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  • What To Know About Spanking (aka Domestic Discipline) & Corporal Punishment

    What To Know About Spanking (aka Domestic Discipline) & Corporal Punishment

    Although I was a late bloomer to kink (began kink at 34), I’ve been a fully submerged lifestyler since finding the scene in 2006. I loved it so much, I began doing this professionally soon after. Although I’m a Professional Top, I am a lifestyle switch, a heavy masochistic bottom hides underneath the strict Lady Dom persona. I love everything about the kink lifestyle, the protocols, the structure, the sensations and most of all, the connection with others of like mind.  

    What Is Corporal Punishment?

    Corporal punishment refers to the more traditional ways of punishing a human being. Spanking, paddling, strapping, caning and in some cases, whipping to inflict pain after a misdeed or misbehavior is committed.

    In some advanced cases, corporal punishment can refer to psychological punishment as well, or The Mindfuck. I like to explore both with advanced players.

    Why I Love Corporal Punishment

    I’ve been fascinated by punishment, torture and rites of passage since I was a kid. Ordeals and trials, ways to earn maturity and respect from others, pushing our bodies to the absolute brink of what we can take in order to meet a goal, achieve a higher calling or elevate ones lot in life was huge for me, and I’ve been pushing myself in ways since childhood. CP illustrates just how resilient the human body is, and how we can always learn if presented with motivation strong enough.

    How Spanking Fits Into Corporal Punishment

    Spanking, otherwise known as Domestic Discipline, is the more family and academic oriented types of punishment. OTK (over the knee) is called the Mother’s Position in French, and it belies a nurturing type of, “I don’t want to do this but it’s for your own good” type of authority figure.

    Corporal punishment on the other hand, is decidedly more adult and refers to a cold judicial type of attitude on the part of the punisher. CP is more popular with criminal and interrogation types of emotionless scenes.

    Correct Techniques To Spank

    There are many techniques people use to spank, and there is really no right way or wrong way for people to spank with their hands as long as it works for them. What makes a spanking “wrong” is hitting the wrong area or target. You don’t wish to “wrap” around with hand or implement, and you don’t want to spank too high above the butt crack, or too low on the thighs. Keeping things to the apples of the cheeks, or the sit spot (the crease where butt meets thigh) is always good form.

    I love to give a good hand spanking, but my favorite tools are longer ones, like canes and straps. I prefer the challenge it takes to wield a whip over shorter range toys like hairbrushes or wooden spoons.

    What You Should Know Before Being Spanked

    Your top should discuss with you what you’re looking for, because there are so many different ways to spank, you might not be referring to the same thing when you say “I want to be spanked”. Most spankings hurt at some level, and most people expect them to hurt, although there are non-traditional types of spankings that don’t involve pain.

    Start out slowly, with a hand spanking over your underwear. Get comfortable with your top and the sensation before trying implements or positions. Focus on what it feels like at first, don’t rush into an elaborate role play and get overwhelmed. Respond naturally, don’t try and hold things back, your voice and body language is being read by your top to assess where you are at.

    Have fun, above all else. 😀

    Miss Chris – An independent Professional Disciplinarian based out of Phoenix, AZ. She specializes in spanking, domestic discipline, corporal punishment and role play scenarios. She is also a Certified Life Coach (“Kink eCoach”), BnB Hostess, Spank University Party Group Founder and Spankademy Headmistress.

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  • How To Explore Corporal Punishment

    How To Explore Corporal Punishment

    BDSM is a way to explore the things that excite, frighten, or captivate us, in a safe, controlled setting. I think “kink” can be defined as any non-conventional sexual practice, which is, of course, extremely subjective.

    Kink expands our perception of eroticism, from something that’s genital focused and orgasm driven, to something that’s more inclusive of our entire bodies and minds. 

    What Is Corporal Punishment?

    It’s simply physical, bodily punishment: the consensual administration of pain. I’d say it’s quite popular, though the severity that a person enjoys varies widely. There is a misconception that corporal is always severe, and most people who tell me they’re “not into it” are actually just not into extreme pain.

    I would say nearly all of my subs enjoy some degree of corporal punishment, whether that means that they enjoy the endorphins of heavier punishment, or they just enjoy the submissive, humiliating aspect of something like an over-the-knee spanking. I’d still call that corporal!

    Why Do People Love Corporal Punishments?

    Pain can release endorphins, the neurochemicals that act on our opiate receptors to give us a natural, exhilarating “high.” I would say the endorphin rush is the simplest reason people crave corporal, though some other factors can compound this. For example, giving someone consent to hurt you can feel very submissive and intimate—you’re at their mercy, which requires a deep trust.

    Corporal can also be part of a role play. Some people even fetishize the object they’re being punished with, like the canes, crops, or paddles themselves. The image of a dominatrix holding a whip is iconic—that in itself can be exciting to a sub. And then many people feel a thrill at suffering through something, pushing themselves, forcing themselves to endure. It’s a test, a challenge that can lead to a feeling of accomplishment.

    Common Rules In Corporal Punishment

    It’s important to know where is safe to hit a person. Butts are popular, of course—they’re thick and meaty, with no delicate bones that you could injure. There are charts available online that show the safest places to hit someone.

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    Always start with a warm up. Hitting someone lightly at first will start to trigger endorphins so that by the time you’re hitting them hard, they’ll have an easier time and feel more pleasure and excitement. I personally like to begin striking someone with hands before I get to implements; hands feel more sensual and less scary, so they help build trust and relax my partner before we get into heavier equipment. Don’t use equipment you’re not comfortable with—whips especially can feel unwieldy and be dangerous if you’re not experienced.

    Safe words are important, of course, though it’s very rare in my scenes that someone uses them. I rely a lot on intuition and reading the person’s breathing and body language. Trust is also very important. The Bottom must have trust in the Top, obviously, but a Top should also know they can trust the Bottom to vocalize their limits and do their own part in keeping their self safe.

    Typical Corporate Punishment Session With Subs

    Every scene is different, but I typically like to begin with some non-painful sensation play to help the Bottom get present in their body and sensitive to my touch. Most people are quite nervous when they step into a dungeon, especially if it’s our first time playing together, so I like to relax them and get them into a sort of subspace before anything too intense happens.

    Sensation play can include feathers, pinwheels, vampire gloves, or just running my hands lightly all over their body. I will then usually move on to spanking or light flogging—something to get their attention without causing any real pain yet. Florentine flogging is one of my favorite things for this stage. It’s typically quite light and rhythmic, and gets the person accustomed to being hit without being hurt—like a sort of kinky massage. This style of flogging with light, leather floggers can give your sub a taste for what corporal can feel like, without actually causing pain or any marks.

    I often do corporal scenes with someone tied to a St. Andrew’s cross, and sometimes blindfolded as well, to take away all visual stimulation and draw their attention to sounds and physical sensations. I tend to do somewhat frequent verbal check-ins, particularly when it’s someone I haven’t played with much before. When a Bottom has a consensual non-consent fantasy, I have to be even more careful—since checking in verbally would kill the illusion of non-consent, it becomes even more vital that I’m sensitive to their breathing, reactions, and other bodily cues. It becomes tricky to care for a person while indulging in their fantasy that you don’t care at all, but I enjoy the challenge of finding different ways to subtly make sure they’re okay and engaged in the scene. I’ll up the intensity at times, bring it down, increase it again, and so on. This is really pleasurable for me and feels like I’m creating art in the person’s experience.

    My personal style is more seductive and sensual than purely strict, so I like to tease my sub in between hurting them. It’s fun to get someone to a point where they’re not sure if they’re more turned on or tortured.

    Safety Precautions To Follow

    Yes! Safewords should certainly be discussed, especially if either player is new to kink, or if they haven’t played much together. As I mentioned before, it’s vital that you know what parts of a person’s body are safe to hit. Not all equipment is as easy to use as you might think, so please don’t take an implement you’re unfamiliar with and go straight to another person’s body with it. I think whips can be the most difficult piece of equipment to get proficient with. If someone craves the sharp, localized sting of a whip or cane but you’re not comfortable using these yet, try starting with a crop instead. It’s much easier to control.

    A dragon tail whip is another alternative to the classic single tail. The sensation is less intense, and an inexperienced whipper will find a dragon tail is easier to use with precision. Whatever implement you use, I always recommend warming someone up thoroughly so you can get a sense for your power versus their pain tolerance, as well as triggering those endorphins I mentioned earlier.

    If you have someone tied up during corporal, make sure you know some basics of bondage—for example, it can be dangerous to have someone tied to a Saint Andrew’s cross with their arms above their head for too long. I have had two Bottoms faint from this, so now I’m very careful with how long I’ll keep someone in this position. When I do use this position, I’ll do it early in a scene when a person is fresh and not too tired. When a scene gets intense and you have your partner deeply in subspace, they might not even realize that they’re starting to get tired, thirsty, or need some sort of break.

    Make sure you watch out for them—that’s part of the Top’s role. It can also be good to have someone tied up on a bench, bent over with their butt towards you. I find this position can be easier for hitting your target, and you’re not in as much danger of accidentally hitting their spine, neck, or head.

    If your sub enjoys face slapping, there’s a proper technique to this. I always lay my palm gently across their face first, then take a quick slap landing exactly where my palm had been. Face slapping improperly can really injure someone, so think of it as more of a humiliation tactic than a way to hurt them.

    Lastly, rubbing arnica gel into skin can help with bruising.

    How Can I Explore Corporal Punishment?

    For beginning equipment, I would say light floggers, a paddle, and a crop are all easy implements to get started with. Go slow and have fun. Unfortunately, a lot of new kinksters seem to believe that more and harder equals better. Being too aggressive doesn’t make you a better or more authentic dominant. Kink should be a positive force in our lives, whether that means it’s fulfilling, exciting, challenging, or just pleasurable. Express genuine care and respect for the people you play with, and look at every scene as a collaboration between the two of you.

    To learn more, I would recommend taking an in-person class, or hiring a professional dominatrix to give you a private lesson. Books are fine, but when your canvas is another person’s body, nothing beats in-person instruction.

    Mistress Lux is a professional dominatrix. Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, she travels internationally with her subs in pursuit of all things fun and freaky. She has been a professional kinkster for over a decade, and specializes in bondage, corporal, tease and denial, and all sorts of gender play. 

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  • Why does spanking and corporal punishment turn people on?

    Why does spanking and corporal punishment turn people on?

    For spanking enthusiasts, even the mention of the ‘S’ word can trigger switches in the libido. Spanking fetishes go hanOTK_001 - Ad in hand with active imaginations and as an artist, I believe that art is one of the most potent sparks to human imagination. Put art and spanking into the same mix, and pow! It’s an ideal coupling, and spanking/corporal punishment artwork abounds in huge volumes, as even a casual search of Tumblr will demonstrate.

    Why is there such a proliferation of spanking and C/P art out there? I suppose the question should really be—what is it about spanking and ritualized corporal punishment that appeals to some people on a sexual level? And I don’t believe that has a simple answer. It is often not a purely masochistic impulse. The pain is essential, since without it, there is no incentive for the anticipatory suspense, the adrenaline rush of fear, or the release of endorphins as a countermeasure. For some, it is the thrill of finding pleasure in acts which are not meant to be pleasurable, a sort of forbidden fruit; for others, it may be a role reversal that helps offset power hierarchies we are forced to deal with in everyday life; for some, it is a release of the inner child; still others just enjoy the jolt that a smack on the buttocks sends through the body’s nervous system directly to the genitalia. (studies have actually been made that prove this to be true).

    I am not a psychologist and won’t pretend to sound like one. There are plenty of qualified opinions out there worth more than mine. Yet, in spite of clinical analysis, there remains a strong air of mystery over the appeal of spanking, and the many varied role-playing scenarios that surround it. Mystery itself has an irresistible and universal appeal, and the most enduring mysteries are those which invite exploration, but forever elude exacting, scientific conclusions. Spanking and C/P meet those criteria like a glove.

    As an artist, that makes the subject irresistible – not just as an exploration into human sexual psychology, but on a lol2012 - Apersonal level as one with a lifelong fascination for spanking. Illustrating the fantasies that a spanking fetish evokes is both a challenge and a cathartic release. I enjoy attempting to capture a particular moment, or suggest a story with a single image. It might be the husband who came home drunk at 3 am to find his wife waiting with a hairbrush in hand, or a still defiant spankee being sent to fetch a more formidable weapon, or a young lady who planted a Playboy magazine in her brother’s room so she could spy on Mom spanking him for it. To be sincere about art, I think one ought only do what appeals to oneself, and not attempt to cater to the viewer. Those of a similar mindset will respond, and the heck with the rest.

    That is why I only illustrate female dominant situations. Male dominant scenarios are far more popular, and I could reach a much broader audience through that approach, but reaching that wide audience is not why I do art. I would rather engage with a smaller, kindred audience. Whether it’s an angry 1950’s housewife, an outraged babysitter, a stern teacher, a professional disciplinarian, or a vixenish girlfriend, those are the iconic female images that never cease to awe, and perpetually wield sovereign power over whatever corner of the male psyche that resists the inevitable progress of ageing. Illustrating boyhood fantasies about womanly laps and deliciously stinging backsides keeps the inner child alive and the imagination active and healthy.

    Nobody has ever said it better than Jean-Luc Godard:

    “Art attracts us only by what it reveals about our most secret self.”

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  • Corporal Punishment Part II | Are You Ready For Pain?

    Corporal Punishment Part II | Are You Ready For Pain?

    “What is corporal punishment?

    Read Part I here if you haven’t done (http://simplysxy.com/articles/2014/12/18/corporal-punishment-are-you-ready-for-pain/)

    The majority of my discipline and CP sessions are punishments for real life misdemeanours from men who feel they need to be disciplined or punished for bad behaviour (past or present). They genuinely do not like being punished but feel they need to be! For many, there is no sexual element to the sessions. Some men need motivational spankings to adjust their mindset and keep them focused and on track. I offer life coaching style sessions with spankings to motivate and encourage my clients to fulfil their goals. As such, I often refer to myself as an “alternative therapist” For some, it’s a great stress relief and enables them to let go of all that tension that’s built up over time more of a cathartic session: being spanked helps them to open up, let go and move on. For others, it’s purely a fantasy/sexual kink that needs fulfilling and that’s where I come in recreating a role play session for them to satisfy their kink. I do not however, offer any forms of sexual activities during sessions! Purely punishments and discipline only!

    Most of my sessions are of a domestic discipline style rather than dungeon/mistress/slave set up — you tend to find more dungeons and slaves with more of the BDSM route. Some of my clients are submissive & consider themselves to be submissive while others are not. I call these bottoms rather than subs as they are dominant by nature but require spankings.  Some people are switches and this means they switch between dominant and submissive roles. I am always the dominant role or the top as it is sometimes referred to. I never switch!

    No two sessions are the same—the way you interact with a client is always different based on their personalities and preferences. The better you click with someone and get to know them, the better your session will be. There are several things you have to discuss and consider with each client or “bottom” or “sub” such as how experienced they are, their individual limits, whether they can be marked or not after a session; if not, a hard caning is most definitely out! Making your sub or bottom feel at ease is very important too. Communication and understanding is also vital in this kind of relationship! They need to trust you, otherwise it just won’t work.

    I’m very approachable and good at making my clients feel relaxed and listen to their requirements. The more relaxed your client is, the better the session will be. I understand they can be very nervous about coming to a session especially for the first time, but I quite like quivering bottoms though. Hehe. I’m not one dimensional and treat each client as an individual and tailor the session to their needs within my boundaries. I have strict criteria to meet and won’t conduct a session with just anyone.

    A safe word is often used, especially when role playing. If someone uses the safe word, you stop straightaway and discuss why they needed to stop. A safe word can be used for physical and psychological play as they can both be very intense! My favourite type of sessions are the discipline and punishment sessions where I get to choose the punishment for my bottoms “crime” and have free reign on which implements I use.

    I love caning! There is something most satisfying about it and it is a great stress relief too! It’s most feared of all the implements! There’s something really invigorating and empowering about caning and punishing a grown man, shrinking his ego and putting him in his place! Having nothing less than his FULL attention and making him see sense and the error of his ways. Seeing them turn to jelly when you reach for the cane and tell them very calmly and coolly to bend over as they are about to receive 6 of the best! I rarely shout and find it more intimidating to remain composed. After all, losing your temper and shouting is a loss of control and a mistress is always in control and one step ahead! I think a lot of men (and women) love giving up their control too and letting the mistress (top) take complete control especially if they are used to always being in control in everyday situations.

    I love role play and dressing up too! Strict matron/nurse, no nonsense boss, stern headmistress, severe PVC clad dominatrix, angry wife or girlfriend or harsh military officer! I have authentic uniforms for each scenario too! Over the knee spanking is another favourite of mine. I start many discipline sessions in this way — it’s very humbling & humiliating to be placed over the lap of a mistress and then have your bottom spanked until it’s glowing red and told you are a very naughty boy and going to be taught a lesson!

    I always know when someone is lying to me too and woe betide anyone who lies! I find it thoroughly disrespectful and ultimately my role is a disciplinarian is to ensure respect, manners, discipline and high standard among men (and occasionally women!) at all times. There is never an excuse for poor behaviour! However, I am always firm but fair! And like to keep things light-hearted and have fun with my sessions also even though my standards remain very high and punishments: hard and strict and very real!

    I enjoy CP because it’s quite a buzz having so much power and control over someone— men can be quite frustrating too at times so it’s nice to release that annoyance on their bottoms and feel completely de-stressed afterwards. It’s also very amusing too. As serious as it is, men do look rather silly with their pants around their ankles presenting their bottom to be whacked! You can’t miss the funny side in that too! On a serious note, I think men tend to respond very well to CP and it’s quite simple to them—no misunderstanding, it quickly affirms things in their minds rather than a complex discussions of feelings and emotions where they tend to switch off after 2 minutes and want to run away. A short sharp punishment works wonders for both parties involved. You get to release your stress too. However, I never think it’s a good idea to use CP on someone when you’re really angry though. You need to be in control of the situation and not lose your temper because you may overstep the mark or cause some real damage and that’s not what this is about! It’s not about physically or mentally harming someone. It’s not about aggression or bullying. It’s a fun, alternative way to enhance relationships.

    I hope this has given you a little insight into the world of CP!

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  • Corporal Punishment Part I | Are You Ready For Pain?

    Corporal Punishment Part I | Are You Ready For Pain?

    “What is corporal punishment?

    In short, it’s a physical punishment typically involving spanking by hand or with various implements including caning and whipping.

    But what is it really all about? Want to know more? Then carry on reading!

    CP (corporal punishment) and BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) is quite a talking point in the media at the moment what with books such as 50 Shades of Grey. And even more recently, the new laws that have taken effect in the UK regarding the production of BDSM pornography. Although it is a very popular part of many people’s private lives as well as careers too for some – it’s still quite a taboo subject which may cause a few eyebrows to raise, although Christian Grey has helped in opening the doors of interest much wider recently. It is still in my opinion, very much misunderstood by people!

    BDSM is slightly different to CP, although there can be an element of BDSM to CP and vice versa— it all depends on the reasoning and mindset of the person involved. But to me and many others, CP is very traditional, very old school if you like and very domesticated rather than dungeon orientated; the stereotypical point of view assumes it’s all the same in the instances of leather, whips, chains, bondage, kinky sex and dungeons. You couldn’t be further from the truth once you scratch beneath that surface and start to explore this world and all it has to offer. This article is going to focus on traditional CP.

    Firstly, let me tell you a little bit about myself. I’m a 35 year old experienced, professional English mistress/disciplinarian and fetish model. I’ve been working in the fetish industry for the past 15 years and working as a professional mistress for the last 6. It’s an area of life I find fascinating and interesting for many reasons! More on the psychology behind it all rather than the physical side and it certainly beats regular 9-5 hours (no pun intended haha). I have written the following article based on my own opinions and experiences to date. I’m always learning and developing my expertise and knowledge in this field.

    My first experiences of CP was as a young child! I grew up in South Africa and went to a private Catholic school and CP was never far away for anyone who misbehaved! I was always very well-behaved as having seen others being disciplined was quite a terrifying experience and not something I wished to receive, but witnessing pupils being disciplined was quite a regular occurrence — the school was very strict and particular when it came to manners, respect and having good morals. It was also full of life and fun and had very clear defined boundaries and pretty simple: cross the boundaries you’ll be punished and they’d come down very hard on you. I think my experiences from an early age have gone some way to shaping my mistress persona.

    After returning to England in the early 90’s, it was quite some years later that I stumbled across CP whilst working as a full time model in my 20’s. There’s a lot more to CP than merrily whacking someone’s bottom—it’s much deeper than that! There’s a huge psychological aspect to it too as well as safe techniques, trust, respect and of course, any punishments being consensual! Not all punishments are physical for they can be verbal scolding or even tasks such as writing lines, exclusion or a mixture of the above. For some, CP along with BDSM is used to spice things up in the bedroom. My experiences as a professional mistress differ slightly to what you might find within a personal relationship!

    Read on to find out Miss Dawn Superior’s favourite type of Corporal Punishments in Part 2 here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2014/12/18/corporal-punishment-part-ii-are-you-ready-for-pain/

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