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  • Useful Tips To Spice Sex Up On Your Wedding Night

    Useful Tips To Spice Sex Up On Your Wedding Night

    Getting married!! You already have butterflies in your stomach. As the day progresses, the anxiety well starts to build up; more if you have not known your husband or wife for long before the wedding. The wedding night or first night is the most significant period in the couple’s life, what happens that night will be imprinted in your mind lifelong. So don’t rush.

    Sex can happen or cannot, so go with an open mind. It’s more important to relax in each others company and to control your nervousness.  Try and connect emotionally first rather than get physical. The husband should always make the first move and give hints to his partner that he is getting aroused in her presence and politely and passionately convince her that you will not cause her any pain.

    It’s very easy for couples to get excited on their first night even if they have known each other for a long time.  The trick here is to keep it slow, take time to understand each others body. Kissing, hugging, and fondling each other should be a kick start to have wonderful sex on your first night. Husbands should be more patient, unselfish and in control to satisfy his wife. Being pushy on the first night could lead to repulsion.

    The first night act is not only the husband’s responsibility, but the wife also needs to be actively involved in it. Women feel shy in opening up about their body and feelings and many times resist having sex on their first night. These days girls are becoming more matured and listen to their body and don’t consider having sex as a mere duty to please their husbands, but would like to be a part of it. Exercising regularly and stretching the pelvic muscles will help reduce pain on the first night.

    Taking a shower together, it will help you open up and also relax in each others company. It’s advisable to keep the lights off and have candles lit all around to create that perfect atmosphere and to explore each others body. Proceed once you are comfortable, step by step, which will build a great bond of trust and understanding. Husbands should understand his wife’s fear of having sex for the first time; it can only be less painful if there is good intense foreplay involved. At times you can also use artificial lubricants to relieve pain. After all it’s how much you love your wife and care about her.

    It’s not necessary that you end up having an intercourse on the first night. You can try giving your partner a massage to relieve the pressure and when the time is right make your next move. There are couples who would like to take some time, just enjoy foreplay and sleep naked in each other arms till passion takes over them completely, because this is not the only night you are spending together, your first night will determine the pleasure level for all the coming years.

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  • Don’t Let Your Virgin Sex Experience Be Awkward

    Don’t Let Your Virgin Sex Experience Be Awkward

    I am a virgin but my partner is definitely more experienced than me. Is there anything I can do to not make things weird or awkward on the first time?

    My short answer to your question is, communicate! I would encourage both of you to have a conversation before you guys decide to have sex for the first time as a couple and for you the first time ever. I don’t mean have a conversation as your clothes are coming off but rather a few days or even weeks before you anticipate the big moment happening.

    You guys don’t have to come up with a play by play (unless you want to of course) but instead talk about some things you can prepare for; like deciding where your first time is going to be (maybe the bed, maybe the shower, who knows!) or whether or not you guys will be using condoms*. These decisions that can be made and talked about ahead of time and can make the anticipation leading up to the first time more enjoyable and less stressful for you.

    If having a conversation before the sexy-time doesn’t feel like preparation enough you could also have some sexy-time by yourself (if you don’t already do that). Masturbating can help you figure out what feels good for you to be able to guide your partner when you guys are working up to having sex for the first time.

    *I’m assuming you will be engaging in penetrative sex with a male partner; my sincerest apologies if I have assumed wrong.

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    Nicole is currently in school obtaining her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from Smith College with a focus on LGBTQ issues and couples/marriage therapy. Nicole hopes to become a certified sex therapist to continue educating clients and helping people advocate for and embrace their sexuality. Read the rest of her profile below and the links to follow her!

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  • My First Sexual Experience

    My First Sexual Experience

    The shameless expression of sexuality and the act itself has been, for many places and eras throughout history, deemed as a forbidden fruit. And while admittedly, that can be part of its charm, (like all things that are considered naughty) I truly do love it best when it is an outspoken subject. Even though not everyone can relate to loving sex, or to finding power in it, there’s almost nothing more enlightening to me than “breaking through” the barriers inside myself; the ones that were created by the society in which I grew up in; to find peace and normality in its subject. And with that, to find artistic beauty and euphoria in your own body and in your pleasure, as well as in the body and pleasure of other people. Because after all, not everyone is cut out for reserving their sex life to a shadowy, private bedroom where only one pair of eyes will ever get to see what you have to offer. If that’s your cup of tea, great. But for others, that is like fitting squares into circles.

    I would say that I’ve had quite a lot of sex for my age, and have definitely been fortunate with my partners in that department. I look back at my past and present sexual experiences with a vast amount of fascination. The alchemy that I create with my partner is often the marque of the relationship. It’s not the foundation, but it has always been the cherry on top. Sex is awesome. I feel a great deal of empathy for it, especially when it is expressed artistically. It fills your brain with natural chemicals that demand for you to block out the world and concentrate on chasing desire until it surrenders. Or it can just be plain beautiful. You can have a bad relationship, but you can never have bad consensual sex. I – for one – would never want to allow that.

    My First Time

    It was two months before my sweet sixteen. As the moment ensued, I remember knowing that I was confident and ready. It was not my first opportunity, but it was the one I felt most ready for. It was a relinquishment of sorts, not planned and yet not exactly freely given either. I just knew that I wanted it to happen, very much. Recalling his facial expression upon feeling how narrow my hymen was around him is my favorite part of the whole thing. Yet I almost laugh now thinking about how awkwardly I had performed – in a way that definitely made my inexperience obvious, of course. But I had been looking forward to it, ever since I knew what sex was. One detail in following through with its action I want to mention is that it was intentionally done as a one night stand. I know him somewhat, but there are and never were any strings. The reason for this is because I feared the thought of someone thinking that they owned my heart and my life just because they had popped my cherry. I didn’t want to be thought of as being sexually meek and easily stuck-on, but someone who was confident in themselves. And that if someone wanted a relationship with me, it would be because they wanted me for who I was, not because my sexuality had only belonged to them. That was an important point that I went out of my way to make for myself. It was not a point to be promiscuous all the time, because I never really was. Simply put, it would allow me to seek out something more emotional afterwards without having that fear. It was the right decision for me; not right for everyone.

    I remember that it hurt to an extent despite the gentleness, and that it was obvious that I didn’t quite know how to move or please him – at least, no where near pornstar level. My hymen area and inner muscles felt so numb that there were times I wasn’t sure if he was even inside (but don’t get me wrong, his size was considerable). It mostly felt like an enormous amount of pressure which left me breathless and excited. No regrets there, except for one – that I can’t have it happen again!

    Then after a parting hug, I immediately experienced a really strange feeling. The anxiety that had been within me was enveloped by a calm atmosphere in the room. I felt powerful and in control. Content. Like there was a giant weight lifted off my shoulders, or a huge amount of knowledge that I had inevitably discovered and was letting settle. It’s difficult to put a finger as to why that happened, but it was mesmerizing.

    With Experience And Practice…

    This is obvious, but it becomes more and more fun as my skills are honed. Different partners liked different positions, among other things, so with experience I was able to offer a few surprise moves that were pleasantly received. I became more able to make suggestions that my partner might not have ever tried if not for my involvement, such as anal. That is the number one thing that distinguishes myself from how I was then to now. The versatility of the performance, made possible by the knowledge collected from previous experiences.

    When it comes to more intimate situations, one would think that I would have it all down and be completely fearless. Sometimes I am, but truth be told with each new partner a bashfulness is reborn – until that person becomes my boyfriend. Or not. I guess it comes with the territory of being more physically inclined than emotionally inclined. My current partner, however, has been able to work some kind of magic on me and has made me much more of an emotional person. This has allowed for a more affectionate kind of sex, with small but powerful bursts of the roughness that I’m used to. So while I have been softened up around the edges, he still makes sure that the sex remains raw and exciting. So even though I thought that I was the one who was going to rock his world and bring him something he never experienced before, maybe the tables got turned on me – and now I am the one who is learning something new.

    20 year old Cam Model and erotic content creator. In social media, I go by the alias MoonConjured but am more personally known as Alira Latex. I’m a visual artist by aspiration and admire all practices of creativity. Follow me on Twitter @MoonConjured, Instagram @MoonConjured, ManyVids www.ManyVids.com/MoonConjured and Chaturbate www.Chaturbate.com/MoonConjured.

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  • Who should you have your first threesome with?

    Who should you have your first threesome with?

    Who to choose for your first threesome is daunting a question that couples face when planning their first threesome. Is it a friend or stranger? The answer will impact the experience and possibly the relationship.

    A friend is someone who is known, such as a: colleague, co-worker, acquaintance, or close friend. As a choice, a friend offers a degree of predictability, they are easily accessible, and the choice provides a sense of security. Choosing a friend means minimizing a lot of vetting and the taken time getting to know each other. It can also mean that the sex is more intimate and meaningful.

    At this point, choosing a friend seems like the perfect choice? What about a stranger? A stranger is someone that is met for the sole purpose of having a threesome. Sometimes they may be become a friend but the foundation of the relationship remains that of group sex. Meeting a stranger for a threesome can be scary since it means speaking with someone who is unknown and before the threesome happens, it means building enough trust for sex to occur.

    Properly vetting a stranger offers many things a friend cannot. The biggest advantage for choosing a stranger is privacy. There is less of a risk of friends, your employer, and family discovering your experience. Also, I believe that choosing a stranger offers another advantage and that advantage is a lower chance of emotional attachment.

    This leads to the question, is a friend really the best choice? Granted a friend means having a threesome will occur faster and more likely be more enjoyable. However there is still one remaining question regarding choosing a friend, how does the friendship continues once the threesome ends? Are you willing to lose a friend to have a threesome?

    If they have an attraction for your partner is it likely they will pursue them or is there a chance of emotional involvement that will lead to the destruction of your relationship with your spouse? At this point, a stranger seems a more obvious choice. However, do you believe they are trustworthy? Do you feel safe around them?

    Speaking from experience, using both friends and strangers for a threesome, I lean towards choosing a stranger. Let me explain from a first hand situation experienced a several years ago whereby we had invited a friend. My wife knew him and he was someone with whom she had a curiosity. We agreed that if it was going to happen, it would be a one-off situation. After a quick phone call and a few hours later, the evening was probably the hottest night of my life thus far. I watched him fuck her and watched his cum dripping out of her. Up to that point, everything went perfectly. However, we eventually lost him as a friend and she suffered remorse afterwards.

    In contrast, we had another experience several months prior to the above-mentioned. This time, it was with a stranger and it took a few months to happen. It started innocently with him flirting with her. Slowly their interest in each other grew and we talked about how she would like to fuck him. The talk began as a fantasy and how it would feel for her, if he did fuck her. Then, as time progressed, the conversation shifted from being a fantasy to a ‘what if,’ conversation. She was still hesitant about going through with it and I was happy keeping it as a fantasy. One day after returning from flirting with him some more, she told me they were talking about wanting to fuck alone. We set some basic rules and it finally happened. When she returned, it was quite arousing for the both of us.

    From my own personal experience, if I am to answer to the question as to who I would recommend for someone’s first threesome, my answer would be to invite a stranger. A stranger can take longer to arrange because a level of trust needs to be built and the initial sexual enjoyment may be lesser. However, the arrangement can be less complicated and easier to end. This can mean a more stress free experience for all involved.

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