Tag: Kitti Minx

  • Misconceptions About Escorts

    Misconceptions About Escorts

    Well, I can only speak for legal sex workers in brothels – but a common misconception is that the job is dirty and seedy. That only desperate people with no options become sex workers. As well as only freaks and creeps seek out the services of sex workers. Sex workers and their clients are typical, normal, everyday people you wouldn’t be able to pick out on a city street outside of the brothel. For individuals who enjoy sex and making personal connections, sex work is a fine way of earning a living. It’s safe, everyone is clean, and on a day-by-day basis it’s not much different from any other job. The customers themselves come from all backgrounds and all walks of life as well. Many sex workers are college educated, in loving stable relationships, have and care for families, and possess other qualities typical of any other place of work. With more opportunities for sexy good fun.

    A misconception about legal brothels and sex workers is that the places are all super glamorous and only cater to the upper class and celebrities. While there are facilities and sex workers who do focus on that market, many are open to anyone seeking out the services and are warm, welcoming, accepting places to go. Majority of legal brothels and sex workers can work with most budget ranges so long as the requests are reasonable.

    Another misconception about legal sex work in Nevada is that legal sex workers and brothels are available in Las Vegas and Reno, proper. In reality, it is not legal for there to be brothels operated in the counties those cities are in and prostitution across the board is illegal in those counties. Sex workers can accompany customers to those cities on outdates if the sex worker works at a brothel in a county that allows for that service, but legal sex workers are not available in those cities. Anything someone sees advertised as being physically located in those cities isn’t legal. Brothels in areas in counties that are very close to those cities will advertise their proximity as such but not being in those actual cities (and those brothels tend to offer ride services to and from established places in those cities for customers)

    Preventing Misconceptions Of Escorts

    More media outreach that isn’t just shameless business promotion. Penn & Teller did a Showtime series called “Bullshit!” (or “BS!” in some areas) and they did an episode on Prostitution. They discussed the illegal industry but also spent a lot of time discussing legal brothels and how they work – demystifying them and humanizing the workers while still being appealing to their target TV audience. Some sex workers use social media, websites, and blogs to showcase how truly normal they are and the work is, as well as make connections with other people.

    Some shifts in societal and cultural views would have to happen as well. In talk in regards to Feminism, “sex workers” are still a divisive subject. Some feminist groups find sex work empowering and valid, others demeaning and dehumanizing. Sex in and of itself would have to become less of a taboo topic too. People are still hesitant to be open about their sexuality as well as sexual needs and desires, so talking about a profession that involves sex is difficult. When sex itself is seen as less dirty and taboo, more normal for adults to partake in, then sex work itself will be an easier topic to talk about and educate on and seen in a more positive light. We’ve come a long way in the last century, but there is still a lot of progress to be made!


    Kitti Minx – A model, cosplayer, and adult performer who specialized in the niches of “Alternative”, “Geek Chic”, “Cosplay”, and “Fetish”.  She does photoshoots and a XXX video for a variety of companies as well as her own website. For one on one intimate experiences with fans she offers services as a legal luxury companion at the world famous Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada.

    Follow Kitti Minx on:

    Website: http://www.kitti-minx.com
    Blog: http://www.cosplaycourtesan.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kitti_Minx
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KittiMinxOfficial/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kittiminx/
    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/kittiminx/

    Upcoming Events: Kitti Minx is available for appointment at the Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada. Check out her social media to see her schedule! Also through her social media she shares Live Streams, videos, articles, and other content.


    Images courtesy of Kitti Minx

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  • Differences Between Working In A Brothel & Being Independent

    Differences Between Working In A Brothel & Being Independent

    Safety and legality.

    In the United States, including the state of Nevada, it is illegal to be an independent sex worker. Or, essentially, to sell sexual services in exchange for money, only in the state of Nevada are brothels legal (so a brothel not in the state of Nevada is not legally allowed to be operating) and even then, there are counties where brothels are not legal to open and operate (such as the counties the cities of Las Vegas and Reno are located).  To be able to open and operate a brothel, the owner must get a license for it from the county they desire to be located in. (So the brothels themselves have to legally be owned and operated based on county, as well as the sex workers themselves requiring a legal license.) So long as the sex workers and the brothel owners and staff follow the laws put in place by the state and county, they do not risk any trouble with law enforcement.

    When not legally licensed to work in a legal Nevada brothel, an independent sex worker is at risk of coming in contact with law enforcement and being arrested and prosecuted. There are no legal protections for independent sex workers aside from basic human rights (for example, if an independent sex worker is murdered it’s still considered a murder and the person who committed the crime is charged as such). However, most if not all independent sex workers are cautious of law enforcement where even if they feel they are in danger, they do not seek out help because they fear legal repercussions.  It also can be illegal in places for customers to pay money in exchange for sexual services so they’re not protected by law enforcement either.

    With safety, it’s also a clear difference. By law, legal sex workers in brothels are required to be tested for all STDs and show to be free of any to be able to work. Also by law, barrier protection for sex acts is mandated. Sex workers also have to check a potential client for any signs of infection during the genital check before accepting the party. Brothels also have staff and security to make sure the sex workers and customers are safe and protected. A rowdy customer in a brothel will be removed as opposed to being a risk to the sex workers and other customers. A sex worker who acts out of line breaking rules and especially the law, is also fired and removed from the premises.

    While I don’t doubt many independent sex workers do their own screening of clients to not only make sure they’re not cops, but that they’re safe as well as use safe sex precautions, it’s not a known thing the way it is in the legal brothels. A client going to a legal brothel knows they’re going someplace safe and secure, and a sex worker knows that if anything does go awry, there are people on their side present to help them. In the case of the law, because legal brothels are, well, legal, the police are also able to help a sex worker or customer in need without fear of arrest or judgement. So in case something bad does happen, there’s no hesitation with getting help. When someone sees an illegal independent sex worker they’re taking more of a gamble on everything.

    Feasible Ways Brothels Can Compete With Independent Escorts & Agencies

    This is complicated because of the laws. There’s statewide laws for brothels and legal sex workers, as well as laws that vary county by county. While brothels are utilizing the internet, what with having websites and using social media (to the best of their ability and legality), customers still have to physically travel to the brothels to meet and pay for services with a sex worker. There are ways for illegal escorts and their customers to book everything online and even go to the customer’s desired location. While some brothels are working on online reservation processes and daily updated lineups on their websites, the parties can only be paid for in person and it’s not legal for a brothel sex worker to go to a client.

    Another edge is there is more variety in the independent scene – such as male and Transgender sex workers – to cater to as much of a potential market as possible. Currently, no operating brothel hires male sex workers, and while requests have been made every so often for Transgender sex workers, none currently working at a legal brothel fits that description. However, there is talk about this one day changing as demand does increase and county laws also adjusting to accommodate so the legal brothel industry could meet such demands in the first place.

    But the biggest thing is the rise of technology and the ability to book sessions and accept payment digitally where everything is more immediate is where the illegal independent scene has an advantage (as well as disclosing prices for services online) despite the obvious illegality. For some changes to be made in the brothel scene, laws themselves would have to be adjusted accordingly


    Kitti Minx – A model, cosplayer, and adult performer who specialized in the niches of “Alternative”, “Geek Chic”, “Cosplay”, and “Fetish”.  She does photoshoots and a XXX video for a variety of companies as well as her own website. For one on one intimate experiences with fans she offers services as a legal luxury companion at the world famous Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada.

    Follow Kitti Minx on:

    Website: http://www.kitti-minx.com
    Blog: http://www.cosplaycourtesan.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kitti_Minx
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KittiMinxOfficial/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kittiminx/
    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/kittiminx/

    Upcoming Events: Kitti Minx is available for appointment at the Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada. Check out her social media to see her schedule! Also through her social media she shares Live Streams, videos, articles, and other content.


    Images courtesy of Kitti Minx

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  • What Are The Rules To Follow When Working In A Brothel

    What Are The Rules To Follow When Working In A Brothel

    People are much too puritanical, even in a modern society. The idea of marriage based on love and compatibility is relatively new, for a long time marriage was more done for politics and business deals. So for the same society that wants to believe in free “real” love to not see physical aspects of it as a service that can be sold is a little strange, sex work is one of the oldest professions.

    For eons, men and women have traded sexual services for other services, goods, and currency. The old monarchy of France was notorious for the courtesans who made up the royal court. Sex workers throughout all of history came from all walks of life and serviced people at all economic and social status levels.  The general public should be more accepting as it’s a perfectly valid means for one to make their way in the world.

    How Does A Brothel Work?

    Safety and discretion are top priorities. By law, all sex workers must be tested weekly for STDs and to be able to work, must prove to be STD-free. Legal sex workers at brothels are licensed to work the brothel by the county in the state and must be able to pass a background check (some counties are stricter than others, I’ve been told the county I work in – where the Mustang Ranch is – happens to be one of the strictest). Condoms are also mandatory for sex acts that exchange bodily fluids. Prior to even paying for a service, a sex worker must check a customer’s genitals for any potential problem (such as unusual discharge) that could make booking a session (or “party” as we call it in the industry) too much of a hazard to the sex worker. In the rooms, parties take place in there have hidden “panic buttons” connected to the main office so the sex worker can trigger should something go wrong or a hazard be presented. Every brothel has these in the rooms for sex worker and customer safety.

    Discretion is also important. For a long time, brothels didn’t even allow women who weren’t sex workers or staff to be on the premises (this has since been changed to allow couples and single female clients) to try to keep snooping spouses at bay. Identities of customers are not made public by brothel staff or sex workers. Some customers choose to take part in chatrooms and message boards under handles which can be recognized by staff at brothels they frequent but rarely are legal names given out. The only time brothel staff need to see an ID is when someone comes in the door and they make sure they’re over 18, when they want to buy drinks at the bar to make sure they’re over 21, and to process credit card transactions to confirm the card is legit and not stolen.

    Us sex workers don’t care if customers give us their real names. The appeal to brothels is the privacy. Where I work at the Mustang Ranch, cell phones and cameras are not allowed in the bar and in other public areas, customers could be in for the privacy of customers and the sex workers. This is due to the rise of social media and apps where it could be a privacy risk if a photo appears somewhere.  What a customer and sex worker agrees to do in the confines of the room they party in (such as taking photos or recording the party) is up to them.  What happens in a brothel stays in the brothel. This is to ensure privacy for customers and sex workers alike as many sex workers also keep their job private.

    As to how it works, all legal Nevada brothels follow a basic system:

    A customer comes in the door and has their ID checked either by a hostess or bouncer depending on location.(Customers must be over 18 to enter and get services at a brothel in most counties – there is at least one county where the minimum age to enter a brothel and get service is 21.) They’re asked if they would like a lineup (there is an exception at a few brothels which have a more relaxed atmosphere in which the customer themselves can request the lineup but usually, available sex workers are out in a bar or lounge area for them to talk to and approach first). A lineup is when the customer is brought to a seat and all available sex workers come out, introduce themselves, and stand side by side. (Each brothel has its rules on what it considers to be “dirty hustling” or bad form displayed by sex workers to unfairly try to get a customer – a common one is sex workers can’t prance about fully nude on the floor or in a lineup and can’t flash their private areas in a lineup.)

    A customer then chooses a sex worker to take a tour with. In the case of brothels where lineups are optional or the customer doesn’t want one and wants to talk to sex workers in the bar instead, once a customer and sex worker connects in the bar, the sex worker can also take them on a tour. The tour consists of the sex worker showing the customer around the property explaining how things work. Some brothels are larger than others and have a lot of amenities worth showcasing such as pools, jacuzzis, luxury bungalow suites, specialty rooms (such as “dungeon” themed rooms with the right furniture and tools for those more “50 Shades” and beyond minded), even souvenir shops.  Others are smaller with just a parlor, bar, and rooms the sex workers do their work and reside in. The tour gives a client extra time to get comfortable with the sex worker as well as with the new and different environment as usually some extra conversation is exchanged during the tour as well.

    After that (or if a client isn’t new to brothels and wants to skip that part) they go into negotiation. A negotiation is where the sex worker and customer discusses prices for services. In a few brothels, this takes place in a designated “negotiation room” which consists of comfy seating, good relaxed lighting, and the tools needed to proceed to the step following a negotiation before payment. In other brothels, the negotiation takes place in the same room the sex worker does their work in (and they also do the next step there as well). All sex workers in brothels are hired as Independent Contractors. This means that each sex worker has their own rates they set for specific services and not all sex workers offer the same things.

    A couple of brothels do have “fixed price” menus their sex workers follow but those brothels are smaller and appeal to customers with usually pretty standard and common requests. Brothels with extra amenities such as luxury bungalows and suites have spending minimums a customer must be able to meet in order to use them as part of their party, otherwise the party takes place in the sex worker’s room. (And sometimes even if the customer does meet the minimum, they can choose to not take part in any of the amenities and other perks (such as complimentary drinks) and just go right for the party in the sex worker’s room.) Prices vary depending on the type of activity (or activities) and the amount of time desired. Some sex workers consider certain activities to be “specialties” and therefore charge more while others may feel those are standard to them and have different rates. Because of solicitation laws, sex workers cannot list prices for services online or over the phone (and generally in brothels, prices are only discussed in the designated negotiation area).

    If the customer and sex worker can’t come to an agreement, the sex worker takes the customer out to choose and talk to a different sex worker. If they do come to an agreement then before the party can be booked and paid for, the sex worker must check the customer’s genitals (as previously stated) for safety. If everything looks okay they can go to the cashier to pay for and book the party. (All brothels take cash in US currency and most take all major credit and debit cards.)  Depending on the sex worker, the desired activities, and desired amount of time, prices can range from a few hundred to a few thousand (or more) – there are a lot of variables. Most, if not all brothels, try to be accommodating to customers from any income bracket and social status and encourage their sex workers to do the same, if they can.

    However, a sex worker reserves the right to refuse service to a customer for any reason (and especially if they do not feel comfortable booking the party after doing the genital check). If the sex worker isn’t sure during the genital check, they may bring in a member of staff or another sex worker to help them come to a conclusion. If a customer cannot pass the genital check they cannot book any party with any sex worker in the brothel and are politely escorted out. As stated previously, if the sex worker and customer simply can’t come to an agreement, the customer is just brought back to an open common area to talk to another sex worker, or they’re free to grab a drink at the bar or just leave if they don’t feel confident they’ll get what they’re looking for (or only had their sights set on specific sex workers in the first place).

    Once a party is booked and paid for, the sex worker is given a “setup” (a large sheet to go over the bed, a couple of bath towels for the shower (or bathtub/jacuzzi), and a hand towel) and takes the customer to the room the party itself takes place in. Most brothels include a free shower for the customer as part of the party to wash off before beginning, and those that don’t, as part of policy, most sex workers include it. (“Shower parties” where the customer and sex worker(s) take a shower together and have fun are also something brothels and most sex workers offer, but has to be negotiated.) Sex workers are in charge of providing barrier protection (the condoms and even dental dams), lubricants, massage oils, toys, and any other party tools. Sex workers do not take or use condoms provided by customers for safety reasons.  If a customer has a specific tool they’d like to use as part of their party they don’t think the brothel has or sex worker can provide, they can always call the brothel ahead of time and ask if they’re allowed to bring it.

    Usually brothels are alright with that, but a member of staff may look it over when the customer comes in to make sure it’s safe.  Brothels and sex workers do not provide prescription or over the counter oral treatments for erectile dysfunction (if a customer feels they need that, that’s on them to acquire and take beforehand) but some might have lubricants/creams that may have sensation-heightening properties that help with such things. Then what goes on during the party stays confined to the party area. All completely private! Depending on the brothel, when the negotiated amount of time is up a staff member will call time either through a speaker or knocking on the door. A customer can choose to “rebook” (book more time) and if they do that, then in the party room they negotiate the extra time and activities and the sex worker notifies the staff to accept the payment.

    If everything is good and the customer is satisfied or just ready to leave (even though they wish they could be there all day!) they have time to get cleaned up and redressed. The sex worker then escorts them either to the bar/lounge/common area or to the exit depending on the customer’s request.  After a party, the setup used goes in a designated laundry area and the sex worker cleans themselves and freshens up before going back on the floor to see another customer. Overnight (or longer) parties and parties with more than one sex worker are not uncommon requests either.

    Ones with multiple sex workers, the negotiation must happen with all desired sex workers and they must all come to an agreement – one sex worker can’t speak for and decide for others. Overnights do tend to be priced on the higher side, depending, and extended stays beyond that usually have to also be discussed with someone in management to make sure everything runs smoothly to the customer’s satisfaction.  Sex workers in brothels also commonly see couples and single female customers as well – though that is at the discretion of the individual sex worker including how they price their rates for such parties. Some consider those specialties while others do not.  At the end of the day – everything is about customer satisfaction.

    Certain types of parties are permitted by law in some brothels but not in others. To legally offer receiving anal intercourse, the sex worker must get the additional testing of the anal region as part of their STD testing. And if one sex worker offers anal, all sex workers in the same brothel (whether they offer it or not) need to be tested. Not all clinics that service the brothels for testing offer testing for anal, so because of that, for some brothels it’s not legal for sex workers to offer receiving anal intercourse as a service – period. Also, some brothels have clear signs on display that their sex workers do not offer anal. The one brothel I know that tests sex workers to be able to offer anal is the Mustang Ranch (though as mentioned, even though it’s standard testing in the house, not every sex worker offers it).

    Another type of party that is legally offered in some brothels in certain counties and not others are “outdates” – where a customer can come to the brothel and negotiate time and activities with a sex worker where they go somewhere off the brothel property (but the sex worker cannot leave Nevada state lines). Whether on or off property, the sex worker still has to follow Nevada state as well as county laws with their services (so the condom law is the condom law, for example). Outdates must also be approved by a member of management at the brothel to ensure safety and security for the sex worker. Popular outdates tend to involve going to a nice restaurant for dinner, a show or a movie, or to a casino. When special events are in certain areas, customers also like to book outdates with their favorite sex workers to accompany them to those as well. Outdates however, are not legal to offer in all counties, so for a customer interested in doing that it’s always best to do some research and when in doubt – call the brothel. While the staff on the phone cannot disclose prices or give a full list of available sex workers, they can say if certain things are legally offered and available there or not. The office can also be called to inquire if a certain sex worker is currently there, as well as to set up an appointment to meet with and negotiate a party with a specific sex worker (or sex workers).

    The Mustang Ranch, where I work, because of how they’re setup and operate, allow sex workers to have some of the most varied and diverse menu options of any brothel, For customers looking for something specific that may not be standard, or just want to make sure all their bases are covered, the Mustang should be heavily considered. Its size allows it to have dozens of sex workers available at all times. The premises itself includes a variety of amenities. The location is very close to Reno, while still being in a county where it can legally operate. It’s the only large brothel with a non-smoking bar.  Every sex worker in house is tested for everything (including the anal test – whether the sex worker chooses to offer it or not). It is in a county that permits them to allow their sex workers to do outdates with customers. It’s also an older, established name and brand – recognizable to tourists. There are many reasons why I personally choose to work there.

    How much a sex worker makes, because it’s not the kind of job with set hourly wages or salaries, but depends on how many customers they see and how much they charge is hard to say. Even to pinpoint to how much is made in a week, month, or year – there’s too many variables. However, I can say those who take the work seriously, are patient, and are dedicated to providing optimal customer service tend to do quite well. But the same could be said for any job!


    Kitti Minx – A model, cosplayer, and adult performer who specialized in the niches of “Alternative”, “Geek Chic”, “Cosplay”, and “Fetish”.  She does photoshoots and a XXX video for a variety of companies as well as her own website. For one on one intimate experiences with fans she offers services as a legal luxury companion at the world famous Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada.

    Follow Kitti Minx on:

    Website: http://www.kitti-minx.com
    Blog: http://www.cosplaycourtesan.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kitti_Minx
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KittiMinxOfficial/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kittiminx/
    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/kittiminx/

    Upcoming Events: Kitti Minx is available for appointment at the Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada. Check out her social media to see her schedule! Also through her social media she shares Live Streams, videos, articles, and other content.


    Images courtesy of Kitti Minx

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  • What Are Adult Themed Cosplays?

    What Are Adult Themed Cosplays?

    When people think cosplay they think it’s usually innocent fun – and it is, don’t get me wrong! The cosplay hobby fortunately hasn’t gotten the same stigma as Furry fandom and Bronies (male fans of My Little Pony). However, like anything else, people will find the sex appeal. There is a difference between dressing up as an already sexualized character and doing a cosplay that is “adult” in nature.  Adult cosplay takes the hobby to another level and allows adults to use this medium to express themselves sexually. Most cosplayers who take part in “adult” cosplay reserve it for evening/night time events at conventions, parties, and photo shoots. Adult cosplay is also choosing to cosplay a character from something that is also mature in nature – like hentai which is pornography made in Japanese anime/manga style.

    Common Misconceptions Abut Adult Cosplay

    People who do it aren’t “real fans” of what they’re dressing up as is a major misconception. Attractive people are jumping on the geek train for attention and taking innocent things and ruining them with sex appeal. Not true at all! Many who do adult cosplay genuinely like and enjoy what they’re dressing up as and could easily take on another fan in a trivia game. Also the misconception that the porn industry is willfully infiltrating “geek spaces” to wrongfully paint geeks as perverts and sexualize things that never had sex appeal.  As long as there have been fans of a piece of work, there have been people finding the sexuality in it and showcasing it.

    Star Trek fans in the early days wrote some very explicit stories about the crew of the Enterprise and before then, people had some interesting theories about the sex lives of Sherlock Holmes’ characters. Now with modern technology and new ways to express enjoyment of something, people are now showcasing their sexual take on various characters and themes visually through cosplay. Another misconception about real cosplayers is they’re unattractive losers (and those who are attractive are “fake”). Again, there are many physically and aesthetically attractive people who love things that are geeky in nature and dressing up in cosplay costumes.

    Why Is It So Popular?

    It takes fantasies to another level. Sure there have been budget porn parodies of famous movies, books, and comics but fans could tell the only thing the performers knew how to do in it was sex.  A couple of porn performers would be given cheap Spider-Man and Mary Jane costumes to put on, given a handful of cringe-worthy dialogue, and then get to the “meat” of the movie.  Cosplayers have a history of love and attention to detail with what they are portraying. So when a cosplayer is doing a movie of Spider-Man giving it to Mary Jane, not only will the costumes look more believable, but the performances tend to be as well.  People can really invest themselves in the fantasies rather than be taken out of the moment because something seems too off.  There is also the appeal that geek girls and guys are just as horny, raunchy, and naughty as jocks and cheerleader-types.

    What Are Adult Theme Parties Like?

    Cosplay-themed parties are a blast because no where else could you see people portraying some of your favorite characters and be so open-minded with expression. At regular events you ask a woman in a Catwoman costume to unzip and flash – you’d get thrown out after she slaps you. At these parties she more likely will happily do so, laughing, and grab a drink with you. Deadpool can really be in character, flanked by beautiful men and women (and everything in between) who happily let him consensually grab them making wisecracks. A Danaerys Targaryen cosplayer will prove her immunity to fire by stripping off her dress and let people do body shots of Fireball whiskey off of her.  You have all the women of super hero stories lined up presenting their butts, shaking them in perfect unison. Guys in Star Fleet uniforms can openly joke about being with someone from another galaxy. The damsel in distress characters are actually enjoying being tied up! There’s just so much going on and people being so open-minded with their creative expression and sexuality.

    A Final Thought On Adult Theme Parties

    Adult Cosplay is a unique niche of cosplay because those who take part of it celebrate things about themselves that make them unique. They don’t feel ashamed for having a sexual attraction to certain looks or personality types. They revel in the creativity of making costumes that may also in turn show off what they feel are their best assets. It’s important to note that the usual events where cosplayers feature are not adult in nature. Some cosplayers with booths may have a folder of prints of nudes for sale but they’re not out in the open. And all rules of mainstream events should be respected. But there are special parties as well as photoshoots and other engagements where cosplay and cosplayers are allowed to be more mature and get naughty. If this interests you keep an eye out for them and support adult performers who are cosplayers who make the kind of content you like!


    Kitti Minx – A model, cosplayer, and adult performer who specialized in the niches of “Alternative”, “Geek Chic”, “Cosplay”, and “Fetish”.  She does photoshoots and a XXX video for a variety of companies as well as her own website. For one on one intimate experiences with fans she offers services as a legal luxury companion at the world famous Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada.

    Follow Kitti Minx on:

    Website: http://www.kitti-minx.com
    Blog: http://www.cosplaycourtesan.com

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kitti_Minx
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KittiMinxOfficial/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kittiminx/
    Suicide Girls: https://www.suicidegirls.com/members/kittiminx/

    CollarSpace: http://collarspace.com/personals/v/2052997/default.htm
    FetLife:
    https://fetlife.com/users/268949


    Images courtesy of Kitti Minx

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  • How To Have Sex When Shy

    How To Have Sex When Shy

    Sex is a natural intimate interaction between two consenting adults. Whether it is done casually after the first meeting and not repeated (a one night stand), casually and repeated (friends with benefits, hookup/booty call), in a monogamous relationship, in a polyamorous relationship (where there is still a romantic inclination but there are other partners), or done as part of a financial transaction such as when one seeks the service of a sex worker.  There is no shame in doing it, how often you do it, or who you do it with so long as you do it safely and all those involved consent to it.

    Now, I am personally someone who can be intimate with another person and not engage in any kind of sexual activity and still feel fulfilled by the intimacy and their company. I also have a more analytical mind to it. People do it because it feels good, whether the physical aspect of the acts themselves and the biological reactions or the mental and emotional fulfillments and release of endorphins.  I’m a very casual, go with the flow person. I go by intuition and instinct rather than itemising every aspect of the interaction and experience. I prefer things to be more organic. If something goes slightly awry I’d rather laugh it off and continue going about the encounter rather than let it ruin the experience.

    I prefer people feel comfortable and relaxed with me and whatever happens happens, rather than focus only on the physical pleasure aspect of it. Perhaps I should also note I am pansexual and have had sexual encounters with men, women, and Trans* individuals and enjoy it all equally. My first sexual experience when I was in my teens was with another girl.

    How To Initiate Sex Even If Shy

    Coming up with a good ice breaker can be hard. As if you’re with another person who is shy and neither wants to make the first move while you are more likely to get the point across by being blunt, “Would you like to fool around sexually?” it may also be too strong a come on to the other person. It’s important to be aware of how the other person is feeling and make sure they’re comfortable with you. If they are more confident than you are, try your best to use your words and body language to make you clearly available and receptive to them coming onto you and making the first move.

    -Touch them – you don’t have to grope or fondle – just touch such as on the arm, leg, lean against them. Make yourself open to their touch as well – uncross your legs, don’t keep your arms folded, try to keep your body angled towards them. Eye contact can be difficult for those who are more introverted but one of the best non-verbal ways to express interest in a person is to make eye contact with them. You don’t have to stare but during conversation, try to keep meeting their gaze. As always ,respect physical boundaries and personal space. If your partner is also shy and not very touchy-feely, don’t touch them as much and try to steer conversation towards sex. You don’t have to be explicit. Bring up a movie or TV show that has something very sexual and ask them what they think about it. Ask their opinion on a feature of yours that could be considered sexual – for ladies, ask what your partner thinks of your top, your lipstick, your bottoms.

    For men, ask what your partner thinks of a feature you feel particularly proud of and try to direct it after getting answers to what they might think of what you’re packing in your pants.  It’s hard to be “smooth” when you’re shy so chances are, especially when first engaging with someone, it’s going to be awkward. Just roll with it! You’ll laugh about it later when you’re done and basking in the post-orgasmic bliss!

    Photo: PhotoFantasies

    Common Reasons For Being Shy

    The most typical reason for shyness during sex is some form of major insecurity. People often feel insecure about their looks and their bodies, for example. Or they feel insecure because of their social experiences (or lack thereof). They worry about making a mistake and the other person not liking them or something going very wrong. They may think the person they are trying to engage with is out of their league and they are not good enough which makes it harder for them to focus on pleasure and being in the moment.  Those who faced a lot of rejection even when they are currently involved in a sexual encounter may feel a lot of shyness and insecurity and second guess everything they do and say because they still worry they will be rejected.

    Men who are insecure about the size of their penis often experience shyness when engaging with a partner and may even have a difficult time getting and maintaining an erection, or reaching the point of orgasm. Even if their partner assures them they’re fine, what they’re doing feels good, and they want to have sex with them. People with less common sexual preferences and fantasies may feel shy during sex because the typical acts aren’t giving them as much pleasure and they are afraid of their partner judging them and deciding to stop engaging if they bring up what would really get them going.

    In turn, someone may feel shy because if their partner brings up whatever they’re doing isn’t doing it for them and they want to try something else that they, themselves, aren’t good enough and are feeling rejected which can lower the mood for them.  When it comes to sex, communication is always key but those who are more introverted have to work extra hard at maintaining communication so that they do have a good time because they have a lot more going on in their minds than someone who is more outgoing and be afraid to express themselves.

    Photo: PhotoFantasies

    Steps To Feel More Comfortable In Bed

    If you are in a position where you are consenting to sex and wanting to have sex and you are with a person consenting to sex with you who wants to have sex with you – the best thing to do is accept that it is happening. That it is okay. You are where you want to be and doing what you want to do.  Doubt can often get in the way of someone feeling comfortable in bed.  Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner. Tell them what’s feeling good and what isn’t. If it helps you, before you even start, cuddle with them and tell them some of the things you like and ask them what they like so once you get started you’re already comfortable and enjoying yourselves.

    People who get nervous about sex and are introverted may want to use alcohol to loosen up and relax and for those who do, moderation is important. Please do not get drunk just to relax enough to have sex. For one you likely won’t enjoy the experience as much as you think you would, and for another more important reason is it is much more difficult for you to consent to things sexually when you are inebriated. You may agree to something during sex you wouldn’t have agreed to sober or you may have given someone the ability to have sex with you when you normally wouldn’t have. It can lead to not always the best situation. It’s important to feel relaxed and comfortable to have a good time but not at the expense of health and safety.

    If you are with a new partner or you and your partner do not plan on starting a family, make sure you have the conversation about safe sex and use protection. With a new partner, to reduce the chance of getting an STD, use barrier protection. Nervousness about pregnancy or catching an STD can make someone very uncomfortable in bed if a plan of action isn’t made first.

    Taking Control During Sex Despite Being Shy

    Taking control can be one of the more difficult things an introverted person can do during sex but can turn into the most liberating when they are able to do it. Dirty talk is a great first step if the partner is open to it. Tell them what is feeling good and what you would like them to do. As you are getting into the groove, take it upon yourself to switch positions or change up the acts (in a safe way).

    Always communicate and don’t do things without permission unless you are doing something as part of an established kink between yourselves and already laid out the rules and boundaries ahead of time. (Rough handling and such are common kinks and asking “is this okay” every time you do something rough in that scenario can be a mood breaker.)

    Your pleasure is yours so whether you get more pleasure by giving or receiving, communicate that with your partner and you become in control of your sexual encounter.

    Photo: PhotoFantasies

    Ways To Lead To Sex

    The creation of “Netflix and Chill” is a gift from the heavens for the more introverted. Especially when that is what it in fact is at first. You and your desired partner are watching something, sitting close together, enjoying each other’s company. An easy way is to put on something with sexual overtones or outright sex scenes. But also simply watching something that is a common interest can lead to conversation and connection. Connection is what leads to sex.

    As you are hanging out, start touching more and let the conversation progress to the subject of hooking up and once you’re there you’re off to the races!  I’m a huge geek so I go to the anime, sci-fi, gaming, and comic book conventions. There you can meet like-minded people with the same interests. Most of them take place in hotels where people have their own rooms. As convention activities wind down in the evenings, it is easy to find someone to talk to you’re interested in and if the interest is mutual, one of you can invite the other to your room to “hang out” which usually leads to sex (many times there is drinking involved as well in these hang outs so please see my prior feelings about using alcohol in moderation when wanting to have sex).

    Modern technology has also made it a lot easier for those who are introverted to be able to have sex with someone. Many shy people have a harder time with face to face conversations but communicating via text messages is easier. If someone rejects you, the conversation can be deleted and forgotten about with much less shame. Any people also feel more liberated to be more forward with their desires, sexually, via communicating using a smartphone or through a social program on the computer. There are even apps now where all you have to do is swipe a few times and exchange some pleasantries and you can meet up that same day for a sexual encounter already knowing you’re both interested.

    Build Your Sexual Confidence

    If someone just needs practice talking, there are many sites with men and women who give sexual performances on live streams who will talk with those who participate. One can even pay for a private show where they can communicate directly one on one with the performer. This can help one practice feeling comfortable talking sexually and flirting with someone who interests them without fear of rejection and there’s that additional protective barrier of it being done online.

    There are cam sites with performers of all genders, not just women performing for men so that kind of practice is out there for anyone.  For someone who needs in person practice in a place where they won’t be judged, especially if they want to practice something sexually, in the state of Nevada, there are legal licensed brothels. The sex workers there are professional and understanding of all situations and go to great lengths to make someone comfortable. It’s not free but many people have reported benefits from paying to have the experience with a licensed legal sex worker that lead to them having more confidence in themselves to initiate relationships and encounters in their regular social lives.


    Kitti Minx – A model, cosplayer, and adult performer who specialized in the niches of “Alternative”, “Geek Chic”, “Cosplay”, and “Fetish”.  She does photoshoots and a XXX video for a variety of companies as well as her own website. For one on one intimate experiences with fans she offers services as a legal luxury companion at the world famous Mustang Ranch in Reno, Nevada.

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    Upcoming Events:

    Throughout the summer I will be shooting photo sets for Suicide Girls as well as my own website, plus hot XXX videos for various companies but also my site as well. Be sure to join as a member to my site and follow my social media to stay up to date for release of new sexy content. I also announce live streams on my site through my social media.

    During the summer and fall I will be attending events at clubs and other venues and hosting special events. If you do not follow the club scene keep an eye on my social media to see if I will be at a location near you! I will be available to sign autographs and sell exclusive merchandise including DVDs.


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