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  • How To Get Started Into Swinging For Couples

    How To Get Started Into Swinging For Couples

    In the last 20 years, alternative lifestyles and relationships other than  traditional ‘monogamous heterosexual’ marriage has gained acceptance and popularity. Adult porn stars, such as Jemma Jameson, have become household names. Movies such as Eyes Wide Shut was a box office hit, and the 50 Shades of Grey series started an entire movement, where people felt free to openly discuss subjects once thought of as taboo. The internet has a never ending supply of access to free porn, and the content has shifted from big budget productions, with actresses that 90% of the population cannot relate to, and replaced with amateur and reality porn. 

    Sex is no longer such a taboo topic,  and people are now comfortable enough to share their desires without the fear of being judged. We have so many different types of relationship dynamics today, and it would be foolish to think that traditional, monogamous relationships are ideal for everyone.  For some, exploring the options outside what is considered the ‘norm’ can teach you things you never knew about yourself or your partner by opening up the channel for communication,  challenging perceived sexual and personal boundaries, and strengthening the relationship with oneself and your partner. 

    How My Interest In Swinging Began

    Several years ago, I shot about a dozen adult films in LA and Miami. I became good friends with one of the male actors, who happened to live in Dallas, and we quickly became close friends. He was a bartender at several venues, and one was the upscale swingers club in Dallas. I was asked to promote/host one of their events. 

    I was brand new to the industry, and I was met by a packed club of  half naked people, waiting in line for my autograph. I became fast friends with the owner and his wife and several other couples, but there was one couple in particular, that developed into a deep, loving relationship. I was their girlfriend for almost 2 years, and we shared a very special friendship. I am still good friends with them, the club owner, and several of the same couples I Initially met 10+ years ago. 

    Reasons For Couples Who Explore Swinging

    Well, there are the right reasons, and the wrong ones LOL, and I have experienced couples in both situations. 

    The lifestyle is not a bandaid for a failing relationship. If your relationship does not already have a strong foundation of trust, mutual respect, and open, honest communication, you are setting yourself up for failure. Both parties must be willing participants and should never be forced or guilt tripped into this scenario. Ground rules and boundaries MUST be discussed, agreed upon, and upheld, and the line of communication should always maintain open.

    If you are scared or uncomfortable openly communicating with your partner or others your needs, desires, and boundaries, a counseling session with an intimate coach would be a better course of action for self improvement and strengthening your relationship. 

    How Does One Bring Up The Idea Of Swinging To Their Partner?

    Again, honest and open communication is key. One way to bring up the subject to gauge interest is to watch an adult film together, involving a scenario with more than two participants.  Comment to your partner how much the scene turns you on and why…..ask if this is something they would ever be open to trying together to gauge interest. 

    If you need to convince your partner to engage in adding an additional person/persons to your bedroom, then you should not pursue this lifestyle. Both you and your partner must be willing participants.

    3 Tips For New Couples To Try Swinging

    1. Open, honest communication: I’ll say this again, because I can not stress enough that this is KEY to a positive experience 

    2. Set clear rules and boundaries: Have a discussion of your ground rules for what each of you is comfortable with, and what is off limits

    3. Take your time: Many couples new to the lifestyle make the mistake of attending a lifestyle event with the mentality they need to hook up. They create unnecessary pressure on one another,  as well as creating an aggressive vibe that most will find off putting. Relax, really take the time to talk to people and get to know them before thinking about taking your clothes off. There are several lifestyle websites where you can create a profile, and get an opportunity to chat online. For first timers, I highly suggest hiring a professional such as myself, with years of experience meeting with nervous couples.

    Hayden Hightower – A petite blonde playmate based in Dallas TX.  Hayden is a TER Dallas TOP 10 provider available for luxury Companionship and VIP Concierge services for men, women, and couples. She is highly regarded for her Couple’s encounters and her authentic NURU Bodyslide encounters, in addition to her one on one girlfriend experiences. Hayden is an avid fitness enthusiast and works in the health/wellness industry helping others achieve a healthier lifestyle.  In her free time, she enjoys working out, relaxing at home, and spending time with her boxer, Tank. 

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  • How People With Disabilities Are Exploring Their Sexual Needs By Engaging Companions

    How People With Disabilities Are Exploring Their Sexual Needs By Engaging Companions

    I believe that sexuality is the most beautiful thing that can exist and be experienced when it is done with respect, openness and consent! So, if we follow this logic, being the most beautiful thing that exists, it is important that it be lived in a healthy way by each living being that wish it. (When I say ‘’wish it’’, I mean that being an asexual person, it is as good as respect oneself in the fact that it is not a felt need).

    I believe that sexuality is something that, when done well, allows us to be even better towards ourselves, our body, our self-confidence and our sexual happiness. Since I became a sex worker, my self-esteem has quadrupled and the respect I have for myself and for my limits is more present and respect than it has ever been before!

    I therefore believe that sexuality must be a positive thing for every living being! With this in mind, people with disabilities have the right, just as much as anyone, to live their adventure and to feel this pleasure! This is the main reason that I offer services accessible to all!

    How Common Do I See Clients With Disabilities?

    At the moment, I count among my regulars, seven people with a handicap. This is without counting all the people I only see once or twice, who also have various disabilities.

    I do not have exact rules to say if you are a regular or not, but mainly when I see you at least three times in a year, according to your situation you are considered for me as a regular.

    Finally, I consider physical disabilities as much as intellectual disabilities. In my sexual support with handicap, I have met people with various physical illnesses such as: people in wheelchairs, people with degenerative diseases, intellectual disabilities, autism, etc. I’m also thinking that mental health is something to put importance to mention here, since they deserve sexuality like everyone too.

    Reasons For Seeking Companionship

    First, I want to clarify one thing. Each person has their own reason for coming to see me. Whether they have a disability or not, all the reasons are as valid as each other. In my opinion, one reason is no more or less important than another, because it is part of the non-judgment that each person should feel.

    So, after this clarification, to answer the question, the majority of the reasons that I was told were related to an affection loving need, a sexual need to fill and a need to feel more “Normal”.

    The nicest thing a customer has said to me is also the saddest thing that I have been told. The client mentioned to me that what made him feel so good with me was that he finally felt like a real man. What is a real man? It broke my heart to know that it was the first time he feels this when it should have been forever if that’s how he wanted to feel. I found it really sad that his disability made him feel sexually different.

    *Also, it is always convenient for them to book an appointment with me since I offer free outcall service when you have a disability preventing you from moving around easily. HAHA

    How I Feel About Helping My Clients

    I feel pampered!

    Pampered because they trust me. Because they also bring me a few things too. They make me evolve as the person I am now, and I give them the chance to have a healthy lived sexuality.

    I will always be grateful for each of my meetings with them as well as with all my other clients, because each meeting leaves me a small part of them in exchange for a part of me!

    The Challenges I Face

    I would say that my biggest challenge in this type of relationship is to set my limits, keeping in mind that the person may not have the same understanding of my limit. For example, when you explain to someone a limit, did he really understand what it meant? Does he understand that this limit is related to the situation and not to his handicap? Each living being with an own understanding has its capacities and its education, whether you have a handicap or not. So, this challenge comes up in many of my working relationships.

    To counter this problem, I learned the techniques of an effective communication and I try to apply it as much as possible in all my human relations. However, learning to give your thoughts and your limits remains an everyday challenge, and this also apply when I do sexual support!

    What To Do Prior To The Engagement

    I think the person should just keep in mind that it’s important to tell me the whole truth about their situation and to communicate as much as possible how they feel. As mentioned in the previous question, this is a super important basis in a client/sex worker relation and even more when we talk about support for sexuality with disabilities. But if these two basic principles are well done, it will be a superb experience filled with laughter and tenderness!

    Aliss Swan – Hi! I’m Aliss, an independent courtesan in Montréal, Québec. You will find in me a smiling tattooed woman full of energy. I’m a devoted person with a big heart with an open mind. I’m still a student and I travel a lot, so I love meeting new person and enjoying with them a warm and happy connection! I’m open to all handicap, size, origins, gender and orientation. Let’s be happy together!

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  • Does Intimacy Often Lead to Love? Why Dating a Companion Might Be Your Answer…

    Does Intimacy Often Lead to Love? Why Dating a Companion Might Be Your Answer…

    Insecurity. Hurt. Confusion – you might find these emotions splat in the middle of a toxic relationship. Usually, you cannot predict whether or not you and a significant other will end up this way, at least with not 100% accuracy. However, seeking a woman whose interests, perspectives, and opinions are ones that might not likely turn toxic in a relationship can be your best bet.

    I see men that have this abundant lifestyle in their work and career, filled with many opportunities for them to grow financially. In contrast, those same men find it difficult to fall in love. The reason being might not be so simple, still, before any relationship should strike, a friendship must be established. I’m not talking about the kind of “friendship” most people perceive. Instead, I will be talking about a special form of it – namely, companionship.

    What Is Companionship Anyway?

    Companionship is a vital connection that provokes a sense of closeness. It can occur in different ways – platonic, sexual, exclusive. In my experience as a companion, I have travelled, attended events and even just hung out with my male friends – the last one being my most preferred. When you are actively and constantly associating yourself with someone, especially on a sexual level, you see a different side than most would.

    It may come in the form of a personalized preference or maybe a fantasy. Through the process of opening up to what might seem like a stranger at first, can lead to a form of intimacy that one might not get through the traditional way of dating.

    When you are actively and constantly associating yourself with someone, especially on a sexual level, you see a different side than most would.

    A friend of mine (we will call her Stacy for the sake of anonymity) who first started dating a boy at her work, soon began finding herself unusually dissatisfied in her long-term relationship. After their breakup, she began in the world of companionship, mainly going on a dating website called Seeking Arrangements. While on a first date with a guy, they eventually ended up in the bedroom. What came up next was an odd surprise that the man was quite shy to speak about. Apparently, in his previous marriage, his wife would laugh at him because he wanted her to take up a dominant role and put a ball gag in his mouth. Stacy, being open to new experiences took up this fantasy. To this day, she still sees this man. In fact, they are happier than ever. I long for this kind of transparency, understanding and familiarity in a dating partner.

    No two people have exactly the same ideas on sex. However, sex builds intimacy and intimacy builds sex. Now, we can say that companionship boasts the traits of intimacy – on an emotional, intellectual, and sexual level – as displayed with Stacy. Women already with this adjusted mentality of providing companionship to men also come with attributes such as openness to new experiences, non-traditional ways of thinking, and overall more tolerant to crazy thoughts or ideas.

    I mean, wouldn’t you want to be aware of your partner’s dirty little secrets, or know how they like to be touched? Well…

    Here’s a reminder that love is always out there, in the air, and maybe closer than you think. So, next time you look to experience a new kind of dating – try to reach out to a companion. You might just get surprised by this special kind of Woman.

    Your Lovely Companion, 

    Miss Kate xo

    Miss Kate – Hi, and welcome to the exciting and passionate world of my extravagant thoughts. To give you a sense of who I am, imagine a graceful ballet dancer who wisps away hatred & negativity through finding beauty in all things. My hobbies include literature, dance and fashion. Also, I look for the best in people, which sometimes leads me to interesting experiences. And yes, I do believe in fairy tales.

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  • The Popularisation of Escort Services amongst the lonely

    The Popularisation of Escort Services amongst the lonely

    In today’s ever busy commute of daily living in, it’s ever easier to lose track of social connections and neglecting one’s individual needs.

    For the busy individual alone in this hyperconnected world, escort services or paid companionship has grown in popularity as a convenient option for some semblance of physical intimacy.

    This popularisation fuelled by the convenience which the internet’s vast variety of websites and apps provides today offers some form of advantages for those seeking to fulfil one’s carnal desires.

    Rather than face rejection in more traditional relationships, with a simple click of a button, one can easily select their companion and arrange a date where in that few hours, one’s seemingly lonely existence is easily forgotten.

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