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  • 10 Ways to Impress in the Bedroom

    10 Ways to Impress in the Bedroom

    Here’s an infographic by UK’s newest online sex shop, Carvaka Sex Toys, on the 10 ways to impress in the bedroom.  Ladie’s and Gentlemen, it’s time to try out these tips for a sexy time!Ways-to-impress-in-bedroom-infographic

     

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  • 7 Tips to enjoy Anal Sex

    7 Tips to enjoy Anal Sex

    Although anal sex is more common than it was before, most people are still shy to discuss or hesitant to try it.  Nonetheless, a lot of people are curious about anal sex even though it might seem as a scary proposition.  Anal sex is definitely enjoyable and we want you to experience it as well.  In addition, anal sex can be a safe, healthy, and sexy way to explore your sexuality with your partner.  Before you plan on having anal sex, there are some essential steps to take before starting any back door action so that both of you will enjoy it.

    1)  Lube up! 

    Use lube, lots of it, as the anus does not produce its own lubricant unlike the vagina.   This is to ensure that both of you have a safe and enjoyable experience.  Lubes help to increase the slipperiness during entry.  Lube your finger and use it for entry first to get your lady comfortable with the feeling.  The difference between water-based and silicone lubes are that the former eventually evaporates and you will need to reapply during the session while the silicone lubes do not evaporate but are thicker.  Remember, you can never use too much lube.

    2)  Relax

    Anal sex can be pretty daunting for any lady especially when it’s her first time.  Create a relaxed atmosphere by giving her a massage to loosen her muscles and tension.  Only when she is relaxed and ready to go should the guy begin to enter her.

    3)  Foreplay

    To be specific, anal foreplay.  Guys, do not stick your penis into your lady’s anus at the very first time of asking.  Start off with some anal foreplay by using your tongue, fingers or anal sex toys to let her get used to the feeling before doing the deed.

    4)  Communicate

    Talk to each other before and throughout the session.  Know your lady’s needs and concerns about anal sex.  Go slow from the start and ask her to let you know if it hurts and if she is okay with the pace.  Communicating with her helps your lady feel comfortable which is important!

    5)  She’s the lead

    Guys, your lady is the lead in this one.  Let her decide the pace, depth and pressure you can use when having anal sex to make it a pleasant experience.  Unlike vaginal sex, the anus is very sensitive and going in rough and hard is not the way.  Move very slow and take your time.  There will definitely be some pressure when going in but stop immediately if it is way too painful.  For beginners, use the spooning position by lying sideways and entering her or doing it doggy style for a start.

    6)  Use protection

    Even though there isn’t a risk of pregnancy, putting on a condom during anal sex minimises the risk of infection and STI transmission.  Never go from the anus to the vagina or mouth without changing the condom!

    7)  Clear your bowels

    Anal sex is not as messy as what most people will imagine.  Certainly, clearing the bowels before anal sex does help, as well as washing the area around the anus with soap is sufficient to ensure the experience is a relatively clean one.

    Go forth, or back rather, and enjoy

    Make sure that you and your partner are prepared for anal sex.  When done correctly, it is a great experience for both parties.  However, a bad experience can put one off for life.  It is always essential to try anything once, so do your homework to make it good for the both of you.

  • 10 ways to drive him crazy

    10 ways to drive him crazy

    There are many stereotypes about guys out there when it comes to sex.  It is on their minds all the time, they love getting blow jobs, fantasise about having threesomes with twins and can have sex at any time of the day.  But what do they really want in bed?  Below are 10 tips men wished women knew that can drive them wild.

    1.  Take control

    Tell him what to do.  Be the lead and have your way with him.  It is a secret fantasy for all men when the women takes over and surrenders completely to her dominance.  Let him lie back and enjoy the pleasure while you do whatever you want with him.

    2.   Show him how you do it

    Men are visual creatures by nature.  Put on a show by masturbating for his viewing pleasure and let him know how much you are enjoying it.  A woman who is able to touch and please herself for her man to watch is self-confident.

    3.  Talking Dirty

    Tease and arouse him by talking dirty.  This is a huge turn on for men.  Throw in naughty words and orgasmic sounds as you talk to him.  You will be surprised by the effects this has on him.

    4.  Initiate

    Men are the ones who usually initiate sex but it is great when the roles are reversed.  Women have their needs too and men like it when the women is the one who initiates.  Let him know how much you want it by putting your hand in his pants and whispering dirty things into his ear.  He loves it when he least expects it.

    5.  Get rough  & kinky

    Sometimes, sex that is a little rough and dirty can be lots of fun.  Bring out the inner beast in him by getting him to go faster, harder and rougher.  Mix in a little bondage by using blindfolds or letting him tie you to the bed.  Throw some spanking in for good measure!

    6.  Take it all in

    Swallowing is the ultimate fantasy of every men.  It might seem gross but it means the world to him.

    7.  Experiment

    Do not be afraid to be kinky or mix things up.  Men love women who are adventurous and open to new possibilities.  Trying new things in bed such as different positions or sex locations at home can create a whole new pleasurable and interesting experience.  Communicate and be open with each other’s fantasies to satisfy both of you.

    8.  Great massages

    Give him an erotic massage all over.  A guy will always love a massage from a woman and what better way to get touchy with him.  Make it a sensual massage by arousing him with your fingers and even your body parts!

    9.  Confidence & Attitude

    Nothing is sexier to a guy than a woman who is confident about herself in all her naked glory.  Confidence is a sexy trait and seduce him with what you have.  Express enthusiasm and eagerness to get maximum enjoyment from sex.  A guy will love being with a woman who enjoys the sex as much as he does.

    10.  Dress sexily

    Wear his favourite lingerie, present yourself as a gift and let him unwrap you slowly.

  • Condom Tips

    Condom Tips

    When it comes to sex, everyone wants to have the best time of their lives.  Hence, it is better to be safe than sorry.  Condoms are one of the best contraceptive options (99% effective) that can prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs including HIV.

    Below is a four step method to follow in ensuring proper use of a condom during sex.

    Step 1

    A condom must be put on first before coming into contact with the vagina, anus or mouth of the partner.  Carefully open the wrapper from the jagged edges and take out the condom.  Never rip it open or use your teeth as this might cause the condom to tear.

    Step 2

    Place the condom with the tip pointing upwards on top of the penis.  Check that the condom is in the right direction so that it can be rolled downwards.  Squeeze the entire reservoir tip of the condom gently (to remove the air) and roll it down the shaft of the erect penis.

    Note that you have put it on backwards, throw it away and use a new one as the pre-cum will have already come into contact with the condom and flipping it over may cause pregnancy.

    For men who are uncircumcised, make sure you pull back the foreskin before putting on the condom.

    Step 3

    Apply lubricant over the condom if necessary.  This helps to protect the condom from damages and also ensures smooth entry into the vagina.  Some lubricants also contain spermicides which can help to reduce any risk of pregnancy.

    Remember never to apply oil-based lubricants as they can cause the condom to breakdown.  Always use water-based lubricants.

    Step 4

    After ejaculation during sex, hold the condom at the base of the penis and withdraw it from the vagina.  This is to ensure that the condom is not left inside the vagina of the lady.  To remove the condom, hold the base and gently roll it off.  Tie it up, wrap it in tissue paper and dispose into a waste bin.

    Extra tips for a more enjoyable experience

    • Ensure that the condoms are kept in a cool dry place.  Heat and sunlight can cause the latex to break so do not leave the condoms in a car or in a wallet.
    • Check the condom for its expiry before usage.  Throw away any condoms past their expiry date.
    • During sex, check occasionally for any tears on the condom or if it has slipped off the penis and dislodged in the vagina.
    • Applying lubricant into the tip of the condom before putting it on helps to avoid breakage and enhances the pleasure for men.
    • Replace condoms if switching from vaginal to anal sex or vice versa.  This reduces the risk of infection.
    • Practice wearing a condom if you have never done so before.  Condoms are easy to use with practice and experience.

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