Known to the media as “The Paralyzed Bride,” because just weeks before her wedding, four of Rachelle Chapman’s friends threw her a bachelorette party. At the end of a perfect evening of dancing and celebration, they decided to take a moonlight swim. One of her friends playfully pushed her into the water, two feet too far from the deep end. That chilling moment changed her life forever, Rachelle broke her neck and was paralyzed from the chest down, leaving her never to walk again.
But the vibrant, beautiful, young Rachelle Chapman became an advocate for people with disabilities, hasn’t let these life-changing events slow her down in and out of the bedroom, and is thrilled about representing Dallas Novelty, enjoying the vast array of pleasure products the company has to offer men and women in her position.
“When I first had my spinal cord injury, I wondered how I would have sex and what that would mean for my relationship. I quickly learned that even though my sex life would be different it would very much still exist,” says Rachelle. “Sex and intimacy is an important part of my identity as a woman and once I discovered my sexuality I felt secure and confident. Many people don’t realize that people with disabilities can be intimate and sexy and that needs to change. Dallas Novelty acknowledges the sexual needs of people with disabilities and that means a lot to people like me.”
Early this year Rachelle Chapman became the subject of a highly-viewed TLC special called, “Rattled: A Paralyzed Mother’s Story,” documenting the pregnancy and birth of her first child, a beautiful little girl named Kaylee.
Rachelle’s duties for award-winning, online store, Dallas Novelty whose motto is “Sex is For Everybody,” include media interviews on sex and disability, and reviewing the latest products that ring her and her husband’s bells. For more information on Dallas Novelty go to www.DallasNovelty.com.
People seem to not want to talk about sex and its importance, especially when it involves someone with a disability. As a person with a spinal cord injury, I know what it’s like to feel that you’ve lost your womanhood, sexual identity and any confidence associated with your body. I was lucky to be with someone who was in this relationship for the long haul so it’s been comfortable and easy to explore sexually with him. Not everyone has that right now, but you can still appreciate your body and explore. I’m a huge sexuality and disability advocate and I’m not afraid to get down and dirty with the details to help people in my situation either rediscover their sexuality or to enhance the experience with their partner. Dallas Novelty is an adult novelty store that is the only one recognizing that people with disabilities matter and are customers too. I’m here to give you the run down of my favorite sex toys for people with disabilities available on the website.
1: Wand Essentials Passion Pillow Universal Wand Massager Harness
Strap your favorite wand massager into the sturdy and adjustable harness and fit it on your favorite pillow. Wrap your legs around it and go for it. This is more for solo exploration and is a great way for a woman to get some pleasure without having to use their arms or hands. I have zero dexterity or grip so holding a toy would be very difficult. I love this solution.
2: Strict Faux Leather Padded Thigh Sling Position Aid
This positioning aid is a great help during sex with your partner. For people with any kind of lower limb paralysis, it can take some work holding your legs back with your hands/arms under your knees. This sling allows you to just sit back, relax and have some fun with your man
3: XR Brands SexFlesh Palmer Handheld Ergonomic Stroker With Handle
This is a great toy for men who may not have full hand function. This stroker is ergonomically designed to fit in the palm just right, contoured inside and out for a powerful finish! The interior of the Palmer Handheld Ergonomic Stroker with Handle is tight enough for friction, and contains ultra-satisfying ribbed interior texture for enhanced sensations. This is also a great couples toy for women who don’t have full hand function who want to help pleasure their male partner. The body-safe TPE (Thermo Plastic Elastomer) material is soft and flexible but rigid enough for intense sensations. Just add your favorite Water Based Lubricant and have a blast.
4: Sola Sync Wireless Remote 10-Function Rechargeable Silicone Wand Massager
This is a wand massager that you can use all over your body to relieve tense muscles or in your pleasure zone. The flexible massage head and extra long handle make it great for people with disabilities who might need help with the extra reach and flexibility in positioning. You get 5 powerful speeds of remote controlled deep, rumbly vibrations with 5 unique patterns to choose from with just a touch of a button. Sync comes with a 2.75 inch wide wireless handheld remote with LED lights that is covered in soft silicone and can operate your wand from up to 50 feet away! It’s waterproof too!
5: Hott Products Wet Dreams Deep Explorer Multi-Flex Vibrating 12-Speed Bendable Probe Magenta
With unlimited, variable positions, this makes it a great shoice for people who have a physical disability. If your hand function isn’t great, you can bend this toy in a way that makes it easier to hold. It’s also pretty long which can give you more of a reach. With the Deep Explorer you get 12 powerful vibrations that can be felt on either end of this super flexible vibe that will stay in the position you bend it in. All of the super-powered pulsations, vibrations and gyrations are powered by a rechargeable battery setup with USB charging cable included. .The Wet Dreams Deep Explorer Multi-Flex Vibrating 12-speed Bendable Probe is made with premium silicone for the highest quality finish that is 100% waterproof.
6: We-Vibe Sync Remote & App-Controlled Couples Vibrator Purple
Sync stays in one position, so you don’t have to with an adjustable fit that customizes to your unique shape.. She gets powerful stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot and together, you both share the vibe.
The remote can change vibration modes as well as the intensity in the moment. Download the free We-Connect app and play together, even when you’re apart. Play together from just across the room or on a different continent. Beat mode vibrates to the beat of your music. Touch mode allows real-time, custom control. It’s a fun toy to enjoy with your partner or on your own. Once it’s in position, you can use the remote or app to control it. This is a great option for people with disabilities because you don’t have to hold it and there’s no need to keep repositioning yourself or the toy.
7: HealthPostures IntimateRider Romance Set With Gliding Intimacy Mobility Enhancing Chair & Bench Set
The IntimateRider is a small swing chair especially designed to offer a natural gliding motion that will improve sexual mobility enhancer that is improving the love life of many couples. The original gliding sex chair, IntimateRider has been helping couples overcome physical challenges & disabilities for years! The IntimateRider’ allows you to achieve a broader range of motion with minimal effort. No motors or springs, just the movement of your upper torso is all that’s needed to enhance sexual performance. This is a must for men with physical challenges. Your girl will love this too.
8. : LuvRydr Padded Faux Leather Sex Harness Black
This harness is a huge help for the guy whether he’s able-bodied or the partner with the disability. If the man is the one who has a disability, thrusting my not be physically possible. This harness gives you a way to pull your partner into you. If the woman (or partner) has a disability, then this harness is a great way to left your partners hips up
9. Hot Octopuss Pocket Pulse Remote Control Vibrating Stroker Guybrator
This revolutionary intimacy aid is great for customers who have disability or mobility issues since no hand movement is required, the wireless controller makes this even easier. This unique toy harnesses medical technology to introduce a revolutionary way of masturbating that does not require the typical up-and-down ‘stroking’ motion. The Pocket Pulse uses powerful forms of existing vibrator technology to enhance the standard ‘stroking’ action. Such a great option for guys without full hand function.
10. Liberator Rockabilly Doggy Riser Wedge Position Pillow Aubergine Plum
The Liberator Rockabilly Doggy Riser Position Pillow rocking support not only lifts and provides access, but tilts your bodies at the ultimate angle for deeper, more satisfying sessions. You and your lover can also figure out some new ways of finding pleasure especially if you have a mobility restraint or disability that was preventing you from finding the pleasure you’ve longed for, Liberator is here to help. It’s a great way to offer support for someone who doesn’t have the ability to hold themselves in a particular position
So there you go! There are so many options for people who have disabilities and it’s super cool that Dallas Novelty is thinking about that. We all deserve intimacy whether it be with a partner or rediscovering our sexuality solo. Sex is for everybody!
Images courtesy of Rachelle Chapman and Dallas Novelty
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