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  • Is It Fine To Have Sex Before Marriage?

    Is It Fine To Have Sex Before Marriage?

    Does being sexually active needs to be only inside a marriage relationship? What happens if you have sex before you get married? This is a very controversial topic. A lot of things go into deciding what is ok and what is not.

    For everyone, sex comes with responsibilities. It does tend to emotionally bond you to the person you are physically active with, especially if you’re a woman. Women easily get emotionally attached on matters if that person is right or wrong. Once sex enters the equation, the relationship between two people, will be never the same.

    Sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like married couples may want to discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live after tying the knot, sex is too an important part of a relationship and it cannot be left to a by-chance situation. Having a sexual desire is normal and healthy; however it isn’t a good idea to not satisfy it and to wait until you get married. Many times, couples rush into marriage just to have sex as they do not want to indulge in premarital sex, which is a very bad idea for them. Things like proper use of birth control, self-respect, and respect for each other is a must.

    A person cannot be considered a bad person, just because he or she had sex before marriage. Not everyone is great in bed, and most people do not start out good at all but gradually learn with time and experience. Wanting to have a good sex life would only be possible if you listen to your partner and are able to respond accordingly. Not every newly married couple will be open about their sexual desires, fearing of what the other person may think of them. Meaningfulness in sex is a psychological matter, and related to the stability and happiness of any relationship and not only married life. Sex needs to be fully consensual and focused on pleasure for both the partners, whether married or premarital. Sexual compatibility matters a lot in married relationships, and bad sex, for many people, may lead them to think about ending their marriage. .

    While women are bold and empowered today. They are ready to embrace their sexuality, whereas the male mindset has hardly changed. The need of a virgin bride still holds on. In the earlier times, getting married was all about finding the right partner with a stable financial security with a respectful social status. These rules are not relevant any more. Today, men and women are experimental and want to be compatible with their partners in every way, emotional, physical or sexual. Young couples are more westernized, and do not find it to be incorrect to indulge in casual sex.

    The most important thing to keep in mind is that your sexuality is your own personal choice. Nobody should be allowed to give you directions on whom you should love and why. For just rushing into a marriage out of desperation to have sex that isn’t seen as sin, at times, may then lead to divorces.

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  • Useful Tips To Spice Sex Up On Your Wedding Night

    Useful Tips To Spice Sex Up On Your Wedding Night

    Getting married!! You already have butterflies in your stomach. As the day progresses, the anxiety well starts to build up; more if you have not known your husband or wife for long before the wedding. The wedding night or first night is the most significant period in the couple’s life, what happens that night will be imprinted in your mind lifelong. So don’t rush.

    Sex can happen or cannot, so go with an open mind. It’s more important to relax in each others company and to control your nervousness.  Try and connect emotionally first rather than get physical. The husband should always make the first move and give hints to his partner that he is getting aroused in her presence and politely and passionately convince her that you will not cause her any pain.

    It’s very easy for couples to get excited on their first night even if they have known each other for a long time.  The trick here is to keep it slow, take time to understand each others body. Kissing, hugging, and fondling each other should be a kick start to have wonderful sex on your first night. Husbands should be more patient, unselfish and in control to satisfy his wife. Being pushy on the first night could lead to repulsion.

    The first night act is not only the husband’s responsibility, but the wife also needs to be actively involved in it. Women feel shy in opening up about their body and feelings and many times resist having sex on their first night. These days girls are becoming more matured and listen to their body and don’t consider having sex as a mere duty to please their husbands, but would like to be a part of it. Exercising regularly and stretching the pelvic muscles will help reduce pain on the first night.

    Taking a shower together, it will help you open up and also relax in each others company. It’s advisable to keep the lights off and have candles lit all around to create that perfect atmosphere and to explore each others body. Proceed once you are comfortable, step by step, which will build a great bond of trust and understanding. Husbands should understand his wife’s fear of having sex for the first time; it can only be less painful if there is good intense foreplay involved. At times you can also use artificial lubricants to relieve pain. After all it’s how much you love your wife and care about her.

    It’s not necessary that you end up having an intercourse on the first night. You can try giving your partner a massage to relieve the pressure and when the time is right make your next move. There are couples who would like to take some time, just enjoy foreplay and sleep naked in each other arms till passion takes over them completely, because this is not the only night you are spending together, your first night will determine the pleasure level for all the coming years.

    Pratibha Soni, an author, is passionate writer of health fitness and fashion trends. She has also researched extensively on health and fitness which is very useful in today’s busy life. She can be contacted at http://www.naughtyme.in/blog/

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