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  • The Most Popular Apps and Platforms in the Current Dating Scene

    The Most Popular Apps and Platforms in the Current Dating Scene

    It’s no secret that people and trends change a lot. So, with all the trends and changes people are making in society, it’s no surprise that the dating scene is following suit. Simply saying “oh well things are more online now” is wrong. If you’ve ever used online dating services or know someone that does, you’ll quickly realize that a dating app or service just acts as the middleman prior to two people meeting each other in person. People spend almost no time talking back and forth in the dating apps or websites and move on directly to meeting each other for lunch or for a drink. 

    Rarely you’ll have people meeting on an app or website and getting to know a person there. 

    The getting-to-know a person always either happens through a phone call or video call if distance is a thing, but mostly starts off like mentioned, with going out for a drink or lunch. That’s where you then actually get to know the other person. You don’t get to know people on an app or a website – you get to know the other person when meeting them face-to-face. 

    In the current day and age there are so many online dating services, hookup sites and dating apps that virtually anyone can find their match. No matter if you’re looking for a simple one-night-stand or something more long-term, chances are you’ll definitely find it online. Here, we’ll discuss just some of these websites and apps that can help you out. 

    Tinder

    Tinder is a dating platform suitable for anyone, no matter what your sexual orientation may be. Tinder has been around ever since 2012, with the global roll out in 2017, bringing people together internationally. 

    Tinder is one of the most popular services out there, more focused on serious orientated relationships rather than hookups. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find both there. As it is international you may see people being in a LDR meaning a “Long Distance Relationship” which almost 100% takes place online and through video calls. 

    Tinder is considered a part of the “big tech” companies since it makes use of in-app microtransactions which allow users to buy credits and upgrade plans. Although tinder is mainly free for everyone, many features are blocked behind this paywall, which is kind of putting a limit on the growth of the company. 

    Grindr 

    Grindr is an app mainly frequented by gay people. This is the first one on the list that is officially labeled a hookup app. The platform briefly featured an online web version but now is just sticking to the mobile app. How Grindr works is you get a list or roster of people nearby who you can directly message and then meet up in future. It is labeled as a hookup app but long term relationships also arise from this app often. However, about 85% of the user base active on the platform are mostly just looking for a hookup. The platform allows for nudity to be posted in certain “special” albums and profiles, but certain criteria must be followed.

    Bumble 

    Bumble is almost exactly the same as Tinder. Some may argue that it is a so-called “copycat” but the one key takeaway of this platform is that more features are free rather than on Tinder, which is making you pay for everything. Bumble is a dating platform suitable for any gender or sexuality. On this platform, one can find both hookups and serious relationships, as well as friends with benefits and similar arrangements.

    Also, long-distance relationships often start on platforms like Bumble. 

    Bumble has been around since 2014, which makes it 2 years younger than Tinder. Both platforms offer upgrades on your account for a set monthly fee. 

    Badoo 

    A lesser popular one, more popular in Western Europe, Badoo brings the best of both worlds all the while keeping microtransactions at a minimum. Badoo was early to the party and was released in 2012, just like Tinder. Badoo is a safe space for LGBTQA+ people and straight people alike. Badoo has been kind of turned into a more of a hookup culture app over the years. It was never the original intent of the developers to make it operate in that kind of way. 

    Badoo is also not afraid to implement new and experimental features, which continue to make the app relevant and attractive to modern-day users.

    Let’s talk all things money 

    The majority of dating platforms make money through advertisements and microtransactions, which is really not surprising. Many patrons also commonly buy things over these platforms. But aside from these means, platforms often provide a way for users to pay for a monthly subscription to unlock features that were otherwise not accessible. Often an app will tell you that you are way more likely to meet someone whilst using one of their plans but in reality the chances are more or less exactly the same. 

    Here are just some of the prices of plans you can expect:

    Tinder

    Tinder Gold and Tinder Plus start at $29.99 and $19.99 per month, respectively, but drop in price the longer you commit. Boosts cost $3.99 each, and Super Likes will run you $0.99 each for a pack of five, but both get progressively cheaper the more you buy.

    Grindr 

    This new, Unlimited version goes for $300 per year. It is not a stretch to say that Grindr is a staple in the gay community. You can also choose to pay 49$/month for the unlimited version of the app. 

    Bumble

    Bumble is free to use, but you can pay to unlock new features like advanced filters and profile boosts. The Bumble Boost plan costs $16.99 per month, and gives unlimited likes and “rematches.” Bumble’s more expensive Premium subscription costs $39.99 a month, or $229.99 for a lifetime plan.

    Badoo

    Badoo is initially free to use. But if you want to buy Badoo credits to use premium features, they must be bought in packages that range from $2.99 (USD) to $19.99 (USD). You can also buy Badoo Premium subscriptions that cost from $0.79 (USD) per day to $59.99 (USD) for a lifetime.


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  • Are we all just a bunch of dicks?

    Are we all just a bunch of dicks?

    Now I used to use two “social networking” apps, Grindr and Scruff, more out of habit and also still a vague belief that I may actually meet someone half decent after all I am on there and I am half decent.

    Now as someone who has a wealth of experience of working in sexual health promotion, HIV prevention and also general emotional support roles for gay and bisexual men, I am no prude. Why I am saying this, well, it’s the context of what I am about to say! I can tell you some of my experiences that would make men think twice.

    Now it’s enough that many profiles are faceless, body shots or some other random picture other than your face. Now I appreciate that being a gay is still an issue for some guys and there is plenty of support out there if you want it! (Another blog about the “closets” issue another time) However, why when one (I) asks for a face picture, am I greeted with a pic of their dick or cock or arse as an opener than just a Hi! Would I go around a bar with my face covered, poke someone in the back, get my dick out and wave it about really thinking that I will get laid that way? I think not, even in saunas you can see a bloke’s face, whole body and not just his cock or arse! The whole point of having a profile and info there is to give a sense of what and who you are, yes, even if it is just a one off encounter. I really have to wonder just how many gay men have sexual addiction problems and many agencies just aren’t going there and if anything colluding with the behaviour with sometimes very PRO sex, sexual health campaigns!

    Now I am not subscribing to the Mary Whitehouse school of sexual repressions. I like and enjoy sex as much as the next man and have had a reasonable amount of sexual partners in the past, even if it has been almost 14 months since I last had sex. I just feel that we (as a gay male community) really don’t make the effort any more in pursuing sex. We just expect to message someone, turn up at a random strangers house and have sex! Even without seeing who they are first! I have lost count of the amount of men who have expected that of me lol! Even though I was accused of being a bare backing crystal meth head because of some of my pics, despite them being about 5% of my pics, all the other ones of my face, my body and one of my cock. Which brings me back to the pics issue, why do we need to see 10, 15 or 20 pics of it! One is enough surely, when I have sex with a man, it’s not just his cock and arse that I am interested in, but his face as well his body etc!

    Surely putting in a bit of effort is part of the fun of the pursuit? Having a few more face pics, details in your profile about you etc. Not just about what you “demand” in a sexual partner or what you’re looking for, how about what you have to offer as well. Nothing worse than the narcissistic bloke who thinks he’s so amazing that we ought to be lining up for him. Surely sexual interaction is a two way street, or if you’re wanting more, then dating is a two way process!

    Or are we just a bunch of dicks really now! Just our cocks or arses and nothing more or less?

    I feel we are more than that and worth more than that!


     

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