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  • How To Enjoy The GFE with Sensual Domination

    How To Enjoy The GFE with Sensual Domination

    Sex…It’s a natural thing …we all do it. It feels good and it should be nothing to be ashamed of. We are brought up with the belief of no sex, or best to not have sex before marriage or to be with one partner. But we are not all mentally capable or even wanting of this.

    And the taboo of sex work being naughty and dirty is also just another thing being influenced by society but how can something so natural and fun be thought in this way?

    We all have sex and we are all also a type of animal, so why should we be embarrassed of this natural urge and fun that we are born to do. The idea of chemical reactions creating a different feeling that is unique and enjoyable to us all individually which I find so beautiful and quietly addictive.

    Sex is a drug to me, a healthy fun drug I love to embrace and share and bring out more from others. Spreading sexual energy and helping each other increase it because it’s fun, beautiful and part of us all.

    How Popular Is The GFE?

    The GFE is very popular, I would say the most popular and sought after encounter.

    Clients really enjoy this type of meeting, as it feels “normal” to them, they can relax, chat and wind down. It is almost like having a real girlfriend, affectionate, fun, entertaining, but no headache or arguments haha for an hour, dinner date or overnight, without any commitments or expectations. And next time when we meet again, we can pick up exactly where we left from, very easy and pleasurable.

    Advantages Of Adding Kink To The GFE

    It is adventurous and healthy to see what is out there, to broaden your mind and experience new avenues. People get bored easily, so why not try something new? There are maybe only apples, pears and grapes in your garden and that is what you know. However if you step out you could see bananas, peaches, passion fruits, lychees, guava, watermelon and many more, so why not take a little taste, of some, or all of them to see whether they are to your taste, and you might be surprised.

    Sensual Domination For First Timers

    It is an enjoyable, painless, sensual and intriguing way to add something new and “ease” you into kink and allow you to decide whether it is something of your interest or not. Many people avoid anything Dom/BDSM related as they associate it with something scary, painful and dark, with loads of leather, whips, chains and ropes, but it does not always have to be like that (unless you are into it). For example, I use hand cuffs and leg cuffs which are soft and fluffy on the inside to make it fit comfortably. Sensual domination does not require a lot of space (no dungeon needed), a hotel or bedroom works just fine.

    Last Piece Of Advice…

    Just have an open mind and remember that things are always consensual.

    Anya Amasova – Your very own bond girl…I am Russian GFE and BDSM escort based in London, a parts from my adventures with gentlemen I enjoy fitness, art, music, wine and creating perfumes. I came to London to discover the big city and fell in love.

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    Love working in my favourite London city, although I am available internationally.

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  • Is The GFE Right For You?

    Is The GFE Right For You?

    Sex is something that I have always been very open minded about. It is really hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of monogamy. I do agree that sex is better when you have a connection with a person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have connections with multiple people. A connection doesn’t mean love. A connection is a mutual attraction.

    I believe you can love someone and have a connection with another person (or people) at the same time. As long as you are being safe, I do not see a reason that you shouldn’t be able to have as much sex, with as many partners as you please. Most people do not have the same views as me, which is why I will likely be single forever. Oh well…. who wants to bang? 🙂

    What Is The GFE?

    GFE stands for Girl Friend Experience. While this is a very common term among the sex worker community, its meaning can vary a little from provider to provider. Generally, it is a service that provides you time with a provider with whom you will feel is your girlfriend while with her. Contrary to most encounters with an escort, a GFE encounter will (likely) include cuddling, kissing, mutual pleasuring, conversation, and BBBJ (Bare Back Blow Job). While some believe GFE also includes BBFS (Bare Back Full Service), I believe this is unsafe, irresponsible, and foolish for any sex worker or client to engage in.

    Best Things About The GFE

    I enjoy the connections I make. Remember when I said I believe sex is best when you have a connection with a person? Being a GFE provider allows me to meet all kinds of people to develop connections with, which means I get to have all kinds of great sex! Mindless sex with someone I don’t have a connection with does not interest me much. Most men I see that are just looking for a hole to stick their dick in and nothing more are rarely repeat customers; I am not their ideal provider and they are not my ideal client.

    I get to know my clients very well sometimes on a very personal level. Some use me as a therapist and will talk to me about their work and even home problems. While I make it a rule that I never reach out to clients, I do know that I have such a relationship with some that I could count on them to help me if I were to ever ask, no matter what I would need. I also enjoy cuddling, which I get to indulge in being a GFE provider.

    Why The GFE Is Ideal For Men

    I would say that 90% of my clients are married. I believe that this is because most marriages lose that spark and lighthearted fun that began the relationship. As a GFE provider, I give men that easy going, fun, flirty vibe that they miss in their marriage. It isn’t that they don’t love their wife, they just aren’t getting the exciting and engaging conversation and sex that they crave. Seeing a GFE provider gives them those exciting feelings again without threatening their marriage. If they were to engage in these things with just a random woman from a bar or the internet they risk her being a crazy chick who might contact their wife or become clingy and then demand more from the relationship.

    With an escort, that is never a concern; but most escorts don’t provide the personal touch that a lot of men want in addition to the physical aspect. Seeing a GFE provider gives men a way to have a girlfriend without it being risky like an affair would be. For the single guys, it provides them with the girlfriend time and attention they want without having the fear of attachment. Also, some guys just don’t have time for a girlfriend but want to have the intimacy from time to time with someone they trust.

    Tips For Clients To Enjoy The GFE

    Do your research. Any legit professional is going to have lots of information about them on the internet and this holds true for escorts. They will have a website with photos, links to reviews, rates, and other information about them. You want to make sure it is someone you are attracted to and can feel comfortable with. Obviously, you won’t know how you will connect until you meet but you should be able to get a pretty good feel for them based on the content on their website as well as social media posts. Once you decide on who you would like to spend time with, contact them by way of call, text, email, or contact form on their website depending on their preference. Some will only communicate via phone call, while others prefer e-mail or text.

    Be prepared to hand over personal information. For safety purposes only, I do a screening on all new clients.

    Be respectful of your new temporary girlfriend’s time. Most clients do not ever get to see the behind the scenes work that high end escorts do. There’s bookkeeping (yes, I pay taxes), advertising, responding to inquiries, travel arrangements, personal beauty care, upkeep of website and social media pages, and a mountain of other time consuming tasks.

    Spoil a little for better service. My clients that send me items from my wishlist and/or tip well get special treatment. I will carry on text conversations and linger after paid time is up more with generous clients more so than with those who moan and groan about rates. If you send a wish list item at the time of your booking request I guarantee you will get bumped to the top of the list!

    Southern Jade – Southern Jade, 31, is an escort specializing in GFE, based out of Bismarck, ND. She has been a professional escort in the Bismarck area since April of 2017 but originally got her start while in college in Oklahoma. She is very passionate about her career and spends all of her time outside of her home life building her brand and running her business.

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  • True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    True Girlfriend Experience Benefits

    I believe sex can be one of the truest forms of self-expression. It’s an artwork painted and sung by our mind, body and soul. It can leave us completely exposed and vulnerable, but can allow some great introspection into our own uniqueness as individuals.

    My “sexual awakening”, as I like to call it, only began roughly two years ago. Its been an incredible journey! Not only have I rid myself of years of deeply internalized shame and body image issues, I have also discovered the incredible things my body can do. Sex and sex work have not only improved my self-esteem and confidence but have also broadened my mind to the ways it can heal and strengthen a person. It’s with that mind-set that I hope to share these experiences with others.

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    The Girlfriend Experience can mean many things to clients as well as providers. This can create some confusion as to what the Girlfriend Experience truly means.

    For myself, GFE is not about a certain set of services provided. But rather about creating a finely tuned and specific experience for each client I meet. This experience is intimate, much more than your average massage and happy ending. I like to get the chance to speak with each client before we meet. Common interests and some insight into someone’s personality allows me to provide a much more meaningful experience with each person. Sometimes these sessions will be more focused on light touches, teasing, cuddling and kissing. Other sessions might include specific outfits. The GND (Girl Next Door) look is very popular with clients looking for an authentic GFE.

    Why Is The GFE Powerful?

    I believe that the GFE can be a powerfully therapeutic and healing experience. Clients come to me for all sorts of reasons. They may not even know that the Girlfriend Experience was a service offered and have no idea that that is what they were looking for or needed in the first place. For example, I have met clients who suffer from anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues. The idea of finding a girlfriend may feel like a daunting if not impossible feat. In a session focused on GFE, I hope to build up a client’s confidence. Allow them to express themselves, their needs (sexual and emotional) and hopefully in time they can practice those skills outside the comfort zone of a session and into the world.

    For some clients, it can be as simple as accommodating a busy lifestyle. Some clients may not have the time to pursue a relationship or maintain a healthy relationship. They may lack intimacy and connection in their private lives, so that’s where I come in! I can be the girlfriend they need, whether for an hour or five, or maybe even a weekend away. No strings attached, but more than just a physical encounter.

    Misconceptions About The GFE

    Misconception should probably be my middle name!

    I hear a lot of providers and clients alike comment on how they believe GFE is unsafe. Many have the idea that a true GFE session allows for unprotected services. For myself, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I will always educate and advocate on safe sex, mutual consent and regular screening for STIs.

    Preparation For A GFE Session

    Like any session, I like to be in a good state of mind before meeting a client. I don’t want to bring my problems into that environment and allow it to transfer over to my clients.

    I like to “leave my problems at the door” so to speak.

    I feel that if I am mentally prepared before a session it allows me to be a better listener, to be more patient and understanding, and to empathize more in certain cases.

    Second and just as important, hygiene! With the intimacy and closeness involved in my sessions I like to be as clean as possible. I like light scents, no heavy perfumes. Fresh breath and clean outfits. This obviously goes both ways. I very much appreciate a client who has been just as considerate in their grooming as I have. I will always offer to shower with my clients as well. Not only is it an enjoyable way to be close and allow for some fun exploration of each other’s bodies, but that extra fresh feeling is always pleasant as well. If you scrub my back, I’ll gladly scrub yours!

    Cassie King – A MA working out of Paradise Spa/Angel’s Touch in Ottawa, ON Canada. She is a full-time student, avid reader and closet nerd. In her spare time, she enjoys meeting new dogs everywhere she goes, practicing dad-jokes and drinking too much coffee.

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  • What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    My sexual self is a big component of my identity, and one that I love to indulge in. Sex for me can be a means of receiving intimacy and comfort, a form of release and stress-relief, or simply a fun way to pass the time. My work is an extension of my sexual identity, and one that satisfies me on a number of levels. Of course, in a work context I am catering to whatever purpose sex serves for my clients, whether that’s one of learning and experimentation, of overcoming fears and insecurities, or of receiving touch and human-connection. But I think that there’s a general misconception that sex is always special or significant and ends (or should end) in a raging orgasm. There needs to be more of an acknowledgment that sex is never always or even ever this for some people, but that open communication and great consent practices are vital if we wish to strive towards positive sexual experiences for everyone.

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    The girlfriend experience centres on intimacy, and I think a major tenant is ‘authenticity’. Clients want to know that you’re enjoying yourself just as much as they are, that you’re not there just for the money, and that you truly care about them in that moment. My GFE includes deep French kissing and mutual oral – most of my clients adore giving head and will do so for most of the session. My body is very sexually responsive and this enables my clients to experience the interaction as a mutually pleasurable experience, which certainly isn’t a necessity for me to enjoy a session but is something that my clients value. They love to know they have made me come. My sessions also commonly include extended make-outs and cuddling, and my clients often share personal feelings, insecurities and other concerns, especially related to their sex life and relationships.

    Popularity of The GFE

    The GFE is very popular because people want and need intimacy and human connection. I don’t wish to construct or support a hierarchy that puts the provision of intimacy above the provision of sex, but I think that the act of sex is perhaps more accessible to clients (through sex work or other means) than access to intimacy, making an ‘authentic’ intimate service one that is highly valued. Sometimes it has been a long time since my client has felt sexually valued or capable, or they haven’t ever had an opportunity to express what they want and take their time without the anxiety of performing for an expectant lover. The GFE can be a safe container in which people can be vulnerable in this and even work through their hang-ups.

    GFE Rules

    There is a fine line between fantasy and reality, and I think GFE (or at least the way I approach it) blurs this line. Connecting with a person is connecting with a person, but it is important for clients to understand that it is still a service, and that our relationship exists within the confines of the session for which I have been paid. Other workers might construct a clear distinction between a GFE and PSE (porn star experience) service, but although I would describe my service as exclusively GFE it also includes tenants of a PSE should my client desire it. Often my clients and I have very energetic sex, with multiple positions including those that are less face-to-face, body-to-body intimate (for example, doggy style). For this reason I sometimes describe my service as a ‘sexy’ or ‘dirty’ girlfriend experience to flag that this kind of sex is also on offer. I don’t offer anal penetration or natural services, but these are personal boundaries that do not only apply to my GFE but to all of my service-styles and sessions.

    Preparing For An Intimate Experience

    I experience the time spent with my clients as a container in which everything in my personal life falls away. This is important to ensure I am in the moment and can truly devote my focus towards my client and the sexual experience at hand. If I am very stressed or sexually exhausted this becomes more difficult, but that comes down to self care and whether I am managing my own emotional and physical needs in a personal context. I need to cultivate my own mental health and gather my ‘spoons’ in order to be able to give in the capacity that I do with my clients, as it takes a lot to be so sexually and emotionally vulnerable with people who are essentially (or at least begin as) strangers.

    Marina Lee is Melbourne’s most authentic escort experience, porn performer and sexual politics geek. She has a penchant for hair, hedonism and kink, and adores connecting with new people.

    Stay up-to-date with Marina’s session availability, porn scenes and general antics by visiting her website www.escortmarinalee.com or following her on twitter at www.twitter.com/MarinaLeeX.

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