Have you ever fantasised about having sex like a pornstar? Trying out the various sex positions you see in porn and recreating the hot scenes that reach an explosive climax right at the end. We get a chance to seek Adult actress Kassondra Raine to share her tips on Blowjobs and Anal sex for all those seeking to sex it up a notch in the bedroom!
SimplySxy: Can you tell us a bit about yourself and where you’re from?
Hi I’m Kassondra Raine. I was born and raised in Las Vegas, Nevada. Although I’ve always been a very sexual person, I never expected to become an Adult Film Actress. I majored in psychology at UNLV in hopes of becoming a therapist/psychiatrist. But by my third year, I realized that I had no interest in labeling people with pre-packaged “disorders” and becoming a legal drug dealer for major pharmaceutical companies. So I dropped out of school, and eventually started doing webcam, which lead me into the adult industry! I love sex, I view religion’s perspective that sex is a shameful act as utterly insane. Sex is something that should be supported and celebrated, and I’m very proud to promote that perspective through my scenes and films!
SimplySxy: In your opinion, how much of what’s going in porn can viewers try out successfully at home?
I think viewers can try out anything they enjoy watching in porn successfully at home. To me, that is an important part of the beauty of pornography. It offers viewers a way to discover new fantasies and possibilities, and can help them explore their own sexuality. In my opinion, trying something new is a success in itself.
Kassondra Raine on Blowjobs
SimplySxy: What is your personal view about giving blowjobs?
I personally very much enjoy giving blowjobs. I have found that when I suck cock, it can be very therapeutic to me. I tend to lose myself in the moment. When that happens, all my troubles, frustrations, and daily stresses just melt away, at least for the time being. Of course I want my partner to enjoy it. However, it seems the more I enjoy it myself, the more my partner enjoys it as well.
SimplySxy: With regards to blowjobs, what secrets can you give for ladies to give amazing blowjobs like what is in porn?
There are thousands of books, magazine articles, classes etc. with tips on the latest and greatest techniques for the ultimate blowie. My perspective is that learning a new technique is fine and dandy and can be fun; it’s always good to try something new. However, I believe that technique is only icing on the cake of an amazing blowjob. With technique alone, the experience can be somewhat empty feeling. The driving force that should be fueling and controlling the technique is missing; without it you are just going through the motions. Your mind becomes focused more on your performance rather than being in the moment. The less you are lost in the moment, the less passion and raw sexual desire can be expressed. Sexual experience on a physical level is supposed to be about sharing physical pleasure with someone and having fun. When I am giving a blowjob, or having sex, I allow myself to get lost in my pleasure and desire, without worrying about my skill, technique, or “performance.” When I am in that state of being, there is no self judgement, no room for worry, doubt, or second guessing myself. The mind takes a back seat and pure feeling takes over. So my advice to ladies would be to focus on having fun and enjoying themselves while giving a blowjob. The more you are having fun, the better it will feel for your partner.
On Anal Sex
SimplySxy: Do you enjoy anal sex a lot?
When I am in the right mood, anal sex can be as erotic and pleasurable as anything else, sometimes even more so. However, I have typically preferred vaginal intercourse in general. My sexual preferences have always changed as I have gone through life. There have been occasions when anal sex is uncomfortable and not much fun, and occasions when it felt amazing and turned me on more than anything else. I think it is healthy to explore new things and keep an open mind. You just never know. One day you can cringe at the thought of a certain act or experience and the next day you could love it so much that you don’t know how you have lived without it up to this point.
SimplySxy: How can a couple try out anal sex like what they see in porn?
I think the most important thing to remember is to RELAXXX…. If you are feeling pain it is because you are tense. You become tense when you are anticipating pain. I think that can be one of the biggest hurdles to get over. Where focus goes, energy flows. If you are focused on whether or not it’s going to be uncomfortable, it probably will be. If you are focused on wanting the experience and feeling excited about trying something “naughty” with your partner, then it’s going to feel amazing and be a great experience. Your mindset is extremely important.
Also, remember to have patience with each other. I’m sure the guys out there who are super anxious to put it in their partner’s backdoor would be more open to patience if they had a battering ram trying to break down their exit gate. Women need to practice patience as well. Instead of feeling frustrated that your man doesn’t ever seem to let up on talking you into doing anal, realize that he is just excited to do something new with you, and that is a good thing. If the genders can do their best to see both sides, the sooner we will come into understanding and work together as a team instead of as opposing forces.
There are many different anal training kits that you can pick up from your favorite adult retailer. Pick out the one you would like to give a try and do it together as a team. Who said working toward a goal together couldn’t be fun. Experiment and have a good time with it.
Just released by: Girlfriends Films and B.Skow “In The Flesh as well as A Gonzo Story: “The Mansion Family” from Girlfriends Films and B.Skow
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