Tag: Obedience

Finding new ways to enhance power exchange sessions is another exciting way to keep my subs obedient to me. In order to keep my skills sharp, I take any BDSM class/ apprenticeship where I can learn new crafts of my trade, such as bondage events or BDSM socials. I make sure that sessions don’t becoming stale or routine. Spicing them up with new toys or equipment is necessary in keeping my clients interested. I stick to what a subs needs are but fetish needs change as limits become greater. I will add new play ideas in to amplify the intensity of the energy exchange. For example, over 2 years I have been working with a bondage and CBT slave. During session, I introduced breath play while he was strapped down on a bondage table. His balls were hooked to my electro Stimulation box (ie Rimba machine) as breath play was administered.

Through this technique my sub expressed a feeling of intense rush of pleasure, using low and high settings with my electro machine alone wasn’t enough anymore. But mixed with breath play, it becomes even more pleasurable. That particular CBT sub said that no one has been able to take him as deep into sub space as I have. That’s an amazing feedback to hear from a sub, to know only I can take them there. Subs need to feel they’re understood by their Domme. Communication is needed even if it isn’t positive feedback. Being sensitive and strong is a fine line to walk. It’s important to give your sub the feeling of vulnerability and safety while in sub space. Once a slave finds a Domme who can only take them deep into sub space, an appreciation/bond develops. It can last for many years fulltime or part-time. Establishing a strong bond is necessary in keeping a sub feeling needed. That will make for a long term D/s relationship.

I am a student still, forever learning how to become a better Dominant. Staying open minded when I deal with subs when I dominate. Some of the best extreme play ideas have been sparked from a subs imagination with me in the driver seat. It really is a team effort to have great power exchange sessions. Without the slave, I cannot be the Dominate. I’m always looking for ways to become knowledgeable on how to enhance my slaves sub space experience. I feel that’s the reason my subs choose to be obedient to me while staying loyally obedient. I choose to cater to many kinds of fetishes which keeps me open to many kinds of slaves. Keeping my dome style new and fresh. The fact is, dominants do play into a subs needs in some regards which makes the Dominant work for the sub in a weird way. It’s a strange dichotomy in a D/s relationship. There is a fluctuation in the give and take needs department for both involved. It’s a fine line to balance as the Dominant, and ultimately that’s why there are usually safe words in place.

Obedience doesn’t happen overnight. Stay unique and find your own style of training subs. Develop that bond so you can take them to new heights during a session of pushing limits. Always keep finding new ways to enhance the power exchange roller coaster ride as you see fit. The world is only bad to some extent as perfection that does not exist. There is no one perfect or right way to train a sub. Stay open minded as all subs need to be trained differently and that’s the fun part. Learn about each new sub/slave about what makes them tick, while having your needs met primarily as well. Dominants are here to be a guiding force for their subs. This comes with great responsibility. Subs are longing for a dominant to understand them. Once a dominant can bring order out of the disorder in their mind, they can safely let go in sub space, where it hadn’t existed before. Being a strong and sensitive femdomme is not easy to perfect. I try to keep my heart soft and my grip firm. I do what feels right for each particular subs. Always dominate gracefully with confidence and pride. Be concerned for your subs well being and they will stay obedient.

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Know what is a reward or a punishment for your subs. For example, one subs’ reward of spanking can be another’s punishment. Don’t confuse your slave. Give the sub commands that will draw out the response you desire during session. If a slave of mine is handling more extreme play, I’ll give him more and this is what leads to amazing power play sessions and winning the loyalty of your slave. Making them obedient to your Domme style. During the training of my slaves/subs I myself am also learning how to keep them contented and obedient.

No matter what type of subs I’m training, I use a rewards and punishments system in order to modify a client’s behavior. It is necessary to know when to use the reward or punishment to get the desired response you want from your sub. If they mess up, it’s ok that they get punished and learn not to make that particular mistake again. Rewards come with good behavior such as a surprise gift I didn’t ask for. Knowing what is considered a reward or punishment for each individual is important in keeping them in line. One subs spanking enjoyment can be looked at as another’s punishment. Remember, mistakes are okay to be made on either party. Just learn from the in real life.

Domination training is a lot more like real life interactions than most people think. The only way a sub can learn how you want them to obey is for them to mess up, just as they would in their day to day life. I think people enjoy learning the hard way most of the time. If anything is too easily gotten, they don’t want it. My subs will mess up on purpose because they enjoy my “badcop” side. My subs are such masochists, and as pain becomes pleasure, they enjoy messing up and getting punished. As I get to know a sub’s psyche, I have a better understanding of how to train them. The more control is exerted over a sub, the more naturally they will resist. Thus, rewards and punishments are a must have component during short or long term obedience training. I enjoy a sub who likes to challenge me, and not always listening. A subs disorderly conduct makes it makes it more fun for me to dominate them.

My play is varied so I don’t get bored and neither does the sub. I don’t like being pigeonholed as one kind of Domme who only specializes in a couple of types of fetish play. Whatever term you use to describe me as a Dominant female, I always try to be unique and creative, in the way that I dominate. The sub becomes eager to submit to my control, addicted to fact that only I know how to control them. Putting them in what I like to call a custom “roller coaster sub space” ride. The power I have over them is what keeps them obedient to me. Always eager to get strapped into their roller coaster sub space ride”. All Dommes must try and get into the mind-set of their slave before going out to speak. Starting out at a slower pace in the beginning builds a stronger D/s connection or bond in the long run. Some clients like heavy handed extreme BDSM plays off the bat. It can be more exciting to have less limits but that comes with time. Ultimately, it really depends on how the sub is receiving my flow of energy that I’m shelling out. I feed off the subs energy and read their reactions like a doctor to see if they’re receiving it pleasurably or painfully. It’s important to know your sub well.

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