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  • Period Sex: Are You a Blood Hound?

    Period Sex: Are You a Blood Hound?

    I like to have sex with my girlfriend during her period, but have yet to let her know about this fantasy of mine. Does it make me weird and is it a fetish?

    If you do a search online for “blood hounds” you might stumble upon different articles and forums discussing the experience of receiving sexual pleasure from having sex with a partner who is on their period. There are apparently whole groups of (mostly) men who enjoy this experience or even specifically “seek out” women who are on their periods to have sex with them.

    So you ask “does it make me weird?” and I would say “yeah, maybe!” but only because this is not considered in our current society to be a totally generic, “normal” turn-on, which essentially makes it a fetish. That being said, there are apparently many other weirdos out there enjoying this fetish as we speak!

    A side note to this conversation is the issue of safety since, when blood is involved, risk for disease transmission increases greatly. So, make sure you have both been tested, are knowledgeable of each other’s health status, and acknowledge the risk of genital, skin, and mouth contact with blood and the possibility of ingesting blood if oral sex is involved.

    If you want to talk about this particular fetish with your girlfriend (which I think you should), I would approach it by asking her if she is comfortable having sex while she is menstruating. Find out where her comfort lies first and then tailor your conversation towards acknowledging your interest and your desire.

    You can make a judgement about how you want to frame it – telling her you are “turned on” by having sex with her while she is on her period may sound more comfortable then saying you have “a fetish.” Once consent has been established and risks have been acknowledged, enjoy!

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    Elizabeth is a Clinical Psychologist and psychotherapist in Washington State. She provides therapy and consultation to individuals and couples and is working to become an AASECT-certified Sex Therapist. Her primary interests are romantic and sexual relationships, sexual empowerment and education, the dynamics of communication, and reducing stigma around issues of sexuality and mental health. Get in touch with Elizabeth via email at drelizabethwatt@gmail.com.

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  • Can I have sex during my period?

    Can I have sex during my period?

    Have a question on your mind about sex or seeking advice? Ask us on any topic and we’ll provide you with the answers from an expert. Send them in to editorial@simplysxy.com. 

    We have collected your questions on sexual health, and are delighted to have Bonnie Gayle to answer them below.

    How deep is the average vagina and can it take the whole penis?

    Vaginas come in a range of sizes just like penises. The average vagina size is 2.75 inches to about 3¼ inches when it’s not aroused and expands to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches when stimulated. A woman’s vagina is directly in proportion to the length of her forefinger. Some vaginas are smaller and others are larger. The vagina is made of mucous tissue that is able to stretch when aroused. As the vagina expands, the muscles around it relax allowing it to take in an erect penis during sex.

    Of course there are some men who are extremely well endowed which can be painful for women who have an average or smaller than average size vagina. All vaginas are unique; the look, feel, size, positioning, and how a vagina gets turned on varies.

    Does being on the pill reduce a woman’s sex drive?

    When a woman takes the pill she is introducing added hormones into her system which can affect her sex drive. 30% of women on the pill experience diminished sex drive, one of the possible side effects of being on the pill. This happens as a result of the hormones related to sexuality and libido decreasing.

    Not every woman taking the pill experiences diminished sex drive. Some report that their sex drive has stayed the same or even increased which means that side effects vary from woman to woman.

    Is it possible to have sex while she is on her period?

    A woman can definitely have sex while on your period, however, not every woman wants to or feels comfortable having sex. During that time women may feel bloated, cramping, and/or moody. The first few days of a woman’s period are usually the worst and the time she wouldn’t be most interested in having sex. After those first few days, she may feel like she wants to have sex as the testosterone hormone starts rising again.

    In some religions, having sex during a woman’s cycle is considered taboo because it’s considered “the body’s cleansing”. This is true, however if you’re someone who experiences horrific cramping, having intercourse and orgasm can help to release the cramping. You can use a towel for the extra mess, have fun and feel better!

    On another note, some women love to have sex during their period… it’s the idea of doing something “naughty” during the supposed “forbidden time”. If this is you, you can have some fun having sex in the shower to avoid a mess or use a dark towel in case of excess bleeding. Whatever you do, make sure you continue to use protection because even though you’re on your period, contrary to what you may have heard you can get pregnant.

    Bonnie Gayle, Body Image Expert and the Founder of Boudoir Butter & Sex Butter, educates hosts the podcast show on 65 networks, “Body Beautiful” covering feeling comfortable & confident in your body, connecting intimately & stepping into your sexual deliciousness. Bonnie’s believes releasing yourself from body bondage, body and sexual shame and learning to love your self are “an inside job”! Her products, Boudoir Butter & Sex Butter are sexually empowering pleasure enhancements made with organic plant-based oils to inspire your own natural juiciness!

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