of $90 a week. I put a lot of time and effort into thinking of tasks, shows, and videos designed for that pig.

    And lastly, their attitude. They need to worship me. Be thankful of everything I give them. I am sugar coated, on the back seat full of vanity, gloriously sweet, born to be the other woman, yet I demand to be treated as number one.

    Do’s And Don’ts For Every Pay Pig

    Do’s:

    – Tribute all you can spare. Give us your cash. Send us presents. Spoil your queen. And then tribute that cash you can’t. Send in your savings. You can live off toast for the next week, your cash looks better on my feet anyway.

    – Thank your queen for everything.

    – Agree to everything she says. Does she want you to go gay tonight? Real slutty, faggoty, spit roasted gay? You do as she says.

    Don’ts:

    – Tell her you can’t afford her. This is FINDOM. If you can’t tribute then you have no reason to be in our messages. No one will take your broke ass.

    – Tell her irrelevant shit. Oh you’re taking your wife to dinner tonight? Shouldn’t you be spending that money on a new designer dress for me? Oh you’re going to the game? Perhaps I want you to stay home and amuse me, yes. In fact, you’re not going anymore.

    I am Queen Valarie! I am a Femdom cam girl. I dabble in all fetishes and primary thrive through Findom. My selfish attitude is intoxicating and addictive. I can make you feel things, darling.

    Follow Queen Valarie on Twitter @QueenValariee and on MyFreeCams at Queen Valarie

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  • Are You A Pay Pig Looking For A Findom Mistress?

    Are You A Pay Pig Looking For A Findom Mistress?

    Many Findommes are cut and dry “Fuck you pay me” type Dommes, and there is nothing wrong with that since many paypigs get off on the degradation and humiliation. I’m more of a “chameleon” Domme, if you will. I change my style based on my sub or paypig. When I first come in contact with a potential pig, I get to know them a bit before putting on my Domme hat; ask them about their likes/dislikes as a sub, any hard limits they may have, etc, because every sub is different so I don’t feel like I can be an effective Domme if I treat them all the same.

    That being said, I always let my dominant core shine through and demand respect even in my first conversation with someone looking to serve me. Regardless of the individual, I always demand some sort of tribute after our second conversation – the first talk allows me to feel the person out and judge if I want to continue with them further or if they are just wasting my time. I also inform them that if I am to be their Mistress, I require regular payments or tributes in the form of gifts or giftcards.

    How My Findom Journey Began

    I was actually introduced to the Findom world after a self proclaimed paypig contacted me after he saw old videos of me back from when I used to be a sub, and he asked if I was a switch.  (Since those videos were made, I have stopped being a sub due to the fact that I was a Domme at heart, but the experience allowed me to gain the insight of what subs like and need from their Domme/Dom. ) I told him I was in fact a Domme and he expressed a desire to be my paypig. I did a lot of research on Findom and decided that it sounded like something I would be very interested in, so I agreed to be his mistress. Our relationship was cut short due to his behavior, but it gave me enough of a taste to realize that I wanted more!

    Why I Enjoy Being A Findom

    I have had subs in the past that gave me their bodies to use how I pleased, but for someone to submit not only their body, but their mind, and wallet, to me was such an intoxicating thrill. They gave me the power to make or break them. With the click of a mouse or a single phone call, I could ruin their life, career, everything. The feeling of having that ultimate power and control arouses and excites me. In addition to the worship I receive from my pigs that makes me feel like a goddess.

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    Am I Qualified To Be Your Paypig?

    I don’t have a specific type of guy that I look for to be my paypig. As long as they make their regular tributes, and listen to my every order, they’re my type of pig! Some Dommes only look for richer paypigs, but for me it’s not the amount of money they tribute, but the consistency of it. I had one pig that was a college student and only made $100 a week, so I made him pay at least $20 a week, leaving him with sufficient funds for food and his other expenses. I told a new pig of mine that “No tribute is to big or small, your new Mistress loves them all” haha.

    Tasks Paypigs Perform

    This is where getting to know my pigs comes in handy because I play off their own fetishes. One pig, I made him wear ladies underwear for me while he keeps his penis in a cock cage until I told him he to take it out. He gets off on being treated like a sissy, and pays tribute by getting me toys. Another pig I made him do lines and stress positions. He’s currently working on writing 1000 lines of “I happily write ____ lines for my lovely Mistress Phoenix” and in return he tributes me by sending me money. Past pigs I would demand to do something like send tributes or take embarrassing pics or I’d expose them to their wife/work/school, because they loved the aspect of blackmail.

    Why Do Paypigs Love It?

    I think that each pig likes Findom for their own reasons, but it all boils down to a few things.

    1.) They feel that women are far superior and should be spoiled and worshiped, and they feel it is their duty to do so.

    2.) They love the power switch. Many paypigs are dominant in their everyday lives whether that be in their workplace or home, so having a woman order him around and walk all over them is a major turn on.

    3.) They just get a thrill out of a beautiful woman having the power to ruin them.

    Spoil Me Now!

    My paypigs spoil me by sending me tributes in the form of cash, or Amazon and Victoria’s Secret Giftcards, or by buying things off of my wish list, or any other specific items I ask for (for example, if I say I need new boots, I’ll have them buy them). I have a wish list on delivery code that I tell pigs to shop from, and I add things regularly to it. https://www.deliverycode.com/wishlist/4187

    I don’t use Amazon because there is a chance a paypig could find out what my address is if they purchase something for me from an Amazon wish list, which is why I switched to Amazon Giftcards.

     

    If you would like to play with me, you must know that I am a strict Mistress. I will control your mind, body, and wallet. Enter the world of findom with me as your Mistress. Follow Mistress Phoenix on Twitter @phoenixroseshow

     

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