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  • What Makes Sex Toys Great for Every Relationship

    What Makes Sex Toys Great for Every Relationship

    What does perfect sex look like for you? Is it soft and sweet? Is it a little bit kinky? Or maybe you’re a full-blown fetish lover?

    Now that you’ve found someone who shares the same sexual appetite, it’s time to have a ton of fun in the bedroom.

    Regardless of what you fancy, there are ways to make sex hotter than ever before. Sex toys provide one such great opportunity.

    It’s amazing that more and more people are starting to use and embrace toys. When asked in a survey, 63 percent of the respondents said that they’d used some kind of sex toy. Of the women questioned who said that they use a sex toy, 78 percent were in a relationship.

    If you’re in the minority that hasn’t given sex toys a chance yet, the time has come to think about change.

    Some people in a relationship still worry about bringing up the subject and potentially offending their partner. Using sex toys with someone special, however, results in a wide range of benefits. From increasing trust to ensuring more powerful and consistent orgasms, the reasons to give sex toys a try with your significant other are so many.

    Improved Communication

    Talking about sex isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. At the same time, good sex is such an important part of a healthy relationship. If you’re reluctant and hesitant to discuss your preferences, sex toys can be really helpful.

    All that you have to do is find the courage to broach the subject. When you do, you’ll probably find out that your partner’s on board.

    Not only that, the actual use of a sex toy itself can be a communication enhancer. You’ll need to talk about what feels good, where and how you’d like to be stimulated. You’ll learn about your body, you’ll learn about your partner’s body and together, you’ll be creating an experience like no other.

    Improving communication in the bedroom will always result in better intimacy, whether toys are involved or not.

    Addressing Performance Issues

    We need to talk about a less pleasurable aspect of having sex – performance issues.

    Most couples experience such problems every once in a while.

    Stress, fatigue and aging can contribute to problems like premature ejaculation. When anxious, many women will find it difficult to get in the mood for sex and to orgasm.

    Let’s face it – long-term relationships can eventually lead to boring sex. Using sex toys reduces the stress related to performance issues. Powerful and diversified stimulation can easily result in an orgasm. Most people will discover at least one toy that does the trick for them.

    And when this aspect of sex is handled, the couple can enjoy cuddling, touching and spending quality time together without added anxieties.

    Sex should be easy and fun but it often isn’t. the good news is that most problems can be overcome if both people involved are on the same page.

    A Chance to Explore New Things

    Getting comfortable with each other is obviously wonderful. This knowledge and familiarity, however, will often take the spark and the spontaneity out of the sex. Both of you know what feels good and both of you are on the same page as far as intimacy goes. This knowledge will make you likely to stick to a set of practices.

    When buying sex toys, you get a chance to explore new facets of your sexuality. You don’t have to go for the kinkiest items on the market to experience their benefits. Reputable sex toy stores like HotCherry has a wide selection of adult toys which will give you a brand-new sensation and that’s precisely what you should look for.

    The stimulation is very specific when you’re using toys. Vibrating toys for couples, for example, will give you a whole new experience, even if you’re having missionary sex. Since these gadgets allow for the additional stimulation of some erogenous zone, the whole experience will become more powerful and thrilling.

    The first sex toys you buy will often encourage you to try out other stuff in the future. And when you have something new and exciting to look forward to, the sex can never get boring.

    Acting Out Your Fantasies

    Imagine the following scenario – having a threesome is one of your biggest sexual fantasies. Your partner, however, isn’t on the same page. They’re uncomfortable with the idea and they don’t want to explore it.

    Using sex toys will give you the chance to act out your fantasies without breaking boundaries or endangering your relationship in any way.

    A dildo or a quality vibrator can be used to give you the sensation of being with two partners at the same time. And this is just one example of a fantasy you can enact in a safe and respectful manner.

    More Body Confidence

    Do you only have sex with the lights off? Do you feel unhappy with your body?

    Many people are in the same boat and that’s such a pity. Mass media and the entertainment industry have created unrealistic standards that normal human beings cannot live up to. Even if this is the case, people are affected psychologically by their inability to reach some arbitrary ideal.

    Using sex toys can help you grow your body and sexual confidence.

    You will learn more about your pleasure. Also, you’ll need to be vulnerable with your partner if they’re using the toy on you. Through these processes, you will learn to trust and you’ll also get to appreciate all the amazing sexual things that your body can do.

    This effect is equally attainable for men and women. While women worry about their bodies, guys tend to worry about their stamina (again – unrealistic standards set by the adult entertainment industry). Sex toys bring down the pressure and allow for more confident exploration of each other’s sexualities.

    An Overall Happier Relationship

    Exploration and adventure can keep a relationship feeling fresh as the years go by. And this is precisely what you’re going to get by buying new toys and using them with your partner.

    You will have something fun and new to look forward to. You will be making the decisions together and the process is going to be a ton of fun once you overcome the initial hesitation.

    Every couple can start feeling stuck after some time together. That’s a normal process but for some, it could mean the end of the road. This is why finding novelty and exciting stuff together happens to be crucial. Regardless of your preferences and characters, you’ll definitely find at least a few toys that both of you would want to test out.

    Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject of using sex toys if that’s something you’re interested in. Just cuddle up together one evening and have a chat. You shouldn’t wait for a special moment to consider the possibility because you’ll be missing a ton of sexy fun this way.

    Toys can only benefit your relationship, as long as both of you keep an open mind and become equally involved in the process. The fact that you haven’t discussed the idea until now doesn’t mean your partner is against it. The moment you start the conversation, you’ll probably find out that they are as curious as you.

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  • Straight Men Like Pegging And Here Is Why

    Straight Men Like Pegging And Here Is Why

    More straight men are being penetrated by their female partners… and they’re loving it!

    In an age where it seems like anything goes, there’s the slightest chance that everything’s been done before and just running itself full circle. History buffs may agree or agree to disagree, but there’s been a culture of what modern speak would classify as gender identities for millennia, with up until recently, only the three getting much press: straight, bi or gay. Today, even fence sitters have a choice of identity, and the choice of sexual or non-sexual/gender identities is becoming something of a metaphorical can of worms. Not surprisingly, the popular weapons of choice for any gender, or sexual/non-sexual or otherwise are now as diverse as the choices people make to express themselves individually, or as a larger group within the community.

    Sexual pleasure and intimacy have been re-defined

    Back in the day (not that long ago), if I referred to a lesbian friend as “gay,” I’d get a free lesson in how to not refer to my sexuality from her. Now, she’s the first to roll her eyes at the dazzling array of choices folks can proudly choose from. Likewise for a gay man. There were actually a handful of terms, and the fences had been broken down, then mended, and everybody was happy. Or were they? Apparently not.

    Without inviting or inciting debate, it’s clear that, today, sexual and gender identity is as varied as people themselves. There’s also a broad and diverse range of personal, emotional and physical/sexual habits and preferences people may or may not develop if identifying as a particular type or preference. How has this influenced intimacy and romance, even sex for the new minority, and straight people?

    Has it really shifted things up a gear, or are people still doing what they’ve always done, and we’re just seeing a lot more diversity through internet exposure, media and a proliferation of advocacy groups? Some would say yes to all these, while others might flatly disagree. Again, when it comes to gender and identity issues, there’s no wrong answer, so vive la difference!

    It’s not gay for a guy to enjoy anal

    A common and long held fantasy for heterosexual couples is for the male to be mounted/penetrated by his female partner. A tricky business, seeing as the female equivalent of a penis is well, not really gonna do much back there. Fortunately, this is easily overcome and modern day enthusiasts, especially those freshly liberated from thinking certain things are dirty or unnatural, can now borrow from other sub-sets of sexual choice accessories, and enjoy themselves like never before.

    The popularity of prostate play for men in solo or coupled settings has exploded in recent years, with men of all persuasions realizing they might have missed out on the most crucial part of any sexual revolution, which is actually enjoying it! It’s not uncommon today for a guy to pleasure himself while stimulating his prostate, while he also makes love to his wife/partner/lover/friend. And then she herself may don a vibrating strap-on dildo, or something similar, and service him from behind until they both climax. It’s a win/win for couples, and there’s certainly a strong whiff of equality about it, so everyone should be happy again. Shouldn’t they?

    Build it, and they will come…

    Amidst the explosion of new consciousness revolving around sexual preferences, is a plethora of consumer goods. In fact, it’s big business for those who provide for those who take it seriously enough to act on their preferred impulse, or lack thereof. Whole cultures and subcultures exist for people who like to dress up as dogs, for example. They wear a dog suit/mask, and have a wagging tail up their butt, eat out of a bowl, the whole nine yards. All these and more accessory types are, of course, freely available for a nominal fee, free shipping and shipped in non-descript and inoffensive brown paper. It’s my right to dress like a hound, but I’d prefer my neighbor didn’t know!

    A mentioned hint or suggestion in passing to your better half about maybe investing in a vibrating strap on mightn’t seem so out of place by comparison. Even the conventional, stock standard shock value of (dare we say it?) lesbian women, using a strap on dildo has been modernized, so as not to exclude everybody else from what was once very clearly a girls only ‘sport.’ The old style vibrating strap on has been redesigned and reinvented; it’s a strapless vibrating strap on now, and unisex, to be enjoyed by anyone. Thus, keeping in tune with the new millennial approach to whatever you feel is right for you sexually, a strapless or vibrating strap on can be used by any gender, enjoyed in any hole, or no hole at all…

    But for the straight up and down guy, who might have to think several times before offering an opinion about anything gender or sex based anymore, can delight in the knowing, that despite the paradigm shifts, he too is now free to express himself further if he so chooses, and if he’s found the right gal and she’s more than happy to give him a dose of his own ‘medicine.’

    The future is now

    In modern day ancient Rome, and Greece at around the same time, if you could afford it, or even if you couldn’t, you could pretty much have your way with whomever and whatever you wanted. The future was now, even way back then. Civilization was at its peak and boy oh boy… were they enjoying the fact.

    Believe it or not, 2000 years ago, there were also just as many gay men, lesbian women, transgender, bisexual, and plenty more non-classified individuals who today, might not fare as well as the accepted and encouraged modes of personal identity. And although they mightn’t have had motorized vibrators, even ancient history shows us most civilizations most certainly had their own modern day equivalents of vibrating strap ons, dildos, lubricant, pornography, and a whole bunch of stuff that we might think is reserved exclusively for us in the 21st century.

    Today, thanks to the law, and a societal preference with a broader moral compass, we’ve arrived at a point where the lines have shifted, some might say blurred. But, in reality, it’s generally okay to be whoever you are, and you’re able to express it without fear of prejudice or persecution… at least behind closed doors and sexually speaking.

    The gender roles within relationships may have also shifted for many, as much as they have within the body and mind of individuals who can happily say they have found their true self at last.

    So guys, next time you want to ask, hint or huff about swallowing or anal, ask yourself first, “Is this something I would enjoy experiencing and being done to me?”

    Do unto others, and all that…

    Happy diversity day! Because whoever or wherever you are, you’re special. And that is still worth celebrating, every… single… (or partnered, or other type of relationships) day!

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