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  • How To Spice Up Your Sex Life In A Long-Distance Relationship

    How To Spice Up Your Sex Life In A Long-Distance Relationship

    Long-distance relationships pose many challenges, though perhaps the biggest downside of being apart from your significant other aside from, obviously, not seeing each other, is not being able to enjoy sexual intimacy as frequently as most folks do. Your relationship’s sexual wellness and physical intimacy are not only one of the most important aspects of a relationship, but it’s also the area that is heavily impacted when in a long-distance relationship. If you’re not working to keep your sexuality connected to your partner when you can’t physically touch them, it becomes less of a romantic relationship. You lose the intimacy that you have when you’re with someone in real life. 

    The solution? Work at it tirelessly and be creative. Both you and your significant other should be willing to get open, playful, and inventive to keep the sparks of your love life burning. To keep a fire ablaze, you tend to it. You position the logs just right, add kindling, and fan the flame. Paying close attention to and caring for the fire keeps it from burning out. Here lies the secret to keeping the spark alive in your long-term relationship, whether you’re 200 miles apart or 2,000.

    Exchanging Sex Toys Gifts

    If you’re already using sex toys in your intimate play, chances are you can already see where all the buzz is coming from. Including a new element of titillating fun to your steamy FaceTime rendezvous keeps your long-term relationship fresh, dynamic, and vibrant.

    Whether you’re on the prowl for the perfect naughty gift for your long-distance significant other or simply want to spice it up, sex toys such as vibrating dildos can be a wonderful idea, and with a good reason. To begin with, it’s literally everything the sexperts say a perfect gift should be – fun, thrusting, thoughtful, and useful. Plus, if you’re giving it to your partner-in-crime, it’s the type of gift you’re likely to benefit from as well!

    When we give a toy to ourselves or others, we’re not just giving that person a piece of silicone – we’re also inviting them into a conversation with their body, their pleasure, and with us.

    Set the Mood

    When you’re apart and haven’t seen each other for a while, intimacy can feel like it suddenly requires a lot of groundwork and planning. Needless to say, it can be both an awkward subject to bring forth and also a difficult adjustment to make. It’s hard to feel hot under bright LED lights that make you feel you’re in a very important meeting or a calibration call with your EMEA colleagues. So, turn off that harsh bedroom light!

    Instead, opt-in for a bedside table or floor lamp, sweep by Walmart and buy bulbs with warmer, more sensitive hues. Candles? If that’s your flavor, lighting some candles or hanging string lights around your bed can also help create a more romantic, emotionally-dense atmosphere. Not only will it help create an intimate environment for you and your partner, but this kind of lighting is also more flattering and will help you feel more sensual and sexy.

    Sexting

    What about 👉🏻👌🏻💦💦? Or maybe 🍑👅? Serenading your beloved by the window of his or her house, sending handwritten love letters through the mail, no one ever does these things anymore. Nowadays, it’s all about sexting, online dating, and maybe even a sex emoji here and there. If you want to show your affection, express your passion, or just create a more easy-going atmosphere in your long-distance relationship, sexting through sex emoji combinations is just what you need for a great end result. They can be friendly, cute, or pretentious, but they′ll always be very dirty. Just like you are 😈!

    With anything sexting, timing is everything – find out what your partner is doing before you jump into it. Start slow and slowly build up like you with the conversation. You’d be surprised that sexting feels and looks almost like regular sex. Don’t deprive your significant other of the important details, don’t hold back, and include anything and everything that comes to your mind. Sexting is a great way to spice up your long-distance relationship, moreover, it’s one of those helpful tools to help you reminisce about the days of old and all of the gratifying intimate experiences you’ve shared together. 💋🍆👅🍑💦

    FaceTime Sex

    Some folks say that having cybersex over FaceTime builds faux intimacy. Think phone sex or sexting but on steroids. Now that you’ve sexted your brains out, it may be the perfect moment to culminate together over FaceTime and show each other the real goodies that made you fall in love with each other those years ago. Steamy FaceTime sessions bring a different layer of intimate wellness by providing you and your partner with exciting visuals. Whether you haven’t had sex IRL before or have been for years, exploring being your naughty self over video chat with your partner can help you learn about their sexual preferences in a new way. You’ll get to see exactly how they like to touch themselves, which is a great way to better understand how to please them when you are together.

    Have Meaningful Conversations

    Did you know that your brain is the most powerful sex organ? That’s right! We won’t lie if we say meaningful conversations are exchanged between sapiosexual humans. While sex is important, most long-distance relationships are built on meaningful conversations. A sapiosexual is someone who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing. One of many keys to a long-lasting long-distance relationship is the process of having regular, meaningful conversations – whether it’s about that new vibrating dildo you’re gifting your partner or the plans of Elon Musk to colonize Mars, thoughtful convos remain one of the best ways to keep the spark between partners lit.

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  • How To Make Those Long Distance Relationships Work During COVID

    How To Make Those Long Distance Relationships Work During COVID

    Long-distance relationships are already hard enough, but when you throw in COVID and social distancing, it only makes them all that more difficult. Countless couples have been separated for weeks and months at a time, as governments from all around the world race to contain what has become known as COVID-19. With limited movement of citizens allowed and travel restrictions placed on certain countries, it almost eliminates the possibility of traveling. Heck, for some individuals, it is hard to travel in their own countries. In fact, they may only be allowed out to collect essentials.

    Nonetheless, these circumstances would put a strain on any relationship. Here’s how you can handle the sudden split and keep your relationship on the path to success.

    Unique Communicating

    As a long-distance couple, you and your significant other are probably used to communicating over the Internet, the phone, or some kind of connected device. There is nothing wrong with this, as communication is key to any relationship. That being said, the same old methods can be worn out, regardless of how much you enjoy them or need them. This is where thinking outside the box can come in handy while also spicing things up at the same time. Unique communication might mean anything from voice recording to music. Yes, you might not be the best singer or even the best communicator, but that doesn’t mean you still can’t get creative.

    Use various websites and online resources to create music and voice recordings that you can send to your mate. Shipping is stalled, but your package will eventually get there. Sometimes the waiting makes the receiving all that much more meaningful. Regardless of how good your recording or how professional it sounds, just the tone of your voice in a different manner can be enough to soothe and comfort in a time of need.

    Make Future Plans

    There is nothing like anticipation. The anticipation for something makes it all that more meaningful when it actually happens. It’s just like that voice recording that was mentioned above. The longer you wait on it, the more it’ll mean when it does arrive. This is why you can your mate should plan. Plan as much as possible for the future. Plan how you are going to meet, where you are going to meet, and what you are going to do when you meet.

    While a lot of places are already shut down with no idea as to when they’ll open back up, you can still plan and make appointments for future visits. Just make sure that you’ll be able to get a refund in the event that the date of the trip falls through.

    Enjoy Adult Entertainment Together

    One of the hardest parts about long-distance relationships is the lack of intimacy. Any couple will tell you this much, but that doesn’t mean there also aren’t ways to combat. Just like you setup voice and face interactions online, you can also check out adult content online together and foreplay. Sites like XXXBios  provides users with tons of content and niches of all varieties. With all the available content on this site, you and your mate won’t have a problem culling your wild side or even experiencing new things together.

    Participate In Online Activities

    Just like you can watch adult content online together, there are plenty of other things that you can do online together as well. Everything from solving crossword puzzles together to steaming movies and working out together is available online through video services. Even though you may want to communicate on a daily basis, make sure that you are setting aside at least one day of the week for a date night where you can participate in online activities together.

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  • Online Cyber Sex Vs. Real Sex – The Pros And Cons

    Online Cyber Sex Vs. Real Sex – The Pros And Cons

    In the modern world, online cyber sex has a lot of fans. People of all ages have turned to cyber sex. Some of them even preferring cyber sex. Today we are going to discuss the pros and cons of cyber sex so that you can determine whether or not you want to try it. This will help you to understand why so many people have turned to cyber sex.

    Pros Of Online Cyber Sex

    Cyber sex has a lot going for it. Probably one of the best things is that you can have cyber sex at any time with anyone. You don’t have to worry about finding the right person, where you are, and privacy. It is like being able to access your partner wherever you want. Cyber sex in unusual locations can add an extra thrill to the experience.

    You don’t have to lose feeling. Many people combine cyber sex with the use of toys to heighten the experience. Teledildonics has enabled the ability for those having online cyber sex to connect their toys together. The male and female toys are able to sync so you can have an enjoyed experience.

    When you have real sex you have to worry about protection such as condoms and birth control. No more having to be distracted by having to put something on.

    During cyber sex you are typing or talking. In a way, you are telling a story because usually the other party can’t see you. By having a story like this you are opening yourself to infinite possibilities. You can be anyone, anywhere, with any theme that you want. Some people even have fantasy themed encounters such as elves and fairies.

    Experts in psychology and relationships have done a number of studies that have found that cyber sex can be a great tool for those who are in long distance relationships. It allows you to build trust, let off steam, enjoy time with each other, and get off, all at the same time. In fact, if you go to a therapist for your help when you are in a long distance relationship, they may even recommend cyber sex as a way to strengthen your relationship.

    Most importantly out of all of this, cyber sex is free. It doesn’t cost you anything to find a cyber sex partner online. If you are looking to have cyber sex and need a partner, make sure you check out FreeCyberSexSites – 10 best cyber sex chat sites and apps. There are plenty of people out there who are looking for one time cyber sex adventures or something more substantive.

    Cons Of Online Cyber Sex

    Some people who try cyber sex don’t like the fact that there is less physical stimulation with cyber sex. You don’t have the feeling of another person under you. No feeling of having someone insert themselves into you or going into someone. A good number of people don’t enjoy masturbation and as such, don’t like cyber sex. They would rather have real sex.

    For those who don’t have a regular cyber sex partner, it can leave you feeling a little hollow. You don’t form a bond with someone the same way that you do with physical sex. Being so close and intimate to someone during real sex can have a great effect on you.

    While cyber sex is safer in almost all ways, you still have to keep safety in mind. Sending out a picture of yourself can be dangerous if you don’t trust the person. That photo will be out there forever and you don’t know what the person will do with it. If you are going to send pictures during cyber sex it is important that you trust the person and/or you don’t have your face included in any photo.

    Cyber sex can be one of the most enjoyable ways to get off. It lets you have fun in a world that exists in your head. The better your imagination, the better the experience. You can try out your deepest fantasies, all without worry. You don’t even have to worry about being judged based on your desires.

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  • How to survive long-distance relationships

    How to survive long-distance relationships

    Some relationships lead up to engagements and marriages and others in my instance, to a long-distance commitment. While I was and still am enjoying the moment; aka not in a hurry to walk down the aisle, I was certainly not expecting for the petit copain and I to be spending the next couple of months 2,500 km apart. By his standards, we were already kinda leading a long-distance relationship to begin with as most of his counterparts are living with their partners while we continue to meet up twice, or even once a week. As for me, I had barely settled down comfortably in the routine (or lack thereof) of our relationship, only to have to go through yet another wave of changes. Then came the move … the first few days were absolutely insane and I was incredibly annoyed when he failed to turn up for our first Skype date, before learning that his new mobile plan had yet to be activated and that he was caught up in an extended dinner with his new boss. Over the subsequent weeks, we began to establish certain routines in hope that these will keep things running till we eventually close the distance.

    The talk

    Prior to the shift, it is very important to figure out the dynamics of the ongoing relationship and to make plans for the long-term future. For us, this was a looming possibility that we had discussed casually many months earlier but somehow, it did not to be much of a reality back then. When it finally did sink in, the rationale and practical me immediately proposed that we remain as amiable friends while he took a long while to ponder before telling me as a matter-of-fact that he was very clear about what he wanted with us and merely referred to this as a “very small issue”, asserting and reassuring me that we will make things happen. On top of this, we also made a mutual pact to inform each other upfront should either of us decide on pulling out of this commitment or if we meet someone new.

    Texting …

    When frequent weekly meet-ups are no longer possible, WhatsApp became one of our main means of communication as Skype dates proved to be difficult due to the long working hours that we both have. While this was perfectly fine over at my end, it posed to be a lil tough for the copain for he was never much of a texting and phone call man, preferring long conversations over coffee to the wonders of technology. That said, these days, am receiving messages comprising more than 30 words in a single sentence and most of our rare Skype conversations have lasted more than an hour.

    and “pictorial sexting”

    There is only so much conversation that two people can have and while we always endeavor to keep it PG friendly (the firewalls have eyes),  it can be rather interesting at times to let some very suggestive pictures do the talking instead.

    Getaways

    Instead of counting down to the day that we will finally close the distance, one effective means of making the many kilometers apart more bearable is to plan multiple miniature getaways and to always part ways with the next vacation set in stone; albeit don’t just talk about it but at least have the dates fixed and air tickets booked so that there is something real to look forward to. As the gluttony duo, most weekends were splurged on massive brunches and now that we are miles apart, this gives us the opportunity to save up those “nom-monies” for more epic trips around the world together. We are now more financially able to travel further and opt for better accommodations as opposed to our last vacation in a random-moth-and-cockroaches-infested bathroom.

    End game

    Back to the first point, one of the reasons that I only agreed to this current arrangement is that apart from my huge affection for this man from the land of many wonderful cheeses, we embarked on this long-distance relationship with a specific end game and timeline in mind. Indeed, absence makes the heart grow fonder but I truly believe that prolonged absence also renders frustration, disappointment and the eventual indifference. No matter how much we adore each other, a long-distance relationship can only last when there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Thankfully, we are working towards closing the distance within the next half-a-year and while this may seem like a very short period apart as compared to many other couples out there (you have my utmost respect!), this episode has definitely made me much more appreciative of the petit copain and his immense patience in putting up with my daily dose of nincompoop-ness.

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  • Distance Makes the Heart (and Other Things) Grow Fonder

    Distance Makes the Heart (and Other Things) Grow Fonder

    We are often taught that being in a long-term, committed relationship requires giving all of yourself to another person— sharing every deep secret, vulnerability, and insecurity with another in order to build trust and most importantly, intimacy. And while this type of emotional closeness cultivates security and lasting love, it also correlates with another staple of long-term romantic relationships … the decline of sexual desire.

    Ask any couple’s therapist or sex therapist what is the most common problem their clients present to them and they will almost always give you some version of “we aren’t having enough sex” or “he/she doesn’t seem to want sex anymore.” Having less sex as time passes in a relationship or the dwindling of that initial passion felt during sex is very common. This is usually attributed to “the novelty effect” wearing off or being stuck in a routine. Of course there are other reasons for a decline in sex—health issues, infidelity, and trauma to name a few—but another more pervasive and encompassing issue is the enmeshment and dependency that occurs when we share everything with our partner. Hobbies, favorite foods, books, and social activities often naturally become a “shared experience” or something that “we” do instead of something that “I” do or “he/she does.” Many times our partner is the first or only person we come to with problems about work or with our families. We start to feel that it is not only natural, but necessary to unload all of our worries and concerns onto our partner because this brings us closer, sharing every thought and emotion we may have.

    Esther Perel, a psychotherapist, speaker and author of the book “Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” theorizes that our natural human need for security and stability in relationships is at direct opposition to our equally important need for adventure, novelty, and discovery. What ends up happening in long-term couples, she says, is the tendency to get “too close” to our partner, making it impossible for that newness and excitement to exist. This makes the passion and desire that fuel satisfying and pleasurable sex difficult to (pardon the pun) come by.

    Perel emphasizes the importance of “the space between self and other” when considering how to reignite or maintain desire in a long-term relationship. In a recent article on “reigniting your love life,” she suggests viewing your partner as if “he or she is only on loan, with an option to renew.” Recognizing your partner as an autonomous, independent person with inner thoughts, past experiences, and fantasies that you are not privy to will result for most people in a new found curiosity about your partner. Being curious perpetuates interest and the realization that regardless of how long you have been together, there are still parts of this other person you have yet to discover. Recognizing your partner as separate from yourself creates distance and therefore room for desire to grow.

    Spending time apart by engaging in different extracurricular activities or taking a trip without the other is one way to create actual physical space (thus the idiom “absence makes the heart grow fonder”), but creating emotional space can be just as important. Balancing or limiting how often you go to your partner to “vent” about work or family issues by talking to friends or mentors instead or engaging in new behaviors to cope with everyday stress like exercise or journaling are helpful. Resisting the urge to pry for details about your partner’s exes, their family drama, or other past experiences and trying to be content with the fact that if something is important, your partner will share it with you is also worthwhile. Sometimes, simply taking a moment and remembering what it was like when you and your partner first met and identifying what drew you to them, emotionally and sexually, can ignite feelings of longing. Think about that first month when so much was unknown and how their smile, the way they smelled, and the thought of seeing them again caused that little flip in your stomach. Remember that feeling and those memories the next time you are with your partner and see what happens …

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