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  • How to be a great Top

    How to be a great Top

    I find sex to be one of the most exciting things to enjoy with another person. Sex can be like music, depending on the song itself, it might not be to your taste and that goes with guys. If they say they are top and they have a small dick then it’s like metal, all sound and no performance. Guys that top have a responsibility, you may think you can just fuck someone and be done but you have to make sure the bottom is experiencing it the same way; otherwise the bottom can tighten and turn your pleasure into pain. I have topped and bottomed for guys and there is a whole world of difference in the two. As a top I had to make sure they were not hurting from the thrusts and as a bottom I had to find a way to make it comfortable for me but to also control the tops movement. It’s really difficult but so much fun when you hear them scream whether you are fucking them for entertainment or revenge.

    Is foreplay crucial?

    Foreplay is not crucial but fun, if they come home looking stressed, always start with a massage because not only do they instantly get naked for you, they can get stress relief from the foreplay and you can find parts of their body that makes them moan with pleasure. Foreplay shouldn’t be too long but can sometimes go too far. Blindfolding can be sexy with them not being able to see what’s coming, but don’t take it too far or the next thing you know, that whip you try to use will be fired back at you. My personal favorite is forbidden sex, going somewhere where sex is not allowed and having fun is definitely the way to go for me, especially when caught.

    Lube is helpful..

    I always use lube when I top because generally, guys who bottom can be quite tight so it helps alongside rimming them before. Just make sure they are clean before you decide to rim them or you could end up with a Hershey kiss. If they are allergic to lube like some guys, then rimming can be either one or the only alternative to make sure your cock remains attached to your body when you enter that tight hole. Although I think moisturizer, can be a very useful product. Moisturize the edges of the hole. That way, it doesn’t burn on the inside and you can slide in there like that guy has been bottom so much his ass can do the talking for him.

    Great Topping positions

    Guys have their own preferences, because there’s something good about each. Missionary gives both the ability to watch each other’s reactions. It also allows the top to masturbate the bottom as he strokes. The bottom can urge the top on with his hands on his ass, and if you’re into kissing, it’s good.

    Doggy is good for hard fast thrusting, and the top can pull the bottom into him by holding onto his waist. Being on your sides, gives good body contact, and the top can rub the bottoms chest, masturbate him, and play with his nipples, even suck them when the bottom puts his arm around the tops’ back. As far as body contact, the top can put all his weight against the bottom in both mission and doggy. A lot of bottoms love that for both the friction their erection gets (either on the stomach of the top in mission, or against the bed sheets in doggy), and the feeling of submission they get being trapped.

    All said, just experiment and try them all. You’ll find you like different parts of different positions, and probably at different times too.

    How to relax the Bottom

    A bottom is never ready; the only way you can help them is by making sure they are relaxed from the start. Teasing them and allowing them to take a little control can help them settle into the sex, drinking a little can also help. Nothing mad like shots or beer because that will set your stomach to go crazy once you add a cock. Go for a nice glass of wine watered down, that way it doesn’t settle and you have a little confidence (I’m speaking for the bottom to drink, not the top. A top to drink could mean a flaccid sex drive). As a bottom, you must also make sure your legs are close to your stomach, that way your anal experience will hurt less.

    Things the Top should note

    Tops need to look out for anal cleanliness, if that hole isn’t clean, than safe sex is the option to go. You don’t want your dick to look like you dipped it in the wrong chocolate. If your bottom boy is moaning in the wrong way, make sure you reposition him to help give him just as much pleasure as you are getting from fucking him senseless.

    The worst thing you can do is just jam it in. Unless your bottom is like a freeway on a ramp, a slow start is best. I find the best way to start is to slowly slide it in (with plenty of lube). Don’t get creative yet. Just watch and listen to their reaction. It gives them time to relax. It’s at this point that I have learned it’s better to grind rather than fuck. It’s the “in and out” that can be painful in the beginning but grinding slow is hot, passionate and a great way to start.

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  • Hot foreplay moves that Guys love and fantasize about

    Hot foreplay moves that Guys love and fantasize about

    Honestly, it all depends on what you consider “foreplay.” I would consider it to be the various things people do to prepare each other for physical intimacy. Some women like to start with a strip-tease, some guys might like to ease into it by giving their partner a massage, and for some couples, it might involve something a little more elaborate.

    However, I think my definition of foreplay isn’t all that popular. The word “foreplay” is commonly used as a catch-all for anything that happens before the moment when a penis enters a vagina, but I don’t think that’s really fair. It pre-supposes that the only “real sex” is sex that happens when a penis is inside a vagina, and everything else is “just foreplay.” “Sex” isn’t just one very specific activity—well, at least good sex isn’t. We all know it’s a lot more than that.

    Good sex can include a multitude of various activities: cunnilingus, fellatio, fingering, mutual masturbation, anal play, kissing, massage, breast worship, etc. And those activities don’t always happen before intercourse. Haven’t you ever stopped to change positions from, say, doggystyle to missionary, and upon glimpsing a flash of pussy, decided that instead you’d like to go down for a bit? Let’s stop thinking of sex as something formulaic and instead appreciate the spontaneous nature of it.

    That being said, there are reasons that people often do “other things” before the initial penetration. Intercourse just works better if a guy’s dick is rock hard and a girl’s pussy is nice and wet. Personally, I find subtle physical flirtation a huge turn-on. If the conversation’s going well and someone can find a little excuse to touch me—nothing major, just something small and subtle—I find that a huge turn-on, and if it’s done right by someone from whom I welcome the attention, I’ll feel myself getting wet even before I’ve dropped my panties. And what’s even better is that it makes it difficult for me to resist the urge to touch them back, and since I’m already turned on, I’ll be a bit more…assertive. For example, I find it super hot to move from subtle, flirtatious touching to some light, playful kisses, and then to a deep kiss with my body pressed up against his so that I can feel his bulge against me. I like to slip my hand down outside of his pants to feel if he’s hard, and if he’s not, I like to feel his dick begin to get hard as I stroke it through his pants. Just feeling his cock grow for me gets me going, and at that point, if the gentleman is holding back, I might just throw him down and jump on. HOT.   And let me remind you that, at this point, we still have our clothes on.

    After that, I really love undressing a guy. I find it really sensual to take a man’s clothes off. Maybe it’s a power thing: I love when a man relinquishes that power to me and lets me be the one to unwrap him.   And don’t forget that we all love flattery. People are at their most vulnerable when they’re naked, and we all want our partners to appreciate and enjoy our bodies as the beautiful tools of pleasure that they are. So this is a great time to compliment the matching bra and panties I might be wearing! And ladies, the same goes for your guy. Guys love compliments just as much as we do.

    Some people love the art of tease. I appreciate it myself, though sometimes I find it really, really hard to hold back. But if you can manage it, you’re likely to have a really mind-blowing orgasm once you finally let go. So, if that’s the route you want to go, try a little massage. And maybe not in the traditional sense—get creative. Climb on top of your guy and massage his shoulders and arms from the front, ever-so-slightly grinding against his cock, but don’t let him touch you.  Watch his face. If he seems like he’s really, really enjoying it, like he’s dying to put his cock inside you, well, try backing off a bit—if you can bear it! Take one of his hands and glide his fingers between your thighs, letting him feel how hot and wet you are for him. If neither of you is quite “there” yet, well, everyone loves oral, and I’ve found that it’s a surefire way to get each other physically “ready” for penetration.

    But don’t get stuck in a rut—do what feels right, of course, but remember that it’s OK to switch things up. Suck his cock for a bit and then put him inside you. If you can muster the self-discipline, go back to sucking it after a bit, or perhaps try 69 for a while. Or, if your guy’s into ass play, this might be a good opportunity to grab the lube and give him a prostate massage (but watch out—this tends to make men come really quickly!). When he’s coming close to orgasm, ask him to do something for you suck your nipples, perhaps, while you stroke his cock. At some point, neither of you will be able to hold on any longer—just remember, there’s no “right” order to enjoy the things you and your partner enjoy, and there isn’t one “right” way to have sex. With some creativity and communication with your partner, there are infinite roads to Orgasm Town. 😉

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  • What do most men do after sex

    What do most men do after sex

    I am one of those men who believe that –

    The sex act can be divided into three components: foreplay, intercourse, and afterplay.

    Foreplay, about which volumes have been written, is the traditional lead-in to intercourse itself. Foreplay can last from minutes to hours, is limited primarily by imagination and creativity, and includes all activities that stimulate the sexual appetite for intercourse. I truly enjoy foreplay, unlike some men who just want to get down to the business.

    Personally speaking, I love intense and insanely hot makeout session, caressing, heavy petting and oral sex. The passion of getting aroused by tantalizing kissing, touching and caressing erogenous zones, exploring each other’s bodies before penetration can be very satisfying.
    Intercourse itself is what most people consider the pleasure of sex. However, what happens after intercourse can be just as meaningful emotionally and pleasurable physically. This post coital activity is known as “afterplay”.

    This is what most men do after having sex-

    1. Roll over and fall asleep.

    2. Obsessive need to clean up after. Some men feel repulsed after orgasm and just want to clean themselves up thoroughly.

    3. Light a cigarette. I know it sounds like a cliche’ but some men enjoy a smoke after the act.

    4. Get up and leave. Their point is- “I am in for sex and not for after play or anything. Dude, we are not in a relationship or anything, Right?”

    5. Cuddle, some men like to cuddle which reinforces release of endorphins and oxytocin. It maakes you feel good.

    6. Finally there are those men- who like to clean up everything without using towel, if you know what I mean 🙂

    Unfortunately, most men don’t believe in afterplay, and frankly not much is written about afterplay.

    As far as I am concerned, I believe that afterplay is as important as foreplay. Ignorance of afterplay is common. Many people simply don’t realize that intimate ambiance can continue after orgasm.

    Some universal perspectives on how to enjoy Afterplay

    How should you afterplay? That depends on you as a couple. Many people prefer cuddling and snuggling. Hair brushing, back scratching, massaging, and caressing are also popular. Just lying together, savoring the touch, sight, smell, and taste of each other can bring intense emotional satisfaction and ready lovers for another shared intimacy.

    To quote the fourth century Sanskrit love manual, the Kama Sutra- “If lovers spend time playing and caressing each other at the end of their loving, then their ecstasy and confidence increase. Love-play enhances pleasure.”
    Afterplay should include some of the things that they enjoy and that brought them together in the first place, such as a bubble bath, sharing a glass of wine, or listening to music. Romantic, intimate conversation during afterplay can enhance the emotional aspects of sex and strengthen the bonds of the relationship, as can sharing an intimate laugh or joke.

    Afterplay do’s and don’ts

    It is important to remember that the time immediately after intercourse is a time of great vulnerability. If the intercourse is fast, furious, and unfulfilling, the partners–may feel  “post coital depression.” This feeling of emptiness and resentment can be lessened by effective afterplay, especially with reassurance, embracing, and cuddling. If there was difficulty during sex, the ensuing awkwardness or embarrassment can also be relieved by good afterplay.

    In his book Secrets of Better Sex, Dr. Joel Block provides five “do’s and don’ts ” for enjoying afterplay

    • Don’t use afterplay as a “sexual postmortem.”
    • Don’t air sexual grievances or complaints.
    • Do use this intimate time to express sexual feelings, thoughts, and desires that you’ve not previously shared.
    • Don’t discuss problems with your job, your finances, or your children.
    • Do cuddle and caress for at least five minutes.
    • Do say “I love you’.”

    Want to prolong afterplay?

    You can avoid the following: jumping up to “wash off,” turning on the television, making phone calls, criticizing your partner’s performance, or making comparisons to previous partners.

    Another important consideration regarding afterplay is the timing of sex. If you usually have sex at night, your fatigue, in combination with the parasympathetic response of orgasm will reduce your energy for afterplay. Why not consider sex at different times of the day? Early morning sex is a great way to start the day, and “afternoon delight” is just that. That extra burst of energy may just allow you more room for dessert!

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  • Foreplay | A Lethal Weapon For Pleasurable Experience

    Foreplay | A Lethal Weapon For Pleasurable Experience

    What Is Foreplay?foreplay

    Foreplay is the engagement of your partner in oral stimulation, touching, massage and other forms of interaction that precede sexual intercourse. For women, foreplay is what gets them in the mood and also allows them to achieve the fullest orgasmic response. In these ways, foreplay is a truly lethal weapon for pleasurable intercourse.

    Why Foreplay Is A Lethal Weapon?

    Because women don’t usually achieve orgasm during sex, foreplay can be a device for many things, including sexual manipulation. This doesn’t have to be a negative thing because using foreplay to arouse and stimulate your partner has many positive effects. Keep this in mind, as foreplay is discussed further in this article.

    How To Perform Foreplay?

    Think of foreplay in terms of sensual arousal and stimulation. Massage and touching are very important tools in the foreplay arsenal. Learn to get her ready for sex by building up to it slowly. After spending some serious time establishing tactile intimacy, go ahead and engage her in oral sex. If possible, don’t ask her to reciprocate. This is a huge turn on for many women, but should at least surprise her.

    Whatever you do, make the foreplay all about her needs and not yours. This makes it an especially lethal weapon, sexually speaking. The goal is to give her a full orgasm before engaging in any kind of sexual activity. This is what makes the most lethal weapon of all, as a man giving her pleasure.

    How Foreplay Helps?

    Foreplay helps get women in the mood and enjoy sex in the following ways. These are the primary ways, but not the only ones. Once a man knows his woman’s favourite foreplay recipe, there are many others to unlock, but this list is a good start for beginners.

    1) Foreplay Helps to Initiate & Stimulate Her

    In general, foreplay helps get a woman’s motor running. She thinks of sex in terms of physical intimacy and interactive stimulation. You need to engage her in these ways if she is going to truly enjoy any type of sexual intercourse or other activities. Even going through the motions helps, but try to be sincere when in the midst of foreplay. Most women can tell the difference.

    2) Foreplay Ensures Pleasurable Intercourse for Her

    A woman needs to be wet inside and warmed up, so that sexual intercourse is comfortable for her body. If she doesn’t feel this way, all the sex drive in the world won’t keep her in the mood. She will become physically tired, dry inside and limited in her patience. Foreplay is the best way to ensure that her body is ready to have intercourse, especially if you are a male who has stamina. If you engage her well in your foreplay, she will probably let you go for much longer.

    3) Foreplay Helps Alleviating Her Stress

    Women release stress by feeling good about themselves and their bodies. Just engaging in foreplay is a great stress reliever for any woman, especially if it is done correctly. Once you get to know your partner, her body will become like a lock with a specific combination. Therefore, it is possible to learn how to give her great pleasure and release stress, just by having some foreplay before each sexual session together. Remember, a relaxed woman will stay in bed longer and be willing to do whatever feels good. That’s how to have really good sex.

    4) Foreplay Raises Chances of Making Her Orgasm

    The easiest way to make most women cum is during oral sex and hot foreplay. As stated above, once a man knows his partner and her body well, making her relax becomes easy. Once you know what gets a woman relaxed, making her orgasm is usually simple. Find her timing, rhythm and listen to what sounds she is making. These are all you need to tune into to make her orgasm again and again. Do this regularly and she will be entranced with having you do it again. 

    So Use This Lethal Weapon To Hit The Target!!!

    If you want to keep a woman happy in bed, then learn to use foreplay to your advantage. There is no more powerful weapon that you can have in your sexual arsenal. Getting your partner aroused means becoming an expert in foreplay. So get to work men and use your most lethal weapon in the bedroom.

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