Why I Love Bondage Sex

I adore both kink and any sort of alternative lifestyle. Anyone willing to say, “screw you” to the mainstream culture is cool in my book. All of society is telling us that we must look a certain way, buy these specific clothes, and to constantly compare ourselves to their standard of beauty. The mainstream culture tells us to only partake in “normal” vanilla sex, but not to like it too much. We should enjoy it, but make sure to feel sufficiently dirty after. Anyone willing to lift their middle finger to the air and proclaim their freedom from these stigmas deserves some praise!

Personally, I have found kink to be both a gateway to mind-blowing sexual experiences and an incredible journey of personal discovery. I have come to know myself intimately; I know my limits, my desires, and my emotional landmines. The best part is, every time I play I learn more. And I have learned to be comfortable communicating my feelings with others, with both first time playmates and in the context of relationship.

My biggest motivation in porn is to show people how amazing and healthy this lifestyle can be. I want people to see that I am an articulate, intelligent, strong woman who loves kink and loves doing porn. I am celebrating my sexuality, in a way that makes me happy.

Additionally, I do porn for that person who feels that they need to hide their proclivity towards kink from their partner/partners. I want that person to know this is nothing to be ashamed of; it is something to be excited about. Some people are extremely sexual, some are kinky, some are monogamous and some aren’t. Most people have sexual fanaticism that is not socially appropriate. And all of that is okay. Actually, it’s more than okay; it is great! Wherever you fall on the sexuality spectrum, give yourself a high five. As long as you are exploring your desires in a safe, sane, and consensual way, go for it! I support your wishes to dress up like animals and fuck, to tie someone up and beat them until they cry, or to birth an egg out of your ass. You do you! Just be responsible about it.

How My Interest In Bondage And Rough Sex Came About

It developed before I even knew what sex was. When I was a child I would always demand my friends and I play cops and robbers, except I always wanted to get captured. Then, I would tell them that they needed to tie me up so I couldn’t get away.

It wasn’t until I was about 17 that I finally connected bondage with sex. I had a “friend” of mine who would tie me up then bite me all over my body until I begged. I had so much fun hiding those bruises from my family. I felt so naughty!

I was 20 when my desire to top others became evident. It developed a bit slower than my desires to bottom but now 80% of the play I do in my personal life involves being a top. I have to say there is a certain satisfaction in riding someone and telling them they can’t cum until you are satisfied. It’s a win/win, because if they do cum without permission I get to punish them. Yay!

Where I Enjoy Receiving Pain

I process a wide range of sensations as pleasurable, without considering them pain. Flogging is a very intense and pleasurable sensation for me. Temporary piercings are the same. So in that case I like it mostly around my chest, back, and face. When it is in other areas it is more likely to turn into pain.

Pain itself, I enjoy for the adrenaline. So in that case I love it everywhere! It is so hard to describe the high I get from adrenaline. It is like the whole world stops, nothing exists except for that single moment. That single impact of the cane, or the moment of lifting your feet in a hook suspension. It is life-altering experience.

I could go on for ages about my love for adrenaline. In fact I have! Check it out on my blog, Confessions of an Opinionated Pervert!

Part II to follow.

I am a full time student, most of the time athlete, sometimes porn actress, and always a dinosaur. While terrorizing unsuspecting scientists in a theme park is my favorite pastime, I also find time to pursue extreme sports and edgy BDSM. I am an adrenaline junky through and through. Follow me on Twitter (@_Endza), Tumblr (http://endza-adair.tumblr.com/) and my blog Confessions of an Opinionated Pervert

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