There are so many ways to have virtual sex with someone—whether they’re your partner or not. Sometimes, it’s hard to know exactly which format will be the most stimulating. What you like best depends entirely on your personality. To help you make the best decision, below are some reasons you might want to choose phone sex over sexting.
1. It’s More Personal
Seeing words appear on a screen might appeal to some, but it can feel like a very impersonal experience for others. There’s something that feels more distant and anonymous about sexting. Since sexting can be impersonal, bots sometimes take the place of humans on sexting websites. This isn’t the case with phone sex. It’s pretty easy to tell if you’re talking to someone who sounds more like Alexa or someone with a human voice and emotions.
On the other hand, when you have phone sex, you hear another living, breathing human being. Their breathing might be one of the biggest turn-ons of the entire experience. Being able to listen to another person sexually respond to you feels a lot closer than reading another text. Think about the visceral distinction between seeing the words “I’m coming” pop up on a screen and listening to someone moan during an orgasm. Big difference!
2. It’s Rawer
Something happens when you give someone the time to think about how they’re going to respond to you and what they’re going to say next: they hold back. Sometimes this is a good thing: you wait a few minutes before texting someone when you’re angry, and you might preserve the relationship. In a sexual encounter, though, usually the less time someone has to respond, the more primal thoughts come out.
When you’re sexting, you’re in complete control of how quickly you respond. If you need a few minutes, you take a few minutes. So, while the responses you get will be more well thought out, they won’t be as spontaneous. When you have to respond to someone in real-time (or face an inevitable awkward silence), you have less time to think. You’re not thinking with your brain. Instead, you’re thinking with your desire. In general, that’s way hotter.
3. The Meaning Is Crystal Clear
Context is everything. And, for some people, understanding the context of someone’s text is difficult. Imagine you get a text from your mom that says, “I’ve got a little something to give you next time I see you ;).” Now, imagine you got that same text from your partner. They mean very different things.
When you can’t hear someone’s tone, there’s a lot that you have to guess. If you know someone very well, it might not be a problem at all. But if you don’t, you may want to have phone sex. It helps clarify a lot of what they’re saying, and the communication goes more smoothly.
4. There’s No Permanent Record of the Conversation
When you have phone sex with someone, as soon as you say the words, they live only in your memory. Of course, someone could record you, but that’s much more devious than simply having a text record of everything you said to someone in the heat of the moment. If you said something silly during a sext, they can reread it the next day or even show it to their friends. That’s no fun for someone private. With phone sex, there’s no automatic way to relive the experience.
If you choose to have phone sex with someone, make sure you trust them. If you use a website to find a phone sex partner, make sure they protect your privacy.
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