I have liked anime almost my whole life. Hentai was a sort of gateway for me into sexuality. It started when a friend showed me some hentai games and then I started watching hentai on my own. So I watched hentai long before I even thought about watching traditional porn. I probably didn’t even look at traditional porn until college. Hentai seemed like more fun to me. The stories are more interesting, you can do more, the outfits are prettier, and the girls are hotter!
What Is Hentai
Hentai is basically just Japanese made animated porn. So mostly, it is of course in Japanese. Since I speak a little Japanese I don’t care very much for subtitles and usually turn them off if I can. I think hentai is popular for the same reason anime is popular. There is just something about anime girls that is appealing to people like me. The sounds they make, the things they say, and the way they look is so different from traditional porn. And although hentai is censored because of Japanese censorship laws, the things people do in hentai has no limits. There are more fantasies played out in hentai than I can even list – most of which can’t easily be done with traditional porn.
How Real Is Hentai
It depends on the hentai, really. Hentai can be either completely out there or based in the real world. I’ve seen hentai about girls on trains, in classrooms, or in their own bedrooms. I’ve also seen hentai where warrior girls are kidnapped by tentacled aliens. The great thing about anime is it has the ability to make even porn scenes that seem mundane become more than they could be in normal porn. You can achieve impossible angles, sounds, and inner dialogue. You can’t do that in normal porn without it seeming cheesy or off. But elements like that are perfectly normal in hentai.
Difference Between Hentai & Porn
I can’t say that I know for sure. Most people I know that are open about watching porn sway more towards hentai. So I don’t have very much experience with lovers of traditional porn. I’d say that hentai lovers are the same as anime lovers. Not everyone is in love with anime, so naturally anyone that isn’t would prefer normal porn. In fact, people who prefer traditional porn may even find hentai weird – but I think those are the same people that find anime weird. You have to be open-minded to like hentai. You have to be alright with absurdly large breasts and even more absurd plots.
Popular Hentai Genres
Oddly enough, I think the most popular hentai genre is the rape fantasies. I have no idea why. But you can’t visit a hentai site without being overwhelmed by hentai about that. Another popular genre is school girls and virginity. There is a fixation on school girls because they are innocent and easy to take advantage of – especially in Japanese culture. In Japan, even holding hands is a slightly inappropriate public display of affection. So there is something extremely erotic in Japan about a school girl having her virginity taken, either by a classmate or an older man. Other fantasies I see a lot in hentai are teachers or other people with authority and way, way too much incest. Like I said, hentai is weird and you have to be open-minded to get into it. I am definitely not saying some of the hentai topics are okay. I usually steer away from things like incest, but it is hard to avoid it.
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My approach to sex with anyone, male or female is always mental first. The reason for this is you know there is a chemistry there and that the levels of fun you may get too can be extreme and a wild ride, maybe even a sensual erotic ride, depending on the person and the activities. Don’t take your clothing off too fast, you may miss the best parts.
First Girl on Girl Experience
I remember high school, playing with a boy and adding a girl to the mix, it was subtle, but enough to spark my interest that is for sure.
Male and females touch differently so the feeling, the softness, the kissing, the hand holding, it is more gentle. I love to add a female to the mix, it is an exciting fully toy.
Why Men Love It
More is better, right? You have a man that is heterosexual and you give him one female, it is awesome. You have a straight man, a couple of girls, and it is like heaven raining down on him. More is better, we all like to binge, so what is the best binge than what turns you on the most sexually and getting it all as fast and furious as possible with as many partners as possible.
Does Being Female Make It Easier To Satisfy Another Female?
Everyone must realize that there is discovery to be had before playtime. This current generation is so quick to jump into sexual acts but I feel they are lacking on why the act is so important and the impact it may actually have if done properly or correctly. I have found if I am playing with a younger female, a lot of guidance is needed. All females are different, they like to be touched different, there are so many ways of stimulating and so many ways of killing a mood if the foreplay is not there.
So, my answer is a solid hard NO, being female does not make things easier if you do not put in the effort for the individual, you just seem like a bumbling idiot. So, instead of taking gender as a cheat sheet, take your time and explore your partner as a person and don’t just put another notch on your bedpost.
Favourite Girl on Girl Positions
All of them, starting from hugging and kissing to burying my face in the back of her neck and taking a long slow deep breath to inhale her scent.
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A male friend of mine and I were having a discussion about porn and erotic literature. We just recently uncovered that something he used to do as a tween has had a profound impact on his adult sex life! WOW. Imagine that. (said sarcastically. For those of you who are new to reading my blog and haven’t heard me rant about “talking to your kids early and often”, this is my mantra).
The back-story here is when he was 12 he began to read Penthouse Forum magazines (he won’t reveal his source or exactly how he came in possession of the “literature”). He would scan the articles and select one based on topic and length. (Size queen? Jk). He said articles that were too short weren’t worth unzipping his fly. When he found one that was appealing, he would commence… do I really need to spell it out here??
This friend was particularly aroused by the stories in Forum that contained what we are lovingly referring to as “the change up” – a typical non-sexual situation turning into something sexual. You know, those instances where the housewife greets the pizza delivery boy and seduces him, or the handy man replacing a light bulb has his pants pulled down around his ankles while he is on the ladder. Those fantasies from his youth were arousing to him then and, until recently, he didn’t realize the lasting impact this had on his sex life. Yet he packed it away into the recesses of his mind and started unpacking because of our open discussions about turn-ons and our basic Core Erotic Themes. So now he understands why, as an adult, he still enjoys fantasizing about the neighbor’s wife, being fondled while doing household chores, and for some inexplicable reason gets aroused whenever someone delivers a pizza.
For parents of tweens: Make sure you are communicating with your children about what they know or are experiencing. Do not assume your children are not exploring their own bodies. Here’s some news for you… the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine 2010 reports by age 14-15, 67.5% of boys had already masturbated in their lifetime, not to mention that 13% of them had already received oral sex from a female in their 14-15 year “lifetime”. Correspondingly, for 14-15 year old girls, 43.3% had masturbated and 10.1% had received oral sex from a male in their lifetime. What is not clear to me from the data is if the girls had masturbated to orgasm, or if they know what female orgasm is?
The stuff your kids are doing and seeing NOW is having a lasting impact on their budding sexuality. If you suppress it, repress it, or otherwise make sex shameful, it may have an adverse effect on how they express themselves sexually as adults. If you talk about fantasy etc. now, they are more likely to have a healthier, sex-positive attitude when they are adults.
I understand: this is tough stuff! As a mother, I get nervous thinking of my own daughters engaging in sexual behavior at what seems to be a young age. I want to make sure I keep their little life rafts moored to the mother ship so they always know they can come to me with questions and that I’ll do my best to answer them. It’s ok to acknowledge your discomfort. It’s ok to say you don’t know the answer but offer to research it together. But please do NOT lie or make shit up. It only pushes your children away from you. If you lie to them and they find out the “real” answer, you will have proven to them that you don’t know what you are talking about. Our kids already think they know-it-all, let them at least know the truth.
For you parents, I want you to remember your own youth. Remember how awkward and uncomfortable it was with all of those hormones and breast buds and first periods or cracking voices and facial hair and growing pains. Did you go through all that alone? Wouldn’t it have been better if a loving, caring adult in your life talked to you about it? Ok, of course lots of you are going to cringe at the thought of your own uncool parent discussing sex but are you so uncool yourself? I know plenty of adults who would rather have someone else have these conversations with their children for them but, really?? Don’t YOU want to stay informed and involved?
This article has been republished with permission from Lanae St.John.
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Do you watch porn alone and without your partner’s knowledge? Ever wished that you could watch it together with your partner? You’re not alone. In fact, many individuals do wish that they could get their partners to watch and enjoy porn together with them. Not only can watching porn together improve your sex lives, it can also bring the two of you closer and learn about each other’s secret fantasies.
So how do you bring up the topic of watching porn together? Sinn Sage, a top adult actress in Lesbian porn and two time AVN award winner, shares some suggestions to make the situation less awkward and intimidating when you decide to ask the question.
A growing number of women are watching porn
ABSOLUTELY. Women are increasing consumers of porn, and being that over 75% of the fan mail I receive are from women, I think it’s very clear that the days of porn being made for men only are long over. For many of us in the industry, the ancient notion that women are being “degraded” is thankfully being phased out, and people are beginning to realize that we are adults and humans and have every right to perform and enjoy sex as much as men. That old way of thinking of us as “victims” is beginning to come across as very sexist. I’ve always felt this way. Why is it okay for men to perform, why are they seen as autonomous, but the women are seen as damaged or somehow “victims” for claiming the right to our sexuality? How is that not incredibly sexist? Thankfully, those views are on their way out. And thankfully also, women are realizing that it is perfectly okay for them to enjoy porn as well!
Different tastes between men and women towards porn
Well, I must say that I loathe to point out the differences between men and women, because ultimately, we are all human and we all enjoy things differently, regardless of sex or gender. Anything I would say in response to that question would be a sweeping generalization. There are simply many types of porn that people enjoy seeing. I would say that the more gonzo style of porn that lacks connection, passion, or creativity would be something more enjoyed by a younger male viewer, who is maybe less sexually mature. I think that in general, most women and people who enjoy lesbian porn like to see that connection, that passion, and they enjoy seeing a focus on the woman receiving pleasure as well as giving it. I guess this is a problem with a lot of mainstream gonzo style porn, it’s all about the man getting off. I think a lot of couples and women, again, generally, enjoy seeing a passionate couple, regardless of gender, enjoying themselves and each other in a genuine way. Cosmo Online wrote a fantastic article about this, and it mentions me in the beginning:
How can I introduce porn to my partner so that we can watch together?
This is a tough one. Obviously, I understand that we are all sexual creatures and we can’t always be there to fuck our partner. Or perhaps we’re tired, or not in the mood, or whatever the case may be. For me it’s been easy to understand that my partner will and does watch porn. I think the problem comes in with insecurity and jealousness. People who get that way don’t understand the difference between reality and fantasy. My fiancee had an ex that made him throw out anything porn related and if she ever caught him watching something, considered it cheating on her. WHAT?! How anyone could feel that way blows my mind. It’s extremely unfair.
I guess to answer the question, I would just say that an open, calm, and honest discussion needs to take place, and realization that it can be a way to AMPLIFY your own sex life to enjoy porn together. Compromise is also important; you need to be watching something that both people enjoy. As far as bringing it up, just don’t be shy!!! Be confident, be open, and say it’s something that you want to try. If you are close with your partner, it should not be a problem. And if you’re not, why are you together?!
Recommendations
I would definitely say pretty much any porn with Sinn Sage would be where to start. I’ve noticed that male viewers really enjoy watching my strap on work, so a lot of the videos I’ve done for belladonna entertainment (Strapped Dykes 1 & 2) or any that I’m in of Strap On Specialist for Sweetheart video would be a great place to start for a couple. My award winning scene with Dani Daniels in the movie Dare by Elegant Angel would be a terrific one to watch as well, that scene is SMOKING hot, and anyone would enjoy watching it. It’s very intense!
Any scene I’ve done with Celeste Star would also be good. As for watching boy/girl stuff, I would probably go with any scene Belladonna was in. I haven’t watched a lot of boy/girl porn, but she was always very genuine and passionate and fucking horny and she will always be my all time favorite porn star.
There is a danger of watching too much porn…
Of course! Just like someone can eat too much ice cream, drink too much alcohol, and do too many drugs, someone can watch too much porn. Doing too much of anything that is fun leads to serious problems. I have a friend who is now unable to achieve an erection because he became addicted to porn. Our brains have all kinds of chemicals running through them that do various things, and what we input into our brain affects our neural pathways and creates physiological differences in us. It’s best to do everything in moderation!
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At the moment the fastest growing audience for porn is women. This doesn’t come as much of a surprise when you consider they’re the biggest group to be excluded (as viewers), be it by societal taboos, film content, or physical accessibility. The internet changed all that; easy access (no more trips to the XXX Shoppe), more content than you could ever need, and a new idea of anonymity that allows many taboos to be dropped. Mainstream producers have tried to cash-in on this new audience, and have succeeded to varying degrees, but women are one of the biggest viewers of amateur porn, and male directors and producers trying to cater to what they’ve been told are female fantasies are often missing the point – the subject matter may be more appealing to women, but it’s still filmed via the masculine eye; the camera still looks to the places men see as important or engaging during sex.
Zahra Stardust
So if you’re sick of the same old formulaic porn, or just never got into the whole ‘slam, bam, thank-you ma’am’ thing, listen up. There’s a whole new wave of porn being made by women FOR women, and Australia is leading the charge. As a population, Australia is small. As a porn ‘industry’ we’re even smaller, thanks to many a Draconian law and the fact you must shoot in the ACT to avoid most illegalities. But here’s the thing: in recent years several of our filmmakers have won coveted awards at porn and erotica festivals the world over. We have huge amounts of talent within our tiny pool. Australia had an astounding representation at this year’s Feminist Porn Awards (FPA), with nominations in more than half the categories, and several winners. Gala Vanting won ‘Hottest Kink Film’; Ms Naughty and Blake took out ‘Best BDSM Scene’; Morgana Muses starred as ‘Heartthrob of the Year’. Zahra Stardust received an Honourable Mention; and Bright Desire was one of three websites to get an Honoured Mention for ‘adult website’, quite a feat considering how many are out there.
I was lucky enough to speak with Ms Naughty, Gala Vanting and Zahra Stardust on feminist porn, inspiration and what the future holds.
MisKnickers (MisK): How long have you been making films?
Gala Vanting (GV): For a decade now!
Ms Naughty (MsN): I’ve been creating and curating porn online since 2000 but I didn’t start making films until early 2009. I did a short course in filmmaking and just made it up as I went along.
Zahra Stardust (ZS):I’ve been working in the sex industry for ten years in various capacities. I started as a stripper and performed in my first porn scene in 2009. A few years ago I began collaborating with other performers and producers to make films that combine art, sex and politics.
Ms Naughty
MisK: Who or what have been your major film making influences?
MsN:I have always been inspired by the work of Candida Royalle. She and Annie Sprinkle are my ‘porny godmothers’ – they paved the way for us. I also admire Petra Joy and Erika Lust’s work; they both emphasise the female gaze and put a lot of effort into making their films look good. Ovidie is also brilliant. She has such a great sense of humour. Beyond that, I’ve gained a lot of inspiration from attending the Berlin Porn Film Festival – there are so many amazing ideas and clever filmmakers there, I always find it inspiring.
GV: Annie Sprinkle was also one of the major influences on my choice to start doing this work. But I’d say that creatively, Vincent Moon is my biggest influence – just on the way that I shoot and the processes of production.
ZS:Internationally I was always head over heels for Belladonna and the incredible things she did with her body on set. I love Madison Young’s blending of art and porn and her projects exploring sexuality, pregnancy and motherhood. I’ve been lucky enough to work with my idols Jiz Lee, April Flores and Courtney Trouble, and always admired the production ethics of Shine Louise Houston. Here in Australia I’ve been inspired by community-owned, queer, feminist porn like Slit Magazine and projects aiming to document sexualities, like Sensate Films’ Slow Porn Manifesto.
Gala Vanting
MisK: How do you describe feminist porn, and did you start making it as a personal aesthetic or a social statement (or both!)?
MsN:The question of “what is feminist porn?” is a little bit like “how long is a piece of string?” There’s numerous discussions about how to define it; some say it’s not a genre but a movement, a group of like-minded individuals working towards change. Feminist porn creates space for the female gaze; it acknowledges that women want to look and want to be aroused. It understands that we do like looking at male bodies! It creates space for queer and trans representation, for a wider variety of body types and races and it allows room for men to be depicted as something other than robotic humping sex machines whose only goal is ejaculation.
Sex is such a huge subject, it’s so multifaceted and it’s a vital part of the human experience. Feminist porn isn’t just about arousal; it can be about emotion, about protest, about art. A feminist porn film can be sexy AND intellectual at the same time.
I started making my films for a number of reasons. One was purely commercial, but I also wanted to bring my own ideals and aesthetics to porn, to shoot stuff that you didn’t see often – a female point of view, an admiration of the male body, a focus on female pleasure and desire. I guess you could say it was a social statement: I wanted to show that porn could be better than it was – more sensual, less sexist, better looking, more realistic.
GV: Feminist porn is as diverse as feminism, and feminists. For me, it’s basically any porn whose production and presentation is influenced by a feminist ethic. Not everything that calls itself ‘feminist porn’ looks feminist to me, but there’s something about me that loves that debate and that diversity. For me it was a political project first and foremost. The aesthetics came later.
ZS: Feminist porn is a movement, genre, and ethic that affects everything from conceptualisation, production, marketing and consumption. As a movement the challenge is to think intersectionally about sexual politics and sexual rights relevant to those in our communities who are marginalised by criminal laws, over-policing, racism, ableism, and transphobia.
Zahra Stardust
MK: What inspires you to do this work?
GV:Sex. Intimacy. The people in my productions. My creative partner Aven Frey. And the response of the people who see our work.
MsN:I do it to earn a living, of course, but I also want to change the sexual and pornographic landscape. We’re still so backwards when it comes to sex and sexuality. The majority of porn isn’t really showing the beauty or diversity of our sex lives. So I want to expand the possibilities of how we depict sex and to make it into an artform. DH Lawrence once said that pornography was an attempt to insult sex, to do dirt on it. I want to lift it away from that, to show a positive, joyful vision of sex.
ZS: Outrage at injustice (over bans on g spot ejaculation, visible inner labia or fisting); wonder in exploring the thresholds of my body; pleasure in radical acts of intimacy and the creative process; and contributing to a community and body of work with broader significance.
Ms Naughty
MsK:Do you suffer from any social stigma regarding your work? Do you have to remain clandestine?
MsN: I do have to be careful who I tell because I live in a country town in a fairly religious area so I would imagine there would be people here who might take exception to my work. I’ve declined TV appearances because I don’t want to be recognised. At the same time, I recently spoke at a mainstream feminist conference and they were very welcoming.
GV:I choose to be pretty ‘out’ about what I do. But of course it comes with stigma. I’m also a sex worker, and pretty out about that. I notice that porn shares some stigma with sex work, but also kinda has some of its own unique little pressures, because it’s a form of cultural production very visible to the mainstream, and about which everyone has an opinion.
ZS: Stigma and criminalisation are leading killers of sex workers around the world. People performing in and producing porn face institutional discrimination – in setting up bank accounts, obtaining billing, finding leases, getting other employment, and on social media and crowdfunding platforms. We then face individualised stigma on a daily basis that overwhelmingly shapes our lives and identities.
Gala Vanting
MisK: Is it difficult to get a film made in Australia?
GV: In a word, yes. And is very much influenced by your own personal resources, because most producers here work completely independently.
MsN: I’ve made one feature film and I financed that myself. Every scene I shoot for Bright Desire is self-funded. There is no ‘industry’ to speak of, just a few people doing their own thing. Some of us have done crowdfunding, but mainly we’re really DIY. We network to find talent and locations but it’s pretty low-key.
ZS: So much so that it is the topic of my PhD research!
MisK: How does our (Australian) industry compare to those overseas? Would you ever contemplate working offshore?
ZS: Because the Australian porn industry is so tiny, much of our work involves shooting overseas. There’s quite a bit of crossover – Australian films are represented at all major international porn film festivals and we contribute to international queer and feminist porn dialogues, texts and community.
MsN:We’re tiny compared to overseas. I’ve looked at the options for working in Berlin or the Netherlands. Europe is so much more open about sex and porn. I’m often jealous about how easy it is to shoot there; you can hire studios, advertise openly, there’s a lot more talent and people take you seriously. But I don’t know if the weather would agree with me.
GV:I do (contemplate working overseas). I don’t have much involvement in the mainstream industry, so I can’t make a point of comparison there. I work mostly in circles of queer people and artists, who are always struggling to produce their work and who are always generously working on one another’s productions.
Ms Naughty
MisK: Do you think porn is becoming more or less culturally relevant, and how does this affect your role as a filmmaker?
MsN:I think porn has become a very culturally relevant issue thanks to the internet. It’s ubiquitous and that is causing a lot of moral panic. I understand the concern that young people are encountering it online and using it as their sex education, especially when official sex ed is so lacking in real-world information about consent, pleasure, technique and relationships. Porn can be fun but it shouldn’t be sex education. That’s like watching a Hollywood car chase and using it as driving instruction. We absolutely need to be improving our sex education and helping young people to think critically about pornography.
I also understand the feminist concern with the gender and race politics on display in a lot of mainstream porn. There’s far too much sexism and negativity out there and not nearly enough diversity in how porn depicts sex. I can understand the worry that bad porn shapes the attitudes of the viewers but I think it’s something that needs to be properly researched. I’ve yet to see any peer reviewed conclusive evidence that porn is addictive or harmful.
All of this does affect my role as a filmmaker because I’m aware of the need to show an alternative vision: to bring the feminist, female perspective to porn; to show sensual, fun, pleasurable sex; to show diversity and equality.
GV:It is always culturally relevant. Its relevance and meaning changes with time and geography. This affects my role in the sense that I need my work to speak to some of the questions that diverse forms of sexual expression beg about our culture.
ZS:I think user generated porn is where it’s at. With new technologies, people are taking over the means of production and representing themselves. We’re seeing more collaboration, increased community ownership, and the democratisation of porn. It’s exciting.
Zahra Stardust
MisK: What projects do you have coming up?
MsN: I’m busy with updating my various sites. I have a few ideas for features, but I need to find the time to develop them. In the meantime, I’m going to offer my feature film The Fantasy Project as a wider release very soon.
GV:At the moment I’m collaborating with CLAUDE, the NSW women’s sexual health project, on a film about queer women and bloodplay. It’s very interesting to team up with the public health sector to make provocative media about sexuality, and I’d love to continue to work in this way.
ZS: In October I can’t wait to co-present Getting Our Hands Wet: Fisting and Ejaculation along with queer femmes Gala Vanting, Sadie Lune and Wendy Delorme at the Berlin Porn Film Festival. It’s a 4 hour workshop involving discussion, anatomical diagrams, film screenings and live explicit demonstration.
MisK: How can people access your work?
MsN: My main site is BrightDesire.com – that has all my videos. I write regularly about porn and feminism at MsNaughty.
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Pay-per-view was the beginning of a system allowing viewers to see what they wanted to see and when they wanted to see it. It allowed interactive communication between providers and the subscribers. Pay-per-view was based on the simple principle of providing people what they were paying for. There was a time when cable and satellite operators made huge profits with adult video on-demand and adult pay-per-minute view. This was because while Hollywood got the larger share, when it came to revenue split between Hollywood studios and cable operators, almost 90% of the revenue went to cable operators in the case of adult content.
PPV was designed with the aim to emphasise convenience. Viewers could enjoy a live event or a movie in the comfort of their home without having to go to a stadium or a movie theatre. All they needed to do was dial the PPV number shown on TV a few minutes prior to the beginning of the program they wanted to watch. Moreover, viewers did not need to tie themselves to any long term commitment, and had the facility of paying for exactly what they wanted to see.
However, cable pay-per-view had some major inconveniences as well that contributed to it not being as popular among customers as it was expected to be. Today, most of the inconveniences have been overcome with the facility of porn pay-per-minute available on the internet.
There are numerous porn enthusiasts who prefer to explore a wide range of adult content available both on cable and on the internet. According to various surveys, a large number of people who pay their cable operator for watching adult content also pay for such content on the internet. These dual-users can best cite the beneficial aspects of porn pay per minute available on the internet over the one provided by cable operators.
Here are some of the major aspects worth mentioning:
Convenience of Time: Cable pay-per-view allowed users to watch adult content according to the scheduled time of the providers. The inconvenience of this situation lay in the simple fact that viewers were restricted to watching porn only during a fixed time of the day or week. Internet pay-per-minute has eliminated this inconvenience by providing customers the facility and option to watch porn whenever they felt like. Since hardcore porn enthusiasts can feel the urge and desire to indulge in the pleasure of watching hot and steamy adult content anytime and anywhere, the internet poses a much better option than cable when its comes to adult pay-per-minute.
Control on the Content: Individuals differ in terms of sexual orientation. While some might get turned on by watching lesbian sex, others might derive sexual pleasure from transsexualism. However, with cable pay-per-view, viewers have no control over the content being aired on television. It is completely up to the providers to decide what kind of adult content would be shown. Internet pay-per-minute on the other hand allows viewers to decide on the kind of content they would like to watch to satisfy their sexual fantasies.
Long Waiting Hours: Cable pay-per-view can often keep viewers waiting for a long time in case the previous program is already on. Internet pay-per-minute allows customers to watch porn the instant they feel the urge without having to wait even for a minute. Moreover, while internet porn allows users to replay a movie in case they want to, cable pay-per-view requires you to make the same payment all over again in case they want to watch a particular movie twice.
When talking about the difference between cable adult pay-per-view and internet porn pay per minute, it is one’s individual freedom of making a choice that gives the internet a winning edge over cable.
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Hello everyone at SimplySxy.com! My name is Rachael Madori and I’m an adult performer from New York City but will soon be relocating to Los Angeles for my career. I’ve been in this line of work for about seven months which seems short but seven months is a good amount of time to learn the ropes and get a good grip of what this job entails. Personally I’m a low-key kind of girl. I enjoy my time away from shooting porn by working out at my gym, reading whatever book has caught my eye and exploring the ever changing city of New York with my boyfriend. I’m also a serious foodie and avid blogger. I’m really excited to be writing this piece because I always say that my favorite thing about being an adult actress is that I can speak on many subjects surrounding this industry. I want to speak to the women who are not in front of the camera. Hopefully I’ll be able to clear up some rumors, squash some misconceptions and bring to light some things that every girl can learn from a porn star.
I’m going to start off my talking about some of the misconceptions that have been brought to my attention and that I myself had developed from watching porn before I became a part of the industry. First let’s talk about pubic hair. As I was growing up, I always thought it was disgusting and the opposite of sexy to have any pubic hair between my legs. Porn made me think so. However, there is so much porn showing women sporting little patches or full blown bush. As my manager and many directors are saying nowadays: “Bush is in!” Whatever your preference is for your vagina don’t ever let the idea that clean shaven is the only way to look sexy. I have been as smooth as a baby down there ever since I was fourteen years old and in the past few months I’ve been sporting a cute triangle patch and have never felt more hot. It’s honestly a preference and I’m strangely proud of my hair down there. I feel about my bush the way men feel about their beards. So whatever your preference is: own it and feel sexy.
The second misconception I want to bring to light is the truth about foreplay. I feel as if men will watch porn and obviously the sex doesn’t happen an hour into the video, it happens within the first few minutes most of the time. This creates a weird idea that in the real world when a man and woman are ready to have sex he can just finger jam you for a few seconds and then stick his dick inside of you. Foreplay isn’t necessary in porn. It is in real life. Men and women alike need to understand a pussy isn’t always ready and a penis isn’t always up and running. The illusion of zero foreplay in porn exists because while the camera isn’t running that’s where the foreplay is. The male talent is getting his dick up and hard while I’m getting my vagina wet and willing. If I’m not feeling it that day there is a magical thing called lube that you don’t see me use on camera but honey, a porn set without lube is not a porn set. So let’s nip the idea that foreplay isn’t needed in the butt. When I’m having sex in real life, off set, it’s the time before I let him inside me that is really hot. The anticipation. Your job of pleasing him. His job of turning you on. It’s very important.
This next idea that porn makes people drastically underestimate is anal. I don’t know how many times I’ve met men that think having anal sex in real life should be just as easy as it looks in a porno. I’m sorry but I love anal in my personal life and it is no where near what I experience shooting it on set. Some people aren’t even aware that you must use lube when putting anything inside of your ass. In porn, there is so much preparation before an anal scene. We use butt plugs going up in size to make our butt more comfortable with having large things put inside of it. We use enemas to clean out our assholes and make sure there isn’t a mess. This isn’t always the case either. Accidents happen. When you start sticking things in odd places that technically weren’t meant to have things stuck inside them you can’t be surprised when someone shits on you. The difference is when accidents happens in porn you don’t see it in the video. When accidents happen in real life, you can’t yell cut and have your personal assistant clean up the mess. Anal takes time, practice, a lot of lube and a lot of trust. Don’t ever let someone expect you to take a dick in the ass like an anal queen on Brazzers.
This one is for anyone interested in penises. One of the biggest misconceptions porn brings to people outside of the industry is penis size. I’m sorry but eleven inches is not the average dick length. I’ve met women and men alike who see a seven inch penis and consider it below average and small. Not only are there drugs to keep dicks going strong for hours on end but the pool of men in porn are not the “average” guy. Also, the idea that only a giant cock can please a woman is so far off from the truth it upsets me when men become self-conscious because of the types of men I work with on set. Being confident in yourself is the number one way to have great sex. Watching porn and comparing yourself to a small pool of men who happen to have larger than average dicks is only detrimental to your self-esteem and pretty illogical.
The last thing I want to talk about that seems great in a porno but not so great in real life is the sex positions. I’m a little torn on this subject only because I think it is extremely important to not keep doing missionary every time you have sex. Personally I think if you do this it will end up boring one or both of you. However, if you watch porn and think your girl will take your dick in a pile-driver position for half an hour, you’re also wrong. The thing about porn is if I’m put in a difficult position to hold such as reverse cowgirl or wheel-barrow I am only holding that motion for five minutes, tops. So, although it is very important to keep sex fun and engaging please don’t expect your girl or guy to hold an absurd position for too long because you see them doing it in a porno. Remember I get to cut camera, stretch it out and return to the position later. You don’t.
Now it’s time for me to talk about some truthful things that porn can teach you. The first and foremost thing you should learn is the women and/or men in the video are confident in their abilities and you should be too. I don’t have the perfect body, I don’t suck dick the perfect way, I can’t ride a dick perfectly and I’m not always that great at doing a sexy strip tease. The important thing is I am still confident. Porn has taught me to love my body and to love all the things it’s capable of. So what if you can’t deep throat an eleven inch penis? You would be surprised at the lists some performers have of what they can’t do and they don’t beat themselves up over it. The women and men I’ve met in the industry have confidence to them even though they know they aren’t perfect. You have these men and women getting in front of dozens of people in a room and exposing themselves to the most invasive and personal form of criticism. If they can do this, you can be confident enough in yourself and non-judgmental of your partner.
The next thing porn shows that is truthful is variety! No, not all the positions are easy or even doable for an extended period of time but the point is to spice things up. You never see the same position through an entire porno. That would be boring to watch and it’s boring to do. You don’t have to go crazy and have your man screw you doggie style while you hang halfway out of a window but it’s important to keep things interesting. You and your partner could watch a porn and find a new position you’ve never tried that doesn’t look too difficult. Tell him you want to try it out and you won’t be surprised when he gets excited. Being adventurous and willing to try new things in the bedroom is a huge reason I love creating the porn I create. Sometimes I picture a couple watching one of my videos and being inspired by something I do which leads them into the bedroom. Sex is such a raw and natural phenomenon that finding new ways to experience it is beautiful. Maybe you could buy a new kind of toy for him or her. Experiment with different lubes, dick rings, vibrators, blindfolds or handcuffs. You never know what freaky desires you’ll find deep inside yourself and your partner.
Another truth that you don’t see on camera but I feel inclined to talk about is sexual boundaries. Whatever happens in a porn video is consensual and agreed upon by both the man and woman. This is always how it should be in real life. Just as I’m never afraid to stand up and make very clear what I am and am not okay with, you should feel equally as convicted about your boundaries. I would never let a fellow talent, director or producer push me to do anything I wasn’t willing to do or try. You should always know your worth and your limits. It’s extremely important when engaging in anything sexual. Your body is the most personal thing you have and it shouldn’t be taken for granted. I love trying crazy new things but there are always safe words, a mutual understanding of what exactly is too far and there is trust. Make sure this is the case in real life too.
Now let’s talk about dirty talk. If you think dirty talk is just for the porn stars, you’re wrong. We talk every minute of every day. It’s our form of communication. Why wouldn’t we use it to our advantage while we do the most personal thing in the world? A lot of my girl friends that are not in the industry tell me: “I know you dirty talk on video, but you don’t do it at home with your man right? It’s just porn talk.” That’s not the case! Don’t feel weird shouting the things that come to your mind while you’re having sex. I mean as long as it’s not someone else’s name. Personally I think dirty talk drives men crazy but I’m not a man so I can’t vouch. Even if it’s not dirty talk don’t feel weird telling them to keep hitting the same spot, move to the left or smack your ass. I don’t shout a script in my videos, I say what my body wants me to say. Embrace your ability to communicate!
The last thing porn can teach you is HAVE FUN. Unless you’re watching a very hardcore and dominating scene everyone in the video is usually having a steamy good time. Let that slutty side come out in the bedroom. Embrace your inner carnal instincts like the ones you see on camera. Don’t feel weird yelling out, scratching his back and getting lost in each others’ bodies. Porn should be sexual inspiration not a video reminding you what you can’t do. I love the movies I create because I’m giving my fans and anyone who watches it a fantasy. Sex is nothing to be embarrassed of, nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to feel weird about. Whether you’re prude by nature or a down right slut: own who you are. The porn stars you see have completely accepted their natural feminine sexuality and embodied it. You are no different in this aspect! What a girl can learn from porn stars is that wether we’re on camera or behind closed doors our sexuality is undeniable, it deserves to be explored and it is nothing to be ashamed of and you are just the same.
I really hope I’ve cleared up some things about porn and porn stars. It’s really important to me to break down the negative stigmas surrounding the sex industry and bring to light that porn stars are normal women too. We’re not here to make others feel inadequate, we’re here to inspire sexuality. Let’s not forget that pornography is filmed and edited, real life isn’t! Be proud of your body, your abilities and don’t judge your sexual partner too harshly. We’re all here on this Earth, enjoying each others bodies and our own.
More of Rachael’s works: “Barbarella XXX: an Axel Braun Parody” for WickedPictures: Coming soon! “Down The Throat 3” for NewSensations: Coming out 2/26! “Back Up Plan” for PornFidelity: Out now! “Let’s Try Anal” for Mofos: Out now!
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It’s time to dispel the number one myth I have received since becoming an independent sex worker: “That’s easy! All you do is get naked/masturbate on camera, and then the money comes pouring in!” I have two giant problems with this. The first one is that I am going to school to become a writer. Writing comes much easier to me than sex work does. But no one has ever claimed that that isn’t a real job. And the next is what I am going to focus this article on: the idea that what I do is easy work.
Now, if I compare what I do to my vanilla job, (I work at an arcade) then in the short run, sex work is easier than standing on my feet for eight hours. But at the same time, at that job, all I do is refill tickets and give people change for the most part. I deal with stupid questions in great quantity, as well, but I deal with that on an even greater scale as a sex worker. You wouldn’t believe some of the things people have asked me. My personal favorite? “How can you be a sex worker if you have a boyfriend?” They then went on to equate my job to cheating. The cringing was award-worthy. In the long run, sex work takes much more of my time and energy. Each thing I have produced, I have devoted much more time to than I do working an eight-hour shift at my vanilla job. So, here’s how it goes.
The first thing I must do is set up my surrounding area. This alone could take up to an hour. I am my own set designer, and if I finish, and it doesn’t look good, I tear it all down and start over. Sometimes my vision is more than I can take on. Sometimes that means a set or video I have planned won’t even get shot. If my surroundings don’t look good, I can’t shoot the set or video, knowing it wasn’t up to my standards.
Next, I am my own hair and make-up stylist. And I love long, gorgeous wigs. But long, gorgeous wigs are prone to major tangling and small objects getting caught in them. In one of my newest sets, I had to sit there and brush and pick out leaves from my wig for several hours. I had worn it out to the woods for another thing I shot, and leaves were stuck all over it. Make-up is also difficult, because the only one around to tell me if it looks good or not is my boyfriend, and while I trust his opinion, I also think he’s more prone to tell me it looks good than someone else might be. This process can sometimes take four or more hours. Especially when I’m doing full-on face paint with a long wig.
Now for the fun part! Shooting it! The part that people think is all I do, and then it magically gets up and sells itself! And shooting is tough. Really tough. Videos are easier for me. But they require acting, and if a shot isn’t angled in a pleasing way, I will have to delete it and start over. Sometimes I have to redo the entire video because none of the shots turned out how I wanted. And shooting a set is the farthest thing from easy. I self-shoot for the most part. Coming up with poses, angling the camera, figuring out how to work with my space, sitting there for three or more hours coming up with what I’m going to do, distorting my body until it hurts to get a decent photo, struggling with the camera, trying to get at least 200 photos so that when I chop them down I’ll have enough left over. None of that is easy. And it’s exhausting. And my body aches for several days afterwards because of the ways I was posing.
The next part also takes several hours: Editing! This is my least favorite part of sex work. It’s a struggle. It takes a ton of patience It takes a ton of looking at myself taking my clothes off over and over again, watching the same clips over and over, making sure it looks good, flows together, and that the time of each clip makes sense. I have to walk away from it a lot of the time because I get so frustrated.
Then, I post previews, and the marketing begins. And it doesn’t end. I still market stuff I shot two years ago. If I keep something, the job related to said thing never ends. I don’t just throw up a preview, call it a day, and wait for the money to flow into my bank account. If I don’t keep updating, doing sales, reminding people my content exists, no one will buy it. Sometimes I’ll release a video, talk about it for a while, and then come back to it months later and start posting about it again, and get a ton of sales from people who just learned about me and didn’t even know about its existence. More than anything, sex work is about marketing and running your own business – but most of the time, without a business degree. I don’t know the first thing about business aside from what running this “business” has taught me, and yet I do it, and I’m good at it, and I make sales almost daily.
And it doesn’t end there, either. You have to be ready to answer the same thirty questions a day. To be patient with customers who don’t know how to read the page you’ve set up to tell them exactly what they need to do in order to receive your content. To deal with people who think you’re nothing but a lazy whore, and will tell you that over and over again, multiple times a day. It doesn’t matter how many people I put on Ignore on Tumblr, enough people exist in this world who think I’m a lazy whore that they will keep reminding me about it. You have to deal with people who don’t accept that the people in your life could be okay with it. Who will judge you, stigmatize you, and even criminalize you.
You also have to be original to be in this industry. There’s so many people doing the exact same thing, you have got to figure out what sets you apart. For me, it was being a metalhead and a cosplayer. Lots of guys are into my alternative style, and find it sexy. Lots of people find the fact I cosplay a turn-on. I am able to use these aspects of myself to create original content. Figure out what sets you apart, and utilize the hell out of it. Which goes into another aspect of the work behind sex work: you are your own creative director. You don’t have a team of people coming up with your latest, most original video idea yet. You have to do that on your own.
If sex work was easy, there’d be a lot more sex workers selling a lot more content. But the fact of the matter is: a lot of sex workers will quit the industry really fast because they’re surprised the money isn’t pouring in. I’ve witnessed it time and time again. If you think you can just take a quick masturbation video, not edit it, post about it once, and then sit back with a wine glass while people line up to pay for that one video by the thousands, you’re going to be in for a rude awakening.
Sex work is real work. Sex work is tough work. Sex work takes time, patience, and dedication. Sex work takes passion. And I put every fiber of my being into being the best as I can be, and it has paid off. Every day, I am getting new customers. My income for this year has more than doubled since last year. No one can tell me that that is because of anything other than hard work.
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Michele Masters, 27 years old, 5ft 3, 112 pounds, 34 B natural breasts
Toronto, Ontario
Married to Mike Masters, photographer
I enjoy living the swing lifestyle with my husband in Canada, photo graphing and recording our sexual adventures and having a great time! I have been featured on pornstarradio.com,mhogpodcast.com, and have a few other spots coming in the near future including a full nude spread in the May issue of ALL Pleasure magazine. I love being on cam, being naughty in front of people and I thought my site would be an awesome way to be live with so many other people!
SimplySxy: In this industry, women are way more popular than men. Do you think its tough for your male counterparts to breakthrough?
Michele Masters: Yes. It’s tough for anyone but men even harder.
SimplySxy: Have there been moments where male star is unable to get an erection or perform to expectations?
Michele: Yes. But you work with it. Take a break or help him out. ‘Fluff it‘ as they call it.
SimplySxy: Can you share with us one funny/awkward/embarrassing moment that have happened on set?
Michele: The camera lights fell on top of us while having sex. No one was hurt but it killed the mood for a bit.
SimplySxy: Which is your favourite porn scene to shoot?
Michele: Definitely girl on girl. I love men but I love the soft touch of a woman.
SimplySxy: Do you think condoms should be used during filming?
Michele: I do. But most are tested 1 to 2 times per month to be safe.
SimplySxy: The age old question, does size really matter and what is ideal for you?
Michele: It doesn’t have to be big if you know how to use it. Too big is too much. I like about 7-8 inches myself.
SimplySxy: What turns you on the most?
Michele: I love woman. I love group sex. I love watching two bisexual men as well.
SimplySxy: Let our male readers in on a secret. What can a guy do to ensure the girl is satisfied?
Michele: Put her first. A guy will cum. But get her to cum first and she will be hooked. Use your tongue or fingers or even a toy but get her to cum!
SimplySxy: For our female readers, give one reason why they should give oral sex.
Michele: To satisfy your partner. Don’t want him to stray? Besides I think sucking cock is fun! Its hot and my husband loves watching me in the act.
SimplySxy: Allow our imagination to run wild. Share with us what you will do to your guy to give him the night he won’t ever forget?
Michele: I make sure he cums. But also I try to find out what his secret turn ons are. The ones he is afraid to admit. Those are the ones he will enjoy the most.
A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:
I love to show off. I’ll be live camming soon on a few different sites because I love to interact with my fans and making them cum personally is a big turn on for me. I’ll be announcing where soon through my twitter and Facebook so follow me! Love you all!
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Find out more about ladies’ pornstar Ela Darling, who shares with us how pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship as well as the craziest place she has ever had sex.
SimplySxy: What is your personal view on pornography?
Ela Darling: I think pornography is a hell of a career and I love it.
SimplySxy: With the pornography very easily accessible on the internet, do you think anything should be done to control youths and children from having access to it?
Ela: I think that the best way to protect kids from the negative effects of porn is through communication and facts. Parents should communicate with their kids candidly about sex, consent, and how to have safe sex. They should discuss what pornography is and explain that pornography is a form of adult entertainment that portrays a fantasy which is much different from normal sex.
SimplySxy: How do you think pornography can be useful and healthy in a relationship?
Ela: Partners can watch porn together to initiate sex or explore new sexual experiences they’d like to share together. If one person has a specific sexual fetish or interest that their partner doesn’t share, they can use porn as an outlet for that sexual interest. If one partner has a stronger sex drive, they can get sexual release from porn rather than being unfaithful to their partner.
SimplySxy: Please share with us one tip for ladies to enjoy giving oral sex?
Ela: If a lady doesn’t like oral sex, she shouldn’t do it. Don’t force yourself to do sex acts that you genuinely don’t enjoy.
SimplySxy” Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex that was nothing to do with filming?
Ela: Either in the middle of a field in a residential neighbourhood in Texas or in the middle of a casino in Vegas.
SimplySxy: Which do you think is the sexiest part of your body?
Ela: I think the sexiest part of my body is my brain. My mind is a dirty, sexy place
SimplySxy: What is your favourite sex position in bed?
Ela: I like to be fucked doggy style while my partner pulls my hair and slaps my ass.
SimplySxy: Share with us one secret to spice it up in bed with a lover?
Ela: Explore the veritable cornucopia of kinks and fetishes and find something new that you both like that you haven’t experienced yet.
SImplySxy: What defines a sexy woman according to you?
Ela: To me, sexy is a smart, confident, boss ass woman who knows what she wants, who she is, and harnesses the power of sexuality to get what she wants.
SimplySxy: What is your favourite sexual fantasy?
Ela: My fantasy is hot, rough, hair-pulling, choking, scratching, biting sex with whomever I’m currently jerking off to followed by smoking a lot of weed.
A message from you to all your fans and the SimplySxy readers:
Check out my website at www.DarlingEla.com and follow me on Twitter: @ElaDarling xoxo!
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t a good grip of what this job entails. Personally I’m a low-key kind of girl. I enjoy my time away from shooting porn by working out at my gym, reading whatever book has caught my eye and exploring the ever changing city of New York with my boyfriend. I’m also a serious foodie and avid blogger. I’m really excited to be writing this piece because I always say that my favorite thing about being an adult actress is that I can speak on many subjects surrounding this industry. I want to speak to the women who are not in front of the camera. Hopefully I’ll be able to clear up some rumors, squash some misconceptions and bring to light some things that every girl can learn from a porn star.
ave any pubic hair between my legs. Porn made me think so. However, there is so much porn showing women sporting little patches or full blown bush. As my manager and many directors are saying nowadays: “Bush is in!” Whatever your preference is for your vagina don’t ever let the idea that clean shaven is the only way to look sexy. I have been as smooth as a baby down there ever since I was fourteen years old and in the past few months I’ve been sporting a cute triangle patch and have never felt more hot. It’s honestly a preference and I’m strangely proud of my hair down there. I feel about my bush the way men feel about their beards. So whatever your preference is: own it and feel sexy.
Michele: I love woman. I love group sex. I love watching two bisexual men as well.
