Tag: Orgasms

  • Ways To Satisfy Her Sexually

    Ways To Satisfy Her Sexually

    I think sex should be discussed openly and honestly and everyone just needs to get over it already, haha. Everyone has sex. Be safe about it and enjoy yourself!

    Guys, quit watching unrealistic porn and then assuming you now know how to drive a woman crazy. Get to really know a woman’s body first and don’t be afraid to ask for directions. Know your ABC’S!

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    Experience Or Penis Size?

    Definitely experience. I’ve been with a couple guys who were very well endowed but had NO clue what the hell to do with it or anything else… With experience, and maybe if they’re not so well endowed, then they’re probably pretty good with a lot of other, more important things like foreplay and oral, etc… In my experience, the bigger the simpler; and that’s not really what I go for. I don’t want 5 minutes, I want 2 hours.

    Foreplays That Turn Me On

    Any kind of massage, honestly. Lots of lotion or oil… The more relaxed I am, the more turned on I get.

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    Going Down South

    Work down to it, haha. I don’t like a guy to just dive right in there, I like a bit of a tease. Also; know Your ABC’s, guys!

    Signs I’m Enjoying It

    I’m very vocal, so it’s not hard to tell when I’m having a good time. I also squirm a lot, I’ve been told.

    Spitting. If I get spat on, it’s over. That’s what lube is for. Also, name calling. I don’t like to be called, “Bitch” or “Little Slut” or anything like that. Total mood killer for me.

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    Orgasm Before Or After Sex

    I prefer before sex, because after an orgasm I get pumped up and it’s go time! Haha.


    Hey! I’m Haushinka, from Canada and I’m 25. I love Elvis, WoW and just enjoying life as best I can. I’ve been a Cam Model for a little under a year now and I love it. It’s given me the freedom to do what I love and enjoy and I hope to be doing it for as long as I’m welcome! 🙂 Follow me on Twitter @haushinka420, Snapchat @haushinka420 and MyFreeCams www.profiles.myfreecams.com/Haushinka_


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  • Tips For Having An Amazing MMF Threesome

    Tips For Having An Amazing MMF Threesome

    I think threesomes are a lot of fun. I prefer FFM threesomes but MMF can be fun if done with the right people and the right way. I am a very sexual gal and I love to play. One on one sex is fun but when you add another person, it just increases the pleasure for everyone. If the chemistry is there, a threesome can be a whole new world that you get to discover. If you are open to the experience and want to learn some new things, I highly recommend threesomes.

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    Why Are Threesomes So Kinky?

    Threesomes are kinky because there are more than two people who are involved. Three different personalities all trying to get on the same level and having sex. So many different thoughts, opinions and idea. So many new things that you will be able to try. MMF threesome can be a lot of fun especially for the girl because she usually gets spoiled. I think another reason threesomes are so fun is because it makes you feel like you are breaking the rules of sex. Most people who think of sex think two people, not three.

    The Feeling Of Being Double Penetrated

    When I am in double penetration it is a rush. I mean 2 holes being penetrated at once, that is a lot of pounding which causes a lot of happy juices flowing. I think it is super hot and when in a MMF threesome, it is a must.

    Great Positions For MMF Threesome?

    It is really hard for me to recommend some great positions for a MMF threesome because the ones I have experience were not good. I had a lot of fun, but it could have been better.

    The guys need to be comfortable with each other otherwise the threesome does not work very well. They need to realize their swords might cross and not freak out when this happens. A position that is fun to try but is difficult is the female riding one male but not sitting down all way and she lifts her butt up in the air so the other guy can insert his cock in the other available hole.

    Another position that works well is the female is on her hands and knees sucking on a cock and the other one takes her from behind.

    One other position is one of the males picks up the female, puts her on his cock as she wraps her legs around him and the other male takes the other hole from behind. (this position is difficult but can be a lot of fun if done right).

    Tips To Make A MMF Threesome Hotter!

    Some tips I could share to make the MMF threesome hotter are:

    • Make sure all parties are comfortable with each other and all rules have been discussed before starting.
    • Make sure to have plenty of lube especially if you are going to go with DP.
    • Just have fun and try to relax. Some of the parties might be tense because it’s a new experience, but if you all relax, things will be so much more fun.

    Sex should be fun not stressful.


     

    I am Lady Serra, a new Cam Model and previous Stripper. I love talking about sex. I am a fun very energetic gal who enjoys talking to people and being playful. I love getting attention and giving it too. Follow me on Twitter @LadySerra69_MFC or on MyFreeCams http://profiles.myfreecams.com/LadySerra


     

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  • Naughty Places To Have Sex

    Naughty Places To Have Sex

    Of course I love sex… I wouldn’t be an Adult Film Star if I didn’t… I love sex with men, women and myself LOL.

    The First Time I Had Sex

    I was 16 and with my boyfriend at the time… I really just wanted to lose my virginity because I was the only virgin left out of my friends. I remember we were in his brothers’ bedroom and it just happened, I was thinking that I was going to bleed a lot and be embarrassed but it was only a little. I remember he didn’t last very long either hahaha.

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    What Makes Me Horny

    I like the foreplay to build up to the sex… Kissing, touching, grabbing my booty, squeezing the back of my neck and pulling me in close. I love a man who will go down on me till I’m dripping wet then flip me over and bury his face in my ass. I love very dominant men in the bedroom who take charge and have their way with me but want to please me at the same time.

    What Can A Guy Do Make Me Orgasm?

    Pin me down and fuck me hard!

    Favorite Sex Positions

    I like cowgirl and standing doggy but if I’m really into the guy, I like the good ol’ missionary with lots of kissing.

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    Naughtiest Places I Have Had Sex

    I’ve had a lot of sex in very naughty places…. The most daring was probably in a church. The entire time all I could think of was that we were going to jail LOL! I’ve had sex in dressing rooms, a hockey locker room, and I jerked off my ex under the table at a restaurant one time.

    My sex life at home is beyond great, it never gets boring! I feel that it’s more freeing and I can be myself, relax and enjoy it.


    Richelle Ryan is an adult film star and you can follow her at her website RichelleRyanOnline.com or on Twitter @Richelleryan or Instagram @Richelleryan

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  • Have More Sex Drive And Prolong Your Orgasms

    Have More Sex Drive And Prolong Your Orgasms

    My personal views about sex, it’s the fact I see sexual intercourse as an art and a way of expressing yourself. If we look at history, sex has always been controversial and a delicate subject, which I find not fair. Even in the 21st century, we live in a world with hypocrisy and boundaries. For example, if you work in a big corporation, and you have a clerical task like a chartered accountant and you have intercourse with your secretary, you could get fired. The reason being that most managers will see that as unprofessional, having two persons working in the srickshanaame corporation having intercourse.

    But in my point of view, the reason that the employees will get fired is simple as pure jealousy. I think sex should be tolerated as long as the adults are consenting. Also, religions beliefs tend to feel guilty about sex, but why did God give us the ability as human beings to have an orgasm. I think sexual monogamy was instilled by religion, but biologically I think we are polygamous when its comes to sex. If married couples would do more exchanging, there will be less divorce and less hypocrisy. But when it comes to love, I think we are monogamous and you can’t have a tingling filling in your heart for different women.

    Also society seems to view pornography as a real issue, but personally I think violence and drugs are destroying society. War, hate, and big corporations that are over selling ritalins to our young generation is way more dangerous and should be the concern than pornography. I think sex is the root of freedom of speech, and having sex makes people happy. Also, I think people who are sexually frustrated tend to be more violent. Some guys who can’t get intercourse, tend to go out at the end of their working schedule to go get a few drinks, and finally when they can’t achieve their goal to get a girl, or having a one night stand, they tend to fight over strangers. If human beings would have more sex, I guarantee you that there will be less violence and hate in our world.

    Favorite Sex Position

    To be honest, I love every position, whether it’s penetration or simply oral sex, I love even just kissing as it gives me a hard on. But if I had to choose one for penetration, it’s doggy style. I have more of a fetish for asses than tits, especially seeing the ass bubbling when I fuck a girl from behind, getting my cock really hard, I love also putting my thumb in her ass while I am fucking from behind. Secondly, for oral sex, I love rimjobs. I love when a girl is nasty and not afraid to lick the anus of a guy, that really gives me incredible orgasm.

    I would like that my lady curses and spits during sex. I love when girls are dirty and act like a real whore. Especially, when my girl during sex says the F word, it really turns me on.

    Tips To Prolong Orgasms

    As a pornstar, I had to develop some tips to last longer during sex. I take a supplement called Tribulus to improve my natural testosterone to have more sex drive. Also, to last longer, I take a natural supplement called Yohimbine, it’s a natural testosterone booster and helps to maintain longer erections. Also, I take only 10mg of Prozac, an antidepressant that is classified in the family of SSRI better known as Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor. By taking only that kind of dosage, it allows your body to last longer and control your ejaculation. In extreme cases, I had Viagra, 100 mg, the Pfizer pill and not the generic ones when I have extreme scenes that last over 4 hours.

    Get That Orgasm!

    The way I love to finish my orgasm during sex, there are two ways. I love to cum inside my lady, I feel that all my body is shaking and have this tingly feeling all over my body which even goes to my face. The second way, I love to cum on the face of my lady, while she is masturbating me, so that she could put her finger in my ass, and my whole body is shaking when I ejaculate.

    Kink Up The Sex

    I love kissing, spitting in the mouth of my lady and vice versa that she spits on me. I love eating her from behind, and like I have mentioned it before, I have an ass fetish. I love eating her asshole and spit on her tiny asshole. And I love when she puts her tongue in my ass also. I love cursing and moaning during sex, as it’s nastier.


    My name is Richard, I am from Montreal Quebec. I have been working in the adult entertainment for the last 5 years. I am trying to be a household name and eventually make it to Los Angeles. Also, I am an amateur MMA Fighter, training in the best Hub where the champions are born, and where Georges St-Pierre use to train. Before doing Porn, I was almost a police officer but got fired because of my double life. My first dream was to become a pro-bodybuilder but because of the abuse of anabolic steroids , I realize it wasn’t for me. Follow me on Twitter, @RickHardXXX, Facebook RickHard, and Pegas Productions http://www.pegasproductions.com/rick-hard/?tuto=1.

    I had worked as an actor, but also I have produced two movies in collaboration with www.Ad4x.com Here is my first movie :

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1RODiLXDP0

    My second Movie: http://tubesafari.com/video?id=2_ph5639864fca640&d=Les-DESAXXXES-DE-LAUTOROUTE-13

    Also, I want to fight in a few months, and I want to produce another movie in collaboration with ad4x and eventually try to make it to Los Angeles.


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  • Tips to Prolong Orgasms

    Tips to Prolong Orgasms

    Do you have tips or ways for me to prolong or delay my orgasm during sex?

    Sure, prolonging and delaying orgasm is easy and it’s such a shame that so many men struggle with the problem of unintentional ejaculation.

    Begin by learning to explore and savour low levels of arousal. Imagine a number scale of zero to eleven, zero representing no arousal and eleven representing ejaculation. How familiar are you with the joys of each number along the way?

    Explore the lower levels of arousal when self-pleasuring first, then with a partner. Learn the joys of soft-penis pleasure, before and after ejaculation. You will have more fun and feel more relaxed in sexual encounters, and also you will sensitize yourself to the whole trajectory of arousal and gain orgasmic mastery.

    You can use your breath and imagination to circulate erotic energy through your whole body. Breathe slowly, relax your muscles and imagine the circulation of energy from your groin through your torso, neck, head, arms and limbs.

    Do this when your sexual energy is cool, in the 1-4 range, and then practice when its medium and hot.

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    Caffyn Jesse is a widely-respected teacher of sexuality. She teaches the Canadian Professional Somatic Sex Educator Training with Dr. Liam Snowdon. She offers a Certificate in Intimacy Education training to advanced students. Read her profile below!

    More resources: Caffyn’s book on Erotic Massage for Healing and Pleasure: http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Massage-Healing-Pleasure-pioneering/dp/0973833211/ref=tmm_pap_title_0

    and her video courses

    Orgasmic Mastery for Men : http://www.erospirit.ca/product/orgasmic-mastery-for-men/ and

    Learn Erotic Massage: http://www.erospirit.ca/product/learn-erotic-massage-for-healing-and-pleasure/


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  • Satisfy Her And Kink Up Your Sex Life!

    Satisfy Her And Kink Up Your Sex Life!

    I think sex is great – surprise! I’ve always been interested in sex, and most of what I know about sex I taught myself. I was raised in a Christian home, so kinks and sex were mostly undiscussed other than me being told to stay away from both. My parents are also doctors, so sex has always been approached as very medical and sterile, as opposed to messy and exploratory. Once I became confident with who I am, generally and sexually, I’ve been able to explore and find out what I like. Sex is normal to me now, be it kinky or vanilla. It’s part of life, full of experiences to be had.

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    My First Sex Experience

    It was about two months before my fifteenth birthday: I snuck my boyfriend of a year or so into my room for the third time or something. We were naked and I was curious as hell, so I suggested having sex, because why not? We fumbled through multiple positions for a little while and he pulled out since we didn’t have a condom. The only thing I regret was not using a condom. That was a dumb young thing to do, even though nothing bad happened.

    How My Sex Life Has Changed

    I’ve become a lot more confident because I’ve learned so much. With enough lube, determination, and confidence, you can handle basically anything you encounter in your sex life. I’ve made a fair share of mistakes, and I’m young so I know I have a lot more to make. The most important thing I found out is that you learn from experience and communication with sex. Every partner is different, and hands-on is going to be a lot different than reading sex tips or watching porn.

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    What I Love A Guy To Do During Sex

    Take his time. A sensation’s usefulness is doubled if you build up anticipation. That way, my brain can get all dizzy and excited for a spanking, and the spanking is amplified because it was built up so much mentally. I’m bi, so this goes for women as well! I also love when my partner takes his time to touch across my whole body, not just where you’d expect. Involving your whole body in sex is super satisfying. A nice balance of touch, rough and soft, across my body is my favorite (sex) indulgence.

    Kinky Sex?

    Hell yeah! I recently met @sugarhixcup and they introduced me to a few things I wanted to try, specifically gags. When they left, I bought myself a gag! I like rough sex, choking, spitting, bondage, slapping, force-play, dirty talking, drooling, spanking, some rare DD/lg, and I just bought myself a collar that I love. And then of course there are things I still want to try like waterboarding, an MMF threesome, a gangbang. There’s always something new!

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    Tips To Kink It Up!

    I think the best advice is to try as much as you can, slowly and safely. Always be sure you have enthusiastic consent from all participants! A safe word is a great way to make sure everyone’s comfortable with the situation (mine is “red”). Personally, I think buttplugs, handcuffs, and blindfolds are great places to start. They all provide a new sensation without overwhelming the senses. Start small, and when you find something you like, dive into it. I can’t stress the importance of research here enough.


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  • A Camgirls’ Take on Masturbation and Orgasms

    A Camgirls’ Take on Masturbation and Orgasms

    I personally feel like masturbating is a very spiritual thing. We learn our bodies, we feel a sense of passion and self-love. Masturbation has this sort of, taboo on it. Like bringing yourself to orgasm is something to be ashamed of and it’s not. If you know how your body works, figure out what you like, teach yourself how to make your own fireworks and you will be more comfortable with another person in the mix. Less wondering, more knowing when it comes to getting you off.

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    My First Masturbation Experience

    I don’t remember the exact first time I ever masturbated, but it was around 11 or 12 years old when things started up. There was some curiosity from a jet bathtub, a little hand-over-the-panties action with the doors locked. Lots of fear of being caught with my hands down my pants, as my family grew up under the whole ‘masturbation taboo’.

    There is one time that sticks out at me from back in the day. I guess I was ‘practicing’ my riding skills on an oversized teddy bear and my mom’s friend walked in. I froze, he froze. We never spoke of it again. I’m pretty sure he never said anything to my mom, because that was over 10 years ago and it has never been mentioned.

    My Favorite Sex Toys

    My toy box currently consists of a few toys, my favorite being the classic vibrator. It was the first toy I ever bought myself, purple plastic with five god sent speeds. I still use it to this day, he’s my handy dandy travel buddy, and I can always count on a good orgasm. Masturbating with sex toys can be fun, sometimes more intense.

    However, at the end of a long day I just need a quick go to before I crash into bed. I also play with a glass mushroom tip dildo that can be warmed or chilled for different sensations. And I own a set of metal jewel tip plugs, but currently only the smallest one gets used (;

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    What Turns Me On

    I used to joke that I was pretty much a light switch stuck in the ‘on’ position. Well I’ve noticed lately that it isn’t much of a joke. I’m very easily turned on, but just as easy to turn off if I’m not feeling it.

    When a man smells good, brushes his fingers on my throat, tattoos, muscles, things that pop up on my twitter feed, a sexy voice, lumberjack beards, coils of rope, zip ties, safe words, thinking about the last time I was choked, watching threesome porn, my friend sending me random messages telling me he wants to fuck my brains out or smack my ass so hard its red, spankings, cooking for me, knowing that a man wants me, this list could go on forever because honestly, something new turns me on every day.

    That being said, I only masturbate once or twice a week. I don’t want to burn myself out or get carpal tunnel haha. Not to mention, for stress relief! Let it build up and then go pet your kitty. It feels twice as good if it’s been a few days!

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    Various Techniques I Use

    How do I masturbate? Like a checklist through all the tips? I’m not sure anyone can give one of those. For me, it all depends on where the horny hits me! Sometimes I can’t exactly run off to the restroom and rub one out, but I have brought myself to the brink during a psychology lecture. Sexy professor, dim lights, and the seam on my jeans was rubbing just the right way if I rocked back and forth.

    Let’s just say I didn’t learn much in Psych 101. When it comes to home though, I usually search a little porn, get myself worked up, pull out my vibrator and take care of my needs. If it’s taking a little longer than expected, I sit up and grind. You really just need to lock the door, take an hour or so and learn your body. What feels good to you? What makes you quiver? How far can you bring yourself?


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  • Improve your sex life with Tantric sex today!

    Improve your sex life with Tantric sex today!

    What is Tantric sex like

    Being alive and creative, Tantric sex is not the same every time! So it’s hard to describe what it is “like”.

    However, because tantrics train to allow sexual energy to flood throughout the body, tantric sex is usually an experience of energy and bliss that takes one beyond the normal state of consciousness. Rather then being each person’s will that guides the interaction, both people can surrender to this incredible energy. It can be similar to an experience of dancing so such great music that suddenly you feel as if you are being “taken” by the music and you are riding on waves of bliss. Not only do the two partners feel deeply connected to each other, but they feel connected to life itself and to all that is! Many people feel that tantric sex is a spiritual experience.

    The big difference between Tantric Sex and “normal” sex is that normally people are taught to build up energy, contract around it and eventually push it out in an explosive orgasm. In Tantric Sex, people are taught to bring relaxation and arousal together, using special breathing techniques and other methods. This has the effect of expanding as energy builds rather than contracting. The energy can then rise up through the whole body, opening the heart and expanding the mind, creating full body orgasm.

    Photo Credit: Sex to Spirit movie
    Photo Credit: Sex to Spirit movie

    How is Tantric sex beneficial

    Because Tantrics work with energy, tantric sex floods the body with energy, very high vibrational energy. Ancient tantric practitioners knew that this energy could heal the body on many levels: physical, emotional and spiritual. Those who engage in Tantric Sex report feeling higher levels of creativity, energy, joy and connection. The tantrics believe that sex with a lot of ejaculation can deplete levels of energy, joy and well-being as well as reducing the connection between the couple over time. So Tantrics learn to draw the energy upwards into the body instead of releasing it out, creating multi-orgasmic experiences and also deepening their connection and intimacy together.

    Photo Credit: Shashi Solluna
    Photo Credit: Shashi Solluna

    Who is Tantric sex for

    Tantric Sex is usually a calling that people have. It is not for everyone. It is more that simply raising levels of pleasure…it raises energy and consciousness. I have found that most people feel a calling to Tantra at some point, and this is a deep yearning for more depth, more connection and often just a longing for something that they cannot even identify.

    Some people move from something like yoga into Tantra as they want to bring more consciousness into their sex life. And others come into Tantra because they are very sexual people, with a lot of sexual energy, and they want to learn how to work with that energy in different ways.

    Occasionally someone stumbles into Tantra by “mistake”. Women in particular have a natural tendency towards full body orgasm and given the right circumstances they may accidentally experience Tantric sex. However, they may then need to learn how to enter Tantric Sex consistently.

    The reason I say it is not for everyone is that Tantric Sex shakes up your life! It can change everything. If you are content in your habits and patterns, then Tantric Sex is probably not for you. If you feel a deep inner calling for more, then Tantra may be your next step…

    Photo Credit: Sex to Spirit movie
    Photo Credit: Sex to Spirit movie

    What beginners should know

    They need to know that there is no hurry. If people race to draw energy and orgasm up through their bodies too fast, then they can easily get overwhelmed, and even feel fear and panic (as the energy is so strong). Tantra is always learned in stages. Because it works with huge amounts of energy, you do not want to force it…that would be like putting thousands of volts through a thin wire! It will burn out! Rather there are stages and steps that activate the energy channels one by one, and slowly the body becomes prepared for Tantric Sex. In fact Tantric Sex gets better and better the more you practice Tantra!

    Beginners also should know that this needs to be learned from an expert. One way is with a teacher in a workshop, and another is with a trained tantric massage therapist. Be warned: many people call what they do “Tantric Massage” because it sounds good! But you want to look for a therapist who really knows how to help you work with your energy. This way you can gradually move towards Tantric Sex.


     

    Read Shashi Solluna’s profile below and visit her links at:

    www.sollunatantra.com: personal site

    www.taotantricarts.com: teacher trainings

    www.sextospirit.com: movie on Tantra

    www.shashisolluna.com: blog

    www.livetantra.com: platform for recommended tantra teachers


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  • Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

    Masturbation Month… For Couples Part 2 – Pussy Play

    So we’re well into Masturbation Month… Anyone learnt anything new? As I mentioned in there a bunch of pieces focused on solo play and the health benefits of masturbation, and people much more qualified than myself to discuss it therapeutically. What I’d like to do is make sure couples don’t feel excluded from all the awesome, so here’s some tips and toys for inspiring and incorporating masturbation into a shared experience – there’s probably no better way to learn more about your partner’s body. For women, masturbation can be an external or internal experience, and there’s thought to be at least four different orgasms women are able to achieve: clitoral, vaginal, multiple, and ‘all of the above’. This makes Pussy Play all kinds of fun – and a wonderfully exciting challenge… How many ways can you or your partner cum this month? And how can you help?

    First off, keep things comfortable, yet interesting; getting yourself off should never feel like a job. And remember that our bodies are changing and evolving all the time – depth of sensitivity and locations of ‘hot spots’ can change. Regular masturbation can help you keep track of these changes and give you a working knowledge of what’s ‘right’ for you. This is where toys can be invaluable. Finger toys are a wonderful way to explore the external regions. You can purchase these as simple, textured silicone sheaths that slide over the finger, like these Exotic Finger Teasers. Using your sheathed finger start massaging the labia – outer and inner – taking care to avoid the clitoris for the first few minutes. Make a mental note of any particular sweet spots, but don’t spend too long on them. Try giving yourself (and your voyeuristic) partner a pleasurable tease.

    For those who struggle a bit with the clit orgasm, you could try this Finger Vibe from Lelo. It’s a beautiful, velvet-finish silicone vibe that slides on your finger like a ring, and for a toy that runs on one AAA it’s a pretty powerful buzz. There are several speeds and intensity settings, and I’m assuming a pretty top-notch motor, due to Lelo’s great reputation for making safe, great quality toys. The great thing about finger toys is their unobtrusive nature, and the instinctual ease of their use – your fingers know what they’re doing; now just to enhance them a little…

    Internally, it can be a whole different thing. There’s no ‘magic button’ in there to make us cum. What used to be thought of as the G-Spot is actually a larger erogenous zone that encompasses several different organs. Called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ (CUV) it includes the front of the vaginal wall (the side toward the belly), the urethra, the paraurethral glands (aka Skene’s Glands or female Prostrate) and the underlying nerve ‘roots’ of the clitoris. Aiming toys and pressure at this region can really help in bringing on some quite intense vaginal orgasms. Some of the best toys to do this are the adjustable G-Vibes like this Je Joue G-Kii. G-spot vibrators feature a curved tip, which provides focused pressure on the front wall. Whether you’re determined to find your G-spot, or know exactly where it is and want to hit it with ease, G-spot vibes get straight to the point. For your first time, try using the head at its natural angle. Then, as you become more familiar with it, experiment with different curves to discover your perfect position. Not only can this toy be shaped to work with anyone, the flexible shaft can even be hooked around for simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

    Stay tuned… Next time we look at remote control and wireless control toys for couples… Can’t wait!


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