SimplySxy

Author: Shane

  • 7 Tips to enjoy Anal Sex

    7 Tips to enjoy Anal Sex

    Although anal sex is more common than it was before, most people are still shy to discuss or hesitant to try it.  Nonetheless, a lot of people are curious about anal sex even though it might seem as a scary proposition.  Anal sex is definitely enjoyable and we want you to experience it as well.  In addition, anal sex can be a safe, healthy, and sexy way to explore your sexuality with your partner.  Before you plan on having anal sex, there are some essential steps to take before starting any back door action so that both of you will enjoy it.

    1)  Lube up! 

    Use lube, lots of it, as the anus does not produce its own lubricant unlike the vagina.   This is to ensure that both of you have a safe and enjoyable experience.  Lubes help to increase the slipperiness during entry.  Lube your finger and use it for entry first to get your lady comfortable with the feeling.  The difference between water-based and silicone lubes are that the former eventually evaporates and you will need to reapply during the session while the silicone lubes do not evaporate but are thicker.  Remember, you can never use too much lube.

    2)  Relax

    Anal sex can be pretty daunting for any lady especially when it’s her first time.  Create a relaxed atmosphere by giving her a massage to loosen her muscles and tension.  Only when she is relaxed and ready to go should the guy begin to enter her.

    3)  Foreplay

    To be specific, anal foreplay.  Guys, do not stick your penis into your lady’s anus at the very first time of asking.  Start off with some anal foreplay by using your tongue, fingers or anal sex toys to let her get used to the feeling before doing the deed.

    4)  Communicate

    Talk to each other before and throughout the session.  Know your lady’s needs and concerns about anal sex.  Go slow from the start and ask her to let you know if it hurts and if she is okay with the pace.  Communicating with her helps your lady feel comfortable which is important!

    5)  She’s the lead

    Guys, your lady is the lead in this one.  Let her decide the pace, depth and pressure you can use when having anal sex to make it a pleasant experience.  Unlike vaginal sex, the anus is very sensitive and going in rough and hard is not the way.  Move very slow and take your time.  There will definitely be some pressure when going in but stop immediately if it is way too painful.  For beginners, use the spooning position by lying sideways and entering her or doing it doggy style for a start.

    6)  Use protection

    Even though there isn’t a risk of pregnancy, putting on a condom during anal sex minimises the risk of infection and STI transmission.  Never go from the anus to the vagina or mouth without changing the condom!

    7)  Clear your bowels

    Anal sex is not as messy as what most people will imagine.  Certainly, clearing the bowels before anal sex does help, as well as washing the area around the anus with soap is sufficient to ensure the experience is a relatively clean one.

    Go forth, or back rather, and enjoy

    Make sure that you and your partner are prepared for anal sex.  When done correctly, it is a great experience for both parties.  However, a bad experience can put one off for life.  It is always essential to try anything once, so do your homework to make it good for the both of you.

  • 10 ways to drive him crazy

    10 ways to drive him crazy

    There are many stereotypes about guys out there when it comes to sex.  It is on their minds all the time, they love getting blow jobs, fantasise about having threesomes with twins and can have sex at any time of the day.  But what do they really want in bed?  Below are 10 tips men wished women knew that can drive them wild.

    1.  Take control

    Tell him what to do.  Be the lead and have your way with him.  It is a secret fantasy for all men when the women takes over and surrenders completely to her dominance.  Let him lie back and enjoy the pleasure while you do whatever you want with him.

    2.   Show him how you do it

    Men are visual creatures by nature.  Put on a show by masturbating for his viewing pleasure and let him know how much you are enjoying it.  A woman who is able to touch and please herself for her man to watch is self-confident.

    3.  Talking Dirty

    Tease and arouse him by talking dirty.  This is a huge turn on for men.  Throw in naughty words and orgasmic sounds as you talk to him.  You will be surprised by the effects this has on him.

    4.  Initiate

    Men are the ones who usually initiate sex but it is great when the roles are reversed.  Women have their needs too and men like it when the women is the one who initiates.  Let him know how much you want it by putting your hand in his pants and whispering dirty things into his ear.  He loves it when he least expects it.

    5.  Get rough  & kinky

    Sometimes, sex that is a little rough and dirty can be lots of fun.  Bring out the inner beast in him by getting him to go faster, harder and rougher.  Mix in a little bondage by using blindfolds or letting him tie you to the bed.  Throw some spanking in for good measure!

    6.  Take it all in

    Swallowing is the ultimate fantasy of every men.  It might seem gross but it means the world to him.

    7.  Experiment

    Do not be afraid to be kinky or mix things up.  Men love women who are adventurous and open to new possibilities.  Trying new things in bed such as different positions or sex locations at home can create a whole new pleasurable and interesting experience.  Communicate and be open with each other’s fantasies to satisfy both of you.

    8.  Great massages

    Give him an erotic massage all over.  A guy will always love a massage from a woman and what better way to get touchy with him.  Make it a sensual massage by arousing him with your fingers and even your body parts!

    9.  Confidence & Attitude

    Nothing is sexier to a guy than a woman who is confident about herself in all her naked glory.  Confidence is a sexy trait and seduce him with what you have.  Express enthusiasm and eagerness to get maximum enjoyment from sex.  A guy will love being with a woman who enjoys the sex as much as he does.

    10.  Dress sexily

    Wear his favourite lingerie, present yourself as a gift and let him unwrap you slowly.

  • Sexual education, is it being done the right way?

    Sexual education, is it being done the right way?

    An article from the Today paper titled “Elderly should get sex education, too” caught my eye and it was quite an interesting read.  There is a growing concern in the increase of sexually-transmitted infections (STI) among persons aged 50 and above. The top 3 common STIs in this age group were gonorrhoea, non-infectious syphilis, and genital herpes.  Various reasons were mentioned for the increase in STIs.  For men, it was the option of commercial sources of sex such as prostitution and less sex with their partners.  For the women, a drop in condom usage as they got older.

    What set me thinking was the point being made in the article that the experts consulted in the study highlighted the urgent need for education and campaigns to be implemented.  Is our society lacking in this aspect of sexual education?  Or are we just blindly rolling out campaigns and ads but not creating an engaging society because sex is still considered taboo?

    Doing some further digging, I found statistics from the 2004 global sex survey done by Durex which stated that the average age a Singaporean youth loses his/her virginity is at the age of 19.  39% of Singaporean youths have unprotected sex, they have sex an average of 79 times a year and have 5.8 partners on average.  Now 39% is a very high number, with almost one in two youths putting themselves at risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancies.  There were other articles online on unprotected sex among youths and all I can say is that Singaporeans are having lots of sex, more than what is published or spoken, the key thing in educating them is to ensure that they are properly informed on the risks of unprotected sex and the ways they can protect themselves.

    Seems like it’s all Singaporeans who need to be educated on safe sex and not just the elderly from the short research I have done.  Let’s start by being more open to discussion about sex at all ages and remove the stigma that sex is something to be kept private.  For instance, people should not be shy to be seen buying condoms or even owning one.  Instead, they should be respected for being responsible not only for themselves but also to their partners by practicing safe sex.

    The full article mentioned can be read in its entirety here: http://www.todayonline.com/singapore/elderly-should-get-sex-education-too

  • Tenga Egg

    Tenga Egg

    “Easter arrives early” – Shane

    Before my girlfriend gave me a pack of Tenga Eggs for Easter last year, I had never tried a masturbation toy and always relied on my hands to do its job.  Being a guy and influenced by porn, I never thought much of male sex toys and what they could do for me.

    Toys enhance sex lives and the Tenga Eggs provides a new dimension for male masturbation.  The Japanese have always been lauded for their twisted creativity but the Tenga Eggs are an exception to the rule.  Each set comes with 6 different styles (Silky, Spider, Clicker, Wavy, Twister and Stepper) with a neat white packaging.

    To open, simply unwrap and twist the shell, which will reveal a soft stretchable and jelly like egg.  Each Egg conveniently comes with a small pack of lube which is poured into the Egg before use.  I like the inner ribbed design the Egg provides which feels really good on my penis.

    Trying it on for the first time, it looked and felt weird with the Egg on top.  Once I begun stroking the Egg, I felt the sensation growing more intensely.  What I enjoyed most was the ability of the Egg to stretch all the way down my penis, covering the entire shaft with the ribbed lube interior.  With my mind creating sexual fantasies and a new sensation engulfing my penis, it wasn’t long before I came hard into the Egg.  I like the additional fact that my cum is contained inside the Egg as compared to all over when I am use my hands, making clean up quick and easy.

    The Egg can be reused for another 3-4 times if it is washed and cleaned properly.   But with another 5 different styles to try, there wasn’t a need to reuse more than twice.

    A drawback is that it can get a bit messy sometimes when the lube gets everywhere due to the thrusting and with its simple design, the Egg does not provide any additional visual stimulation.

    All in all, the Tenga Egg provides a new sensation to guys who want to try a masturbating toy.  Compact in size, it will fit any penis, accommodating up to 12 inches in length.   The price of the eggs and its re-usability function means it is great value for money.  I personally use it when my girl is on her period or when I want extra spice while having my own personal time.  Once in awhile, we use it during foreplay when my girl gives me head while the Egg is stretched down my entire shaft.  These Eggs are indeed a pleasurable treat to all penises out there!