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  • What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 3)

    What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 3)

    Are you kinky?

    You find out when the regular sex just doesn’t float your boat anymore. You begin to seek out alternative pleasure sources.

    The more open-minded, willing, curious you are, the most chance you have to find what erotic desires, fetishes, kinky games to get your panty soaked. Being kinky is a bit naughty, almost socially forbidden and so freaking sexy (if you ask me). You start to explore new ideas in the bedroom by opening up your body, mind and soul for new erotic pleasures. You start to notice new things and desires about yourself. You feel to expand your knowledge on the topic try these few ideas for beginners in BDSM:

    3 Softcore BDSM practise for beginners:

    -Tie & Tease:

    It’s a light form of BDSM sex. Ideal for beginners, because you can try without any particular setup or equipment. It’s a practice of one tying up the hands, legs or the whole body. It can be performed on the bed, tied up to the door or using restrainers. Tying your hands behind your back. Use a few tie and attach those hands to the bed. The one who does the tease would be the Dominant ( active person who is in control) and whom the bondage will be performed will be the passive or Submissive in this play. The dominant will tease the partner until a point where they get so excited that they could have an orgasm. Tease could happen by using feather, silk, wax or simply by touching the body.

    The tied partner is usually stimulated repeatedly without relief. By carefully varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is held in this highly-aroused state near orgasm. The tied partner’s urge to orgasm can become overwhelming.

    If the tied partner is allowed to climax it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation. The tied partner may also instead be denied orgasm or be given a ruined orgasm in which case they will feel strong feelings of sexual frustration.

    Extra tip: Use Blindfold

    Advance tip: Use a mouth gag or/and some sex toys on the submissive during the scene to increase sensations. 

    Spanking:

    Spanking can also be performed without no equipment, just by using your palms.

    If you liked the test-drive with the hands, you could always get a paddle, wooden stick, crop, but my experience hands would do just fine.

    How to do it: You can bend over to your partner’s lap. It’s super stimulating while you are spanking to have nasty dirty things said to you. Example: “You have been a naughty, dirty little girl/boy. You deserve to be punished. At this point, you should spank the buttock. Starting light intensity and as the sexual tension grows to bring more power into your hits too.

    Tip: You can play a school-girl/boy-teacher scene here.

    The teacher can drop the chalk down to the floor. Demanding the schoolgirl to pick it up, who refuse this. It will generate the punishment. Be creative and improvise. Keep talking and let your imagination fly so the fun could be greater during the play.

    If you are new to spanking, always ask your partner, if she/he is okay with the strength and the way of spanking. It’s super important to playing safe and doing things that will bring pleasure to both.

    Facesitting (eating out a girl):

    This is one of my favourite BDSM activity. You can perform it together with a sensual tie and tease. Tie your man up to the bed. Rub your body against his. Stimulate his erogenic zones. Stroke his genitals, tease him with words and gentle touches around the body.  Standing on top of him ( very empowering feeling, ladies!) spread your legs wide across in front of his face. Show him your panties under that short mini-skirt. Make him want to pull that tiny pantie away to see and taste your lotus flower. Be sensual, seduce and play with him. It’s your time to be in control. Let me know if he is going to be a good boy, but only then he might taste your juices. Keep eye-contact when talking down to him. Show him that you are a strong, confident, sexy women who knows what she wants. Man would go crazy from this. As in their nature to be dominant, powerful and now they all tied up in your hand.

    Slowly squat down to your man’s mouth. Tease him more by touching rubbing your clit through your panties. Ask them: if he wants to lick or eat your pussy out? (Always use language you feel comfortable with!)

    Be sure at this point they are ready to beg to taste you.  You’ve decided how long you will keep teasing him. Once you feel willing to give in and let him taste your juices. Remove your panties, or just you can just sit on his face still wearing your panties. I would do the second option to arouse more the sexual tension and desire. Demand him to smell your pussy, but tell him straight if he still can’t taste it. You can order him to inhale your smell. 

    Slide your panties away and let him taste your pussy.

    Be confident. You are in charge. You are the goddess who needs to be nurtured, loved and worshipped. You set the rhythm, time and intensity of this play. Have fun with it and let him eat your pussy like as a hot cake until you are so satisfied that you can move to the next step.

    Advanced Tips:

    Breath control play while face-sitting

    Sit on your partner’s face, covering up all face, including the nose too. Count to 10 and release. Breath control if done correctly could be a euphoric sensation for man while licking pussy. ( For more advanced pussy eaters sit on it until he starts struggles under you!)

    How to set up your BDSM scene / Fantasy Play?

    What is a fantasy game? Otherwise, also called role-play. Where you and your partner create characters, create a scenario and play it out with a sexual outcome.

    Have you ever wanted to be an actor/actress?

    Here is your chance to shine!

    It’s similar like attending a psychodrama class. You can channel your inner desires and become anyone for the act.

    The most common erotic plays are the doctor/patient, boss/secretary, teacher/ student but you can create your own.

    Personally, I got a fetish for suits. Yeah, as crazy it sounds I love dark blue suits with crisp ironed white shirt. It immediately symbolises status and power and brings eroticism into my mind.

    BDSM is all about the power dynamic. You need to do some erotic experiments and see what triggers you.

    When I play, I like to dress up as a secretary. The scenario would be that I’m negligent in my work and my boss catches me doing something else then work during work hours. He obliges me to his office. He commands me to crawl on the floor to his legs or ask me to bend over the table. Telling me how bad I’m in my work and if I want to keep it better try to please him somehow. Otherwise, he will punish me being such a naughty negligent worker. And the story goes on and on. It’s up to your fantasy now to complete it. 🙂

    Corporate punishment (spanking) if done with ‘mindfuck’ could be such a freeing sexual experience! It triggers within me the need to please him and order to keep my job. I’m willing to do whatever it takes. Don’t we all women, just born with a high need to please man? Why not make this human need a playful BDSM act?

    Hope this article helped you to have a wider knowledge of BDSM sex and courage to give it a try!? Let me know if you do! I would love hearing about all it!

    Keep safe and be Naughty,

    Xoxo

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 2)

    What Does BDSM stands for? (Part 2)

    What isn’t BDSM?

    Let’s clear some of the biggest myths around BDSM.

    What are the top 5 Myths in BDSM?

    #Myth 1: BDSM is a Fetish

    BDSM is not a fetish. It’s an erotic behaviour or kink. A fetish is admiring something that not exclusively sexual but has erotic stimulating qualities. For example these days one of the most popular fetishes is foot fetish. Feet aren’t sexy for most people, but for someone with a foot fetish, they can quickly become the object of desire.

    #Myth 2: BDSM is Uncommon

    BDSM might be a taboo, but it’s far from rare. Especially since 2015 when the movie 50 Shades of Grey stormed into our lives. Durex survey revealed that out of five participants, one has already been engaged in some form of light bondage during sex. These numbers have shown a respective 37% in the U.K and 35% in the U.S.  Not surprisingly the same number is around 65% with people fantasise to try it.

    #Myth 3 People are always Submissive or Dominant

    In BDSM the fulfilment requires having both roles during the role-play.  In these scenes, the Dominant (or Dom/Top/Master) will have the power over the submissive. The Dom can humiliate, punish, control or reward the Submissive (Sub/Slave/Bottom) depending on how much they able to meet the Dom’s expectations.  During these power-mind-games, both will have tremendous pleasure, sexual arousal and satisfaction from the power dynamic. A good D/S relationship when both meet their human need. The Dominant being powerful and significant. The submissive being in service and contributing to her/his Master’s pleasure and well-being.

    However, bare in mind that if one relationship you act Dominant does not mean you have an overall Dom personality. Usually, dominant people like to stay in control, and submissive people like to obey and serve, so it’s a win-win. Individuals who are enjoying variety could switch from one role to another. These people love the mental challenge to expand their erotic boundaries. This type called: Switch.

    #Myth 4 It’s all about abuse and pain

    Rightly sadist and masochist can be these cases. However, most kinkers in the BDSM community mainly involved some for of bondage and D/S games. BDSM sex should be a situation where you can’t wait to see your partner to give or receive sensations. Create a fun, playful, naughty and erotically exciting sexual playground where people free to express their deepest desires to one other. It never should hurt, unless someone gets turned on by pain.

    # Myth 5 It’s all about Sex

    BDSM is rarely about sex. It might contain the element of sexual activities, but it’s not the payoff.  Sometimes you can feel sexually so stimulated by certain scenes, mind-fucking manipulations that it would feel intimate, almost as good as having an orgasm without an actual ejaculation. Some people say it can be better than traditional sex. Only one way to find out if that’s true for you – try some BDSM sex tonight!

    What’s all about the BDSM clothing?

    There are a lot of hot kinky materials that stimulate the skin, such as rubber, latex, leather or wearing sexy uniforms such as school girl, nurse or dominatrix. Cross-dressing also a fun way to explore some of your kinkier sides. The term stands for cloth swapping. Example: Your man would like to wear your lingerie, stockings, panties or whatever he fancies during sex. Put some lipstick, make-up or wig on. Why not? It’s no harm to explore new things in the bedroom. Remember it just play, an act. You could become anyone you want to be for an hour or two. Who would you be?

    Who practices BDSM sex can’t enjoy Vanilla Sex?

    Vanilla sex refers to ordinary (aka traditional) sex.

    Trying BDSM sex is like topping up your vanilla ice-cream with some chocolate sprinkles or syrup. You can add on the ice-cream or leave it. Both way you could enjoy the ice-cream right? The same applies to BDSM sex.  In my opinion who practise any form of BDSM just has a wider range of colours to paint in the bedroom. Giving more sensations, attention and pleasure to their partner by respect and understand their true sexual desires.

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • What Does BDSM stand for? (Part 1)

    What Does BDSM stand for? (Part 1)

    Bondage & Discipline

    Domination & Submission

    Sadism & Masochist

    These are the three core concepts when we talk about BDSM. These days there are a lot of erotic myths, bad rep and press and a massive interest, curiosity going around when BDSM comes up. It’s all because of the whole 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. Most people assume BDSM it’s all about violence, abuse, pain, hurting the other, however this could not be further from the truth of the real BDSM (sex) experience. Kinky people use BDSM sex mainly to supplement their regular sexual life with some erotic kinky edging and bringing more sexual pleasure with some kink such as bondage, domination and submission role-play and power games.

    A lot of people seem to think that BDSM requires you to use whips, chains, handcuffs or to have extreme violence, pressured rules and sort of other weird stuff.  BDSM sex and the lifestyle is about using pleasures, sensations, mental and emotional triggers to a point where you can generate more fun, joy and europhile in your partner. During BDSM sex you learn to penetrate, awaken, and stimulate the mind of an another human being.

    During BDSM sex, it does not matter how it looks from the outside; it’s more important how it feels inside, what feelings, issues coming up during the scene. That’s why communication and aftercare are crucial.

    Domination is an art of taking control, penetrate to the other’s mind, open their deepest desires up towards more pleasure. Learn to master these skills and you will easily understand people’s deepest sexual desires and will be able to bring them to another high of sexual experience. BDSM sex can be healing for some.

    The truth is that most of us already participate in some form of BDSM in our everyday life. It could be a very light BDSM activity during your traditional sex life. Example: if you are enjoying biting, scratching or having your hair pulled or have been called dirty names during sex. Some people would already consider these activities as soft-core kink. It’s BDSM for some vanilla sex lovers.

    Some people would do the above mentioned erotic behaviours and just consider it as ‘normal’.  It’s your choice to decide what BDSM is (thought your lens to this world) and if it’s for you or not?

    BDSM could have a bad rep based on people not truly understanding it. Not understanding how some erotic activities could trigger more sensations in some people’s brain.  Why would people do certain things?

    We live in a world where we constantly need to wear masks to be ‘good enough’ for our friends, family and workplace. By the end, we forget who we are and what we need sexually to be complete. BDSM and exploring your kinky side could help you understand, open up and bring up these suppressed and ignored emotions, sexual needs, which could lead you to understand and accept yourself by the core. Pain also could be the pleasure source for some. When reading and learning about BDSM, it’s important to keep an open and non-judgmental mind at all times.

    BDSM is for anyone who dares to expand their erotic horizons beyond ordinary. BDSM is for people who like intense sensations. For those who love to dance on the line between pain and pleasure. BDSM is art how to bring fantasies alive. It’s the best kink out there.

    When it comes to kinky, clarity and communication are crucial.

    As every profession or field, BDSM also has its vocabulary.

    What is kink?

    Kink refers to any activity that diverts from the ‘norm’, and it gives sexual pleasure. It’s an intimate experience, an exchange of power between people that can be physical, erotic, sensual, spiritual experience or all above.

    -Dom / Dominatrix ( active) also called Master or Top:

    An individual who create, control and actively move forward the scene by giving orders, experiments and rewards.

    -Submissive ( passive) also called Slave or Bottom:

    An individual who surrender, follow orders and gives up control to (or “intending to”) please her/his Master.

    -Switch

    A person who can be both Dominant or Submissive depending on who she/he interacts in a scene.

    – Scene:

    The actual act and place, the scenario of the play – who will do what. It’s important that before you start playing you set the rules. All participant needs to know what they will be doing and what are the boundaries.

    BDSM sex should always be:

    Safe

    Sane

    Consensual sex. 

    Safe: You don’t injure anyone. You discuss with your BDSM partner before starting a scene what is a “YES-NO-MAYBE” while playing. Partners need to communicate and agree on boundaries. What they want to experience, willing to try, outcome and what they do not want to experience at all.  Always set a safe word before starting a scene.

    Safe word can be used when things get heated.

    It could be something that stops the act entirely or just reduce the intensity. Again it all depends on the previous agreement between the parties. If you have absolute trust, you can say: no safe word, however, for this, you need to know your partner well.  When no safe word applied, there is no place to complain! Anything goes!

    Know yourself, especially if you playing with a more experienced partner. No safewords translate no taboos; anything can happen.

    Is that what you want?

    Example: You like to try sensation play on your nipples.

    The Dom starts to press, pull, twist the nipple with the tip of their fingers slowly then adding more and more pressure into the movement. Keeping eye-contact with Sub. If you are more adventurous or your level of pain tolerance is high, you can always add nipple clamps into this play. (If you haven’t got nipple clamps you can use DIY clamps, cloths-pegs!) Cloth-pegs could be applied to all areas of the body to intensify sensations.

    Sane: Keep in respect the other person’s boundaries. Don’t go overboard giving pain and don’t cause harm. Before practising any form of BDSM start from the basics. Read articles, books and try to learn so you know what are you doing. Begin exercising and evolve your technique as you developed trust. Don’t forget the more you learn, the better you get. Technicality and becoming a Master of BDSM, it does take time.

    Consensual sex:

    Both parties need to be on the same page. Need to agree and communicate prior and during the scene, express feelings and desires. BDSM sex if done right can be a unique and freeing (sexually healing) experience. When the power dynamics work well, it’s highly pleasurable for both parties. If things take off and it’s more than you expected or able to handle, it’s okay to stop. Any decision during the scene has to be respected and honoured from both sides. It’s super important to have “aftercare” after an intense session. As in regular sex, you would cuddle, in BDSM you can chat, cry or whatever feels right after. Don’t hide your feelings, express them. Remember, it’s a healing sexual experience to connect with exact sexual needs! 

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • Erotic Hypnosis: Guide to Mind-Blowing Orgasm Without Touch? (Part 2)

    Erotic Hypnosis: Guide to Mind-Blowing Orgasm Without Touch? (Part 2)

    Many times, it is not what you say, but how you say it that matters. Mastering your voice will give you great success with women. Hypnotic language can help you make a connection with the ladies instantly. Pick and persuade them almost anything you like, communicate to them and make them feel you speak their language. Last, but not least, using hypnotic words can make you a better lover in bed. Saying a few sexy words during sex can help to reach the best orgasms for women (men too!).

    What’s your ideal man in bed? – asked my friend the other day.

    “I want someone who can “mindfuck me” while we are having sex. – she stated her desire. 

    What’s the “mindfuck” of the 21st century?

    It’s an erotic hypnosis. During “hypo-sex” you can get completely relaxed, comfortable, open about your sexual desires, fantasies and communicate openly with your partner during sex – that’s why they often incorporate this into BDSM role-plays.

    You can call upon a sex scene when you both are very aroused and have a memorable sexual experience. Remember: The brain can’t make a difference between reality or vivid memory pictures, especially when in an aroused state. Why not use this to your advantage?

    Have you noticed within your relationship that saying certain things during sex can sexually trigger your partner’s mental and physical state? Maybe even get him/her to reach hypnosis orgasm instantly?

    If you master erotic education and guidance before getting down to ‘business’, your partner can experience a hands-free orgasm (aka HFO) without you doing anything to them physically.

    Example: You are having dinner at a fancy restaurant.

    You can’t reach one another physically. You can start using seductive language in your conversations and watch what happens to her/him.

    Example: Women in the bar, with two guys trying to chat her up. One has a great look, but unable to say much and there is another man who is not particularly her type, but somehow he always says the right things in the right time.

    I’m sure you all think of a situation when you did not particularly fancy a guy, but something he was saying just magnified your brain and set on fire your mind and pussy. That’s what hands-free hypnosis does to you. Giving you a chance to open your thoughts for possibilities and experience a hand’s free orgasm without being touched. I know it sounds crazy, but once you experience it, you understand what I’m talking about.

    You might not believe any of what you just read until (it’s okay, probably you have more left-brain thinking, more realistic) or might hear some negative rep when it comes to hypnosis.

    We all use hypnosis on a daily basis for some extent.

    You hypnotise yourself while reading a book, or watching a movie.

    Best example: We regularly have been hypnotised by television commercials. It’s not by accident how all the ads follow each other in every single movie breaks. There are also suggestions which depend on how much your brain accepts them and you can take them on board.

    Why not hands-free hypnotise yourself towards becoming a Sex Goddess/God in bed instead?

    I would rather reach multiple hands-free orgasms than having another commercial suggesting to have a pill against a headache. By the way, hypnosis works well for pain-relieving (headaches) as well. Give it a try before claiming another “I have a headache” which can lead sexless nights and more ‘a headache’ for your man. Headaches caused by a long night out can be cured quickly by having morning sex. Hypnosis or regular orgasm helps to boost your blood flow and cleans your head for sure. Pandora tested 🙂

    15 Easy Steps to Start Hands-Free Self-Hypnosis:

    1: Find a comfortable space, where you won’t be disturb

    2: Sit down and start focusing on your breath

    3: Breathe in and out with same slow pacing

    4: Start visualising a white light

    5: Meditate on the light

    6: Imagine the light running through your body, clearing space, healing your blockages

    7: Make first positive suggestion (make it related on what you hypnotise yourself)

    8: Start counting back 1,2,3

    9: Tell yourself to breathe deeper and go deeper

    10: Make a 2nd positive suggestion

    11: Start counting 4,5,6

    12: Suggest you go deeper and more relaxed

    13: Make the 3rd positive suggestion

    14: Count down 7,8,9

    15: By the time I reach 10, I will open my eyes and feel XYZ ( put what you like to experience)

    You can guide yourself or your partner through erotic hypnosis as foreplay.

    Create a “magic word” that you will use during the count downs.

    A magic word can be “sexy”, “pleasure” “surrender” whatever you want to experience and whatever words you can relate to.

    This magic word will be the power switch during the hypnosis suggestions to help you get into a trance state where suggestion can work best.

    Example:

    I’m walking across the bedroom. Look at him while he lays on the bed and “I feel sexy and surrender to pleasure” – Repeat this statement three times during your self-hypnosis and next time, watch what happens when you are activating the state. You can easily slip in and out of hypnotic states – all you need to do is just tap it into your fingertips. While you make suggestions to anchor, it snaps your fingers. Next time, when you snap your fingers, you can instantly feel that state of sexy, powerful women. If you are planning to do hypnosis on yourself for multiple things, just tap states in various places on the body, so your brain doesn’t get confused.

    A client of mine wanted to reach an orgasm whenever she would touch or rub her left elbow.

    As her hypnotist, I guided her through the relaxation process. Helped her visualise a sexual play earlier when she reached the best orgasm by rubbing her clitoris.

    Once we had the memory, I supported her to get into a profound and relaxed state through breathing and connecting with the sensation of orgasm. Giving her positive suggestions about how sensitive her left elbow was. Encouraged her to feel again the orgasmic state. Redirect her focus on how she would feel when next, she would touch her elbows with the same circular motions as she touched her clit. Hypnotiser asked her to touch her left elbow as she would touch her clit then guided her into a deeper trance. When I snap my fingers and give permission to have the clitoris orgasm, it has been tapped into her elbow now. Ever since, when she is nervous or wanting to have a quicky with herself, she told me, she just touches her left elbow and feels the similar excitement as she would play with her clitoris.

    I find it fascinating of the power of the brain and what can be achieved if we set our intention on it.

    Rubbing your elbow and having an orgasm?

    Incredible. Hypnosis orgasm are limitless! (be bold and let your fantasies come true!)

    Most people only use three per cent of their brain. Imagine the possibilities once you master your mind and are able to give some positive suggestion to it, what can happen? Maybe you will be just like my friend who now can reach her best orgasm type pretty much anytime anywhere. A huge mood booster in a dragging office day!

    A male client reported reaching multiple orgasms just by listening to a prerecorded Hypno-audio

    “As I closed my eyes and listen to your sexy voice, I felt my entire body sink deeper into the mattress as I let go of control. A similar feeling when I practice meditation, but much deeper. I felt quickly relaxed and in total ease. Felt: reassuring, calm, peaceful to be there. Somehow a familiar feeling, similar when your lover holds you, yeah I felt safe. Went dropped deeper into a trance, I stopped thinking and just felt tingling in my body as your voice seduced me deeper and deeper. Then felt pulsating in my cock. My mind was alert for a moment: Omg, what is happening? Then I let go and felt deep craving wanting to touch myself…. but keep my hands away, grabbing the sheets, trying just to let go whatever my brain can process at this stage and let her voice guide me through this beautiful almost out of body experience. My entire body is shaking, jumping up and down on the bed, felt warm and sweat run down on my cheek through my breast. My soul felt free, my heart opened it was a sensation like I can fly. Floating. I feel joyous; a feeling came to me that I made a connection with the divine around and within me.  Almost like being in love.

    When you suggested: “Ride that pleasure wave”.

    I breakthrough and BANG, my whole body started climaxing and holly f*** I reached orgasm, multiple ones. It wasn’t just an orgasm. It was some earth-shattering magical hands-free orgasm; all sprang from my brain. Crazy, but it did work 🙂 Thank you, thank you, Alexandra, for this remarkable recording and healing pleasure.

    I’m sure we will be back for some more.

    Are you interested in try hypnosis or Hypno-sex?

    You can listen to this ORGASMIC body scan recording to get a teaser of what it’s like to surrender to pleasure by my voice.

    I hope you found this article interesting enough to give it a try and embark erotic hypnosis, Hypno-sex journey.

    You can try self-hypnosis or reach out to me to get hypnotized.

    Feel free to share your HFO journey.

    Choose a “magic word” that can trigger your sexuality instantly for an ecstatic state and multiple orgasms.

    Ps: Don’t get disappointed, if you don’t succeed for the first time.

    I practice guided meditations daily; it does take some time to be able to get into and out of trance easily.

    Just be willing, open and curious to explore!

    Have an orgasmic day!

    Hypnotic Hello my loves,

    Alexandra

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

    Featured image courtesy of Shutterstock

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  • Erotic Hypnosis: Guide to Mind-Blowing Orgasm Without Touch? (Part 1)

    Erotic Hypnosis: Guide to Mind-Blowing Orgasm Without Touch? (Part 1)

    What is hypnosis?

    Hypnosis is a deeply relaxing state where the subconscious mind opens up to receive the suggestion. Many people think that during hypnosis you fall asleep, however, this is far from the truth. Hypnosis actually awakens you. It awakens your mind, body and senses for more and deeper pleasure.

    During hypnosis, the conscious (thinking) brain switches off, so we can reach the subconscious. It’s a safe, relaxed but alert state where focus increases, so you become more open to transformation. Sex happens in the gamma stage of the human brain. When in a trance, your brain is able to activate ecstatic experiences such as a hand’s free orgasm. So it’s true, all real action happens between your ears, not between your legs.

    It’s a popular myth that during hypnosis, you can be asked to perform things that in normal life never occurs to do. However, it’s possible to make suggestions, but the participant’s brain will keep consciousness and only act on principles it agrees on. In my point of view, hypnosis can bring subconscious limiting beliefs or blocks around sexuality on the surface.

    Wherever you realise or not, you are being hypnotised on a daily basis. Hypnotic language has been used during movies, TV-programs, in magazines, etc.

    Research shows that people with higher intelligence level and creativity shows a greater response being hypnotised. There are two types of hypnosis, auto-hypnosis (self-hypnosis) or hetero-hypnosis ( hypnotizer walk you through the process), both entitled to raise your consciousness in a highly relaxing trance state.

    Erotic hypnosis can make you become a better lover, and your sex life can be made more intense, fun and a pleasurable activity. 

    The phenomenon is also called a hands-free orgasm or “Hypno sex”. Erotic hypnosis is a way to seduce someone through their mind. This type of hypnosis can enhance intimacy, love, and trust in the couple’s relationship while boosting their sexual life and gives the best orgasms.

    When applying erotic hypnosis, women can feel more sexually desired, can experience increased sexual libido and able to eliminate shame and guilt about any sexual desires. During hypnosis, we enter a deep relaxation state called a trance. In a trance, the brain becomes more alert and focuses on verbal suggestions. Suggestions are short messages; and words can trigger certain emotions within our brain. A sexy voice can guide you to places in your mind that you never knew existed.

    Our brain can’t tell the difference between reality or a vivid memory, that’s why erotic hypnosis can feel like a real ecstatic orgasm without being actually touched. Some people can easily fall into hypnosis just by listening to a pleasant voice.

    If it’s erotic hypnosis, it can easily lead to a sexually freeing experience and a hands-free-orgasm.

    (Remember ladies, everything happens up between your ears – all pleasure starts in the brain!)

    An interesting fact about female orgasm:

    Women can have at least five different types of orgasm!

    “Five”? I’m fortunate if I have one. 

    “You meant three, right?” – reaction to my statement.

    Well, it’s true that the female orgasm is more complex than men’s. However, it’s nothing to do with physical ability, more of that women need to feel completely relaxed, comfortable, safe and have some level of emotional stability and connection to herself or partner to reach an orgasm.

    What are the five most common types of female orgasm out there:

    1: Clitoris orgasm

    Clitoris orgasm is the most common type of female orgasm. Most women can reach orgasm by rubbing the clitoris and the area around by her finger or using a vibrator on the clitoris. The clitoris has millions of little nerves running through. It is the super-sensitive “magic bottom”  which by the right stimulation, can help women reach orgasms the easiest and fastest way.

    2: Vaginal orgasms

    Vaginal orgasms can be achieved by G-spot stimulation or having intercourse with your partner or using your favourite vibrator to pleasure your yoni. (yoni = vagina) Less sensitive for most women than the clitoris area. However, if you can have a vaginal orgasm, it’s a more intense orgasm. Men find this type of orgasm super sexy as they make your vaginal orgasms credited due to their “magic wand” and TLC abilities.

    3: Joint orgasms

    Joint orgasms are when more than one erogenous zone has been stimulated simultaneously for reaching orgasm. It can be the clitoris, vagina and anus area. The more stimulation it is, the better chance to have the best orgasm, and maybe even multiple orgasms.

    4: Anal orgasms

    For some women, it’s still a taboo area. No entry. No back door fun. It’s considered ‘something only bad girls do, or it’s for porn stars’. Today, there are hips of anal (starters) toy kits to start exploring. Give it a try, before quitting it. Make sure to lubricate and start with something small. Back door plays are the same as any sexual activity, the more you do it, the better you become. Practice makes perfect, be confident and with time it gets easier. However, it might not be your thing at all, so don’t force it on yourself. Anal sex has to be something both partners agree on and willing to explore (without fears)! Otherwise, you are set up for failure before you even started!

    5: Hands-free orgasm

    I am a firm believer that people’s biggest sex organ is the brain. The place where everything is related to everything. Good news guys, if you learn to communicate with the right vocal tone and use some seductive, hypnotic language, your lady will be on her knees with no time. Mastering hypnotic language will spice up your dating life.

    Part 2 to follow…

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

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  • Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach? (Part II)

    Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach? (Part II)

    I will tell you that being a tantric sex coach has taught me that there is no stereotype. All seekers who feel called to a higher level of conscious sexuality needs support!

    Why do I coach men? 
    MEN ARE HURTING⁠

    There were decades of patriarchy, still, there are no ROLE models for the men in the 21st century. ⁠

    Think about how you been raised up.⁠

    What stories you have been fed by your parents, the media, your religion, your friends, your ex-lovers. ⁠ All a big B.S, as there is a huge double standard. ⁠

    Your favourite woman teach you how ⁠
    “not to be too sensitive” ⁠
    “not to cry or show emotions” ⁠
    “run the household and just work your ass off” ⁠

    Then another woman ( your girlfriend, wife, lover) will complain that you are not sensitive, present, feeling enough. ⁠BUT it’s not your fault. It’s the society we live in. ⁠Think about growing up – how and where did you learn how to be intimate? Show emotions? Make love? Create a balance between work and play? ⁠

    NOWHERE!⁠

    Everyone talks about the divine feminine, rising of QUEENs, but who will support and heal the KING’s? If no-one teaches the KING’s to be, there won’t be Queens or equality either. So we need both polarities within and around us for ultimate sexual FREEDOM.

    Learning Sex Mastery & Skills For The Bedroom⁠

    One of the biggest cravings for women is the question⁠
    – CAN HE HANDLE ALL OF ME?⁠

    If I let go, go absolutely crazy, wild and deep in orgasms… can he just be there to look into my eyes and hold me in his arms while giving me space and care to surrender into divine feminity?⁠

    A woman wants to know:⁠

    Can he show up and just feel with HER?⁠
    ⁠Can you?⁠

    I’m teaching men how to embrace divine masculinity and use their sexual energy for creating deeper connection, intimacy and presence, so YOU CAN!⁠

    What Is The Truth About Men & Sex? ⁠

    In my years as a mentor and coach to men, I have come to realise that one thing is absolutely clear. ⁠

    Sex matters to men. ⁠No, I mean REALLY matters. ⁠Men crave sex. Men think about sex every few minutes. ⁠

    Men fantasise about sex. ⁠Men do crazy and irresponsible things to get sex. Men like to watch sex. ⁠Some will even pay for sex. ⁠

    Some men demand sex or even take it by force.⁠But, the reality is that for most men, sex can be a source of unending tension. Men are ruled by the three “E’s”, the three sources of men’s sexual tension.⁠

    • Enough⁠
    • Erection ⁠
    • Ejaculation ⁠

    Which of the 3 E’s speaks to you the most? ⁠

    What was the craziest thing you ever done to have sex? ⁠

    A great number of men come to see me because they instinctively know that there is more to sexuality, intimacy and connecting than they are currently experiencing.

    Sex Coaching and Sexological Bodywork can help you to fully inhabit your body, accept yourself with your own unique sexual preferences and needs, learn to overcome shame and communicate about your desires, and acquire tools and techniques to be a better lover, both for yourself and for your partner(s).

    Tantric Sex Coaching welcomes to your new YOU, fully alive, open to pleasure, and thriving. These sessions may be hugely positive for ALL areas of your life.

    What Can We Work On?

    Ultimately, it is YOU who needs to have the choice.

    Mindful Masturbation Coaching and Porn Addiction

    We need to be good lovers for ourselves and with ourselves and explore our own preferences before we can be good lovers for partners. If your masturbation practice is merely a functional release, we look at how to turn it into lovemaking sessions with yourself, involving all of your body in its arousal. Porn addiction may be situational, e.g. very exhausting and soul-destroying shift work. The approach will aim at finding healthier balances rather than cutting out porn altogether.

    Premature Ejaculation & Orgasmic Choice.

    Ultimately, it is YOU who needs to have the choice when to ejaculate. Premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating sooner than you want. Like all with all performance issues, we would first of all look at your personal history with sexuality and intercourse, when premature ejaculation first showed up, and work on body and arousal awareness, engaging the entire body in your arousal via breath and movement, and being able to be fully relaxed while fully aroused. We would also look at shifting your view of sexuality to process rather than goal-oriented, and pleasure rather than performance.

    Delayed or Voluntary Ejaculation

    A number of men find it difficult to achieve ejaculation, particularly with a partner, or in the presence of a partner. We would look at underlying factors, work on relaxation while aroused, body and arousal awareness, and gradually cultivate the feeling of ejaculatory choice. We would also look at shifting the focus on being present in each moment, rather than anticipating ejaculation, or the lack of it.

    Read Part I here

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

    Featured image courtesy of Shutterstock

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  • Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach?

    Why Should Men Hire A Sex Coach?

    A sex coach is more of a facilitator than a therapist – talking about future solutions versus the past and traumas.⁠

    Reasons you need to see a sex coach:⁠

    1. You don’t understand sex.
    I mean you get it, but you don’t “get it!” When you see it in all the movies, it looks super juicy but in real life is not the same…⁠(the most common issue you can’t relax fall into body shame or guilt about your body or pleasure)

    2. You are out of ideas.
    You remember when the sparks used to fly in the beginning! But you don’t feel the same way anymore. You find yourself in what looks like a routine transactional exchange. You feel a peak tweak kinda orgasm… but you don’t feel orgasmic daily.⁠

    3. You spend way too much intimate time with your phone instead of on your own love life.⁠ (What are you trying to avoid? Being vulnerable is sexy)

    4. You feel there is more out there…
    You know we made of energy.
    You know that sexual energy is healing life force energy, but you can’t activate it nor use it for creation (just yet!)

    Sex coaching isn’t just for the sexless.

    We talk through potential approaches. I offer a holistic healing method – coaching, hypnotherapy, breathwork or other tantric practices – to resolve your challenges in all aspects of your life. As sexuality is just a place where you can’t hide anymore. But most certainly other aspects of your life as a carrier, health would benefit if you could have more energy, wouldn’t it?

    The cultural narrative suggests that only a certain type of person would go to coaching and therapy.

    Part II to follow…

    Alexandra Holovitz is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. 

    She works with high achieving men in their 40′ helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra, mindset and self-compassion. 

    She believes in holistic healing (mind-body-soul) and by awakening sexual energy to thrive in life and business with deep connection, love and sexual liberation! 

    You can learn more about her work at www.alexandra.guru and connect with her via  Instagram.

    Follow Alexandra on:

    Work with me: https://www.alexandra.guru/work-with-me/

    Instagram: www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru

    Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sexyliberation

    Promo: https://www.alexandra.guru/sex-master-hypnosis ( this is a self-study Hypno bundle for more confidence) 

    Featured image courtesy of Shutterstock

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