Category: Sex Ed

How do I give a blowjob if his penis is too huge?
The blowjob is one of the sexiest acts and a favourite among most men, but what if you’re well endowed and your partner has difficulty taking every inch of you inside her mouth? Thankfully, Goddess Lilyth Vaine has the skills of an expert to make men weak in the knees and we’re glad to have her share tips to make you and your partner’s next oral activity an orgasmic one.

Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?

Hi! My name is Goddess Lilyth Vaine. I am a true southern gothic bell and I have been in the BDSM scene for almost 8 years and love every moment of it. I change my hair color monthly, love theme parks, the moon, clouds and a fantastic pair of heels. I was born and raised in Florida but prefer to only go outside when the moon is shinning instead of the sun. I love talking about my adventures and am so excited to share a bit of knowledge with you all.

What are your personal views on giving blowjobs?

Ever since I started dating, I have been told my blowjobs were the best. Even had an ex secretly film me once and put it on the internet! Every time someone would find the video I would have it taken down…but not before reading all the comments. From what I could tell, men loved my blowjobs. Even have had exes tell their current girls that they wanted a free pass to get blowjobs from me. Hah. Personally the reason I like blowjobs is, watching a male crumble over such pleasure is a high level of power and control. They will practically beg to cum.

How do you feel when you encounter someone with a huge penis?

I feel like it is a challenge and a nice change of pace. There are not too many out there with really massive cocks.

Can you share with us tips on how to give a blowjob on a massive dick?

I have a few tips I could share.
1. When it is still kind of soft, put it in the back of your throat and start deep throating. Putting it in still mostly soft makes it much easier to hold a cock in your throat. Once it is there he will get so excited that it starts to get hard while in your throat. Breathe through your nose and you will find that starting a deep throat blowjob this way is much easier and will cause less pain. Just flatten your tongue, and as you take in a deep breath, take in his cock for the ride.
2. If your man is laying down, sit on your knees between his legs and suck keeping your head going up and down in a direct straight line. Keep his cock perfectly straight, you might have to tilt your head forward a bit more than normal, but trust me…they cum quickly this way.
3. Do you have a tongue ring? A lip ring? Both? Use them. If you have balls on your lip rings, use them as if they were tongue rings. If you are like myself and have both, use them both. He will think you have three tongue rings running along the base of his shaft and be amazed at the sensation it gives. To use your tongue ring in your mouth, keep your tongue flat and press it firmly to the shaft as you move it in and out of your mouth.
4. Focus on the head. The head is sensitive and if played with correctly, will send your man reeling. What I like to do is, suck my cheeks in as hard as I can until I look like a fish with the head of his cock in my lips and my tongue lapping quickly at the tip. Practice making fish faces and getting your cheeks to suck in to almost bulimic proportions. Trust me, he will thank you.
5. Be sloppy! Let your slobber drip, trail, ooze and spit out of your mouth. The wetter the more of that lovely popping and sloppy noise it will make. It will also keep your hand nice and lubricated as it moves up and down.
6. Down. Yes hard and fast is great, but not all men like it. And all can appreciate the slow and sensual motions. Tease him…suck it slow…look into his eyes, pop the head out of your mouth. He will think you are a porn star.
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June 26, 2015
Blowjob & Anal Sex pornstar moves to try out in the bedroom

Have you ever fantasised about having sex like a pornstar? Trying out the various sex positions you see in porn and recreating the hot scenes that reach an explosive climax right at the end. We get a chance to seek Adult actress Kassondra Raine to share her tips on Blowjobs and Anal sex for all those seeking to sex it up a notch in the bedroom!

SimplySxy: Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?

Hi I’m Kassondra Raine. I was born and raised in Las Vegas, Nevada. Although I’ve always been a very sexual person, I never expected to become an Adult Film Actress. I majored in psychology at UNLV in hopes of becoming a therapist/psychiatrist. But by my third year, I realized that I had no interest in labeling people with pre-packaged “disorders” and becoming a legal drug dealer for major pharmaceutical companies. So I dropped out of school, and eventually started doing webcam, which lead me into the adult industry! I love sex, I view religion’s perspective that sex is a shameful act as utterly insane. Sex is something that should be supported and celebrated, and I’m very proud to promote that perspective through my scenes and films!

SimplySxy: In your opinion, how much of what’s going in porn can viewers try out successfully at home?

I think viewers can try out anything they enjoy watching in porn successfully at home. To me, that is an important part of the beauty of pornography. It offers viewers a way to discover new fantasies and possibilities, and can help them explore their own sexuality. In my opinion, trying something new is a success in itself.

Kassondra Raine on Blowjobs

SimplySxy: What is your personal view about giving blowjobs?

I personally very much enjoy giving blowjobs. I have found that when I suck cock, it can be very therapeutic to me. I tend to lose myself in the moment. When that happens, all my troubles, frustrations, and daily stresses just melt away, at least for the time being. Of course I want my partner to enjoy it. However, it seems the more I enjoy it myself, the more my partner enjoys it as well.

SimplySxy: With regards to blowjobs, what secrets can you give for ladies to give amazing blowjobs like what is in porn?

There are thousands of books, magazine articles, classes etc. with tips on the latest and greatest techniques for the ultimate blowie. My perspective is that learning a new technique is fine and dandy and can be fun; it’s always good to try something new. However, I believe that technique is only icing on the cake of an amazing blowjob. With technique alone, the experience can be somewhat empty feeling. The driving force that should be fueling and controlling the technique is missing; without it you are just going through the motions. Your mind becomes focused more on your performance rather than being in the moment. The less you are lost in the moment, the less passion and raw sexual desire can be expressed. Sexual experience on a physical level is supposed to be about sharing physical pleasure with someone and having fun. When I am giving a blowjob, or having sex, I allow myself to get lost in my pleasure and desire, without worrying about my skill, technique, or “performance.” When I am in that state of being, there is no self judgement, no room for worry, doubt, or second guessing myself. The mind takes a back seat and pure feeling takes over. So my advice to ladies would be to focus on having fun and enjoying themselves while giving a blowjob. The more you are having fun, the better it will feel for your partner.

On Anal Sex

SimplySxy: Do you enjoy anal sex a lot?

When I am in the right mood, anal sex can be as erotic and pleasurable as anything else, sometimes even more so. However, I have typically preferred vaginal intercourse in general. My sexual preferences have always changed as I have gone through life. There have been occasions when anal sex is uncomfortable and not much fun, and occasions when it felt amazing and turned me on more than anything else. I think it is healthy to explore new things and keep an open mind. You just never know. One day you can cringe at the thought of a certain act or experience and the next day you could love it so much that you don’t know how you have lived without it up to this point.

SimplySxy: How can a couple try out anal sex like what they see in porn?

I think the most important thing to remember is to RELAXXX…. If you are feeling pain it is because you are tense. You become tense when you are anticipating pain. I think that can be one of the biggest hurdles to get over. Where focus goes, energy flows. If you are focused on whether or not it’s going to be uncomfortable, it probably will be. If you are focused on wanting the experience and feeling excited about trying something “naughty” with your partner, then it’s going to feel amazing and be a great experience. Your mindset is extremely important.

Also, remember to have patience with each other. I’m sure the guys out there who are super anxious to put it in their partner’s backdoor would be more open to patience if they had a battering ram trying to break down their exit gate. Women need to practice patience as well. Instead of feeling frustrated that your man doesn’t ever seem to let up on talking you into doing anal, realize that he is just excited to do something new with you, and that is a good thing. If the genders can do their best to see both sides, the sooner we will come into understanding and work together as a team instead of as opposing forces.

There are many different anal training kits that you can pick up from your favorite adult retailer. Pick out the one you would like to give a try and do it together as a team. Who said working toward a goal together couldn’t be fun. Experiment and have a good time with it.

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June 15, 2015
Why Sexuality Isn’t the Whole Story When it Comes to Love
1. Love is lawless.
There are no rules. You make the rules and no one can say anything about it!
1. Love isn’t sex.
That’s just one expression of it. All relationships have to find an expression of love that best suits that relationship. And that expression is really nobody else’s business.
1. Love is unconditional.
When you love someone, you love who that person is, not what that person is.
1. Love is a container for growth.
It’s two (or more) people who are trying to grow on different but aligned tracks. It’s supportive and encouraging and honest. You can try new things and expose your pains and grow in ways you never thought possible. There are difficult times and then there are good times that make it all worthwhile.
1. Love isn’t dependent.
Love isn’t about needing somebody because you’re incomplete. Love is about recognizing that you’re whole and complete on your own, but that another person makes the journey much more fun. Love is about partnering up with somebody else to create something that’s never existed before.
1. Love is worth fighting for.
You have to get up and fight for your love every single day. You have to fight to love yourself as you are.
1. Love isn’t a choice.
Love isn’t conscious. It’s not something you can will into your life whenever you please. It will hardly ever come when you expect it to. It will hardly ever look like you thought it would. But you’ll know it when you feel it. It’s a feeling deep inside you that you don’t want to let go of. It’s a deeper, internal yearning that supersedes all reasoning. And, against all logic, you plunge full-force into this crazy little thing called love.

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Reproduced with permission and thanks from http://www.mindbodygreen.com and Mike Iamele
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June 13, 2015
The Amazing Story of the Vibrator

Did you know that in 200AD, genital massages were given to treat hysteria? Or that the vibrator was introduced into Pornography in the 1920s? Carvaka Sex Toys, the Number 1 choice for Adult Toys in the UK, shares this brilliant interactive storymap which takes you through the journey of the Vibrator from its creation and how it has evolved to the phenomenon it is today.

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June 9, 2015
How do you tell your partner that you have STD?

“I love you, but I have to let you know that, I have STD. Would you mind?” Be prepared for a cold shoulder and a sour relationship after you mention this to him/her in such a manner.

What kind of reply do you expect? If the person says “yes”, he/she looks like a jerk. If the person says “no”, you seriously doubt if this is just a cover up answer. In either way, the relationship will never be the same again.

Having counselled many clients who asked me the same question, and have even been through this at some point in my life, I only have one answer for them: timing and attitude is the key to this. You cannot reveal this too early or too late into the relationship. Too early will mean the partner can have an easy way out. What I meant by “easy”, is not just in terms of physical commitment, but it is also emotionally easy. Attachment is not so great and thus it is less painful to leave this relationship.

Bringing it out too late in the relationship leaves the partner with no choice. He/She has already given in too much to leave the relationship. The partner may take it negatively and feel cheated after the moment of truth. And of course, putting it across in an acceptable manner is important.

How do we know when is the right time? It can be an internal struggle between integrity and the need to be accepted. Trust me, the person in subject doesn’t feel good at all.

First, you have to be sure that this relationship is genuine and your partner does want to have a future with you. The intention has to be clear. It also shows that you have what it takes to be in a long term relationship with him/her and this truth that you are about to reveal WILL seem significantly less important. Before it gets serious, it is a good time to mention this to him/her. You are doing this out of consideration and you feel that it is important that he/she knows this before moving on.

“I really love you and want to be in a serious relationship with you. But there is a medication condition I have to be transparent to you. I had (this STD) (how many years) ago. It is no longer affecting me and it will no longer do, except when it comes to (certain times, i.e. child labor). I just need to be transparent with you, not because I need your sympathy, but I want to tell you that I made my fair share of mistakes in the past and I am not happy with the way it turned out. I hope you will still love and accept me the same way.”

This should do the magic. Of course, sincerity is always needed. Finding the right one is never easy. I do hope that if you have found this man/woman who will still accept you despite what you have mentioned, treasure this love.

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June 3, 2015
Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

So we’re well into Masturbation Month… Anyone learnt anything new? As I mentioned in there a bunch of pieces focused on solo play and the health benefits of masturbation, and people much more qualified than myself to discuss it therapeutically. What I’d like to do is make sure couples don’t feel excluded from all the awesome, so here’s some tips and toys for inspiring and incorporating masturbation into a shared experience – there’s probably no better way to learn more about your partner’s body. For women, masturbation can be an external or internal experience, and there’s thought to be at least four different orgasms women are able to achieve: clitoral, vaginal, multiple, and ‘all of the above’. This makes Pussy Play all kinds of fun – and a wonderfully exciting challenge… How many ways can you or your partner cum this month? And how can you help?

First off, keep things comfortable, yet interesting; getting yourself off should never feel like a job. And remember that our bodies are changing and evolving all the time – depth of sensitivity and locations of ‘hot spots’ can change. Regular masturbation can help you keep track of these changes and give you a working knowledge of what’s ‘right’ for you. This is where toys can be invaluable. Finger toys are a wonderful way to explore the external regions. You can purchase these as simple, textured silicone sheaths that slide over the finger, like these Exotic Finger Teasers. Using your sheathed finger start massaging the labia – outer and inner – taking care to avoid the clitoris for the first few minutes. Make a mental note of any particular sweet spots, but don’t spend too long on them. Try giving yourself (and your voyeuristic) partner a pleasurable tease.

For those who struggle a bit with the clit orgasm, you could try this Finger Vibe from Lelo. It’s a beautiful, velvet-finish silicone vibe that slides on your finger like a ring, and for a toy that runs on one AAA it’s a pretty powerful buzz. There are several speeds and intensity settings, and I’m assuming a pretty top-notch motor, due to Lelo’s great reputation for making safe, great quality toys. The great thing about finger toys is their unobtrusive nature, and the instinctual ease of their use – your fingers know what they’re doing; now just to enhance them a little…

Internally, it can be a whole different thing. There’s no ‘magic button’ in there to make us cum. What used to be thought of as the G-Spot is actually a larger erogenous zone that encompasses several different organs. Called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ (CUV) it includes the front of the vaginal wall (the side toward the belly), the urethra, the paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s Glands or female Prostrate) and the underlying nerve ‘roots’ of the clitoris. Aiming toys and pressure at this region can really help in bringing on some quite intense vaginal orgasms. Some of the best toys to do this are the adjustable G-Vibes like this Je Joue G-Kii. G-spot vibrators feature a curved tip, which provides focused pressure on the front wall. Whether you’re determined to find your G-spot, or know exactly where it is and want to hit it with ease, G-spot vibes get straight to the point. For your first time, try using the head at its natural angle. Then, as you become more familiar with it, experiment with different curves to discover your perfect position. Not only can this toy be shaped to work with anyone, the flexible shaft can even be hooked around for simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

Stay tuned… Next time we look at remote control and wireless control toys for couples… Can’t wait!

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May 19, 2015
Privacy or Shame: Are Americans as liberal as they think?

My original post for this week was going to be about the psychological motivators and challenges of spanking, but something has happened that made me shift focus. For the past two months I’ve been trying to get my project, the Alter Ego Photo Project, off the ground. When I talk to people about it, I get a few nods and smiles, even the occasional, “Yea! That’s what we need.” But overall, the response has been silent. The Alter Ego Photo Project aims to inspire people to embrace their sexuality. I want people to celebrate sexual diversity because of the pleasures it creates, not just react to the pain that sexual misuse, that is to say sexual violation and abuse, brings.

Where there is talk about rape, domestic violence, sex trafficking, or anything to do with negative sexual expressions, people listen and want to be involved. Rightfully so. Consensual Roughness, my organization, also wants to fight these injustices. We believe that by promoting healthy sexuality and demonstrating the way things should be done and discussed, we can reduce these sexual misuses. Admittedly, there is now a lot of buzz about sex in media that doesn’t deal exclusively with sexual harm. You can find any how-to sex tips you want on sites like Cosmo. You can find beautifully explicit infographics on Bitch Media. However, when a photo project aims to celebrate the most visceral part of our personalities in a way that reflects the normalcy of varied sexual preference, we get afraid. We don’t want our bosses to know we have sex with the same gender. We don’t want our friends to know we enjoy facial penetration. We don’t want to shout from the rooftops or merely whisper in the corners of the interwebs that we have a sexual personality that is different, vibrant, and unique.

Is this love of privacy or is this shame? I’d argue it is a little of both. We love sex. We love giggling about the latest fling we had, our latest conquests. Our society discusses what kind of sex is OK and what’s perverse. We thirst for the delicious adventure that pure fucking gives us, however when we speak it aloud we usually use terms like love and commitment instead of respect and consent. The distinction equates sex with love and monogamy, but not necessarily respect between consenting individuals. This limits us because sex is sex and love is love. Sometimes they overlap. However, by not prioritizing consent and respect, this narrative disregards human decency in favor of obligation and duty. Because what about non-love non-commitment sex? What then? In those encounters, respect should be given and received, as should consent. Even within the pair bonds, where we can supposedly do whatever we want, we are ashamed to talk about our needs and wants despite being bounded to this person by fidelity. America is a place for sexual liberty. That is to say, the freedom to view sex in a virgin-slut paradigm when it’s not so black and white. Despite purporting sexual freedom, our culture focuses primarily on crude aspects of sexuality. The word “dick” falls off the American tongue more easily than the word “penis”; the latter evoking clinical disgust in many young minds. Unfortunately, our culture is steeped in sexual insecurity and sexual violence, starting with the first negative response to masturbation or the non-conversation about avian creatures and insects.

The Alter Ego Photo Project looks to highlight our differences in order to elevate the vulgarity to ‘vulgarity minus the shame.’ We want to show that we’re all a little kinky and that our sexual health is an important part of our mental, emotional, physical, and relationship health. We all like what we like. As long as it’s consensual, why not explore?

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May 18, 2015
The importance of masturbation in a marriage

The couple that masturbates together stays together?

One of the biggest misconceptions people have in relationships is that your partner is going to know your body better than you know it yourself. But on the contrary, understanding your own body and how it functions sexually, including what feels good to you and how to achieve an orgasm, is what makes for better, more intimate sex with your partner. That’s one of the many reasons why masturbation—especially mutual masturbation—can help create better intimacy in a relationship or marriage, both sexual and emotional.

For many women who are married or in long-term relationships, the frustration of not having an orgasm during sex or even foreplay can cause a lack of enjoyment and intimacy problems in the relationship. The best way to discover how to have an orgasm is to masturbate on your own and see what feels good. For some women, this can change the sexual intimacy in a relationship dramatically. When a woman is able to have an orgasm with her partner, she releases oxytocin, a hormone responsible for feelings of love and bonding, which has been coined “the love hormone.” For men, solo masturbation can be a way of helping with problems concerning erectile dysfunction, stress release, and learning new techniques on how to prolong orgasm.

Once you have both spent time getting to know your own bodies, you can move on to mutual masturbation, which is a fantastic way to help your partner understand and learn what turns you on—and it can turn them on as well. This can be very erotic, sexually stimulating, and a fun way to add some spice to the relationship. The best way to start off masturbating mutually is to take turns achieving orgasm, really paying attention to your partners’ techniques and turn-ons. You can also do it at the same time, which may evolve into oral sex or some other form of pleasuring each other.

As relationships move forward, our bodies and minds change. What may have brought a person to orgasm in their 20s may be different from what turns that same person on in their 40s. Masturbating and finding new ways to stimulate yourself and then showing that to your partner—on a regular basis—can keep the sex passionate, intimate, and sizzling hot.

This article has been republished with permission from Dr. Dawn Michael.

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May 11, 2015
Key Aspects Giving Internet Porn Pay Per Minute an Edge Over Cable Pay-Per-View
Pay-per-view was the beginning of a system allowing viewers to see what they wanted to see and when they wanted to see it. It allowed interactive communication between providers and the subscribers. Pay-per-view was based on the simple principle of providing people what they were paying for. There was a time when cable and satellite operators made huge profits with adult video on-demand and adult pay-per-minute view. This was because while Hollywood got the larger share, when it came to revenue split between Hollywood studios and cable operators, almost 90% of the revenue went to cable operators in the case of adult content.

PPV was designed with the aim to emphasise convenience. Viewers could enjoy a live event or a movie in the comfort of their home without having to go to a stadium or a movie theatre. All they needed to do was dial the PPV number shown on TV a few minutes prior to the beginning of the program they wanted to watch. Moreover, viewers did not need to tie themselves to any long term commitment, and had the facility of paying for exactly what they wanted to see.

However, cable pay-per-view had some major inconveniences as well that contributed to it not being as popular among customers as it was expected to be. Today, most of the inconveniences have been overcome with the facility of porn pay-per-minute available on the internet.

There are numerous porn enthusiasts who prefer to explore a wide range of adult content available both on cable and on the internet. According to various surveys, a large number of people who pay their cable operator for watching adult content also pay for such content on the internet. These dual-users can best cite the beneficial aspects of porn pay per minute available on the internet over the one provided by cable operators.

Here are some of the major aspects worth mentioning:
- Convenience of Time: Cable pay-per-view allowed users to watch adult content according to the scheduled time of the providers. The inconvenience of this situation lay in the simple fact that viewers were restricted to watching porn only during a fixed time of the day or week. Internet pay-per-minute has eliminated this inconvenience by providing customers the facility and option to watch porn whenever they felt like. Since hardcore porn enthusiasts can feel the urge and desire to indulge in the pleasure of watching hot and steamy adult content anytime and anywhere, the internet poses a much better option than cable when its comes to adult pay-per-minute.
- Control on the Content: Individuals differ in terms of sexual orientation. While some might get turned on by watching lesbian sex, others might derive sexual pleasure from transsexualism. However, with cable pay-per-view, viewers have no control over the content being aired on television. It is completely up to the providers to decide what kind of adult content would be shown. Internet pay-per-minute on the other hand allows viewers to decide on the kind of content they would like to watch to satisfy their sexual fantasies.
- Long Waiting Hours: Cable pay-per-view can often keep viewers waiting for a long time in case the previous program is already on. Internet pay-per-minute allows customers to watch porn the instant they feel the urge without having to wait even for a minute. Moreover, while internet porn allows users to replay a movie in case they want to, cable pay-per-view requires you to make the same payment all over again in case they want to watch a particular movie twice.
When talking about the difference between cable adult pay-per-view and internet porn pay per minute, it is one’s individual freedom of making a choice that gives the internet a winning edge over cable.

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May 7, 2015
10 Ways to Impress in the Bedroom

Here’s an infographic by UK’s newest online sex shop, Carvaka Sex Toys, on the 10 ways to impress in the bedroom. Ladie’s and Gentlemen, it’s time to try out these tips for a sexy time!

Carvaka is an ancient Indian philosophy that believes that humans get one life and so should enjoy it to the absolute fullest. Visit Carvaka Sex Toys at https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/ to view their collection of toys that will bring your sex life to places you have never dreamed of.

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May 4, 2015