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  • Ask Us – Steve O

    Ask Us – Steve O

    I come from a traditional Chinese family and upbringing and am constantly turned on by the thought of my wife with another man but I fear that she might be offended and disgusted. How do you suggest I approach this? – Repressed

    Mr. Repressed,

    Many men let their sexual arousal and fantasies cloud their thinking but your concerns about your wife’s feelings shows that you are ready to approach things with a good balance between your sexual desires and practicality bravo!!

    Yes some women might feel their husband’s fantasizing about them being with another man is a way of separating from the marriage or gaining their own sexual freedom in an open marriage.

    I would suggest you think carefully about why you find the idea of being a cuckold arousing and then consider things from your wife’s point of view to see if you can find things that she would enjoy about such a lifestyle. After careful consideration you might come up with some ideas.

    Also try purchasing some adult videos that feature “cheating wife” scenarios to watch with your wife.
    When you do decide to reveal your kinky interest in being a cuckold to your wife do so only when she is sexually aroused and more likely to be receptive kinky ideas.

    Is sex the only reason for a cuckold lifestyle? What really happens when emotions come into play? – Danny

    Danny,

    You raise a good point that I will cover in another instalment but it is worth going over here.

    For some women a hot-wife lifestyle is all about breaking taboos by having hot sex with other men. These women enjoy “recreational” sex outside their marriages but nothing more. Other wives enjoy having a boyfriend in addition to a husband. They have one primary extra-marital partner and develop a “part time” relationship with him but there does need to be boundaries.

    Some women actual seek out extra-marital partners who are married because these men are much less likely to want a deeper relationship.

    Before a wife has her first extra-marital encounter it is important that the couple discuss “boundaries”. It is often advisable that the couple draw up a “cuckold contract” together where the wife and husband specify expectations, limits and requirements for both.

    If you have a question for Steve O, drop him a question at our Ask Us page and he will gladly answer it for you.

  • Ask Us – Natasha Tsarina

    Ask Us – Natasha Tsarina

    “Hi Natasha, I read your article and really love it. I’ve been trying to apply that to my own love life but am getting frustrated with my boyfriend. To him sex is done the moment he cums and this leaves me feeling frustrated”. – Aida

    Dear Aida,

    Thank you for writing to me. First, I want to tell you that you are not alone with your problem. Many men are the way you describe your boyfriend. The good news is that there are ways to make it better for you.

    One way, the one I prefer is to use foreplay. Women in general do not reach their orgasm as fast as a man, most of us take quite a long time, and by using a lot of foreplay where your man touches you and kisses you is a way for you to come closer to your own orgasm, and not only that, it can prevent him from cuming too fast, if you don’t touch him.

    Another way which can be useful is for you to be on top, that way you control the rhythm and can clearly see him and know when he is on his way to climax. If he does, you simply stop what you are doing and let him calm down.

    Take care and happy love making.

    Natasha

    If you have a question for Natasha, drop her a question at our Ask Us page and she will gladly answer it for you.

  • Ask Us – Toilet Breaks

    Ask Us – Toilet Breaks

    Hi Mandy

    After reading about your experience on the toilet break, I wanted to try it out on several occasions but whenever that happens there’s always something that stops me. Mostly it’s the other ladies in the toilet and I start to feel self conscious. Also, how do you deal with dirty public toilets?

    Jess

    Hi Jess

    Well, there are times when I do get the urge to pleasure myself while I am out but upon entering the toilet, the mood disappears at once due to unpleasant smells, wet floors, only available cubicle are squatting ones etc.  When this happens, I just have to accept that it isn’t my day.  What I have done over the years is to make a mental note on which toilets are conducive for self pleasure.  With so many malls, office buildings, and hotels in town, whenever I use one and I come out of it with a good vibe, I make a mental note in case I am ever nearby and there is an urge down under.  So the next time you enter a toilet, take a more detailed note of it, you never know when this might come in handy one day!

    Personally, I do have a personal criteria for the toilets I go for self-pleasure as this makes me feel at ease and puts me in the mood to begin.

    Firstly, they have to be well ventilated.  Fans are fine, air conditioned toilets are even better.  However, fans that operate according to motion sensors are a big no no.  There has been an instance where the fans stopped while I was halfway through and it became rather stuffy which made me sweat even more.  Not to mention the growing smell of sex in my cubicle.  Hence, it is wise to always look to choose the air conditioned ones.

    Secondly, paper towels at the sink.  It is a surprise that even some office building toilets or malls do not provide paper towels after one washes their hands at the sink.  I prefer using these towels as they do not absorb water and break as readily as toilet paper.  This makes it easier to clean up after I am done.

    Thirdly, this for me isn’t that important a criteria but a bonus to have.  There are some toilets which have strong doors, thick walls, yellow lightings, solid toilet seats which basically give a comfortable mood setting.  All these factors help in the ambience and makes it easier to climax faster.

    Some turn offs or things to take note about toilets other than the ones I mentioned earlier:

    Automatic flushing of urinals every few minutes.  This creates an unnecessary distraction and does not help in any way even though it might sound like an explosive orgasm.

    Toilets with 3 cubicles or less.  Usually one will be a squatting urinal so that leaves 2.  Sooner rather than later, there will be a queue from my door and endless chatter which kills my mood anyway.

    Keep a small vibrator.  I currently keep the Lelo Mia 2 in my handbag which is inconspicuous and comes in rather handy in times of need.  I try not to use my fingers as much as I can especially when I have just gotten my nails done or when I am not going home immediately.  Not really keen on having my fingers smell of sex and spending my time scrubbing away at the sink once I have finished.

    When I am going at it and someone enters the one next to me and takes a dump.  No matter how high I am, if the smell of crap wafts over to me or the constant farting and plopping sounds going off, I will start to think of sex.  Anal sex gone wrong to be precise.  Once again, the mood is lost.  This also applies to an over chatty cubicle mate who is on the phone with a friend or even worse, chatting with a friend who is in the cubicle next to hers.  As much as my mind can filter out stuff, I don’t like distractions when I am in the zone.

    Cubicles with no door hooks or ledge to place my possessions.  This makes it real tough especially if I need to put my bag or panty somewhere.

    So there you go Jess, a little insight to my thoughts on having personal sexy times in public toilets.  If you or any readers are interested in knowing my mental list of places on where to self pleasure, do drop me an email, I will be most glad to share them with you.  Keep it to yourself though, or else the cubicles will always be occupied from now.  For those who haven’t read my experience, you can read it here.

    That’s all for now.  Cheers!

    Mandy