Author: Miss Dawn Superior

“What is corporal punishment?

Read Part I here if you haven’t done (http://simplysxy.com/articles/2014/12/18/corporal-punishment-are-you-ready-for-pain/)

The majority of my discipline and CP sessions are punishments for real life misdemeanours from men who feel they need to be disciplined or punished for bad behaviour (past or present). They genuinely do not like being punished but feel they need to be! For many, there is no sexual element to the sessions. Some men need motivational spankings to adjust their mindset and keep them focused and on track. I offer life coaching style sessions with spankings to motivate and encourage my clients to fulfil their goals. As such, I often refer to myself as an “alternative therapist” For some, it’s a great stress relief and enables them to let go of all that tension that’s built up over time more of a cathartic session: being spanked helps them to open up, let go and move on. For others, it’s purely a fantasy/sexual kink that needs fulfilling and that’s where I come in recreating a role play session for them to satisfy their kink. I do not however, offer any forms of sexual activities during sessions! Purely punishments and discipline only!

Most of my sessions are of a domestic discipline style rather than dungeon/mistress/slave set up — you tend to find more dungeons and slaves with more of the BDSM route. Some of my clients are submissive & consider themselves to be submissive while others are not. I call these bottoms rather than subs as they are dominant by nature but require spankings.  Some people are switches and this means they switch between dominant and submissive roles. I am always the dominant role or the top as it is sometimes referred to. I never switch!

No two sessions are the same—the way you interact with a client is always different based on their personalities and preferences. The better you click with someone and get to know them, the better your session will be. There are several things you have to discuss and consider with each client or “bottom” or “sub” such as how experienced they are, their individual limits, whether they can be marked or not after a session; if not, a hard caning is most definitely out! Making your sub or bottom feel at ease is very important too. Communication and understanding is also vital in this kind of relationship! They need to trust you, otherwise it just won’t work.

I’m very approachable and good at making my clients feel relaxed and listen to their requirements. The more relaxed your client is, the better the session will be. I understand they can be very nervous about coming to a session especially for the first time, but I quite like quivering bottoms though. Hehe. I’m not one dimensional and treat each client as an individual and tailor the session to their needs within my boundaries. I have strict criteria to meet and won’t conduct a session with just anyone.

A safe word is often used, especially when role playing. If someone uses the safe word, you stop straightaway and discuss why they needed to stop. A safe word can be used for physical and psychological play as they can both be very intense! My favourite type of sessions are the discipline and punishment sessions where I get to choose the punishment for my bottoms “crime” and have free reign on which implements I use.

I love caning! There is something most satisfying about it and it is a great stress relief too! It’s most feared of all the implements! There’s something really invigorating and empowering about caning and punishing a grown man, shrinking his ego and putting him in his place! Having nothing less than his FULL attention and making him see sense and the error of his ways. Seeing them turn to jelly when you reach for the cane and tell them very calmly and coolly to bend over as they are about to receive 6 of the best! I rarely shout and find it more intimidating to remain composed. After all, losing your temper and shouting is a loss of control and a mistress is always in control and one step ahead! I think a lot of men (and women) love giving up their control too and letting the mistress (top) take complete control especially if they are used to always being in control in everyday situations.

I love role play and dressing up too! Strict matron/nurse, no nonsense boss, stern headmistress, severe PVC clad dominatrix, angry wife or girlfriend or harsh military officer! I have authentic uniforms for each scenario too! Over the knee spanking is another favourite of mine. I start many discipline sessions in this way — it’s very humbling & humiliating to be placed over the lap of a mistress and then have your bottom spanked until it’s glowing red and told you are a very naughty boy and going to be taught a lesson!

I always know when someone is lying to me too and woe betide anyone who lies! I find it thoroughly disrespectful and ultimately my role is a disciplinarian is to ensure respect, manners, discipline and high standard among men (and occasionally women!) at all times. There is never an excuse for poor behaviour! However, I am always firm but fair! And like to keep things light-hearted and have fun with my sessions also even though my standards remain very high and punishments: hard and strict and very real!

I enjoy CP because it’s quite a buzz having so much power and control over someone— men can be quite frustrating too at times so it’s nice to release that annoyance on their bottoms and feel completely de-stressed afterwards. It’s also very amusing too. As serious as it is, men do look rather silly with their pants around their ankles presenting their bottom to be whacked! You can’t miss the funny side in that too! On a serious note, I think men tend to respond very well to CP and it’s quite simple to them—no misunderstanding, it quickly affirms things in their minds rather than a complex discussions of feelings and emotions where they tend to switch off after 2 minutes and want to run away. A short sharp punishment works wonders for both parties involved. You get to release your stress too. However, I never think it’s a good idea to use CP on someone when you’re really angry though. You need to be in control of the situation and not lose your temper because you may overstep the mark or cause some real damage and that’s not what this is about! It’s not about physically or mentally harming someone. It’s not about aggression or bullying. It’s a fun, alternative way to enhance relationships.

I hope this has given you a little insight into the world of CP!

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“What is corporal punishment?

In short, it’s a physical punishment typically involving spanking by hand or with various implements including caning and whipping.

But what is it really all about? Want to know more? Then carry on reading!

CP (corporal punishment) and BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) is quite a talking point in the media at the moment what with books such as 50 Shades of Grey. And even more recently, the new laws that have taken effect in the UK regarding the production of BDSM pornography. Although it is a very popular part of many people’s private lives as well as careers too for some – it’s still quite a taboo subject which may cause a few eyebrows to raise, although Christian Grey has helped in opening the doors of interest much wider recently. It is still in my opinion, very much misunderstood by people!

BDSM is slightly different to CP, although there can be an element of BDSM to CP and vice versa— it all depends on the reasoning and mindset of the person involved. But to me and many others, CP is very traditional, very old school if you like and very domesticated rather than dungeon orientated; the stereotypical point of view assumes it’s all the same in the instances of leather, whips, chains, bondage, kinky sex and dungeons. You couldn’t be further from the truth once you scratch beneath that surface and start to explore this world and all it has to offer. This article is going to focus on traditional CP.

Firstly, let me tell you a little bit about myself. I’m a 35 year old experienced, professional English mistress/disciplinarian and fetish model. I’ve been working in the fetish industry for the past 15 years and working as a professional mistress for the last 6. It’s an area of life I find fascinating and interesting for many reasons! More on the psychology behind it all rather than the physical side and it certainly beats regular 9-5 hours (no pun intended haha). I have written the following article based on my own opinions and experiences to date. I’m always learning and developing my expertise and knowledge in this field.

My first experiences of CP was as a young child! I grew up in South Africa and went to a private Catholic school and CP was never far away for anyone who misbehaved! I was always very well-behaved as having seen others being disciplined was quite a terrifying experience and not something I wished to receive, but witnessing pupils being disciplined was quite a regular occurrence — the school was very strict and particular when it came to manners, respect and having good morals. It was also full of life and fun and had very clear defined boundaries and pretty simple: cross the boundaries you’ll be punished and they’d come down very hard on you. I think my experiences from an early age have gone some way to shaping my mistress persona.

After returning to England in the early 90’s, it was quite some years later that I stumbled across CP whilst working as a full time model in my 20’s. There’s a lot more to CP than merrily whacking someone’s bottom—it’s much deeper than that! There’s a huge psychological aspect to it too as well as safe techniques, trust, respect and of course, any punishments being consensual! Not all punishments are physical for they can be verbal scolding or even tasks such as writing lines, exclusion or a mixture of the above. For some, CP along with BDSM is used to spice things up in the bedroom. My experiences as a professional mistress differ slightly to what you might find within a personal relationship!

Read on to find out Miss Dawn Superior’s favourite type of Corporal Punishments in Part 2 here http://simplysxy.com/articles/2014/12/18/corporal-punishment-part-ii-are-you-ready-for-pain/