Tag: Chaturbate

  • How To Have Sex On Cam

    How To Have Sex On Cam

    Sex is so fascinating to me. There are so many ways to experience sex and sexuality, and sometimes I feel like I haven’t even scratched the surface. My name’s Demi and I’m a transgender webcam model, adult actress, and electronic music producer from the midwest. I’ve been in sex work for about a year now, and I love it! I used to be very uncomfortable with my sexuality and for that reason I thought I just didn’t like sex. But if there’s one thing I learned from my experience making porn, it’s that there are so many ways to have sex and achieve sexual gratification, and it’s different for everyone!

    If there’s one thing I could achieve with my content and my platform, it’s to help people explore and question what it means to be a sexual being and think differently about gender constructs and expression. I’m not quite sure how fucking my ass on the internet will do that just yet, but I’m getting there!

    Why I Love Having Sex On Cam

    Honestly, it’s the community! I’ve met some really amazing people in my chat and I look forward to seeing them everyday!  Of course it’s super hot to know that hundreds of people are getting off to you, but it’s the people you meet jerking off along the way that last a lifetime. I have also started making content and camming regularly with Lily Demure (@LilyDemure on Twitter) and that’s been an amazing experience! I’ve never had anyone to make content with before, so it’s been great working with her. We have a lot of things in the works right now, so stay tuned for that!

    Demi The Human and Lily Demure

    Equipment Essentials For A Good Camming Experience

    The best thing about getting into cam modeling is if you have a webcam and an internet connection, you’re good to go! You don’t need fancy equipment to make your stream look good. Just try to follow some basic rules of shot composition and you’ll look great!

    For example, make sure your shot is well-lit. I’m not talking big Hollywood studio lights. At the very least, don’t make it look like you’re streaming from a hole in the ground.  I recommend setting up your cam in front of a window. That soft, natural lighting is perfect for porn! I used to just gather all the lamps I could find in my apartment and put them all around my room and honestly, it didn’t look bad!

    Next is audio. It’s usually the last thing people think about, but it really makes a difference. With a medium like streaming, the conversation aspect is a big part of the experience and a decent microphone (or anything better that your built-in laptop mic) will really add a more professional feel to your stream. I also like to play music while I cam. It’s a great way to add your own personal flair to your show and help deal with boredom on a slow day.

    But even if you have the best, most expensive equipment, if you’re a bag of potatoes on cam, you’re just going to be a well-lit bag of potatoes. Your personality and presence is really what will shine through, no matter your budget!

    Pros & Cons About Camming

    For me, webcam modeling offers me so much freedom, both financially and personally. In our current society where it’s often very difficult for trans people to find jobs, let alone move up in a workplace; I, a trans woman,  am now an independent business owner who has the ability to grow my brand, take time off when I want, and make money doing something I love. I feel privileged to be able to do what I do. I’ve grown and learned so much about myself, my sexuality, and met so many great people along the way.

    As much as I love it, there are definitely downsides. If you’ve been on the internet lately, you’re probably aware that a lot of people suck. I’ve dealt with my fair share of transphobia, misogyny and hate in my chat, and for the most part I just block and brush it off, but I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t get to me sometimes. It’s easy to get sucked in a black hole, especially when your job consists of sitting in your room for hours on end. It’s really important to take time to focus on your mental health and take breaks when you need to. That being said, the trolls are a very slim minority, and the majority of my streams are very positive.

    Advice For Beginners

    Live streaming is such a new and exciting technology, and I recommend taking advantage of the medium to its fullest! Anyone can look up porn video and get off in a few minutes, but the beauty of streaming is the personal interaction aspect. The majority of my show is simply talking with my audience and joking around, not because I’m getting filthy rich off of it, but because I have fun doing it! And if you’re having fun, being yourself, and doing your stream how you want to, it will leave more of a lasting impact.


    Demi The Human – Demi The Human is a transgender cam-model, adult actress, independent porn producer and musician from the midwest. She streams regularly on Chaturbate, has content up for sale on Manyvids and produces electronic music under her alias, Floraviolet.

    Follow Demi The Human on

    Twitter: www.twitter.com/demi_thehuman

    Chaturbate: www.chaturbate.com/demithehuman

    ManyVids: www.demithehuman.manyvids.com

    Music: www.floraviolet.bandcamp.com


    Images courtesy of Demi The Human

    Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

  • The Life Of A Camgirl

    The Life Of A Camgirl

    Hey there! I’m Bambi, a 19 year old CamGirl living in the U.S.A. I have been camming for almost a year now and it has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I grew up in a small town and later a small city in the NW United States. I love to read, garden, and listen to “old” music (my favorite musician of all time is David Bowie, seriously, I have an obsession). I played the clarinet semi-professionally in a junior symphony as a young adult, overall I have played the clarinet for almost 10 years now. I have also spent time as a costume designer at my local college theater and held a good amount of “vanilla” jobs in my short life time. I live in an apartment in a quirky part of town with my two cats, and future husband.

    Bambi3

    My personal views and experiences toward sex were fairly negative growing up. My family was extremely conservative as most families are in my area. They never gave me any details about what sex was when I was growing up, except that it was forbidden until marriage. Any LGBT sexualities were shunned or just flat out ignored and my discomfort toward anything intimate was extreme for most of my life. When I turned 16, I became very aware of my pan-sexuality, unfortunately this came about as my parents were divorcing. Normally their reaction would have been to ignore the problem, but with the added stress my mother lashed out telling me to “just be normal.” Luckily being the person I am, I ignored her completely.

    No one not even my mother will stand in the way of me being the person that I am. I love my family but this was the time I started to experiment with the idea of sexuality even though it was against their wishes. I do not regret this, in fact I am thankful I didn’t just listen to my mother, I have become the person I have always strived to be because of it. Even now I struggle with the ideas that were pushed on me as a kid, but camming has helped me break through so many of those barriers. I have become a healthier more accepting person by embracing my sexuality and those of everyone around me.

    How I Started Camming

    I hated my vanilla job as a cashier with every bone in my body. It payed me next to nothing, even though I was working my ass off. My boyfriend who had experience in the porn industry and recently come across a few camming websites while we were looking into some exhibitionist options, was the first to expose me to the camming world. After watching a few rooms over the next few weeks, he suggested that I might try it out, knowing how much I hated my dead end job. I immediately shot down the idea, stating that I was far too plain and boring for such a thing. He continued to show me examples of the type of people who cam (literally anyone), and I started to warm up to the idea a bit. Finally after much debate and research I decided that I would try it out, even if I made the same as my minimum wage job (which wouldn’t be much of an accomplishment), I would at least be working from home.

    Bambi's CB profile copy

    The first night was nerve wracking, I nervously arranged our bedroom and applied makeup while Mr. Bambi set up the computer. We had made a run to a local sex shop earlier in the evening to get my very first sex toy, a little red vibrator and some lube. I had never even been in a sex shop before so it was fun to see all the gadgets and gizmos that were on the market. I had chosen our favorite cam site to visit, Chaturbate, to broadcast on that night. Nervously I turned on my crappy little webcam on my laptop and finally started up. Nothing really happened at first but then a flood of people entered my room, I was overwhelmed but definitely enjoying the attention and friendly welcome I received. I immediately made a friend who modded for me for months after my first night and made a little over $100 in 5 hours. I was floored. Not only had the money come in, but it had been SO fun! I had enjoyed every moment of it! The next night I met my Mod that I still have today who goes by RubyRodd, he is a good friend and has been with me every step of the way.

    Which Cam Site To Join?

    I ended up choosing the one I most liked to watch. Chaturbate had been the first cam site I came across and ended up being the one I stuck with. I enjoy the layout which is one of the cleanest I have found, I also enjoy that you can interact with everyone even if they don’t tip. Chaturbate also has some of my favorite models and has relatively steady traffic. I have broadcasted on CAM4 a few times but I don’t really like it as much as CB which generally has a friendlier community in my experience.

    Bambi1 copy

    What To Do Inside Chaturbate?

    Chatting with me and trying to get to know me goes a long way! Also abiding by my rules that are included in my biography below my cam is a very important aspect to enjoying my room. I really appreciate when people are polite and just try to enjoy my company as well as that of my regulars. We have a lot of fun in my room both sexually and just in general! I love to talk about music/movies/books or anything that might spark conversation. Also tipping when you can is lovely, since this is my job and like everyone else I must pay the bills. Tipping in my room is always rewarded and I try to make it as worth while as possible.

    How I Make Money

    I make the most by doing private shows and from my regulars who love to spoil me with their love for which I spoil them back. Overall I just goof around and try to bring in viewers by chatting and posing in a way that shows off my best assets (hehe ASSets). The more people in the room that I can connect with the more chance I have of having a good night financially. Although to be honest it isn’t all about the money for me, I am more focused on enjoying my time on cam rather than how much I make, that is what makes it all worth it for me.

    2
    Bambi’s Office

    Likes And Dislikes About Camming

    What I love about camming is the diversity and honesty that is displayed in the community. Any type of person can be a cam model if they are willing to work for it. We are all fairly honest about what we do and do not like and you experience the most intimate part of peoples lives. It is very nonjudgmental and I really enjoy that. I also like how my guests in my room expose me to new things, I have discovered so much about my sexuality this way. The friendships that I have formed are also a big part of what I love about this job, I have met some really amazing people in the last 9-10 months of my time in camming. The potential of growth is also really intriguing, you can expand your “business” in so many ways, from selling videos and pictures to writing and selling erotic stories. Some cam models even vlog on Youtube. So overall I really, really enjoy being a cam model.

    The few things I don’t enjoy about camming can be challenging. Society’s outlook on my profession is typically incorrect and riddled with assumptions. So often I can’t tell people what I really do for work due to the fear of them rejecting me completely. My family doesn’t really know what I do for a living, currently they think I am a telemarketer at a local building in my area. I am always wondering what would go on if they found out. I fear they will not understand and shun me from their lives, and even though I know that they very well might I still want to be around them. They are my family of course. So even with the downsides of this job I still enjoy it more than anything I have ever done for work or even as a hobby.

    Bambi's Toys
    Bambi’s Toys

    Common Misconceptions About Camgirls

    Common misconceptions people have about CamGirls are that:

    1.We make easy money

    2.That we are “selling ourselves” and,

    3.We lack the intelligence/skills to get a “normal” job.

    Honestly these assumptions hurt, and are very untrue. Making money as a CamGirl is very challenging, just like any competitive field we have to constantly be thinking of something to draw people in. I have days that I make a surprising amount and others I make less than $20 which can be pretty disappointing. This is especially true when I know I have bills to pay, just like everyone else.

    Secondly we aren’t “selling ourselves” I hate that phrase, we are merely sharing our sexuality with others while we also benefit from it socially, sexually and financially. We make another person’s day better by also making ourselves feel good, so how is that a negative thing? Those who do not want to be there may better fit that phrase but for serious CamGirls who enjoy their job nothing could be further from the truth. One of my fans even described my job title as “Online Fantasy Engineer”. I make their fantasy’s come true in ways they might not experience in reality.

    The most disappointing misconception I have come across is that we lack the intelligence/skills to get a “normal” job. I have held many “normal” jobs successfully and enjoyed none of them. During the time I have been employed in these jobs I have been very unhappy, which should not be what you look for in your career especially if it is long term. So in my personal opinion I prefer camming to “normal” jobs and I understand that some people may not share that opinion. I started college 2 years early and preformed classical music semi-professionally when I was younger, which I don’t find to be a indicator of lack of intelligence. Other CamGirls my age have also made amazing achievements both academically and in other impressive areas in their lives that only shows how intelligent they really are. Even if they haven’t that doesn’t mean that anyone should be judged on their intelligence based on their profession. Especially since the profession itself takes someone who is business and tech savvy which do require intelligence.


    I am a 19 year old CamGirl (Online Fantasy Engineer) who is live almost every night PST on Chaturbate. In my off time I love to read, listen to “old” music, garden and surf reddit. Don’t hesitate to contact me at lovebambi66@gmail.com!

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Bambi_661

    Chaturbate: https://chaturbate.com/p/bambi_66/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bambi66/

    ManyVids: https://www.manyvids.com/Profile/359359/Bambi_66/

    Amazon Wishlist: http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishlist/ref=cm_wl_upd_succ_mng

    E-mail: lovebambi66@gmail.com


    Images courtesy of Bambi
    Have an amazing experience or tips you like to share on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!

  • Alternative Model Jeselyn And Her Amazing Tattoos

    Alternative Model Jeselyn And Her Amazing Tattoos

    Hi Jeselyn, thank you for taking the time to answer our questions on SimplySxy. Please share with our readers a little about yourself and where you’re from?

    Originally, northern New Hampshire. I live in Rhode Island now.

    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography
    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography

    What inspired you to be an alternative model?

    I honestly fell into it. I was asked several times if I ever did modeling and started thinking I should try it. I did a few shoots while I was starting to get heavily tattooed and as my look progressed, so did my career.

    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography
    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography

    Can you tell us more about your book, The Dawn of Doom?

    “Jeselyn: The Dawn of Doom” is a book that my photographer Greg Easton put together of our early work together. It’s from 2009 until 2012. The break off point was when I had my breast augmentation in the end of 2012. It was a natural break of sorts. But it’s a bunch of photos he and I did together over the years.

    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography
    Photo Credit: Greg Easton Photography

    How many tattoos do you have and is there a story behind one of them you can share?

    One big one… we think I’m close to the 400-450 hour mark. My tattoos don’t always have meaning. There happen to be 2 that are quite meaningful to me. I have a matching tattoo with my mom behind my ear. And I also have a box of fritters on my lower left calf as a memorial for my Grandfather who passed recently. He used to make fritters in a concession stand at fairs when I was little.

    How often do you go on Chaturbate and where can we find you?

    My Chaturbate schedule is sporadic. Your best bet is to follow me on Chaturbate so when I am on you’ll get an email. Also on twitter. I announce when I will be on. I own a couple businesses on top of modeling and doing cam work so I never know when I have to run errands and such.

    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography
    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography

    What turns you on?

    Confidence and a great sense of humor. Looks… heavily tattooed bald guys with beards. And curvy tattooed ladies.

    Which is your favorite sex position?

    Doggy style tends to be a leader all the time.

    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography
    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography

    What advice can you give to those who are looking to try out camming and adult work?

    Cam work… dive right in! It’s fun! You can make it fun! Check out various sites and see what you like best. It also doens’t hurt to reach out to other cammodels through twitter or email to ask their opinions. You might be a reply! I reply and help people out as much as I can. As for adult work, if you are working with someone else or a company, RESEARCH! Don’t just dive into any project, make sure you will be safe and have an idea of what is going on!

    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography
    Photo Credit: Jenna Doughtry Photography

    It’s a pleasure to feature you Jeselyn. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?

    … A chocolate brownie fudge sundae with extra cherries…


    Follow the beautiful Jeselyn on:
    Website:
    http://www.jeselynonline.com/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeselynonline

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeselynonline/


    Featured image courtesy of Jenna Doughtry Photography

    Like to be featured on SimplySxy? Drop us an email at editorial@SimplySxy.com!