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  • What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    My sexual self is a big component of my identity, and one that I love to indulge in. Sex for me can be a means of receiving intimacy and comfort, a form of release and stress-relief, or simply a fun way to pass the time. My work is an extension of my sexual identity, and one that satisfies me on a number of levels. Of course, in a work context I am catering to whatever purpose sex serves for my clients, whether that’s one of learning and experimentation, of overcoming fears and insecurities, or of receiving touch and human-connection. But I think that there’s a general misconception that sex is always special or significant and ends (or should end) in a raging orgasm. There needs to be more of an acknowledgment that sex is never always or even ever this for some people, but that open communication and great consent practices are vital if we wish to strive towards positive sexual experiences for everyone.

    What Is The Girlfriend Experience?

    The girlfriend experience centres on intimacy, and I think a major tenant is ‘authenticity’. Clients want to know that you’re enjoying yourself just as much as they are, that you’re not there just for the money, and that you truly care about them in that moment. My GFE includes deep French kissing and mutual oral – most of my clients adore giving head and will do so for most of the session. My body is very sexually responsive and this enables my clients to experience the interaction as a mutually pleasurable experience, which certainly isn’t a necessity for me to enjoy a session but is something that my clients value. They love to know they have made me come. My sessions also commonly include extended make-outs and cuddling, and my clients often share personal feelings, insecurities and other concerns, especially related to their sex life and relationships.

    Popularity of The GFE

    The GFE is very popular because people want and need intimacy and human connection. I don’t wish to construct or support a hierarchy that puts the provision of intimacy above the provision of sex, but I think that the act of sex is perhaps more accessible to clients (through sex work or other means) than access to intimacy, making an ‘authentic’ intimate service one that is highly valued. Sometimes it has been a long time since my client has felt sexually valued or capable, or they haven’t ever had an opportunity to express what they want and take their time without the anxiety of performing for an expectant lover. The GFE can be a safe container in which people can be vulnerable in this and even work through their hang-ups.

    GFE Rules

    There is a fine line between fantasy and reality, and I think GFE (or at least the way I approach it) blurs this line. Connecting with a person is connecting with a person, but it is important for clients to understand that it is still a service, and that our relationship exists within the confines of the session for which I have been paid. Other workers might construct a clear distinction between a GFE and PSE (porn star experience) service, but although I would describe my service as exclusively GFE it also includes tenants of a PSE should my client desire it. Often my clients and I have very energetic sex, with multiple positions including those that are less face-to-face, body-to-body intimate (for example, doggy style). For this reason I sometimes describe my service as a ‘sexy’ or ‘dirty’ girlfriend experience to flag that this kind of sex is also on offer. I don’t offer anal penetration or natural services, but these are personal boundaries that do not only apply to my GFE but to all of my service-styles and sessions.

    Preparing For An Intimate Experience

    I experience the time spent with my clients as a container in which everything in my personal life falls away. This is important to ensure I am in the moment and can truly devote my focus towards my client and the sexual experience at hand. If I am very stressed or sexually exhausted this becomes more difficult, but that comes down to self care and whether I am managing my own emotional and physical needs in a personal context. I need to cultivate my own mental health and gather my ‘spoons’ in order to be able to give in the capacity that I do with my clients, as it takes a lot to be so sexually and emotionally vulnerable with people who are essentially (or at least begin as) strangers.

    Marina Lee is Melbourne’s most authentic escort experience, porn performer and sexual politics geek. She has a penchant for hair, hedonism and kink, and adores connecting with new people.

    Stay up-to-date with Marina’s session availability, porn scenes and general antics by visiting her website www.escortmarinalee.com or following her on twitter at www.twitter.com/MarinaLeeX.

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  • 5 Things You Didn’t Know About Escorts

    5 Things You Didn’t Know About Escorts

    I love sex and everything that’s related to it. I view sex as a great source of fun, relaxation and endorphins 🙂

    I’ve always been very sexual and a bit promiscuous. Already at quite a young age, I realized I’m attracted to older boys/men and that monogamous relationships don’t satisfy me. So when I first got an offer to have sex for money, it didn’t take me long to decide to go for it. I did the math and came to the conclusion that having lots of sex with various guys and getting paid for it is even better than doing it for free 😀 So I became a prostitute.

    At first, I had some lovers who gave me “pocket money” and then I started to advertise as an escort and meet clients on a daily basis. After a short time, I found out that working abroad is more lucrative and adventurous, so I started to travel for work to richer European countries. Nowadays, I mostly work in Scandinavia, France and in Prague, where I live, but I consider visiting other European countries in the future.

    1. Popular Requests From Clients

    Most people want to meet me for an one hour long encounter and their popular requests are kissing, blowjobs without condom, CIM and girlfriend experience in general. I also get requests for longer appointments and overnights, which are more about companionship than about sex, but most of my meetings are the combination of both.

    Concerning the requests for specific services, most of my clients want a GFE, because that’s what I specialize in. Or better said, it’s the way I normally treat them, unless we agree on something else. Kissing, cuddling and a lover-like attitude is what feels natural for me. My website and ad is targeted to the men seeking for this kind of experience, therefore the GFE is the most common request I get. Many people also ask me for anal sex, prostate massage and giving them golden showers.

    2. Preferences For Certain Clients

    Age and looks are the least important things for me. In general, I prefer men who are experienced in terms of how to please a woman, but the inexperience ones can be fun too. I like to teach them. I’ve met quite a many virgins and in many cases, I didn’t want to believe them that they really had no experiences.

    If it is about penis size, I don’t like anything extreme. Apart from that, I don’t care whether it’s small or big, thin or thick. It’s more about the technique.

    I only have preferences about the clients manners and behavior. I like to meet people that are polite, respectful and who want me to enjoy the meeting too. Since I’m careful and selective about who I meet, I rarely have clients who aren’t like that.

    3. Establishing A Good Connection

    I think it’s all about being relax. So I just keep myself in a good mood and it seems to be working 🙂 I just act naturally, wear casual clothes (unless they ask me to wear something specific) and I treat them like my lovers. Then in most cases, the clients are relax too and the chemistry and the connection just shows up. What clients don’t like are the girls who are stressed out and the robotic professionals who act like they think they’re the best girls in the world.

    4. Falling In Love With Clients

    I see romantic love that people write poems about as a set of chemical reactions, just like happiness or sadness. The sensation of feeling in love is given by the same set of hormones that are released when doing sports or eating chocolate. So to me, falling in love is something that can be controlled or even avoided, if I want. I sometimes feel that kind of emotion when spending time with some clients. I’m even able to feel “in love” a couple times of a day and with various people 🙂 I always enjoy that feeling, but I don’t let it fool me. First and foremost, I love my freedom.

    Even though some of my regular clients are more like my friends, I always keep our relationships professional. We meet up, have a good time and conversation, and that’s pretty much it. I enjoy the time we spend together, but I refuse all the offers for unpaid encounters I get from them. I have a lot of good time with my clients, so I don’t have a need to go for dates that aren’t part of my job.

    5. Challenges Of An Escort

    I sometimes have to deal with prejudices and stupid questions, but I believe that’s something what everyone who doesn’t go with the flow faces from time to time. When having to communicate with people, that are prejudiced or negative, I always try to remember that what they’re saying is not about me, but about them and their lack of information.

    Another challenge are various legislation about prostitution, which are said to be settled to protect the escorts, but do the exact opposite. That would be a topic for a longer article, I guess.

    The challenges people often talk about, such as bad customers or sexually transmitted diseases can be easily avoided by not taking the risks, being well informed and by simply following my intuition.

    Escorting is as safe and fun as I make it. And I love to have good fun 🙂

    Hi, I’m Coco and I’m an independent escort working in Europe. Few years ago, I decided not to waste a minute of my life by doing things I don’t enjoy and by doing what others expect me to do. So I turned my passion for sex into a profitable business. When not spending my time with nice gentlemen, I love doing sports, educating myself, traveling around the world, relaxing and doing whatever makes me happy at the moment 🙂

    Follow and contact me at http://www.coco-independent-companion.com and Twitter @coco_companion

    Featured image courtesy of Coco
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