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  • 10 Secrets for Keeping Sex Alive in a Long-Term Relationship

    10 Secrets for Keeping Sex Alive in a Long-Term Relationship

    Losing the spark in your sex life is often inevitable. Learn ways to keep your sex alive in a long-term relationship.

    No matter how many movie nights you have had with your long-term partner, losing the spark in your sex life is often inevitable. People age and change over time and this is the same case with sex life; what turned you on in the early stages of your relationship may not be the same today. In the beginning, everything is wonderful, and love and sexual feelings are in plenty. However, what comes after that this phase – boredom, kids and debt, to name a few, can dampen your sex life. Good sex life is key to a happy relationship. Below are ten secrets for keeping your sex alive in a long-term relationship.

    1. Prioritize Alone Time

    Plan one curfew-free night every two months or so. You can get a sitter or leave the kid to sleep at a family member’s or friend’s house. Do you remember seeing her photos on that site, Instagram or meetville black people? Go out and try to reconnect with the power of the early stages. Go to places you liked to visit in the beginning and do things you liked to do.

    2. Up Your Sexting Game

    Instead of just texting things like when the cable man is coming, make your texting conversations a little kinkier occasionally. Tease each other on what is to come later in the night. Your sexting may include things such as describing what you’re wearing in bed or how you are touching yourself thinking of your partner. You can keep sexting for the whole day, and when you meet later in the evening, the sparks will fly.

    3. Try It Elsewhere

    Sex should not be a perfect bedroom situation when you are feeling most attractive, and candles lit. Take it out of the bedroom occasionally. The mood may strike at any time. You may walk in the house from work and catch a glimpse of your partner cutting onions in the kitchen or sitting on the couch, and you immediately want to jump their bones. Do it there and then.

    4. Sex Workshop

    Attend sex workshops that best fit both of you. You can do your own research and find the best local options. Investing in educating yourself about your sexuality shows commitment in one another’s happiness and longevity of your relationship.

    5. Experiment with ‘Sensate Focus’ Exercise

    It is a type of foreplay that can help both partners stay present and also increases the likelihood of orgasm. One of you becomes the ‘giver’ while the other one is the ‘receiver.’ The giver does everything to try and make their partner feel good starting from their head to their toes.

    6. Experiment with Different Sex Positions

    It may seem obvious, but sexually satisfied partners tend to be experimental in their bedroom. Try new sex positions once in a while. Remember looking for bbw ebony dating tips when you were starting out? You can as well find several sex ideas over the internet. Discuss with your partner how you want to include more play and variety into your sex game.

    7. Focus on Quality, Not Quantity

    You should not put pressure on each other based on what others say ‘normal sex’ is. For example, if another couple has sex four times a week and you have it twice a week, do not put pressure on your partner to get to 4 times a week. In fact, don’t count. Have sex when it is convenient, and when you both love it.

    8. Sex Should Not Be a Form of Conflict Resolution

    You should not let sex become your only form of resolving issues. Rather, sex should be a form of celebration once you have resolved your conflicts. On the flip side, fighting can make you go for long periods without sex, which is not good. Therefore, you should develop strong resolution skills so that you have a happy sex life and a healthy relationship.

    9. Shower Together Occasionally

    Showering together makes the bond tight. Hit the shower together once in a while and make things hot.

    10. Talk about Your Sexual Fantasies

    Instead of getting to bed and scrolling through Instagram or reading your Kindle every night, take some time to discuss your sexual fantasies. Even talking about your turn-ons may be enough. Sexual cravings evolve over time, and you may lose touch with your partner’s cravings in a long-term relationship. Asking and talking about them brings you closer to your partner.

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  • LA YouTuber & Influencer Ruslana Gee

    LA YouTuber & Influencer Ruslana Gee

    I grew up in Azerbaijan, which is a lovely country located near Russia and Turkey, so besides my mother language, I speak both Russian and Turkish. When I was 17 I moved to Istanbul to study film and TV, but after two years I decided to transfer to Los Angeles, where I started my fashion career. I love styling outfits and recording videos on my YouTube channels on my free time. It’s not only part of my work but also something I really enjoy.

    What is your fashion style like?

    My style is currently very feminine, minimalistic and sometimes classy. I do like to switch it up every now and then, so I have no idea how long it will stay like that. I like to experiment!

    Do you have any hobbies or interests?

    I love watching movies, directing and writing my own scripts. Anything connected to cinema industry actually. Maybe someday I’ll switch my focus from fashion to film.

    Is there any food or drink you don’t ever take?

    I’m not a huge fan of fast food, I probably would never eat McDonald’s. I’m also not into cakes or cupcakes, they are too sweet for my taste.

    What is the best compliment you have received?

    People told me a few times that I have a spectacular ability to create and see beauty, which is a great compliment because it feels good when people recognize your talents, it means to me much more than compliments to my appearance for instance.

    If you could learn anything in this world, what will it be?

    I would really want to learn how to drive! Haha, I know it sounds super easy, but not for me, Trust me, I tried.

    What do you not get about guys?

    So many things! I really wish I could understand them better. Of course every individual is different, but often I meet guys that are very distant and bad at communicating, it’s so difficult to understand how they feel or what they want, because they never share.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Ruslana. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?

    Being sexy for me is the equivalent of being free. For some reason in my past, I viewed it as something shameful or something I should always avoid expressing. I’m happy that now that I’m older and wiser I can accept that side of me, it brings harmony to my mind and body. It’s just part of human nature, nothing to be ashamed about.

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    Instagram: www.instagram.com/Ruslanagee 

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/justruslana

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  • Actress & Instagram Blogger Viveca

    Actress & Instagram Blogger Viveca

    Wow, thank you so much for having me. I’m Viveca (pronounced vih-vih-ka)! I’m an actress and hobbyist Instagram blogger @vivaaace. I was born and raised in Hong Kong, moved to the U.S. when I was 18 for college and I’ve been living in New York City for around three years.

    What is your proudest achievement so far?

    As someone who is constantly finding new ways to grow and love herself, I would have to say being able to find healthy means to channel my anxiety. Since the industry I’m in can be really brutal, it’s so easy to be stuck in a negative headspace. Career wise, probably booking my first Broadway show three months out college or some really cool commercial work I’ve done with huuuuge brands like Tiffany & Co., Buzzfeed and Ferragamo! 

    Do you have any favorite quotes or mottos you like to use?

    My favourite quote of all time is “A flower does not compete with the flower next to it – it just blooms.” This actually inspired me to get a little water colour tattoo on my right shoulder blade to serve as a reminder.

    How do you like to spend your free time?

    I love to work on my blog www.vivaaace.com. I blog about everything ranging from food to beauty/fashion to theatre advice to life advice. I also love to coffee shop crawl, eat at new restaurants and binge as many TV shows as I can. I’m currently hooked on The Handmaid’s Tale. The acting is impeccable. 

    Is there something you can’t get enough of in life?

    Dogs. Especially my newly adopted Pitbull @atasteofmochi. Oh my goodness, he is so cute and such a light in my life.

    Where have you always wanted to travel to but have yet to find the time for it?

    Bali, Marrakesh or Cape Town. Three completely different places.

    If you could collaborate with or meet anyone past or present, who will it be?

    I would love to work with Sandra Oh.

    What flavor best describes you?

    Nutella and strawberries.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Viveca. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is owning yourself, your body, your flaws, your strengths. Sexy is loving yourself. Sexy is talking kindness to yourself and your body. Sexy is wearing anything, or nothing for no one but you. Sexy is the confidence to be unapologetically you.

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    Instagram: www.instagram.com/vivaaace

    Website: www.vivaaace.com

    Twitter: www.twitter.com/vivaaace

    I’ll be playing the lead role of Amelia in “Little Red Robin Hood: A Musical Panto” at People’s Light Theatre.

    If you’re in the PA area, come see me! https://www.peopleslight.org/whats-on/2019-2020-season/little-red-robin-hood-a-musical-panto/

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  • Social Media & the Evolution of Porn

    Social Media & the Evolution of Porn

    On September 2017, when Hugh Hefner died, the future of Playboy was at best uncertain. In its heyday, Playboy sold 7.2 million copies a month.

    Today, the magazine has just been re-launched as an ad-free quarterly and it’s unrecognizable from the magazine that Hugh founded.

    The reason is, surprisingly, not political correctness, but an acknowledgment that paper simply can no longer compete with the internet.

    The simple fact is that anyone can access free porn on the web, whenever they want.

    But, in a compelling, almost magical twist and testimony to the vision of Hugh, porn actors have found a way to evolve and utilize the internet.

    Instead of becoming extinct, social media is actually creating opportunities for porn stars to shine, they simply need to adopt a new approach.

    The Top 50 Porn Influencers

    Take a look at the infographic above you’ll see that porn isn’t just alive, it’s flourishing.

    This snapshot of the porn industry is based on Twitter followers in 2019 and illustrates just how willing people are to pay for porn; you just need to supply them with the right image.

    When you look at the list you’ll see more than a few recognizable names.

    For bios on each influencer check out the original article “Top 50 social media influencers in porn“, which includes the latest follower numbers and links to their respective twitter accounts.

    So how have they done it?

    These are people who developed direct relationships with consumers and have discovered how to provide a unique service.

    Their earnings have the potential to surpass anything possible through conventional channels.

    But, what is perhaps most impressive is that the majority of the ones that made the list are individuals.

    Social media has allowed these individuals to give their consumers exactly what they want, even if this is not the traditional mainstream porn offerings.

    This is the real evolution of porn that has been enabled by social media and the internet. Thanks to the ease of access to consumers, it’s now acceptable to produce niche porn.

    So Who Is In The Top 50?

    At the very top spot, you’ll probably recognize the name Brazzers, one of the top production companies in the industry. It proves there is still room for commercialization in any industry.

    But, the real winners are the porn stars, there are 38 female porn stars on a list of 50!

    Coupled with this you’ll find just 1 male porn star, 1 affiliate website, 1 Tube site, 2 adult-themed events and 2 adult news websites. There are just 5 pornographic production companies on the list.

    Interestingly, despite the re-launch of Playboy magazine suggesting a move away from porn, another part of the Playboy family, Playboy Plus, has made it onto the list.

    They may be in 28th position but it proves there is still life in the old bunny.

    You may also be intrigued by the fact that the only male porn star comes in at 37.

    Jordi is Spanish but, what is most impressive is that he’s only been in the porn industry since 2013 and, when he started on YouTube in 2017 he gained over a million subscribers in less than 2 months.

    Perhaps this is not completely a female orientated industry anymore.

    Some extra facts you may like:

    Nicolette Shea may be number 2 on the list but she was more of a tomboy as a child, enjoying hiking and fishing with her dad.

    I dare say there would be more people hiking if they were able to follow her.

    Pornhub has grabbed the number 3 slot and clearly is in a commanding industrial position.

    But, they are also interested in sending porn actresses into space and they donate to cancer research every year, which should help you feel better about watching.

    Sara Jay has produced 50 Shades of Sara Jay and it goes a little further than the original movie. She has also confessed to being a nerd at school, comparing herself to ‘Darlene’ in the ‘Roseanne’ show.

    Final Thoughts

    Social media is playing an important part in the evolution of porn and this looks set to continue.

    As long as people want to see porn and have a fetish or two, they’ll be a willing porn star to look after them.

    Article images courtesy of Rob Yaeger

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  • Kuala Lumpur based Model Tricia Lim

    Kuala Lumpur based Model Tricia Lim

    Hi there! I am known as Kuro to a lot of people based on my Instagram (@Kuromelo) and even my old Facebook name. It is just a nickname given and I stuck with it 🙂

    I am originally from Melaka! Now working in KL.

    What inspires your fashion style?

    Wow, I would not be able to pinpoint what exactly inspires my style as it is always ever changing. I think I am very much versatile, I think Japanese style suits me a lot but I tend to also love American and Korean styles. I would collect Mina and Vivi Magazines, I would study how they layer outfits, what is in trend and how they style themselves with accessories and hair.

    Are there any accessories you can’t live without?

    *Side glance* Definitely earrings. Big fan of just weird statement earrings.

    Which is your most memorable photoshoot or modeling experience?

    I think my most memorable photoshoot was a shoot I did twice in front of LOT10 in Kuala Lumpur. Reasons? Both were very spontaneous shoots and with spontaneous outfits. One was done very Mina-style esque magazine while the other was at night time while it was raining; me and the photographer managed to create a set that looked super neon/cyberpunk edit yet retained my femininity look because of my outfit. The results were otherworldly amazing. The moments were very memorable.

    Is there something you’ve always wanted to do or experience but have yet to find the time for it?

    Diving. Skydiving. Travelling alone. VLOGING. I have a rather massive bucket list hahaha.

    Have you been in an embarrassing situation that is funny now when looking back?

    Well, hello earth to earthlings. I am only human *laughs*. I think I have plenty. Walking into a glass door, being branded as butter fingers because I ALWAYS slip stuff and drop them. Spilling my drinks right after you buy them…or ice cream…

    If you could be a superhero, who will you choose to be?

    My mom, she’s my superhero hands down BUT if I get to choose a fictional one.. I would love to be SNAKE BIG BOSS just so I could be sneaky or even Violet Evergarden …She is too much of a bae. Have to protect.

    What is a funny or lame attempt a guy has tried to know you before?

    I had a lame attempt by a guy who just asked a little bit too specific in just a matter of seconds into the conversation.

    “Where do you stay? Do you stay alone?” Like come on. Be classy and not a creep.

    Funny huh.. HMMMMM I did get swoon over by a guy who just did stupid pick up lines on me AHAHHA.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Tricia. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”?​

    Sexy is definitely confidence. You can be branded as sexy by the way you wear but truth be told, a covered up woman walking down the street looking chic looks totally sexy to me. A baring woman walking down the street owning her body and sex appeal is fucking sexy to me. A man who loves to dress up is sexy to me.

    Talent is also sexy to me AHAH, like yes show me your skills. It is quite a big attraction.

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    Instagram: @Kuromelo

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  • Russian Model & Suicide Girl Hopeful Tsukiko

    Russian Model & Suicide Girl Hopeful Tsukiko

    Hello! I am Tsukiko, from Russia, Moscow.

    How will you describe your fashion style?

    A mix of sporty and rock style.

    Are there any fashion accessories you can’t live without?

    I think no.

    What is the best compliment you have received?

    I like compliments when they compare me to the Goddess, and Queen. Of course I have many complexes and I don’t feel like that, but it’s still nice to hear it 🙂

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a party animal are you?

    Depends on the amount of tequila drunk, usually 3-4, but sometimes it can reach up to 7.

    If you could meet with anyone past or present, who will it be?

    I don’t know.

    Do you have any hobbies or interests?

    I like sports – rollers, bicycles, fitness. I have a musical education, I am fond of vocals, I am a photographer and designer, these are also my hobbies.

    What turns you off on a date?

    Embarrassing silence, questions “tell me something” – everything disappears from my head at once.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Tsukiko. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexual – possessing qualities that make you want. I think for different people it can be different qualities. Smell, body shape, look, softness of the skin or something else, anything.

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    Instagram: http://Instagram.com/tsukiko_sg

    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/tsukiko/?aid=946789

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    https://www.alternativemodel.net/shop/vendor/tsukiko

    Images by Natalia Randle

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  • Chilean Model & Photographer Valentina Durán

    Chilean Model & Photographer Valentina Durán

    Hello! My name is Valentina Durán, I’m from Chile. I am an audiovisual communicator, photographer and I work in advertising.

    What hobbies and interests are you into?

    I love to travel and know new places, nature and different cultures. I also love spending time with my cats.

    Which is the best compliment you have received before?

    Whenever they tell me that I am intelligent and professional, it is the best compliment.

    Do you have any favorite quotes or mottos you like to use in life?

    Many times we forget what we really want with our hearts. You just have to fight for what you want.

    “Just keep dreaming!”

    How much of a party animal are you?

    Honestly, I love dancing, that’s why I go to parties a lot, it’s one of the things I like to do where you forget everything and you get lost in the music playing loudly.

    What have you always wanted to do but have yet to find the time for it?

    I always want to travel and meet new places.

    Is there any food or drink you don’t take?

    I don’t eat red meat, just eat fish and seafood. And sorry boys, but I hate beer.

    What is a funny or awkward attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Once I was on the bus with my mother. I was about 15 years old, all a little girl! And a boy of the same age began to flirt with me. The whole bus looked at us and my mother only laughed at me. I was very ashamed. Then he got off the bus and shouted to my mother, goodbye mother in law! Everyone started laughing.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Valentina. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    For me “Sexy” is to show confidence in yourself, to be flirtatious, to transmit something with your eyes. It is not necessarily something associated with being in little clothes or the body.

    Thanks guys for reading my interview!

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    Instagram: @valentinadurann

    Images from Valentina Durán

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  • Malaysian Model Caleen Tung

    Malaysian Model Caleen Tung

    Hi, I’m Caleen from Penang. 22 years old right now. I’m a student and a part time freelancer for some events and modelling.

    What is your fashion style like?

    Simple, temperament, and sexy.

    Which 3 items are most important in your wardrobe?

    Shorts, singlet, and skirts.

    Do you follow a strict beauty regime?

    No.

    Is there any food or drink you can’t live without?

    Vegetables and fruits.

    What is the best compliment you have received?

    Pretty, sexy, and gorgeous.

    Do you have any other hobbies and interests?

    Singing.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Caleen. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is not only about your body figure, but your attitude.

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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__caleen__/

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  • Content Creator & Model Frances Kaneko

    Content Creator & Model Frances Kaneko

    Hey I am Frances. I am Singapore based and currently a full time undergraduate student in NUS Physics Department. Despite my passion towards science and programming, I am also a big fan of fine arts. I like classical piano and graphic design. I was a student teacher in watercolor and fashion design back in high school CCA 😀

    What do you enjoy about modeling?

    That’s a fun question! I always wanted to show my unique fashion style to others and my friends also supported (or persuaded) me to do modeling!! However I know that I need to put in extra effort into the job, like keep a gym routine to stay slim! That is also a part that I like because I can become a better self through modeling 😉

    Which is a memorable photoshoot experience you had before?

    The most unique experience was my night shoot on Sentosa island! My friend was really a skilled photographer and he brought a whole lot of equipments along. I did a Japanese Yukata photo shoot there and the effect turned out to be amazing, if only I was slimmer that time (LOL)

    On a scale of 1-10, how much of a party animal are you?

    Around 2 I guess?? I much more prefer drinking with my close friends in a quiet place (and I’m VERY picky in music!!). However in times of need I can attend parties also!

    How do you like to spend your weekends?

    I love playing classical piano and I like to drill my skills during the weekends. Also I go for swimming and photoshoots during the weekend!!

    If you could learn anything in this world, what will it be?

    I would still continue what I am learning right now, which I am going to pursue quantum technology and artificial intelligence in my later years of studies in University. I feel lucky that I am doing just what I love.

    Which flavor best describes you?

    Bitter sweet like Black Russian or vanilla cold brew!! I believe that despite I look like some dressy Japanese girl, there is also great depth in my personality and I promise you’ll never get tired of it!!

    What is a funny or lame attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Frances: Me:”I got 7th place in Singapore for some maths competition!”

    That guy:”Woahhhh that is so hot!”

    Haha. I don’t know, it was the first time I got complimented this way 😏

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Frances. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Brainy is the new sexy!! At least that’s what I hope as a physics girl HAHAHA. But I do think that sexy people must have rich personality well, it’s either knowledge or intelligence (in any form!), because that is what attracts other people. I find Irene Idler and Bond’s girl in Casino Royale most sexy and that is the kind of woman I want to be!!

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    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frrramses/

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  • Model & Makeup Artist Aiko Mei Ying

    Model & Makeup Artist Aiko Mei Ying

    Hi! Everyone, before starting, I want to thank SimplySxy for having me here. I am Aiko Mei Ying, a girl who loves to do photo shooting, travel, eat and help someone make up and dress up. Actually “Aiko” is my nick name and ‘Mei Ying ’is my real name. haha ~ I’m 100% from Malaysia, Pahang but now stay in KL.

    How did your interest in being a makeup artist start?

    Em ~ I think it’s my secondary school that I started to love helping my two younger sisters dress up for them to look pretty when attending dinner / travel / Chinese New Year ~ hahaha ~ my pitiful sisters were like a doll to me. When I graduated from secondary school, I started my professional make up course.

    Which is your most memorable photoshoot or modeling experience?

    So far, I think the lingerie photo shoot and the gentlewomen was the most memorable and it was my biggest break. Because I always took the sweet route, and then the photographer asked me to change the style. Besides that, I also enjoy cat-walking on stage. I remember that my first time catwalking, and almost fell down on the stage because my shoes were too high. But thank god everything went well. I’m also grateful to my expensive people for giving me many chances to try.

    Do you have any favorite quotes or mottos you like to use in life?

    Complain less, be grateful more. Attitude is very important, when you have the right mindset, all the good things will be attracted to you.

    What is your exercise and beauty regime like to look so gorgeous?

    Hahaha ~ I’m lazy to exercise, my exercise maybe is walking / shopping ~ haha ~ yea ~ I love to cycle and dance. Most of my diet is nutrition, to control my body. And my beauty regime is hydrating and it’s more important. My skin care product is very simple: cleanser with make up removal ↣toner ↣serum / essence that’s all.

    Then, a make up can let all girls become a goddess! Finally, having good living habits are also very important like sleeping early before 12am, drinking more water, and being happy every day.

    Would you rather have the ability to be invisible or teleport?

    I more rather teleport because I can go anywhere any more ~ wahahaha ~ No need for transportation and wasting time (imagination).

    How do you like to spend your free time?

    Singing, practicing make up and hair do, photo shooting, reading a book, cleaning the house.

    What is a lame or funny attempt a guy has tried to know you?

    Er ~~ I forgot because I have been in a relationship for around five years ~

    Thank you for taking the time to answer our questions Aiko. One question before we end, how do you define “sexy”? 

    Sexy is very charming and attractive, mature and an elegant symbol. It has a mature and steady mind, and is a change of growth.

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    Facebook page: https://m.facebook.com/Koreanmakeupgallery/?ref=bookmarks

    Personal Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/mei.ying.1426?ref=bookmarks

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aikomeiying/

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