Slutwife fantasy: Telling my wife

Be subtle, take it gradual. Read the signs. I would say think about what you’re thinking about doing very carefully, because once you do it, there’s no going back. It took us years, yes we used to talk about things as sexual foreplay, and it excited us both. But going from the fantasy to the reality didn’t happen overnight and neither was it planned that way.

Look at how strong your relationship is. Seriously, if your relationship means anything to you, then consider how deep the love between the two of you is. The last thing you want is for one partner to use this as a means to end a relationship which they weren’t committed to anyway, and to use this as an excuse.

I think maybe a lot of people reading this will find this talk of love between two people, while contemplating sleeping with other partners a little strange. But at the heart of all this, is the emotional and physical relationship of the people involved, it really is. The reality of this is that while it can be sexually exciting and thrilling, and rewarding, it can also end up wrecking marriages and ruining relationships. If you have a family, please, please think about them, and put them first in any decision.

I’m probably coming off as a little negative, but you really do need to consider everything.

Having said that, often there can be surprises the other way too. How often do you hear of wives who you would never in a million years, think of having affairs, having a ‘fling’ with a work colleague? Or of having been involved with another man for a longer period of time without anyone’s knowledge?

What I’m saying is, you never truly know as much about the other person as you possibly think you do. Who knows what a wife or partner truly thinks or what she wants as well. I’ve spoken previously about the ‘slut label’ and it’s an implication for many women. How society shapes the way we think about ourselves and what others think about us and because of that, the way it limits the way we think we should be or act. So how do you really know what reaction to expect to anything unless you pluck up the nerve to approach something … having thoroughly thought through the consequences before hand. Life is short, sometimes you need to consider this too, because no one knows if this is the only life you live and if it is, then sometimes you need to overcome fear and know that if something is important to you, that at least you tried, even if sometimes what you try doesn’t succeed.

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