Carvaka Sex Toys brings you this latest excellent infographic on STDs. With a growing number of people affected by STDs each year, Carvaka shares the facts about the common STDs such as Syphilis and Chlamydia, symptoms to look out for and most importantly, the preventive measures you can take to keep yourself safe. Check it out below!
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Hello readers, I’m Leanna Monroe, a transgender female that works in the adult porn industry. I’m 28 years old and from a small village called Woodsfield Ohio. I started working in the porn industry in June 2014. Since then I have finally loved my job!
My views on sex are probably a lot different than most of the “so called normal society”. I believe you can be in a committed relationship, and still have sex with others. When I am on set, sex is my job and has absolutely no feelings behind it. Whereas sex with my fiance is completely different, we actually make love. Having sex with others also allows you to explore your sexuality as well as things your life partner may not be into. Just cause someone has sex with someone else while in a relationship, doesn’t mean they don’t love that person, it just means they have sexual desires that needs fulfilled. Sex is art! All art is beautiful regardless who it is with!
Safe sex is extremely important these days with all of the STD’s that are out there. But at the same time I must agree with the men on this! Sex is much more enjoyable without a condom! For myself, if I have sex outside of the porn industry I always use condoms! Condoms take the amazing feeling away! You don’t get the full sensation as you would without! Plus me, personally would rather have sex without a condom! Not only does it feel better but the actual penetration feel of a rock hard cock pounding me feels amazing!
I also freaking love cum! I love the feeling of a hot dude busting a load deep in me and feeling it drip out of my tight little ass, or blowing it all over my face! To say the least, I love cum!!! Which is why I completely enjoy working in the porn industry, cause everyone I work with has the lab work showing they’re clean! So I get good wild sex and lots of cum! So if you know you are and your sex parnter is 100% clean, enjoy some sex without the condoms, if not always practice SAFE sex!
When enjoying sex while your partner/partners uses a condom, first find the condoms that doesn’t kill most of the realistic feeling! If you have to, buy a few different kinds and see what you like best! You also know what you like and where the special spots are. I love toys! So regardless of the toy I use I know my spots! So if you have sex with a guy, take control get on top and ride that cock like it is yours and hit that G spot!
I know for myself that I can ride a cock and have multiple anal orgasms with or without a condom! Learn your body and figure out what you like! Never be scared to tell a man what to do! Most men actually get more turned on when you tell them how to fuck you! When they are hitting that spot let them know! If you are willing to get naked in front of the guy, then be willing to tell him what you do and don’t like! Trust me, sex with or without a condom can be extremely enjoyable! If you prefer not to use a condom, make your partner get tested. It’s not rude to be safe!
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“I love you, but I have to let you know that, I have STD. Would you mind?” Be prepared for a cold shoulder and a sour relationship after you mention this to him/her in such a manner.
What kind of reply do you expect? If the person says “yes”, he/she looks like a jerk. If the person says “no”, you seriously doubt if this is just a cover up answer. In either way, the relationship will never be the same again.
Having counselled many clients who asked me the same question, and have even been through this at some point in my life, I only have one answer for them: timing and attitude is the key to this. You cannot reveal this too early or too late into the relationship. Too early will mean the partner can have an easy way out. What I meant by “easy”, is not just in terms of physical commitment, but it is also emotionally easy. Attachment is not so great and thus it is less painful to leave this relationship.
Bringing it out too late in the relationship leaves the partner with no choice. He/She has already given in too much to leave the relationship. The partner may take it negatively and feel cheated after the moment of truth. And of course, putting it across in an acceptable manner is important.
How do we know when is the right time? It can be an internal struggle between integrity and the need to be accepted. Trust me, the person in subject doesn’t feel good at all.
First, you have to be sure that this relationship is genuine and your partner does want to have a future with you. The intention has to be clear. It also shows that you have what it takes to be in a long term relationship with him/her and this truth that you are about to reveal WILL seem significantly less important. Before it gets serious, it is a good time to mention this to him/her. You are doing this out of consideration and you feel that it is important that he/she knows this before moving on.
“I really love you and want to be in a serious relationship with you. But there is a medication condition I have to be transparent to you. I had (this STD) (how many years) ago. It is no longer affecting me and it will no longer do, except when it comes to (certain times, i.e. child labor). I just need to be transparent with you, not because I need your sympathy, but I want to tell you that I made my fair share of mistakes in the past and I am not happy with the way it turned out. I hope you will still love and accept me the same way.”
This should do the magic. Of course, sincerity is always needed. Finding the right one is never easy. I do hope that if you have found this man/woman who will still accept you despite what you have mentioned, treasure this love.
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Was it good for you? That should be the first question that comes to mind after a night of sex with a new partner. You can rate it 1-10 if you like, but you may find the feelings are more like “Hell Yeah!” you don’t want it to end, or what the hell was I thinking? Or how drunk was I? Or worse, I thought that was going to be good sex. Let’s look at what to do before and after:
Hell Yeah, that was great and I hope we can do it again soon. Well then do. Touch your partner again and let new sparks fly with the lights on, I bet it will be even better. Either way, pull out another condom or the first one if you forgot last night and smile. Don’t be afraid to make the first move now, I think you’ve successfully made a home run and you can go up to bat again, unless of course there is work or school responsibilities which either of you have to get too. If so, tell your partner you would love to do it again if it’s true, but you gotta go. Elayne Boosler does a comedy routine about a female walking home from an all nighter in her skimpy black dress in the morning that’s pretty funny to have in your head while you make your exit. Accept that your partner may have to run or may not feel the same about the night. If so, be gracious say thanks for the good time you had and leave. Don’t lie with an ‘I’ll call you’, just don’t.
How drunk was I? Alcohol, weed or other drugs helps you drop your guard and your judgement. Or as my Mom would say, ‘you loose your good sense along with your drawers (panties)’. You may be drunk but there is no reason to take stupid risks. Use your drunkness to help you relax and get past your fears of trying something or someone new, asking the Tough Questions and learning more about your partner. The downside of not asking are quite serious so let’s look at the way to make them opportunities:
I thought this was going to be good sex. But instead it was like flopping around with a dying or dead fish. Good sex is a skill that takes practice. Nobody starts off as a great lover, so going slow and enjoying the steps of building passion is the best advise I can give you for knowing what you like and learning what your partner likes. Good sex in my bed means both partners had an orgasm inducing experience. And if you didn’t orgasm and your partner did and fell asleep right away, that makes for a long uncomfortable night of not sleeping and getting mad when they start to snore. So let’s go back and analyse this one:
1. If you can ask for a drink, you can ask for an orgasm. Remember what my husband said, you gotta ask for what you want. I know by now you can order off a menu, so you also need to ask for the experience you want to have. You have a fantasy about what great sex will be like, so share your fantasy. Whisper it in your partners ear prior to removing clothes so it gives them time to think and plan better or ask you for details. Communication is Sexy. Anyway you say it, shy, bold, flirty is adding the instructions to create a good experience.
2. No two bodies are alike. Your erogenous zones are not like the others. Again, you wouldn’t know if you don’t ask. Play the game, ‘how does this feel?’ Try something, get a response and then say ‘your turn’. This gets you in the practice of exploring the right direction instead of wasting time irritating your partner with the wrong stroke, while they are silently hoping you’ll change positions or move to something else.
3. Don’t stop talking now. Speak up once you get into bed. “Stay here”, “move to the left”, “sit back a little”, “touch me back please”. All these key phrases go a long way in getting a mutually satisfying experience. I think the biggest mistake couples make is that they stop talking when they get in bed together. You can’t go into automatic pilot now, you both have to steer to get where you want to go.
4. If you are with a dead fish, pause for a moment and ask if they are comfortable and where they would like to be touched or what would feel good for them. They may not know so play the ‘how does this feel game’ and get the communication going. If you are with a flopping fish ask them to lay back and let you play a little more. It’s your way of taking the lead and taking the pressure off your partner’s urgency to get there orgasm.
Remember, your first priority is YOU. Your satisfaction, health, respect, feelings. That will take communicating with your partner on how to get there and in turn, you both learn how to take care of yourself. That way they don’t have to wish they read this article because you’ve just trained them.
The Tough Questions – Pregnancy, STD’s, Marks, Bruises or Pain. These are all serious morning-after questions and you can avoid most of them if you communicate before hand. Informed consent is the responsibility of both partners. Making the decision to have sex is something you do before, as it saves on the regrets later.
Will they call again? Maybe, but the question for you is ‘was the experience worth repeating?’ Did you want more just like it was or did you hope to improve it next time? Look at the experience as a one time event and judge whether you would do it again based on what you know now. If you liked it, be thankful and the opportunity for it repeating will come again. If not, focus on what shifts you need to make to get the experience you want. You want to repeat the fun experiences, not the bad ones so learn from them and make it the best sex ever!
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